Gf doesn't like any kind of intimacy

[ViperX7]

My gf and I have been dating for around 2 years now. We do hug and kiss but she doesn't like any other kind of intimacy. We french kiss once in a while but she doesn't like it.

Once while we were frenching, I move my hands to touch her boobs. She immediately stopped me and became very angry. She said that these places are private and said that I did not respect her.

After some time, I brought up this topic to discuss with her. She said that she doesn't like this kind of things as it feels wrong and inappropriate. I tried to explain to her about the need of intimacy in a relationship but she wouldn't listen. She said if I love her then I wouldn't ask for these kind of things. Win liao lor.

Is this normal for her now and will she change this in the future? What can I do about this? We are both 22 and I don't want this to carry on as we grow older.

[sammyboyfor]

If she's frigid now, it will get even worse when she gets older.

Time to get yourself a new girlfriend.

[Tai_zi21]

Why u never throw her back the ques? If she love u she will give in to ur needs also! And why are you the only 1 giving in? I thought it take 2 hands to clap?

[mcyeoh]

My gf and I have been dating for around 2 years now. We do hug and kiss but she doesn't like any other kind of intimacy. We french kiss once in a while but she doesn't like it.

Once while we were frenching, I move my hands to touch her boobs. She immediately stopped me and became very angry. She said that these places are private and said that I did not respect her.

After some time, I brought up this topic to discuss with her. She said that she doesn't like this kind of things as it feels wrong and inappropriate. I tried to explain to her about the need of intimacy in a relationship but she wouldn't listen. She said if I love her then I wouldn't ask for these kind of things. Win liao lor.

Is this normal for her now and will she change this in the future? What can I do about this? We are both 22 and I don't want this to carry on as we grow older.
she cheating badly....time to see the signs kid...

[Kuang209]

how you even go thru all this TS?

[JohnnyOliver]

No sex still can last 2 years. TS, you power!

[volcano]

i really SALUTE u...i think 99.99% of the samsters here will run away long long time ago liao lor :D

[Feronas]

I ended up marrying one like u described TS. It ended up as low sex frequency, every session being mechanical, gets worse after u have kids. She prioritize everything (career, kid, etc) in front of sex, and leave it as only a "got remainder time then do", and not "die die must do" to maintain the relationship.

For guys I think I do not need to tell u where this is going.

[whiplash]

Wah better cut your losses. Under normal circumstances you should be fucking within a couple of months. Dating period is the sweetest time. If now already like this you wouldn't get any sex after marriage period. Wah like becoming a monk. You want ah?

[Robinho]

1 week I cannot take it liao.

You wait 2 years.

[coolguy71]

TS.. I know exactly how u feel. As I had married one of such girl.

Let me describe. .when my gf and I go steady all I get is just kiss ang hug... nothing else. She is good in very acspect.. can go along with my parent, can mix with my friend.. good host.. never ask for expensive gift or exoensive restaurant. .etc.. low maintenance girl.. but she being a CHRISTIAN. . No sex before marry...

I self believe.. she will be open up after marry.. so marry lor.. hehe :D

During my first marry night I realise wrong ...as I am have high sex need.. I like to experiwnce different sex.. but now my wife only do one type.. when she and I have sex.. it is just she lie down and I fuck her .. I cum and clean up.

And this is once a month..

So TS .. I believe when u can last two years with your gf without sex.. mainly she is like mine.. good in other aspect.. but sex dept.. she got a D.. but you r able to accept. So if u want good sex.. I guess advice u need to change gf.

Or.. u can go outside and get.. hehe:o

That is what I do...:cool:

[Big Sexy]

she sounds like a decent girl. nothing wrong with not having intimacy when you are both so young and married. this is the type of woman you should take for a wife, knowing you would not end up being a cuckold..

My gf and I have been dating for around 2 years now. We do hug and kiss but she doesn't like any other kind of intimacy.

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[coolguy71]

Too decent.. life will get boring.

[Big Sexy]

of course, life is only about sex and intimacy..:rolleyes:
Too decent.. life will get boring.

[Hardstick15by5]

Maybe it's time for you to pretend and blame her that

GF doesn't really like you all that much. That's why don't trust you enough..

[xmodconnects]

Ts, dont need to ask us. For the fact that u ask, chances are you already cannot take it and have been tolerating for quite a while. At the end of the day, relationships have to satisfy needs from both sides, regardless of the nature of the need. Life is so short, why waste time being unhappy?????

[gmpc]

If you love your gf you will not have ask for such thing... just respect her decision... If she wants, she will not stop... She will dry you up everyday....

[chengzc]

Ts not to pour cold wAter on you. I have a friend who got a gf like that also. End up we caught the girl cheating behind my friend.

I hope won't happen to you.

[Taramis]

My gf and I have been dating for around 2 years now. We do hug and kiss but she doesn't like any other kind of intimacy. We french kiss once in a while but she doesn't like it.

Once while we were frenching, I move my hands to touch her boobs. She immediately stopped me and became very angry. She said that these places are private and said that I did not respect her.



Maybe she is saving herself for marriage to the right guy.:confused:

[sinseh]

TS... you say you date for 2 years?
I must say that perhaps you do not know how to turn her on? Perhaps you are too direct? Try some wine-dine-romance like K-Drama?

I have an experience like yours, dated a girl who was not used to intimacy and sex. In the first 2 months, we hardly even kissed and french kissed. However, slowly, bit by bit, I opened her up by being nice and ultra-nice. I showered a lot of attention on her and made her feel happy and carefree. After that, she surprised me one afternoon by waking up and then coming straight on to me with a freaking wet pussy! I proceeded to have sex that was initiated by her.

After that, when I asked her, she said that she has never felt anyone that showed so much care and concern for her and that it felt just right and its the right time. So, right now, I am having the best sex of the relationship, 4 months later.

I highly suggest you do not pressure her and take it easy. Just try to be extra and ultra-nice. It will work. I swear!

[bochapsing]

if u love her, she loves u...

and u think she is a good girl, and will be a good wife, good mother, good daughter-in-law etc etc in future...

then u pray hard that she will change after marriage....

if suay suay she doesn't change, then u just have to outsource the "sex" part...

:D:D:D

[sarahxx]

yeh i agree w big sexy she sounds like a very decent girl, and there's nth wrong with that. both ur values and needs are different thts why ure in this situation.

ull need an open conversation with her, telling her ur needs and desires. she might be afraid that once she starts to let u fondle her boobs, one thing may lead to another and eventually sex. she doesn't seem comfy w that, so i think it'll be good to set certain boundaries (what u shld do n what u shldnt) as well as find out what she really wants to make her feel at ease. if she's still persistent that she doesn't want any form of intimacy, then any advances u make on her, she's gna take it as ure disrespecting her.

it all boils dwn to how much u love her and how much u can tahan not being intimate..

[crazyivan6636]

She's not the type who enjoys a good bang.

In the future, she's not going to be the person that will take you in the mouth and swallow with a bright smile. Or will she give you a good hard ride on top till you cum all over in her. The rough sex and banging her brains out will never happen.

These girls will just lie there like a dead fish while you unload on your own in a rubber inside her and then go to bed. Once you have kids, all complaints will come up and she will distance from allowing you to eat her as it becomes a chore. You will end up spending more money eating outside and if you get caught an expensive divorce coz she will stand by her family's side and make you the bad guy.

If you enjoy banging chicks, then get a good one that is experienced, who may though not be a virgin but are like minded and can satisfy both parties.

[crazyivan6636]

Chicks like these are a sucker for rubber. Will never get on the pill or let you blow your load inside her unless its your wedding night where she get's it for the first time or when parents in law start to complain why no grand kids yet.

It will just be one day where she lets you shoot it all inside and she get's knocked up with your 1st child and the routine continues.

Just watch that once you get your first kid, she will not take care of it and want to go back to work and socialise. your parents in law will end up taking care of it. Also she will not like to be seen with kids in public.

She will also give you the excuses that 1 is enough.

[embracez]

i am sure you already know the answer posting here in this forum

you are probably looking for affirmation.

but i guess it really depends on you. if you are those who can do without sex then go ahead. but it would be likely since you do come this forum :)

so yep, keep your doors open !

[Intltuk]

TS, She has been taught tat pre-marital sex and heavy petting before marriage is a no no.

Have u explore with her if this is something she will be comfortable with once married?? Discuss with her and then decide wat u want to do.

[TreakSYT]

Very sad to say that i am glad that i am not the only one.
My gf before marriage also cannot have sex, only do like 2 or 3 times in 5 years.
But she is not bad in other areas just that really low sex drive

Finally i marry her, hope that things will be better because got house already got privacy. But still the same. Intitially ask her for sex, lie down there like dead fish, ask her to change position, she said she is not prostitute, dun want to change. Sibei sian, angry and upset, i just withdraw my cock and dun do anymore.

After 3 years, i find that our relationship without baby feel like is not complete. Tell her i want baby so need to do. Tried a few times but always not successful because she is too dry and also i am totally not aroused. She will lie down there, i stripped her. Ask her do bj she will say no. Only thing she can do is lick my nipple with laziness for less than a minute. Hard for a while and soft again. Sibei sian. I tried to lick her hoping that she will return favour, but she dun bath, i never find myself able to do that. I tried to finger her, she feel itcy and say its wasting time and just proceed to lick my nipple just want to hurry up finish the sex so that she can continue to do her work.

I never brought up the divorce topic to her although it always crosses my mind. I also feel guilty to do that to her just simply because she has no sex drive. I also tried to give her suggestion like change to a less stressful job but she will instead ask me to find a even better job so that she can quit.

In order to have baby i tried to have pill so that i can just routinely insert and just get the job done. I can only do with her every sat like a house rule.
Minus away mensus and she not feeling well, you can imagine how is my sex life.

My advise to the TS, its better to be guilty now than taking the chance. But its also very hard to know how your
Wife will behave until that happens. The chances of your gf like my situation seems high.

I also dun know what to do with my life too, maybe some experience bro can advise me too

[p00t]

Does sounds scary

[Slotti]

Two years is a long time as a couple not to engage in petting beside kissing.
Not sure but perhaps she has other doubts on her mind .
Time to reconsider your r/s if things doesnt improve sooner .

[xmodconnects]

alot of people say if u love her you will wait blah blah blah. all these fuckers stand on moral high ground and tell you to do this and that and make you feel bad for wanting to be intimate.

at the end of the day what is the difference between best girl and guy friends and bf or gf? a big part is physical intimacy. without it, you might as well be best friends. I can say i miss my best girl friend, and care for them etc, but i wont have physical intimacy with them.

Tell your gf she has been downgraded to best friend lol.

[fictionman]

Dating time u aldy feel like this...Think of wat will happen if u marry her...

I knw u love her very much...Sex is part a gd relationship...But lack of sex doesnt mean u guys cant have a gd relationship...But if u r deprive of sex now or aft marriage, u will go & find sex outside...Its up to you bro

[adventured]

You should tell her it's not normal for a couple not to have intimacy and she should seek professional help.

[yang punk]

TS
You want trophy wife or FB?

Ask her whether she prefers you to get your gratification elsewhere. Because like 99% of men you need sex for more than procreation. If you can't get sex from her then the marriage is bound to fail. Is that what she wants?

Why is she so adverse to sex? Due to religion, strict moral up-bringing (rare nowadays) or some traumatic experience? If you both don't know the answer, the future will be difficult to predict.

So going back to the first question. If she is so attractive in physical appearance or so capable that you think she is worth the sacrifice in the sex department, then perhaps you can go ahead to marry her and seek your gratification from elsewhere.

[selflick]

What you should so is to confide in her best female friend or good female friend. Choose a pretty one. Get her to talk to your gf in private, that a relationship without good sex won't do.

Whilst hearing you, the best or good friend may get turned on. Share with her your numerous creative attempts and your strengths. Eg "I tried to do a 69 by flipping her over in a jiffy and proceeded to lick her clits furiously while inserting my stiff rod down her throat, but your good friend still doesn't want..." While hearing this, her best friend will definitely get turned on and may offer a temporary solution in the form of herself out of pity or doing your gf a favour. Win win.

[FuckApps]

What you should so is to confide in her best female friend or good female friend. Choose a pretty one. Get her to talk to your gf in private, that a relationship without good sex won't do.

Whilst hearing you, the best or good friend may get turned on. Share with her your numerous creative attempts and your strengths. Eg "I tried to do a 69 by flipping her over in a jiffy and proceeded to lick her clits furiously while inserting my stiff rod down her throat, but your good friend still doesn't want..." While hearing this, her best friend will definitely get turned on and may offer a temporary solution in the form of herself out of pity or doing your gf a favour. Win win.

Ha ha ...so called, "shift target" :D

[1nottiboy]

I have written in a similar thread before but for the benefit of TS I shall share my experiences again.

Because I studied in "branded" schools thru out my academic career, I was brought up to be a gentleman. And the gals that I met in my younger days were all decent gals. The gals who went out with me were all on a "willing" basis. No forced kissing. No forced touching. And I paid for all the dates.

The first few gals I went out with never went beyond kissing and touching (clothed), if they allowed. One didn't even allowed me to hold her hands. And I was happy because I thought I was doing the "right" thing. And when these gals and I broke up, I could hold my head high cos I didn't "owe" them anything. it was my traditional moral values at play.

Because most of these gals and me broke up on good terms, we remained as friends and were in contact rather often. They would update me abt their lives and these updates angered me. There was a gal that I couldn't bed even after 4 years of courtship. She slept with the next bf. The gal who wouldn't let me hold her hands, had a shotgun marriage and subsequently cheated on her husband with her colleague. I also knew of many so-called decent gals who went out with multiple guys. And there was a "decent" gal only used me for dinners and shows (no sex). She claimed she wasn't ready.

What happened to values? What happened to morals?

It's all bullshit!

Intimacy is all about pushing the right buttons. I have had decent gals practically raping me. Forcing her kisses on me, pulling my cock out and sucking on it without me asking. I have also had the "post revision" sex. "Post supper" sex. etc etc.

If your gf wont get wet for you now, she wont get wet for you EVER.

Some idiots will tell you that marriage is more than just sex. It's true. Marriage is about money, bonding, responsibility, etc, etc, etc, PLUS SEX!!! Unless you are going for an open marriage (i.e. she allows you to eat outside), in the long run, this isn't gonna work out. If a gal really loves you, she will be begging for you to fuck her. (I dun mean on the first date. Months into the relationship, if you dun touch her, a normal gal will get very upset.)

[billy_bonker]

speaking from experience, GET OUT NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE.