pregnant

[heye]

hi brudders and sista,

can any1 advise how long it takes sperm to travel to egg and to be consitute as week 1.
My gf is pregnant for 9 weeks but when i back date i didnt touch her during that period.

can any kind soul pls advise on tis.:confused:

[Vertu]

Sad to hear that you actually have ??? of your own Gf being pregnant.

Btw, i think even a doctor cant give you the actual date on when this baby were make.....the 9 week is just some kind of calculation from her last Mense.

I think main concern now is to keep the baby or not since you have ?????? on her.

Take care.

[heye]

tks for ur reply whu will understand what i been tru and wat i am facing nw.
but is the baby scan for 9 weeks acurate? is there no way i can determine the estimated time of the sexual intercourse:confused:

[nightqueen]

How long does it take sperm to travel to an egg? | Answerbag (http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1920770)
According to the Science Centre of Singapore, once the sperm enters the vagina, it can reach the woman's Fallopian tube within 15 minutes. At this point, the sperm is stored for at least seven hours until it becomes active. The sperm then has 24 to 48 hours in which it remains active to fertilize an egg.

Read more: How long does it take sperm to travel to an egg? | Answerbag How long does it take sperm to travel to an egg? | Answerbag (http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1920770#ixzz0qVTiF8Fc)

btw for the week thingy, its not counted like after sex 7 days = 1 wk.

maybe if u know the last day of her pms, den u can try use this kinda calculator to check the possible dates of conception

Due Date Calculator - Pregnancy Weeks Calculator (http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/pregnancycalendar/l/blpregcalc.htm)

but again.. if u already have doubts on her, nothing will work even if the calculator tells u otherwise.

[Ice2005]

Well Sperm can stay in the worms for days. best indication is did you have sex with her after her safe period. If you do than there is high chances. Frankly it is difficult to pin point to specific weeks as it also depends how strong is your sperm and the condition.

Good luck.

[heye]

takin for example if her mens period last was on 26 feb , was the intercourse b4 or aft 26?

tks in advance for the advise:)

[Ice2005]

This is a big problem, when you find a good sexual active partners, in no time you will find them cheating on you and when you find a good girl, they normally are not sexually active. :(

[heye]

so can any kind soul advise on tat. i believe gals shld be more knowledgable in tis aspect

[ferragamo]

accuracy is usually +/- 2 weeks

so if you think back 2 to 3 months time frame you should have your answer

assume today is 11 June, between 1 Mar to 15 Apr did you have unprotected sex?

remember, on average it is a 1 month window period! you cannot calculate to a specific day

Actually I think you should think of the unborn child now rather then do any more calculations

[Black_Hawk_Up]

so can any kind soul advise on tat. i believe gals shld be more knowledgable in tis aspect

you can't pinpoint the date as other mention. the 9weeks is based on her last cycle. if within this 9weeks you have intercourse with her chance are she will be pregnant. do you have sex with her right after the cycle 9weeks ago? if yes, chance are the child is yours. of course, that is assuming she does not have someone else which you are not sure now.

from your case this is only part of your worry. i guess you are not wearing any protection right? if you suspect that she have multiple partner, i guess you should be more worry about contacting STD at this point of time.

in the end do you want or can afford having the child for your situation? regardless if you are not ready for that, it doesn't matter if the child is really yours right? it will only matter if you are ready to married her and take care of the child. do consider carefully what your next course of action.

but what make you doubt her at the first place? if there is no trust between both of you, it will be a dangerous game ahead.

[YingYang]

tks for ur reply whu will understand what i been tru and wat i am facing nw.
but is the baby scan for 9 weeks acurate? is there no way i can determine the estimated time of the sexual intercourse:confused:

If I can remember, sperms can live in the womb for 3 days. But they die after hours without moisture.

Scan for 9 weeks is rather accurate. You can estimate by calculating the date of your last sex. Add about 3 days for sperm to travel and about a week for it to fertilize.

So your last date of sex + about 10 days would be the start of pregnancy.

Give and take a few days la.. I've been through with this before and I went all over the world in forums asking for help on this as I suspect that the child wasn't mine.

Do you have the same thing too ? Else you don't even need to know such things.

[pusspainter]

Personally not sure the accuracy of the scans, egg travel and safe period thingy.

But one thing for sure is only the female will know who does it belongs to. But if she have many sex partners during the time frame thats another story.

However if either of you is not ready for this baby, you got to think real hard about keeping it.

Sorry for the blunt answer but its the truth, from thirty over years of roaming on planet earth...

[jesgirl]

Are you thinking about yr gf fucking some other men? If yes, you should know her more than us and go talk to her.
It is still a life, it move and it's your own baby. Work things out with her, try to keep the baby if you can by all means.

[omnihard]

If you love her you should trust her. What's the point in making all thus calculation? The truth will not change and with time the truth will reveal itself.

[uniqueen]

takin for example if her mens period last was on 26 feb , was the intercourse b4 or aft 26?

tks in advance for the advise:)

Actual date may be the date minus 1 to 2 weeks, I believe DNA check is best in the case but dont know if it can be check for a 9 week staff -- of course after giving birth checking too late for you lao ....

Is she your wife or just gf ?? how long u know her if gf? This kind of thing difficulty to determine for others :)

[Hurricane88]

Are you thinking about yr gf fucking some other men? If yes, you should know her more than us and go talk to her.
It is still a life, it move and it's your own baby. Work things out with her, try to keep the baby if you can by all means.

That's what I was thinking too...best way is do a DNA test...:)

[bltan]

Actual date may be the date minus 1 to 2 weeks, I believe DNA check is best in the case but dont know if it can be check for a 9 week staff -- of course after giving birth checking too late for you lao ....

Is she your wife or just gf ?? how long u know her if gf? This kind of thing difficulty to determine for others :)

I would like to ask TS to think a bit. If you go for a DNA check or any method that will tell you the answer, are you ready to break up? If the result is that the baby is not yours, you will be the one asking to break up. If the baby confirm yours, your gf/wife will ask for break up because you did nit trust her. Either way there is a very high chance of breaking up once you ask for confirmation.

[TheGreatOne]

ts, did u rammed her raw before?

if yes then take the responsibility la.

the worst thing u can do to hurt her further now is to tell her u did not ram her from the back date.

we men are assholes as generally labelled by cha bor.

even as assholes we behave with certain standard.

simi dna all bullshit de la... by the way u r behaving now, so what if the kid is urs? u will marry her isit? u will bo? u can afford bo?

talk so much no use la... if u adamant in running away, run now la.

no point waiting till simi dna, waste of time. chey!

[venery]

Stop searching. The colour of truth is gray.

[WindSoar]

TS, there is too many variables to confirm date of conception.

9 weeks pregnant is a medical estimation. Give +/- 1 week tolerance.
Sperm can stay viable in the female body for 2 or 3 days I read, and then impregnate her when she is ovulating.
Some females have different ovulating timings and there are those who can get pregnant even shortly after period.

You can still do a DNA test with the fetus. But it would require the fetus to be at least 13 weeks old. Non-Invasive Prenatal Paternity Test (http://www.dnaplus.com/fetal_cell_prenatal_paternity_test.htm)

I think that would required the consent of the mother to be which puts you in an unenviable position.

Unless you can say that you did not touch her since her last period, cannot say for sure the child is not yours. Even caps is not 100%.

[Longitude]

If things were really as we wanted them to be, people would still complain that they were no longer what they used to be.

[pusspainter]

now possible to check bb's DNA?? Or have to wait till given birth? Then everythings gonna change!

[c_a_koh]

get ready to marry la.. save all the trouble.. be a man.. live up to it.:)

[Dahu]

What's the point? Haven't you been jumping her for a long time?

[damienadam]

Bro, forget abt finding exact date. There is no to to estimate. Even doc can't estimate the exact date. Usually doc only able to estimate in weeks.

Another lay man calculation is to take 10 weeks estimate. If you have sex within 10 weeks, very likelyhood that the baby is yours.

I had the same fate as you. My then gf now wife is 8 months pregnant now, bb boy coming out next month.

[oneheart]

well i guess you should also try to garner evidence of her cheating on you .. perhaps from her phone or emails or facebook account. Perhaps that might reveal more info also.

You can ask doctor if can go for amniocentesis or some invasion test where you can extract the DNA of the child. They usually reserve for high risk mothers with possible baby with congenital disease like down syndrome.

[incisor69]

ts, did u rammed her raw before?

if yes then take the responsibility la.

the worst thing u can do to hurt her further now is to tell her u did not ram her from the back date.

we men are assholes as generally labelled by cha bor.

even as assholes we behave with certain standard.

simi dna all bullshit de la... by the way u r behaving now, so what if the kid is urs? u will marry her isit? u will bo? u can afford bo?

talk so much no use la... if u adamant in running away, run now la.

no point waiting till simi dna, waste of time. chey!

Swee! Best piece of advice I have seen on this thread. If ram raw, then pregnant, then take responsibility. End of story. Unless u for sure gf has been sleeping around, then you should have confronted her before doing it raw. If not, you know yourself best, so take responsibility. But like the advice given, it seems you are not ready at all. I feel sorry that 3 innocent lives are at stake here, 2 of u + unborn child.

My advice, seek counselling unless she is underage.

[mysterious]

2 foolproof methods.

1. Short Method

Talk to her about the outcoming kid. Tell her how much you are going to love it and bring it up as your own. Check her face for any look of guilt.

2. Long Method

Check the baby's face for resemblance. If the hair color come out is like golden / or the skin color is super dark, makes your job easier

3. Bonus Method

Checkout the blood type chart.

[YingYang]

2 foolproof methods.

1. Short Method

Talk to her about the outcoming kid. Tell her how much you are going to love it and bring it up as your own. Check her face for any look of guilt.

2. Long Method

Check the baby's face for resemblance. If the hair color come out is like golden / or the skin color is super dark, makes your job easier

3. Bonus Method

Checkout the blood type chart.

bro.. Like that too late liao.. Baby already pop out le.. There's a DNA test for mother-to-be. The feteus should be around 12 weeks to be able to do the test.

TS i understand how u feel. Some times truth hurts. Be prepared. I made a very tough decision back then. I nv regret cos I knew the baby wasn't mine for sure.

You got a chance to make things right. Its a very tough decision. Just don't waste a life. This isn't a game.

[novalue]

Bro,

Backdate your gf's pregnancy to her last menstrual period.

U/S dating is usually more accurate.

So if you did not touch her during that period of time, it is unlikely to be you.

To be very sure, go for DNA testing, can find out during pregnancy, but it's quite expensive. Speak to her gynae.

[SureScore]

Actually no need to do anything. Just wait. Things will bound to happen so long you don't do anything wrong.

[izerkudie]

its very hard to say, the thing is. do you have faith in ur gal?:)

[heye]

i am nt an asshole. for nw i am nw sure if the baby is mine and i caught her scndalous act too. if i am irresponsible i wont be pay 20 over k for marriage but whu wans to be a cocku , i juz wan the facts rite. is so unbearable wen u are realli in doubts. if she can do raw with others then why i hav to love her. if any1 happens to read my previous thread we are on the verge of breakin up. nw baby pop out i am the 1 holdin all the responsibility.
GF nt workin all expense i have to bear. i dun mind if bb is mine. knn why shld i bear the cost for wat she did. okie her last mens date was ard 26 mar. our last intercourse was on 9 april . nw bb is 9 weeks old if luk wat brudders and sista was sayin then it might nt be mine. and btw hw can i do dna discreetly.

tks

[heye]

if i found out after our marriage can i file for divorce and sue her.
If bb is nt mine i realli cant take it. why must i tc of her and bb. my savin are all gone and i am no longer solvent. if bb nt mine she can still be so demandin from a to z i am forkin out the money and she is demandin luk nobody biz other than tc of her nw i nd to shoulder her debets too

[OMGWTFLA]

okie her last mens date was ard 26 mar. our last intercourse was on 9 april .
tks

Okay so u did it with her 2 weeks after her mens? Do you know that is when she's ovulating......?
If u did it RAW den there's a high chance the child is yours unless from 2 to 16 april she did it with someone else...

[Evers]

if i found out after our marriage can i file for divorce and sue her.
If bb is nt mine i realli cant take it. why must i tc of her and bb. my savin are all gone and i am no longer solvent. if bb nt mine she can still be so demandin from a to z i am forkin out the money and she is demandin luk nobody biz other than tc of her nw i nd to shoulder her debets too

You can file for divorce after marriage for any reason you like, annulment is a better option but I think unlikely to be granted. If you want to sue her, it will be most likely in a civil court rather than criminal court. But even if the baby is not yours, do you really want to do something like this ?

You say she has all these faults, but it did not seem to stop you from continuing with her and banging her. You did went into it eyes wide open and had her like a man. Whining is very unbecoming.........

[Compass]

GF nt workin all expense i have to bear. i dun mind if bb is mine. knn why shld i bear the cost for wat she did. okie her last mens date was ard 26 mar. our last intercourse was on 9 april . nw bb is 9 weeks old if luk wat brudders and sista was sayin then it might nt be mine. and btw hw can i do dna discreetly.



Going by the date, should be more or less correct within one week margin of error.

If you want to do DNA testing on the fetus, there's no discreet way to do it. A needle will have to be pierced into her to get samples for testing.
How do you suggest doing that discreetly ?

I can understand that your suspicions and doubts. But after boning her you are here complaining what a bitch she is whom you may or may not have gotten pregnant says you're not much better than her.

So if she is what you say she is, then I must say a jolly good match.

[pachyderm]

You can annul your marriage if the child is not yours.

[Xgenre]

There are 2 issues.

1. Marriage: You can't annul a marriage just like that. Even if you can prove the baby isn't yours, I doubt you can annul your marriage. You can divorce your wife but it's a painfully long costly process.

2. Parenthood: The moment your name is the father of the baby in the birth cert, he's your child for life. Even if you can prove that the kid isn't yours via a DNA test, you can't remove your name as the father. Still got to feed other people's kid. If I were you, I will wait for the baby to be born. Then cut off some hair from the baby and do a DNA test. If the baby is yours, register yourself as the father. If not, NEVER EVER put your name as the father. You have some time before you need to register the baby's birth. Enough for DNA test.

I know of a guy whose wife told him he got no right to cane the kid during a quarrel. Reason: He's not the kid's real father. I'm surprised there was no murder in the story. The grandparents are so heart-broken. Old folks find it hard to detach themselves after they had given so much love to their first grandson.

[luvpaper]

I know of a guy whose wife told him he got no right to cane the kid during a quarrel. Reason: He's not the kid's real father. I'm surprised there was no murder in the story. The grandparents are so heart-broken. Old folks find it hard to detach themselves after they had given so much love to their first grandson.

wtf.... if ish me bui lun liao...but guys being guys.....we dun wan to wear green cap but many of us practice double standard. Read around this forum and u will see how many of us will bonk friend gf or other ppls wife...

anyway maybe another way is to delay the wedding till after the pregnancy is over? say no money...if wait stomach too big liao (if she die die insist - i really mean insist coz it is normal for girls to be alittle scared that u pang sei them after they have ur kid - must marry before den becareful liao). Also do get a 3 third party view. someone u can trust. Y 3? well i do think even number can have 1 of each view den u lan lan still stuck. if all 3 agree on 1 view and only u disagree than probably u r being blinded by ur own jealousy.

Also at least the kid come out liao look like u, u can feel more assured. I guess it is also easier for you to bring ur child to do dna test.

In some sense i can understand TS worries....abt to break up den all of sudden got kid....but ur fault for doing it raw when u are abt to break up. Somemore if my girl sleep ard with other guy or i suspect she is i sure wear protection liaos....if possible 2 layer...maybe use dettol wash clean clean the hole den go in =p (jking) :rolleyes:

[Rayflix]

I think there might be a pretty simple solution.

Bro TS, did you cum into her when doing raw during her latest fertile period? Some girls have irregular cycles and you might have done so thinking it was safe (happened to me before).

If you wait until the kid is born, then it's too late for you.

[herosg]

doctor are able to do ultra sound scan and measure the size of the baby to determine but not 100& accurate. If the doctor tell you it 9 weeks u have to understand week 9th can means 8 weeks 1 day too as doctor don't count by days. So I think you know your gf best if she does "play" around.

[herosg]

oh sorry i just read the date 9 apr 10. Chances are very high. base on the date. I seriously think you hit the jackpot (95% chances) i have clients who are Women specialist doctors. I heard them talking day in day out. from the counting of the week and the day u did with her. it very high chance.

[Lank]

okie her last mens date was ard 26 mar. our last intercourse was on 9 april . nw bb is 9 weeks old if luk wat brudders and sista was sayin then it might nt be mine.



You the daddy with those dates. Congrats :D

[oneheart]

i hope the baby come out either look like u or is indian or malay.. then confirmed liao...
hmmm
i tell u
go n gather info la
of her having affair .. surely still keep in contact with the guy if got.
baby not out also cant do dna

[oneheart]

hmm during baby testing.. check for blood group. Whats your blood group?

for example
mother A father A= baby A or baby O
mother A father B = all blood group possible
mother A father O = baby A