Q & A: Taking a 2nd wife...

[brokuan0]

Hi guys,

have this old girlfriend re appearing in my life & i have told her im married. They both know each other. This old girlfriend has said okay to be the 2nd wife.

Anyone has approach the wife & ask whether can take another?

Hope to listen to success stories & how to go about with it.

Thanks in advance for help.

btw im chinese so no marriage contract can be drawn up.

[goodpartner]

What's your own definition of a wife?

[brokuan0]

What's your own definition of a wife?

introduce her as new member to the family but lower rank then the 1st wife.

meaning to stay in the same household.

[NRider]

Hi Bro,

Since your old GF knew u have tied the knot and dun mind to be seconded - means she wants and/or agreed to be the No.2 and since u r a chinese, no way u can have the best of both world officially here in sillypore ba, unless u have it the unofficial way ba. :cool:

Just my 2 cents worth, cheers !!

[goodpartner]

I've no experience in this but it does sound interesting to me :cool:
So we're not talking about any legality issues here, just tri-habitating with consents.

Well to me you have half the battle won (old gf agreed).

Since they know each other, if I read you correctly, maybe try convincing your old gf to talk to your wife without your presence? Tell your old gf to "indemnify" you as if the idea cums from her and not you, and that she has bumped into you by chance and developed that feeling for you, and has not discussed with you. Paint a sob story like she's getting old and lonely without plan to look for another man, blah blah... see how she can benefit your wife with her in the house (e.g. can serve her, or bear you child if your wife can't, etc.).

Basically, let the women talk. If it fails, you can still claim innocent :D
That is what I'll do if I'm in your "lucky" position ;)

[babyonboard]

Wah TS, are you for real? If so, then I think it's just a matter of getting the women to talk to each other and coming to some form of an arrangement - sounds like you already have it made.

[vitroman]

You're stepping into a minefield. Try asking a Singaporean wife about sharing her hubbie's hotdog with another woman under the same roof. The result would be divorce + heavy alimony damages.

Think twice.

[francined69]

even though they know each other, have your wife agreed? even if she agree now, what if she change her mind at a later stage? then who is going to give in and leave the house?

i would agree with bro vitroman, you are stepping into a mine field. not forgetting the woman's charter in singapore.

[walle]

one woman still not enuff headache ar??? if you said got one wife and always go outside eat fast foods, it ok lah, but to tapao and make it home food......chinese saying 撑死你。。。。。think twice TS:p

[Ballian]

Bro, read your post but got something not clear.

Your wife also ok with you have another woman in your life as 'second wife' ?

[Maxes]

1 is a big enough headache. If they get into argument, who you going to side with ?

Give yourself sometime to think it over, may not be worth it in the end.

Peace Bro.

[naturegreen]

TS, you truly amaze me. After the first marriage with your wife, you still have not learnt your lesson and wants an additional one. For me, 1 is already a big headache.

[paul55ho]

In a perfect world, for a guy, we can have as many as we want n all live happily ever after under 1 roof. Unfortunately, its not, so i wonder how TS is able to pull it off.

[lee2001sg]

TS, I once had a idealistic thinking as you. Thinking that we can live happily ever after under one roof. There was another topic that is quite similar to yours. There is a reply that shattered my ideal. How about one day, your wife came to you that he loved another man and hope you can accept him and live happily ever after under one root. That's what some bros here suggested in that topic. Women in our era are more egoistic. They are able to live without us men. Maybe we should live back in the olden days where women depends on men and men can have multiple wifes. Of course you might be a lucky guy. That is, both your wife and lover loves you so much that they can tolerate sharing one husband. But for how long, that's another question.

[Waisoaboa]

Hi guys,

have this old girlfriend re appearing in my life & i have told her im married. They both know each other. This old girlfriend has said okay to be the 2nd wife.



Whats wrong with your first wife ? :confused: :eek:

[Floss]

TS,

There are so many questions:
- Do you have kids?
- Why did your old flame suddenly "came back" to you?
- Are you finacially capable to support "2 families"?
- Do you know how disadvantage guys are in Singapore thanks to Women's Charter?

Not to sound rude, but how old are you? :confused:

[Hydra]

Have you told your wife about your intentions ? What was her reactions ?

If you have children already, then better not. Since the other lady cannot be a legal second wife, why not just be a mistress or some sorts. Easier for everyone and less problems.

[brokuan0]

I've no experience in this but it does sound interesting to me :cool:
So we're not talking about any legality issues here, just tri-habitating with consents.

Well to me you have half the battle won (old gf agreed).

Since they know each other, if I read you correctly, maybe try convincing your old gf to talk to your wife without your presence? Tell your old gf to "indemnify" you as if the idea cums from her and not you, and that she has bumped into you by chance and developed that feeling for you, and has not discussed with you. Paint a sob story like she's getting old and lonely without plan to look for another man, blah blah... see how she can benefit your wife with her in the house (e.g. can serve her, or bear you child if your wife can't, etc.).

Basically, let the women talk. If it fails, you can still claim innocent :D
That is what I'll do if I'm in your "lucky" position ;)

Thank you for the suggestion, really appreciate that. Guess its best to let the women talk it out. How do i get them to start the topic?

I appeciate suggestions/inputs from seniors so that any brothers out there who hope to take a 2nd wife could also too.

Lets change the mindset of having only one wife.

Objectives:-
I am looking for ideas on how to approach my wife on taking a 2nd wife.

Limitations:-
asset divison? we will discuss that later on when we cross the bridge..

[yangguo]

Hi guys,

Anyone has approach the wife & ask whether can take another?

Bro TS, the answer is obvious. Just put yourself into her shoe.

If she comes to you and tell you:

"Dear, I have a boyfriend and you also know him, do you mind if he becomes my 2nd husband?"

[brokuan0]

TS,

There are so many questions:
- Do you have kids?
- Why did your old flame suddenly "came back" to you?
- Are you finacially capable to support "2 families"?
- Do you know how disadvantage guys are in Singapore thanks to Women's Charter?

Not to sound rude, but how old are you? :confused:

u sound pessimistic but will reply just to ans yr queries

I am 30 this year & have 2 kids.
This old girlfriend were friends of both of us & we were once together in between the dating periods of my wife during courtship. Lets discuss future/objectives as its useless going into history details.

I do not intend to regard women's charter as a barrier to my objective. I believe things can be worked out & accomdated upon.

Love to hear more suggestions & sucess stories. Thank you.

[goodpartner]

Guess its best to let the women talk it out. How do i get them to start the topic?


Didn't you say they know each other?
Well, if they've not met for a long while, just ask your GF to date her out for a catch-up. Really depends on the situation... your current r/s with your wife, her mentality about such things, her/your family's objections, etc.

30yo is very young! If both your wife and GF are in the twenties, it's going to be a big challenge man! Initially I tot can just cite aging as an excuse to keep another companion - you know your wife best - just like in any negotiation, you need to understand the objections and plan how to sell your idea.

I admire your courage to take this up despite all the naysayings here. Do keep us posted on the progress and good luck!

[cinos74]

Since ya gf dun mind being no2...
Why not keep everything going as a mistress/FB? why must have title meh.
You can handle 2wives boh..

Look at Stanley ho. One CNY dinner got to run here n there . What abt birthdays.. Valentine day... X mas..

[ATAP]

Since ya gf dun mind being no2...
Why not keep everything going as a mistress/FB? why must have title meh.
You can handle 2wives boh..

Look at Stanley ho. One CNY dinner got to run here n there . What abt birthdays.. Valentine day... X mas..

Having the second lover as a hidden mistress, you will felt very sorry for her as you need to find chances to attend to her in order to hide from your wife. During Valentine Day, Christmas Day or if your mistress fall sick, what excuse can you give your wife to attend her and kept it secret?:( Unless your wife know you got this mistress then different story. But then, the relationship between you and your wife will turn sour.:(

What TS want is to celebrate Valentine and Christmas Days together.;)

[brokuan0]

Didn't you say they know each other?
Well, if they've not met for a long while, just ask your GF to date her out for a catch-up. Really depends on the situation... your current r/s with your wife, her mentality about such things, her/your family's objections, etc.

30yo is very young! If both your wife and GF are in the twenties, it's going to be a big challenge man! Initially I tot can just cite aging as an excuse to keep another companion - you know your wife best - just like in any negotiation, you need to understand the objections and plan how to sell your idea.

I admire your courage to take this up despite all the naysayings here. Do keep us posted on the progress and good luck!

I have known a few with 2 wives even thou the 2nd is not registered.
From my circle, 1 is sg, 2 malaysians, 2 chinese & 1 taiwanese.
My surveys have shown most were proposed by the head of the household. Eg. The father, mum or the husband himself. The whole process involves quantifying if there is a budget for the 2nd wife expenses, adaption to the existing household & obeying the 1st wife(The most difficult issue).

The family enviroment also plays a part in attaining the objective. These are all natural things to keep us feeling motivated in life.

I have approached my parents about it & green light is obtain.

[tomyamramee]

nothing can be shared...

once you do that, you will have the whole world hate you...

even if you are prepared for this, i recommend you better not get into it...

[newyorker88]

I have known a few with 2 wives even thou the 2nd is not registered.
From my circle, 1 is sg, 2 malaysians, 2 chinese & 1 taiwanese.
My surveys have shown most were proposed by the head of the household. Eg. The father, mum or the husband himself. The whole process involves quantifying if there is a budget for the 2nd wife expenses, adaption to the existing household & obeying the 1st wife(The most difficult issue).

The family enviroment also plays a part in attaining the objective. These are all natural things to keep us feeling motivated in life.

I have approached my parents about it & green light is obtain.

In the first place, why you need a second wife when you got the first. You also know very well about singapore laws. and woman charter. Lets be truthful about it. You even mention about getting her to obey your current wife, which is difficult.

No woman would want to share her husband with other woman. You also mention that you got 2 kids. It will be painful for your kids to see your wife heartbroken or distressed over the 2nd.

And I am surprised at your greenlight given by your parents. Unless there is a problem that you face with your current wife, and you are not willing to divorce for the sake of children. Perhaps a better solution is to locate her to another house. Come back to this house as a father to this family of yours. As for the 2nd wife, if you got kids in the future, remember that they need a marriage cert for many things including birth cert.

I hope you can think and plan carefully before making the next move.

[Floss]

I have known a few with 2 wives even thou the 2nd is not registered.
From my circle, 1 is sg, 2 malaysians, 2 chinese & 1 taiwanese.
My surveys have shown most were proposed by the head of the household. Eg. The father, mum or the husband himself. The whole process involves quantifying if there is a budget for the 2nd wife expenses, adaption to the existing household & obeying the 1st wife(The most difficult issue).

The family enviroment also plays a part in attaining the objective. These are all natural things to keep us feeling motivated in life.

I have approached my parents about it & green light is obtain.

Your parents have agreed?!?! :eek:

You really champion sia. Wish you all the best and do keep us updated. :cool:

[orneryjoe]

TS....

If you are a Muslim, then it is possible.

If not, then you would be committing the offence of bigamy. If your wife complains, you could be jailed.

[owl888]

I have known a few with 2 wives even thou the 2nd is not registered.
From my circle, 1 is sg, 2 malaysians, 2 chinese & 1 taiwanese.
My surveys have shown most were proposed by the head of the household. Eg. The father, mum or the husband himself. The whole process involves quantifying if there is a budget for the 2nd wife expenses, adaption to the existing household & obeying the 1st wife(The most difficult issue).

The family enviroment also plays a part in attaining the objective. These are all natural things to keep us feeling motivated in life.

I have approached my parents about it & green light is obtain.

Ya, if u got ur 2nd wife. Scarly, one day u met with another ex-lover wanted to b your 3rd wife, then how??? This is never ending rite?

So better keep all happy status quo. No pt getting yourself into complications.

[andyyy]

possible to convert to islam and legally go by syariah law in Singapore to marry more wives?

[ESebastian]

TS,
You will be opening up a Pandora box of troubles and problems coming your way. Leave some space for yourself if either one of them decides to complain. In times like these, woman are no longer like in the past, they can be very independent and you will never know when they will snap and throw in the towel.
Having said all these, I hope all the best for you and wish you success. Remember to share your story here.

[markck]

Bro,

impossible in singapore so don't try. First your wife won't agreed. Second your mistress will become more demanding and want more of your time, complain and maybe want to have your kid.

[redtemo]

if u can achieve a balance then ok

but once ur first wife sues bigamy..ifs over for u..world of trouble

[tcrecruit]

Under SG law, bigamy is offense no matter with consent or not. The state can decide to charge u even if both women dun complain if it is somehow learnt by the police. On the other hand, I one really wants to do it, I guess it's just a matter or being rich enough. I don't mean just being able to afford, but really rich enough. When both women think about how much u are giving to them and how much they stand to lose I they sour the thing, they usually keep quiet. Look at Macau king Stanley Ho.... Hehehhe

[justcurious29]

Hi guys,

have this old girlfriend re appearing in my life & i have told her im married. They both know each other. This old girlfriend has said okay to be the 2nd wife.

Anyone has approach the wife & ask whether can take another?

Hope to listen to success stories & how to go about with it.

Thanks in advance for help.

btw im chinese so no marriage contract can be drawn up.

Your old girlfriend is willing to become your 2nd wife. That's great!
Asking your wife to accept your 2nd wife? That's disaster! No way!

[jacky43]

Possible b4 1965, that period it is normal to have 2 or more. I remembered in the late 70s, my old market place, there was a man with 2 wives. Yes! Everybody knows, the family was selling vegatables in market.

This age, so long 3 parties agreed, who cares? Oh! I do have a suggestion to improve this country falling birth rate. Maybe the law allow second wives, we know people health is not as good as 100 yrs ago.

So if each wive could have 2 childrens? That will be 4 childrens, of course social issues, i know family issues too. But this can be worked out.

[FuzzyFusion]

WHy the burden? I think there is going to be hell loads of problems now and future...

[Toyota Honda]

I feel very sad for your 1st wife. What do you take her for? And to think you get consent from your parents before approaching your 1st wife. What are you trying to show or prove? Get support than attack?

If you steady, you go get the approval from your 1st wife's parents 1st then come and say. Who do you think you really are to be doing this? 30yo acting so irresponsibly and coward.:mad:

[FuzzyFusion]

If you steady, you go get the approval from your 1st wife's parents 1st then come and say. Who do you think you really are to be doing this? 30yo acting so irresponsibly and coward.:mad:

On the other hand, I one really wants to do it, I guess it's just a matter or being rich enough. I don't mean just being able to afford, but really rich enough. When both women think about how much u are giving to them and how much they stand to lose I they sour the thing, they usually keep quiet. Look at Macau king Stanley Ho.... Hehehhe

Yup Yup Yup... TS why finding trouble?? Look at it this way, unless you got money many many many many, or else sibei jialat next time. And nowadays, you think woman are stupid? sigh...... Bro bro....
you want everyone to agree.... start with wife 1st.... if she nod head, then what other people say also no use. next is, you must earn 1x many many many $$$$ per mth.

[samsam33]

Many things you need to consider first before you think you can enjoy with 2 ladies

1. Has your wife agreed to it? Don't think any sg wife would say ok to share husband. You should be very worry if she said ok - that could be the first sign she has given you the green hat

2. Have you ask yourself why suddenly your old gf wants to be your 2nd wife. I advised you observe her for a while, esp if you've not seen her for long. Your nightmare could begin if she happens to be very deep in debts and by becoming your 2nd wife and stay with you, her creditors start to look for you.

3. Have you look at yourself to check if you're more handsome than Tom Cruise or you're so good in bed that women who tried it cannot forget it and die die must try? Many mistress would start off as saying they don't mind being 2nd, 3rd or whatever. Many would say they don't even want your property, they just love you and want a little of your time. Promised this, promised that but after a while, want this, want that.


Hi guys,

have this old girlfriend re appearing in my life & i have told her im married. They both know each other. This old girlfriend has said okay to be the 2nd wife.

Anyone has approach the wife & ask whether can take another?

Hope to listen to success stories & how to go about with it.

Thanks in advance for help.

btw im chinese so no marriage contract can be drawn up.

[samsam33]

Well, even if you do that, only the first wife has full legal status in Singapore. This explain why in Singapore, although there are many wealthy malays and muslim, they only have 1 wife in Singapore. Very few sg wives would allow 2nd wife and sg men are usually henpecked.

Likewise, not many malays these days want to be 2nd wives. Hence even syariah law allows one to marry 4, if you see the case in sg, usually the men would have 1 wife and the rest, mistresses, gfs, fbs

possible to convert to islam and legally go by syariah law in Singapore to marry more wives?

[Lionrod32]

Hmmmmmmmmmm ..... Wife ..........minefield
Hmmmmmmmmmm ..... Second wife ....... Boom boom boom (mines exploded)

[sinddd]

Hello friend,

Firstly, have you spared a thought for your wife's feelings? How will she be able to accept sharing her hubby with another woman? Your thoughts are just all about "i want, i want and i want" only... How much do you actually love your wife?

Secondly, you actually have the cheek to ask your ex-gf to approach your wife on this??? U really want a 2nd wife, then go tell your wife and face the music! BE A MAN AND STOP HIDING BEHIND A WOMAN!!!

[mentholfresh]

TS, u not satisfied with mono sound nagging huh?

so u are thinking of getting another one under the same roof??

so that u can have stereo sound, one nag on (L) side, one nag on (R) side.

Like that shiok huh?

[Kosh]

Bro you are asking for trouble if you accept heras 2nd wife.

It rarely that a woman will share her man w another woman and let alone say live under the same roof peacefully wo any quarrels or fights.
You will b stuck in the middle btw 2 women if quarrels start.

That will add to more headaches and problems for you in future.

Is there any agenda bhind this old Gf who is willingly b ur 2nd wife
Think over carefully b4 u agree to take her in and b4 u approach ur wife abt this issue.

:)

[Bangster]

Old girlfriend as 2nd wife....

Donch understand leh...

Why dont get a young one?

[Solace]

This is a big minefield, but since you say you have friends who also have second wife, maybe better to ask as they have experience. But if can, don't live together, live separately better. Live together will have effects on the children.

[singexpat]

TS, i can only say i admire your guts...

but wonder on your logic... :rolleyes:

[fendy]

TS

quite a interesting but idiotic thinking you have if you are a fellow sillyporean

those that can have many wife living harmonyly (on the surface) is like Macau Casino King Stanley Ho - he is rich in banks ($) and sperm bank (this can help wif viagra)

as only with these both bank overflowing , then your wife will xiao xiao lan lan to agreed to you having a 2nd wife.

But shud you have such riches, why go buy another goat if you can just go and eat satay and throw away the sticks??

[Toyota Honda]

I got some points zapped for posting in this thread. Whjoever does it is a bloody idiot who doesn't use brains to think, rather use sperm to think. Zap for all I care..

[Floss]

Where's TS?

I'm very interested in his progress. :D

[FuzzyFusion]

I got some points zapped for posting in this thread. Whjoever does it is a bloody idiot who doesn't use brains to think, rather use sperm to think. Zap for all I care..

Bro, how come you got zap for honest and straightforward answers?? Where is TS?? I am also interested in the progress leh

[brokuan0]

Hi guys,

have this old girlfriend re appearing in my life & i have told her im married. They both know each other. This old girlfriend has said okay to be the 2nd wife.

Anyone has approach the wife & ask whether can take another?

Hope to listen to success stories & how to go about with it.

Thanks in advance for help.

btw im chinese so no marriage contract can be drawn up.

Hi Guys,
Have not updated the progress in awhile. Its been alot of roller coaster emotions handling.
Im writing this to say the old girlfriend has stayed with me till today. I acknowledge the gf commitment despite trying times. However not possible to stay in the same house. she stays in a seperate house from my 1st wife.
Through this period till now i could learn & grow at the same time. Its was surprisingly similar to the palace dramas that we watch on tv. The requests for prestige, who is more important, who gets more, status and everything. Basically, comparisons are made in all aspects of life between the 1st wife and girlfriend.

Further, the wife's commitment is something that surprises me. I feel that the sacrifices my wife made to ensure the harmony between myself & the two women. She arranges the schedule whose time, managing family events shows her selflessness and rids me of the nitty gritty stuffs to look after. So being the reason i have reduced time and have to look after another household.

It is not possible for guys to think in the way women think. Alot of quarrels have happen. Its not easy but i have crossed more than 5 years of that. The hardest part is for the gf to acknowledge she always second. Even though she has said it explicitly she was willing in the first place.. The gf aspires to be in charge, promoted as the same way in the corporate world.

[Steventan]

TS, thanks for sharing your experience.

[jackyeo]

Impregnate both of them. Then bring this up after 3 months. Chances your wife will accept her.

[noobcomer]

Hi Guys,
Have not updated the progress in awhile. Its been alot of roller coaster emotions handling.
Im writing this to say the old girlfriend has stayed with me till today. I acknowledge the gf commitment despite trying times. However not possible to stay in the same house. she stays in a seperate house from my 1st wife.
Through this period till now i could learn & grow at the same time. Its was surprisingly similar to the palace dramas that we watch on tv. The requests for prestige, who is more important, who gets more, status and everything. Basically, comparisons are made in all aspects of life between the 1st wife and girlfriend.

Further, the wife's commitment is something that surprises me. I feel that the sacrifices my wife made to ensure the harmony between myself & the two women. She arranges the schedule whose time, managing family events shows her selflessness and rids me of the nitty gritty stuffs to look after. So being the reason i have reduced time and have to look after another household.

It is not possible for guys to think in the way women think. Alot of quarrels have happen. Its not easy but i have crossed more than 5 years of that. The hardest part is for the gf to acknowledge she always second. Even though she has said it explicitly she was willing in the first place.. The gf aspires to be in charge, promoted as the same way in the corporate world.


wow, really surprised that you were able to do it actually
i guess your parents are really loaded, for both women to want to stay by you. love can never do that

[HonkyTonkyMan]

TS you know chinese saying "one mountain cannot hold two tigers" in this case tigeress worst still...but you managed to tame both tigeress must take my hat off to you....respect...most of us can't even handle one tigeress..

[dreamgal]

Hi Guys,
Have not updated the progress in awhile. Its been alot of roller coaster emotions handling.
Im writing this to say the old girlfriend has stayed with me till today. I acknowledge the gf commitment despite trying times. However not possible to stay in the same house. she stays in a seperate house from my 1st wife.
Through this period till now i could learn & grow at the same time. Its was surprisingly similar to the palace dramas that we watch on tv. The requests for prestige, who is more important, who gets more, status and everything. Basically, comparisons are made in all aspects of life between the 1st wife and girlfriend.

Further, the wife's commitment is something that surprises me. I feel that the sacrifices my wife made to ensure the harmony between myself & the two women. She arranges the schedule whose time, managing family events shows her selflessness and rids me of the nitty gritty stuffs to look after. So being the reason i have reduced time and have to look after another household.

It is not possible for guys to think in the way women think. Alot of quarrels have happen. Its not easy but i have crossed more than 5 years of that. The hardest part is for the gf to acknowledge she always second. Even though she has said it explicitly she was willing in the first place.. The gf aspires to be in charge, promoted as the same way in the corporate world.

Ts, I am not sure is worth it!

You are lucky you have not been thrown in jail. If any proof that you are having bigamy then you can be jailed under the Singapore law.

There were some exceptions though.

[Moreno18]

Ts, I am not sure is worth it!

You are lucky you have not been thrown in jail. If any proof that you are having bigamy then you can be jailed under the Singapore law.

There were some exceptions though.

With caning and declared bankrupt too?

[VVDBlues]

With caning and declared bankrupt too?

So jialat? :eek:

[naan1974]

There will always be women who dont mind being 2nd wife. No bid deal because they snatching someone husband.
The problem is the first wife. Who is willing to give half her husband away ?

[Funlover]

In one of the threads, i shared that my SIL became my FB as we made an arrangement between ourselves when something happened when she was drunk sparked off this thing between us..

Recently just weeks ago, she moved in with me and wifey(her elder sis) and it gave us so much more convenience..

Not exactly marrying a 2nd wife but having 2 people in the same household that can help relieve me when i got the needs is so unreal..

[brokuan0]

sex wise.

its not as alluring as bros out there think. they seem to have their periods the same time as though god dictate that i should rest for that particular week.

As i get older i think its more of a blessing as this allows me to recuperate and not having the expectation to perform sexually. once or twice a month to each women equates to four times for me. its not bragging but for long term it becomes a burden and desire starts to die down.

The desire has more or less died as i do not want for a baby. it seems so for the women too as we didnt broach and avoid the subject in totality. for palace dramas, the women who are pregnant usually have a miscarriage due to opposing wife scheming tactics. i see things now in a different light. my wife and gf live seperately and did not communicate with each other. but i do suspect abortion was performed instead of miscarriage. till now i still feel a sense of anger when im still unsure if miscarriage is true or otherwise.

[wwk88]

Hi guys,

have this old girlfriend re appearing in my life & i have told her im married. They both know each other. This old girlfriend has said okay to be the 2nd wife.

Anyone has approach the wife & ask whether can take another?

Hope to listen to success stories & how to go about with it.

Thanks in advance for help.

btw im chinese so no marriage contract can be drawn up.

Don't do it... The "2nd wife" will be ok to accept everything that is going between u and your wife.. But almost every alternate day, u will be meeting your 2nd wife every chance u guys have will be screwing each other. Then after some time, out of no reason your 2nd wife starts to feel jealous. She starts topics like why do u have to help her do this do that... Why she cannot go herself and u have to fetch her... Etc.. Then suddenly, she says she started to develop real feelings for u.. and the worst part is she knows your wife... When women plots bro.. i tell u.. lol.. it's out of this world. U wont know what hit u...

Or it might happen on the reversal way... after awhile u will start to develop real feelings for her... u find it very hard to not think about her.. then u will ask yourself why the fuck did i marry my current wife? The 2nd wife understands me so much more. Ahahaha...

I suggest u just open up to "2nd wife" and just tell her upfront that u just wanna have fun (good sex). But not into the 2nd wife shit thingy. Can meet up for drinks, coffee, movies just like friends etc... then go somewhere to bonk.

Anyway, im just sharing my thoughts. Usually these type of issues hor.. outsider say so much, u listen so much. In the end, u decide the opposite path(end up also your own decision)

[Xia406]

Hi Guys,
Have not updated the progress in awhile. Its been alot of roller coaster emotions handling.
Im writing this to say the old girlfriend has stayed with me till today. I acknowledge the gf commitment despite trying times. However not possible to stay in the same house. she stays in a seperate house from my 1st wife.
Through this period till now i could learn & grow at the same time. Its was surprisingly similar to the palace dramas that we watch on tv. The requests for prestige, who is more important, who gets more, status and everything. Basically, comparisons are made in all aspects of life between the 1st wife and girlfriend.

Further, the wife's commitment is something that surprises me. I feel that the sacrifices my wife made to ensure the harmony between myself & the two women. She arranges the schedule whose time, managing family events shows her selflessness and rids me of the nitty gritty stuffs to look after. So being the reason i have reduced time and have to look after another household.

It is not possible for guys to think in the way women think. Alot of quarrels have happen. Its not easy but i have crossed more than 5 years of that. The hardest part is for the gf to acknowledge she always second. Even though she has said it explicitly she was willing in the first place.. The gf aspires to be in charge, promoted as the same way in the corporate world.

Wow 8 years on u still remember this thread, you should 38 years old already.

You must have deep pockets to afford 2 wives bro. Respect u for being able to tahan 2 wives... Not easy but the rewards should be great!

[brokuan0]

I was looking forward to welcoming a new member to the family, a baby boy or girl. Sadly its is not forthcoming and i felt that i should explicitly lay it down as terms of agreement in the first place. So many issues yet no successful pregnancy in sight.

Now i rather not have a baby. I believe its genetic issues now. If there is any argument in future there is bound to be a clash of opinions.

[jacky43]

ROC called little 2 and 3. I do not have the % as it is with the lighting and hammer. I guess many biz men will take a little 2 and that will be his downfall. Bloody expensives i say.

Take a look at SME you will notice the co is like 3 room HDB units. And the boss is living in pte property. The thing is he is making profits yet his family is not enjoying what they deserved.

SME male boss cycle could be like this. First smoking and drinking. Then he sees the $ what next is he reduce the costs in his biz. Eg not hiring staffs. Why? He need to feed his little 2 more so if she has childrens.

By the way. Tonights news5. Angela Lim is showing off her slim legs. The producer ask her to wear a jacket to cover some of her beautifully legs. Probably!