Interracial Couples

[fatfella]

Just curious. A few unfortunate racist posts in this forum. I am Chinese bro and I enjoy being with girls of my own race. Once in a while there is a very chio minah or Indian girl that i'm attracted to. But mostly not. Never dated outside of my race.

Does race matter in Singapore? I think it still does. Yes you can fall in love with anyone but interracial couples are still judged, mostly by their own races actually. I know Chinese families don't like their girls to date Indians or Malays. And the Indian families I know don't like their children with Chinese.

Eurasians are like the high class race. Dating them is actually OK for some families. Not always the case but this is from experience I know. What do you guys like? What are the pros and cons of interracial couples in Singapore?

PLEASE DO NOT MAKE RACIST COMMENTS. I just want people to be honest. Thanks bros!

[sarahxx]

i think interracial couples r frowned upon more w the older generation. pp these days r much more open n accepting.

but of cos families don't condone interracial dating for many legit reasons. every race n religion hv diff believes, culture and way of life. i guess when it comes to marriage n both families hv to "blend" tgt these differences become v real n apparent.

at the end of the day, i believe love crosses all boundaries. if parties are willing to accept and compromise w these differences, i don't see any problem w dating another race.

[onlyhuman]

I may sound racist but i am not I am ok to live along with others.

I frowned on interracial relationships..why? It's because we all are identify by our own traditions and cultures...if u mixed it like rojak...
How are u gg to identify urself? A rojak?

Yes, ppl will argue we are all humans with the same color of blood..
But what makes people different and interesting?
It's the cultures and traditions passed down by our ancestors...

Therefore if u mixed everything together...all our history, traditions and cultures will be gone..and how are we gg to identify ourselves?

I don't mind guys marrying different races because the girls will adopted the guys traditions and cultures like the nonyas..

But no way is our girls gg to marry a different race...it's a disgrace!

True, ppl may argue I am shallow and etc..
But that my point of views..

Onlyhuman

[USboy]

I may sound racist but i am not I am ok to live along with others.

I frowned on interracial relationships..why? It's because we all are identify by our own traditions and cultures...if u mixed it like rojak...
How are u gg to identify urself? A rojak?

Yes, ppl will argue we are all humans with the same color of blood..
But what makes people different and interesting?
It's the cultures and traditions passed down by our ancestors...

Therefore if u mixed everything together...all our history, traditions and cultures will be gone..and how are we gg to identify ourselves?

I don't mind guys marrying different races because the girls will adopted the guys traditions and cultures like the nonyas..

But no way is our girls gg to marry a different race...it's a disgrace!

True, ppl may argue I am shallow and etc..
But that my point of views..

Onlyhuman


Bro you're definitely racist and and quite small minded.
I would throw in being as sexist as well.
You think girls shouldn't marry other races but guys can?
And you think traditions die if they do?
Why cos guys are better at passing down tradition than women?
Bro you need to get out more. This country is xenophobic and racist.
But luckily the younger generation is not like you.
And I see indians, malays, chinese, expats, eurasians all mixing and dating.
That's good for Singapore.

[onlyhuman]

Bro you're definitely racist and and quite small minded.
I would throw in being as sexist as well.
You think girls shouldn't marry other races but guys can?
And you think traditions die if they do?
Why cos guys are better at passing down tradition than women?
Bro you need to get out more. This country is xenophobic and racist.
But luckily the younger generation is not like you.
And I see indians, malays, chinese, expats, eurasians all mixing and dating.
That's good for Singapore.

As stated, that is my point of views.
Everyone is racist and sexist at a certain extent.
I am just being truthful on my views.

No offenses meant and not targeting any groups..

Onlyhuman

[Wintermelontea]

I am ok with dating other races and especially ang mohs which I am keen to date as they are the only ones that I have not touched thus far.

I am also ok with seeing interracial couples. My colleague settled down with her ang moh hubby and they are happy. And no, she is not Chinese :)

As long as you are happy, why bother other's pov? Just be yourself.

[fatfella]

I may sound racist but i am not I am ok to live along with others.

I frowned on interracial relationships..why? It's because we all are identify by our own traditions and cultures...if u mixed it like rojak...
How are u gg to identify urself? A rojak?

Yes, ppl will argue we are all humans with the same color of blood..
But what makes people different and interesting?
It's the cultures and traditions passed down by our ancestors...

Therefore if u mixed everything together...all our history, traditions and cultures will be gone..and how are we gg to identify ourselves?

I don't mind guys marrying different races because the girls will adopted the guys traditions and cultures like the nonyas..

But no way is our girls gg to marry a different race...it's a disgrace!

True, ppl may argue I am shallow and etc..
But that my point of views..

Onlyhuman

Bro you seem quite racist.
Hope you can learn to be more gracious of other people.

[Wintermelontea]

I may sound racist but i am not I am ok to live along with others.

I frowned on interracial relationships..why? It's because we all are identify by our own traditions and cultures...if u mixed it like rojak...
How are u gg to identify urself? A rojak?

Yes, ppl will argue we are all humans with the same color of blood..
But what makes people different and interesting?
It's the cultures and traditions passed down by our ancestors...

Therefore if u mixed everything together...all our history, traditions and cultures will be gone..and how are we gg to identify ourselves?

I don't mind guys marrying different races because the girls will adopted the guys traditions and cultures like the nonyas..

But no way is our girls gg to marry a different race...it's a disgrace!

True, ppl may argue I am shallow and etc..
But that my point of views..

Onlyhuman

Bro, just take or follow one custom/culture. It's a compromise/sacrifice. :)

[USboy]

As stated, that is my point of views.
Everyone is racist and sexist at a certain extent.
I am just being truthful on my views.

No offenses meant and not targeting any groups..

Onlyhuman


You are to think that everyone is racist or sexist.
Yes, having a prejudice against ppl, that's normal.
But it's up to you to learn about other people.
Gay, straight, female, male, any creed, any race, any religion.
You can't just have your set views and not try to learn and grow.
Hope you can bro.
Your views are very very old and outdated.
Every generation needs to show the next generation the way.
Cheers.

[manylobang]

Dear MOD, please remove this thread. If this keeps going . It will snow ball and will explode. DO NOT BRING IN RACES AND RELIGION INTO A SEX FORUM.

[Intltuk]

TS, ur question would be similar to asking wat is the pro/cons of dating/marrying a person from another country :D.

Some of the key challenges I can think of are:
1. Tradition/culture
2. Values
3. Mindset
4. Religion

Hving stated such, Singaporeans are becoming more and more westernized, thus, a nbr of pple from difference races has `lost' their `baggage' and hve more in common now. Thus, more inter-racial datings/marriage are happening.

Stereotyping of races were the bane of the past and is still happening but to a lesser extent. Each individual carries their own baggage, base on ur experience and interactions in the past as well as into the future; only u can decide wat's good for u.

[USboy]

Dear MOD, please remove this thread. If this keeps going . It will snow ball and will explode. DO NOT BRING IN RACES AND RELIGION INTO A SEX FORUM.

Sorry but race is always in this forum.
Look at what some whores post - chinese only.
Or All races welcome.
Read thru some of the other posts - it's even worse.
This forum represents everything about SG. Good and bad.
Don't try to sweep real truths under the rug.
That's a very SG way to just be quiet and passive instead of talking about everything and having a good debate.
So far I think everyone has been ok.
I'm sure there will be some idiot who will cause problems.
But this is the case anywhere.

[manylobang]

Sorry but race is always in this forum.
Look at what some whores post - chinese only.
Or All races welcome.
Read thru some of the other posts - it's even worse.
This forum represents everything about SG. Good and bad.
Don't try to sweep real truths under the rug.
That's a very SG way to just be quiet and passive instead of talking about everything and having a good debate.
So far I think everyone has been ok.
I'm sure there will be some idiot who will cause problems.
But this is the case anywhere.

I am not sweeping everything under the carpet. Yes . There's good challenge of words here. As I can foresee that it will snow ball to something no good.
I am not against nor agreed in interracial marriage, cos I am a Chinese and been married to my beautiful malay wife for the pass 18years. As long as both parties accept each other culture and dun bother wat other ppl talks. I find it ok. It's not what U hear outside tat deem mix couple will not live harmony .

[bk81665]

TS, you're racist for even bringing up this topic.
So what which race is married to which race!
As long they are happy ok mah.
You're talking about ancestors, why dont you check the internet/wikipedia or national library on HUMAN MIGRATIONS and find out our first human ancestors, and i can guarantee you that you dont even want to be part of that tradition or culture.
I stayed in Japan for couples of years and frequent those international bars or events, and surprised that many young japanese now would marry races that you even have never heard before yet alone married to bangladeshi, pakistani or africans. Why are they so much more open minded than us?
Minister Dhanabalan is married to Chinese, there are Chindian population here and in Malaysia.
As long they are happy and dont put sands in your rice bowl why you bother.
Im happy that multi racial wedding is on the increase as we are in globalisation now, thousands years from now, everyones is so brown that you would not even know what race she or he is. Too bad, i wont be able see that day.
Relax and enjoy your day by day and why bother yourself with all unnecessary things.

[fatfella]

TS, you're racist for even bringing up this topic.
So what which race is married to which race!
As long they are happy ok mah.
You're talking about ancestors, why dont you check the internet/wikipedia or national library on HUMAN MIGRATIONS and find out our first human ancestors, and i can guarantee you that you dont even want to be part of that tradition or culture.
I stayed in Japan for couples of years and frequent those international bars or events, and surprised that many young japanese now would marry races that you even have never heard before yet alone married to bangladeshi, pakistani or africans. Why are they so much more open minded than us?
Minister Dhanabalan is married to Chinese, there are Chindian population here and in Malaysia.
As long they are happy and dont put sands in your rice bowl why you bother.
Im happy that multi racial wedding is on the increase as we are in globalisation now, thousands years from now, everyones is so brown that you would not even know what race she or he is. Too bad, i wont be able see that day.
Relax and enjoy your day by day and why bother yourself with all unnecessary things.

It's very immature to name call.How is it racist when I'm asking how people they feel about mixed couples?Interracial couples are prevalent in UK and US. But it's still a bit taboo in some parts. I am making an observation of our society. You can feel the xenophobia and the racism. My malay and indian bros definitely feel discriminated against sometimes when it comes to everyday things.

This is a social query. Cos yes, you should love whoever you want but there are always caveats. And in our society, whether you like it or not, not everyone is treated or seen equally. My question is about the struggles interracial couples face.

Social commentary helps us grow. You shouldn't just pass it off as "racism" which is absurd.

[onlyhuman]

You are to think that everyone is racist or sexist.
Yes, having a prejudice against ppl, that's normal.
But it's up to you to learn about other people.
Gay, straight, female, male, any creed, any race, any religion.
You can't just have your set views and not try to learn and grow.
Hope you can bro.
Your views are very very old and outdated.
Every generation needs to show the next generation the way.
Cheers.


Eh I think u misunderstood or nv read correctly...I am not against or frowning at learning and understand other cultures and traditions. I am ok in mingling as well as living and being frds with everyone.

I am just against interracial marriage especially for girls only as it will dissolved our traditions and cultures. Mothers are the biggest guidance to their children.

It's nv outdated or old fashion to preserve one tradition and cultures...
Look ard us there are so many historians or conservatives trying to preserve certain people and their cultures plus tradition before they extinct!

[USboy]

Eh I think u misunderstood or nv read correctly...I am not against or frowning at learning and understand other cultures and traditions. I am ok in mingling as well as living and being frds with everyone.

I am just against interracial marriage especially for girls only as it will dissolved our traditions and cultures. Mothers are the biggest guidance to their children.

It's nv outdated or old fashion to preserve one tradition and cultures...
Look ard us there are so many historians or conservatives trying to preserve certain people and their cultures plus tradition before they extinct!

I didn't misunderstand you and you just proved it agin.
WHY are you against interracial marriage for girls?
Are men better in some way?
Why do you assume that a mother is a the biggest guidance to their children?
I think you're making a lot of assumptions.
Tradition evolves. There will always be culture.
Even in a country like SG, every year we changes on how people think.
You just need to get out more.
Your belief system is archaic.

[chochochang2]

I'm not sure what's the purpose of this thread, but I only have 4 words to say:

To each his own :)

[Indianpower]

I don't give a fuck what people think. I fuck Chinese girls and White girls all the time. Only the good looking ones. And you gotta know how to speak English properly. None of that Ah lian, k-pop dyed hair, heavy makeup to cover their pimply faces bullshit.

People look at me roll up in my BMW or Lexus and step out with a few hot girls at the clubs and I know they envy me. But they know they're in the presence of power so they can't do shit but wait in line outside as I walk straight in to my VIP areas.

[USboy]

I don't give a fuck what people think. I fuck Chinese girls and White girls all the time. Only the good looking ones. And you gotta know how to speak English properly. None of that Ah lian, k-pop dyed hair, heavy makeup to cover their pimply faces bullshit.

People look at me roll up in my BMW or Lexus and step out with a few hot girls at the clubs and I know they envy me. But they know they're in the presence of power so they can't do shit but wait in line outside as I walk straight in to my VIP areas.

WOW! This is the most irrelevant post yet.

[kypdurron]

Firstly, the problem with people, typically the ignorant ones, believe that culture and traditions are linked with colour of skin.
I strongly believe that culture originates from local practices/habits differentiated by geography. You cant expect me to believe that Johor Malays practice same traditions as northern Malays in Penang or Kedah for example.

secondly, old timers for some reason have an inability to let things go. So afraid of losing identity? Look around you, just head to some exclusive shopping areas in Orchard. Do you see aunties and uncles in cheong sam or sam foo. Sarees and Jippas? Baju melayu and kebayas everywhere? No. Practically everyone is in modern garbs.

Culture issue only comes about when someone in the family is suddenly interested in an "outsider".

[kacangoven]

I am a Chinese Indonesian, and I support interracial marriage. Most of my friends are only allowed to marry Chinese Indonesian.

But I am different, I am encourage to marry Chinese Indonesian, but I don't have to marry one. For me I actually prefer to marry someone non-Chinese Indonesian. Why? Because I think it will bring more excitement in my life, and it probably will make our relationship much more exciting and less boring.

[greatdane88]

i prefer to marry asians but not local.

Indon chinese, hong kong and malaysia.

[manylobang]

Oh... It's snowing!!! The snowball getting bigger.. "Ting ting" on the left side .. The infamous 'indianpower' and on the right 'WE' .. Round 1 .. Fight!!

[ol'coyote]

aiya...wats all this talk about racist and sexist...
all boils down "got prick and got pussy...let's match"...
me done malay gals...indian (both dark-skinned...and fair-skinned) gals...
of course done many chinese (sillypore...china...malaysia...latest was indonesia) gals...
oso done ang mo (australian)...but never done eurasians...
all same same...all gals have 2 breasts...some smaller than mine...
and all have pussies...that little wolfy slid in comfortably...
and if anyone doubt me non-racist attitude...
me bro-in-law is an indian...
one set of me godparents is indian and chinese...
another set godparents is chinese and eurasian...
soo...bottomline is...
me is one messed up ol'coyote wif varied races tat runs in the family...
hehehe...

[1nottiboy]

I am ok being frens with ppl of all races. As long as they share similar interests with me: sex, money, golf, having fun, alcohol, etc, I don't give a dam.

But when it comes to sex, personally, I only do fair skin gals. Even Malays gals I dun do. Not aroused by dark skin. But I also dun do fat gals, ugly gals, and gals with tattoos and gals who smoke. But having said that, I don't care what other ppl do. Its their cocks and cunts.

But when it comes to my daughter, their are certain cultures that I would frown upon. Muslims for starters; unless he drinks alcohol and eats pork too and doesn't need my daughter to dress up as a mummy. Then I dun really care. Japanese; unless he is one of the modern ones who isn't abusive to women. African; unless he doesn't deal in drugs and guns and cheats.

So how? Racist or not? Even if anyone thinks I am, I don't care. You cant do shit. Cos there are tons of ppl out there like me, who aren't generally racists but have certain preferences. And before you call anyone racist, take a look at yourself. Are you pro or against foreign talent? Do you like the vast numbers of PRC in our midst? I can say that I am very supportive of the FT Scheme. More FT = More Pussies.

Racism for most parts isn't a yes or no thing.

[nobodyisme]

aiya...wats all this talk about racist and sexist...
all boils down "got prick and got pussy...let's match"...
me done malay gals...indian (both dark-skinned...and fair-skinned) gals...
of course done many chinese (sillypore...china...malaysia...latest was indonesia) gals...
oso done ang mo (australian)...but never done eurasians...
all same same...all gals have 2 breasts...some smaller than mine...
and all have pussies...that little wolfy slid in comfortably...
and if anyone doubt me non-racist attitude...
me bro-in-law is an indian...
one set of me godparents is indian and chinese...
another set godparents is chinese and eurasian...
soo...bottomline is...
me is one messed up ol'coyote wif varied races tat runs in the family...
hehehe...


Well said, wolfie!

And I have no idea why this topic is even mentioned here by TS, since this section is for SEX-related adult discussion (actually 99.9% of what's in the whole forum haha!), and not relationship discussion section.

[javiersuka]

I agree with most of the comments here.

[allracepower]

SBF is a sex forum and not a race forum.
And to start a race thread on Adult Discussions about Sex shows
you how STUPID some ppl can be.

[arrdwolf_77]

Bro you seem quite racist.
Hope you can learn to be more gracious of other people.

Just a thought, If you daughter bring back a blangala, how will you feel? If you don't feel good, you are like him, but you are not truthful, just say politically right answer for pple.

[fatfella]

Just a thought, If you daughter bring back a blangala, how will you feel? If you don't feel good, you are like him, but you are not truthful, just say politically right answer for pple.

Actually not true. My sister is married a malay guy a few years back. Part of my family was not pleased. But he is a good guy who takes care of my sister and most of all, she is happy.

The fact that you say "blangala" already makes you put a negative connotation on a whole country of ppl. Is your only view of them as cleaners and workers? You do realize that there many Bangladeshi ppl who are doctors, lawyers, scientists etc. Race is not important to me. If I am attracted to you and if I am happy or for that matter, if my daughter is happy and I know this man can take care of her and keep her safe, that's all that matters.

I see a lot of ah bengs who are chinese. If I don't allow my daughter to be with them, does that make me racist against my own race? No.

[arrdwolf_77]

Actually not true. My sister is married a malay guy a few years back. Part of my family was not pleased. But he is a good guy who takes care of my sister and most of all, she is happy.

The fact that you say "blangala" already makes you put a negative connotation on a whole country of ppl. Is your only view of them as cleaners and workers? You do realize that there many Bangladeshi ppl who are doctors, lawyers, scientists etc. Race is not important to me. If I am attracted to you and if I am happy or for that matter, if my daughter is happy and I know this man can take care of her and keep her safe, that's all that matters.

I see a lot of ah bengs who are chinese. If I don't allow my daughter to be with them, does that make me racist against my own race? No.

hahaha, you already said that., I didn't. Period! Easy to catch someone's thinking.

[drekman]

Do u want to see a bangali monkey sitting opposite u everyday ?

[Ashyboy]

I have once seena very young couple while having dinner at Seng siong along Serangoon nth..The bf was an indian and his gf is a chinese..both looks ard 21 years old...tat day i was queuin up for my food at a stall..i saw a busty gal behind me qeuin same stall as me..wow..i thought wat a chio bu but in the end she was the gf of the indian guy....Lucky chap man..

[javiersuka]

Culture is lost when a Woman married outside her race. We cant bring equality everywhere.

[fatfella]

hahaha, you already said that., I didn't. Period! Easy to catch someone's thinking.

Dunno what you're trying to say. But it's obvious ur just blur bro. Move along.