Wife don't like sex

[Ah Goo]

Any bro has this experience?

I wanted to stop the FL activities. But wife don't like to have sex. Don't even let me touch.

Have to find somewhere to release, so got to find other girls.

[jasdude]

Any bro has this experience?

I wanted to stop the FL activities. But wife don't like to have sex. Don't even let me touch.

Have to find somewhere to release, so got to find other girls.

huh? even before marriage ? then why get married ? stop FL activities but want to find other gals . so now looking for FBs huh ? don't beat around the bush la .

[bfreemen]

Any bro has this experience?

I wanted to stop the FL activities. But wife don't like to have sex. Don't even let me touch.

Have to find somewhere to release, so got to find other girls.

dont want FL , wife dont give ? how ? cut it off !!!!

[alvin36]

Any bro has this experience?

I wanted to stop the FL activities. But wife don't like to have sex. Don't even let me touch.

Have to find somewhere to release, so got to find other girls.

you never "test drive" before marriage ?
I always believe thet sex is important to a good love life. Need to enjoy good sex or even stay together before marriage.

[bfreemen]

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/25073096/ns/today-relationships/

watch this

[cwkfxjp]

Any bro has this experience?

I wanted to stop the FL activities. But wife don't like to have sex. Don't even let me touch.

Have to find somewhere to release, so got to find other girls.

I told my wife... if she is not keen, I will find alternatives. She shocked...

[MoralEpitome]

I told my wife... if she is not keen, I will find alternatives. She shocked...

yup i told my wife and she agreed to let me keep a mistress for sex...

[alan0338]

TS, are u trying to find a reason to justify urself from kio kuay? :confused: :D

[p00t]

Try telling the chicken rice stall hawker "if you are not selling me chicken rice, I will have to eat at another stall". It would ridiculous for the hawker to be shocked unless not from this part of the galaxy.

I told my wife... if she is not keen, I will find alternatives. She shocked...

[Ah Goo]

you never "test drive" before marriage ?
I always believe thet sex is important to a good love life. Need to enjoy good sex or even stay together before marriage.

Got test test before marriage.

After married for a year, seems like everything also cannot.

[Ah Goo]

yup i told my wife and she agreed to let me keep a mistress for sex...

Bro, your wife so generous! Should I try that too..

[Ah Goo]

TS, are u trying to find a reason to justify urself from kio kuay? :confused: :D

Good question! I actually never thought from this angle before.

Thanks for the enlightenment!

[naturegreen]

yup i told my wife and she agreed to let me keep a mistress for sex...

Wa your wife good leh :p

[chriz44]

I told my wife... if she is not keen, I will find alternatives. She shocked...

I salute you bro.... You got balls!

[jasdude]

Give her Germany Sex Drops (http://www.her-libido.com). She will be begging for Sex in 5 mins!! And she will be coming and coming fast and continuously!! Make sure you can handle her after that :) I tried that Germany sex drops before.. wonderful is the word!!

hmmmmmm perfect present for valentines day then for T.S wife !

[techiedick]

Any bro has this experience?

I wanted to stop the FL activities. But wife don't like to have sex. Don't even let me touch.

Have to find somewhere to release, so got to find other girls.

mind if i ask u a tough question?

your wife outside got kio ah (ducks) bo?

I am not surprise if she is eating duck meat outside. I am not surprised, i have seen marriages gone kaput when the wives eat outside, many guys dun mind salvage the marriage but the wives wants to continue to fuck around. Most women are after all one dimensional in their love, one person or none.

The Women Charter protects them more so they dun mind been careless, if they eat out and get caught they dun have to pay alimony. But the guys get caught, sorry lor.

[p00t]

it is possible that she has doubts abt the r/s. this might be the beginning of the end.

Any bro has this experience?

I wanted to stop the FL activities. But wife don't like to have sex. Don't even let me touch.

Have to find somewhere to release, so got to find other girls.

[Hawkee]

How about having a wife like this Turkish woman? What will you do then?


http://news.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/World/Story/A1Story20110129-261031.html

Turkish man seeks protection from sex-mad wife

Sat, Jan 29, 2011
The Korea Herald/Asia News Network

A desperate Turkish man has turned to police for protection against his wife who constantly demanded sex. The weary man claims he had been sleeping on his sofa for the past four years in an attempt to avoid his wife who has an insatiable appetite for sex.
According to the AFP, the exhausted husband went to police for help on Tuesday and plans to file for divorce with his wife of 18 years and mother of their two children.
According to the AFP on Wednesday, the local police said in a statement:

"Now he has decided to get a divorce and to move out ... in the hope of finally getting some rest, particularly as he is anxious to arrive at work well rested.
"At the moment this is impossible because he says his wife keeps coming into the living room demanding that he perform his marital duties. He asked for police help in getting some sleep at night." -The Korea Herald/Asia News Network.

[MoralEpitome]

Bro, your wife so generous! Should I try that too..

Wa your wife good leh :p

But I think she say say only...if she knows how much money I been spending on ktv and singers, think she will totally flip and lock me up with a chain!

anyway keep all your money in a secret account in case your wife tries to divorce you and take your assets

[vfv_slr]

Sat, Jan 29, 2011
The Korea Herald/Asia News Network

with his wife of 18 years and mother of their two
"Now he has decided to get a divorce and to move out ... in the hope of finally getting some rest, particularly as he is anxious to arrive at work well rested.
"At the moment this is impossible because he says his wife keeps coming into the living room demanding that he perform his marital duties. He asked for police help in getting some sleep at night." -The Korea Herald/Asia News Network.[/QUOTE]

Just So many of us would wish our wives is like her! But here we got for those with kids are not interested anymore or just barely feed u enough not to go packet!

[bryanyan]

Wa your wife good leh :p

Really gd wife:)

[xxxcaliber]

How about having a wife like this Turkish woman? What will you do then?


http://news.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/World/Story/A1Story20110129-261031.html

Turkish man seeks protection from sex-mad wife

Sat, Jan 29, 2011
The Korea Herald/Asia News Network

A desperate Turkish man has turned to police for protection against his wife who constantly demanded sex. The weary man claims he had been sleeping on his sofa for the past four years in an attempt to avoid his wife who has an insatiable appetite for sex.
According to the AFP, the exhausted husband went to police for help on Tuesday and plans to file for divorce with his wife of 18 years and mother of their two children.
According to the AFP on Wednesday, the local police said in a statement:

"Now he has decided to get a divorce and to move out ... in the hope of finally getting some rest, particularly as he is anxious to arrive at work well rested.
"At the moment this is impossible because he says his wife keeps coming into the living room demanding that he perform his marital duties. He asked for police help in getting some sleep at night." -The Korea Herald/Asia News Network.

LOL got wife like that also complain

[Ah Goo]

mind if i ask u a tough question?

your wife outside got kio ah (ducks) bo?

I am not surprise if she is eating duck meat outside. I am not surprised, i have seen marriages gone kaput when the wives eat outside, many guys dun mind salvage the marriage but the wives wants to continue to fuck around. Most women are after all one dimensional in their love, one person or none.

The Women Charter protects them more so they dun mind been careless, if they eat out and get caught they dun have to pay alimony. But the guys get caught, sorry lor.

I never suspected that. I don't think cos most of her time, she's at home.

[Taisho75]

Got test test before marriage.

After married for a year, seems like everything also cannot.

I am not sure how you perform in bed, but there is a possibility that she dun enjoy her sex session with you. Or maybe she dun want a baby as she worry about losing her figure after birth should she get pregnant after having sex.

The best is to talk to her and find out why. Get to know what turn her on and what you do wrongly in bed. It's better that way. No point asking about it here.

[HCKing]

wat to do, most girls dont see the importance of sex in a healthy marriage. so bo bian no home cooked food have to tabao outside.:D

[beetlebum]

LOL got wife like that also complain

Wife like that i sure complain....

Force feeding abalone everyday also puke!
Some times i like fresh oysters, some times i prefer baked oysters...
Then will feel abalone more tasty mah...

:D

[blk437]

I am having the same problem as TS. I had not have any physical contact and sex with my wife for 1 year and 3 months. I have been D.I.Y all the way till now and do not have the courage to eat out.

I have quarrel with my wife many times regarding this issue and everytime she kept silent. I never suspect she is eating duck meat or anything because she is always busy with 2 kids and work.

And also sharing this problem with bros here doesn't mean i need extra justification to eat out. I am sure there are more couples experiencing sexless marriage with some unknown reason.

Those with the same problem or had experienced on this issue can share with us your valuable opinions?

:(

[Wreckage69]

I am having the same problem as TS. I had not have any physical contact and sex with my wife for 1 year and 3 months. I have been D.I.Y all the way till now and do not have the courage to eat out.

I have quarrel with my wife many times regarding this issue and everytime she kept silent. I never suspect she is eating duck meat or anything because she is always busy with 2 kids and work.

And also sharing this problem with bros here doesn't mean i need extra justification to eat out. I am sure there are more couples experiencing sexless marriage with some unknown reason.

Those with the same problem or had experienced on this issue can share with us your valuable opinions?

:(

same as me.... as the reason she give me is totally no desire to have sex.. me bo pian lan lan see porn and find my lady finger to do the job.... btw, anyone here know where can get the germany fly????

[Humanity]

I think a marriage counsellor wld be of some help to bros who have wife whereby she has low sex drive or simply uninterested in sex. I won't rule out the chances of her eating out so it's better to get some professional assistance before it's too late.

[Baileys]

Bro maybe ur wife still not open up for sex yet. My wife when she was younger also not into it. She will do it if I tell her I need to relieve but after she turn thirty-five and given birth to our son then things started to change. She can get horny easily and will initiate to have sex with me and doing things that I can only dream abt previously. So bro don't give up continue trying. The day will come.

[HCKing]

I have quarrel with my wife many times regarding this issue and everytime she kept silent. I never suspect she is eating duck meat or anything because she is always busy with 2 kids and work.


it could be becos she is afraid of ending up with a 3rd kid.

[ah rat]

Bro maybe ur wife still not open up for sex yet. My wife when she was younger also not into it. She will do it if I tell her I need to relieve but after she turn thirty-five and given birth to our son then things started to change. She can get horny easily and will initiate to have sex with me and doing things that I can only dream abt previously. So bro don't give up continue trying. The day will come.


It true when women reach the age of thirty,they indeed horny.
TS, how old his yours wife :D

[Tripster]

TS, this situation if allowed t carry on will result in a separation. Marriage is abt love and companionship. A loveless marriage never lasts. I do hear of marriages with little or no sex except for the time of procreation.

But when there is lovelessness, it usually ends with a separation. If sexless, I think it is also loveless. The result is quite clear. If the issue is not sorted out, prepare for the inevitable.

Suggest counselling or a therapist.

peace :o

[blk437]

Bro maybe ur wife still not open up for sex yet. My wife when she was younger also not into it. She will do it if I tell her I need to relieve but after she turn thirty-five and given birth to our son then things started to change. She can get horny easily and will initiate to have sex with me and doing things that I can only dream abt previously. So bro don't give up continue trying. The day will come.

Haha Baileys, my wife is the opposite. She is active with me when she was in her 20plus but after marriage and given birth to 2 little boy she afraid of sex. Maybe just like what Bro HCKing said, afraid of the 3rd one coming out. :cool:

Glad to see so many bros respond because i scare its something unusual. :o:o

[bispak]

when i 1st got married we were humping 2 to 3 times a week, then it became once a week then once a month.
i started to make noise but she juz brushed it off.
feeling frustrated i went to release steam on FL
after that i felt dam guilty coz i love my wife.
but everytime i feel horny the guilt disappears and i end up with another FL

FL only releases stress. but the guilt is irreversible.

[Baileys]

Haha Baileys, my wife is the opposite. She is active with me when she was in her 20plus but after marriage and given birth to 2 little boy she afraid of sex. Maybe just like what Bro HCKing said, afraid of the 3rd one coming out. :cool:

Glad to see so many bros respond because i scare its something unusual. :o:o

Sorry bro seems like this theory will only apply to my wife....

[cookieman]

Have you ask her to have mutual masturbation with you?
have you ask her why she don't like it?

[bombshell]

when i 1st got married we were humping 2 to 3 times a week, then it became once a week then once a month.
i started to make noise but she juz brushed it off.
feeling frustrated i went to release steam on FL
after that i felt dam guilty coz i love my wife.
but everytime i feel horny the guilt disappears and i end up with another FL

FL only releases stress. but the guilt is irreversible.

Think a lot of ppl also face this problem bah..me one of them.:o

[chowchowkeith]

Bro, this should be a universal problem for singapore guys.

Before marriage = great sex
After marriage = occassional sex based on reward...

[tanhockgin]

I have the same problem.
Wife is older and doesnt like sex. I do it once in 3-6 months.

I eat out often. I tried marriage counselling cos I didnt want to fuck around outside. Worked a while then back to square one.

Few things have happened since
1) Had a fuck buddy for about 2 yrs

2) Many FL and massages.

3) I even experience transferrence. Experimented bisexualism.

I cant talk to my wife cos we are at very different wavelength. I stay w her becos of kids. Sigh!

[blk437]

Bro Tanhockgin, my situation quite similar coz my wife also older than me. I have HSD and she got LSD. Haiz no courage to stray because i want to face my 2 son guilt free and of coz love my wife as much as ever.

Suck Thumb. :p

[MaoSanWang]

Women more horny after age 30? Don't have leh...
My wf in 30's quite few yrs already.
I got turn down so many times, I stop asking...sign
No sex for more than a Yr... I aslo stop counting how long already...LOL. :D

Bros, there is a reason why prostitution is the oldest trade in the world.

Men has basic needs.
Either you rape, batter, take out ur deprived hunger on ur wf,
or release with FL, keep ur sanity and go home a loving husband.
(well, at least this is what I tell myself when I'm having fun) :p

[cookieman]

I see a lot of bros suffering in this thread cos, wife never feed them. :(

[geckoSG]

Sometimes, women are plain too tired out to think of sex. Or you bored them.
Most housewives that I had fling with, their life is such a bored, hubby only
say want sex, open leg, poke, shoot and sleep.

Women doesn't want that! They want foreplay and everything... Try talk to
her. U can sense if she is bored with current life...

Spice up things a bit and sex life will return... If not, she might know what
you are doing and does not want to have sex with U if you have been makan
outside...

My 2 cents worth. Hope this helps. :cool:

[Me Siam Bu]

agree wif all bro. dont gv up ya

[84gunner]

too bad u guys are in SG, and married SG women.

If u married regional women, their culture is, sex to husband is their wifely duty. Maybe sometimes they really not feeling well, or really tired, then let them rest / have their way lah. Or, go find FL / WL, not really big problem either.

But in SG, esp SG women study too much, knows too much about the Law, and no shame of taking legal actions on their husbands on their marital woes / disputes. SG women are too spoilt and selfish, they dowan / not willing to please their men, they also dun allow their men to eat, simply want their men to starve and they don't care, don't give a damn.

For regional women, u can even ask their Mums, is that how they teach their daughters? That will really bring shame and disgrace to the woman and her mum!

[ahbunana]

pcc infront of ur wife
she sure bei tahan and rape u want!

[Pilot Preceda]

too bad u guys are in SG, and married SG women.

If u married regional women, their culture is, sex to husband is their wifely duty. Maybe sometimes they really not feeling well, or really tired, then let them rest / have their way lah. Or, go find FL / WL, not really big problem either.

But in SG, esp SG women study too much, knows too much about the Law, and no shame of taking legal actions on their husbands on their marital woes / disputes. SG women are too spoilt and selfish, they dowan / not willing to please their men, they also dun allow their men to eat, simply want their men to starve and they don't care, don't give a damn.

For regional women, u can even ask their Mums, is that how they teach their daughters? That will really bring shame and disgrace to the woman and her mum!

Very agree with this...!!!

[poorman4sex]

too bad u guys are in SG, and married SG women.



Not true... my wife is Malaysian also no like sex..
That happens after the second kid.

Dun say she eat outside
Dun say no test before marriage
Because the above accusations are not true.

I had a FB with 2 kids also... fuck like rabbits...
so different women different story

[cwkfxjp]

A friend of mine now divorce his wife. She did not agree to sex for 5 years, refused counselling. Idiot woman who are too highly educated and selfish.

My wife similar problem. So I suggested counselling. Avoid. Until I told her, YOU HAVE TO READY FOR FAMILY BREAKUP.

She went reluctantly. Alas, the counsellor is a load of bullshit. My advice is DO NOT GO FOR THE FAMILY CENTRES. THEY ARE INEXPERIENCED AND GIVE U 1 session 4-5 weeks only. Hopeless. The one at Hong Lim Complex are more experienced, they even train counsellors.

After this, i told my wife... you ready for me to find outside fun? She shocked and eyes lit up... Now no more decline... but still far from enjoying...

As for my friend, he found a girlfriend who had voracious appetite for ML...
And care for her even when he is sick. Get ready to commit his life with her. Coincidentally, this girl is NOT Singaporean.

TS, this situation if allowed t carry on will result in a separation. Marriage is abt love and companionship. A loveless marriage never lasts. I do hear of marriages with little or no sex except for the time of procreation.

But when there is lovelessness, it usually ends with a separation. If sexless, I think it is also loveless. The result is quite clear. If the issue is not sorted out, prepare for the inevitable.

Suggest counselling or a therapist.

peace :o

[VanGogh]

SG women are too spoilt and selfish, they dowan / not willing to please their men, they also dun allow their men to eat, simply want their men to starve and they don't care, don't give a damn.



This is the sentence that is so true Bro Gunner, most SG women are all too selfish, they'll just starve their men....

Bros who have a wife that enjoy sex, you are the lucky ones :D

[Ah Goo]

I am having the same problem as TS. I had not have any physical contact and sex with my wife for 1 year and 3 months. I have been D.I.Y all the way till now and do not have the courage to eat out.

I have quarrel with my wife many times regarding this issue and everytime she kept silent. I never suspect she is eating duck meat or anything because she is always busy with 2 kids and work.

And also sharing this problem with bros here doesn't mean i need extra justification to eat out. I am sure there are more couples experiencing sexless marriage with some unknown reason.

Those with the same problem or had experienced on this issue can share with us your valuable opinions?

:(
Finally a brother understood me.

If want to eat out, can eat out even in a good marriage.
Some girls just don't think that sex is necessary.

[EyeLevel]

TS n other bros,

Let's not start bashing our local SG women. Not all of them are like that.
IMHO, this phenomenon of woman refusing intimacy is worldwide... Or more specifically happening to women from well develop n educated countries.

It really boils down to the priorities in life and how each person deals with it.
Eg,
1) lady is married for 4 years. Intimacy was great. But suddenly she's not
Not intimate anymore n not interested in having kids. Reason? She started comparin herself with her peers n thinks they are all more successful than her.
She wants to have a successful Career too.
Anyway, she went as far as lost feeling for hubby n estranged.
Priority shifted from family to career.

2) lady has a good job. Good pay. Hubby mentions want to start a family.
She quits her job. Gets pregnant and stay home to focus on the household.
Her priority has alway been family.

So I guess let's stay on track about how to get our wives to like sex and how to deal with continual refusal then to start bashing the lady-folks. :)
No disrespect to bros views or trying to pick a fight.
Just tryin to steer the focus back to topic.

My 2cts
Cheers!

[lee2001sg]

It true when women reach the age of thirty,they indeed horny.
TS, how old his yours wife :D

True? My wife going downhills since 30s, now going 40s still no better.:p

[Garland]

Local highly educated wife more clever than us.

[chriz44]

No offense to anyone but i'm glad i'm not alone with this problem.

A sexless marriage. Its been abt 6mths already & i often DIY then 1 day i asked myself WTF is happening....this is not the way i want to live my life so if my wife doesnt care then i find my own way...

I started FL recently. Its not the best solution but each person has to find his own way to deal with his situation.

I have talked to my wife abt this twice before but no lasting solution. Somethings in life are just the way it is... Learn to face it, manage it & find the best possible solution. There's no right or wrong here...so i stopped feeling guilty abt FL.

[NRider]

If your house do not "cook" for you = then "eat out" but dun da pao.
IF YOU already "eaten out" and your house has cooked for you = just eat a little bit, you dun loose anything but gain something !!

My 2 cents Bros :)

[frivolous_ami]

I never suspected that. I don't think cos most of her time, she's at home.

I am tempted to ask. How sure are you? People change and it can be difficult to find out.

My kakia is a good loving hubby. Makes 5 figure a month and pays for everything in th house. For 10 yrs of marriage, never bonked wife more than 10 times. Both sleep separate rooms now.

Its really frustrating as my pal would put it. This also means prob time for heart to heart talk too. If really cant work out, divorce has to be an option too. Good luck man

[frivolous_ami]

I cant talk to my wife cos we are at very different wavelength. I stay w her becos of kids. Sigh!

Marriage sounds scary siah... O_O

Though i nt married, i can feel for you married folks. Life is harsh. Buay song still must soldier on and bring the dough to feed the family. You folks earn my respect and admiration!

[Rickey]

Marriage sounds scary siah... O_O

Though i nt married, i can feel for you married folks. Life is harsh. Buay song still must soldier on and bring the dough to feed the family. You folks earn my respect and admiration!
Yah..it is scary bro...but dun be too frightened...many of us din know tis when we first entered into it...but tis a fact of marriage life for most bros here...so if u wanna enter it, do so wif a lot of caution and wif both eyes & ears wide opened...know yr gal very well first before u marry her, tat is your only assurance of a happy, lasting marriage..esp tat she likes to hav SEX a lot, tat she has HSD & tat she really loves u.. cos SEX is very important to keep the marriage alive throughout the years for we guys especially...

too bad u guys are in SG, and married SG women.

If u married regional women, their culture is, sex to husband is their wifely duty. Maybe sometimes they really not feeling well, or really tired, then let them rest / have their way lah. Or, go find FL / WL, not really big problem either.

But in SG, esp SG women study too much, knows too much about the Law, and no shame of taking legal actions on their husbands on their marital woes / disputes. SG women are too spoilt and selfish, they dowan / not willing to please their men, they also dun allow their men to eat, simply want their men to starve and they don't care, don't give a damn.



Tink tis is the situation in most bros marriages :(...tis sad but tis happening..those bros who hav a harmonious marriage are really very lucky...happy for them..:)

TS n other bros,

Let's not start bashing our local SG women. Not all of them are like that.
IMHO, this phenomenon of woman refusing intimacy is worldwide... Or more specifically happening to women from well develop n educated countries.

Cheers!

Tink wat bro 84 gunner actually meant is tat in MOST CASES, SG gals are like wat he described...but as in anything else, there is no 100% thingy..there wil always be a fish out of water...a GEM in the whole wide ocean...a nice gal in a small little corner somewhere..but really tis is not easy to find here...sigh :( ...u wil hav to do a real search for 1 or 2...

[MengJai]

Bro, did u try sitting down with her and having a proper heart to heart talk? Or has she turn a deaf ear on u?

[tomvoyeur]

Hence, I always believe pre-marital sex helps marriages lol - albeit with sufficient protection. ;)

[Tripster]

I have the same problem.
Wife is older and doesnt like sex. I do it once in 3-6 months.

I eat out often. I tried marriage counselling cos I didnt want to fuck around outside. Worked a while then back to square one.

Few things have happened since
1) Had a fuck buddy for about 2 yrs

2) Many FL and massages.

3) I even experience transferrence. Experimented bisexualism.

I cant talk to my wife cos we are at very different wavelength. I stay w her becos of kids. Sigh!

Wah, I hear this over and over and over...myself included...::rolleyes:

All the same boat budder! Lim jit puay!!!

trip;)

[louis_13]

same here .. wife only give once a month:mad:

[Cunt-Sucker]

Bro, did u try sitting down with her and having a proper heart to heart talk? Or has she turn a deaf ear on u?

I believe most bro here already tried like me: tried talking properly to wife, but she'll either lose her temper & refuse to talk, or blame you for being a sex-pervert. Then one thing lead to another, before you realized it, a new Cold War has occurred ...

After some times, you realized that, for the greater benefit of the family, especially those with kids, you offer truce but you wife will still insist on your unreserved apologies to her and acknowledging that she was NEVER in the wrong and that all wrongs are due to your sex-pervert behaviors or MCP attitudes ... either way, still no sex 'cos you deserved to be punished, and she's still not in the mood to "reward" you ...

And then what follows? As time goes by, as such cycles repeat again and again, you started to lose your self-esteem, you started to feel worthless, you start to suspect that, afterall, your wife may be right that you are indeed just a low-class sex-pervert, or a useless bum, or a plain goondu, or all of the above. And then, you enter Mid-Life crisis and you seriously begin to doubt yourself and the purpose of your surviving in this world ... and of course, in the worst case scenario, you simply decide to end your own miserable life ... but that's not all. Your surviving wife may still be cursing you for acting like a coward and pervert, and only know how to give/leave her with all the shits of life ... Sad life being a man huh? And who could have believed that it all started from being a simple rejection of lovemaking from your wife? :(

[Johnston]

Keep on, with the force dont stop, dont stop till you get enough :D

At least you arent like this feller here...... PPO against sex maniaced wife... hmmmmm :p

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=228166

[SinDellman]

And then what follows? As time goes by, as such cycles repeat again and again, you started to lose your self-esteem, you started to feel worthless, you start to suspect that, afterall, your wife may be right that you are indeed just a low-class sex-pervert, or a useless bum, or a plain goondu, or all of the above. And then, you enter Mid-Life crisis and you seriously begin to doubt yourself and the purpose of your surviving in this world ... and of course, in the worst case scenario, you simply decide to end your own miserable life ... but that's not all. Your surviving wife may still be cursing you for acting like a coward and pervert, and only know how to give/leave her with all the shits of life ... Sad life being a man huh? And who could have believed that it all started from being a simple rejection of lovemaking from your wife? :(
This is very true.
Not only we do not get from her, we also do not get much RESPECT! Her main focus is always the children and her parents and some siblings. And the worst thing is that she control ALL our monies. She would be nice to you if you bring back $$$.

My unhappiness in life was cured when I discovered SBF. Every weekend I found happiness and motivation with the PRC fl here and the whole week I was a hardworking and responsible person in office n home... And looking forward to the weekend.
But sway,the antivice squads kill all these n now my life is back to misery n unspoken sadness.

[lee2001sg]

And then what follows? As time goes by, as such cycles repeat again and again, you started to lose your self-esteem, you started to feel worthless, you start to suspect that, afterall, your wife may be right that you are indeed just a low-class sex-pervert, or a useless bum, or a plain goondu, or all of the above. And then, you enter Mid-Life crisis and you seriously begin to doubt yourself and the purpose of your surviving in this world ... and of course, in the worst case scenario, you simply decide to end your own miserable life ... but that's not all. Your surviving wife may still be cursing you for acting like a coward and pervert, and only know how to give/leave her with all the shits of life ... Sad life being a man huh? And who could have believed that it all started from being a simple rejection of lovemaking from your wife? :(

Cunt-Sucker, I felt very sorry to see your above comment. Don't take it so serious as to end your life. As you stay in the forum more, you will see we have lots of sex-pervert here just like you. You are normal. There are lots of cunt waiting for you to suck. Don't just end your life for one miserable cunt.:p

As for marrying a HSD gal, you will also get worried that you can't feed her enough and she go eat outside. Life is always miserable and short. Just be happy and do what makes you happy.

[Frankiestine]

I believe most bro here already tried like me: tried talking properly to wife, but she'll either lose her temper & refuse to talk, or blame you for being a sex-pervert. Then one thing lead to another, before you realized it, a new Cold War has occurred ...

After some times, you realized that, for the greater benefit of the family, especially those with kids, you offer truce but you wife will still insist on your unreserved apologies to her and acknowledging that she was NEVER in the wrong and that all wrongs are due to your sex-pervert behaviors or MCP attitudes ... either way, still no sex 'cos you deserved to be punished, and she's still not in the mood to "reward" you ...

And then what follows? As time goes by, as such cycles repeat again and again, you started to lose your self-esteem, you started to feel worthless, you start to suspect that, afterall, your wife may be right that you are indeed just a low-class sex-pervert, or a useless bum, or a plain goondu, or all of the above. And then, you enter Mid-Life crisis and you seriously begin to doubt yourself and the purpose of your surviving in this world ... and of course, in the worst case scenario, you simply decide to end your own miserable life ... but that's not all. Your surviving wife may still be cursing you for acting like a coward and pervert, and only know how to give/leave her with all the shits of life ... Sad life being a man huh? And who could have believed that it all started from being a simple rejection of lovemaking from your wife? :(

wow bro i think you practically surmise up what a big majority of married men are feeling and me included. For me i have stopped asking just for the sake of maintaining harmony and rather prefer to cheong. Of course it brings with it all the risk of commercial sex but I have already prepared myself for the consequence. Rather die cock standing then die cock begging.

But just in case bros are unaware, refusal to have sex is ground enough by hub to divorce their wives based on unreasonable behavior. Cos even the fucking familee cock acknowledge that sex is part and parcel of a normal marriage.

[Rickey]

Cunt-Sucker, I felt very sorry to see your above comment. Don't take it so serious as to end your life. As you stay in the forum more, you will see we have lots of sex-pervert here just like you. You are normal. There are lots of cunt waiting for you to suck. Don't just end your life for one miserable cunt.:p

As for marrying a HSD gal, you will also get worried that you can't feed her enough and she go eat outside. Life is always miserable and short. Just be happy and do what makes you happy.

Yes, Bro lee2001sg is rite...dun just end yr valuable life for just 1 miserable cunt..tis really not worth it...believe mi, there's so many other things in life worth living for..if nothing else...just need to find out wat they are for yrself & go all out for it..

But as in anything..moderation is always best...Ocs/Gfs & gals in general shd not hav LSD nor shd they hav extremely High SD.. like the recent case of the husband applying for PPO against his wife for extremely high sexual demands ..

Couples must NEVER DENY SEX to each other for watever reason for the marriage R/S to survive. :mad:...Tink having sex wif each other every 2 to 3 days wld just be ideal to express love for one another :).. to the Gals..love precedes sex whilst to the guys sex comes 1st..so they must be considerate to each other & mit halfway for the sexual act to take place & be enjoyed by both parties...tis just my 2 cents worth

[Cunt-Sucker]

Cunt-Sucker, I felt very sorry to see your above comment. Don't take it so serious as to end your life. As you stay in the forum more, you will see we have lots of sex-pervert here just like you. You are normal. There are lots of cunt waiting for you to suck. Don't just end your life for one miserable cunt.:p ...

Thanks Bro Lee2001sg & Bro Rickey for your concerns. When I wrote that, I did not literally mean to end my own life. I'm just saying that, for some bro out here, especially if they're also facing mid-life crisis and other problems, they may not be able to take the pressure & may eventually decide to end their lives. Of course I'm hoping that all bro who are facing such issues should try seeking professional help. If not, at least try to vent out the frustrations here @ SBF, and you'd be surprised to find out that you're not the only one having such problems ...

As all of us are bred and raised differently, I'm sure we have our own unique ways of resolving this issue of wifey not granting us sex. As long as we're taking all necessary precautions and not exposing our love ones and/or innocent 3rd parties to any danger or harm, I'd say: "Go for it man! Since no one's gonna take pity on us, we'll only have ourselves to save our own skin/days! So go forth and make the best out of it!" :D

[Doriemus]

I believe most bro here already tried like me: tried talking properly to wife, but she'll either lose her temper & refuse to talk, or blame you for being a sex-pervert. Then one thing lead to another, before you realized it, a new Cold War has occurred ...

After some times, you realized that, for the greater benefit of the family, especially those with kids, you offer truce but you wife will still insist on your unreserved apologies to her and acknowledging that she was NEVER in the wrong and that all wrongs are due to your sex-pervert behaviors or MCP attitudes ... either way, still no sex 'cos you deserved to be punished, and she's still not in the mood to "reward" you ...

And then what follows? As time goes by, as such cycles repeat again and again, you started to lose your self-esteem, you started to feel worthless, you start to suspect that, afterall, your wife may be right that you are indeed just a low-class sex-pervert, or a useless bum, or a plain goondu, or all of the above. And then, you enter Mid-Life crisis and you seriously begin to doubt yourself and the purpose of your surviving in this world ... and of course, in the worst case scenario, you simply decide to end your own miserable life ... but that's not all. Your surviving wife may still be cursing you for acting like a coward and pervert, and only know how to give/leave her with all the shits of life ... Sad life being a man huh? And who could have believed that it all started from being a simple rejection of lovemaking from your wife? :(

Whoa bro, really feel for u. But if its not ur mistake, u shld point it out to her else she'll take it for granted. 2 wrongs dont make a rite. Compromising is a 2 way process, not just you alone.

[Ah Goo]

One consolation is she don't control my finance!

I have not gone done to affecting my self esteem. And I don't intend to go that way.

Look like a lot of bros here face the same issue!

[DieCorkStand]

wow bro i think you practically surmise up what a big majority of married men are feeling and me included. For me i have stopped asking just for the sake of maintaining harmony and rather prefer to cheong. Of course it brings with it all the risk of commercial sex but I have already prepared myself for the consequence. Rather die cock standing then die cock begging.

But just in case bros are unaware, refusal to have sex is ground enough by hub to divorce their wives based on unreasonable behavior. Cos even the fucking familee cock acknowledge that sex is part and parcel of a normal marriage.

So looking at my nick name you know I share the same sentiment for most men here ...

But I still encourage my wife , at least I still have it once a week ...
Woman , just need to paint them to motivate them ... after giave birth, they are dry up ... need painting ...
But I just serve but notbeen served.

So afterall I still eat out ... I prefer woman massage me and HJ only for safety sake ... do not dare FJ ..

BNut there was once I was so high until I made the woman high too and she enter me raw after which then I realise half way but too shiok to reject but after that I check with Doctor and is fine ....

[Frankiestine]

Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place??:confused:

[kue19xx]

I join SBF out of curiosity and to share my own experiences..I am still expolring..this few days then come to this section..

Now I know Im not alone. I wont be able to give any good advise as I am experiencing the same senerio.

I cant remember when is the last time we did it...its is not that she dun like it..infact she like it..but I realy duno the reason..I belive many bros is in same situation but different reasons..some good smoe bad...

Like some of bros here..we got our own sexual needs..thats the reason why I ventured out to realease my desires..started fives year ago and I could not stop..can you imagine that thru this 5 years I had spent almost $12K and still counting..had any bros out there made a calculation how much you had spent??

I do feel guilty after each deed but I realy cant help it..I always let 2nd IC do the thinking..do you think I need conselling? Will it help? I dun have friends to turn to about this issue..

this will always be a secret for me and only bros here knows...

[Rickey]

Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place??:confused:

Hi Bro Frank..really empathise wif u.. so sorry to hear tis frm u...most of us bros here are in the same boat..our OCs giving us very little or NO SEX at all :mad:...their sudden or gradual disinterest in sex wif their HBs esp after child birth...tis pretty common here in SG it seems...But tink yours is the most serious of cases of bros here...yr OC showing u, her HB, so much resentment & disrespect in tis matter..

Wish i hav all the answers..wld gladly share them wif u to help u out of a situation which shd never hav happened in the 1st place to any of us bros here...if only those OCs concerned just know & remember their obligations or duty to their HBs they made on their marriage day...or why their HBs married them in the 1st place...so much unpleasantness, animosity & break-ups wld hav been averted & saved...the world then wld be a better, happier place for ALL to live in..

[Tazz]

Bros here, me oso no sex wt my wife very long Liao...more than a mth...yest buy her a cake for valentine day as she wanted it.I thought got chance tonite.but I failed it,I try 2 times say wan to hug hug her.she say go away n even shouted at me...sian n then I go sleep other rm...sian...we been sleep separate rm after my first bb born.I envious those bros here that have gd sex wt her wife still after marriage.my wife is plump n big boobs,she is braless at Hme n can c her panty when we watch tv together at nite...I misses those time when our daughter haven't cum out to this world...

[brokuan0]

Hi Bro Frank..really empathise wif u.. so sorry to hear tis frm u...most of us bros here are in the same boat..our OCs giving us very little or NO SEX at all :mad:...their sudden or gradual disinterest in sex wif their HBs esp after child birth...tis pretty common here in SG it seems...But tink yours is the most serious of cases of bros here...yr OC showing u, her HB, so much resentment & disrespect in tis matter..

Wish i hav all the answers..wld gladly share them wif u to help u out of a situation which shd never hav happened in the 1st place to any of us bros here...if only those OCs concerned just know & remember their obligations or duty to their HBs they made on their marriage day...or why their HBs married them in the 1st place...so much unpleasantness, animosity & break-ups wld hav been averted & saved...the world then wld be a better, happier place for ALL to live in..

I think the answer is to have a 2nd wife. then the women will fall in line.
i have started the thread & looking for support. if more did it, quantify the reasons & substaining it by debate, the law have to be reversed. Finally, increase in birth rates. Also, we spend less time outside.

Q&A Taking a 2nd wife
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=228120

[pharoahbb]

Well this issue happen to mi too, i have times where partner didnt want or to say didnt give so well one way is to go toilet settle yurself another way is to find someone else do it with u
I asked once n she go very cold want to slp as in just slp n nothing else the next moment i went to look for replacement
Mosg important dun bring disease home. If yur partner evef find out do ask her to justify her action too. If yur gf or wife did their duties n u still search for new partner then its yur fault if not well is tbe other way round

[Cunt-Sucker]

Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place??:confused:

Hor sie liao Bro! U & I are INDEED on the same boat! In fact, I'm beginning to wonder if we married the same wife :eek::D You've just completely spelt out my agony! No sex for a few months, and then when I asked for it, she quoted one of her friends' hubby who've NOT had sex for 1 year, ever since the wife pregnant until the baby now 6-months plus liao. I tulan & said then u go & marry him for a sexless marriage lah! then she flew into a rage & said why must I always kick a big fuss about sex? If no sex will I die? If won't die then stop complaining! My jaws just dropped to the floor ... )

Then last week, she suddenly asked from me a full-body massage, so I thought got chance liao, and I gave a a truly sensual massage, & she was feeling so comfortable that she felt asleep. So when I gently flipped her over for the front massage, and threw in all the necessary titillations of the breasts & pussy after the whole thing, she suddenly opened her eyes and said to me:" You pervert! Don't disturb me lah! I need my beauty sleep now! Go turn off the lights & if you still got so much energy, then go out & play your laptop / FB / PS3!" Again, my jaws dropped to the floor ... (& I ended my night by going to the toilet to PCC 'cos I already so aroused when I was massaging for her in nude!)

& on those days when she granted me with sex, which I can unfortunately count using my fingers, she'd be making the deed seems like a torture to her, complaining that she did it just to satisfy me, why never wash every part of my body thoroughly, no painting, no bbbj, no DATY 'cos all these very unhygienic, & when I tried to suggest some sex-toys or different positions or role-plays to spice up the acts, she retorted that she's NOT an AV porn star, so don't try to demean her by asking her to do "all these stupid things" ... Once again, you've guessed correctly, my jaws dropped and dislocated when it hit the floor ... :(

[naturegreen]

Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place??:confused:

Wa bro we are in the same boat. :(

[cncs]

After reading all the comments, I felt so lucky even after so many years of marriage me and my wife are still into sex. :)

[lee2001sg]

Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place??

This is the saddest post I seen in the whole topic.:( I really salute Frankie for still being so cool in this situation. If it happened to me, I think I would end my life just like Cunt-Sucker mentioned.

That night, I discussed with my wife regarding sex life. She had just joined a all female company selling skin-care products. I know there are lots of divorcee, so I ask her whether she know her colleagues who are divorcee have sex urgue or not. She said they do not need sex at all and their vaginal had grown spider-webs.:eek: What have our society turned into?:eek: I thought someone mentioned lady of 30s have HSD. Bullshit!!!:mad:

[shitrules]

I feel so sad for the guys after reading this thread.... think the key thing to making your wife want sex is communication and attraction. You have to learn what attracts girls to guys, and apply those techniques.

Even now that I am married, perhaps more so now that I am married, I still spend lots of time learning how to seduce my wife, play games with her, to keep our marriage sexciting and our sex life active.

I sincerely believe there is an "inner slut" in all girls, and the magic key to opening that door to let the slut out, is using the correct words, tone and behaviour.

[samyboys]

I feel so sad for the guys after reading this thread.... think the key thing to making your wife want sex is communication and attraction. You have to learn what attracts girls to guys, and apply those techniques.

Even now that I am married, perhaps more so now that I am married, I still spend lots of time learning how to seduce my wife, play games with her, to keep our marriage sexciting and our sex life active.

I sincerely believe there is an "inner slut" in all girls, and the magic key to opening that door to let the slut out, is using the correct words, tone and behaviour.

share some tips with us here

[sgiceboy]

wah hahahah

i didn't know there so much bro like me.. suffering in silence.

for my case no sex since wifey preggie... now kid 3 year old liao...

so gg 4 years liao.... wo actual sex..

the last time i ask for it.. we had a big fight after tat.. i told myself i'm not gg to beg for sex cos i'm not a beggar... since then... no physical contact liao.. cos we sleep seperate due to the small one.

been surviving on porn & DIY if not sure die die... neva really go for FL cos jus not me.

do i still love her? i duno leh... all i know... now see her naked so no feelings...wan to do romantic things also sian cos... in the end get nothing.....

when i hear those bros having great sex after having kids.. i really envy... knn duno real or bluff i also duno...... i jus know i not get any...:(

[Cunt-Sucker]

wah hahahah

i didn't know there so much bro like me.. suffering in silence.

for my case no sex since wifey preggie... now kid 3 year old liao...

so gg 4 years liao.... wo actual sex..

the last time i ask for it.. we had a big fight after tat.. i told myself i'm not gg to beg for sex cos i'm not a beggar... since then... no physical contact liao.. cos we sleep seperate due to the small one.



Bro! I salute you! Almost 4 years w/o sex! Wow! err ... Can I just check if you actually still remember to do the act? Haha! No hard feelings! 'Cos I'm so afraid that I'll forget how to do it eventually if I allow my wife to starve me like this, so on & off, when I have a bit of spare cash in my pocket, I'll go engage the professionals to get them help me revise on the proper techniques ... :p

For all the brothers who are suffering as us, have you actually asked your wife then what's her purpose of marrying to you? I asked mine: does she just consider me as a legal sperm donor to our kids? And am I just supposed to bring back the dough & take care of the necessary expenses? Am I totally not worth her tiny bit of attention / love? Too bad, she's never really given to me her answers 'cos she'll either play dumb & go for the kids, or just shout at me, asking me if I really so "eng" & wanna pick a fight ... :( But just interested to find out from all the deprived bros here: Have you ever thought about this question? What are we to our wives? :rolleyes:

[geckoSG]

Hmmm, seems that there is some need to re-energize the marriage here...
Most women are too tired after a day of work and children manning... For
those DIV woman, they too need love and sex... but most of them when in
a group of ladies, they won't say they are desperate for sex. It will make
them look CHEAP.

I guess you guys try to spice up life a bit, for me, I guess I still lucky that
once a while I still get sex, but nowsaday, I am initiating lesser and lesser
sex with spouse... Too tired to keep initiating...

[Vice Master]

My wife rarely initiates physical intimacy, be it sex or even a quick kiss. If there is any physical interaction, I initiate it. I hint rather often that I desire more physically. When I try to talk to her about this, she gets annoyed.

[sgiceboy]

Bro! I salute you! Almost 4 years w/o sex! Wow! err ... Can I just check if you actually still remember to do the act? Haha! No hard feelings! 'Cos I'm so afraid that I'll forget how to do it eventually if I allow my wife to starve me like this, so on & off, when I have a bit of spare cash in my pocket, I'll go engage the professionals to get them help me revise on the proper techniques ... :p

For all the brothers who are suffering as us, have you actually asked your wife then what's her purpose of marrying to you? I asked mine: does she just consider me as a legal sperm donor to our kids? And am I just supposed to bring back the dough & take care of the necessary expenses? Am I totally not worth her tiny bit of attention / love? Too bad, she's never really given to me her answers 'cos she'll either play dumb & go for the kids, or just shout at me, asking me if I really so "eng" & wanna pick a fight ... :( But just interested to find out from all the deprived bros here: Have you ever thought about this question? What are we to our wives?

bro,

no need to salute, i have learn to live w it.
no point figthing over it, if wifey in mood to do, sure want it if no mood, do already also sian... like dead fish,

the last time before baby comes ...when having sex.. my wife also de same.... cannot this cannot that.

wan to kiss her says, i anyhow kiss her face then her face kenna pimple.
wan to kiss her body, say itchy,
wan to lick her, say its dirty,
last time ask her to buy gstring to spice up our sex life, she says its inproper.:mad:
sex is like....she wans quick put inside after 20mins come out then bath... sigh:mad:

i have learn to survive w porn...

jus turn pc.. see jpn av.. shake a while... cum out.... off pc... then go the sleep.... SAD rite.... but what to do....

so far.. only have hj, bj from hc & some FL neva venture further then tat

[sgiceboy]

Hmmm, seems that there is some need to re-energize the marriage here...
Most women are too tired after a day of work and children manning... For
those DIV woman, they too need love and sex... but most of them when in
a group of ladies, they won't say they are desperate for sex. It will make
them look CHEAP.

I guess you guys try to spice up life a bit, for me, I guess I still lucky that
once a while I still get sex, but nowsaday, I am initiating lesser and lesser
sex with spouse... Too tired to keep initiating...


bro

try liao.... fail liao..... no point cos always end up fighting.... destroy the peace of the family....

[lee2001sg]

This thread is making me depress.:( I thought I was unfortunate. But then again my HSD makes me crave for more.:p

[imodel]

I am glad to see this thread where all bros share d inner part of u. That is good for all of us.

I was a good boy. My 1st sex was given to my wife, after marriage. I kuai kaui. But after marriage, i realised i was trapped in d legal system becos i signed my life away. I signed my freedom away.

No sex for i think 9 years. What u think bros? Your 1 month is considered heng liao ok la?

That's how i ended up here. Started to look out and now find that there is still a life out here. After letting my machine gun rust for so long, i finally realised that there are many others who like mine too. So no big deal. And those that are with me now are much younger and have all that u can imagine.

If home cannot cook, eat out rather then fighting at home and upset everyone right? Do i choose this path? No i didn't. Had i known this will happen, i will never want to get married.

This thread brought some comfort to me and after hearing from all u out there, i decided to open up myself to share.

Till date, my eat out meals have been a great variety and i find it enjoyable. 21, 22, 3x, 4x, msian, spore, phil, viet, china... o yea and most importantly, i don't need to pay for them most of the time.

I've started my 1st storyline at here on maid....
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=124635&highlight=maid

My storyline is lousy becos i don't rubbish too much. Just d key points.

So bros out there, keep your head up. If your wife let u down, don't end your life. Life is still beautiful out here.

[Frankiestine]

Hor sie liao Bro! U & I are INDEED on the same boat! In fact, I'm beginning to wonder if we married the same wife :eek::D
Then last week, she suddenly asked from me a full-body massage, so I thought got chance liao, and I gave a a truly sensual massage, & she was feeling so comfortable that she felt asleep.

Haha bro indeed i wonder whether we are sharing the same woman cos the massage thing also happened to me before. Whenever I give her a massage I will try to take the opportunity to try and turn her on by rabba the boobs but she will kpkb and the respect thing again and don't treat her like those kuay.

Yes there was a time when I really went thru a mid life crisis when I started to question my own manhood. And bros here no joke when bro cunt said about the killing oneself part cos that also came into my mind. When you are going thru a depressive mid life crisis you can never see things in a positive light. I had never doubted my own sexual ability before. Besides the occasional accolades from WL who are paid just to state how good I am in bed, I have a few FB who attest to my abilities. So it really made me starting to question myself and doubting myself. All sort of thoughts came into my mind, was she having a affair but I know her routine too well so I rule that out. So I figure the problem could only be with me. Am I really a sex maniac, I even wanted to ask doc to give me medicine that can lower my sex drive.

But I have learn to put all these behind and tell myself, just have to eat out more often since she is not willing to give. Thou I must admit with time, I find that my sex drive has really slow down. I am now happy to eat out at least once a month as compared to the past when I was practically eating out every couple of weeks.

[kue19xx]

I missed those days before marriage while we taste the forbidden fruit. We can go for 4 to 5 rounds per night. After give birth..evrything change.

After see bro Imodel talk about maid..it reminded me of an incident 6 years back before I start eating out.

Was on public bus on way back and saw this young maid. few days later chat her up and met up the next day. Bring her to quiet staircase and we hug touch and kiss...asked her go my home but she refused.

Agreed to meet next day but she never come..while seaching for her i missed a step and fall. Feet swollen. At 1st thought it juz normal sprain but turn out I fractured a bone in my feet. Put on cast and medical leave for almost 3 months!! Was I punished because of what I did?? I thought to myself!!

[raymond_2010]

Hi Bros

I agreed with all of your comment. Before married, like to have a taste of sex. But after married with kids, wife always complaint about tireness, hygenie and mood.

Last time can enjoy 3 rounds of sex with different styles. But now after giving birth, her hormones has changed. Increase weight and less mood for sex. refused to give me blow job. always stick to same missionary position. So sian. No more romantic and spicy atmosphere liao.

[Ah Goo]

Hor sie liao Bro! U & I are INDEED on the same boat! In fact, I'm beginning to wonder if we married the same wife :eek::D You've just completely spelt out my agony! No sex for a few months, and then when I asked for it, she quoted one of her friends' hubby who've NOT had sex for 1 year, ever since the wife pregnant until the baby now 6-months plus liao. I tulan & said then u go & marry him for a sexless marriage lah! then she flew into a rage & said why must I always kick a big fuss about sex? If no sex will I die? If won't die then stop complaining! My jaws just dropped to the floor ... )

Then last week, she suddenly asked from me a full-body massage, so I thought got chance liao, and I gave a a truly sensual massage, & she was feeling so comfortable that she felt asleep. So when I gently flipped her over for the front massage, and threw in all the necessary titillations of the breasts & pussy after the whole thing, she suddenly opened her eyes and said to me:" You pervert! Don't disturb me lah! I need my beauty sleep now! Go turn off the lights & if you still got so much energy, then go out & play your laptop / FB / PS3!" Again, my jaws dropped to the floor ... (& I ended my night by going to the toilet to PCC 'cos I already so aroused when I was massaging for her in nude!)

& on those days when she granted me with sex, which I can unfortunately count using my fingers, she'd be making the deed seems like a torture to her, complaining that she did it just to satisfy me, why never wash every part of my body thoroughly, no painting, no bbbj, no DATY 'cos all these very unhygienic, & when I tried to suggest some sex-toys or different positions or role-plays to spice up the acts, she retorted that she's NOT an AV porn star, so don't try to demean her by asking her to do "all these stupid things" ... Once again, you've guessed correctly, my jaws dropped and dislocated when it hit the floor ... :(

Bro, you situation made mine like small issue.

My wife don't like to have sex, but at least never give me attitude.

[aksj]

I even read one girl's letter to a magazine saying "I love my husband but am afraid of sex" and I want to charge her husband with rape. The editor advised her that since legally there is no rape within marriage, she should obtain a restraining order against sex. She can charge him with breach of the order.

Therefore I advise suffering bros to get a divorce so they can get on with their lives. If it involves child support, it's reasonable but not alimony. The wife can either go quietly, or you can just live together in a cold and unpleasant shell of a marriage until she gives up and goes without alimony instead of behaving like a self-entitled bitch. Girls are probably more concerned with shelf life anyway, they will go first. .

After reading all the stories here and from my own experiences, I feel this is a very relevant thread.

It is unfortunate that many local girls (not all) don't understand the importance of sex in a marriage and even see it as "disturbing their beauty sleep." Don't they know that being sexually active is the best way to stay young? If you LIVE youthful, you will LOOK youthful. What good is it if a girl is a slave to work and looking good and doing household chores and bringing up kids etc and doesn't know how to enjoy the joy of sex? So they can say "I've lived my life as a dutiful employee and given the government two corporals?"

Some girls are just 1) unaware of the joys of sex or 2) plain fucking unadventurous (ie everything say "pain" and start acting pitiful). If they still love you in the first place. All this happens because school and parents' sex education teaches kids that sex is dirty. Few are the parents who let their kids go out and fucking play. Those that just don't want a 3rd kid are too stupid to consider an IUD. My gf got herself one because we are sure as fuck not having kids.

[Frankiestine]

As I said, refusal to have sex can be grounds for divorce. Couple of years back there was a article in which a man was actually charged for raping his wife as she had taken out a restraining order against him. Yet she was the one who refused to have sex with the hub. Granted the man got drunk and then force himself on her. But the woman should really question herself cos the way I see it she contributed to the marriage breakdown with her constant refusal to have sex. In fact from the report they were both married for quite a number of years and they only had sex once. In my view such a woman is a real failure first as a woman and secondly as a wife.

[freezetheDB]

its sad that it has become the norm that if the husband dont get it at home he outsource in order to save his marriage

[sgiceboy]

the sad case of being a singaporean guy :(

damn damn sad....

[xtrax]

IMHO, generation has changed. the modern world has given us the options in life.

you see, during our grand parents day where fixed marriage is a norm... you dont see any divorce cases and if it does, only a few. they stay faithful to each other where as in modern days where we are given our own choices to date/to CHOOSE our own life/wife, but everything turn sour (to some ppl not all).

the women now are totally opposite to the women 80-100 years ago. those day, they were born to obey their parents/husband. their daily life is to take care of household & kids. now? they demand their own rights and a place in society. they have all the options to choose. they can make their own living with or without man.

ps: a very general opinion from me. pls do not be afraid of women. do whatever pleases you and more important, dont give up in life :)

[Pankunchi]

so now i think i know why a lot of local guys start to marry foreigners like viet,indo and prc.

[andyyy]

so now i think i know why a lot of local guys start to marry foreigners like viet,indo and prc.

Statistically speaking, for men to have quality sex life, or life after marriage/divorce, is NOT to marry a Singaporean Chinese wife. (I don't see any guy who married a minah complained about their sex life). Best is to find a Thai, Indo, Pino, or if you insist chinese, find a Malaysia wife.

No sex never mind, but don't end up go to court and lose your children, HDB flat and pay maintenance fee for nothing at the end of the day. Like some said that he sold his life away.

Lucky for those who have not married yet, you still have a big decision to make. Play safe, what they tell you about Singaporean Chinese girl are mostly true, probability speaking.

[imodel]

I don't know if i am trying to justify my actions by these, but here is what i have to say and you bros be open and see for yourself.

Sex is a emotional food to us, guys. We need to eat regularly and poo regularly. If only eat and no poo, we can constipated and cannot tahan. It will either find release somewhere or u will suffer internally.

I had another experience today. .... in the spirit of this thread i think u should do the details in the other thread... I haven't finish that thread and am starting...

But back to this topic, i am eating out now not simply becos of just to sexify myself. I want to keep the family peace. If your wife don't like sex tell me what can u do about it?
1. Divorce
2. Continue and eat out
3. Stop eating and let your didi die naturally... but it won't unless its sick.

1. seems to be the best solution but do u realise the implications? legally, financially and socially? Don't just think of divorce as a way to sexify yourself. If sex is the main issue, u can either talk to her nicely and sort things out or if not, join this SBF lor.

In my opinion, divorce should not be considered just to sexify yourself. U must know housing, alimony, status, etc are all in the package when u get into it and u won't know till u get into it. So think thrice before u make your move.

I visit this site daily since i 1st join. More thank i read news... hahaha jia lat...
Its fun here and ok la to relax oneself... Hope u guys find your own way out.

I don't like to go to those GL becos too many bros visit them. I can't imagine wanting to do with them for that few minutes of thrill.

In fact i find it more challenging to work on gals that are not in those trade. Its more sexisfying....

[themastodon]

Unfortunately part of the problem is the mentality of some women. They wanna hook a guy to 'take care' of them. Before marriage, anything can cuz they wanna land the guy. After that? Luck of the draw. If you are lucky or if you really got to know your gf before you marry her, then its fine. Otherwise, its DIY or eat out.

I remember talking to a female friend. I asked her what she liked about his bf (and now husband). The answer is cuz the guy comes from a good family (ie well to do), good career and can 'look after her' (which I clarified to mean look after financially). Romance, sex? She says 'do it lor' and after married 'we will see lor'. Btw, my friend is Malaysian Chinese. So, I think not much difference nowadays between Malaysian and Singaporean Chinese girls.

[samyboys]

I am having the same problem as TS. I had not have any physical contact and sex with my wife for 1 year and 3 months. I have been D.I.Y all the way till now and do not have the courage to eat out.

I have quarrel with my wife many times regarding this issue and everytime she kept silent. I never suspect she is eating duck meat or anything because she is always busy with 2 kids and work.

And also sharing this problem with bros here doesn't mean i need extra justification to eat out. I am sure there are more couples experiencing sexless marriage with some unknown reason.

Those with the same problem or had experienced on this issue can share with us your valuable opinions?

:(

kids, housework are the usual excuses., no matter how much we try to share the load.

however a little $ can solve the problem, go for a short break and book a room, away from routine, but only for that short period only and with a cost!

[samyboys]

I have the same problem.
Wife is older and doesnt like sex. I do it once in 3-6 months.

I eat out often. I tried marriage counselling cos I didnt want to fuck around outside. Worked a while then back to square one.

Few things have happened since
1) Had a fuck buddy for about 2 yrs

2) Many FL and massages.

3) I even experience transferrence. Experimented bisexualism.

I cant talk to my wife cos we are at very different wavelength. I stay w her becos of kids. Sigh!

sad, very sad, i also in the same boat with u, seldom talk as on different wavelength

[samyboys]

No offense to anyone but i'm glad i'm not alone with this problem.

A sexless marriage. Its been abt 6mths already & i often DIY then 1 day i asked myself WTF is happening....this is not the way i want to live my life so if my wife doesnt care then i find my own way...

I started FL recently. Its not the best solution but each person has to find his own way to deal with his situation.

I have talked to my wife abt this twice before but no lasting solution. Somethings in life are just the way it is... Learn to face it, manage it & find the best possible solution. There's no right or wrong here...so i stopped feeling guilty abt FL.

yeah man, talk and things improve only for a week at most.

old habits die hard

[samyboys]

I believe most bro here already tried like me: tried talking properly to wife, but she'll either lose her temper & refuse to talk, or blame you for being a sex-pervert. Then one thing lead to another, before you realized it, a new Cold War has occurred ...

After some times, you realized that, for the greater benefit of the family, especially those with kids, you offer truce but you wife will still insist on your unreserved apologies to her and acknowledging that she was NEVER in the wrong and that all wrongs are due to your sex-pervert behaviors or MCP attitudes ... either way, still no sex 'cos you deserved to be punished, and she's still not in the mood to "reward" you ...

And then what follows? As time goes by, as such cycles repeat again and again, you started to lose your self-esteem, you started to feel worthless, you start to suspect that, afterall, your wife may be right that you are indeed just a low-class sex-pervert, or a useless bum, or a plain goondu, or all of the above. And then, you enter Mid-Life crisis and you seriously begin to doubt yourself and the purpose of your surviving in this world ... and of course, in the worst case scenario, you simply decide to end your own miserable life ... but that's not all. Your surviving wife may still be cursing you for acting like a coward and pervert, and only know how to give/leave her with all the shits of life ... Sad life being a man huh? And who could have believed that it all started from being a simple rejection of lovemaking from your wife? :(


well summarized, but to a man, a no sex marriage is not marriage, simple as that.
Fuck the other priorities , can't click in bed, forget about the rest as sex is a very personal intimacy act between 2 person.

u just feel husband and wife become room mates

[samyboys]

to share a little.

i can make my other half cum till she squirts a few times per session, however she always claim the after sex, her pussy is sore when i had used lube to the extent that penetration is almost no feeling as its too lubricated.

offered oral sex, she said its dirty, i said i do not mind, but well, No means NO!!!

[samyboys]

Bros here, me oso no sex wt my wife very long Liao...more than a mth...yest buy her a cake for valentine day as she wanted it.I thought got chance tonite.but I failed it,I try 2 times say wan to hug hug her.she say go away n even shouted at me...sian n then I go sleep other rm...sian...we been sleep separate rm after my first bb born.I envious those bros here that have gd sex wt her wife still after marriage.my wife is plump n big boobs,she is braless at Hme n can c her panty when we watch tv together at nite...I misses those time when our daughter haven't cum out to this world...

bro, sleeping in separate room is a beginning of a big problem

[samyboys]

Hor sie liao Bro! U & I are INDEED on the same boat! In fact, I'm beginning to wonder if we married the same wife :eek::D You've just completely spelt out my agony! No sex for a few months, and then when I asked for it, she quoted one of her friends' hubby who've NOT had sex for 1 year, ever since the wife pregnant until the baby now 6-months plus liao. I tulan & said then u go & marry him for a sexless marriage lah! then she flew into a rage & said why must I always kick a big fuss about sex? If no sex will I die? If won't die then stop complaining! My jaws just dropped to the floor ... )

Then last week, she suddenly asked from me a full-body massage, so I thought got chance liao, and I gave a a truly sensual massage, & she was feeling so comfortable that she felt asleep. So when I gently flipped her over for the front massage, and threw in all the necessary titillations of the breasts & pussy after the whole thing, she suddenly opened her eyes and said to me:" You pervert! Don't disturb me lah! I need my beauty sleep now! Go turn off the lights & if you still got so much energy, then go out & play your laptop / FB / PS3!" Again, my jaws dropped to the floor ... (& I ended my night by going to the toilet to PCC 'cos I already so aroused when I was massaging for her in nude!)

& on those days when she granted me with sex, which I can unfortunately count using my fingers, she'd be making the deed seems like a torture to her, complaining that she did it just to satisfy me, why never wash every part of my body thoroughly, no painting, no bbbj, no DATY 'cos all these very unhygienic, & when I tried to suggest some sex-toys or different positions or role-plays to spice up the acts, she retorted that she's NOT an AV porn star, so don't try to demean her by asking her to do "all these stupid things" ... Once again, you've guessed correctly, my jaws dropped and dislocated when it hit the floor ... :(


gosh, your wife is 70% resemblance to mine, wtf!!

this thread really speaks about our problems man, maybe we should get our other half to read this.

now i also do not bother to ask or hint for sex, if its always so difficult to get one, or do it out of obligations to satisfy me, i rather shagged myself out, and doze off the minute my head touches the pillow

[samyboys]

its sad that it has become the norm that if the husband dont get it at home he outsource in order to save his marriage

yes, no choice.

outsource, spend some $, a happy man, goes home, no war zone at home.
maybe a turn of event, don't fuck and sleep in the same house

if u think this money is better spent on wife, then maybe can try to spend that money on something for her, make her happy, and then get a 'free' fuck (maybe not so pro like FLs), but least its morally right and the $ is still spent within the household. Don't try to offer her $ to bed you:D

[samyboys]

Unfortunately part of the problem is the mentality of some women. They wanna hook a guy to 'take care' of them. Before marriage, anything can cuz they wanna land the guy. After that? Luck of the draw. If you are lucky or if you really got to know your gf before you marry her, then its fine. Otherwise, its DIY or eat out.

I remember talking to a female friend. I asked her what she liked about his bf (and now husband). The answer is cuz the guy comes from a good family (ie well to do), good career and can 'look after her' (which I clarified to mean look after financially). Romance, sex? She says 'do it lor' and after married 'we will see lor'. Btw, my friend is Malaysian Chinese. So, I think not much difference nowadays between Malaysian and Singaporean Chinese girls.

yes, no guarantee a foreign wife is better, but maybe higher chance of a HSD partner

[kiko]

bro, sleeping in separate room is a beginning of a big problem

Yes , I believe what brother Samboys said : sleeping in separate room is a beginning of a big problem.

In my Opinion , I feel that as a marry couple, we should learn to give and take . Trust is very important. I remember there is another post by another bro's wife said no sex you will not die right . Bro , don't feel discourage, try to understand your wife. Maybe she is tired and too stress after her work . Try to understand her needs. If you initate sex to your wife , your wife say no , don't force her. Be sensitive to her. If she becomes angry after u say want sex from her, just say Dear : Hold her hand and say, I am Sorry , from now on I will be sensitive to you, and won't force you anymore.

I believe from then on relationship between your wife and you will get better. Communicate more with her , and understands each other needs and emotion. Let nature take its course, and then i believe your wife will have sex with with you.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant.
Once a while , you surprise your wife with a romantic dinner at a hotel, buy flowers for her , i believe when romance comes , naturally sex will also follows. Good luck Brothers!

[HCKing]

woman can live without sex but man cant. u get to see so many lau ah pek still busy checking in H81 everyday with their PRC lovers, needless to say abt other men in their prime. how to tahan without sex!:D

[HCKing]

so now i think i know why a lot of local guys start to marry foreigners like viet,indo and prc.

agree. my best sex experience all came from foreign girls. local ones dont even give me BJ. unwilling to change positions also. lazy like hell.

[HCKing]

If she becomes angry after u say want sex from her, just say Dear : Hold her hand and say, I am Sorry , from now on I will be sensitive to you, and won't force you anymore.


u reading too much mills and boon story books liao ah???

[predator314]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine
Bro at least you still get it once a week..for me it could go for a couple of months and then also like buay gam guan to do....painting forget it, she won't even bj me for the same reason that she thinks the mouth is full of germs...for that matter no fingering too...even try to rabba her boobs a bit she say not showing her any respect...so i ask you how to turn her on in the first place?? Bro, spot on!!! Row row row your boat.......

[missyrach]

wa~ ... i really should show my husb this site man..

he should feel lucky!!!

but if ur wifey give u guys all the sex u want, bj and all, u guys will also eat out wat!!!

excuse being bored with the same thing everyday wat... no meh??

*can never satisfy guys man*

[fullofrubbish]

Yes , I believe what brother Samboys said : sleeping in separate room is a beginning of a big problem.

In my Opinion , I feel that as a marry couple, we should learn to give and take . Trust is very important. I remember there is another post by another bro's wife said no sex you will not die right . Bro , don't feel discourage, try to understand your wife. Maybe she is tired and too stress after her work . Try to understand her needs. If you initate sex to your wife , your wife say no , don't force her. Be sensitive to her. If she becomes angry after u say want sex from her, just say Dear : Hold her hand and say, I am Sorry , from now on I will be sensitive to you, and won't force you anymore.

I believe from then on relationship between your wife and you will get better. Communicate more with her , and understands each other needs and emotion. Let nature take its course, and then i believe your wife will have sex with with you.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant.
Once a while , you surprise your wife with a romantic dinner at a hotel, buy flowers for her , i believe when romance comes , naturally sex will also follows. Good luck Brothers!


Wow kiko you seemed to be an authority on marriage and trusts. What about the poor ktv girl whom you pay her back months later after she had rendered her services to you . Do you call that trusts ??? :confused:

[fullofrubbish]

u reading too much mills and boon story books liao ah???

That is because he still living in his own world. :D ;)

[kue19xx]

wa~ ... i really should show my husb this site man..

he should feel lucky!!!

but if ur wifey give u guys all the sex u want, bj and all, u guys will also eat out wat!!!

excuse being bored with the same thing everyday wat... no meh??

*can never satisfy guys man*

Missy..you may be right...even if sextisfied by wifey some guys still eat out. but maybe not so frequent. maybe your husband already a member of SBF??

I have been thinking again..my situation is not I asked for it and wifey not give. I realised for me, it is we never talk about it before. or we never initiate.

Both of us working and reach home late. Our toddler sleeps with us in the same room. By time our head hit the pillow..we are dead tired. All our time spent on housework and kids on weekends..since kids borned..we hardly have time for outself.

Last night, our kids with parents and we finally alone. My wife wear sexy laced lingerie to sleep..it aroused me..after she knew Im horny..we had a great session last night..I was wondering..did my wife join SBF and read all the thingd in here??

Shoot all my load into her and she ask wat happen to you?? seems like u had turn into a "bull"...anyway I have been a good boy for almost a month already as no extra cash in hand to eat out, as all spent on CNY.

How I wish this can happen more often..maybe this will make me stop thinking of eating out..maybe!!

[couplelim]

Peeps, thought I was alone with this problem.

It's even more frustrating cos my wife is a MILF. Imagine laying beside her every night, admiring her figure in her mostly sexy nightie... But cannot touch. Kiss also cannot. 1001 excuses... Sian. We ML like her period. Once a month.

I also cannot bring myself to eat outside. Love her and the family too much to bring shame.

Thank goodness for this site.

[benxmanda]

bro couplelim,

Take sexy pix of yr MILF wife and share with us lah:D

[couplelim]

If only she allowed me!

[samyboys]

Yes , I believe what brother Samboys said : sleeping in separate room is a beginning of a big problem.

In my Opinion , I feel that as a marry couple, we should learn to give and take . Trust is very important. I remember there is another post by another bro's wife said no sex you will not die right . Bro , don't feel discourage, try to understand your wife. Maybe she is tired and too stress after her work . Try to understand her needs. If you initate sex to your wife , your wife say no , don't force her. Be sensitive to her. If she becomes angry after u say want sex from her, just say Dear : Hold her hand and say, I am Sorry , from now on I will be sensitive to you, and won't force you anymore.

I believe from then on relationship between your wife and you will get better. Communicate more with her , and understands each other needs and emotion. Let nature take its course, and then i believe your wife will have sex with with you.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant.
Once a while , you surprise your wife with a romantic dinner at a hotel, buy flowers for her , i believe when romance comes , naturally sex will also follows. Good luck Brothers!


pal, maybe you are not in a position as bad as most brothers here. some tried a few times, but their other half is just a dead fish

[samyboys]

wa~ ... i really should show my husb this site man..

he should feel lucky!!!

but if ur wifey give u guys all the sex u want, bj and all, u guys will also eat out wat!!!

excuse being bored with the same thing everyday wat... no meh??

*can never satisfy guys man*

to me, if u can dry him, he will not eat out, always have different ways of doing it, sex is intimate and u can also be creative

least enough of quality physical intimacy, chances are much lowered of eating out, the relationship will also be better

i would say man click when there's sex with their other half, woman needs to click before they give sex

men give sex for love
woman give love for sex

[samyboys]

Missy..you may be right...even if sextisfied by wifey some guys still eat out. but maybe not so frequent. maybe your husband already a member of SBF??

I have been thinking again..my situation is not I asked for it and wifey not give. I realised for me, it is we never talk about it before. or we never initiate.

Both of us working and reach home late. Our toddler sleeps with us in the same room. By time our head hit the pillow..we are dead tired. All our time spent on housework and kids on weekends..since kids borned..we hardly have time for outself.

Last night, our kids with parents and we finally alone. My wife wear sexy laced lingerie to sleep..it aroused me..after she knew Im horny..we had a great session last night..I was wondering..did my wife join SBF and read all the thingd in here??

Shoot all my load into her and she ask wat happen to you?? seems like u had turn into a "bull"...anyway I have been a good boy for almost a month already as no extra cash in hand to eat out, as all spent on CNY.

How I wish this can happen more often..maybe this will make me stop thinking of eating out..maybe!!


this obviously shows kids is in the way and when its with in laws, she has less thing to worry and more relaxed

[samyboys]

If only she allowed me!

well secret spy shot, and censor her face will do

[aksj]

sian. been with my gf for 3 years but after reading this, i'm scared of getting married already.

she always talk about shelf life and wanna get married, i dunno what to tell her. had a narrow escape with my ex already, now need to do it again.

[HCKing]

That is because he still living in his own world. :D ;)

i read he gt multiple clone nicks here - Cunty, Kunti and others. wonder wat he is up to nw.:rolleyes:

[Cunt-Sucker]

Just a quick update on my status:

Just had a "great" session with my wife on Feb 14 (ok, in comparison with my greatest fucks in life, this has gotta be of just mediocre standard, but when you've been starved for too long, even a stale bread is gotta be a delicacy! :D)

Did the usual rituals, flowers, gift, dinner, then went home & gave massage. After that, managed to build up her mood & quickly struck when the iron's still hot! Haha! After the act, continued with some cuddling and small talks with her. Trying to encourage her for more of such actions etc ... Ended up "discovering" that her resentment towards sex is more of her own formated opinion of what sex means to her. God knows since when, she was always of the opinion that sex is dirty, both male & female genitals are disgusting etc etc ... BUT she did it with me even prior to our marriage as she knew that SEX IS A POWERFUL WEAPON TO KEEP ME WITH HER !!! & damn! Was she so right! I was initially so damn attracted to her 'cos I thought I had such incredible sex-connection with her! But all the while, she was using it as a bait to trap me for life !!! :(

In any case, after I "confessed" to her about my constant needs and that if she is always so adamant in giving in to my needs, I may have no choice but to "da bao" outside, but I seriously don't wanna do such things to jeopardize our marriage, guess what she said to me? She kept silent for about 5 minutes and said the following to me: " Sometimes, you do not have to be so frank with me. Just make sure you're taking all necessary precautions, AND DO NOT LET ME FIND OUT ANYTHING .... " I was like: "WTF !!! My CO ACTUALLY GIVES ME THE PERMISSION TO EAT OUT !!! I only need to take care & don't let her find out!" Waliao! What kind of answer is this !!! But of course I pretended that I will not do such things lah & instead tried to sweet talk her a bit more ... but inside my heart, I was telling her: OK lor! Since u know ur own problem & now u also "officially" give me permission to eat out, there goes my past guilty feelings! :D

But seriously, I don't think I'd want to eat out so much. Rather, I want to share with all the suffering brothers here this point: perhaps, we should try finding opportunities to make our wives opening up to us with their fears and concerns, and we may need to be very very patient to induce their change of mindsets before we can score with them again huh? Having read through all the posts by the brothers here, I am confident to say that, though most of the brothers are quite pissed off with their wives depriving them of sex, but deep down their hearts, the brothers are still truly in love with their wives, and I'm sure they'll be willing to do whatever possible to re-ignite the love & passion with their wives. So brothers out there, don't give up, and as long as you're still in love with your wives, I'm sure you'll find it worthwhile to persevere through the journey! As for me? I'll try to devote more time to my CO despite her approval (ok ok lah! Once in a while I may still Da Bao if I still can't convince her) to slowly change her mindset on sex, and hopefully, I don't have to wait too long to re-ignite her desire to truly make passionate love with me again!

All the best to all brothers here, & Happy CNY !!!

[sgiceboy]

u lucky guy :D

[xtrax]

"No sex can die ar?"

i heard this a couple of times n this happen to my married friend.

wife: no sex can die?
friend: nope. no shopping also wont die. u should stop doing that

his wife was stunned. hahaha.....

[Frankiestine]

God knows since when, she was always of the opinion that sex is dirty, both male & female genitals are disgusting etc etc ... BUT she did it with me even prior to our marriage as she knew that SEX IS A POWERFUL WEAPON TO KEEP ME WITH HER !!! & damn! Was she so right! I was initially so damn attracted to her 'cos I thought I had such incredible sex-connection with her! But all the while, she was using it as a bait to trap me for life !!! :(
"WTF !!! My CO ACTUALLY GIVES ME THE PERMISSION TO EAT OUT !!! I only need to take care & don't let her find out!" Waliao! What kind of answer is this !!!!

Hahahaha bro those words highlighted in red are what I thought my oc and i had too. Before marriage she was game for anything but after marriage felt hard done....I felt cheated too...if marriage is a contract then i think i have the right to sue her for breaching the contract..

But just be careful, woman mouth say one thing heart says another...my oc also been dropping little hints to me like "don't bring anything home", "don't think i don't know what you been up to"...but naturally i will pretend not to know what she meant..since both of us buat bodoh over this issue then its fine with me...i still carry on my ECA outside and just have to be careful not to be caught red handed..

[Cunt-Sucker]

But just be careful, woman mouth say one thing heart says another......but naturally i will pretend not to know what she meant..since both of us buat bodoh over this issue then its fine with me...i still carry on my ECA outside and just have to be careful not to be caught red handed..

Haha Bro! If only we can sue our wives for breach of contract, or for deliberately inducing us into a life-contract with misleading or exaggerated demonstrations, then all lawyers in Singapore will be so f**king rich! :p

& I totally agree with your observation that woman may say one thing for now, but later, due to her change of temperament, she'll deny like hell and still accuse us of being the guilty parties. So I'm also taking my wife's permission with a pinch of salt, and I'll definitely stick to her advice of NEVER LETTING HER FIND OUT OF MY ECA ACTIVITIES !!! :D

[kikkiboy76]

Hor sie liao Bro! U & I are INDEED on the same boat! In fact, I'm beginning to wonder if we married the same wife :eek::D You've just completely spelt out my agony! No sex for a few months, and then when I asked for it, she quoted one of her friends' hubby who've NOT had sex for 1 year, ever since the wife pregnant until the baby now 6-months plus liao. I tulan & said then u go & marry him for a sexless marriage lah! then she flew into a rage & said why must I always kick a big fuss about sex? If no sex will I die? If won't die then stop complaining! My jaws just dropped to the floor ... )

Then last week, she suddenly asked from me a full-body massage, so I thought got chance liao, and I gave a a truly sensual massage, & she was feeling so comfortable that she felt asleep. So when I gently flipped her over for the front massage, and threw in all the necessary titillations of the breasts & pussy after the whole thing, she suddenly opened her eyes and said to me:" You pervert! Don't disturb me lah! I need my beauty sleep now! Go turn off the lights & if you still got so much energy, then go out & play your laptop / FB / PS3!" Again, my jaws dropped to the floor ... (& I ended my night by going to the toilet to PCC 'cos I already so aroused when I was massaging for her in nude!)

& on those days when she granted me with sex, which I can unfortunately count using my fingers, she'd be making the deed seems like a torture to her, complaining that she did it just to satisfy me, why never wash every part of my body thoroughly, no painting, no bbbj, no DATY 'cos all these very unhygienic, & when I tried to suggest some sex-toys or different positions or role-plays to spice up the acts, she retorted that she's NOT an AV porn star, so don't try to demean her by asking her to do "all these stupid things" ... Once again, you've guessed correctly, my jaws dropped and dislocated when it hit the floor ... :(

Are you serious???????????????? Wow lao eh, i tot mine is worst...............haiz...................guess there are many people in the same boat as me and even worst.

[kikkiboy76]

i am just curious, is divorce a solution? I mean do we have to walk our next half of our life suffering? This is my/our life, we should enjoy it, we live only once right? Not that we owe her the next half of our life.

Sometime i think to myself, i can tahan for now, if 30years on, my dicky can no longer stand and i was deprive for sex for so long, will i regret living my life this way?

I admit i do eat outside but i think to myself is this a permanent solution? Why should i eat secretly? It's my wife who is depriving me of it, i tried talking but you don't listen, my as well go seperate ways and i can have GFs who will appreciate me better and enjoy each other body/company.

[Frankiestine]

Divorce is always a option but with the familee cock so pro-woman, we men always end up the loser financially.

[Cunt-Sucker]

i am just curious, is divorce a solution? I mean do we have to walk our next half of our life suffering? This is my/our life, we should enjoy it, we live only once right? Not that we owe her the next half of our life.

Sometime i think to myself, i can tahan for now, if 30years on, my dicky can no longer stand and i was deprive for sex for so long, will i regret living my life this way?

I admit i do eat outside but i think to myself is this a permanent solution? Why should i eat secretly? It's my wife who is depriving me of it, i tried talking but you don't listen, my as well go seperate ways and i can have GFs who will appreciate me better and enjoy each other body/company.

Divorce is definitely one of the solutions, but are you sure that the next girl is REALLY gonna be so sexually compatible with you?

If you'd read my earlier posts, you would have realized that my wife was pretending to be so into sex, and secretly using sex as her ultimate weapon to induce me into signing away my entire life of freedom etc ... And now that she's gotten her wish, and our fruit of love has been born, somehow, her hormones, mentality, attitude etc took a change for the worse? & I've ended up secretly eating out like you outside of the marriage, & sometimes pondering the question when I was fucking my brains away with the FL: WTF am I doing here when I'm married and by right, I should have been fucking bareback and FOC at home with my wife? :(

Sometimes, I seriously wonder if my wife has been mixing with the wrong company, in that the girl friends that she's mixing with seems to be of the same cohort in rejecting and resenting sex? Seems that peer pressures could have been at the work too ... :confused:

[outatowner]

guys im caucasian living in the west and i have been reading this thread last 2days i am stunned i have always admired asian guys bec to me they always uphold traditional values and the core of that value is you are the man and thats final this forum is sounding more like guy from the west who were dumb enough to marry western woman who by the time they turn 30 look 50 anyway that aside i have spent time in singapore and love your city its an amazing place with an unlimited supply of pussy hence i renamed it sincity i admit i have no interest in singapore ladies per say as my passion is the humble yet sex starvand lovable filipina which there r thousands of in singapore (heaven)i may be from a diff part if the world but come on guys in the name of manhood we are men and are entitiled to as much pussy as we need whats this guilty shit thats the crap western women feed to western men guys even married and need a bit more on the side is ok i have been married to a filipina lady for 16 years who gives me sex whenever i need it plus i eat out when in singapore no way i feel guilty did men feel guilty centuries ago when they had a wife and 10 gfs i think not guys take control of your life even it cost u money and u feel hurt we get one chance to live do u want to be 70 and saying i wish things were diff yes we get conned into marriage its the way of woman to trick us but if u make a mistake fix it come on guys u r in sincity while i live in a boring western place governed by feminazis u gusy r so lucky use it

[Frankiestine]

come on guys u r in sincity while i live in a boring western place governed by feminazis u gusy r so lucky use it

Well believe it or not, over here we have the equivalent called AWARE!! This group of chest beating bra burning feminist wants equality and yet are not willing to share the financial responsibility.:mad:

[outatowner]

Well believe it or not, over here we have the equivalent called AWARE!! This group of chest beating bra burning feminist wants equality and yet are not willing to share the financial responsibility.:mad:

ya i guess this trend is happening in a lot of places but here many guys have just said enough and gone overseas to get a wife namely philippines, vietnam and indonesia to name a few now u see girls here complaining they cant find single men to marry find it funny look if the women want to be independent and alone all deserve to be happy so let them do wat they like but guys u have an alternative dont allow other people to dictate your future no fate but the one we make :)

[Apistogamma]

Divorce is always a option but with the familee cock so pro-woman, we men always end up the loser financially.

In little sg, divorce is a very expensive option. With the women's charter,
we will lose half of our asset. No F--K is worth so much! hahaha

Totally agree with you buddy, we will lose out big time.

[goodpartner]

guys im caucasian living in the west and i have been reading this thread last 2days i am stunned i have always admired asian guys bec to me they always uphold traditional values and the core of that value is you are the man and thats final this forum is sounding more like guy from the west who were dumb enough to marry western woman who by the time they turn 30 look 50 anyway that aside i have spent time in singapore and love your city its an amazing place with an unlimited supply of pussy hence i renamed it sincity i admit i have no interest in singapore ladies per say as my passion is the humble yet sex starvand lovable filipina which there r thousands of in singapore (heaven)i may be from a diff part if the world but come on guys in the name of manhood we are men and are entitiled to as much pussy as we need whats this guilty shit thats the crap western women feed to western men guys even married and need a bit more on the side is ok i have been married to a filipina lady for 16 years who gives me sex whenever i need it plus i eat out when in singapore no way i feel guilty did men feel guilty centuries ago when they had a wife and 10 gfs i think not guys take control of your life even it cost u money and u feel hurt we get one chance to live do u want to be 70 and saying i wish things were diff yes we get conned into marriage its the way of woman to trick us but if u make a mistake fix it come on guys u r in sincity while i live in a boring western place governed by feminazis u gusy r so lucky use it

Nice perspective from an ang-mo, but do the west use punctuations and paragraphing? :rolleyes:

Ok, I like your last few words which is inspiring; we're so lucky, use it. I'll get a wife and 10gf.

[imodel]

guys im caucasian living in the west ... my passion is the humble yet sex starvand lovable filipina which there r thousands of in singapore (heaven)i may be from a diff part if the world but come on guys in the name of manhood we are men and are entitiled to as much pussy as we need

I agree outatowner... filipina are d best... i think they are d best. They are every so ready, ever so wanting. Haven't been rejected before.

[outatowner]

Nice perspective from an ang-mo, but do the west use punctuations and paragraphing? :rolleyes:

Ok, I like your last few words which is inspiring; we're so lucky, use it. I'll get a wife and 10gf.

lol yes frend forgive the poor writing am spending too much time chasing and eating filipina pussy a bit lazt with my writing:D but i think u get the idea u have a magic place there dont waste it:o

[outatowner]

I agree outatowner... filipina are d best... i think they are d best. They are every so ready, ever so wanting. Haven't been rejected before.

and also very frendly even they not interested always nice even nicer when into bed but guys the point is options us men have options if wife not give up pussy needs to get a replacement pussy positive thinking guys no limits:D

[Taisho75]

My friend lately confine to me that his wife stopped him from having sex with her as they get bulleyes and are now have 2 kids. She dun want another one ever. Most of the times they do the deed without any protection as it's just "spontaneous" activity at home.

Could it be 1 of the reasons why wife dun like/want sex? My friend now ask me to look for FL or paid sex as he cannot stand it anymore. I always thought he was a very "kuai" man, but now it's the other way round. :)

[Rickey]

My friend lately confine to me that his wife stopped him from having sex with her as they get bulleyes and are now have 2 kids. She dun want another one ever. Most of the times they do the deed without any protection as it's just "spontaneous" activity at home.

Could it be 1 of the reasons why wife dun like/want sex? My friend now ask me to look for FL or paid sex as he cannot stand it anymore. I always thought he was a very "kuai" man, but now it's the other way round. :)

Yuh, on the surface of it, seems like tis 1 good reason why the wifey dun wanna hav sex wif her HB anymore...Some women really wanna stop at 2 children...

..but if 1 look deeper into it, it cld oso be tat it is an excuse to avoid having sex wif her HB (dunno the real reason)..cos if she really loves her HB, she shd know tat her HB still got sexual needs which is her duty as wifey to cater and provide for despite her fears of a 3rd pregnancy i/o just simply refusing him sex altogether...if she is really fearful of having another child as it seems to be so, doesn't she or any 1 of us here not know the way to prevent a pregnancy ?? ..the day we all hit puberty is the day we all became sexually conscious & aware of ourselves and of each other and of SEX itself & its implications... so just need to put on the cap (keep them ready & handy for use whenever needed & oso nowadays there are those thin-layered CD like Okamoto etc which does not reduce the sensation too much n feels just like doing it raw)...so tat the poor HB needn't turn frm "kuai" to "pai kia" & go look for FL instead...doesn't the wifey tink tat tis little 'sacrifice' is worth it to save their precious marriage from breaking up ??...tis just my 2 cents worth

[Frankiestine]

I always used the cap but still my oc don't like doing it...:mad:

[NRider]

My friend lately confine to me that his wife stopped him from having sex with her as they get bulleyes and are now have 2 kids. She dun want another one ever. Most of the times they do the deed without any protection as it's just "spontaneous" activity at home.

Could it be 1 of the reasons why wife dun like/want sex? My friend now ask me to look for FL or paid sex as he cannot stand it anymore. I always thought he was a very "kuai" man, but now it's the other way round. :)


Well, its classic case since yesteryears then and now, if homecook food is not ready that simply eat out - in a safe and clean manner. Is either PFF pay-fxck-forget or pcc lor, you dun kill you dun rob - to each his own Bro!:p
At the end of day, everybody is happy:D

[ghostalker]

Wow... Been reading this thread for some time. It sent me thinking will this happen to me after I get married...

am in my late 20s and my gf believes in sex after marriage and I respect her, so didn't do anything for the past 4 years. Thank god for SBF though ;)

[Rickey]

i am just curious, is divorce a solution? I mean do we have to walk our next half of our life suffering? This is my/our life, we should enjoy it, we live only once right? Not that we owe her the next half of our life.

I admit i do eat outside but i think to myself is this a permanent solution? Why should i eat secretly? It's my wife who is depriving me of it, i tried talking but you don't listen, my as well go seperate ways and i can have GFs who will appreciate me better and enjoy each other body/company.

Yes, Good tinking, bro...why do we all need to be so afraid of our OCs & 'suffer silently' ??...after all they are the ones depriving us (HBs) of our privileges in marriage i.e. SEX & for no apparent good reason...we hav done our part & hav always been helping them out in the family...sharing the household bills, cleaning, raising the kids etc, etc...wat more do they want to ask from us ??..is it too much for them to just ask for a little sex now & then & giv it to us happily i/o grudgingly or worse scolding us & showing us angry faces ?? :mad:

But the only thing stopping us from seeking divorce are the all the adverse consequences waiting for us suffering bros...we wil lose out BIG if it ever happens to any of us bros here.. tink most bros know tis...i hav seen many happen wif my own eyes...just as 1 bro says, the Women's Charter & the Courts usually works in their favour...sigh :(


I always used the cap but still my oc don't like doing it...:mad:

Hi Bro Frank...for the helmet...did u use the latest technology 1s....like the okamoto 0.02 etc...tink it feels as good as doing raw...oso tink it is easier to cap on too..yr OC might like it...why not giv it a try if u haven't ?? ;)

[shark89]

I always used the cap but still my oc don't like doing it...:mad:

Bro, maybe it's because yours is 'monster' sized? :p

[Frankiestine]

Bro, maybe it's because yours is 'monster' sized? :p

Haiz monster nick i got monster dick i not....:(

[HCKing]

Wow... Been reading this thread for some time. It sent me thinking will this happen to me after I get married...

am in my late 20s and my gf believes in sex after marriage and I respect her, so didn't do anything for the past 4 years. Thank god for SBF though ;)

too risky for me liao. i dont wanna after gotten married liao then found out its a lousy bonk with no BBBJ.:p

[Chromium]

too risky for me liao. i dont wanna after gotten married liao then found out its a lousy bonk with no BBBJ.:p

Same for me too. Unless she is really very virtous, for which I will bear it. But then, I will have no chance to know if she is virtous or not cos if can't get any, won't be any marriage. Catch 22.....hmmmm......

[Frankiestine]

Hi Bro Frank...for the helmet...did u use the latest technology 1s....like the okamoto 0.02 etc...tink it feels as good as doing raw...oso tink it is easier to cap on too..yr OC might like it...why not giv it a try if u haven't ?? ;)

I think the type of cap makes no dif to my oc cos the root of the problem is she just doesn't like doing it...:mad:

[Taisho75]

Yuh, on the surface of it, seems like tis 1 good reason why the wifey dun wanna hav sex wif her HB anymore...Some women really wanna stop at 2 children...

..but if 1 look deeper into it, it cld oso be tat it is an excuse to avoid having sex wif her HB (dunno the real reason)..cos if she really loves her HB, she shd know tat her HB still got sexual needs which is her duty as wifey to cater and provide for despite her fears of a 3rd pregnancy i/o just simply refusing him sex altogether...if she is really fearful of having another child as it seems to be so, doesn't she or any 1 of us here not know the way to prevent a pregnancy ?? ..the day we all hit puberty is the day we all became sexually conscious & aware of ourselves and of each other and of SEX itself & its implications... so just need to put on the cap (keep them ready & handy for use whenever needed & oso nowadays there are those thin-layered CD like Okamoto etc which does not reduce the sensation too much n feels just like doing it raw)...so tat the poor HB needn't turn frm "kuai" to "pai kia" & go look for FL instead...doesn't the wifey tink tat tis little 'sacrifice' is worth it to save their precious marriage from breaking up ??...tis just my 2 cents worth

He is already eating outside and I think his wife knows. He is just too lousy in keeping secret his habit. Now teaching him to wipe his own backside, he still got many things to learn.

As for using cap, he ever suggested, but his wife dun allow, and give fucking excuse for not having sex. I think if this goes on, he will really become "pai kia" like us to eat outside when he dun get enough. :) :D

[hsbc]

I have known a lot of people complaining no interest in sex. I guess may be there is no 'freshness' in the love making. If your wife really has no interest in SEX, you should ask her to try out Germany Sex Drops (http://www.her-libido.com)!! I used it on my wife few days back and it arouse her and make her Horny in few mins! Unbelievable. Any one of you ever try it out? I am sure you would love to share the experience here. Interesting and effective product.

[darylcch]

How long have u not had sex with your wife?
I tried it on with mine...no effect..we have not done it more than a yr!

[Opti]

My sympathy to you and myself. Hi all, I am new. I have been reading this forum for sometime but never register an account until now. Really heartfelt feelings. Most of us Guys are in the same position. Singapore is a stews country. As supported by research, birthrate in city are always lower then suburb. Everyone are stress here. One suggestion, cut more expenses and go more on tour or holiday, promise u will have better sex life.

I am a Law academic, what I can say is, in term of Law, the only reason one get married is because of Legalised sex. My sister had divorced because of this. No sex for 2years. And she loves kid. So she decided to do so.

I am facing same problem also. Once a month. Sometime twice a month. Really making me sick and frustrated. Someone I try to kiss her on the bed, she keep Siam me and say very tired want to sleep. Sometime I kept thinking why did I marry her. Lolx. Hai..... Let's endure and see what to do la..

[darylcch]

exactly the same as mine..i couldnt even hug her..
i dont know how many donkey yrs didnt get a kiss from her liao..forgotten how it feels..

[Frankiestine]

I am a Law academic, what I can say is, in term of Law, the only reason one get married is because of Legalised sex. .

I once heard a joke that we get married so that we can have sex legally and our children won't be born bastards.

[Ah Goo]

My wife don't like BBBJ. She used to do it like 30 secs, then gave up and asked me to enter her.

Now sex is rare. Finally yesterday we had sex, but it was not satisfying at all, considering we didn't do it for awhile. I didn't even feel that she is there with me.

No wonder many bros eat out. Becos those FL replace those gfs or wife feeling.

[ahbey]

My wife don't like BBBJ. She used to do it like 30 secs, then gave up and asked me to enter her.

Now sex is rare. Finally yesterday we had sex, but it was not satisfying at all, considering we didn't do it for awhile. I didn't even feel that she is there with me.

No wonder many bros eat out. Becos those FL replace those gfs or wife feeling.

My wife not really enjoy sex before we marry...but after 1st kid she get more enjoy sex and more daring into Bbbj .....:D

[Frankiestine]

No wonder many bros eat out. Becos those FL replace those gfs or wife feeling.
Bro if you looking for that then you are only heading for trouble cos end of the day you will find yourselves in a KC relationship which will end up in one big mess. For me personally I go for FL just so I can relieve and sextisfy myself. Its all physical for me nothing to do with feelings.

[imodel]

My sympathy to you and myself. Hi all, I am new. I have been reading this forum for sometime but never register an account until now. Really heartfelt feelings. Most of us Guys are in the same position. Singapore is a stews country. As supported by research, birthrate in city are always lower then suburb. Everyone are stress here. One suggestion, cut more expenses and go more on tour or holiday, promise u will have better sex life.

I am a Law academic, what I can say is, in term of Law, the only reason one get married is because of Legalised sex. My sister had divorced because of this. No sex for 2years. And she loves kid. So she decided to do so..

Bro can intro your sister to me not? She will have 2 years of unlimited supply from me and i will take good care of her.

[TickTock]

Bro can intro your sister to me not? She will have 2 years of unlimited supply from me and i will take good care of her.

hahaha....let us know if Bro Opti does intro u ya....

[HayHot]

I have known a lot of people complaining no interest in sex. I guess may be there is no 'freshness' in the love making. If your wife really has no interest in SEX, you should ask her to try out Germany Sex Drops (http://www.her-libido.com)!! I used it on my wife few days back and it arouse her and make her Horny in few mins! Unbelievable. Any one of you ever try it out? I am sure you would love to share the experience here. Interesting and effective product.


Why not you give free samples to all bros here so that we can test if it's real ? You really seems intend on promoting this, appear on almost every post you made since you join sbf.

[jbuster]

I did have a talk with my wife about the no sex/bj part. Said now she just doesn't enjoy it anymore and doesn't feel the need. Partly also said she is stress at work, with the kids etc. When I did tell her about my needs, she said just have to respect her decision and learn to "deal with it". What's that supposed to mean? FL?

[Saurus]

I once had a gf who did not like sex, no matter what I tried. Each time we did it made me feel as though she was just accomodating me, which spoils the mood. Or maybe I was not good enough, but it can be very demoralizing :(

[fsound75]

Hi all, had been following this thread since I have join SBF. This thread caught my attention as I am also searching for an answer. Now I believed I am not just one of the unfortunate, envy those bros here who still enjoyed great sex with wife. Wondering when will be mine?

Just a quick intro of my story, known her ard 2years. We had great sex life before marriage. Tried everything expect back door. Hehe still remembering the moment back in my mind.

After that got married And have kids, things totally changed! Just like married to another girl! No kissing, hugging and seldom have sex. Just like a stranger! Plus bought A dozen of condom also can't finish in a year. Expired Liao still got to heart pain pain and throw away. Sign:(

Asked her why, she said tired, stress over kids, finance stress, no time, not interested in sex, why am I comparing with newly wed and young couples we are in a diff stage of life! All the etc....crap reasons!

She had no time for me But willing to wake up early Or turn in late to update blogs and chat with forum mummies and her mum for kids stuffs.

Every time, asked her tonight can have love making session, she replied, I never promise you tonight can do leh. Wah, need to booked appointment! Sian Liao. Ask again how or what I must do in order to have a session? She said, unless I do all house work. Cos few years back we had a maid but now no more. Dun say I never do hor, I also help her when I can. Hehe So is my wife using reward basis to reward me to a session?? I don't understand.

Spoke to her and had a heart to heart talk.i told her She had neglected me. I asked her do you still have feelings for me, she answered, is more used to have me ard rather than feelings for me. I told something is wrong with our relationship and she insisted nothing is wrong with our relationship and problems dun lies on her, problems lies on me. :( she said she will TRY to make the effort to improve but before and after chat seems no diff except that day heart to heart chat. Hehe earn a great love making session.:D

Sign.....I felt lost, I had been enduring almost 10yrs. Without sufficient sex and all I can is just watch porn and pcc.

We are in our early 30s. Was hoping that when she reach mid 30s, miracle will happen. Every time think back, why? Why this will happen to me.
I very stress Liao, Thou of going to the worst case but like bros here mention, disadvantage in our finance side and also for the sake of kids. Stress level very high Liao, every night hugged loneliness to sleep.:( didn't I contribute as much as her? Bring money home, be their driver, house chores, whatever She request, I always say "ok", "no prob" but this is what I get and deserve.

Sorry for my long boring sour story from my bottom of my heart.just got rejected 1 hr ago that's why to depress......cheers bros! Good night.

[jbuster]

[QUOTE=fsound75;5706930]she insisted nothing is wrong with our relationship and problems dun lies on her, problems lies on me.

Bro I feel for you, to write such a post, you must have been really frustrated. Same thing to me as well. She felt nothing is wrong and nothing has changed. Problem is with us MEN! WTF! Anyhow, I am a semi cheongster to satisfy my gratification

[Frankiestine]

she said just have to respect her decision and learn to "deal with it". What's that supposed to mean? FL?

1. PCC to release
2. License for you to cheong.

End of the day tell her don't kpkb if you really go kio kway.

[Frankiestine]

After that got married And have kids, things totally changed! Just like married to another girl! No kissing, hugging and seldom have sex. Just like a stranger! Plus bought A dozen of condom also can't finish in a year. Expired Liao still got to heart pain pain and throw away. Sign:(
welcome to the club, for me i learn either to buy in pack of 3 which would normally take me more then half a year to finish..if pack of 12 then i use for FL which will take me 4 months to finish..:p
Hehe So is my wife using reward basis to reward me to a session?? I don't understand.
I read a article somewhere that wives and gfs are no different from prostitute cos you have to pay a price in some kind just so to get to screw them. Be it a dinner, some gifts etc but generally it entails doing something in return so that they are pleased enough to be fuck.

Any just follow the monster theory of 4Ls. First "loong", if cannot tahan then jio your buddies go KTV and "lim". After intoxicated proceed to "lum" the KTV gals then finally bring her to a hotel and "loot".:D

[samyboys]

My friend lately confine to me that his wife stopped him from having sex with her as they get bulleyes and are now have 2 kids. She dun want another one ever. Most of the times they do the deed without any protection as it's just "spontaneous" activity at home.

Could it be 1 of the reasons why wife dun like/want sex? My friend now ask me to look for FL or paid sex as he cannot stand it anymore. I always thought he was a very "kuai" man, but now it's the other way round. :)

well there's always sex with protection

[analog]

Finally a brother understood me.

If want to eat out, can eat out even in a good marriage.
Some girls just don't think that sex is necessary.

Ah Goo:

Do you have kids? If not, get a divorce immediately. Don't put up with that shit. Refusal of sexual intercourse without a valid reason is grounds for divorce, full stop.

Taisho, I hear yah and feel your pain man. This is a Singaporean female thing, have kids can ignore hubby. If I were you, mention divorce just to see her reaction. Go here:
http://www.divorce.com.sg/page2.html
paragraph 4, "reluctance to engage in sexual intercourse" is grounds for divorce. You have kids so its complicated but just toss the "D" word out to see how she reacts. Sometimes women need to be threatened. Also, you might want to explain to her that marriage is a societal contract in which she consents to have sex with you. You could rape her and there is nothing she or the police can or will do about it since you are married. The marriage license is her consent to have sex with you, its that simple. I had the same chats with my wife several times and she has come around. Use the "D" word and explain the rape angle.....it helps for them to have the cold water or reality poured over them from time to time.

Good luck.

Cheers,
jim

[samyboys]

Divorce is definitely one of the solutions, but are you sure that the next girl is REALLY gonna be so sexually compatible with you?

If you'd read my earlier posts, you would have realized that my wife was pretending to be so into sex, and secretly using sex as her ultimate weapon to induce me into signing away my entire life of freedom etc ... And now that she's gotten her wish, and our fruit of love has been born, somehow, her hormones, mentality, attitude etc took a change for the worse? & I've ended up secretly eating out like you outside of the marriage, & sometimes pondering the question when I was fucking my brains away with the FL: WTF am I doing here when I'm married and by right, I should have been fucking bareback and FOC at home with my wife? :(

Sometimes, I seriously wonder if my wife has been mixing with the wrong company, in that the girl friends that she's mixing with seems to be of the same cohort in rejecting and resenting sex? Seems that peer pressures could have been at the work too ... :confused:


woman talk, this is possible pal

Sometimes, I seriously wonder if my wife has been mixing with the wrong company, in that the girl friends that she's mixing with seems to be of the same cohort in rejecting and resenting sex? Seems that peer pressures could have been at the work too

[samyboys]

I did have a talk with my wife about the no sex/bj part. Said now she just doesn't enjoy it anymore and doesn't feel the need. Partly also said she is stress at work, with the kids etc. When I did tell her about my needs, she said just have to respect her decision and learn to "deal with it". What's that supposed to mean? FL?

gosh, how the hell u gonna deal with it???

[samyboys]

I have known a lot of people complaining no interest in sex. I guess may be there is no 'freshness' in the love making. If your wife really has no interest in SEX, you should ask her to try out Germany Sex Drops (http://www.her-libido.com)!! I used it on my wife few days back and it arouse her and make her Horny in few mins! Unbelievable. Any one of you ever try it out? I am sure you would love to share the experience here. Interesting and effective product.

is this safe?
maybe can go clubbing and use it:D

[samyboys]

welcome to the club, for me i learn either to buy in pack of 3 which would normally take me more then half a year to finish..if pack of 12 then i use for FL which will take me 4 months to finish..:p

I read a article somewhere that wives and gfs are no different from prostitute cos you have to pay a price in some kind just so to get to screw them. Be it a dinner, some gifts etc but generally it entails doing something in return so that they are pleased enough to be fuck.

Any just follow the monster theory of 4Ls. First "loong", if cannot tahan then jio your buddies go KTV and "lim". After intoxicated proceed to "lum" the KTV gals then finally bring her to a hotel and "loot".:D



I read a article somewhere that wives and gfs are no different from prostitute cos you have to pay a price in some kind just so to get to screw them. Be it a dinner, some gifts etc but generally it entails doing something in return so that they are pleased enough to be fuck.

this is quite true, but if u still love to fuck your wife, the money spent on her is better than to outsiders as u still can see them around. Such as gifts, holiday photos etc etc.


i am also pissed, sex with partner becomes a transaction somehow, no longer is it emotionally involved.


unless u want a professional woman to fuck, then pay for a service, enjoy the service and forget about it. don't forget protection dude

[civic27]

I read a article somewhere that wives and gfs are no different from prostitute cos you have to pay a price in some kind just so to get to screw them. Be it a dinner, some gifts etc but generally it entails doing something in return so that they are pleased enough to be fuck.

this is quite true, but if u still love to fuck your wife, the money spent on her is better than to outsiders as u still can see them around. Such as gifts, holiday photos etc etc.


i am also pissed, sex with partner becomes a transaction somehow, no longer is it emotionally involved.


unless u want a professional woman to fuck, then pay for a service, enjoy the service and forget about it. don't forget protection dude

sometimes doing things or buying gifts or even a fully paid holiday will not entitle you to do the deed.
imagine going on a 10 day holiday and getting to fux ONLY ONCE!
damn i regretted going with my wife for the trip n would rather spend that money on FLs where i can do for months....

[fsound75]

woman talk, this is possible pal

Sometimes, I seriously wonder if my wife has been mixing with the wrong company, in that the girl friends that she's mixing with seems to be of the same cohort in rejecting and resenting sex? Seems that peer pressures could have been at the work too

I agree with u bro. Sometime I'm wondering that too. Last time due to work always not at home. Then she started to surf net and got hooked onto a forum where all mummies gathered. Think from there they exchanged their thoughts and taught those methods how to handle husband.

One day during a normal chitchat with wife, asked her can have sex with her that night, of cos I knew her answer so just trying my luck. Expected her answer, I replied. Then I go call chicken, u dun blame me. To my surprised, she ask me to go lor!! Some more say She won't regret.......:mad:

Then There was a time when we r having lunch in geylang. She popped a question asking what if I saw my frens walking along geylang looking for chicken, what will be my reaction? I never answered her and questioned her back, so what if u see me walking there and call a chicken instead?? She said, u dare u can try. I replied cos u never satisfy me, so one day dun be surprise u see me in geylang. Both went silence and eat lunch.

Some times I also duno which answer is for real. One hand asked me to call chick, the other hand said u dare u try. Women's mind really like 海地捞针.

Can ask bros here a question which I had been thinking and wondering quite some times. When u r deprive of sex, or never had a release, or desperate for sex, will ur temper turn bad? Easily get angry or frustrated over a small matters??

[fsound75]

Initially thou I'm only the unfortunate married man in the world. Did not realized there are some many bros suffering like me. Think we are from same army camp, SISPEC......Suffer In Silence Plus Extra Confinement. Haha for those who know what I'm talking about. Hehe

[samyboys]

sometimes doing things or buying gifts or even a fully paid holiday will not entitle you to do the deed.
imagine going on a 10 day holiday and getting to fux ONLY ONCE!
damn i regretted going with my wife for the trip n would rather spend that money on FLs where i can do for months....



well always try with small investments to fix the urge.
if it doesn't work, why waste $ and effort, right?;)

[lssah]

I know from my female ex-colleague that her hubby was so pissed with her when she refused to 'perform' her role as wife, that her hubby divorced her.

[Muffbandit]

Same here and the D letter word got no effect on my wife. Mentioned to her once, gees what she said. Be my guest! I already got my daughters so I dun need u anymore. So fucking sad rite!

[mitoev96]

i thought i am the onli 1 yet to find so many bro here same fate as me

[Rickey]

i thought i am the onli 1 yet to find so many bro here same fate as me

Wow ! ..more & more bros having the same problem wif their OCs...seems like all tat they are interested in marrying us is to hav babies/children..after tat FULL STOP !! - NO MORE SEX !... :(...why are they like dat...tats oso why so many divorces oredi ...tink maybe we shd form a club or assn to help each other out in solving tis problem & save our marriages...

[Frankiestine]

When u r deprive of sex, or never had a release, or desperate for sex, will ur temper turn bad? Easily get angry or frustrated over a small matters??

Don't worry happens to the best of us....that why now instead of getting all work up over the lack of sex from oc, i just get a work out with fl..like that she happy i happy family happy...no tension no quarrels..

[Tazz]

Yest my wife wear tshirt wt braless n a strawberry panty at Hme walk ard...my bb gal is ard so abit hard to ask her...I was only wear short wt boxer,due to I train abit wt abit muscle but she seem not interested...then we went back rm to watch tv wt my gal.then I more clear n closer to her,sometime she didn't notice I was peeping her panty n smooth butt n big tits of her.I bio tahan but still cannot.maybe when my gal nt ard then I will ask her...I thk she got shaved again...

[lonely_12kev]

To all bro, only to said woman once married think they can have their way with hubby. Only when they need they want u to give if not u go PCC urself. So guys if we can't find happiness at home, go find outside lor. But dun forget to wash mouth before go home.

[decove]

To the guys in this thread, you are not alone.

My Story.

Married with 2 kids for 5 years.

Reasons for her rejecting sex,

1. scare of getting pregnant again?! (WTF, I used condom she still scare?)
2. Tired from work
3. Stress from work

Sometimes I finger her to orgasm then end of story full stop.

When I asked sex from her, she will say why is my whole mind occupied with SEX and nothing else. I had to tell her that she should be glad at least I show interest in her and not at other women outside.

She can stay up late surfing facebook, updating mummies forum. Ask her for sex after kids asleep, she also don't want.

Ask her what will happen if I have gf outside, she says she will castrate me. KNN...

She always uses the kids and work as excuses to push it away.

However, when at times we are doing it, she is very satisfied with it and she says damn song. But I ask her why she never initiate sex, her reply was she's lazy!

Sigh..

[TickTock]

Same here and the D letter word got no effect on my wife. Mentioned to her once, gees what she said. Be my guest! I already got my daughters so I dun need u anymore. So fucking sad rite!

Whoa lol!!! Thats quite funny man...

[samyboys]

To the guys in this thread, you are not alone.

My Story.

Married with 2 kids for 5 years.

Reasons for her rejecting sex,

1. scare of getting pregnant again?! (WTF, I used condom she still scare?)
2. Tired from work
3. Stress from work

Sometimes I finger her to orgasm then end of story full stop.

When I asked sex from her, she will say why is my whole mind occupied with SEX and nothing else. I had to tell her that she should be glad at least I show interest in her and not at other women outside.

She can stay up late surfing facebook, updating mummies forum. Ask her for sex after kids asleep, she also don't want.

Ask her what will happen if I have gf outside, she says she will castrate me. KNN...

She always uses the kids and work as excuses to push it away.

However, when at times we are doing it, she is very satisfied with it and she says damn song. But I ask her why she never initiate sex, her reply was she's lazy!

Sigh..


guess your wife wants quality sex and not quantity sex.

[samyboys]

in short, most of the married guys sex life drops drastically after marriage, esp with kids.

somehow i also feel both parties not that willing to sit down and discuss as well.
too used to their own world

[hotsoup16]

Add me to this club. Maybe for a start, we should give a name tom this club:D

[justcurious29]

I am having the same problem as TS. I had not have any physical contact and sex with my wife for 1 year and 3 months. I have been D.I.Y all the way till now and do not have the courage to eat out.

I have quarrel with my wife many times regarding this issue and everytime she kept silent. I never suspect she is eating duck meat or anything because she is always busy with 2 kids and work.

And also sharing this problem with bros here doesn't mean i need extra justification to eat out. I am sure there are more couples experiencing sexless marriage with some unknown reason.

Those with the same problem or had experienced on this issue can share with us your valuable opinions?

:(

I think such things happened to most marriages...As a man, we should take initiatives to spice up the sex life....communicate with your wife about your needs...for me....I always remind my wife that we won't stay young to enjoy sex...she agreed.....we have much better sex than before....to the point that she may have the urge to eat out....

[hsbc]

Any bro has this experience?

I wanted to stop the FL activities. But wife don't like to have sex. Don't even let me touch.

Have to find somewhere to release, so got to find other girls.

So have you tried the Germany Sex Drops I recommend you???

[Hytronic]

My scenario same as all the bros… after married for 7 years & 2 kids… I literally have to beg her welfare.. strictly on FRI & SAT or SUN… NO weekdays only twice a week. The rejection same excuse as all he Bros OC.. Tired lar, watch her IPAD drama or sleep.. on weekdays. WTF… sometimes better to eat out.. pay and forget it.

[analog]

Bro decove:

"When I asked sex from her, she will say why is my whole mind occupied with SEX and nothing else. I had to tell her that she should be glad at least I show interest in her and not at other women outside."

Same conversation with my wife except I had already had enough. I was blunt, told her the ENTIRE REASON i got married in the first place was sex. I wanted the same lover all the time, its that simple. And if she didn't want to be my lover, she had to go. Then crying, kids, etc.... you know how these discussions go. But, I also when through our marriage vows and pointed out how the frilly language actually boils down to "CONSENTS TO AND AGREES TO HAVE SEX WITH...". There are two ways to break marriage vows:
1. Have sex with someone other than your spouse,
2. Refuse to have sex with your spouse.

Both of those are the same, there is no difference.

"Ask her what will happen if I have gf outside, she says she will castrate me. KNN..."

Yes, typical. Don't threaten about FL, threaten about divorce and the fact that it will be granted if she refuses to fuck. The law is very clear, husband and wife MUST consent to have sex.

There are no quick solutions for this stuff especially when daddy is trying to keep the family together. I just wish these bitches would look at life a bit from our perspective.

Try and stay happy bro.

Cheers,
jim

[analog]

My scenario same as all the bros… after married for 7 years & 2 kids… I literally have to beg her welfare.. strictly on FRI & SAT or SUN… NO weekdays only twice a week. The rejection same excuse as all he Bros OC.. Tired lar, watch her IPAD drama or sleep.. on weekdays. WTF… sometimes better to eat out.. pay and forget it.

Bro Hytronic:

Twice a week!!!! Fuck man, you're in heaven and you don't even know it.

my wife watches all those cantonese crap videos as well.

Shit..

Life lah.
:)
Jim

[analog]

Hey Bros:

As a general comment, you can sure tell which bros are married with kids when reading the responses.

For example, "you should sit down and talk, try and communicate....."

For fuck sakes, would all you kids with all the advice just fuck off! you think the bros in these situations haven't tried all that metrasexual crap? Sheese...

Cheers,
jim

[ilove2cim]

All you guys are lucky..... I have sex like for once in a month! We are only married for like 2 years with a kid! Every time PCC damn sian one lor...... Actually come to think of it I think my sex drive is dying also...

[Lefegordon]

Mi have the same problem. Wife Alway tired and can have sex only on friday saturday or sunday. After her period, must rest fro 10 days. Do not get me wrong, wife got mood only one of these days. Nowaday Have to count myself lucky to have one fuck a month..

[sweetie]

Hi guys, I have been thinking what cause men to stray, Isn't it because the wife is slowly growing old, aging & turning into old auntie, thus become less attractive coz she doesn't dress up or make the effort to look sexy & pretty after childbirth? Or simply because having the same partner is less exciting over the years to come? if the wife truly satisfy their husband he won't stray? What if she grows old? I think all men prefer the young gals than an old lady wife right?:rolleyes: so isn't that another excuse to look for ECA outside since guys are visual creatures? Didn't know u guys are capable of loving the wife and still not feel guilty. I thought after a while if the wife don't satisfy their husband and make him happy, love will fade over the years...?That's when Divorce kicks in.Maybe some of you here may not love your wife anymore but see her more of a responsibility and not ready for the alimony...

[HCKing]

after reading thru the numerous posts illustrating the same 'wife dont like sex' cases i came to a conclusion that most females these days are simply too self-centered and only cares and think abt their own needs and wants, their feelings and mood, their pleasure, their welfare, blah blah blah but nvr spare the same thoughts for their partners. its little wonder y there r always communication problems cos even if the guy is willing to talk, the girl is not willing to listen and such 'communication' would most likely ended up with the girl blabbering on her own problems and opinions and feelings and blah blah blah again.:o

[ninkampoop]

i read with a lot of sadness and emphathy for all the bros here.. i really salute u guys for able to tahan sexless for so long without getting fed from ur wives. We all love our wives and it is just sucky when there is no physical intimacy. Sex and love, i feel do go together.

I am married for 2 years now. Not trying to be insensitive here, but my wife actually has a quota for me to meet. She makes a note each time we have sex and her quota to me is that I have to meet her demand of having sex at least 50% of the month. I.e, if this is Feb, we must make out at least 14 times. For Jan, at least 15.5 (thus 16) times.

I enjoy having sex with her.. and I do my best to accomodate. But at times, it can be very siong. You can imagine end of month coming, and we had been busy.. she will actually ask me to step up on the frequency. Imagine her holding up her calendar and have one arm on her waist giving me the hints.

A balance is important.... i do feel stressed.. so we all have our problems...

[goodpartner]

Hi guys, I have been thinking what cause men to stray, Isn't it because ...

Hi sweetie pie, the answers to all the above mentioned is YES YES YES.

Welcum to this forum for sex education your mom/dad won't tell you!

[Aizen]

Welcoming myself to the club...

My situation more worst...

married for 1.5 yrs, but dont live together due to family issues [in-laws]...

cant afford resale and BTO always dont pick me... that's a story for another day...

sex is only on sundays... and only when she does not have period... and not tired from the saturday shopping with friends...

Only done in missionary and done in 5 mins as she complains about pain inside...

have been times where 1 month no sex at all...

currently only go MP to release and dont dare to go FL... Singapore is small you know...

and sex is only a small part of the problem...

everytime i wonder, why did i marry her, and why did she choose me...

when you try the heart to heart talk crap, she will start crying and just keep quiet...

not very useful for me.... HAIZ....

[sweetmilf]

Read last few post from this thread because of the title. Not sure if there are any married ladies in the same situation as me. It's totally opposite in my marriage with my husband. It was I that constantly initiate sex with him. Begging him for sex regularly. Talked about it with him also. Quarrel a few times too. Been really tired. Sometimes after I begged him and he went on and go to sleep without doing anything, I would just turn to the other side and cry myself quietly to sleep. And he does not care. The feeling of begging, makes me feel I am really cheap to the core.
Asked him what's wrong with me before. He said nothing. I am not ugly, not fat, willing to do anything, good in bed also. So what's wrong?
All along I thought the problem lies with me. But I was so so wrong. I found out coincidentally that he had engaged not once, twice but a few times, the service of Thai girls. This really gave me a real hard stab on my heart. Imagine on of the date was when my little baby girl is just 3 months old.
We rarely had sex. It's been almost 6 months since we last had any sex. There was once I caught him masturbating in the toilet. He just kept quiet.
And I can't do anything.
Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.

[Frankiestine]

Welcoming myself to the club...

My situation more worst...

Welcum to the nightmare club....have you gone thru the customary or just register? If only register then maybe you should discuss with her and have the marriage annul.

[happyfamily]

Read last few post from this thread because of the title. Not sure if there are any married ladies in the same situation as me. It's totally opposite in my marriage with my husband. It was I that constantly initiate sex with him. Begging him for sex regularly. Talked about it with him also. Quarrel a few times too. Been really tired. Sometimes after I begged him and he went on and go to sleep without doing anything, I would just turn to the other side and cry myself quietly to sleep. And he does not care. The feeling of begging, makes me feel I am really cheap to the core.
Asked him what's wrong with me before. He said nothing. I am not ugly, not fat, willing to do anything, good in bed also. So what's wrong?
All along I thought the problem lies with me. But I was so so wrong. I found out coincidentally that he had engaged not once, twice but a few times, the service of Thai girls. This really gave me a real hard stab on my heart. Imagine on of the date was when my little baby girl is just 3 months old.
We rarely had sex. It's been almost 6 months since we last had any sex. There was once I caught him masturbating in the toilet. He just kept quiet.
And I can't do anything.
Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.

Maybe u can purposely let him see u masturbate? Or dress sexy while sleeping? Works for some guys IMO.

[analog]

Hi guys, I have been thinking what cause men to stray, Isn't it because the wife is slowly growing old, aging & turning into old auntie, thus become less attractive coz she doesn't dress up or make the effort to look sexy & pretty after childbirth? Or simply because having the same partner is less exciting over the years to come? if the wife truly satisfy their husband he won't stray? What if she grows old? I think all men prefer the young gals than an old lady wife right?:rolleyes: so isn't that another excuse to look for ECA outside since guys are visual creatures? Didn't know u guys are capable of loving the wife and still not feel guilty. I thought after a while if the wife don't satisfy their husband and make him happy, love will fade over the years...?That's when Divorce kicks in.Maybe some of you here may not love your wife anymore but see her more of a responsibility and not ready for the alimony...

Shit for brains.
That's all I can say about that post, sorry.

Most bros writing here want to keep their families together. They are writing about a very simple, yet easily fixed, problem, their wives don't want to fuck. Their wives committed to fucking them by saying "I do" when they got married but are now reneging on the contract, its breach of contract, plain and simple.

There are no bros here saying they don't find their wives attractive, far form it. The wife just doesn't want to or refused to fuck.

How hard it that to understand?

hence the comment, shit for brains.

If the shoe fits....

stay happy bros.
Jim

[analog]

Welcoming myself to the club...

My situation more worst...

married for 1.5 yrs, but dont live together due to family issues [in-laws]...

cant afford resale and BTO always dont pick me... that's a story for another day...

sex is only on sundays... and only when she does not have period... and not tired from the saturday shopping with friends...

Only done in missionary and done in 5 mins as she complains about pain inside...

have been times where 1 month no sex at all...

currently only go MP to release and dont dare to go FL... Singapore is small you know...

and sex is only a small part of the problem...

everytime i wonder, why did i marry her, and why did she choose me...

when you try the heart to heart talk crap, she will start crying and just keep quiet...

not very useful for me.... HAIZ....
Married for at least three years?
Any kids?

[analog]

Read last few post from this thread because of the title. Not sure if there are any married ladies in the same situation as me. It's totally opposite in my marriage with my husband. It was I that constantly initiate sex with him. Begging him for sex regularly. Talked about it with him also. Quarrel a few times too. Been really tired. Sometimes after I begged him and he went on and go to sleep without doing anything, I would just turn to the other side and cry myself quietly to sleep. And he does not care. The feeling of begging, makes me feel I am really cheap to the core.
Asked him what's wrong with me before. He said nothing. I am not ugly, not fat, willing to do anything, good in bed also. So what's wrong?
All along I thought the problem lies with me. But I was so so wrong. I found out coincidentally that he had engaged not once, twice but a few times, the service of Thai girls. This really gave me a real hard stab on my heart. Imagine on of the date was when my little baby girl is just 3 months old.
We rarely had sex. It's been almost 6 months since we last had any sex. There was once I caught him masturbating in the toilet. He just kept quiet.
And I can't do anything.
Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.
Hi SweetMilf:

Your man has a problem. The challenge is how to get him to admit to himself that he has a problem. You, as a couple, will need counselling and he will need additional counselling on his own if he wants to save his family.

From my perspective, I can't work out why a man would want to fuck a whore rather than his wife....unless the wife has degenerated into a water buffalo shape or something. But whores are so dirty and ....yuk. This is a problem for guys who married too young I think. They never got this stuff out of their systems when they should have.

You're going to have to talk to him and if he doesn't listen, mention the "D" work to wake him up.

Good luck,
Jim

[AvatarZ]

Hi Ppl,

Just to share my situation, my wife and me married 3yr + going to 4 soon with a 2 yr kiddo. Sex remained a weekly affair but she is mainly passive.

She told me she is doesnot need sex and the reason she having sex with me is to fulfill her duty. Here is a conversation I had with her recently...

Me: I am so turned on by you sometimes during the week that I become very horny! (I fingering her and she stroking me)

Wife: But I have been having sex with you on a weekly basis!

Me: ??? How does your reply relate to my comment? (didi soft liao)

Wife: I mean that I thought having sex per week will help in your horniness?

Me: .....

Is my situation sad? :o

[samyboys]

i read with a lot of sadness and emphathy for all the bros here.. i really salute u guys for able to tahan sexless for so long without getting fed from ur wives. We all love our wives and it is just sucky when there is no physical intimacy. Sex and love, i feel do go together.

I am married for 2 years now. Not trying to be insensitive here, but my wife actually has a quota for me to meet. She makes a note each time we have sex and her quota to me is that I have to meet her demand of having sex at least 50% of the month. I.e, if this is Feb, we must make out at least 14 times. For Jan, at least 15.5 (thus 16) times.

I enjoy having sex with her.. and I do my best to accomodate. But at times, it can be very siong. You can imagine end of month coming, and we had been busy.. she will actually ask me to step up on the frequency. Imagine her holding up her calendar and have one arm on her waist giving me the hints.

A balance is important.... i do feel stressed.. so we all have our problems...


bro u are lucky, thats alternate day for both of u to work out.

maybe she wants to make sure u do not 'look outside'

[samyboys]

Read last few post from this thread because of the title. Not sure if there are any married ladies in the same situation as me. It's totally opposite in my marriage with my husband. It was I that constantly initiate sex with him. Begging him for sex regularly. Talked about it with him also. Quarrel a few times too. Been really tired. Sometimes after I begged him and he went on and go to sleep without doing anything, I would just turn to the other side and cry myself quietly to sleep. And he does not care. The feeling of begging, makes me feel I am really cheap to the core.
Asked him what's wrong with me before. He said nothing. I am not ugly, not fat, willing to do anything, good in bed also. So what's wrong?
All along I thought the problem lies with me. But I was so so wrong. I found out coincidentally that he had engaged not once, twice but a few times, the service of Thai girls. This really gave me a real hard stab on my heart. Imagine on of the date was when my little baby girl is just 3 months old.
We rarely had sex. It's been almost 6 months since we last had any sex. There was once I caught him masturbating in the toilet. He just kept quiet.
And I can't do anything.
Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.

sweetmilf, your case is very rare.

try to work on something to get his attention on u

guess he would rather have something different outside

[SammyKing]

Change a wife then. U only live once.

[Frankiestine]

Sex remained a weekly affair but she is mainly passive.
At least you still get to do it, unlike some of us:(

[hsbc]

Read last few post from this thread because of the title. Not sure if there are any married ladies in the same situation as me. It's totally opposite in my marriage with my husband. It was I that constantly initiate sex with him. Begging him for sex regularly. Talked about it with him also. Quarrel a few times too. Been really tired. Sometimes after I begged him and he went on and go to sleep without doing anything, I would just turn to the other side and cry myself quietly to sleep. And he does not care. The feeling of begging, makes me feel I am really cheap to the core.
Asked him what's wrong with me before. He said nothing. I am not ugly, not fat, willing to do anything, good in bed also. So what's wrong?
All along I thought the problem lies with me. But I was so so wrong. I found out coincidentally that he had engaged not once, twice but a few times, the service of Thai girls. This really gave me a real hard stab on my heart. Imagine on of the date was when my little baby girl is just 3 months old.
We rarely had sex. It's been almost 6 months since we last had any sex. There was once I caught him masturbating in the toilet. He just kept quiet.
And I can't do anything.
Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.

Sad. I think guy sometimes just easily get bored with their sex partner

[ah rat]

At least you still get to do it, unlike some of us:(

Bro Monster, get 1 new wife :D

[Dracolash]

... Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.

Guess you need to re-turn him on by simply ignoring him and turn your attention to someone else, until he notice the attention you're getting - from others. Don't even give him a chance to see your body, let alone you changing, etc. If these don't work, it is a larger issue... :cool:

[Dracolash]

Sweetmilf, just need to turn secretive again and donot let him gain any access of your naked body. Once he gets curious again and all will start over... if this does not work, it is a larger issue...

[Niles]

Can any guys here tell me, whats wrong with my husband. Or whats wrong with me? I am slim, I am quite pretty, I don't smoke, I am educated, I dress well.

Try surprising him ? A blowjob while he is sleeping is a classic turn on, but not if has to work the next day. Try it when he is not working the next day. Come back and share the results :p

[Aizen]

Welcum to the nightmare club....have you gone thru the customary or just register? If only register then maybe you should discuss with her and have the marriage annul.

customary done... didnt want to wait too long after register... Married in hope that it will be easier to BTO a hdb...

i have never thought of the D word... just that i think our work life has made us tired after a day's work... plus we dont stay together, what's the chance of having sex at all?

Married for at least three years?
Any kids?

almost 2 years, no kids as no home... dont want to have children without a home...

[sweetmilf]

Thanks everyone for giving advices to help me. But what you guys have suggested, I had actually done it all. From hinting, to asking, to questioning. Asked him to go counselling but he insist there's no need for it. Told him that I have my needs also. But turn deaf ear. Cried also no use. For years I have been trying very hard to get him to understand but he just brush it off.
I did told him before that its a matter of time if I decide to divorce him. Guess what, he said if I do, I will never get to see my girl again. And I can leave anytime. For the sake of my girl, I chose to stay in a loveless marriage.
I have tried wearing sexy lingerie too. But nothing helps. Ignored him for months but still the same. He has not seen me naked for months also.
Am really tired. Don't want to quarrel with him anymore as it does not help.
My girl is the only thing that keeps me going.

[HCKing]

Thanks everyone for giving advices to help me. But what you guys have suggested, I had actually done it all. From hinting, to asking, to questioning. Asked him to go counselling but he insist there's no need for it. Told him that I have my needs also. But turn deaf ear. Cried also no use. For years I have been trying very hard to get him to understand but he just brush it off.
I did told him before that its a matter of time if I decide to divorce him. Guess what, he said if I do, I will never get to see my girl again. And I can leave anytime. For the sake of my girl, I chose to stay in a loveless marriage.
I have tried wearing sexy lingerie too. But nothing helps. Ignored him for months but still the same. He has not seen me naked for months also.
Am really tired. Don't want to quarrel with him anymore as it does not help.
My girl is the only thing that keeps me going.

either he doesnt love u anymore or has a true lover outside giving him all the workout he desires. unless the guy didi cant stand if not no way will he not get turned on when his beloved approaches him in sexy lingerie and giving him the CFM sign.

[samyboys]

Thanks everyone for giving advices to help me. But what you guys have suggested, I had actually done it all. From hinting, to asking, to questioning. Asked him to go counselling but he insist there's no need for it. Told him that I have my needs also. But turn deaf ear. Cried also no use. For years I have been trying very hard to get him to understand but he just brush it off.
I did told him before that its a matter of time if I decide to divorce him. Guess what, he said if I do, I will never get to see my girl again. And I can leave anytime. For the sake of my girl, I chose to stay in a loveless marriage.
I have tried wearing sexy lingerie too. But nothing helps. Ignored him for months but still the same. He has not seen me naked for months also.
Am really tired. Don't want to quarrel with him anymore as it does not help.
My girl is the only thing that keeps me going.

maybe u need to find out if what u did, works, from another guy point of view:D

[samyboys]

seriously i am considering seeking a FB

[Frankiestine]

Bro Monster, get 1 new wife :D

This is my second one....sex was fantastic during pre-marriage days but after that go down the drain...so no guarantee test drive first will work...so best option is still to cheong GL WL...at least you are guarantee minimum service expected...

[Frankiestine]

i have never thought of the D word... just that i think our work life has made us tired after a day's work... plus we dont stay together, what's the chance of having sex at all?..

I think you should both planned something, either one of you moves in to stay with in laws. Its really not good to be kept apart and not see each other often especially when you are married already.

[Frankiestine]

seriously i am considering seeking a FB
Better to find FL/WL, FB can get sticky after a while..that how i end up with my oc...she started off as my fb but end up in one big mess...and even really prefer FB then stick to a married one...singles can end up like those "FATAL ATTRACTION" situation...believe me bro I been through it..

[ah rat]

This is my second one....sex was fantastic during pre-marriage days but after that go down the drain...so no guarantee test drive first will work...so best option is still to cheong GL WL...at least you are guarantee minimum service expected...

Bro Monster,get the third lah :D

[Frankiestine]

Bro Monster,get the third lah :D

No thanks tikus...one divorce is more then enough to bankrupt me already...

[samyboys]

Better to find FL/WL, FB can get sticky after a while..that how i end up with my oc...she started off as my fb but end up in one big mess...and even really prefer FB then stick to a married one...singles can end up like those "FATAL ATTRACTION" situation...believe me bro I been through it..

married FBs not easy to find, later hubby get into the picture:eek:

[bochapsing]

after reading thru the numerous posts illustrating the same 'wife dont like sex' cases i came to a conclusion that most females these days are simply too self-centered and only cares and think abt their own needs and wants, their feelings and mood, their pleasure, their welfare, blah blah blah but nvr spare the same thoughts for their partners. its little wonder y there r always communication problems cos even if the guy is willing to talk, the girl is not willing to listen and such 'communication' would most likely ended up with the girl blabbering on her own problems and opinions and feelings and blah blah blah again.

i think u've just spoke out for many s'pore guys....

just to add on... seems tat more n more girls r using sex as a "bargaining (or threatening) weapons"....:mad:

it's not finding excuses for guys to "eat out".... but when there's no food at home, or got food at home but not allowed to eat, then wat they expect us to do??!! :mad:

if u do not use ur machine guns regular, it's very easy to break down... and later when u wan to use oso cannot liao.... no wonder, there're more n more problems of machine guns breaking down in s'pore...:p

[Canoneos]

The biggest killer of sex drive is stress. Ever since my wife stopped working and kids started school, her sex drive is up the roof. She now loves porn, cim, toys, and love it hard and rough. I can keep up only if I'm not stressed out at work. I understand not everyone can have the luxury of a spouse not working but reducing stress through communication, meditation, etc. might be a first step. Btw, my wife used to be a very innocent, conservative and religous Catholic girl.

[hickeybites]

reading this thread & felt some degree of shame...because i used to be one of those "i'm-tired-tonight-honey" wives.
just to lend some perspective from "the other side"... my past inertia was definitely not cos i didn't like sex or our kid became more important or i didn't find my hubby attractive anymore.
after giving birth, i just felt so unattractive & there was so much pressure (both external & internal) to be a good mum & wife & career woman. i couldn't believe that i was worth desiring if i can't even fulfill all the various criteria of being a "good" woman. not saying all women are like that but i find it hard to compartmentalize & just say "to hell with the crying baby & dirty house etc - let's just fuck!"

180 degree change after i shed all that preggy-weight + hubby & parents gave me support to stop working & be full-time mum. with the stress of all that roles-juggling gone, my libido just took off :o ! hubby and i also went for counselling & put in the necessary work = less accusations & arguing, more kind & encouraging words, tons of appreciation for each other. honestly i love sex (esp with hubby) & it's a hell lot more fun now.. i like to think that it comes with confidence & age :)

[squiggle]

Thanks everyone for giving advices to help me. But what you guys have suggested, I had actually done it all. From hinting, to asking, to questioning. Asked him to go counselling but he insist there's no need for it. Told him that I have my needs also. But turn deaf ear. Cried also no use. For years I have been trying very hard to get him to understand but he just brush it off.
I did told him before that its a matter of time if I decide to divorce him. Guess what, he said if I do, I will never get to see my girl again. And I can leave anytime. For the sake of my girl, I chose to stay in a loveless marriage.
I have tried wearing sexy lingerie too. But nothing helps. Ignored him for months but still the same. He has not seen me naked for months also.
Am really tired. Don't want to quarrel with him anymore as it does not help.
My girl is the only thing that keeps me going.

There are tons of factors I would say:

1. Eat out

2. Gotten STD

3. Below got problem

4. Just too stress with life


You can try to cook healthy food that improve a person sex drives, exercise together, communicate with each other, molest him lol & etc.

If we don't do sex/interested in sex = weird

Too much sex = boring

[Dracolash]

If he really heading out and you guys talked out, maybe you should also seek outside. Not to encourage on getting even but more on getting what you NEED. Who knows after sometime he will "wake up" and notice you again...

[samyboys]

reading this thread & felt some degree of shame...because i used to be one of those "i'm-tired-tonight-honey" wives.
just to lend some perspective from "the other side"... my past inertia was definitely not cos i didn't like sex or our kid became more important or i didn't find my hubby attractive anymore.
after giving birth, i just felt so unattractive & there was so much pressure (both external & internal) to be a good mum & wife & career woman. i couldn't believe that i was worth desiring if i can't even fulfill all the various criteria of being a "good" woman. not saying all women are like that but i find it hard to compartmentalize & just say "to hell with the crying baby & dirty house etc - let's just fuck!"

180 degree change after i shed all that preggy-weight + hubby & parents gave me support to stop working & be full-time mum. with the stress of all that roles-juggling gone, my libido just took off :o ! hubby and i also went for counselling & put in the necessary work = less accusations & arguing, more kind & encouraging words, tons of appreciation for each other. honestly i love sex (esp with hubby) & it's a hell lot more fun now.. i like to think that it comes with confidence & age :)

u are lucky that counselling works for you.

but to be a stay at home mummy is could also means only one source of income, thus less subsidy as well.
however much depends how many kids u have.

i feel its all about time management, share of housework and then get intimate

[hickeybites]

u are lucky that counselling works for you.

but to be a stay at home mummy is could also means only one source of income, thus less subsidy as well.
however much depends how many kids u have.

i feel its all about time management, share of housework and then get intimate

u're right - being sahm is not for everyone & we have only 1 kid. key reason why i quit work is cos kid is autistic. my earlier post was too simplistic - i apologize. there are a lot of more other factors as well but stress was a major one.

when chatting with other gal-friends, i also come to a realization that sometimes (sometimes only) it's the mismatch of expectations & perceptions. they too want to make love & be intimate but complained that their hubbies seem to view them with less desire after kids are born. it's a bit like a vicious cycle in which some small misunderstanding feeds to another.. then BOOM it's like months of no sex.

i do remember that i had a lot of pride and initially refused to initiate or placed other things as more important. thankfully some shit happened that made me open my eyes & take stock of the situation. i made the first move to suggest counselling & take concrete steps to change attitude & appreciate him more... in turn it feeds into his attitude towards me & a more positive cycle emerged.

btw my man is quite mcp - no housework & chores. have never faulted him for that as i already knew this before marriage. didn't marry him cos he was good at housework anyways! ;)

[analog]

Thanks everyone for giving advices to help me. But what you guys have suggested, I had actually done it all. From hinting, to asking, to questioning. Asked him to go counselling but he insist there's no need for it. Told him that I have my needs also. But turn deaf ear. Cried also no use. For years I have been trying very hard to get him to understand but he just brush it off.
I did told him before that its a matter of time if I decide to divorce him. Guess what, he said if I do, I will never get to see my girl again. And I can leave anytime. For the sake of my girl, I chose to stay in a loveless marriage.
I have tried wearing sexy lingerie too. But nothing helps. Ignored him for months but still the same. He has not seen me naked for months also.
Am really tired. Don't want to quarrel with him anymore as it does not help.
My girl is the only thing that keeps me going.
Hi Sweet MILF:

Your husband is delusional. You are the mother, the court will give you the child and hit him with maintenance. Its that simple, he can say what he wants. To grant the divorce the court will look only if you have been married for at least 3 years and why you want to divorce. Refusal of sexual intercourse is grounds for divorce so you'd get it.

In child custody it is almost always granted to the mother simply because that is in the best interest of the child and that is ALL that the court looks at. the court is not interested on why you got divorced,if there was adultry or anything...unless there was violence which it will look at.

the womens charter says he will have to pay you maintenance, its clear cut, its the law.

Your husband is bullshitting you, it is HE who amy never see his daughter again, not you.

Divorce the prick and get your life back.

Cheers,
jim