Cannot Finger GF

[laohu97]

Guys, I'm having a tad bit of problem here. Me and my gf have been dating for about a year or so, and we regularly enjoy light to heavy petting. Mutual masturbation, groping and basically everything except penetration. She doesn't want to BJ me but I do get to paint her. Since start till now, she didn't let me finger her, only rub her clit and all. So recently I tried to finger her and I started really slowly. She was really horny and wet but when I touch the entrance of her hole she would feel pain and ask me to stop. Then when I slid my finger in fast one time she screamed so hard my ears nearly dropped off. After I took out my finger she said it was still very pain for awhile.... Any advice?

[Thug]

She's a virgin?

[Icyzz]

Did ur fingernail scratch her clits not? Please cut ur fingernail

[wantanabee]

yea, cut and file the nail smooth smoooth.

[curious11]

Did u make sure she's wet enough? and why on earth did u insert your finger fast??? u think you're watching porn meh... be gentle le...she's your gf after all.. insert little by little and slowly, make sure she's comfortable before u proceed then both of you can enjoy it...

[pleasurehobby]

As the same question goes, is your gf a virgin? regardless whether she is a virgin or not, one key to take note is never start the petting or foreplay by fingering.

ALways make sure she is really really wet with foreplay, clit rubbing or any other ways. Then start by inserting only 1 finger, prefably the middle or index. The vaginal takes some time for blood to flow through to be warm and stretchy. This is a region which babies comes out from! it CAN STRETCH!

Back to thw question is, IMO it is more of an emotional issue than a physical one. Maybe she is still having some doubts or insecuries. Work with her with it, find out what they are. End to end women are emotional dominant.

hope it helps

Jason
Pleasurehobby.com

[waterbrother]

Add some lubricant before that

[jason910]

TS already mentioned she is horny n wet. The issue is not virgin or seasoned why I say this is because I have a ex who no matter what I tried she feel pain if I finger or poke her. She mentioned she has a v sensitive pussy which when penetrated no matter wet, lubricated go slow etc or so she feel pain.

[sammyboyfor]

Any advice?

If you want a good sexual relationship, I suggest you find yourself a new girlfriend.

This one sounds like a dud for sure.

[ah rat]

TS,not all girls can finger.My gf is one example,she said felt uncomfortable :D

[Ho-Lee]

If cannot finger than use your brother to penetrate.

[divedeeper]

If you want a good sexual relationship, I suggest you find yourself a new girlfriend.

This one sounds like a dud for sure.boss, remind me to never ask you when I need encouragement. :D

[otamay]

If cannot finger than use your brother to penetrate.

Good suggestion, in not then any of the bros here can help also. :D

[divedeeper]

Guys, I'm having a tad bit of problem here. Me and my gf have been dating for about a year or so, and we regularly enjoy light to heavy petting. Mutual masturbation, groping and basically everything except penetration. She doesn't want to BJ me but I do get to paint her. Since start till now, she didn't let me finger her, only rub her clit and all. So recently I tried to finger her and I started really slowly. She was really horny and wet but when I touch the entrance of her hole she would feel pain and ask me to stop. Then when I slid my finger in fast one time she screamed so hard my ears nearly dropped off. After I took out my finger she said it was still very pain for awhile.... Any advice?bro, as others have said, she needs to be fully wet and sexually excited, from you kissing, sucking her nipples, playing with her clit, etc. Be sure your fingernails are trimmed short and filed smooth. Be sure your skin is not rough. Rub the opening of her pussy gently, while pushing gently inward. This will slowly stretch the opening and stretch the hymen. Then very gently and very slowly try to ease your smallest fingertip into the opening. Hold it at the opening, applying very gentle pressure. If it hurts her, back off. Tell you what you are doing so she knows you aren't trying to hurt her. If you are patient, and if she is willing, the hymen will eventually stretch enough for your finger to enter. Whatever you do, don't force it or move it quickly. Be slow and gentle. She needs to want this, because sooner or later, the hymen will have to break if you're going to fuck her, but if you are willing to be patient, hopefully you will get inside her. Good luck. Tell us how it goes.

[HiddenAngel]

TS,not all girls can finger.My gf is one example,she said felt uncomfortable :D

Ah Rat, that's because you only know how to teh neh neh, you don't know how to finger her la :p

TS, her being horny and wet does not means she's ready for any foreign object into her pussy if she is a virgin or she has phobia in having foreign object into her pussy. You need to give us more info before anyone can offer you any suggestions.

[(o)(o) Tuner]

This shows that your gf is still a virgin. Good for you. Keep her till your big day comes :D

[ah rat]

Ah Rat, that's because you only know how to teh neh neh, you don't know how to finger her la :p


I teh yr neh neh as the same time how to finger :D

You need to give us more info before anyone can offer you any suggestions.
Sis,what information u want from TS :D

[tuikboo]

Or medical condition, a cyst inside? (touch wood)

[laohu97]

Guys I really appreciate your comments. But the thing is, no matter how aroused she is she still finds it painful when I touch her hole area or even put pressure on it. I've tried going slow but still no results. Wonder if any bros here have experience "training" an oversensitive pussy?

[crossfir3]

Better to ask her to masturbate first on her own, that way she will be in control and she'll know how it feels. When she's ready, she might ask you to finger her. But please be gentle ;)

[Gentle Beast]

Hopefully for both of you, it is just her reflex action of reacting to your finger when you try to insert it (no lah, why let your finger takes her virginity?).

The scary part if she is suffering from Vaginismus - a fear of penetration. If she has not tried using tampons during her menses, this is the time to check it out. Seriously.

[laohu97]

Hopefully for both of you, it is just her reflex action of reacting to your finger when you try to insert it (no lah, why let your finger takes her virginity?).

The scary part if she is suffering from Vaginismus - a fear of penetration. If she has not tried using tampons during her menses, this is the time to check it out. Seriously.

The word itself is scary already. hope not. I guess I will try asking her to masturbate herself first. Once she is ready I will start poking her like mad:)

[Botakhead]

Different people, different fingers, different technic, different sexperience, different chemistry, different partners, actually very hard to tell you whether this is correct, that is correct, this is how you do it, that is how you do it.

Try another pussy to see if you're the cause of the problem or let her pussy be touched and rubbed by another person's finger?

[pleasurehobby]

Different people, different fingers, different technic, different sexperience, different chemistry, different partners, actually very hard to tell you whether this is correct, that is correct, this is how you do it, that is how you do it.

Try another pussy to see if you're the cause of the problem or let her pussy be touched and rubbed by another person's finger?

This is good idea. Sometimes we are not sure whether the problem is us or the partner. It is always good to try a variations to find out .:D

[aisa]

Different people, different fingers, different technic, different sexperience, different chemistry, different partners, actually very hard to tell you whether this is correct, that is correct, this is how you do it, that is how you do it.

Try another pussy to see if you're the cause of the problem or let her pussy be touched and rubbed by another person's finger?

bro return favor :D