Finding a FB in SBF ! Is it a disaster in the making or a blessing in disguise ? [Archive]

jasdude

13-12-2011, 06:41 PM

Hi guys and gals

Another interesting question for all to discuss here ! Finding a FB in SBF ! Is it a disaster in the making or a blessing in disguise ?

If you have a FB here , all you side activities will have to stop cos it visible to the other partner . On the other hand , it enhances the relationship cos both you guys have a common topic .

What is your take on this . Hope to get actual couples that hooked up or previously hooked up to response also .

zacarie

13-12-2011, 08:50 PM

It can be a blessing and also a disaster.
Blessing.. common topic will be sbf. the posts and discussions. U can talk sexual stuff openly as u prolly know tt the other party is not as innocent as they seem. since they are here.

Disaster.. whatever fl, gb etc activities tt u have done can be seen clearly here. tt's if it was all done using the same nick.

the side activities may have stopped w the current nick. but if they have clones? U will not know what other things are they doing.. cause u dont know it is them..

And then comes the sharing of experience.. when together i guess both are fine bout it. But when u split? Will they still be ok reading the posts tt u write that involves both of them? It depends on individual person how well they took the ending of the relationship.

Then comes the private messaging.. if ur partner trusts u completely, he/she will trust u with how u handle ur sbf acct. Some may get jealous/upset tt u are receiving pms from others(esp the gals who recieves pm from guys). I remember my ex fb told me 'y dont u just stop posting on sbf so no guys will pm u.'
and u cant hide tt u did cause they have an acct to see it. haha. But me being me.. Like to give my opinions on certain things.:p

Cant really put a good or bad to it. it really depends on how ur partner is. :)

smartke

13-12-2011, 08:53 PM

just 'dropped by' to support tis thread... :)

Apocalypse

13-12-2011, 08:54 PM

bengeo

13-12-2011, 10:08 PM

FLs who are in financial difficulties are good candidates to be FB. offer settle their problem , negotiate for a rate where both parties are happy.They will be more than happy just to serve one customer instead of many stranger. It is a win win, you get to fuck her on an agreed rate and frequency. she only need to serve one client, and pretend you are BF during the time. As fb she feel less a prostitute. One condition,she must not be attached to anyone at that time to avoid complication.
Had this arrangement 2 years ago with one FL who was facing credit card debt. Once she clear the debt,we quit ,and today she is a happy air stewardess with SQ.

FRwriter

13-12-2011, 10:17 PM

I'm not too sure, but if I'm wrong, pls correct me..
Here the FLs or WLs mentioned, mostly are into commercial sex?

So doubt will be easy to find a FB here?

Snah

14-12-2011, 07:08 AM

zacarie

14-12-2011, 10:40 AM

Morning Ms Zacarie..

Hmm...I had a similar case as well...i was upset that my ex FB received PMs from fellow bros here...But the reason I was upset was because we had agreed to remain exclusively to each other. so much so she had given me total access to her acct (she was giving to me willingly, no force here). Guess she didnt understand or we both got the meaning totally wrong. ;)

Cheers!

Tt's good for u then. I gave mine to him cause i cant stand him constantly asking'so? Any new PMs?' so just gave it. but even after he had it. it wasnt any better cause whenever there was a new pm can tell he wasnt happy bout it at all..

And i doubt u could have forced her as well. u cant possibly say 'give me ur pw so i can check on u' right? Quite curious.. how did u know she gave it to u willingly? And not just for the sake of giving? :)

and since u said u both have agreed on being exclusive to each other. y did she still have to give it to u? did u make her feel tt u dont trust her?For mine. i felt tt way. so gave it to him after too many qns asked.

Just wondering if ur ex felt the same way i did. and what cause her to want to end it? Hope u dont mind my qns.. :)

geckoSG

14-12-2011, 10:50 AM

Its a blessing I would say, mine wouldn't promote me here cos they worry too much ladies PM me later. But they do know I come here to post story once a while

BiRd13

14-12-2011, 11:12 AM

Think have it's pros n cons like what other bros mentioned...

Pros: Common topic, understand you more... and perhaps knowing how to please you better...

Cons: May get 'jealous' esp if you go for FL, HC etc...

geckoSG

14-12-2011, 11:20 AM

Cons: May get 'jealous' esp if you go for FL, HC etc...

True, for me, to be fair for my FBs and Lovers, I already quit the commercial
scene and had done tests to ensure I'm clean.

:D

jasdude

14-12-2011, 06:57 PM

FLs who are in financial difficulties are good candidates to be FB. offer settle their problem , negotiate for a rate where both parties are happy.They will be more than happy just to serve one customer instead of many stranger. It is a win win,.

Bro , this is more of a trade off indecent proposal . Monetary transactions for sexual favours does not count as FBs . More like requisitioning for a mistress already . However its does not mean FBs dun ask for things as well . My friend just brought a Chanel bag for his FB as a birthday cum Christmas cum anniversary present . They have being together for 2 years .

Haha , Is it even possible to find one on SBF ?!

I'm not too sure, but if I'm wrong, pls correct me..
Here the FLs or WLs mentioned, mostly are into commercial sex?

So doubt will be easy to find a FB here?

Yes it is very possible . There are lots of silent female readers in here . Please do not mix them up with FLs or WLs . Give the ladies their due respect BROs . There are many ladies of different professionals , some i meet to date are teachers , nurses , bankers and even high level executives even .

otamay

14-12-2011, 09:51 PM

In every situation, definitely there are pros and cons to it.
The most important thing is how both parties approach and handle the issue on hand objectively.
At the end of the day, it must be a win-win situation.:) Btw, I am open for one FB here if any sistas interested :D

Listener

15-12-2011, 12:55 AM

Whether disaster or blessing, it come down to both parties. Both have to understand what they are getting into and respect/trust each other.

Think twice before going into a FB relationship.

Snah

15-12-2011, 07:11 AM

Tt's good for u then. I gave mine to him cause i cant stand him constantly asking'so? Any new PMs?' so just gave it. but even after he had it. it wasnt any better cause whenever there was a new pm can tell he wasnt happy bout it at all..

And i doubt u could have forced her as well. u cant possibly say 'give me ur pw so i can check on u' right? Quite curious.. how did u know she gave it to u willingly? And not just for the sake of giving? :)

and since u said u both have agreed on being exclusive to each other. y did she still have to give it to u? did u make her feel tt u dont trust her?For mine. i felt tt way. so gave it to him after too many qns asked.

Just wondering if ur ex felt the same way i did. and what cause her to want to end it? Hope u dont mind my qns.. :)

Of cos I dont mind the qns my dear..

Well true enuff of cos i didnt ask for it. as to whether she gave to me willingly, hmmm thinking back I recall she jus pass the pw to me. I didnt sense anything else. Probably I wasnt sensitive I guess. So I assumed she did it willingly. Maybe another case of wrong interpretation and understand.

She did tell me she was feelin the pressure frm me la. hmmm...I felt sore, angry, disappointed n definetly confused after she left me. I felt my wholeworld had crushed lol. Worst break up ever in my 32 years of life def. Well I guess we had both learnt our lessons, and hopefully we both can carry on our lives..(i know she is :))

Cheers!

jasdude

15-12-2011, 07:56 AM

At the end of the day, it must be a win-win situation.:) Btw, I am open for one FB here if any sistas interested :D

Think twice before going into a FB relationship.

HAHA well said BROs , consider before you take the leap ; whether you can stomach the roller coaster ride in front of you cos its not easy managing and handling another person in your life . If you are confident , do not hesitate as hesitation today is tomorrow's regret ! seize all opportunity and rise to the occasion !

Reoxy

15-12-2011, 10:43 AM

we had agreed to remain exclusively to each other.
Cheers!

Why don't you marry her then?

zacarie

15-12-2011, 10:53 AM

I felt sore, angry, disappointed n definetly confused after she left me. I felt my whole world had crushed lol. Worst break up ever in my 32 years of life def. Well I guess we had both learnt our lessons, and hopefully we both can carry on our lives..(i know she is :))

Cheers!

Hope things are better for u now :)
Haha. yup. i guess u both did. and yes. definately u need to carry on with ur live. It's not the end.. :) all the best to u!

Why don't you marry her then?

U have me laughing out loud while i was having breakky in public.. which drew weird stares. hahaha..

jasdude

15-12-2011, 11:44 AM

Don't Make Assumptions in relationships whether its your FB or Lover or Wife or even your friends . Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

This also applies in the BIZ world .

zacarie

15-12-2011, 12:00 PM

If you are confident , do not hesitate as hesitation today is tomorrow's regret ! seize all opportunity and rise to the occasion !

Nice :)

Don't Make Assumptions in relationships whether its your FB or Lover or Wife or even your friends . Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

This also applies in the BIZ world .

Communication is the key to any kind of relationship.. A very important aspect in life..

Reoxy

15-12-2011, 12:02 PM

Don't Make Assumptions in relationships whether its your FB or Lover or Wife or even your friends .Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama .

I would like to request that FLs be included.

It is essential to communicate properly as to charges, scope of service and service duration of the FLs. Else you think she over-charge, she think you under-pay.:D

bonkster

15-12-2011, 12:52 PM

It is essential to communicate properly as to charges, scope of service and service duration of the FLs. Else you think she over-charge, she think you under-pay.:D

Hahaha...this is funny n true. :D Just can't overemphasize the importance of clear n effective communication in all aspects of our lives :p

Reoxy

15-12-2011, 12:55 PM

Hahaha...this is funny n true. :D Just can't overemphasize the importance of clear n effective communication in all aspects of our lives :p

The pair of neh neh in your avatar looks delicious.

If they belong to a FL, kindly do pm me the necessary information to make contact.:D

bengeo

15-12-2011, 02:01 PM

[QUOTE=jasdude;6675243]Bro , this is more of a trade off indecent proposal . Monetary transactions for sexual favours does not count as FBs . More like requisitioning for a mistress already . However its does not mean FBs dun ask for things as well . My friend just brought a Chanel bag for his FB as a birthday cum Christmas cum anniversary present . ........

Whether she is from a FL or lover to become FB, there is always a price , be it commercial or KC .

I prefer a commercial element in it because it is clean and clear when the relationship end. No worry of any complication.

Reoxy

15-12-2011, 04:59 PM

U have me laughing out loud while i was having breakky in public.. which drew weird stares. hahaha..

Thank you for the compliments.;)

jasdude

15-12-2011, 08:02 PM

I would like to request that FLs be included.

I prefer a commercial element in it because it is clean and clear when the relationship end. No worry of any complication.

Hahaha , you two should go cheonging together ! Great minds think alike !

wally888

15-12-2011, 08:06 PM

Finding a FB in SBF definitely a blessing. Feeling like strike 4D!

jasdude

15-12-2011, 08:10 PM

Finding a FB in SBF definitely a blessing. Feeling like strike 4D!

Finding a FB is like striking 4D but finding the right one is like striking TOTO !

wally888

15-12-2011, 08:14 PM

Finding a FB is like striking 4D but finding the right one is like striking TOTO !

Ya, TOTO got to b Group 1 & have to be exclusive! :D

bengeo

15-12-2011, 08:14 PM

Finding a FB is like striking 4D but finding the right one is like striking TOTO !

Been there ,done That but no feeling of striking toto le. But it is a win-win for both of us.
Now looking for another one.lol

Ravenzou

15-12-2011, 08:24 PM

If one did found one FB here in this forum, then the reason or point of this relationship is clearly lay out = purely sex + some communication.

The purpose of this forum is a SEX so if he/she enter here does not know the meaning then good luck but on the other hand we are human and have emo so one has to handle it correctly.

tapin

15-12-2011, 08:47 PM

purely sex + some communication.

The purpose of this forum is a SEX so if he/she enter here does not know the meaning then good luck but on the other hand we are human and have emo so one has to handle it correctly.

True this is a sex forum , its enter at your own discretion and if anything happens it out of your own free will . FB relationship is like any other relationship ! proper handling is always needed if not more to maintain it .

Been there ,done That but no feeling of striking toto le. But it is a win-win for both of us.
Now looking for another one.lol

True , but if you look at the many that had not experience it like you . You cannot agree that you are lucky shit .

jasdude

15-12-2011, 10:32 PM

Been there ,done That but no feeling of striking toto le. But it is a win-win for both of us.
Now looking for another one.lol

True this is a sex forum , its enter at your own discretion and if anything happens it out of your own free will . FB relationship is like any other relationship ! proper handling is always needed if not more to maintain it .

True , but if you look at the many that had not experience it like you . You cannot agree that you are lucky shit .

What bro tapin said is very true bro . Good luck in looking for a new one !

ConsenualLust

16-12-2011, 10:49 AM

I had a FB that is active in here once . She was my first actually , I told her , its okie to see other people in here as long she tell me . I gave her free play but she did not give me the basic respect . She lied to me , and worse of all she was bedding guys like addiction . When I asked her about it , she conveniently deny everything when i had rock solid proof . I dumped her . She went on a lying and rumours spreading spree about me . Till now she think I don't know , its just that I don't want to confront her cos what matters most is what my friends think of me . my friends in here know me better and they trust that i am not that kind of a person cos they themselves know her personally and know what she is capable of .

HunterJ

16-12-2011, 11:54 AM

I personally feel, even if this is a Sex Forum, doesn't everyone needs and wants to have sex? Within the Maslow Hierarchy of Needs, the 1st and foremost thing to fulfill is physiological needs, which is the basic needs (food, water, sex, etc.). And doesn't mean that being here "labels" someone as Unfaithful, Horny, Slut, Bastard, or any other indecent meanings about an individual.

Finding a FB in SBF, is a blessing, IF you are looking for one. But, if you are just surfing around, sharing thoughts and experiences, looking for information, I believe it is a disaster in the making.

One must be prepared for what is coming ahead, most importantly know what you are doing !! Putting your head into something you are not prepared for, means digging a grave for yourself. I once had a FB years ago, everything started so suddenly, and ended peacefully. Till now, I am still very good friends with this girl, but yet to try if she would like to continue the FB relationship.

No matter what, be responsible for everything we do, treat people with respect, every relationship will have a feeling in it, so good luck !! =D

Reoxy

16-12-2011, 12:11 PM

And doesn't mean that being here "labels" someone as Unfaithful, Horny, Slut, Bastard, or any other indecent meanings about an individual.

I hope I am not the only Horny, Unfaithful, Indecent Individual Bastard surfing this forum...:D

Finding a FB in SBF, is a blessing, IF you are looking for one. But, if you are just surfing around, sharing thoughts and experiences, looking for information, I believe it is a disaster in the making.

I \TOTALLY do not understand this portion. How can it be a disaster in the making if all one does is surf around sharing thoughts and experiences and looking for information?

Well probably because I am a Horny, Unfaithful, Indecent Individual Bastard.;)

HunterJ

16-12-2011, 02:33 PM

I hope I am not the only Horny, Unfaithful, Indecent Individual Bastard surfing this forum...:D

I \TOTALLY do not understand this portion. How can it be a disaster in the making if all one does is surf around sharing thoughts and experiences and looking for information?

Well probably because I am a Horny, Unfaithful, Indecent Individual Bastard.;)

LOL !! You are not alone bro !! hahaha....

What I meant is, if I only want to surf around sharing thoughts and experiences, but implicated myself with a FB, then it will be a disaster. So paiseh, couldn't make myself clear.. :cool:

sjb1994

16-12-2011, 02:55 PM

I hope I am not the only Horny, Unfaithful, Indecent Individual Bastard surfing this forum...:D

.;)

Dun worry bro, you are not the only one. At lease there is still another one - me.

BiRd13

16-12-2011, 03:06 PM

Dun worry bro, you are not the only one. At lease there is still another one - me.

Count me in as well... :D

pro.d.igy

17-12-2011, 03:25 AM

This post may rub some folks here the wrong way...

Why do you guys automatically think that a FB means the relationship is exclusive? If you manage to find a FB here, why not lay down the terms somewhere along the way so that both parties won't lose track of the arrangement? If one were to demand exclusivity, why not find a GF in the first place? Your FB does have the right to have other FBs if you didn't state your intentions clear in the first place...

Another thing which I agree with is that do not automatically assume that all female samsters here are either:

1) FLs
2) Looking for FBs
3) Easy target

They might be here to find out more information about the opposite sex (which is us), that's all. :)

Apocalypse

17-12-2011, 11:06 AM

This post may rub some folks here the wrong way...

Why do you guys automatically think that a FB means the relationship is exclusive?

re: its is an assumption that is constantly trying to prove itself wrong. Even if it is exclusive, there will always be a doubt that it is truly exclusive.

If you manage to find a FB here, why not lay down the terms somewhere along the way so that both parties won't lose track of the arrangement?

re: there is a famous saying "rules are meant to be broken". At the start of every, everything is fun and novel, rules even if they exist are easily complied with. later on, it will really depend on the maturity of the 2 person.

If one were to demand exclusivity, why not find a GF in the first place? Your FB does have the right to have other FBs if you didn't state your intentions clear in the first place...
re: yup. eventually the FB r/s ends before you get a question "do you want me or your gf/wife" after the nights of wining and dining.

Another thing which I agree with is that do not automatically assume that all female samsters here are either:

1) FLs
2) Looking for FBs
3) Easy target

They might be here to find out more information about the opposite sex (which is us), that's all. :)
re: verification always comes after info gathering. :D

FL - freelance sex trade. trade = bartaring. so to disassociate the emotions, by treating your FB as your personal FL (since she is not your full time paid mistress), you buy a little gift for your FB everytime you visit her, so you can say that you paid her nevertheless. if it cost $150 for a session, likewise you can buy a sk2 cream for her for $95. There is no loss.

Easy target - The rabbit, the zebra, the wilderbeast, the ox, the elephants, none of them are easy targets. There are just good hunters or bad hunters, and no easy target. :D

just my 2 cents.

kragb

18-12-2011, 01:31 AM

Having interacted with many bros here, I think there are frankly 2 school of thoughts:
1) Opt for commercial arrangements (FL, GL, etc.) as its cleaner and less likely to leave trace (note, its not leave no trace... but lesser chance). Most likely, the guy being the client is the initiator and would not be expose to sms-es out of nowhere.

2) Opt for FB as its creates familiarity and better connection/understanding to allow hgher level of satisfaction. Issue is, there is an expiry period irregardless of how "satisfied" either party can be and usually wont last that long (few months to 1 or 2 yrs max). Being equal standing and not client/server mentality, both parties are subjected to be receiving phone calls or sms, etc. Highly unsafe means for married guy or gal.

Most cheapo or despo guys (plentiful in SBF as you can see fom the postings) see FB as a cheaper means of getting their fixes. That is also the reason why many never ever will have FB! Just look at the way they reply or post... would any gal worth their salt and in right state of mind want them? Bros like jasdude and IK hav seen too many of such cases and can probably laugh them off on a daily basis. Right? hahahaa.... me too by the way... :)

TheGreatOne

18-12-2011, 04:33 AM

bros, focus is the word here...

FOCUS - the key word here is FB, meaning Fuck and Buzzoff. Isn't it what you are seeking in the 1st place? So who cares if she fucks you then him then another him? Or you managed to hook up another FB or call FL, who cares?

If you're treating him or her as a gf or bf, then you're completely missing the point of looking for FB in the 1st place.

FB = not official status.

And don't give that holy mackerel high moral statement like respect each other etc. You don't regard her as sex tool doesn't mean she don't.

my personal views

libraboy

18-12-2011, 10:11 AM

Tt's good for u then. I gave mine to him cause i cant stand him constantly asking'so? Any new PMs?' so just gave it. but even after he had it. it wasnt any better cause whenever there was a new pm can tell he wasnt happy bout it at all..

And i doubt u could have forced her as well. u cant possibly say 'give me ur pw so i can check on u' right? Quite curious.. how did u know she gave it to u willingly? And not just for the sake of giving? :)

and since u said u both have agreed on being exclusive to each other. y did she still have to give it to u? did u make her feel tt u dont trust her?For mine. i felt tt way. so gave it to him after too many qns asked.

Just wondering if ur ex felt the same way i did. and what cause her to want to end it? Hope u dont mind my qns.. :)

I think the question is.. Being FB.. Should we be having exclusive rights to just one another and our partner only? I think being FB should not restrict or control like how they control their gf.. Though female join sammyboy forum.. Some might be for info.. And read up.. Or find FB .. There is multiple reasons for joining.. I think trust need to be there.. Be it partner or FB.. I felt it is the same..

jasdude

18-12-2011, 01:00 PM

Just look at the way they reply or post... would any gal worth their salt and in right state of mind want them? Bros like jasdude and IK hav seen too many of such cases and can probably laugh them off on a daily basis. Right? hahahaa.... me too by the way... :)

BINGO ! well some really hits you at the spot ! you don't know to be angry or laughing why they are so like that . YES a few of us are very critical to them but only to the dumb , the super desperadoes and the cons ; not to the sincere .

SparkleDoll

18-12-2011, 03:00 PM

It will be a blessing if you both have an agreement beforehand. Some like their FB exclusive others don't mind. It's different folks, different strokes. When you start to assume, that's when the trouble starts. E.g. Assuming that the ladies will be in higher danger of getting emotionally attached in FB r/s than the guys.

Totally untrue because in my precious FB arrangements it has always been the guys that start to get all sticky and possessive when we have stated beforehand that it is not exclusive. Want to be so moral might as well find gf/bf. At least that's my opinion. It is totally not true that ladies cannot compartmentalize sex and making love. I for one will never be able to go any further with a FB because what I look for in a bf/ husband will not be what I look for in an FB.

jasdude

18-12-2011, 07:22 PM

I for one will never be able to go any further with a FB because what I look for in a bf/ husband will not be what I look for in an FB.

A true blue Singaporean gal ! In a bf or hubby selection criteria . More factors are considered especially the financial stability and the job stability part etc. In a FB selection , looks and physical and chemistry are tops .

Similar to the case of finding a FB. Tied to the conquest mentality that guys may have, it may additionally be a psychological war to win bragging rights when one successful 'obtain' a FB. Some may say 'its just a matter of two willing parties'. Of course thats true, but there will be many repercussions in the future. Moments of awkwardness seeing a long-lost FB you shared the bed with years ago on the streets. The list goes on. Praying Lady Luck shining upon you is nothing wrong no doubt, but i believe one shouldn't be too fervently thinking about having a FB, sex, and all the things that comes with it. There are many more things in life that could be accomplished.!

Honestly not matter what relationships you are in ! if you handle it well ; you still can still gain from what you lose . A ex wife becomes your friend , a ex gf becomes your FB etc . Those who brag about conquests , FBs and flings can do so until the cows come home but they should know very well that they should only be proud when their partners brag about them not they about themselves . There will always be someone better and more capable . However I agree very much with you that one shouldn't be too fervently thinking about having a FB, sex, and all the things that comes with it. There are many more things in life that could be accomplished !

Reoxy

18-12-2011, 11:04 PM

Most cheapo or despo guys see FB as a cheaper means of getting their fixes.

Spot on. You understand me very well.:D

Gotten married changed me totally.

Basically, I am still the same. Only with less money.:D

YES a few of us are very critical to them but only to the dumb , the super desperadoes and the cons ; not to the sincere .

Spot on. You understand me even better. I am a sincere dumb, desperate conman.:D

I for one will never be able to go any further with a FB because what I look for in a bf/ husband will not be what I look for in an FB.

I believe we should discuss in further details.

it may additionally be a psychological war to win bragging rights when one successful 'obtain' a FB.

I never believe what people say. Until they show me pictures.:D

SH149

18-12-2011, 11:09 PM

Bro Reoxy think u better engage a FL cos in the end u may find cheaper than to have a FB :D

Also no hassle for u

Chanelfingers

19-12-2011, 01:14 AM

Gave up on FB idea. Shudders...
It is always his loss, not mine... :D:p
Better off making love with BF than a FB.

thomas83

19-12-2011, 05:31 AM

Juz to share, I found a FB in SBF, but not thru the thread i posted in the swing/orgy arrangements section, in fact i got zapped n accursed of being overly sincere n a phony in the way i replied, but i digress.

i didnt have to buy Chanel bags for my FB, or dine at fancy resturants. It wasnt a statement saying im of a high income bracket or have a car that caught her attention, but she did say im above average looking. But i guess it was mostly becoz i was respectful n sincere in my "application" when she posted her thread. And we don't msg each other often, but when we meet up, we can talk about things on an intellectual and personal level...maybe not too personal coz we only met up a couple of times so far, but comfortable enuff to share like friends who've known each other for a while. And frankly, my FB don't strike me as an attractive looking female(average, but definitely not ugly), for me its not so much abt looks, i enjoy our time together becoz what i want is to feel being wanted physically by a woman, to be able to give and receive physical affection and be mostly(not absolutely of coz) sure it is not abt monetary rewards that i can offer her. I only just pay for meals n the hotel room, and not the luxury kind, and i do that becoz as the guy i feel i shuld and she never once explicitly requested that i do(at least she is subtle wif letting me pay for the expenses instead of outrightly demand it, wat more do ask for). And also, the portion of our bedroom activity that i enjoy most is the giving, not so much the receiving. So far i've not fallen for her just becoz we had sex so i cannot relate to ppl who fall deeply in love wif their FB or FLs they engage, but nor do i treat her as a sex object becoz its juz weird to treat a FB like a lifeless sex toy, all abt sex...end of story. my point of view is, i show care n concern even to guy friends, so if i like someone enuff to fuck her, how the fuck can i not wanna show care n concern for her right? but of coz, in moderation, with respect to her privacy, and only as much as a friend would. i've not yet let my feelings run wild n outta control, hopefully it wuldnt happen.

Guess wat i'm saying is there's no need to generalise a FB relationship. Different ppl, different reasons, different expectations and different experience. gain or loss really depends.

thomas83

19-12-2011, 05:52 AM

never bragged abt having a FB before. i would brag if it is a social norm and widely accepted. but its not. None of my guy friends who have FBs bragged abt it. So ppl who brag abt these things strike me as idiots. Coz it has the opposite effect on normal ppl. Only other idiots will be impressed wif the idiot who brags and say "wow"

jasdude

19-12-2011, 07:27 AM

hGave up on FB idea. Shudders...
It is always his loss, not mine... :D:p
Better off making love with BF than a FB.

Hi Gal ! long time no see , how are you ? Hot sex does not equate to status of guy to you but its dependent on the chemistry of you and him in bed and out of bed .A promiscuous BF is no better than a non exclusivity FB . Good luck gal ! there will be surely someone for you ! wise words from Chanelfingers ( He must be able to mind fuck me ) HaHaHa a hint to all guys here .

Inquisitive

19-12-2011, 09:05 AM

A bump for a good thread . Nice information for newbie like me to FBs . Hoping to find my first .

HarassingDuo

19-12-2011, 06:28 PM

HaHaHa a hint to all guys here .

So Chanelfingers is a lady and is looking for a FB ?

I.m.Jim

19-12-2011, 07:37 PM

Better off making love with BF than a FB.

Dun give up the entire forest for just a coconut tree . :D

Inquisitive

20-12-2011, 09:11 AM

Having a FB , can you have more than 1 ? It is possible for all FB to co exist and have a so call threesome or foursome ?

Johnston

20-12-2011, 12:46 PM

Having a FB , can you have more than 1 ? It is possible for all FB to co exist and have a so call threesome or foursome ?

1)Can a person have more than 1 FB: Yes

2)Co-exist: If point 1 is Yes, then of cos Point 2 is Yes

3) It is not "So call" 3 some or foursome, its regular enough that we have slang terms to refer to "So call" 3some and foursome , like 3P or Tarma etc etc......

:rolleyes:

I.m.Jim

20-12-2011, 06:57 PM

1)Can a person have more than 1 FB: Yes

2)Co-exist: If point 1 is Yes, then of cos Point 2 is Yes

The more FBs you have , the busier you get and the more tired you get . Especially when they dun know about each other cos some FBs want exclusivity . Well don't bite off anything you cannot chew , thats what i will advise anyone .

jasdude

22-12-2011, 03:59 AM

A FB is like a car ! service it well , it will service you good too . BUT a car is easy to get but difficult to maintain ! IF you own two cars its worse ! Don't talk about 3 !

SH149

22-12-2011, 11:45 AM

A FB is like a car ! service it well , it will service you good too . BUT a car is easy to get but difficult to maintain ! IF you own two cars its worse ! Don't talk about 3 !

Agree !! I already thinking of disposing my car Liao !!

Chanelfingers

22-12-2011, 12:30 PM

So Chanelfingers is a lady and is looking for a FB ?
I'm not longing for a FB...

Dun give up the entire forest for just a coconut tree . :D
I am willing to give up whole forest for a Mango tree
Coconut tree no...
I must see he is worth it.

h

Hi Gal ! long time no see , how are you ? Hot sex does not equate to status of guy to you but its dependent on the chemistry of you and him in bed and out of bed .A promiscuous BF is no better than a non exclusivity FB . Good luck gal ! there will be surely someone for you ! wise words from Chanelfingers ( He must be able to mind fuck me ) HaHaHa a hint to all guys here .
Agree with your statements

Chanelfingers

22-12-2011, 01:15 PM

FB tiptoes on thin fine lines...

~The bf assholes...
Male: I dun have a gf, can I don be your FB? Why u want FB? I want to be your bf...
Female: I dun want commitments and I dun want to keep getting hurt in relationships.
Male: I will take care of you, I won't hurt you...Let's give it a try

Within a month,
Female finds his Gf photos on his Facebook or sweet honey bunny messages on his mobile phone.

What is wrong with being just a FB? Why lie your way to be a BF?
An honest FB relationship may last longer than a BGF based on lies...
She may grant exclusivity if he can satisfy her...

~Male: my ex is staying in my house, my mum likes her thus she allows.
My parents urging me to marry her, even brought her parents over for discussion. I got emotional and angry, I threw the dishes off the table

One week later, Female found out...
He is the good for nothing sponging on the GF and her family.
He has been living in their house and not the other way round.
Such is mockery.

~ The virgin fool
Male: I'm a virgin, would like to keep it till I'm married...
Female: I'm not virgin, I'm not believing you...the only vrigin is your assholes
You cant prove unless you still have a hymen...
why did you apply to be FB when you ain't keen?
Male: I want to be your friend mah, I am curious. But now I'm attracted to you.

In bed, he groped her breasts while fingered her until she cummed.
:confused:
Do you think he is a Virgin?
In sex, he came in 123 seconds
:rolleyes:

~There is no such thing as exclusive FB.
Yes rules can be formed between two persons.
But dun be naive to believe it.
He could have 10 FBs out there and still tell you " we are exclusive "
Always remember you met him in a sex forum meant to promote prostitution
He asked gals out... dates and beds them... Fingers crossed your paths will never cross.
The fact is truth will reveal itself

~High sex drive VS low sex drive
Female : I want, I want, I want...
Male : ok lor see this week when free... We do it

Female proceeds to finger herself...unsatisfied
Sex was three days later...
The problem is big...

Chanelfingers

22-12-2011, 01:43 PM

~The latecomer
These 123 excuses are rendered after he is late and not before... Usually the excuses arrive within 6 hours after the arranged meeting time

" my grandma and my mum meeting for tea n I can't ask her to leave soon"
" my worker quarrel and fight with another, very headache... I have to go settle"
" my family got problem thus the two weeks didn't spend time with u"
" my bag was left in a comfort cab, but comfort is returning it to me"
" ocbc website down, I have to work ot..."
" my mum is visiting a niece who is dying at the hospital I can't rush her off"
" I have to attend court cus biz dealings went wrong"
" wah the bank ppl gimme trouble, I just finished and I went home..."
" I set my alarm for 15 mins, lay in bed to rest then I doze off... Sorry"
" I went gym, class over run two hours so instead of ending 3 I end at 5"
" jam... Kena jam... Coming now " ( arrived @3 instead of noon)
" mrt slow... Delayed..."
" I was involved in the accident, my taxi was the 6th car of the collision. I have to go police station n hospital"
" I left my bag in the office, my hp in the office"
There are more... But I am so disgusted that I dun wanna recall

Punctuality is respect and basic manners
Traffic jams occurs daily in sg...
" why u not wanting anymore? Not horny?"
who will be aroused with this kinda of latecomer?

>>>>>>> therefore, I conclude FB is not worth my time.
I stopped looking for FB since July 2011. <<<<<<<<<<<

Caress

22-12-2011, 02:21 PM

WOW ! speechless ..........................................

cheryl

22-12-2011, 05:23 PM

Some times in every r/s as humans beings we focus on the bad instead of the good. We don't say "he arrived" , we say "he is late".

My FB was doting on me, he stays at tampines and I stay at taman jurong. He would come over everyday, a couple of times a day to find me. But still I pick on him. If I say meet at 12pm and he arrives at 12.05pm I would scold him for disrespecting me. Dispite my nasty temper, he comes over everyday. I never told him how touch I was but continue to grumble why he is late. Over time I wonder why is he getting later and later.

In the first few months, he bought me every thing I wanted, $ was not a concern to him. I spent about 20k a month when I am with him. Whatever I asked from him he would get for me. But I hate it that he takes his time to buy for me. Its so disgusting. But even if we stop having sex he still buy what I want for me. But recently he stopped buying things for me after I told him I have other guys who can buy me things when I want it, not making me wait. Buying me things makes me happy and feel loved. A man who knows how to cherish a girl will know how to make a girl happy.

He is such a nice guy, he still wine and dine me despite I am not having sex with him. But the problem is I cannot trust him and duno if he has other FB outside. I am an attractive woman who has no short of guys and I talk with them day and night. I talk to them infront of him and he gives me my space, and never ask me who are they. But I like to check on his phone and emails.
After that, he stop bringing out phone and laptop but I didn't stop asking to see.

Anyone want to be my FB? I am still looking for one. Pls pm me your details and how you thing you can do better. I had a thread previously but you can email to [email protected] . Your pic gets mine.

Ichigowaffles

23-12-2011, 03:25 AM

Hello
Why u want an FB?
Some times in every r/s as humans beings we focus on the bad instead of the good. We don't say "he arrived" , we say "he is late".
Late is a test of patience

My FB was doting on me, he stays at tampines and I stay at taman jurong. He would come over everyday, a couple of times a day to find me. But still I pick on him. If I say meet at 12pm and he arrives at 12.05pm I would scold him for disrespecting me. Dispite my nasty temper, he comes over everyday. I never told him how touch I was but continue to grumble why he is late. Over time I wonder why is he getting later and later.
He is late n later cus he is fucking others
If he can't arrive early n expect gal to wait , when someone who always comes in early woos the gal.he will lose her

In the first few months, he bought me every thing I wanted, $ was not a concern to him. I spent about 20k a month when I am with him. Whatever I asked from him he would get for me. But I hate it that he takes his time to buy for me. Its so disgusting. But even if we stop having sex he still buy what I want for me. But recently he stopped buying things for me after I told him I have other guys who can buy me things when I want it, not making me wait. Buying me things makes me happy and feel loved. A man who knows how to cherish a girl will know how to make a girl happy. He is nt into you! He spends the money on other gals thus can't spend on u

He is such a nice guy, he still wine and dine me despite I am not having sex with him. But the problem is I cannot trust him and duno if he has other FB outside. I am an attractive woman who has no short of guys and I talk with them day and night. I talk to them infront of him and he gives me my space, and never ask me who are they. But I like to check on his phone and emails.
After that, he stop bringing out phone and laptop but I didn't stop asking to see.
Either he dunno how to hide or he has too much to hide.just refuse to let you check. if you suspect then most likely you are right. Woman six sense is scary

Anyone want to be my FB? I am still looking for one. Pls pm me your details and how you thing you can do better. I had a thread previously but you can email to [email protected] . Your pic gets mine.

cheryl

23-12-2011, 08:09 AM

Hello
Why u want an FB?

You seem like a nice guy that understand all my inner fears. I want a FB because its easier being a FB. As GF I have to understand and trust guys. As FB all he need is to understand me, dote on me and satisfy me with his superb skills in bed. I like it when a guy does that to me.

TheGreatOne

23-12-2011, 08:31 AM

My FB was doting on me, he stays at tampines and I stay at taman jurong. He would come over everyday, a couple of times a day to find me. But still I pick on him. If I say meet at 12pm and he arrives at 12.05pm I would scold him for disrespecting me.

In the first few months, he bought me every thing I wanted, $ was not a concern to him. I spent about 20k a month when I am with him. Whatever I asked from him he would get for me. But I hate it that he takes his time to buy for me. Its so disgusting.

He is such a nice guy, he still wine and dine me despite I am not having sex with him. But the problem is I cannot trust him and duno if he has other FB outside. I am an attractive woman who has no short of guys and I talk with them day and night. [email protected] .

i pity that guy :rolleyes:

I.m.Jim

23-12-2011, 10:48 AM

You seem like a nice guy that understand all my inner fears. I want a FB because its easier being a FB. As GF I have to understand and trust guys.

You have a identity issues between FB and BF . that is your downfall cos you crave for understanding and attention but you don't understand what u want in the first place . there will come a day when you will meet your nemesis . Lost lil girl .

Reoxy

23-12-2011, 11:32 AM

Hello
Why u want an FB?

Your comments in reply to her post is disgusting.

Do not step on others to climb up. If you want pussy, do not be stingy. There are many commercial pussies in FL 1, 2, 3.

You seem like a nice guy that understand all my inner fears. I want a FB because its easier being a FB. As GF I have to understand and trust guys. As FB all he need is to understand me, dote on me and satisfy me with his superb skills in bed. I like it when a guy does that to me.

Your reply to his comments to your post is equally disgusting.

A man treats you very well and you complain.

Pls dump that guy so that he can have a better life without you.

Pls pair up with this guy you say is nice since he understand all your inner fears.

After that see who is better.

Chanelfingers

23-12-2011, 11:53 AM

By coming later and later,
I would see as he is not making effort to be punctual.
I dun have patience , asking me to waste time on such a man... Hhhmpppffff... But that is me.
Maybe you should look for someone who lives nearer to you. So when you are horny you can get him faster.

distance travelled dun mean doting...dun be naive.Wat is there to be touched about ?Again He is an FB or bf? If u r not bothered with him, u won't even meet him.
For a pussy,moaning, gfe,a hot body, pretty face,guys can fly to bkk or china.

His mistake is keeping turning up late n later...
I see it as he spending quality time with other gals, he can't get away without suspicions thus late
He is playing you.

Initial months, the investment in a relationship, guys hope that they score the gal n get undying love n devotion.
So when he is busy, u will still be there...
It is common for a beauty to have more than one suitor.
Gifts should be from his own accord not asked for.

Dun worry bout the not having sex part, he can find sex easily with his money
If u r keen to be his Gf, trust him. Is he trustworthy?
But I think u r just treating him like a FB. Right?
Since u r not short of suitors, enjoy ur single hood ... U still young ma.
Hp, laptop, privacy...
I think that woman's six sense is damn accurate.
Sometimes, it just makes me sad that I senses foul play n the men proves it rite.
It makes me wanna just stop serious dating,since guys not serious n start playing... But I always think females are at losing end , getting hurt...so FB idea isn't great for me
Now it is about finding the right guy who is worth it...it is not dating in question...
Thinking changes, Good Personality stays
Good luck with FB hunt, post ur email liddat just attracts more pointless one liners, if u r female at all.

Some times
[email protected] . Your pic gets mine.

I.m.Jim

23-12-2011, 12:09 PM

Thinking changes, Good Personality stays.

Well said gal ! like the way you walk the walk ! talk the talk .

Chanelfingers

23-12-2011, 12:22 PM

Well said gal ! like the way you walk the walk ! talk the talk .
weird...
Just that a different dude said the same statement to me once...

cheryl

23-12-2011, 12:35 PM

I.m.Jim

23-12-2011, 01:18 PM

Can't stand guys that can treat us right.

There you go again ! Now you want guys to ill treat you ! Hahaha

Just that a different dude said the same statement to me once...

Hahaha , its a old saying that not a lot of people use nowdays .

cheryl

23-12-2011, 01:34 PM

There you go again ! Now you want guys to ill treat you ! Hahaha

Hahaha , its a old saying that not a lot of people use nowdays .

I mean can't..... :(

zacarie

23-12-2011, 05:16 PM

Some times in every r/s as humans beings we focus on the bad instead of the good.

u took the guy for granted. u grumble over how he doesnt get u the stuff u want immediately. u are just using him to get the material stuff tt u want.

i seriously pity tt guy who have been used by u. It's no wonder y guys think all ladies are like u. who go for material gains. it is a shame and disgrace.

I mean, we are girls. We deserved to be treated well.

Everyone deserves to be treated well. man and woman alike. Especially so when the other party did not in any way ill treat u. if u think he have cheated on u. leave him. Y cling on when he is not ur bf/husband.. i think he is sick n tired of ur demanding ways. i would too if i were him.

Just because u are a stunner/looker/beautiful/attractive.. U know u can get guys at any time because of how u look on the outside. but tt does not mean u should disrespect them and take them for granted. if u want respect. Earn it.

Until the day when u get treated the way u did to those guys. u will nvr know how it feels. and u will always think u are so great to be able to do tt.. and all i can do here is pity u.

Learn to respect urself. And treat others with respect my dear girl..

Reoxy

23-12-2011, 05:22 PM

u took the guy for granted.

Learn to respect urself. And treat others with respect my dear girl..

Exactly!

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showpost.php?p=6706868&postcount=75

I.m.Jim

23-12-2011, 05:24 PM

Learn to respect urself. And treat others with respect my dear girl..

I agree with the lady ! For the exterior , there is no ugly woman in this world ! only lazy woman . But if the inside is ugly ;no matter how beautiful you are ; you are flawed ! But its not beyond hope . Learn to be beautiful from the inside out not outside in . You will be even more glowing and beautiful .

jasdude

23-12-2011, 10:06 PM

u took the guy for granted. Learn to respect urself. And treat others with respect my dear girl..

YES agree with you ! DO not take anyone for granted ! Its something I mind alot .

panda_lim

23-12-2011, 11:01 PM

Thanks sister for understanding me. I mean, we are girls. We deserved to be treated well. Can't stand guys that can treat us right.

Hello
Why u want an FB?

Late is a test of patience

He is late n later cus he is fucking others
If he can't arrive early n expect gal to wait , when someone who always comes in early woos the gal.he will lose her

He is nt into you! He spends the money on other gals thus can't spend on u

Either he dunno how to hide or he has too much to hide.just refuse to let you check. if you suspect then most likely you are right. Woman six sense is scary

By coming later and later,
I would see as he is not making effort to be punctual.
I dun have patience , asking me to waste time on such a man... Hhhmpppffff... But that is me.
Maybe you should look for someone who lives nearer to you. So when you are horny you can get him faster.

distance travelled dun mean doting...dun be naive.Wat is there to be touched about ?

His mistake is keeping turning up late n later...
I see it as he spending quality time with other gals, he can't get away without suspicions thus late
He is playing you.

Initial months, the investment in a relationship, guys hope that they score the gal n get undying love n devotion.
So when he is busy, u will still be there...
It is common for a beauty to have more than one suitor.
Gifts should be from his own accord not asked for.

Hp, laptop, privacy...
I think that woman's six sense is damn accurate.

Now it is about finding the right guy who is worth it...it is not dating in question....

Omg!!! makes me dam afraid to find FB after reading this thread.

HunterJ

24-12-2011, 12:35 AM

u took the guy for granted. u grumble over how he doesnt get u the stuff u want immediately. u are just...

i seriously pity tt guy who have been....

Everyone deserves to be treated well. man and woman alike. Especially so when the other party did ....

Learn to respect urself. And treat others with respect my dear girl..

I respect you for what you have said. Totally said something somewhere deep inside me which I feared not to say out, to not offend any females. Even my gf takes me for granted, even though she SAYS she did not. But oh well, life for me is never fair from the start.

Reoxy

24-12-2011, 12:45 AM

I respect you for what you have said. Totally said something somewhere deep inside me which I feared not to say out, to not offend any females. Even my gf takes me for granted, even though she SAYS she did not. But oh well, life for me is never fair from the start.

Then it is time to find another gf before your life flys past you.

thomas83

24-12-2011, 10:31 AM

I think that woman's six sense is damn accurate.

ya right. takes just a bit of common sense n intelligence to figure this sorta things out. And by the way good job applauding that woman to embrace singlehood after all the blatant self-centered bullshit she said. Fucking kidding me. i've to ask myself which do i prefer, idiotic one-liners appealing to ladies to be FBs that appear every other day or essays from seemingly regular, intelligent and opinionated ladies celebrating and justifying their vanity, self-centeredness and blatant disrespect of others. But watever makes u happy. And you r entitled to watever bullshit opinions u have. carry on.

HunterJ

24-12-2011, 11:35 AM

Then it is time to find another gf before your life flys past you.

Bro, say is easy, do is hard. I always tell myself that also, but.... sigh... :(

eyyh

24-12-2011, 02:21 PM

Omg!!! makes me dam afraid to find FB after reading this thread.

why u scared?
just make sure u know what u doing lor.
dun mind others...

Reoxy

25-12-2011, 01:15 AM

Bro, say is easy, do is hard. I always tell myself that also, but.... sigh... :(

A minute passed is a minute gone forever in your life.

Would you want this time to be more about the good stuff or bad stuff?

I always say having nothing happen is better than having something bad happen.

Same goes for a partner. It is much better to remain single than to be with the wrong person.

smartke

25-12-2011, 09:54 AM

I.m.Jim

25-12-2011, 02:08 PM

And you r entitled to watever bullshit opinions u have. carry on.

Why you so affected then ? Sounds like someone here was one of the mentioned in her story of losers .

It is much better to remain single than to be with the wrong person.

Yes so very true !

jasdude

25-12-2011, 10:06 PM

ya right. takes just a bit of common sense n intelligence to figure this sorta things out. And by the way good job applauding that woman to embrace singlehood after all the blatant self-centered bullshit she said. Fucking kidding me. i've to ask myself which do i prefer, idiotic one-liners appealing to ladies to be FBs that appear every other day or essays from seemingly regular, intelligent and opinionated ladies celebrating and justifying their vanity, self-centeredness and blatant disrespect of others..

Someone is sore about something said or with someone .

freund

26-12-2011, 02:25 PM

It will be a disaster if you plan to find another FB in here.

thomas83

26-12-2011, 05:35 PM

Why you so affected then ? Sounds like someone here was one of the mentioned in her story of losers .

Ya, i do agree my tone was harsh...tats all i will say. But i've no idea wat story you r refering to. i'm pretty sure i didnt apply to be her FB. But maybe you did.

freund

26-12-2011, 05:41 PM

Ya, i do agree my tone was harsh...tats all i will say. But i've no idea wat story you r refering to. i'm pretty sure i didnt apply to be her FB. But maybe you did.

Everyone that has read your post will think that you are one of the losers that is sore . Hahaha trying to push the attention to others . LOSER

I.m.Jim

26-12-2011, 10:09 PM

Ya, i do agree my tone was harsh...tats all i will say. But i've no idea wat story you r refering to. i'm pretty sure i didnt apply to be her FB. But maybe you did.

Hahahah , If I had applied and got dumped by her and termed a loser . I will be angry and harsh in my post like you are right now . Too bad I did not .

HunterJ

27-12-2011, 11:00 AM

A minute passed is a minute gone forever in your life.

Would you want this time to be more about the good stuff or bad stuff?

I always say having nothing happen is better than having something bad happen.

Same goes for a partner. It is much better to remain single than to be with the wrong person.

I've missed a lot of GOOD minutes in my life, gone forever.. But still, I guess a few more good minutes will be gone... Good or bad, there are things that I need to face and solve. So I shall just hope for the best !!

Thanks for your profound and true wise words. I will bear it in my mind no matter what !! :cool:

Meanwhile, enjoy myself and look for new "opportunities" !! :p

jasdude

06-01-2012, 02:23 PM

Time to end this thread guys, no matter how you look at it! Not one is void of emotions attachments in whatever relationships! Treat each other with dignity and respect and end it amicably if it does not work out. No use finger pointing over who is wrong or who is right when a FB relationship ends because in the first place its not for the long haul. When a road comes to a junction. You have to make a choice. Hopefully without the benefits, friends will be friends.

To all my friends reading this! Cya on the 18th! PM me for details! Cheers!