Life Story to Share - Difficult Times

[AudiKoupA5]

I m young adult in early 30+. Looks = So-So only :) i am married living happily with 2 beautiful children and a maid. Owns a decent apartment (fully redemeed), drove a decent car earning approx 100k per annum. I am quite comfortable with my life as this moment. I work in a MNC, most of my colleagues regards me as a good father and MR NICE. I dun have any family problem but...

I got to know this colleague 3 years back from a company event and we hit off quiet well. (She is in her late 20s, divorced with a child) She is adorable but not not dead gorgeous, soft long hair, 34C-27-34 - CFM look :) She comes from a complicated background. Both parents are divorced. She is not well to do but i admired her spirit of being a strong single mother. She is a kinda of lady who will pay attention to every detail of you, shows great concern and take care of u. (This was part of the reason why i am attracted to her) She will made breakfast for you. She will offer to buy lunch for you knowing you are tight up at work. She will give u priority where work is concern when you need it done. We enjoy each other company so much that we start to develope feelings for each other that we start off a relationship. She became my close office spouse.

She was obliging, she will do anything for me as long i m happy or need. We made love almost everywhere, in my car, hotels, mscp, open concept car park, at my apartment and Spa Pool :p She is young and wild in bed BUT not adventurous. Even when she is on code red, she will give in to me. If situation not possible, she will perform a HJ on me and ease me off. We seldom talk abt $$$ issue. I will try my best to help for the care and concern she did for me ; will ferry her, get her stuffs and gifts from reputable brands, bring her to up class spas to pamper her. When we dine (fine dinning or even hawkers), she wont have to worry abt payment. I will settle 99% of the times - good gentle gesture :) At times, i will pass her few hundreds out of heart (She work partime in a pub to make ends meet, which is why i respected her, a responsible mum)
We were very happy, she promised she will stay by me, even as a 3rd party, she dun mind no status and suffering. She told me she was never being pamper by her ex-boyfrn or ex-husband with this kinda of (i would say lavish treatment).

However, good things also comes to and end, natural disaster will strike, after almost a year, we started to quarrel over issue, e.g. she give out nos to guys who ask for it, started to go out with guys who has show interest in her. Reason - she is lonely at times, feel stress as a 3rd party. (As you know, i had a family and cant always be with her, at times i wanted to meet her up also, but i had my limitation as well as a married man)

[alan0338]

camping here liao, interesting leh.... :D

[chinchiahoe]

Wow, a story of different context. Good headstart. Camping with all my outdoor barang barang. Pls continue!

[chinchiahoe]

Furthermore, seems like virgin post from TS. Good acceleration from the Audi driver. :)

[AudiKoupA5]

Furthermore, seems like virgin post from TS. Good acceleration from the Audi driver. :)
There u go... tragedy coming;

She started to see a guy (playboy, divorce also), which she knows him before me, eventually she fall in love with him (becos he is always there when she is lonely and need company). I still pick her up when she call me at this guy house afew times, i qns her do you know wat is she doing, she told me they are good frn only, nothing else. I think i was navie in believing her, i only something is wrong, but i choose to belive her cos love is blind :D Despite this deteriorate condition, we are still together, but of course not that close anymore. We seldom made love anymore, at most kiss. The dramatic part is that, one day, she call me up telling me she is pregnant and the baby is mine. I was shock, i told her that how can that possible, (the last time we make love was on the 9 days after her peroid, and i did withdraw method) I mean we have been making love for the pass 7 to 9 months, sometimes we go all out without protection and even shot in during safe peroid. Nothing happen also. I was skeptical. But again, i choose to believe her. We went for an abortion, to be discreet and protect her, the ops was done at a very reputable private hospital. ($2k if any bro wan to known) - Later i found out that she and the guy actually had sex a couple of times in his house during the peroid. (No wonder, she didn't turn up at work many a times during the period and uncontactable) - I WAS TRUAMATISED & ANGRY:mad: I wonder the baby is it really belong to me???

I wanted to put an end to this relationship after i get to know everything. I was extremely upset. I had to managed my work, family and her. I really ask myself why i have to go through these shit. I have a bright future and happy family.
I was stressed. However, she beg for forgiveness, want to come back to me like before. I say no way, but my heart soften. She shows repent, start to show care and concern, no matter how i tarnish her, she will just accept cos she know is her fault. In conclusion, i accepted her back on conditions she had to broken off with ther guys. (Anyway, this guy is a real loser - he treat her like dirt, even ask $$ from her. This is one of the reasons why she leave him, she have a child to support, how can support another man) :D

[AudiKoupA5]

The story continues....

Life for us goes on. However, damages and phobia is oredi done. As times goes, the scar somehow gets lighter less painful (I m a easy going man, forget and forgive). We still continue to have great sex, we kiss passionately everytime, she moan with great thrilled which is a turn-on for me (it’s a sexy kind not those china gal kao pei kao bu kind) hehe ; Sometimes i have to cover her mouth( Haha… scared neighbour complain
, it’s real loud) especially when i push hard and reach her max. Her pair of boobs is irressitble to me, 34C, with nice auroras (AV type and sensitive nipple) i will fondle, squeeze, lick the nip and really tease them. She will just lay down and let me autoroam. There was a period, when I had free “human milk” to consume. Taste Good. Ask those father and they will tell u…. Haha… At Office, she like to wear short skirts and low tight blouse, which always capture my attention, making me fantasize. When opportunity comes, I will just brush her top purposely with my chest or arm, just to tease her. We also did a quickie kiss, along the stairways. haha... (i m a naugthy father and i have to admit):p Having an office spouse is fun but at a price!

Everything goes on well till, Tusnami strikes again, this time, she get involved in a guy, the difference is, she told me about it. She told me, she just need a companion, to keep her accompany when she is lonely. As I cant see her as often, due to work and family commimtment. She assure me, it will be pure companionship; no sex involve.
she told me she still love me very much and dun want to lose me and will make love with me only. She request to stay by my sided, when i need love, she will be there for me. i refused and told her to let go but she can't bear end this relationship. I feel stressed up over this relationship. However, when I am stress and told her abt it she will be there to comfort (made love to me even more gf feeling, just wan to make me feel good).

[RealEstateGuy]

Brother, she's a loser dating a married man and opening up her pussy to another guy at the same time. You too are a loser for betraying your wife and kids. Shame on you. You currently have the option of being a better husband and father or f'ing it up all together ie ending up in divorce to that loser you think you are in love with. The choice is yours. I don't think you really lover her or you would have left for her a long time ago. SG society going down in the gutter every day. Should be a wholesome society yest infidelity paid sex and all sorts of social ills are swarming.

[abchow]

HI bro,

If I were you , I would distance my self from this woman. You have a good family and good job. DO not let some woman get over your heart and make trouble for you.
Its no fun having to juggle this relationship..
very stressful !

[sabcf]

Better not to have deep emotion with this woman. Remember your wife and two lovely children are most important and don't hurt them.

Better let her knows that you are there only for fun like she is also having fun with you and other man.

[roller]

Gr8t story , but if its real , then better wake up for your family . :)

[nin-nao-hiah]

You are going to hate me when I tell you this but I will tell you anyway:

If your story is for real, then you are an asshole & an idiot.

You have a good job, housing, car, a wife & two beautiful children. Why the hell do you want to get involve with this woman?

You should treasure your family & your job because not everyone is as lucky as you to have what you have. I hope you will learn to want what you have.

If you need companionship you should remember the reasons how & why you fell in love with your wife in the beginning & why you got married. If you need sex (like me & most bros here) occasionally then you should simply pay for it & then be done with it. Why get involve emotionally?

[simple2kee]

interesting! camping here.

[AudiKoupA5]

Testing... To be continue....

[chinchiahoe]

Bro TS, I hope this ordeal of yours is a thing of the past, and not a still ongoing relationship. Juggling the lady at home, family, career and an extramarital relation is definitely not learning ABC. I do understand cos I just ended my additional relationship not long ago too. If you are still with, hope you can make a clean break soon. Your family and career should come 1st. ECA like this should only be carried out if you've the surplus timing.

Anyway, your story is well written and hope to see you continue soon. Give you some petrol(my humble 1-pt) to top up your tank so you can go the extra mile. :)

[BoinKING]

wah as much as i want to say no, i also want to see how it ends in the gamble..
Can you have it all and how do you manage it..interesting indeed

[Steelix]

good one camping for more

[AudiKoupA5]

Bro TS, I hope this ordeal of yours is a thing of the past, and not a still ongoing relationship. Juggling the lady at home, family, career and an extramarital relation is definitely not learning ABC. I do understand cos I just ended my additional relationship not long ago too. If you are still with, hope you can make a clean break soon. Your family and career should come 1st. ECA like this should only be carried out if you've the surplus timing.

Anyway, your story is well written and hope to see you continue soon. Give you some petrol(my humble 1-pt) to top up your tank so you can go the extra mile. :)
Chichiahoe, appreciate your V-Power : ) Nowadays, SGP the petrol price is alittle crazy. Yes, I agreed with you. It's very stressful and extremely guilty at times when i see my loves one. I believe i take care of my family in terms of monetary, i paid almost everything a family needs. wife dun have to worry. She just save up her salary for own used. But mmoney aside, i dun think i am a good father afterall, i failed in some aspect. I maybe good at the work but when it comes to handling emotion i m really soft to her (Dun know why is it so)

[AudiKoupA5]

Tragedy Continued;

Our realtionship move on, she treat me even better. However, i was really unhappy and stress up, many a times i wanted to give up and let go. She will look at me and drop tears, keep holding me back, she assure me she will breakoff with this guy frn and wont go out with him or as a group again. I was confused, i trust her again.

True enough, a few weeks later, they part, there are a few reasons, 1) Guys are guys, he started to ask her for sex. She refused end up quarreling.
2) Character differences. Different in perspective due to age barrier. Everyday quarrel.
3) She doesn't want to see me getting stress up anymore, she feel really bad and sorry.
Coincidences, i did happen to see them when i was with my family, my opinon with this guy ;
1) No looks, No $$$, No Audi A4 just kidding (No offence); Only a bike to ferry her.
I may not be ravishing, but there are ladies in my office at various dept who are curious abt me, and ask around who i am wat i m doing : ) , I really wonder what my office spouse is thinking at times, maybe she need someone who can stay with her for long to give her a future.

She cames back to me, sincerely promised, she will not leave me for another guys again. She told me she really love me : ) How abt that bro?

[AudiKoupA5]

wah as much as i want to say no, i also want to see how it ends in the gamble..
Can you have it all and how do you manage it..interesting indeed
Boinking, u r really noti (just kidding, no offence) posts up for you... keep reading.

[Bangster]

The downfall of every man is to be KC'ed.

No matter how rich and powerful he is...
kena KC'ed...habis.

[BoinKING]

Boinking, u r really noti (just kidding, no offence) posts up for you... keep reading.

I don't believe anyone is a saint.
It may happen to me one day, but at least I know what happens now and what to do in future..

chinese say secretly eat, just remember to wipe your mouth.. 偷吃要记得吗嘴巴 ;););)

Gib you 3 points as tips for sharing =)

[alan0338]

I maybe good at the work but when it comes to handling emotion i m really soft to her (Dun know why is it so)

her juice is intoxicating u :p

nice story , pls carry on, tks :)

[voice]

Do remember your family when you play outside , family are always the most important . :)

[chinchiahoe]

Chichiahoe, appreciate your V-Power : ) Nowadays, SGP the petrol price is alittle crazy. Yes, I agreed with you. It's very stressful and extremely guilty at times when i see my loves one. I believe i take care of my family in terms of monetary, i paid almost everything a family needs. wife dun have to worry. She just save up her salary for own used. But mmoney aside, i dun think i am a good father afterall, i failed in some aspect. I maybe good at the work but when it comes to handling emotion i m really soft to her (Dun know why is it so)

Bro TS, I can somehow understand how you feel. Afterall, we are emotional creatures. We tend to have our individual soft spots.

But situation can turn dire if your wife finds out..(touch wood). What if you go out with this fling, which I think it's more of a relationship now, and you are spotted by your wife's friends or family members. They'll feedback to her and hell will break loose. Unless your wife is the kind of lady who will close 1 eye.

As the saying goes, don't eat and shit at the same place. 1 of my main reason that I stopped my additional affair was due to fear. Each affair should not last for too long or repercussion has a very high chance to occur. Take the bros advice here. :)

[MonteCristo]

I sigh when reading this thread. But I have long learned not to judge. I only hope for an amicable and happy ending to this life story, in that everyone is happy (wife, TS, office spouse).

[PornKing]

bro audi is audiA5??

been following your story lol :D

[lekdaen]

dont trust the women go back to your wife play finish bonk finish go back to your family

[lekdaen]

go back home asdsadfasdfsadfsadfsadfsadfsadf

[bigbirdbird]

Interesting story , camping here :D

[arsenal_84]

The downfall of every man is to be KC'ed.

No matter how rich and powerful he is...
kena KC'ed...habis.

super agree!
a long term affair is always bound to be damaging especially for a man with a family.
how many can truly hide such matters from the wife without being found out ?

[sg_boytoy]

Dear TS, stop wallowing in self-pity and self-righteousness. There is no good reason for whatever you're doing as married man and a father.

If it was right, you should be able to tell your wife and kids about it, but it's not so my advice is to stop destroying your family.

You have a job that pays decently, focus on your job instead.

;)

[Dylkait]

nice story please carry on , thks

[MoralEpitome]

Dear TS, stop wallowing in self-pity and self-righteousness. There is no good reason for whatever you're doing as married man and a father.

If it was right, you should be able to tell your wife and kids about it, but it's not so my advice is to stop destroying your family.

You have a job that pays decently, focus on your job instead.

;)

I kinda agree, if you are married, better to go for transactional and not feelings

[kue19xx]

Hi TS..

From a family point of view...stop! before your love one get hurts..it is a terrible feeling..not any amount of money would buy back the trust...

I know it is easier said then done..I do eat out but never bring it home..I experienced a hell break loose once..I cant afford to break again..

Like one of the bro mentioned..we are emotional creatures...sometimes it is realy hard....

Thanks for sharing yr real life story..

[DarthRevan]

Interesting..keen to know the aftermath :D

[1nottiboy]

TS, i understand the situation that you are in and I wanna tell you that to eat outside is normal. having a FB is also normal. But when emotions are involved with the food outside, thats a BIG no-no!!!

I hang out with a bunch of frens and relatives about the same age group and social status (as you) and I can tell you that none of us bring emotional baggage home. WE HAVE TOO MUCH TO LOSE!!! The 2 main reasons why we don't have mistresses is because of our fear of losing our kids and losing half our assets (that's a lot of money and no woman is worth that type of money even if you have too much to burn). We focus our energies on making money, partying hard outside of sg, and maybe the occassional ONS/FB (based on the stories we share, I estimate that each guy gets about 1 new ONS/FB a year). So before you ruin your life and your children's lifes, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get your priorities right!!!

I know the pain is going to be hard to bear but there are always painkillers. When I went thru the very same episode in my life, I used alcohol and fucked my balls dry with FLs to stop the pain. It worked for me and it should work for you too. 1 of the reason you are finding it hard to let go is cos you are thinking with your dick and when your testis are full of sperm. Once you have released all your sperm, your thinking ability will return.

I don't know your wife, but I can tell you that my wife's devotion to me is only second to my mum's. I give my wife so much nonsense that I am amazed that she loves me more than ever. I give her so little (love and money) but yet she gives me her everything. I can safely tell you from what I see around me, most wives' devotion to their husband is total. I am sure yours is too. So please treasure that. I know all the guys around me do.

And 1 last thing, you are fucking way too close to home. Go ahead and get a FB but not from the work place.

Hope this helps.

[blohsg]

But when emotions are involved with the food outside, thats a BIG no-no!!!

I can tell you that none of us bring emotional baggage home. WE HAVE TOO MUCH TO LOSE!!!

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get your priorities right!!!

Once you have released all your sperm, your thinking ability will return.

I don't know your wife, but I can tell you that my wife's devotion to me is only second to my mum's. I give my wife so much nonsense that I am amazed that she loves me more than ever. I give her so little (love and money) but yet she gives me her everything. I can safely tell you from what I see around me, most wives' devotion to their husband is total. I am sure yours is too. So please treasure that. I know all the guys around me do.

Pearls of Wisdom :cool::D

[Cunt-Sucker]

TS, first of all, thanks for sharing this experience (I'm assuming it's real & not fictitious huh?).

I think most of the bro here would have come across something similar in their lives. For me, I used to be in your same situation too; however, my GF was not as accommodating when it concerned my family. She didn't try to create havoc for me by threatening to spill out the beans or informing my wife, but she was really hoping that I could make the split with my then-wife. Back then, I lacked the courage though I was already having different set of problems with my then-wife. I rejected my GF, and she cried so hard in front of me that I almost relented. But then, I thought, since I was the ass-hole who started this problem, then I have not right to hurt my then-wife like that; I'd rather suffer in silent with my GF than to hurt another innocent party. And so, we truly broke off ... Of course, it helped that my GF was from Japan and thus couldn't really stay here for long to drag things on ...

Fast forward now, I finally pluck up the courage to severe the ties with my ex-wife, and after some times, I'm now happily married to a local girl now. Although at times, I'm having problems with my current wife in terms of the amount of sex that we're having, and that I am still exposed to ample of opportunities to jump into the bandwagon of FB with KC (I have to admit, it's a totally different experience making love to someone with KC vs. fucking a whore, and the difference can be very addictive & tempting) I'm restricting myself to only the professionals for the following reasons:

1. I made a promise to never let another girl cry so heartbrokenly;
2. I truly love my wife, & I've kept a copy of the vow that I took when I married her in my phone, so that it can act as my "Bible" in times of emergency :p ;
3. I'm trying to atone my mistakes for as much as I can, since I'm now a proud Dad of a real beautiful and heartwarming princess, and I certainly pray hard that my princess will NEVER have to go through any of such sufferings in her path of relationship (No choice lah! As we age everyday, can't help but to become more & more superstitious on things like Karma & retributions ... :o )

Just my 2-cents worth ... Hope you don't mind my nagging! All the best & take care!

[Bangster]

If phone no battery, how?

[AudiKoupA5]

Interesting..keen to know the aftermath :D
Life goes on....(continued)

We are back together again. Looking back, we have been discreetly together for 2 years n 2 mths. We been through plenty of happy n rough times. I believe, this is the main reason why we are holding on - cherish our love n effort we had invested, we are do used to each other at certain day of the time. We still make love, but not as frequent as before. 1 or twice a mth. Due to the fact, she has no mood for it. Becos of the certain issue, things started to change, she start to hint me - giving her $$$. She started to talk abt $$$ with me but did not demand. I dun blame her, being s single mother is difficult, her son will be going to school soon. She had her own set of problems to resolve. The thoughtfulness n sweet moment we used to have started to go missing. There was not much effort. I was unhappy.
I start to wonder.... should I offer her $ on a regular basis, to help her take care of her present problem? So tat she will be happy again? I ask myself, what will I get at the end of the days? Shld I give in to her other request.... I start to feel very unhappy.... I feel like giving up, giving up everything as the love is fading.... my energy is depleting n mind always so heavy, I only feeling like having sex with her without obligation, but as a matter of principle, I decided I should not treat her this way.Why not just let our love slowly died off....


P.s. wonder was I being zapped? I rem Bro chichiahoe n boinking did fill up my Audi A5 coupe. Fuel tank leak. Haha...

[chinchiahoe]

Yes Bro TS, someone zapped you. Maybe he's not happy with the way you handle this extramarital affair.

But anyway, since you mentioned that the love is dying off and things are alot different from before, I truly think that it's time to move on. You mentioned that you were thinking what will you get in the end, I think you may end up getting a broken family. Make a wise choice bro. What can you expect to get out of a underground relationship? :)

[naturegreen]

Wanna makan outside, make sure at the end of the day, know how to go back home. That's rule number 1 for married men/women.

[chinchiahoe]

What happened Bro TS? Don't tell me the worst happened? That's why you never update for so long.

[axxo]

coz ppl zap him

[penisman]

Bro TS,
I was in your shoes and situations last year. trust me it was a tragic end for me. I had a great career path ahead of me, a trusting and loving wife. i got involved with a lady and my wife came to know about it end of last year.
now my wife and i was separated (preparing for a divorce) and my career went down the drain as i could not concentrate on work.

so Bro TS, cherish your family and have a clean breakup with the lady before something bad really happens.

[Chanelfingers]

DEAR TS,
Has She given birth?
You mentioned "Human milk"
Have you done a paternity test?

Dun hurt your family for the woman outside.
It is not worth it.
She may be a good lover and a good colleague.
As a wife, she may fail and you will lose the all.
Eat Out dun tabao home!!

As a Woman, I'll let you know what she is thinking...
She feels miserable and lonely when she knows you are with your family, your wife.
She wish someone else who shower her with love, making her feel wanted at same time while you are with family.
That is her Part time lover/BF.

She doesnt have the marital status, only passion from you.
Everyone wished to have a complete family. You have one, She has none.

She doesnt have wealth, Maybe that's why she is hinting you to give her money.
Money isnt everything but in events of bad health , bad times...Money is very Important.
With Money you have Choices, without Money Bo Bianz...

She has to raise a child .
Money will certainly Bring up the child Easier

I am not sure how old is the child.
But He/She will soon learn mom is a mistress.
The Child may be accustomed and choose to bury the fact.
0r grow to lose respect for the mother.
Maybe that is on her mind, maybe i think too much...
what adults are able to comprehend, Kids can too...

Her age is increasing.
As a woman, She will feel insecure, Unspoken but definitely their concerns.
How many years can she be your mistress?
Not long later, a Younger, Prettier and sexier gal joins your conpany?

She will age and grow wrinkles, she will lose her role as a mistress.
Will you be there caring for her when she is sick and old?
Who will be the one who would grow old with her and by her side?
You would have your wife...she has no husband.
SHe has a child, but you should know Love from a soulmate is different from one of a child.

She needs the money cus end of day, she will not have the man.

Just sharing some thoughts...
:D :)

[AudiKoupA5]

DEAR TS,
Has She given birth?
You mentioned "Human milk"
Have you done a paternity test?

Dun hurt your family for the woman outside.
It is not worth it.
She may be a good lover and a good colleague.
As a wife, she may fail and you will lose the all.
Eat Out dun tabao home!!

As a Woman, I'll let you know what she is thinking...
She feels miserable and lonely when she knows you are with your family, your wife.
She wish someone else who shower her with love, making her feel wanted at same time while you are with family.
That is her Part time lover/BF.

She doesnt have the marital status, only passion from you.
Everyone wished to have a complete family. You have one, She has none.

She doesnt have wealth, Maybe that's why she is hinting you to give her money.
Money isnt everything but in events of bad health , bad times...Money is very Important.
With Money you have Choices, without Money Bo Bianz...

She has to raise a child .
Money will certainly Bring up the child Easier

I am not sure how old is the child.
But He/She will soon learn mom is a mistress.
The Child may be accustomed and choose to bury the fact.
0r grow to lose respect for the mother.
Maybe that is on her mind, maybe i think too much...
what adults are able to comprehend, Kids can too...

Her age is increasing.
As a woman, She will feel insecure, Unspoken but definitely their concerns.
How many years can she be your mistress?
Not long later, a Younger, Prettier and sexier gal joins your conpany?

She will age and grow wrinkles, she will lose her role as a mistress.
Will you be there caring for her when she is sick and old?
Who will be the one who would grow old with her and by her side?
You would have your wife...she has no husband.
SHe has a child, but you should know Love from a soulmate is different from one of a child.

She needs the money cus end of day, she will not have the man.
Just sharing some thoughts...
:D :)


Dear Chanel,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. True enough, wat you had mention n pointed out was wat she had told me before. Ultimately, she just need someone who can give her a definate future, take care of her, love n dote her. I did mention to her, if she found someone, she can just go with a peace of mind. I wish her well. But she told me this is not wat she WAN. Like wat you mention, she hope to finda Bf (pt or ft), but she will not give up on me. It's gng to be more complicated, more ppl will get hurt. Wat will happened when her bf discovered our discreet relationship? Dun think anybody can take it.
Dear Chanel, tell me wat you do n how to move on. We know eventually, we will part.

[maulsg]

Dear Chanel,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. True enough, wat you had mention n pointed out was wat she had told me before. Ultimately, she just need someone who can give her a definate future, take care of her, love n dote her. I did mention to her, if she found someone, she can just go with a peace of mind. I wish her well. But she told me this is not wat she WAN. Like wat you mention, she hope to finda Bf (pt or ft), but she will not give up on me. It's gng to be more complicated, more ppl will get hurt. Wat will happened when her bf discovered our discreet relationship? Dun think anybody can take it.
Dear Chanel, tell me wat you do n how to move on. We know eventually, we will part.

u r supporting her current financial situation leh, of cos she will tell u she dun wanna leave u lah.. cut off the financial support n see how she will react.
she is just being a greedy bitch lah, having a fish in the net while waiting for other bigger fish to come by only. (hmm.. aint we all like tat too?)

[Chanelfingers]

Dear Chanel,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me. True enough, wat you had mention n pointed out was wat she had told me before. Ultimately, she just need someone who can give her a definate future, take care of her, love n dote her. I did mention to her, if she found someone, she can just go with a peace of mind. I wish her well. But she told me this is not wat she WAN. Like wat you mention, she hope to finda Bf (pt or ft), but she will not give up on me. It's gng to be more complicated, more ppl will get hurt. Wat will happened when her bf discovered our discreet relationship? Dun think anybody can take it.
Dear Chanel, tell me wat you do n how to move on. We know eventually, we will part.
Tell her getting a divorce and marrying her is impossible cus the alimony and hassle will make u half as Rich...
And you dun wish to see your child grow up with another man(stepdad)
End up twisted like Chanel...
You mentioned u wish her well but truth is u will have emotional attachments and u will not bear to see her leave. Similarly for her, she will not be able to find a gd man and marry.
If u want to be responsible to your family... Leave this mistress once u r done...or when u found next gal...
The money u give her is all she had when u leave her... Cus looks like she will lose her job with ur company too( that is the clean way to break)
So dun complain about $$$...
If u feel too expensive, then use FL / WL etc...
I'm always siding family cus I understand there is wife and children.

[DapHn33333]

Dear TS, actually you sound like a fresh crab.

Seller bought some fresh crabs and keep them in the tank. they are fresh with fat meat and it sell highest price. However if u keep them too long they will be less meat or shall i say nothing to eat for the crabs. once the seller notice there is some crabs left in the tank for 2 weeks or more, they sell at the low price which so call promotion once u have a bite u know.

what i trying to tell you that is, u give her all the financial support. she use u or shall i say she "NEED" you. once u stop giving her money. she will let u go like selling u away in a low price. She can find others BIG MEAT to provide her.

hope u tell her and settle all the issue and just stop giving her money.

[jjtiew]

Bro u really not steady n very stupid... Having fb, fling, ons, pros all normal... Look at yourself u happily married with kids... Do u have the right to angry with her when she is meeting guy outside? R u too selfish? U only think of yourself only...she still a human need love n family....can u marry her...let me tell u NO WAY... Let me tell u a short story... I done that with my ex colleague, but before everything started I make it very clear ,
1- she can go out with any guy n need not report to me...
2-make clear I will not divorce because of her
3-I never say I love u to another women other than my own wife
4-can't disturb me after office hr
5- can't ask for money or gift
6-we do it just because both have a need
7-if unlucky get caught...died died never sabo each...never never admit we have sex before


Before started she say
1- I don't mine to be 3rd party - I scolded her n say stupid
2- always wan to be my mistress - as above
3-she love me - as above

I am a straight forward guy, can't meet my require don't cum out n play..I rather visit pros...paid n go ...


Bros u going too far Liao, just let her go, trust me someday u will suffer more than her n hurt your own family...

Look " she really got nothing to lose but u will lose everything......

[blohsg]

C/F : not twisted ... maybe scarred ... but still good :)

well ... you're neither here nor there ... so make it clear so that it's not so grey.

Hope you can move on from here.

[Chanelfingers]

Chanel : not twisted ... maybe scarred ...

Twarted concepts of relationships
Fear of marriage commitments
Adnormally Unfazed by bad situations
Tactless, blatant, stubborn, impatience
Still a flawed character

[AudiKoupA5]

Twarted concepts of relationships
Fear of marriage commitments
Adnormally Unfazed by bad situations
Tactless, blatant, stubborn, impatience
Still a flawed character

CF, tank you for the advise, not forgetting all bros who have shared their personal view., thanks to chinchiahoe n boinking for the concern n also up my pts. Greatly appreciated. I will return favour, if I had the opportunity , someday ; )Like u mention, once emotional attachment is involved, things are not tat simple anymore. It is difficult to fuck n forget
t - we hve been doing regularly for a peroid of time. And also all the stuffs we hve done n sacrifices for each other, no doubts, there is some hiccup. It's really complicated n stressful.She also understand my position, as a father n husband, she will never break up my family.She dun want my child to gone through wat her son is facing now. She just keep n suffer in silently, like u say, someday, she can't tahan anymore n she will decided to give up on me. In summary, it's a mistaken n wrong for us to start this relationship. I will relook at everything n hope for a amicable ending, if possible.

[toilet]

No money no talk :D

[LoveAngel]

..... Like u mention, once emotional attachment is involved, things are not tat simple anymore. It is difficult to fuck n forget ..... it's a mistaken n wrong for us to start this relationship. I will relook at everything n hope for a amicable ending, if possible.

Yes, it's not easy to forget once emotional attachments are involved, unless both parties are strong & 'sensible' enough to know where the line is & stick to your side of the game.

I always believe, never start what you cannot finish. But since it has started, be careful how you end it. Have a good talk & find an amicable solution for both parties to abide by.

Whatever it is, just never be a 'bastard' in how you handle the breakup ... if you know what I mean.
Remember, hell knows no fury like a woman's scorned ......
Do it slowly if you must
Ease it gently if possible
Let it die off if it can
But if it has to be a quick death, then please be as humane as possible, & not be a 'bastard' about it.


“It’s not where you start – it’s where & how you finish that counts.”

[Yardstick]

Bro, what you need to know, you already know. And that is to understand that your relationship with her can never outlast the one you have with your wife, unless you choose to end it.

As for her part, i think it is time for you stop contacting her that much. Yes, you are both in the same company. But you can still minimise contact with her in the company and outside. Stop having sex with her. Stop meeting her one-to-one. Let her realise that she has to learn to let go and move on if she finds a man suitable for her. Not someone like you who can only give her momentary love and money to fill her physical and material needs.

As you have mentioned, she comes from a divorced family, not just herself but also her parents. There is a strong possibility that she also looks to you as a fatherly character at the same time who can take care of her.

You two really should sit down and talk it out calmly instead of always ending up with her in tears and you relenting. It is going to be a neverending cycle. You may want to consider bringing her to a psychiatrist or counsellor to help her walk out of your relationship and start anew. You end even want to consider a close friend, if there is any who knows what is going on between you two.

At the end of the day, remember that sometimes, we do things we regret for life. But while you still have a chance to change the ending or lessen the impact, do it.

Good luck, Bro.

[AudiKoupA5]

One year later........

In life, changes are the only constant. Just want to update you guys who have been giving me your utmost sincere suggestion.

Finally, we parted. Everything ended amicably. Life goes on for us. She's in a relationship now, with someone junior then her (regular in the SAF, not earning much though) . But i hope she is happy now, as she found someone who love her son and can take care of her and give her a proper family life.

We only see each other in facebook, dun sms or contact each other now.

As for me, i am back to myself, spending most of my time with my beautiful daughter and cheekie son, not to forget, my wife. Career is stable. Life is now peaceful and less stressful. Though, less excitement and outdoor sex. HA...

Specially Thanks - Bro Yardstick & Chanel. Cheers.

[BoinKING]

Alls well that ends well.

I think given the ordeal, you can be cheeky with wifey and fire up the romance..

[z123z]

One year later........

In life, changes are the only constant. Just want to update you guys who have been giving me your utmost sincere suggestion.

Finally, we parted. Everything ended amicably. Life goes on for us. She's in a relationship now, with someone junior then her (regular in the SAF, not earning much though) . But i hope she is happy now, as she found someone who love her son and can take care of her and give her a proper family life.

We only see each other in facebook, dun sms or contact each other now.

As for me, i am back to myself, spending most of my time with my beautiful daughter and cheekie son, not to forget, my wife. Career is stable. Life is now peaceful and less stressful. Though, less excitement and outdoor sex. HA...

Specially Thanks - Bro Yardstick & Chanel. Cheers.


Alot of people are in your shoes. Surprised that the comments you received are the right ones. When you are into "it", you don't see as well. Not easy but eventually you managed it well. Next step, A6?