How to handle a FB???

[Nickolasleong]

Not sure is this the correct definition of a fb but I am having a fling and she knows I have a family. (She is single)

My past experiences with a few previous others left a bad taste as my flings always ended up getting clingy (SMSin/ calling at nights, wanting more of my time ...etc) and often gets me into trouble. (managed to evade with some crappy excuses but had to dump the relationships asap to prevent ireparable damage to my marriage)

So am asking for advice from anybody experienced here.... what or how do you lay out the terms between u and yr fb so that it will remain status quo (without overstepping the borders but yet she will maintain the fb relationship)? Any dos or donts? So far, my style has been making clear of my family commitments and telling her of my 'curfews' for calls and smses......but it seems they are not enough (but over do it I scared losing the partner...)

Any experiences for sharing would be helpful too...thanks in advance..

[sammyboyfor]

So am asking for advice from anybody experienced here.... what or how do you lay out the terms between u and yr fb so that it will remain status quo (without overstepping the borders but yet she will maintain the fb relationship)?

If you're married, why don't you simply remain faithful to your wife??:rolleyes: Why on earth do you need a fuck buddy in the first place?

What if your wife decides to have a fuck buddy too? You're fine with that?:confused:

[daggerboy]

If you're married, why don't you simply remain faithful to your wife??:rolleyes: Why on earth do you need a fuck buddy in the first place?

What if your wife decides to have a fuck buddy too? You're fine with that?:confused:

Thats the ideal. But how many of us can do that? The hormones run amok the moment we see a pretty thing. Then we start to imagine what we want to do and the next thing is we desire to conquer. After the successful conquest we want to retain possession. All these are natural processes that all able male homo sapien will go thru.

[neveronsunday]

Read this first ....

The Electric New Paper, Singapore - The Electric New Paper News (http://tnp.sg/news/story/0,4136,202700,00.html?)

[bloopz]

Read this first ....

The Electric New Paper, Singapore - The Electric New Paper News (http://tnp.sg/news/story/0,4136,202700,00.html?)

zzz... thanks neveronsunday for sharing the link.. hope this brings the light to TS.

TS pls weigh the consequences before u continue the r/s. ur FB might tell u she's ok without status now but when she is more emotionally attached, who knows what might happen.

most importantly, if u ever have sex outside ur marriage, pls use a CD n precautions so that u dont pass god knows what disease to ur family..

[renoir]

Not sure is this the correct definition of a fb but I am having a fling and she knows I have a family. (She is single)


So am asking for advice from anybody experienced here.... what or how do you lay out the terms between u and yr fb so that it will remain status quo (without overstepping the borders but yet she will maintain the fb relationship)? Any dos or donts? So far, my style has been making clear of my family commitments and telling her of my 'curfews' for calls and smses......but it seems they are not enough (but over do it I scared losing the partner...)

Any experiences for sharing would be helpful too...thanks in advance..

If you can't handle her , mind passing her to me ? In the first place why are you having a FB ?

[BiRd13]

Ya... TS... The best way is stil get out of your FB life... Be faithful to your wife... You both have fate that brings you together... SO cherish it...

[kingerfisher]

i used to have a FB but in other way is she is married and i am single , one day her husband come and find me. and trying means to sabo me.

i advise you not to have any FB be it you are married or single and goes the same to your FB. cos its very very troublesome

[nuclearkid]

Thats the ideal. But how many of us can do that? The hormones run amok the moment we see a pretty thing. Then we start to imagine what we want to do and the next thing is we desire to conquer. After the successful conquest we want to retain possession. All these are natural processes that all able male homo sapien will go thru.

Hi bro, if you have a hormonal problem, its simple. Just lob off your balls and be an eunuch... that should solve it. But if you have a problem with self-control, that's something else altogether.

[Fatty George]

As time goes by the bonding will get more and more intense.
By the time you wanted out .....
Scratch your balls also no use.
Good to have but not necessary to have.

[adisic.81]

it seems some of us are quite lucky to have a fb.... while others such as myself got to settle for geylang... btw, anyone noes how to get a fb coz i want one if possible?

[unsung80]

Pass the number to me, let me handle for you. ;)

[qwertyuiop]

Thats the ideal. But how many of us can do that? The hormones run amok the moment we see a pretty thing. Then we start to imagine what we want to do and the next thing is we desire to conquer. After the successful conquest we want to retain possession. All these are natural processes that all able male homo sapien will go thru.

Hmmm, agree that's the ideal. Even woman also have flings/fb(s) too that men doesn't know. I guess this world is still about doing it in the smart way not hurting the other party.

At times also must be due to that the wife does refuse to or does not want to perform certain sexual actions like bbbj etc to the husband which is the reason why fb(s) exist. Many other reasons to like high sex drive can lead to unsatisfied sessions and thus the appetite for more outside.

Have rewarded u back daggerboy. Cheers.

[enzer88]

Pass the number to me, let me handle for you. ;)Bro,u fast hand fast leg than me,hehe. Bro ts,if u dont mind,let us settle for you.:D

[gonggong18]

Initial FB ...slowly want to own you

[hihiz]

bro, please be faithful to ur wife...imagine ur wife having a fb too...u ok with that?

[apalucakap]

If you are worried of any consequences, drop her like hot potato. Less issue.

[iceman72]

Bro,there will never be any free lunches in the world or free fuck,surely will have to pay back in one way or the other.

[joew2005]

Bro,if u were 2 get married u shld not get involved emotionally with another woman.
The woman k agree 2 wat ever terms with u nw,but is bound 2 change her stand 1s it gets 2 emotion 4 her 2 handle.

[Longitude]

I have a similar experience. Its 10 years now and we are still together. But the initial years were tumultous. She knew I was married when we first met. At that time my marriage was on the verge of a breakdown and my OC had already consulted lawyers for a divorce. However, when my OC had some inkling that I may be having a liaison she held on to the marriage and told me that she would not let anyone take me away from her. My gf then threatened to come to my house to confront my wife. I told her if she does so she will be sorry for I will deny everything and my wife will believe me and then it will be the end of the both of us. She didnt make the trip to my place. I still see her once in a while and we talked over the phone alot. Its 10 years already and many times I had the intention to end it. But its very difficult to extricate myself completely when emotions had set in and become entrenched.

[daggerboy]

Hmmm, agree that's the ideal. Even woman also have flings/fb(s) too that men doesn't know. I guess this world is still about doing it in the smart way not hurting the other party.

At times also must be due to that the wife does refuse to or does not want to perform certain sexual actions like bbbj etc to the husband which is the reason why fb(s) exist. Many other reasons to like high sex drive can lead to unsatisfied sessions and thus the appetite for more outside.

Have rewarded u back daggerboy. Cheers.

Thanks for the points and your well-considered comments. To read without reflecting is like eating without digesting.

[bangbangben]

No point driving a car when you can't handle it.

No point having a FB when you can't control her.


TS, sincerely... No Point in carrying on... Sooner or later you going to end it. Why let yourself get mentally and physically drained before you realise the fact that she no longer understand that the relationship is purely FBs?

[apalucakap]

The beauty of my broad minded OC is I am allowed to bonk elsewhere provided NO string attached and NO mistress, period, end of story. Summore, she feels extremely horny and wanna screw when I relate my escapade . What more can I ask for?

[handcell]

TS,
try some excuse to change your HP no or better still move house....
just my opinion......

[Jintian]

Better to stay away than to be sorry later.

[poorman4sex]

Its 10 years already and many times I had the intention to end it. But its very difficult to extricate myself completely when emotions had set in and become entrenched.

same same here.... dunno how to put an end to it....

[Nickolasleong]

Seriously!! I was quite surprise when so many fellow bros here were trying to dissuade me from taking it up...esp those who went through it all..... guess these are wisdom from experiences

There is nothing interesting to it ... she was just one of the few usual clubbing partners, friend's friends kind of thing and when the relationship got closer, things get a bit touchy and feely ... and I was like .... exploring the idea of having her on. Am also fully aware of the risk and danger involved and thus the big dilemma.....

well I will definitely have something to think it through.. thanks everyone for yr thoughts and views..

[Benefit]

I have a similar experience. Its 10 years now and we are still together. But the initial years were tumultous. She knew I was married when we first met. At that time my marriage was on the verge of a breakdown and my OC had already consulted lawyers for a divorce. However, when my OC had some inkling that I may be having a liaison she held on to the marriage and told me that she would not let anyone take me away from her. My gf then threatened to come to my house to confront my wife. I told her if she does so she will be sorry for I will deny everything and my wife will believe me and then it will be the end of the both of us. She didnt make the trip to my place. I still see her once in a while and we talked over the phone alot. Its 10 years already and many times I had the intention to end it. But its very difficult to extricate myself completely when emotions had set in and become entrenched.

This is like a cable. We weave a strand of it everyday and soon it cannot be broken.

[cheapcharlie]

The beauty of my broad minded OC is I am allowed to bonk elsewhere provided NO string attached and NO mistress, period, end of story. Summore, she feels extremely horny and wanna screw when I relate my escapade . What more can I ask for?

You are very lucky dude. :D