So sad la..

[manny]

Jus wanna vent out wat's in my mind!! Married young wif 2kids.. Mid 20s.. Staying home to take care of kids.. Love my family alot but lately, HB has not been passionate in bed with mi.... We still do often but the passion is nt like years ago.. Feeling so sad...
I am not ugly mah..When guys look at me, he still feel jealous.. He is making me so confuse.. Am I not attractive to him anymore?? I'm not the kind of mom who looks like aunties.. I put in effort to look good, to make him proud when his friends see us.. He enjoys it but when comes to bed.. It's jus not like before... I can't tell him these and I don't know how to.... Feeling so sad....

Pls do not pm mi.. I jus wanna let it out my chest but jus can't find a suitable forum... Thanks for "listening" to my nonsense.. :(

[antartica]

not much you've vented there
but maybe you could try to be more adventurous in bed?
take the first step instead of him initiating?
try "naughty" lingerie or sleep wear to make it more fun?
get some "toys" for him to play for your pleasure?

just trying to be helpful :)
:cool:

[TokyoMan]

Well, Ladies being ladies. Have you tried to put yourself into his shoes?

I suppose he is the sole breadwinner am I right? Did you put in effort to ask him how is his work going? Probably he is having stress at work. Not to mention, Inflation and retrenchment is still on-going in Singapore as far as I'm concerned.

Communication between married couples are VERY VERY IMPORTANT. Often, lack of communication always lead to a marriage falling apart.

Take sometime to talk to him and find out more about his job. Is he facing any stress. Give him care and concern. Start of with a massage then without me teaching, you should know what to do next.

Hope the above can help you!

[saberman]

Girl, could it be that he is sick of the same style and routine? I am speaking from experience cos I don't really enjoy doing it with my wife becos of the same reason

[manny]

We r doing fine financially... Managable.. Everything is fine..jus that I feel the lack of passion in bed.. I tried everything! I wore sexily, initiate, bj for him.. Etc.. He loves it but as I said, we still do.. Jus that it's not as passionate as before.. When we used to try out everything and enjoys every bit of sex..
Really wonder why some guys in here can be so on about sex?? Or is because it's not with the wife.. But with other gals, thats why the excitement??
Or is it because he has another one outside?? That's why he got bored or me??

[manny]

Tokyoman... We do communicate leh.. As I said, all is fine except that part.. I just don't know how to tell him.. What if he gets the wrong idea about me criticizing him in bed?? Which I'm not?? Last time we used to love doing at every corner of the house but now, he's not keen.. Sian..

[Xgenre]

A lot of factors come into play when guys have sex. Maybe stress at work as suggested, maybe due to a lack of fitness (does he exercise?), maybe after 2 kids, your vagina isn't as tight. How does your love-making sequence go? Is it always you blow him in bed, missionary, doggie, missionary etc? Can you change the sequence and location from time to time? How about sex toys or sex boardgames? Dressing up doesn't really improve your sex life. What looks good outside may not feel good inside.

I think I can understand why he isn't so interested in sex. Sole-bread winner, come home tired and still got to play with 2 kids, listening to a housewife repeatedly nag the same old stories (kids lar, in-laws lar). When the kids are finally asleep, got to service the wife in bed. Not easy to feed 3 mouths financially too. Maybe he doesn't wish to touch you as he doesn't wish to feed another baby. You should consider working. Firstly, you relieve him of his financial worries. 2ndly, you become a more interesting person when you have a social life and there's something different in your life everyday that you can share with him.

[manny]

xgenre.. i never nag at him.. and I'm busy with the kids.. don't have the time to nag at him lor.. I'm the one taking care of the kids when they are back.. He is usually glued to the tv..
and we are afraid of having 3 babies too.. so we are careful.. I think you guys missed out something in my post leh.. we still do often.. just that we are not like before..

I wanted to go work but he is the one discouraging me to work.. He wants me to take care of the family needs and kids... and I am very disappointed.. no life.. everyday is kids.. and though my younger boy will be going to childcare soon, he still want me to stay at home.. reason being, the kids will fall sick often.. so better for me to stay home, take care.. cook for the family etc... I don't want to be aunty leh.. damn sian

[manny]

saberman.. if thats so, any solution for you and your wife?

xgenre.. i wan to change location.. i will "date" him beforehand.. wear spags with half of my boobs dropping out, tried leading him to the kitchen.. living room.. he is like.. entertain me only lor.. he will still "stand" for me la.. just that.. you know? not the wah.. enjoy.. have fun.. fuck till we drop kind of sex anymore..

maybe like saberman bro said.. he's getting sian of me already..

What should I do!!! why there's no gals in here? no one with the same problem as me?? hw envy!

[wolfmaker]

sex is a reflection of our relationship...man can take sex and love and split it, woman cant. so u find him not hving sex with u and u thought he dont love u...but from what u say...he still. At least u bother to make up and he like it...that tell..

so as for sex....ya...some bro say it right...its like eating hokkien mee for too long...need to take a break...so u would b worry if he eat other food right..

well, if his remembrance of u is all the good stuff, then quite difficult la...but if u keep this inside u and start to react to the smallest thing he do..so all tat he can remember of u is all the latest obvious bad experience....then he may.

so dont react to him...and dont think he got problem. continue to be sexy...and most of the time..,.we man are high in the morning, so dont ask man to do at night la....very difficult u noe.

[manny]

wolfman bro.. morning how to?! he wakes up earlier than me and left work liao lor! Very difficult to catch him..

why guys will sian huh? whereas we girls will still be so interested in the hb.. seriously, I always find my man sexy.. he used to tease me that he has a horny wife at home.. lol.. but no la.. I am only towards him. I just want him to enjoy sex like we used to.. when we can be so adventurous.. I know we have 2 kids now.. but I seriously don't want the kids to hinder our sexlife.. I love sex.. with him only!! (PLEASE da ge(s).. pls stop PM-ing me.. thanks!!) I will get disappointed when I am always or usually the one who have to tempt him for it.. seduce him for it.. why huh?!!? I will also get sian of it lor.. but I am trying not to..

[naturegreen]

i) Don't always expect him to move over to you to initiate the love-making session. Ask yourself this. Is this the case? Are you being the passive one? This is one very common mistake made by wives as they always expect the husband to be the one to be initiative. In the long run, any husband will get sick and be thinking "knn, always need me to start engine. How lovely will it be if the engine can auto start."

ii) Don't expect your love-making session to be just like the 1st passionate session 5-10 years ago. It will not.

I can't tell him these and I don't know how to....(
iii) Most women face the same problem as you and some very soon after seeks lovers outside who can satisfy their sexual urge. So it will still be best if you try your best to talk it out.

try "naughty" lingerie or sleep wear to make it more fun? get some "toys" for him to play for your pleasure?
iv) By all means go ahead and get some lovely toys or "naughty" lingerie as suggested by this fellow samster. Who knows it might ignite the engine in your husband.

v) Last but not least, it takes 2 hands to clap.

[manny]

i) Don't always expect him to move over to you to initiate the love-making session. Ask yourself this. Is this the case? Are you being the passive one? This is one very common mistake made by wives as they always expect the husband to be the one to be initiative. In the long run, any husband will get sick and be thinking "knn, always need me to start engine. How lovely will it be if the engine can auto start."

( bro... i am usually the one to start the engine leh.. i tink i should be the one thinking.. knn.. why always me lor!! how lovely it will be if the engine can auto start!) sigh...

ii) Don't expect your love-making session to be just like the 1st passionate session 5-10 years ago. It will not.
(why like that huh?!?!?) u guys can be passionate to the fls.. fb.. everyone except wife?!?


iii) Most women face the same problem as you and some very soon after seeks lovers outside who can satisfy their sexual urge. So it will still be best if you try your best to talk it out.


iv) By all means go ahead and get some lovely toys or "naughty" lingerie as suggested by this fellow samster. Who knows it might ignite the engine in your husband.
i did lor!! i feel so paiseh when my gd friend dragged me to the sex toy shop! but i still bought something.. we tried it at home and he loves it.. but cann't be everytime i buy wat!!!!!!!)

v) Last but not least, it takes 2 hands to clap.

I want him to clap his hand lor.. im bz clapping already...)

[big wood]

sister sometimes it take two hand to clap so why not talk to your hubby what u feel over the relationship instead keep inside your heart.u are still young tat is still a long way to go if u dont trash thing fast small problem will become big problem.wish u and family happy and has the best sex lives in future cheers

[gotcraft30]

i used to have a gf, everytime we do it i will tell myself i am damn lucky cos she is very pretty and the sex is REALLY good. But of cos you eat abalone everyday also will be a bit sian right?

Then she turned very emo, will say things like "You are doing it with me cos you no choice" or "How come we are not doing it as often or as many times a session" and things like that. It's a huge turn off la... Not all men's brains are in their dicks. Work stress, family stress etc affects our desire for sex also. So pls don't say that to your husband.

And pls get work or get a social life as some of the bros mentioned. :) Sex is not always about how you look, size of boobs or how tight it is.

[Max77]

...
I am not ugly mah.... I put in effort to look good, to make him proud... I jus wanna let it out my chest but jus can't find a suitable forum...

Thanks for "listening"... :(

Hmmm...yah lor....aiyoh!...hmmm...ok lah....hmmm *nod head*...orhhh...like tat ah...haiz...ok ok don't sad liao lah, it's like tat one lah :p

[manny]

Hmmm...yah lor....aiyoh!...hmmm...ok lah....hmmm *nod head*...orhhh...like tat ah...haiz...ok ok don't sad liao lah, it's like tat one lah :p


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lol.. thanks har!!

[gunner77]

go for a 2nd honeymoon

[big9n]

Jus wanna vent out wat's in my mind!! Married young wif 2kids.. Mid 20s.. Staying home to take care of kids.. Love my family alot but lately, HB has not been passionate in bed with mi.... We still do often but the passion is nt like years ago.. Feeling so sad...
I am not ugly mah..When guys look at me, he still feel jealous.. He is making me so confuse.. Am I not attractive to him anymore?? I'm not the kind of mom who looks like aunties.. I put in effort to look good, to make him proud when his friends see us.. He enjoys it but when comes to bed.. It's jus not like before... I can't tell him these and I don't know how to.... Feeling so sad....

Pls do not pm mi.. I jus wanna let it out my chest but jus can't find a suitable forum... Thanks for "listening" to my nonsense.. :(



it like that one lah..... when a husband or bf saw someone looking at his wife/girlfriend he will feel jealous due to his childish or scared someone will take YOU away from him..... try to make him understand that everything is FINE..... have him personally talk with heart to heart to make sure he fully understand what both of you want!


it common to see couple having this problem.... try to find solutions to solve rather than either one of you SAD and keep QUIET...... :)


cheers girl.... you can do it~

[Longitude]

There has never been an age that did not applaud the past and lament the present.

[RealEstateGuy]

Jus wanna vent out wat's in my mind!! Married young wif 2kids.. Mid 20s.. Staying home to take care of kids.. Love my family alot but lately, HB has not been passionate in bed with mi.... We still do often but the passion is nt like years ago.. Feeling so sad...
I am not ugly mah..When guys look at me, he still feel jealous.. He is making me so confuse.. Am I not attractive to him anymore?? I'm not the kind of mom who looks like aunties.. I put in effort to look good, to make him proud when his friends see us.. He enjoys it but when comes to bed.. It's jus not like before... I can't tell him these and I don't know how to.... Feeling so sad....

Pls do not pm mi.. I jus wanna let it out my chest but jus can't find a suitable forum... Thanks for "listening" to my nonsense.. :(

Sister, what you need to do is spike up your sex life with your hubby. Have you tried improving the overall love making experience? Vacations together while your family takes care of the kids? How about direct improvment in bed? Have you tried Kama Sutra? One thing that I really enjoy is when a women is able to use her vagina to milk my dick to orgasm. Have you looked into that and learned it? Try it on your husband and post back with results sister.

[manny]

gotcraft30... if realli sian liao..that means watever i do, it will still be the same rite..

i wan to work..but he doesn't allow mi.. prefer mi to stay home..

[manny]

There has never been an age that did not applaud the past and lament the present.


What u said is so true...

[big9n]

gotcraft30... if realli sian liao..that means watever i do, it will still be the same rite..

i wan to work..but he doesn't allow mi.. prefer mi to stay home..



meet your girlfriend's and go out with them SHOP SHOP if you can't work! :)

[manny]

big9n, gonna do so when my young kid starts going to childcare..

[silverblue]

dear manny,

can you show us the picture of yourself so that we can understand your situation better?

[manny]

silverblue.. i tink u must be thinking im a stupid woman comng here issit? post my picture? u must be drunk rite?

[owen1]

More than meets the eye?

Likely work stress.

1- Wants to provide and not let family worry.

2- fact he doesnt want family to worry adds to his stress, he could have difficulty maintaining current financial status.

3- this desire to provide and also to burden all issues to himself, adds to the stress which will result in resentment.

4- Stress leads to low sex drive, which is proven.

Some thoughts.

[BiRd13]

TS,

When I'm reading your post, I'm thinking if you were my friend, as she had the same problem with you.

They still make love 2-3 times per week, but the passion was not there anymore. More to like for the sake of doing or what we call SEX, instead of making love, where feeling and passion are in...

Unfortunately, it takes really long time and patience for it the be back to normal. And sometimes it may not work too. What you both need is RELAXATION... I guesses he's too stress in work or life, that makes him lost passion in it. Again, men are weird creature. If you get him another woman, he will fuck like no tomorrow. But when with you, maybe 1 times or so will sian already.

My advise is... Give yourself more relaxation over it. Make more friends, and go out more often. Not asking you to find a FB though... But perhaps more friends to talk to, and just relax yourself... =)

Hope it works for you...

[big9n]

big9n, gonna do so when my young kid starts going to childcare..




THAT GREAT..... you also have to understand your husband situation.... he may think you will be STRESS during work while need to take care children when come back home.... he thought you can't made it this so he may as well ask you stay at home shake leg!!! you have to think positive!!! :)


i also understand everyday stay at home shake leg also FUCKING SIANZ..... i don't think your husband will be mind when you go out with your girlfriends as i can sense he trust your girlfriend rather than your guy (friends)!!!!


to avoid all this happen again try to talk to him SERIOUSLY and privately.... make sure both of you understand this!!!


anyway GIRL love to SHOP SHOP so you get what i meant now~ :)

[naturegreen]

TS,

When I'm reading your post, I'm thinking if you were my friend, as she had the same problem with you.

Honestly speaking, don't think if she is your friend cause lots of brothers here will be wondering if she is their friends too. There are too many, let me repeat so many women having the same problem as she is having. :p

[manny]

i still think there must be a way to rekindle the passion.. some ppl married for 10yrs> still so happy... there must be some hope la..

big9n.. i wan to think positively la..but he upfront told mi tat he prefer mi to stay home take care kids... hsewrk.. typical ah soh housewife.. but i dun think i will everyday stay home when my kids r not ard lor.. plain boring.. will definitely go out and shop for stuffs.. tat probably might interest him.. hope so... jus waiting for the day.. soon..

[bfreemen]

its hard work to keep relationship working . hang in there sis .

[manny]

naturegreen.. u r so rite.. so many wife r feeling so.. tats y the hb visit this forum rite? but instead of suffering in silence like them.. i jus dun wan me and my hb to be like them..

[big9n]

i still think there must be a way to rekindle the passion.. some ppl married for 10yrs> still so happy... there must be some hope la..

big9n.. i wan to think positively la..but he upfront told mi tat he prefer mi to stay home take care kids... hsewrk.. typical ah soh housewife.. but i dun think i will everyday stay home when my kids r not ard lor.. plain boring.. will definitely go out and shop for stuffs.. tat probably might interest him.. hope so... jus waiting for the day.. soon..



i know girl.... as mid-20 peoples they would rather go out often than stay at home being ROTTEN eggs..... since you got married with him mean you already put 100% trust on him so you have to think positive! :)

ya as a man pride.... he want the girl he love to stay at home to takecare of kid's while he busy working outside.... everyone has their point to say but make sure to avoid quarrel because of this....... you should tell him that you go out with your girlfriend's (NOT OTHER GUYS) and maybe buy something to surprise him.... husband are like a baby!!!!


DON'T NEED TO HOPE SO lah.... you have the right to do what you want to do.... as long you didn't betray him than do it all the MEAN.... you have to explain to him to make him fully understand you..... NOT just die die like dog listen to him only as you also have your own space/freedom to do whatever you want to do! (LEGAL)


:)

[raftime68]

Miss in life they is ups and down, like wise, Tokyo Man have said.u need to play ur part too, u should know him well bec that is ur husband wat he likes and don like or other options is myb u both of u open up and talk it out, at least both of u can bring out feeling that wat u both going to say. i think that the best way to keep your marriage survive. is not matter about in bed. matter is both about attitude toward u both. so wat u waiting for voice out.

[manny]

ok.. think guys r realli like babies.. sometmes need to do such stuffs..

[manny]

raftime.. frm my understanding.. i feel there's no other problems between us.. and a bro told mi.. at least he still can "stand" for mi.. means not tat bad rite.. i msg him and told him about tonite.. he's excited after some teasing mms.. hope it will help improve.. coz its being yrs i send him mms.. well.. i know we still love each other la.. probably need some effort to spice things up abit.. since he is the passive one..then i got to be the active one liao la.. sian..but no choice.. he's my man..

[streamz]

Treat him like ur new bf, new love... u'll feel different.

I feel that it u wanna more... not him...

Too bad u dun dare try... or else goes back u'll be diff... cos e feeling is so diff lor...

juzmy 2 cents comments

[pewpew]

Sometime u needs to hang urself 吊起来卖... Too easy to get = get bored too soon...

[manny]

pewpew..how to hang?! if partor time.. i knw la..married liao..everyday see him leh..

[fishygal09]

mmm...tease him a lil at times, and not give him sex. ;)

[fishygal09]

mmm...tease him a lil at times and dont give him sex ;)

[naturegreen]

Sometime u needs to hang urself 吊起来卖... Too easy to get = get bored too soon...

Wa bro don't teach TS to 吊起来卖, wait scarli the hb go out tao jia. :p

[Didi~wa~Didi]

Sex is integral but not the most important ingredient in a successful marriage. You sound vivacious and active whereas he seems more passive. Practice give and take in huge doses. Nothing lasts forever especially mind blowing sex with the same partner for so long, but that does not mean he still does not love you.

[manny]

ya lor! bu yao hai wo!

[WhyWhy00]

just try your best, if change too much on behaviour, he will think who taught you all these too.

[big9n]

ok.. think guys r realli like babies.. sometmes need to do such stuffs..



hahaha don't give him everything too easily.... let him taste a bitter for sometime too as everyday too easily also get bored..... don't let him think marry you off mean he want what also get it easily like that won't work well for you two as he don't even respect you at all..... like you say early both of you still love each other.... there is many ways to improve the relationship as it still a early stage! :)

[Ronsee]

Just sharing my thoughts for TS...

Even though SEX is a very important part of any relationship but it is not the ONLY thing thats important in a relationship.

I believe spending quality time together bonding and communicating positively is equally important.

For men, most of their lives revolves around their work. Especially if your Man is holding a high/ Senior position in a company than the demands on him for his time and energies can be destructive..he can be so drained mentally and physically everyday from his routine and stresses at work.

No matter how tired, a man can still have an erection if given the right stimulation and evironment....but the point is if you want hot and good sex, i believe the only way is to get out of the routine in your daily life...what do i mean?

During weekends or holidays, try to get out of Sillpore and go to nearby RIAU islands like BINTAN, BALAI or even BTM for a short getaway. Can leave the kids with in-laws.

Once you are on the short vacation, SEX will naturally feel different. Trust me i do this with my GF always when we have the chance, we always have our best and hottest sex when we are away on our short 'vacation'.

If leaving Sillypore is not possible, than alternatively just check into any good hotels here in town example VALUE, AQUEEN hotels and spend a night together both of u....it will work wonders. Just eat in the room and bonk and watch movies together.

Doing this will add a spice to your life and also makes SEX more enjoyable.

I have been doing this now and it always work for me and my gf...hehe

just sharing my personal experiences.

Cheers
Ronsee

[manny]

thanks for the advice huh!! =)

[big9n]

thanks for the advice huh!! =)



you are most welcome.... let see the time look like your husband going to OFF work soon..... maybe do some surprise for him but not always do as it will get bored! :)


REMEMBER having relationship doesn't mean HAVE TO SEX everyday but have to show each other a "RESPECT"! :p


- let him know nicely that you want to go out to enjoy too when he busy working....... i think he will understand it~

[manny]

infact he is a nice hb la..tats y i love him so much.. whenever i tell him i wana go out, he will jus pass mi the car to use.. he's v understanding.. he dun mind mi go shopping.. stay at home too long sure will sian.. he knws tat..

wat surprise for him huh?? like wat..

[big9n]

infact he is a nice hb la..tats y i love him so much.. whenever i tell him i wana go out, he will jus pass mi the car to use.. he's v understanding.. he dun mind mi go shopping.. stay at home too long sure will sian.. he knws tat..

wat surprise for him huh?? like wat..



GUYS are easy to be surprised just do something he thought you won't do it lah..... that nice to hear that.... wish you and him be lovely couple forever!! :)


sometime you not good at it maybe improve yourself to be better lor... don't have to SEX or tease him with your naked photos because everyday see it also SIANZ de! :p


since you have plenty of times whenever he go work maybe try to find out more with your other girlfriends too lor! :D

[manny]

big9n.. sometimes its the kids tat hindered.. guess its so tiring wif kids ard.. tats y..

[big9n]

big9n.. sometimes its the kids tat hindered.. guess its so tiring wif kids ard.. tats y..


haha bo bian since you have own kid now but i find them very cute and very playful.......


how tired you are after play with your kids.... make sure you have some energys with your husband..... because you know husband go out WORK very stress sometime not doing well... the boss fuck your husband upside down and most of time husband return home wish his wife can serve him well so that he won't think much already! :)


GUY ARE LIKE THAT.

[naturegreen]

TS my situation a bit toom ba lei of yours leh. Some similarities though . Married late wif 2kids. early 30s. Staying home to take care of kids during my off days.. Love my family alot but all along, OC has not been passionate in bed with mi.... We seldom do nowadays...everything seems routine.

I am also not ugly mah..When girls look at me, instead of feeling jealous, she feels good.. I am not confused.. I'm not the kind of dad who looks like an uncle either.. I put in lots of efforts to look good, to make her proud when her friends/relatives see us.. She enjoys it but when comes to bed.. It's just CMI... I have told her these and she told me she don't know how to.... Feeling so sad....

Girls, pls DO pm mi.. I wanna let it out my chest and I think this is a suitable forum... Thanks for "reading".

[manny]

naturegreen... u hor... ....

[SinDellman]

sis manny, like what you have mentioned that you have regular sex, but not having passion.
I think yours is the case where you have quantity and no quality. Maybe you should cut down and let him "beg" from you instead of you giving in so easily.
This way he may be more appreciative and more passionate in the love-making.

[naturegreen]

naturegreen... u hor... ....

;) Just killing some time while waiting for my OC to knock off. Purely for leisure and to laugh it off. But it will really be a bonus if a chio bu comes msging me to be my FB. Haha just a fantasy. :D

[big9n]

naturegreen... u hor... ....


HAHAHA you making me laugh now... ops! :x

[big9n]

;) Just killing some time while waiting for my OC to knock off. Purely for leisure and to laugh it off. But it will really be a bonus if a chio bu comes msging me to be my FB. Haha just a fantasy. :D



hmm brother.... so greedy ah?? hahaha :)

[naturegreen]

hmm brother.... so greedy ah?? hahaha :)

huh where got greedy? Some bros in here got 3-4 FBs leh. Now I don't even have 1....... Wanting to have 1 FB is greedy meh? ;) LOL

[big9n]

huh where got greedy? Some bros in here got 3-4 FBs leh. Now I don't even have 1....... Wanting to have 1 FB is greedy meh? ;) LOL


NO BROTHER BUT


SAME leh i don't have FB even though i got 1 potential for me now.... hahahaha good luck to you but since she got a happy family... don't spoiled it lah!! :p

[naturegreen]

NO BROTHER BUT

SAME leh i don't have FB even though i got 1 potential for me now.... hahahaha good luck to you but since she got a happy family... don't spoiled it lah!! :p

Huh? I where got want to spoil her happy family. *falls off the chair*. Bro don't like that flame me leh. Wait I tio zap until I go holland......

Manny: I think he thinks I am trying to pick you up. :eek:
What do you think?

[smoofdeek]

maybe he's guilty.. but it could be alot of factors, maybe he got bored with the "routine". don't worry too much bout it, things do plateau. he obviously still loves you very much, so maybe it's time to play hard to get or.. make him feel jealous a lil bit :D

[big9n]

Huh? I where got want to spoil her happy family. *falls off the chair*. Bro don't like that flame me leh. Wait I tio zap until I go holland......

Manny: I think he thinks I am trying to pick you up. :eek:
What do you think?



hahaha the way you talk just now... look like it ma sorry lah i may be gong gong de.... don't worry i won't zap you de! :D


RELAX and take it easy~ :)


-NATURAL: we should get back talk about topic or else off-topic already! :p

[Xgenre]

Let me tell you a story. Long long time ago, Ah Boy 18 years old fell in love with Ah Girl 16 years old. Ah Boy always want to have sex with Ah Girl but Ah Girl say must wait till marriage. One day, the inevitable happened during heavy petting. Soon the sex becomes a regular event in their lives. As we interview them individually, here were their personal views on sex.

Ah Boy: Wah, I like to bang Ah Girl hard hard until she pussy sore. Banging her hard increases the intensity of sex. I cum faster so that I can cum more often each time before Ah Girl needs to go home. Why cum once in 45 mins when I can cum 3 times in 45 mins right? I take Ah Girl virgin leh. First time hor, her pussy is so small. Now after so many times, her pussy is bigger. I can enter without using my hands to direct my cock in. I’m so proud of myself. The bigger her hole is, it can only mean the bigger my cock is right? After all, my cock is opening her hole mah.

Ah Girl: Ah Boy only knows how to ask for sex. Sometimes he doesn't even care if I'm in the mood or not. He just drops his pants and expect me to be ready to have sex just because he's horny. Sex is for animals. Human beings should make love. He should be creating the romantic mood so that I will enjoy him more. He bang me so hard that every time when I go home, I walk like a duck.

We did the decent thing and counsel Ah Boy on what Ah Girl wants. 3 months later;

Ah Boy: I know lar. It’s make love, not have sex. I try to get Ah Girl to have mood mood a bit more ah. When I go movie with her hor, I will pur-pur-ly steam and let her touch my cock ah. Then I will softly tell her naughty naughty things all the way till she reach my home ah. Make her hear already also look shy shy. For egg-zample hor, I tell her later we bath together ok. Her face turn so red everytime. I even tell her later when we bath, I will pour a can of Tiger beer from her shoulders and let it flow down her boobs, over her stomach, onto her pussy hair and then use the beer to wash her pussy ah. Ah Girl quite kinky one. She always giggle when I tell her this. You know why I do this or not? Because the Tiger beer advertisement always say ‘Give the man a beer, Nooo.... Give the man a Tiger right?’ As I pour the beer down Ah Girl’s body, I always tell her later I will give the Tigress a Man later. Ah Girl always get sibeh high inside the toilet. Hee hee...

Ah Girl: Ah Boy got improve a bit lar. At least he thinks of what he wants to do to me, not just drop his pants, look at me and say ‘Kum Lan Jiao Now.’ I like that he tells me what I’ll be getting when I reach his house. Aiyoh, how come 1 can of Tiger beer can get me so high ah? I don’t understand leh. Tiger beer only 5% alcohol only right? How come I get so high after he pour just 1 can? Is it because Tiger a lot of bubbles ah? Nowadays, during sex, he will also ask me if pain or not, is he rough or not. So different now, so caring. But hor, I always tell him... ‘Harder dear.... Harder!!!’ Hee hee.

[Xgenre]

Time and tide waits for no man. Ah Boy married Ah Girl and became a hardworking husband. Ah Girl gave birth to 2 kids and stay home as a responsible wife. We wonder how their sex lives went.

Hubby: Sibeh shag leh. I everyday work OT. In the day, my boss use his big mouth to fuck me with impossible demands. At night, my wife uses her small mouth to fuck me with impossible demands too. She ask me why I can’t cum 3 times anymore. Wah lau, if limpei cums 3 times, I need to see my Sinseh to acupuncture my back liao loh. She everyday stay at home sure good life lar. Nothing to tire her out. I come back only she wants sex. Only know how to lie in bed, spread her legs wide wide, show me her hairy pussy and say ‘Come Fuck Me (CFM)’. Fuck is for animal leh. I’m a human being leh. Human beings make love. You think I’m an electric switch ah, one flick of the switch and I’m on for sex? Flick the switch 1 time I cum 1 time ah, where got so easy... Must at least create the mood mah.

Wife: Boo Hoo. My hubby don’t love me anymore. Last time 45 mins can cum 3 times. Now also 45 mins 3 times still but now is to make him 45 mins hard 3 times. He hard already fuck 10 mins then cock go soft. I got to suck his cock for 5 mins then his now hard again cock fucks me for another 10 mins before it goes soft again. I got to suck him again for 5 mins to make him hard before he fuck me for another 10 mins till he cums. He must think I’m unattractive anymore. Ya lar, he’s still hard when he sees me naked. But his hardness doesn’t last long enough for him to cum. Why why why? Must go SBF to ask for advice. I pur-purly dress sexy sexy when I go out with his friends. All his friends so envy of him but yet he still doesn’t bang me hard hard anymore. Why ah? Is it because after 2 kids, my pussy isn’t as tight as before? Is it because of this or that ah... I cannot accept this leh. I’m still so young. Last time our sex life is always about fucking hard hard, now our sex life is about so hard to fuck. Last time I'm angry that he fucks me until my pussy is sore. Now I'm angry that my pussy isn't fucked until sore... Sigh...

Being the Kaypohs we are, we have to share ideas on how to re-kindle their sex lives. After 3 months, here’s what we found.

Hubby: Wah, my wife nowadays make me so gian during my working hours you know? She will MMS me the ‘menu’ for tonight when I’m working. Menu means what ah? You know lar, she will MMS me photos of her wearing her different sets of lingerie and ask me to choose which one to wear during sex lor. Sometimes when I working, she will even MSN me and webcam. Got 1 time she masterbate over webcam when I’m working. She put the dildo inside her pussy and type on MSN ‘wish it’s your cock instead of the dildo.’ Wah lan eh, I see already almost take MC man. You know why take MC instead of take half-day leave or not? Because I see already my nose bleed leh. Your knows (nose) won’t bleed meh? Sometimes she MMS me, I also scared to open ah. Wait I die cock stand how?

Wife: Thanks leh. I really SBF all the brother’s advice leh. SBF? Orh SBF stands for Super Bei Fu, (super admire for all non-chinese bros here). Someone tell me the more I demand, the lesser sex I will get. The only time when the more I demand sex, the more sex I get is when I start a new thread is the Orgies section. But like as I had said, I’m faithful to my man. So all you Da Ge Ges, please stop pm me. I know you men don’t like to be pressured. The more pressure I give him in his big head, the less blood pressure there will be in his small head right? But I cannot don’t do anything and wait for him to have mood mah. So I will MMS him my sexy photos and let him choose what I should be wearing when he fucks me. I give him the MCQ to choose but because he decides, he doesn’t feel like I’m the MAN in the family. See, I’m so cleber... I even thought of a new Tiger routine to slurpise him that day. Normally he likes to shower after my 2 kids went to sleep. So when he’s bathing, I take off all my clothes and walk into the toilet to bathe with him. Huh? Where got new Tiger routine??? Got... As I am sneaking up on him, I’m singing ‘It’s Tiger time, it’s Tiger time...’ I even shaved off my hairy pussy. Hee hee. He’s so naughty. He calls me ‘White Tiger’ these days.

[Xgenre]

Sister, just to summarise the issues here and the comments made in this thread. Tongue in cheek ok? Please don't be offended. :p

[naturegreen]

..........

applaud + salute

[sta1100]

Jus wanna vent out wat's in my mind!! Married young wif 2kids.. Mid 20s.. Staying home to take care of kids.. Love my family alot but lately, HB has not been passionate in bed with mi.... We still do often but the passion is nt like years ago.. Feeling so sad...
I am not ugly mah..When guys look at me, he still feel jealous.. He is making me so confuse.. Am I not attractive to him anymore?? I'm not the kind of mom who looks like aunties.. I put in effort to look good, to make him proud when his friends see us.. He enjoys it but when comes to bed.. It's jus not like before... I can't tell him these and I don't know how to.... Feeling so sad....

Pls do not pm mi.. I jus wanna let it out my chest but jus can't find a suitable forum... Thanks for "listening" to my nonsense.. :(

Hi Manny

YOu are lucky you still need them, my wife seem to be busy with work until forget that i'am around

[manny]

i cant stop luffing seeing tis la.. pls lor.. far too exaggerated la.. but i presume u guys are good in tat la hor..

xgenre.. u shld b a writer u knw.. funi guy.. anyway, some part u realli tink too much..

[big9n]

i cant stop luffing seeing tis la.. pls lor.. far too exaggerated la.. but i presume u guys are good in tat la hor..

xgenre.. u shld b a writer u knw.. funi guy.. anyway, some part u realli tink too much..



HAHA you don't know peoples in here are "EXPERT" now already.... they got study in ADVANCE SEX EDUCATION ma! :)

[Xgenre]

i cant stop luffing seeing tis la.. pls lor.. far too exaggerated la.. but i presume u guys are good in tat la hor..

some part u realli tink too much..

just for fun, don't be offended ah. Must exaggerate a bit, then it will be funny. You are really free leh. You can come in to post so often, you must be a very bored housewife as you had mentioned. Isn't he supposed to be home by now? After the MMS that you had sent him. Do learn how to give a GREAT blowjob. The boobs may sag, the pussy may sag too but the mouth can always be forever so so small.

A alternating hot water and cold water sequence always sends MEN into heaven. Besides hot/cold water in your mouth, try in specials like popping powdered sweets (the ones we had as kids, powdered sweets that pop with it touches a wet surface like our tongue), gassy drinks blowjob, coating the ENTIRE penis with honey before you lick it off like an ice cream. Putting a doughnut through his cock and slowly nibbling the doughnuts off... from time to time, accidentally use your teeth to gently scratch his scotum ever so gently.

Tell him you need help to make Bandung. He will go HUH? Then you take a sip of rose syrup, keep it in your mouth and suck him. When he cums in mouth, let the mixture of sperm and rose syrup (thus Bandung) slowly flow out of your mouth. Then torture him by saying the bandung not enough carnation milk and continue to suck him. Guys's cocks are very sensitive after we had cummed. If you continued sucking gently, we will surrender totally and yet come back for more every night. You want him to tell his friends that his wife blows him away every night right?

[manny]

erm.. i dun tink i will ever do those u mention.. and the way u describe, i tink bros here will probably visualise unneccesarily leh.. anyway, thanks for ur advice k.. perhaps some bros can learn from u to try on their wife.. =)

im not a lonely hsewife la.. he's bz wif my elder one.. trying to make him slp..

[big9n]

erm.. i dun tink i will ever do those u mention.. and the way u describe, i tink bros here will probably visualise unneccesarily leh.. anyway, thanks for ur advice k.. perhaps some bros can learn from u to try on their wife.. =)

im not a lonely hsewife la.. he's bz wif my elder one.. trying to make him slp..



HAHAHA that why i say you are different from other WIFE'S in here.... THAT THE WAY "MAMA"!!!! :)

[naturegreen]

im not a lonely hsewife la.. he's bz wif my elder one.. trying to make him slp..

At least he is a responsible father, just like me :D.

[Xgenre]

perhaps some bros can learn from u to try on their wife.. =)
im not a lonely hsewife la.. he's bz wif my elder one.. trying to make him slp..

Oh it can be reversed of course. When my wife is having her menses, I took a big mouthful of milk and I... shall I continue to describe how bandung is made? ;) Just kidding, cheers. Hope to see you posting in other threads.

[manny]

yeah.. he is! a nice hb and dad la.. thats y i love him ma!

[B52bomber]

yeah.. he is! a nice hb and dad la.. thats y i love him ma!

Man sex drive is at the peak from 16 to 28 yrs old...it slow down from till age 40 plus and will be at its peak again after around 45... whereas women are more constant... and getting higher sex drive before 40 before they reach manopause..

[big9n]

yeah.. he is! a nice hb and dad la.. thats y i love him ma!



i can SENSE that you really proud to say that.... VERY NICE! :)

[goodpartner]

Sis, what are the chances that actually u are the one having problem and not ur hb? :rolleyes:

I read this thread from the start to end and can't help noticing a pattern and spotting some keywords which drop hints. They seem to suggest that you're bored, young, attractive, energetic, found SBF and active here, envy the guys here, etc...

Yes, no one can argue or know better than u that the passion may be lacking in comparison to the past, but most agree that ur hb is behaving normally too. So perhaps, just perhaps it's your expectation and desire that have gotten the better of u?

U say u can't find a suitable forum to vent out this issue, sure or not? :rolleyes:
Enjoy the attention you're getting from the pm here la! It's a fun pass time to spend your boring house wife hours! :D
All bros here welcome horny housewifes to join the dark side! Dun shy-shy! (NO members here can claim they are decent)

[big9n]

Sis, what are the chances that actually u are the one having problem and not ur hb? :rolleyes:

I read this thread from the start to end and can't help noticing a pattern and spotting some keywords which drop hints. They seem to suggest that you're bored, young, attractive, energetic, found SBF and active here, envy the guys here, etc...

Yes, no one can argue or know better than u that the passion may be lacking in comparison to the past, but most agree that ur hb is behaving normally too. So perhaps, just perhaps it's your expectation and desire that have gotten the better of u?

U say u can't find a suitable forum to vent out this issue, sure or not? :rolleyes:
Enjoy the attention you're getting from the pm here la! It's a fun pass time to spend your boring house wife hours! :D
All bros here welcome horny housewifes to join the dark side! Dun shy-shy! (NO members here can claim they are decent)



it could be a young MAMA need to do something rather than stay at home all the time do nothing while takecare children.


i admire you this: "you're bored, young, attractive, energetic, found SBF and active here" WOW i don't even know it!


i fully disagree your last sentence... are you sure and confrim she is horny housewife as i don't think she ever mention she dirty in here.... it like disrespect to her and don't tell me those housewife's who came here and talk about her personal things on her and her HB mean she very horny??

it like scare girlgirl off you know! :(

[goodpartner]

i fully disagree your last sentence... (

If I say that is just a general statement welcuming all and any horny housewife into SBF, would you disagree? :rolleyes:

If I say that statement was targeted at her, why u so garang to "stand" up for her? :D;)

I stand firm to say she is a horny housewife.
Are you sure and confirm that I'm not referring that she is horny towards her hb as she say she is?

Gosh, maybe I'm just jealous la! :p

[naturegreen]

Horny or not, we know it deep inside. Don't have to spell it out so clearly. Girls don't like the truth cause the truth hurts. We kay kay a bit, they kay kay a bit. Life becomes so beautiful! ;)

[MoralEpitome]

Hmm.....i reccomend rabbit vibrators if housewives are bored....if not get a duck...but always remember not to hurt your husband who works so hard to support the family....

[manny]

jus when i tot some of the guys here are truely giving me advices, then this "goodpartner" post jus disappoints me.. before ur stupid post, there's nt much of buaya pms.. but after ur post, ppl misunderstood me and lots of stupid guys jus pm-ed me! Will not be posting anymore. thanks!

[tattoohammer]

jus when i tot some of the guys here are truely giving me advices, then this "goodpartner" post jus disappoints me.. before ur stupid post, there's nt much of buaya pms.. but after ur post, ppl misunderstood me and lots of stupid guys jus pm-ed me! Will not be posting anymore. thanks!

y get so angry?u got ur point of view other ppl oso got mah.
if u dun like to see wat ppl post here,then u should not post ur problem here n ask for advice.here is like free speaking corner,we can comments as we like.
coz in SBF in "bo zheng hu" :D:D
here wan to up ppl,wan to zap ppl dun need to give any F***ing reason :D:D

[kpkprivate]

1) Work out something with your parents and bring your kids back during weekends or after work.

2) Try to create time and space for you and your husband.

3) Tell him straight dont hint.

and Goodluck

[James PCT]

tryto give him gong tao haha im sure he will haha never mind la since he is husband relax

[big9n]

If I say that is just a general statement welcuming all and any horny housewife into SBF, would you disagree? :rolleyes:

If I say that statement was targeted at her, why u so garang to "stand" up for her? :D;)

I stand firm to say she is a horny housewife.
Are you sure and confirm that I'm not referring that she is horny towards her hb as she say she is?

Gosh, maybe I'm just jealous la!



the way you post is only scare PEOPLES OFF instead give peoples a warm welcome in here....

i stand for her as she not same as from other girls...... so do you mean all the housewife's who came here got problem with her HB mean they horny too?


whether she horny or not is up to her to decide... because it her own right to say whatever she want.

you not jealous but you got drunk leh brother! :(


MANNY: ok mama takecare don't bother them so much~

[pewpew]

TS is just pouring her "heart" out to share... dun derail the topic...

[big9n]

TS is just pouring her "heart" out to share... dun derail the topic...


but the damage has already DONE to her so no point! :(

[naturegreen]

but the damage has already DONE to her so no point! :(

big9n bro, relax leh. Don't over-read too much. Most of the stuffs we discussed here are meant to be general. Don't take every words too hard. Purely for leisure and discussion.

[Didi~wa~Didi]

Aiyo guys, why argue over such a trivial matters?? Ts is here to share and listen to our opinions. Just stop it before you make bigger fools of yrselves.

[raftime68]

miss, that good to hear that, i hope u will keep that trend.

[big9n]

big9n bro, relax leh. Don't over-read too much. Most of the stuffs we discussed here are meant to be general. Don't take every words too hard. Purely for leisure and discussion.



don't worry i always take things easily but NOT THOSE GIRLS........ it like abit disrespect to girls and make those girls think "WE" here are full of prevert and bastard guys around! :(

[hardcoremayhem]

a bit late to discussion?

anyway, TS, i think that the only way to reslove this is to have a heart-to-heart talk with your husband.

I think that it is inevitable that a decline in "passion" will result after years of being together no matter what both parties do. It is just human nature to feel overly comfortable (to the point of complancy) with any thing that is not "new". Otherwise, we would all be very happy to wear the same clothes and eat the same food day after day, right?

Instead of pining for what is lost or declining, why not look at what has been gained or imporved? Like maybe, the sex is better now because both of you are more comfortable with one another and know each other's body better + what both of you like and dislike? I think that it is better to have less passion but more understanding because understanding my partner's likes + pleasure spots enables me to make her have an orgasm EVERY SINGLE TIME and in less than 10 min. :)

[kiwibunny]

it like that one lah..... when a husband or bf saw someone looking at his wife/girlfriend he will feel jealous due to his childish or scared someone will take YOU away from him..... try to make him understand that everything is FINE..... have him personally talk with heart to heart to make sure he fully understand what both of you want!


it common to see couple having this problem.... try to find solutions to solve rather than either one of you SAD and keep QUIET...... :)


cheers girl.... you can do it~

Please be open and talk with your husband and everything will be fine. Cheer up.

[goodpartner]

the way you post is only scare PEOPLES OFF instead give peoples a warm welcome in here....

...
MANNY: ok mama takecare don't bother them so much~

Fu*k la bro, what scare ppl off? I'm just trying to balance my views here as I do in most threads. Too much ying must give some yang ;) A variety of opinions always help, and it's up to the beholder to discern what's useful.

If TS is a brother who say the same for his OC for not being able to sextify him as much as before, u think he'll get as much samsters here to "stand" up with so much care and concern?

I jealous for those brothers la! LoL

[trebla]

Hi TS

almost all married person had come to this stage where both feels bored and tired of each other... I myself in the same situation my wife is a good looking lady I think for her age she still attracts some guys although she's not as sexy as before.

I dont see you two have much problem in terms of money, and relationship seems to be ok, maybe you two needs some time off each or maybe 2nd honey moon?

One advice also is try different sex activity ask your husband his sexual fantasy maybe you two could try it if it is not that hard to do it. if you ask the guys here what do they want the girl to do in bed they will list a lot maybe that would help also :)

Let's just hope you hubby not having extra marital affairs...

[tattoohammer]

Fu*k la bro, what scare ppl off? I'm just trying to balance my views here as I do in most threads. Too much ying must give some yang ;) A variety of opinions always help, and it's up to the beholder to discern what's useful.

If TS is a brother who say the same for his OC for not being able to sextify him as much as before, u think he'll get as much samsters here to "stand" up with so much care and concern?

I jealous for those brothers la! LoL

bro agreed with u:D
when the wind blow pass i can smell the smell passing by:D:D

[naturegreen]

bro agreed with u:D
when the wind blow pass i can smell the smell passing by:D:D

You mean the "chee" smell in the wind called Cheese Hong?

[tattoohammer]

You mean the "chee" smell in the wind called Cheese Hong?

say cheeseeeeeeeeeeeee:D:D

[Sex4Love]

After married for a few years, passion naturally eases off. This is a fact you have to recognize and this happens to all couples.

I read from somewhere about this about guys who followed their wives all the way to the delivery rooms when they gave birth. After witnessing the whole 'bloody' process and how the wives suffered, some of the guys just lost the urge to have sex with their wives anymore.

To some of them, their wives are more like someone's mum rather than their women.

Your husband can be stressed up in his working life. You have to check this out for yourself and find a time to talk to him maybe when you watching TV with him.

There is one possibility, but I hope my guess is not correct. When guys have another women outside house, they lost sexual interests in their wives. Again this is only my guess. I hope this is not true.

Hope next time, when I hear from you again, the situation will be better ! (http://sextisfaction.wordpress.com)

[biozaogeng]

TS why don't u have sex with me? or give me a blowjob?

My dick is soooooooo tiny and small, after having me you'll realize how lucky you are to have your hubby dick and you'll have so much fun when you next have sex.

he will then realize and feel your horniness/passion and will be more horny too.

problem solved!

[James PCT]

to ms so sad la:
first at all nice to meet you .i also understand ur feeling right now as a women and as a part of wife .i dont know what happen between both of you two parties ,as u mention in ur post u said that last time ur hubby have sex with u he will enjoy it but after a long time he was like lost interst in sex .bides that u also had two cute kids .i would like to explain to you

Man ussualy lost some intrest in sex

1.working life are bz aka pressure in his work
2.make love regularly will make the man feel like nothing
3.maybe outside got other girl
4.maybe he has some sickness

the way as a wife should to make husband back in sex action

1.try to seduced ur hubby by wearing sexy clothes at night
2.when sleep try to hug ur hubby make ur self soft
3.always praise ur hubby when he have sex with you 4
4.man ussualy have egoistic dont try to make them down,give some motivation to them
5.try to understand each toher feeling during bed time
6.when he bring u out down let him down infront of friend

my question for you

1.how ur relationship with ur husband ?
2.how do u try ur husband such as in food love and as a responsiblity of wife?
3.do you help him during his pressure in his work
4.how much u understand ur husband ?

sometimes love is more than sex .sex is a chance of reproduction and an option for human to enjoy too .have sex regularly not mean u love him more or you love him more sometimes man will feel akward in sex because do oftenly .

Once married that call a family as a women need to think alot of angle not juz sex so ez.To miss so sad la U may try to use my point to try on ur husband.

James Pct
Degree in Psycology Uk Hons

[Frankiestine]

why guys will sian huh? whereas we girls will still be so interested in the hb.. seriously, I always find my man sexy..

Geez I wished I have you as my wife. Try as I did, my wife is the total opposite, no drive, no passion...like sex is a chore.:(

[lovesmassage]

I also envy the husband of TS and wish I was in his shoe.
TS do you accept students? I would pay to let my wife learn from you. :D

[James PCT]

lovemassege what is ts mean ?

[big9n]

Geez I wished I have you as my wife. Try as I did, my wife is the total opposite, no drive, no passion...like sex is a chore.:(



hey brother.... you should just let her go as she don't bother to look or reply here anymore..... let her do whatever she do...... ;p


for those bro who give me comment after zap me say "chee hong kia" i know who are you liao....


for those bro who give me comment say "don't talk like as if i senior in SBF" WOW i cannot give opinion and support the loyal housewife ah??


it crap... peoples start to ABUSE THE REP SYSTEM ALREADY! sicko~ :)

[tattoohammer]

:Di said u chee hong kia:D
i wan to call u "25" kia oso:D
go la go report to the boss again la:D

[naturegreen]

Ok this is a follow up after giving advice. Is TS still around? Has love-making improved? :D

[juicypie]

i believe both couples got tired after a day's work and taking care of kids daily. that's why love making only take place like 1-2 a mth. how sad.

[purecoolice]

hey brother.... you should just let her go as she don't bother to look or reply here anymore..... let her do whatever she do...... ;p


for those bro who give me comment after zap me say "chee hong kia" i know who are you liao....


for those bro who give me comment say "don't talk like as if i senior in SBF" WOW i cannot give opinion and support the loyal housewife ah??


it crap... peoples start to ABUSE THE REP SYSTEM ALREADY! sicko~ :)


take it easy bro , just move on different ppl different view
i up you