Do you tell your partner?

[sixpack]

Hi. my first time was with a thai escort. And have visited them a few times. I'm worried in the future when I get a girlfriend or a wife for that matter. Will this affect anything? i need advise from bros with experience. Do you tell your partners? Are they normally ok if a guy visits/visited them before or is there any stereotyping or judging. Or should you just shut up about it and act blur? Please share :)

[ol'coyote]

shut up...

[maybe_maybe.not]

dont tell.

[Alf1977]

Better dont tell coz if you tell the girl, it will be just downgrading yourself to be associated with paid sex..!!! So desperate to pay for sex is what comes to the woman's mind!!! Like disgusting!

[will88]

Will telling others you went for paid sex make them feel that you are a better person? The ans is for you to decide.

[Spud_Boy]

dun tell cuz no matter what they say, they just can't handle the truth...

[savf001]

I don't even confess all my secret

[sixpack]

quite honestly, i'd preferred if it didn't happen at all so i'm guessing it would be unacceptable for the as well. but would it come out eventually and make things worse?

[Lauhuu]

Are u dumb or are u stupid???

Shut up and bring to your grave, if she remains your wife till you die!

[sixpack]

alright chill. thanks for the input

[jasdude]

The truth hurts. Simple as that. Are you ready to face the consequences and judgements of your past even thou you are not doing now?

[HCKing]

Hi. my first time was with a thai escort. And have visited them a few times. I'm worried in the future when I get a girlfriend or a wife for that matter. Will this affect anything? i need advise from bros with experience. Do you tell your partners? Are they normally ok if a guy visits/visited them before or is there any stereotyping or judging. Or should you just shut up about it and act blur? Please share :)

do u prefer to be labelled as a chao tiko? perhaps u can try telling yr future gf next time n rem to update us of the outcome. will be interesting to knw.:D

[DemonicSS]

Well, I would vote on you saying it. It was your past and you do need to talk about them for her to know you right?

If you do meet someone and thru such conversations she gets anal about it, then truth to tell, not much point being with her right? She being upset about such things only means she may try to dominate you. Like the bros who said: " they can't handle the truth". So find one who can.

I have a friend, he's married, and with that, he is barred from mentioning anyone who he ever dated. Even girls that he was attracted to or fond of is banned too. So to live with a partner who cannot handle the truth is to live in misery.

[justl00king]

Do you also request your partner do the same and disclose how many men she had slept with before?

Maybe provide you with a detailed FR for each rendezvous?

[Longitude]

Never share such things with them. They don't take such things lightly.

[Camel]

Never share such things with them. They don't take such things lightly.

very true :cool:

[lickNpoke]

Never share such things with them. They don't take such things lightly.

Unless you like the girl to initiate the breakoff with you.... Then can share... The resultr is instantaneous.

[DemonicSS]

Do you also request your partner do the same and disclose how many men she had slept with before?

Maybe provide you with a detailed FR for each rendezvous?

Basically its a conversation, its not a full report you know. Find one that you can talk about it if the conversation comes up. Laugh about it, say what you did and did not like about your incidents. Its also a good way to communicate what you and your partner likes and dislikes in bed.

Anyway, my opinion on getting a girlfriend is similar to that of wanting to buy your first car. Ride the car first, buy it only when you feel the pros outweigh the cons. So same with the relationship. You may even eventually marry one that is anal about your past should you mention it only because of that some reasoning.

and FYI Justl00king, I do enjoy the missus f-ing around. So your question doesn't really apply to me. :D

[justl00king]

DemonicSS,

Great to have a gf that can talk and share openly about such stuff. Most gals I know are more on the jealous side, slightest hint of another gal within scope will raise alert radar. :p

Great to test drive b4 buying, but some may choose to rent instead. This way, they get to enjoy driving different cars all the time. Similar to why buy the cow when you just want milk? :p

Great that you enjoy your missus f-ing around. :eek: shows that you're really cool and open with sharing your partner. Enjoy! :)

[fuzzybunny]

Please do not tell unless you want to make her see you in another way. There is a reason y the word 'SECRET' is created. Keep it to yourself :D

[DemonicSS]

DemonicSS,

Great to have a gf that can talk and share openly about such stuff. Most gals I know are more on the jealous side, slightest hint of another gal within scope will raise alert radar. :p

Great to test drive b4 buying, but some may choose to rent instead. This way, they get to enjoy driving different cars all the time. Similar to why buy the cow when you just want milk? :p

Great that you enjoy your missus f-ing around. :eek: shows that you're really cool and open with sharing your partner. Enjoy! :)


Yeah, It would be rather pitiful if guys and girls would be like that though, Quite sad really.

So to the TS, hope you can find that rare gem.

[muscleboi]

never marry so you dont have to face that kind of issue or be in that kind of situation. :D

[muscleboi]

Basically its a conversation, its not a full report you know. Find one that you can talk about it if the conversation comes up. Laugh about it, say what you did and did not like about your incidents. Its also a good way to communicate what you and your partner likes and dislikes in bed.

Anyway, my opinion on getting a girlfriend is similar to that of wanting to buy your first car. Ride the car first, buy it only when you feel the pros outweigh the cons. So same with the relationship. You may even eventually marry one that is anal about your past should you mention it only because of that some reasoning.

and FYI Justl00king, I do enjoy the missus f-ing around. So your question doesn't really apply to me. :D

bro, hi5. that is what i meant by true equality. :D

if i can f around, i have no problem with my gf f-ing around, provided she know what safe sex is. its plain honesty, plain honesty. nothing wrong being in an open relationship and if she falls for someone else, just go lor. i will give her my blessings and if she sick of the other guy and wants to come back, can...go for check up first lor.. :D quarantine then free to come back..i'm ok too.

remember, got money got honey. anytime a new one can also come. thats the fact of life.. :o

[DeeDaDee]

Bro, even if you don't tell they also know lah! Nowadays gals are not stupid, they know, out of 10 men, there are 8 men visit HC, pro, KTV, blah blah...Our society is diff with those day. Even gals may have look for Gigolo. You can't gurantee even after you married, you will stop all this and will you be so open to tell your partner...!?!?!?

[AirBust]

TS, it depends....

If you love your gf, dun ever tell.. and she will become your wife if fated..
If you feel that you do not want to be with your gf anymore, by all means tell.

So to tell or not to tell, it depends on what you want.

[AirBust]

Bro, even if you don't tell they also know lah! Nowadays gals are not stupid, they know, out of 10 men, there are 8 men visit HC, pro, KTV, blah blah...Our society is diff with those day. Even gals may have look for Gigolo. You can't gurantee even after you married, you will stop all this and will you be so open to tell your partner...!?!?!?

Bro, deedadee,

I beg to differ some of your points.

Many girls think that 8 out of 10 men have strayed.. But 10 out of 10 are confident (of themselves or of) their own man is not 1 of the 8!!!

That is why I always smirk when my female friends say how good their men are. But I also know how 'good' my male friends are infront of their women.

[wally888]

If she never ask, dunn need to declare anything. But if u appear too experience in love making u may need to cook up some excuse if u told her u got n gf b4:D

[justwanadoit]

I told her. She accepted. Happily married

[AlvinOng]

Is it school holiday season?

[DeeDaDee]

Bro, deedadee,

I beg to differ some of your points.

Many girls think that 8 out of 10 men have strayed.. But 10 out of 10 are confident (of themselves or of) their own man is not 1 of the 8!!!

That is why I always smirk when my female friends say how good their men are. But I also know how 'good' my male friends are infront of their women.

Bro, no need to beg, just sharing my opinion which may differ from you point!

Obviously woman want their man fall within the 2 out of 10 and obviously all mens want pretend to fall within too.

Good points from you too.

[p00t]

it is an illogical assumption since majority of men eat out and yet the girl herself probably never even won a single prize in lottery in her life, would get her hands on a lifetime prize......

then i realised, most girls know their husbands eat out. accept and dont wish to expose to mess up the whole family & image.

girls are not that illogical after all. they are considerate :)

Bro, no need to beg, just sharing my opinion which may differ from you point!

Obviously woman want their man fall within the 2 out of 10 and obviously all mens want pretend to fall within too.

Good points from you too.

[EhWahEhWah]

Bro, Act blur live longer.

Be smart but dont act smart,
Act blur but dont be blur.

[Krazzie]

Personally tried with many girls before if I even hinted about this... there won't be another date again. Theory proven.

Remember it is one thing to consider your other half to have visited FLs, and being told by your other half that he really visited FL before. Imagine your wife telling you she slept with more then 50 men, what will you feel?

Sometimes some things is better left un-said.

[HCKing]

Personally tried with many girls before if I even hinted about this... there won't be another date again. Theory proven.

Remember it is one thing to consider your other half to have visited FLs, and being told by your other half that he really visited FL before. Imagine your wife telling you she slept with more then 50 men, what will you feel?

Sometimes some things is better left un-said.

very logical. up yr pts bro. :D

[cncs]

If you wish to have peace then don't tell. Gals will always bring up the past.

[Thug]

Some confessions mean war. If you are afraid that u might pass them some unwanted disease you contracted from the escorts, just don't fuck them. Fool around and make urself shiok will do bro.

[iFuck]

Ts, I believed u r still young.
What made u think you have to be honest in everything.
You partner or wife will be honest in everything.
Always remember this "woman can forgive but will not forget".

For me, certain things are best kept secret.
I also do not want to know my wife past.

You regret visiting FL right ?
Well life is a journey, you never know what will happen next....
Married life will be happy for u , I certainly hope so.
Nothing will change ? Nobody can tell !
How many stick to their marriage vows.

Life is short. Just adapt to changes fast and be happy.
We (man & woman) have sex outside marriage/ b4 marriage for various reasons.

Is good that you ask for advice. I see that many members here are very experience in life.

[Tualampa]

Ts, I believed u r still young.
What made u think you have to be honest in everything.
You partner or wife will be honest in everything.
Always remember this "woman can forgive but will not forget".

For me, certain things are best kept secret.
I also do not want to know my wife past.

You regret visiting FL right ?
Well life is a journey, you never know what will happen next....
Married life will be happy for u , I certainly hope so.
Nothing will change ? Nobody can tell !
How many stick to their marriage vows.

Life is short. Just adapt to changes fast and be happy.
We (man & woman) have sex outside marriage/ b4 marriage for various reasons.

Is good that you ask for advice. I see that many members here are very experience in life.

Well said my friend!

Such things are better locked away in yr "dark secret folder". Every body has one.

I can tell you TS,no women will tolerate their partner having paid sex. They will think that you are dirty. So if u want to be in her clean list, keep quiet and never admit.

[valton]

Interesting theories, guys!
I totally agree girls will not be able to handle the truth that their bf or husbands go for commercial sex. But I got 1 question thou, if she throws the question to u whether u went for paid sex or not and you die die say dun have....

But your gf can read your body language when u act blur=u lie, den how ar?

Coz this girl is very observant of your every tone and words n expressions, until u dun even notice tt u exhibit such expressions or body language whenever u lie...

More likely, coz u guys have been going out for 8 yrs plus, den how ar?
Act blur=she knows u lying
You deny with high pitched voice, saying, dun have...

Any advise, guys ?

[deludedgal]

better not to say .. and do a thorough check before u get married

[LovePotion]

just say no when she ask... nvr say yes... if not thats the end of trust...

[iFuck]

But your gf can read your body language when u act blur=u lie, den how ar?

Coz this girl is very observant of your every tone and words n expressions, until u dun even notice tt u exhibit such expressions or body language whenever u lie...

Any advise, guys ?

For me, I rephrase the question and ask her "do you think I need to go for commercial sex ?"
So this become a "you trust me or not question ".
I do need to answer. No need to lie.
Some questions, my answer will be "what do you think ? or you don't need to know this."
Not prepared, don't answer.

For me, when I'm with my wife. I don't look at other girls. She is the one who will alert me. If she notice any sexy or give half-ball type".
I will always reply..."this is common nothing special".
When she is not around I'm free.

I don't know about other, for me certain questions I will remain silent.
e.g Things about my siblings or parents. I don't interfere with her side, if she want me to know or ask for my opinion she will tell me.

So far so good.