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BODO
18-10-2010, 02:13 AM
I'm married for almmost 7 yrs and my child is 2 yrs old now. But my relation with my wife, a full time house wife, is drifting farther and farther apart. Maybe is this caused by the constant nagging and house chores she forcing me to do even after work. From my wife's pregency till my child 2 yrs old now, we only had sex twice. It is like 2 times in 3 yrs. She is just not interested at all.

Recently, I get to know a gal from work. She is cute, she is cheerful, abit chubby. She was quite surprised that I was married with a child when I first got to know her.

Though not as pretty as my wife, but I'm quite attracted by her after months of working together. I often look towards her direction, I often walk in front of her desk hope she would notice me. Although I dunno what she thinks about me, but she started to notice the attention I have for her. I felt my action was like courting girls when I was still single.

BUT! I must stop all this. Although my feeling for my wife have faded, but I love my son. I dun wanna part with my son because I have an affair or for whatever reason.

I am abit confused now, lack of abit of determination. Any advise from brothers?

Niceman
18-10-2010, 02:25 AM
Follow where the heart goes. In life, there is no right or wrong, is a matter of choice, to be lonely or to seek happiness.

mr chen
18-10-2010, 02:34 AM
@bro BODO, family is more important and it is unwise to shit where you eat.

ManageYou
18-10-2010, 02:37 AM
For your son you must do it, just think if when you are young and your father gave you a step-brother/sister. How will you feel?

beachaway
18-10-2010, 09:08 AM
i guess u and ur wife have lost the communication, just go for paid sex and dun destroy what u have built over the yrs just for a short fling/affair. it's not worth it.

can u imagine u have to go thru the whole process again... court ship - divorce - preparing for a new marriage - see ur new girl true colours out after some time - have babies again - go thru the infant stage....

to me it's scary to go thru the above again, and divorce dun come cheap...

just my 2 cents worth of thoughts, hope it helps...

simple2kee
18-10-2010, 09:56 AM
In life, there is no right or wrong, is a matter of choice, to be lonely or to seek happiness.

bro, i do agree. i would like to add tht we must be responsible for our own action, no 1 else.

dgsk
18-10-2010, 10:51 AM
Don't kill yourself by over analyzing bro.
I used to think like you and lost out on a lot of friendships.
Girls can be friends too. And it sounds like you need a friend.
Take it from there and slow down on the courtship.
If the chemistry is there, then go with the flow. She already knows you are married, that's a plus. If not for anything else, you have made a friend and makan kaki during lunch.

Good Luck

lovebj83
18-10-2010, 11:09 AM
Hi bro BODO,

I'm married for 7 years +, my kid is 7 yrs old. I used to have the same problem as u. After giving birth my wife lost interest in making love etc.

You gotta try and get her interested, sayang her like u did last time. Try and rekindle the feeling you both used to have.

Now my wife is the one asking "Y these 2 days u never touch me?" jus cos im tired from work..

Of cos other things include comments others said like : dun shit where u eat.

Its not only relationship problems that may happen, it may also affect ur work.

Not worth it to have anything happen to your family and affect ur kid.

Hope u pull thru this well.

All the best!:)

naturegreen
18-10-2010, 11:23 AM
TS, I believe there are many others out there having this same problem. We are just so weird, be it male or females. Before we get married, we wanted to bonk the hell out of each other, but after marriage, everything slows down or even stops. I have faced this problem before too during my OC's pregnancy. But mine was the 2 Yrs Itch. LOL

gpod
18-10-2010, 11:46 AM
ts after getting child, lady may direct their interest to kids and ignore the hubby, and this is norm. try to talk to her, if cant they just carry outside if u can not control :D

kingfuck
18-10-2010, 02:23 PM
Follow where the heart goes. In life, there is no right or wrong, is a matter of choice, to be lonely or to seek happiness.


Wah Nice Man,

your reply is very phili sophical and I like it very much.

powder full man !!!1

VanGogh
18-10-2010, 02:33 PM
If your wife is genuinely not interested in Sex and you are drifting apart, then you should not start a relationship as yet... but maybe have a good talk first. However, to ease your sexual desire, you can always take a look at our FL domes and of course Bro, practice safe Sex. :)

Sidetrack abit just to share personal experience : For me, I tot my ex-wife and i was drifting apart due to te same issue : after childbirth lost sex interest etc etc.... little did i know that she's having great fun outside without me.. ... LOL :D

but that was more than 10 yrs ago and I'm a much happier man today.. ...

singexpat
18-10-2010, 04:44 PM
But mine was the 2 Yrs Itch. LOL

U are on Express level mah Bro.. Mine oso around same time.. :D

owl888
19-10-2010, 12:27 AM
TS could it b that u seem uninterested to have sex with your wife bcoz she shows lack of interest? If both party so negative then the result could be much much negative. Should stay positive in a healthy relationship. My humble 2 cents!

B52bomber
19-10-2010, 12:34 AM
I'm married for almmost 7 yrs and my child is 2 yrs old now. But my relation with my wife, a full time house wife, is drifting farther and farther apart. Maybe is this caused by the constant nagging and house chores she forcing me to do even after work. From my wife's pregency till my child 2 yrs old now, we only had sex twice. It is like 2 times in 3 yrs. She is just not interested at all.

Recently, I get to know a gal from work. She is cute, she is cheerful, abit chubby. She was quite surprised that I was married with a child when I first got to know her.

Though not as pretty as my wife, but I'm quite attracted by her after months of working together. I often look towards her direction, I often walk in front of her desk hope she would notice me. Although I dunno what she thinks about me, but she started to notice the attention I have for her. I felt my action was like courting girls when I was still single.

BUT! I must stop all this. Although my feeling for my wife have faded, but I love my son. I dun wanna part with my son because I have an affair or for whatever reason.

I am abit confused now, lack of abit of determination. Any advise from brothers?

I been married for 21 yrs...still itchy and need to fuck someone else..

ajlover
19-10-2010, 06:30 AM
I have the same problem bro.. since my wife gave birth,we hardly have sex. its been almost 3yrs since we last have sex. Instead of fucking, we are fighting more often... :( its so tiring in such relationship.

Furthermore, I was entangled with my ex whom I know for almost 20yrs... unfortunately she left me during NS for a rich man... although now she is div, I am married... dunno if its fated or I am lucky... last few years, I was doing well in my career that I wanted to div my wife and go with my ex, but everytime i see how sweet my son will run to me and hug me when I return home, I start to think twice... If it worth it to div and make my son feel sad?.... finally the wake up call comes... my career goes downhill, all back to square one. no longer have the finanical means to spend with my ex. she only goes restaurant and enjoy fine dinning (expected if she make 250K a yr right?) I could no longer afford the $300/meal life style.. so I started to stay away from her and spend more time with family.
take it easier, fighting stops or at least less frequent with wife, son is happy with me around for him...

Bro, having fun for a while is rather harmless if you knows the limit. No point doing anything that put your family at risk, especially your kids. I have fb that I can get bj or fuck but am trying to strop it with fb so that marriage sex life will be back to normal... remember the wedding vow that we made?

Owen35
19-10-2010, 08:24 AM
Everyone have the same problem. Just take it slowly, keep the family but still eat outside sometimes.

cheers.

talismann
19-10-2010, 08:26 AM
If you really desire some variety, its best to pay for it and bring home no baggage. Humping your colleague is a big no-no.:D

For many of us, wife-not-interested-anymore is quite a normal occurrence...so, get a Plan B ready. Hehe...

Subaru75
19-10-2010, 09:43 AM
I been married for 21 yrs...still itchy and need to fuck someone else..

Bro all man is the same kind (which cat don't eat fish)but after eating remember to wipe your mouth and also try not to shit in place u eat else u
Getting yourself into deep shit.
I think what you and your wife need us to go for a short trip just two of u
Leave your kid at your Parent or in law house it will help even just for 3-4 day
And have the honeymoon feeling back you will feel the big diff in you and your
Wife try to pat and sayang her like how you use to

BODO
12-11-2010, 01:52 AM
Thanx all brother for ur advise

mentosmint
12-11-2010, 03:12 AM
I'm married for almmost 7 yrs and my child is 2 yrs old now. But my relation with my wife, a full time house wife, is drifting farther and farther apart. Maybe is this caused by the constant nagging and house chores she forcing me to do even after work. From my wife's pregency till my child 2 yrs old now, we only had sex twice. It is like 2 times in 3 yrs. She is just not interested at all.

Recently, I get to know a gal from work. She is cute, she is cheerful, abit chubby. She was quite surprised that I was married with a child when I first got to know her.

Though not as pretty as my wife, but I'm quite attracted by her after months of working together. I often look towards her direction, I often walk in front of her desk hope she would notice me. Although I dunno what she thinks about me, but she started to notice the attention I have for her. I felt my action was like courting girls when I was still single.

BUT! I must stop all this. Although my feeling for my wife have faded, but I love my son. I dun wanna part with my son because I have an affair or for whatever reason.

I am abit confused now, lack of abit of determination. Any advise from brothers?

Hi TS,

U love your son, and so, u need to buck up and work on your marriage.

What u need is to romances your wife and make her feel loved.
both of u are tired, and lack of romancing each other. that is why u felt the itch. Stay at home mom is no easy job. U try one week, u take over the job, and let her 'go on leave' and u see if u know the bah woo anot.

try bring her out, spend some time with her, quality time. Do make it a point not to talk work or family issues. Think back of what u 2 did together when partor time, and 2 of u go partor la... Ask ur parent/in law to help u babysit ur son if u need to.

As for your female colleague, i would suggest you keep your distances and not make any foolish act now. U are a married man with a son. She might be single or married, I dunno.

Seriously, i was in the same situation as u previously, except i am the wife who lacks the attention, no sex, kana nagged at all sorts of things. Things very complicated for me now. lol...

Dun complicate things, work on ur marriage first.
Good Luck to you.