Advise on Companionship.

[mseveninch]

All bros out there! Need your opinions cause I can't really decide with. I'm still considering my OC proposal to look for a companion who could take care of me both emotion and physical intimacy.

As I had mentioned before in some replies in SBF that my OC is wheelchair bounded for life thus she unable to care for me in any ways where as a wife should fulfill. I'm now in my late 40's and strong. My sexual needs still very strong - release at least 4 x week.

Although my OC had given her blessing & approval to me to eat out so that I had a proper released instead of depending on HJ and occasional BBBJ. Intercourse is out of the question - no way. These is due to her hips bone and both legs unable to open up ( split wide ) for the coital events. These had been going on since our 5th yr marriage. I love her very much and would not divorce her although she had suggested a number of times so that I could remarry for a better blissful life.

I had been taking care of her on every needs where as husband should do. That include sexual intimacy - where I could only relief her urge with my hand and painted her good to orgasm.

My job's do take me oversea from time to times ( both short & long period ). As a husband - I need to arrange someone to take care of her whenever I'm not around. I will seek temporary helper ( her god sister ) who live nearby. Of course - need to pay her. She is a housewife. In addition - my son also help out.

Lately - my OC had been observing me and felt that I should look for a companion since my aged is catching up. It's much easier to look for one while still capable as I still need it sexually. On the other hand - OC already come to a time where sexual needs is no longer important to her. She is now in early 50. She is older than me. I'm still young at heart....:D


Once a week - I will eat out. Of course my OC knows where I'm going. She just remind me to take care and ensure helmet is on!!

When I come home after the session outside - I will hug's and kiss OC. Her reaction - well...... feel better?... She asked & at the same time pat me and console me as I feeled guilty.....but I had my needs too!:o


Bro's all - what you think about having a companion? Is it advisable - I afraid of future complication in such relationship?


My ideal's of a companion is that she could live in with us under one roof.

Would like to hear from you bro's out there......tks.

[Manfese_Widz]

You and the women you address as your wife exchanged vows, didn't you? Go read the vows if you have forgotten what had been exchanged!

To get a sex companion to live under the same roof? How could you even thought abt that in the first place?? And when you are fulfilling your needs with your this companion, what role does your wife play?? You think she will feel ok?

Talk about loving her very much, I seriously doubt so.

[lclc123]

I seriously doubt you should bring another milk cow home even when your current one stops producing...

Go "supermarket" to buy if you really need to drink milk...:p

[freezetheDB]

bro mseveninch,

my own personal opinion is you should not bring the cow home. Just find milk at the supermarkets like bro LcLc123 mentioned.

put yourself in your OC's shoes. If you are the one who cannot get it up, how would you feel if she brings home a guy companion to live under the same roof?

just my 2cents

[BiRd13]

TS,

Thought you posted somewhere before?
Anyway, agreed with bro Manfese_Widz... Go read your vows if you have forgot...

[ken_v2]

bro, you already late 40's and i guess your wife condition which happened during 5th year of your marriage is probably more than 10 years ago. ... already so long u can live in this arrangement, so just carry on this arrangement.

[waiwaiz]

how can u do such a cruel thing on a handicap..........juz eat out n wipe mouth clean b4 come back.. best u can even lie to her that u never steal eat.....lie juz to make her happy. She may not believe u, but thats at least what she wanna hear.......

[(o)(o) Tuner]

Hi TS, I understand every man has their needs. But if I were you, I will tell my wife that I didn't eat outside, just to make her feel good and happy. Though it's bad to tell lie, but still I think this is not a harmful lie.

[jacky43]

Remain as usualy never change anything, about 2 wives under same roof, well i might have heard of this in the 70s. This gen don't do it, neighbours will know and, probably people allready notice u are a good man.

Enjoy your fun outside, u are 1 man who OC give permission to bonk with other girls.

[jbauer79]

One house cannot have two lords.
Since she already given you permission, just get an FB.
I commend you for staying by your wife, but dun bring another women in even though she encourage you to.

[mseveninch]

Thanks for the comments.

First of all.......I think bro had misunderstood my message before commenting. Let me clear some points.

I and OC already married for the 27 years. The first 5 years is okay until she made an accident that make her wheelchair bounded for the rest of her life. 3 years on - she feel useless as she could not do anything - including the duty as a wife. The only thing that she had fulfilled - she given me a son before the accident which happened in Malaysia.

She had been suggesting and proposed to divorce so that I could move on instead. But not to me. I did not forget the wow I made. I had to take care of her instead of washing my hand off. All my family members & relatives on both side was in two minds than.

One suggested I divorce her and the other suggested I marry a second wife through court ( Legally ). I struck off both ideals and stay on till now. During all these years - I did not bring up or quarrel with OC over her physical incapability and her duties as a wife.

OC knows it very much that we could not lived on like any couple's out there normally due to her condition. These is when - she suggested and eek me to goes for a proper released which she could not give me. Initially - I was reluctant to do so. She give me the blessing. She is very braved and courageous to shared me with others.

Now, after 19 year - I am still with her and my age is catching up. Recently ( 3 months now ) - she had been mentioning about companionship to me. She had someone in mind. Is just that - I need to considered all the facts - families that involve. The relationship in later years - any possible complication might arise.

My term of a companionship is that -

1) Families acceptance.

2) She should stay in - under one roof.

3) She should not had married or attached to other man. Divorced or still single.

4) The candidate should comes from my OC. Not me!

5) Most important - she physically could help out and give ample care to my OC needs daily.

Bro commented & doubtful of my love to OC. Imagine that - if you are in my shoe. Could you withstand it all these years?

As I said - my age is catching up. Me too need someone to care for one day. Not only sexually but with other physical need too!

Right now - I'm still capable - I need to consider things for me.

If happen that my OC past on and no longer with me.......the women who had become my companion.......the progress would be new wife.

I hope you bro's here.......could give me some consideration of advise with these matter before commenting. Some of you may not share with me........it's fine with me.

[Auxil]

There are quite some complications involved as your situation is definitely unique.

- You have to consider how the family dynamics would be if another came to live in your house. How it would also affect your son.

- Your posts seems to be more on having care than having release. Are there any other avenues you can explore on getting of future old age care ?

- Your wife's point of view may also be of care, as age catches up, it becomes a concern for all. Your wife feels guilty and bad of not being able to assume the role and has to be taken care of herself. However if you do bring someone home to provide care as well as release and being understanding about the whole situation, sounds quite unlikely. Friction will occur, you would be placed in an even worse position.

- If your son is going to uni, there will be more financial commitments later on. Is your portfolio sturdy enough to handle it, considering also the living expenses of another if you do take 1 in.

You and your wife have an emotional attachment that comes from years of being together, nothing is going to replace that in a hurry. So when you seek release, you are reacting to a biological imperative, rather that fulfilling your emotional need. For that, you don't really need someone to be under the same roof. For a caretaker, of course it would be better if she was under the same roof. But to want more will probably make things messy.

It would be better to look at the care and release issues separately than to lump them together into a package.

[RealEstateGuy]

Brother, your wife loves you more than you love her based on her self-sacrafice to please you. If you have physical needs then take care of them wihtout hurting her. Come on brother, why must you bring it in to the home? Maybe one or two trips to a KTV every 6 months etc. but why so cruel to bring it into your home? This is one of the most selfish stories on this board in a long time.

[gilagila100]

There are quite some complications involved as your situation is definitely unique.

- You have to consider how the family dynamics would be if another came to live in your house. How it would also affect your son.

- Your posts seems to be more on having care than having release. Are there any other avenues you can explore on getting of future old age care ?

- Your wife's point of view may also be of care, as age catches up, it becomes a concern for all. Your wife feels guilty and bad of not being able to assume the role and has to be taken care of herself. However if you do bring someone home to provide care as well as release and being understanding about the whole situation, sounds quite unlikely. Friction will occur, you would be placed in an even worse position.

- If your son is going to uni, there will be more financial commitments later on. Is your portfolio sturdy enough to handle it, considering also the living expenses of another if you do take 1 in.

You and your wife have an emotional attachment that comes from years of being together, nothing is going to replace that in a hurry. So when you seek release, you are reacting to a biological imperative, rather that fulfilling your emotional need. For that, you don't really need someone to be under the same roof. For a caretaker, of course it would be better if she was under the same roof. But to want more will probably make things messy.

It would be better to look at the care and release issues separately than to lump them together into a package.

I would agree with bro Auxil, although your wife means well when she suggests that you get another companion but the complexities that come along with it can be tricky to handle.

If there are alternatives, please explore them first. :)

[ilovesingapore]

migrate to brunei (where polygamy is legal) or vietnam and get a simple-minded second wife to fulfil ur needs

[fendy]

Bro TS,

Bro, just my 2 drops thought, your llfelong companion still your OC, just hv occassional eating out, its only physical release.

if you get another companion, then you kill your chances to eat out.

[dgsk]

Bro TS

1st let me salute you for all that you have gone through. No one else can truly empathise with your situation.

There is 1 position where your wife lies on her side in an almost foetal position while you enter her kneeling. I don't know the term for this. But in this position, she would not open her legs. This may solve your problem.

Who is this person your wife has in mind? How is their relationship? Perhaps you should have this person come help look after your wife on a full time basis and slowly take it from there.

What all other bros here have mentioned are valid. If you choose the succumb to your wife's suggestion, I suggest an extended dry run of having this "companion" stay in and help look after your wife. During this time, you can scrutinise the "jie-mei" chemistry between them and how your son and other family members take to her. This process may easily be 6mths to 1year at least without your physical, mental and emotional needs being involved.

Hope this helps. Good Luck.

[Sirrus]

i dont thinks that right to bring a sex partner back home even if what has happen between you 2. she is wheel-chair bounded and that affects her legs, not her heart. end of the day dont keep pushing her and inch forward. u dont want her to feel sad right? even if she feel guilty that you have to take care of her and etc, u still should not have to bare the pain of u getting a
2nd wife under the same roof?

[owl888]

TS, i admire your loyalty to your wife. Since u already done this for 19 years why can't you continue it for the rest of your life. It takes 2 hands to clap another hand would not help, but best use the other hand to HJ u :D :D

TS got spare time go for cheong trip or CP for fun then i bet u will get sick of too much bonking ;) :D

[cqueen]

Err.. paiseh hor, Big Brother Sam always mention that "Advise" should be "Advice" in his many feedbacks.

As he duly corrected, "advise" is a verb, for eg, you advise someone to wear a cap for his own safety when bonking. Whether your "advice" is appreciated or not, is another issue.

Sorry for the disruption ha......

[alen_555]

Hi Bro,

First of all hats off to you and i really admire you as you TWO hve gone through for the last 19yrs. You two made that possible....you two love and cared each other to know each others thoughts and how to solve them.

Your wife seeing you all alone and understands your feelings and stress. and you understands her feelings as well. Thats wy you had been with her with all your love and feeling towards her. And she now even thinking about having a companion for you.

If she have found one that can fill the gap thats fine bro.....but later on you must bare in mind there will be gaps between you and your wife created by your companion. Even later at your old age your companion no matter how she knows your wife she take care more who?? you bro...then tats a point you need to think of your wife's situation.

I am not suggesting its not possible at all( leagal wise i dont know) their might be some person who can do, but you must be strong enough mentally to play along at that age with both of them.

I too suggest and agree with other bro's... eat outside if want to release stress. its not about three persons under one roof...its about three people and their family and your son and your future family.

[naturegreen]

I don't have much to comment after so many people have been doing it. Anyway think about staying together, it will be totally different. Just weigh the pros and cons yourself after all, when there is conflict, you are the one sandwiched in between. 1 woman at home is already hard for me to handle, so let's not say 2. ;)

[nitefyre]

Bro TS,

I watched on a documentary once about polygamy. It's a very interesting dynamic where the guy is shared among several ladies. The guy of course thinks he can be fair and equal to all wives, but I don't believe that is the reality. If you have >1 kid, you also must have a preference, or tend to protect one more than the other. Of course, you love both, but it's never truly equal.
So, the complication lies very much with the 2 women, who might think it's ok to start with, but might become jealous of the other over time. Besides, if your wife picks, how do you know she will be good companion for you?

As another bro had commented, i do believe your options are better with regular outside release, and getting a maid to tend to other domestic needs. Based on your requirements, wouldn't that fit the bill? After all ... the emotional commitment for that is way less compared to your suggestion. For everything else, i guess there is always TCSS with buddies no?

So perhaps there is something else that is not explained regarding this companionship arrangement?

[Wisetiger]

Dear TS,

I will be blunt in my comments.

From what you have described, your wife is your best companion in your life except sexual activities. I can feel the true love in your marriage which I really respect !

From your terms of companionship, are you actually looking for a "maid" whom you can also have an open sexual relationship ?

You have to get real and think through what is that, that you really wanted in your life. You are not short of love from your wife as she is showering you with unconditional love knowing the scarifices that you have made over the years in caring for her.

It may be better to remain status quo in your marriage and look for a "fuck buddy" instead.

At the end of the day, it is you who have to think carefully and make your own judgement and decide. Really, whatever you decide will affect those around you for better or worse. I guess it would be damn difficult to find a real companion that fit your terms.

Cheers!!!

[er0s47]

I guess its pretty hard for bros in here to understand the full picture of the problem, be it companionship or sexual needs as to be frank we are not in your shoes to comment.

The next best thing is do what u have to do with moderate and careful consideration taking into account you, wife and especially your son. It may or may not be easy for him to accept this kinda of arrangement.

[leaseoflife]

I am no expert, but frankly, I too think what the bros said here are valid. Forget about the part that you need a sexual release and let's just look at the issue of companionship. Even in this instance, I still don't think it is right. After all, the poor lady is already feeling down about herself and her inability to satisfy your needs. Bringing another female species into the house will only make it worse.

Companionship can come in many form. Granted that most of us have probably never encounter the circumstance that you are in (and I salute you for that), but perhaps, there are other means of companionship, aren't there? After all, there are many people out there whom are never married. So, I guess there should be a mean to rectify that.

Sorry, like I said, I am no expert and I am in no position to judge. You have to decide for yourself. Take care bro!

[jasdude]

lets reverse the roles around . if you are wheel chair bound and your wife is taking care of you . would you allow her to bring another man back. knowingly that he will screw your wife in the other room bro ?. i admire you for your devotion so far with your wife .

[J fellow]

All bros out there! Need your opinions cause I can't really decide with. I'm still considering my OC proposal to look for a companion who could take care of me both emotion and physical intimacy.

As I had mentioned before in some replies in SBF that my OC is wheelchair bounded for life thus she unable to care for me in any ways where as a wife should fulfill. I'm now in my late 40's and strong. My sexual needs still very strong - release at least 4 x week.

Although my OC had given her blessing & approval to me to eat out so that I had a proper released instead of depending on HJ and occasional BBBJ. Intercourse is out of the question - no way. These is due to her hips bone and both legs unable to open up ( split wide ) for the coital events. These had been going on since our 5th yr marriage. I love her very much and would not divorce her although she had suggested a number of times so that I could remarry for a better blissful life.

I had been taking care of her on every needs where as husband should do. That include sexual intimacy - where I could only relief her urge with my hand and painted her good to orgasm.

My job's do take me oversea from time to times ( both short & long period ). As a husband - I need to arrange someone to take care of her whenever I'm not around. I will seek temporary helper ( her god sister ) who live nearby. Of course - need to pay her. She is a housewife. In addition - my son also help out.

Lately - my OC had been observing me and felt that I should look for a companion since my aged is catching up. It's much easier to look for one while still capable as I still need it sexually. On the other hand - OC already come to a time where sexual needs is no longer important to her. She is now in early 50. She is older than me. I'm still young at heart....:D


Once a week - I will eat out. Of course my OC knows where I'm going. She just remind me to take care and ensure helmet is on!!

When I come home after the session outside - I will hug's and kiss OC. Her reaction - well...... feel better?... She asked & at the same time pat me and console me as I feeled guilty.....but I had my needs too!:o


Bro's all - what you think about having a companion? Is it advisable - I afraid of future complication in such relationship?


My ideal's of a companion is that she could live in with us under one roof.

Would like to hear from you bro's out there......tks.

i think ts is a great man. what vows here vows there. everyman no matter how chio his wife is will still eat out. at least he never ditch his wife.

think you stick to fast food can liao. if you got a companion, your wife may not show but she will definately feel very sad. woman dont like to share their man end of the day. physically bopian at least not emotionally.

[mseveninch]

First of all - thanks to everyone here for all the comments.......either constructive or otherwise. Thank you.

After reading you guys comments...which I share it with my OC - ( we read together ), we weight in some points of contention to considered the whole issue separately.

Last night - I can't put myself to sleep with these matter ringing in my mind. Had a hard though.

Well. you bro's here is right to point out the cons and pros of such relationship where things can be complicated in later years. The complexity of a companionship in our current society - unacceptable in any ways.

As discussed with OC these morning over breakfast - I can't accept her proposal towards such contention for a companionship. Her reaction - she cries and feel sad for me. I patted her and said - it's okay for me. After all - it's already 19 years and not to worried about me. Let's move on and drop the subject - I said.

After the breakfast - I and OC goes to the church to confessed.

Bro's all - thanks - my OC is everything's to me. We had grown up together since childhood until we get married to each other although she is senior ( 4 yrs older ). I had been loving her since our childhood days where she use to protect me!!!:D

It's faith that we had to walk these path together............and me to protect - love and care for her.

I hope these will give me the strength to journey on with her till..................we meet again in next life!

[sgiceboy]

one word for you bro.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T.

[suckmycock]

two thumbs up!

[bastardball]

Dear TS,

You must understand one thing, sometimes out of desperation, your love ones may propose something to you that will benefit you or just to make you feel happy....in a way to reward or compensate you for your love, care, kindness and effort after all these years. What she propose may be good for you and meant well from her, but she may not necessary enjoy this option. This could be the only option available from her out of desperation to make you happy. If the other way around and you are paralyzed, I'm sure you may say the same thing to your wife and ask her to remarry and don't waste her time on you. But deep down inside I'm very sure you hope she won't say that.

Think about it, which women would want to share their love ones and stay under a roof? It seems rather she just want to make you happy...don't let small head overrule your big head and take it as a green light to get a companion because she asks me to do so..its not so straightforward...sometimes when a women says go ahead, secretly inside they wish you would do the reverse and don't take up the option. Tell me logically, looking straight into her eyes and say to her that after 19 years you have already been living in this manner with her, you are very happy with the arrangement and there is no need for companionship. I can assure you tears will swell up in her eyes as compared to jumping onboard to agree that you should get a companion.

Whether it is her idea, its not the point. You as the hubby should know better what your wife wants. You need someone to care for you and here when you are old...there are many options available....maid, health care assistants etc....there is no need to use a live-in companion as a veil for sex and caring purposes.

I am glad to hear that you made the right decision at the end of the day. Both of you truly deserve each other...this is the power of love.

[mseveninch]

Dear TS,

You must understand one thing, sometimes out of desperation, your love ones may propose something to you that will benefit you or just to make you feel happy....in a way to reward or compensate you for your love, care, kindness and effort after all these years. What she propose may be good for you and meant well from her, but she may not necessary enjoy this option. This could be the only option available from her out of desperation to make you happy. If the other way around and you are paralyzed, I'm sure you may say the same thing to your wife and ask her to remarry and don't waste her time on you. But deep down inside I'm very sure you hope she won't say that.

Think about it, which women would want to share their love ones and stay under a roof? It seems rather she just want to make you happy...don't let small head overrule your big head and take it as a green light to get a companion because she asks me to do so..its not so straightforward...sometimes when a women says go ahead, secretly inside they wish you would do the reverse and don't take up the option. Tell me logically, looking straight into her eyes and say to her that after 19 years you have already been living in this manner with her, you are very happy with the arrangement and there is no need for companionship. I can assure you tears will swell up in her eyes as compared to jumping onboard to agree that you should get a companion.

Whether it is her idea, its not the point. You as the hubby should know better what your wife wants. You need someone to care for you and here when you are old...there are many options available....maid, health care assistants etc....there is no need to use a live-in companion as a veil for sex and caring purposes.

I am glad to hear that you made the right decision at the end of the day. Both of you truly deserve each other...this is the power of love.

Hi bro's..........thanks. Already 19 yrs in the making............I journey on.

[hotrod10]

Hi TS, just want to share with you that I had a very similar "Indecent Proposal" made to me as well, albeit not from my wife but my ex-girl friend.
We were together for about 12-13 years. The relationship finally took its
toll on her and she called it quits and I was "alone again naturally" but not
for very long. Now I have another regular girl friend who appreciates me
for what / who I am and we don't have the religious issues.

My circumstances are a little different from yours though.

It was strictly for religious reasons, I'm still a married man although
my wife was vegetative, has been for many years then and more
than 20 years now . . . . It was taboo for her to have a sexual relationship
with a married man.

I met her thru work and she's a widow, lost her husband 2 years earlier,
when we met.

It was a no sex (intercourse) relationship for the 1st 6-7 months altho
there was alot of heavy petting and I was "allowed" to rub my hardon
outside her pussy until she climaxed but was not allowed to penetrate.
I loved her and was desperate to make the relationship work so was able to respect her request. For me, a cuddle on the sofa infront of the TV
with someone you love is better than having sex without emotional ties.

This went on for, like I said, 6-7 months and maybe she was guilty about having me satisfy her and not her wanting to satisfy my desires that
she came up with this proposal. She offered and did hand jobs for me but I was not very keen on those or rather I wanted more than that and may end up feeling more fraustrated if I cannot go further.
She wanted me as a boyfriend / partner / soulmate but was not willing to let me have intercourse with her, for religious reasons. Told me to get another girl for my sexual needs but to keep all my emotions for her.

Of cos, I couldn't agree as I cannot imagine finding a girl willing to have that kind of relationship, sex without having emotional ties with a maried man who also have another girl friend. But all that was before I was introduced to this
forum. But I still think she was asking for the impossible.

I persisted and finally we agreed to have intercourse only on special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries and whatnots. Initially we'll go
to Sentosa or JB and stay over for a nite just to do the deed.
After 2-3 years of that arrangement, she finally relented and we did it
regularly, if once or twice a month can be called regular, in her house.
She lives with a child, about 8-9 years old when we met, and a domestic helper.

And yes, I was very faithful to her, not visiting pros or massage parlours
for extras . . . I frequent massage parlours for it before I met her
and also had a FB for about 2 years from one of these places.
FB meaning, strictly meet to mate only, occasionally including meals
and sometimes drinks at clubs or pubs. I got tired of having to avoid being seen with her and she got tired of the arrangement as well and we finally
went our ways.

Now, coming back to your question, I don't think it will work to have a FB
under the same roof. Girls will be girls and it will not last even if it works
initially with your wife's blessings.

Why do I say that ?
Well after I resisted the idea and many moons after winning her over, I asked my girl friend and she agreed that it was really a bad idea, asking me to get another girl friend just for sexual pleasure as she realise that she will not be able to accept me / respect me if I had agreed to her proposal.

My take on your situation, continue to love and care for your wife and if you have to, I sure you do, do it outside wheather paid sex if you're into it or have a PTL.

I still love and care for my wife for she's the mother of my 2 lovely children and I promised to love and take care of her when I made her my wife.

ps - I told both of them my situation from the start and they were intoduced to my family and friends and they were never asked to stay over at my house, as a form of respect to my wife and children.

[Alf1977]

Yes when the girls give you the green lights to go outside to fool around, she don't mean it.. In fact just testing your love for her..

If you go ahead n fuvk other girls other than her, than be prepared to break her heart n end up in divorce/break-up, or a total lost in trust!

But if you tell her she crazy, and you will only love her n mate her alone in your life time..(of course u hv to keep your promise to that n not go fuvk other girls!) Then she sure will be very touched, for you passed through her test.. But as most guys are fuvkers, most r going to
fail the test n happily think their women so
good to let them fuvk outside openly...

[xiaomidnightz]

Bro, If I was in your shoes, I would continue to love my wife. Never leave her no matter what.

Try to put yourself in her shoes. Imaging you were unable to help her satisfy her needs. Would you allow her to get another guy to live with you n fuck her with your knowledge?? I believe you would suggest it. But think for her feelings. She really cared about you. She really wants the best for you.

When it really happens, what do you think she will feel?? She is willing to share you with another girl. No matter how willing she is, she will still feel hurt. If you really love her that much, I believe you would not agree.

I guess, it would be best to:
1) Eat outside once or twice a week. (Try to endure as though it was army again.)
2) or find a no-strings-attached fuck buddy.
3) find prostitutes.

As long as your feelings are still with her, i think she would not mind. :)

[bigangry]

If you really love her, get the idea of a companion out your and her mind.

A marriage vow is forever, yes she is wheel chair bounded and given you her permission. But she is already hurt physically, do you want to hurt her emotionally when she know you are in a sexual relation with another woman?

she may sound ok, but believe me she IS NOT.

So go for your weekly HJ or BJ to relieve your physical needs. Just don't get yourself a new companion. IT WILL DEFINITELY HURT HER MORE

[mseveninch]

To all bro's out there!

First of all, I would like to thanks you guys for all the message and comments.

I and OC had been continued reading all the message here and felt very sad and happy.

She feel happy because some bro's here understand it. She felt sad because I had a piece of lectured from you guy's and thought that I will leave & dump her for a companion relationship.

At these moment in times - my OC and me had dropped these issue - once and for all. As we knows - we are mean for each other. No matter what - I will move on with my wife.

As for my own need - as you guys had said - eat out!!!!!!!!!:D

[bigangry]

Sorry for my outburst, I didnt get to read your conclusion.

I am glad that you and your wife came to a good conclusion.

I wish you two will cherish each other for the rest of your lives as not all of us can find true love. :)

[Alf1977]

If a guy marry a girl and still want to fuvk outside (be it FT,FL,FB,slut,whore,locally or overseas), what is the point in making the marriage vows n marry her??


If u cannot love her wholeheartedly, better don't marry her n fuck outside..


I guess any guy should fuck to his heart contents, go for all sorts of STD/HIV tests before marrying that girl to be your wife.

I despise guys who still fuvk other women, when he is married.. Then why marry your wife in the first place?

[ayumifuse]

I had been a member here for 2 yrs+. I've read countless stories bt seriously i tink ts's story is really very touching n thus i feel a need to post to give ts my encouragement as well as thumbs up for u n ur wife for ur decisions. I really salute u for ur love towards ur wife as its nt smth i believe everyone can do. Esp the part which u said throughout ur marriage u nv did once commented or criticised her on her handicap. I believe many guys including me when we are angry, frustrated or stressed sometimes we will say things tat we didnt mean it therefore again good job done there. With this i end my very first post n tink of the bright side(pls don flame me fellow bros here for saying this). At least u get to bonk different girls every nw n den WITH PERMISSION.

Cheers n all the best to u n ur wife ts!

[Alf1977]

If TS did not "eat outside" ever since his wife met with accident.. I would really 100% salute him.. But I just can't understand why he has to eat outside like once a week... Even with wife's permission, won't he feel guilty?

But on the other hand, I m touched that TS did not leave his wife after she met with accident n wheel bound for life, yet took care of her despite discourage from relatives.. This point shows TS really love his wife n carry out the promise that he said in the marriage vows; he will care for each other no matter sick (something like that), I believe n feel it takes great effort n heart for him to stay on n continue caring n loving his wife.

Maybe you should find some hobbies N activities which both of you can engage together.. Spend time with her as well as to keep yr sexual desire off bay..

Although I feel the wife thinks she is not able to sextisfy TS, so ask him to go find a companion n even wanted to divorce him.. N TS really go fuvk other girls.. I don't think the wife can be happy about it coz it's afterall betrayal..

Imagine u r the wheel bound hubby, u ask yr wife to go mate with other men.. N after every session she bedded another guy, felt sextisfied n she slept besides you.. Will u as a man feel happy that your own wife being fucked by another guy? A handicapped person is a human being afterall, how can he/she take it when his/her partner betrayed them..

If yr wife treat having sex as a form of exercise like running which she cAn't accompany u to do, then I have nothing to say.. But sex is totally different from running.. N I really don't think yr wife can accept the fact that you fuck other girls because she is handicapped.


But if u have been selfish n irresponsible enough, u would have left your wife long long time ago..

End of the day, it's quite a complicated situation.. But luckily she bore you a child, at least your patents won't nag you find another girl...

Wish you n your wife a blissful life ahead... Try not to eat out so often, or try being vegetarian... It may just work n no guilt involved!

[win13win]

my dad go through the similar situation 17 year ago. (my mum pass away 10 year already)

What my dad did is having a dry run like what some bro advice. My dad at 1st just intro her (I call her aunty untill now) to us as someone helping him to take care of my mum, so she will come over to my house most of the days but will not stay over night. Aunty will cook for us, even help me wash my cloths and clean up the house, treat us very nice. As time pass, my whole family get use to her and slowly accept her as part of our family.

I admit that back then, since i am still young, is hard for me to accept having my dad with another lady, it slowly create the hate bit by bit as days go by. I start to have the feeling that my dad is very selfish and ignore my mum feeling. Untill one day, my mum sense it, she then told me to treat my dad better and must always listen to him. Mum even say that she really feel happiler since she know that there will be someone taking care of the whole family when she not there. Mum told me from her bottom of her heart that she really want dad to have a better and normal life since dad have already done what he best can do over the years. After the heart opening talk with my Mum, the world seem to change, i start to feel the care and love that aunty give me, even until now aunty still treat everyone in the family very nice.

Hope my story help you bro .... ofcause the "Companion" that you find MUST be able to get along well with everyone... if not more problem will arise.

[bigangry]

my dad go through the similar situation 17 year ago. (my mum pass away 10 year already)

What my dad did is having a dry run like what some bro advice. My dad at 1st just intro her (I call her aunty untill now) to us as someone helping him to take care of my mum, so she will come over to my house most of the days but will not stay over night. Aunty will cook for us, even help me wash my cloths and clean up the house, treat us very nice. As time pass, my whole family get use to her and slowly accept her as part of our family.

I admit that back then, since i am still young, is hard for me to accept having my dad with another lady, it slowly create the hate bit by bit as days go by. I start to have the feeling that my dad is very selfish and ignore my mum feeling. Untill one day, my mum sense it, she then told me to treat my dad better and must always listen to him. Mum even say that she really feel happiler since she know that there will be someone taking care of the whole family when she not there. Mum told me from her bottom of her heart that she really want dad to have a better and normal life since dad have already done what he best can do over the years. After the heart opening talk with my Mum, the world seem to change, i start to feel the care and love that aunty give me, even until now aunty still treat everyone in the family very nice.

Hope my story help you bro .... ofcause the "Companion" that you find MUST be able to get along well with everyone... if not more problem will arise.

you have a big heart, I dont know if I can be as accepting as you.

[mseveninch]

my dad go through the similar situation 17 year ago. (my mum pass away 10 year already)

What my dad did is having a dry run like what some bro advice. My dad at 1st just intro her (I call her aunty untill now) to us as someone helping him to take care of my mum, so she will come over to my house most of the days but will not stay over night. Aunty will cook for us, even help me wash my cloths and clean up the house, treat us very nice. As time pass, my whole family get use to her and slowly accept her as part of our family.

I admit that back then, since i am still young, is hard for me to accept having my dad with another lady, it slowly create the hate bit by bit as days go by. I start to have the feeling that my dad is very selfish and ignore my mum feeling. Untill one day, my mum sense it, she then told me to treat my dad better and must always listen to him. Mum even say that she really feel happiler since she know that there will be someone taking care of the whole family when she not there. Mum told me from her bottom of her heart that she really want dad to have a better and normal life since dad have already done what he best can do over the years. After the heart opening talk with my Mum, the world seem to change, i start to feel the care and love that aunty give me, even until now aunty still treat everyone in the family very nice.

Hope my story help you bro .... ofcause the "Companion" that you find MUST be able to get along well with everyone... if not more problem will arise.

Thanks for sharing with me. I understand how your DAD had went thru. It's not easy for him as I'm experiencing it now for the past 19 years and many more years to come.


What your DAD and you went thru - is true and bounced to happened - both positive and negative side in life there on in a family.

It's very difficult to judge a person - it takes time. That means - life is a gamble and risk taking.

As for me - I had decided not to accept my wife proposal for a companion. My decision is finale and remain as it is.

I endured for the past 19 years - so be it. I belong to my wife and remains as her properties.

I am now arranging for her to be with me in HongKong as I will be post there for the next 2 years - starting from Jan 2011. There - we will have our daily honeymoon. Of course it will cost me heavily in terms of financial support. It's worthwhile to me. I can't bared to leave her behind while I'm away to perform my duties.

Bro's - let these issue come to rest & closure. Thank you guys all!

Wishing you guys - Merry Christmas & Happy New Years!!!:)

[xiaomidnightz]

Have fun and enjoy! Merry Christmas too. :)

[Bangster]

I learned the true meaning of a marriage from you, TS.

I salute you.