Faked orgasm with bf

[royaling]

Hi, i've been for boyfriend for over a year+
The truth is.. i've never been able to hit the big O with him.
I know it's bad but i faked it. And most of the time after i have sex with him, i will feel a little frustrated.
And sometimes with myself cause it feels like it's me who can't come..
The sex feels good and all but i just can't seem to come.
He do went down on me, it feels great as well but i just cant seem to come :(
Lately i've been feeling bad about faking it...
Should i tell him about it? Or it is a very big ego breakdown?
I need serious advice and POV from both guys and girls..
And i love him very much so i won't ever think of trying with other guys/cheat.

Will appreciate all of your replies!
:)

[OsamaBinLaden]

he cant satisfy u... i can... seriously... :D
he might know that he cant satisfy u during sex... he should hv at least made up for it by making u climax in other ways...
i can show u how... :D

[Blackenrose]

Hi my dear, I think guys don't really know whether it is a fake or real orgasm.. Some of my girl friends themselves don't even know what an orgasm feels like.. Anyway, orgasm or not, don't think too much, just enjoy the moment..just let him know you want him more and more, he will keep pumping:p
I am sure u will find the way and have the "strup strup" feeling soon.. Hehehe good luck

[royaling]

Hi my dear, I think guys don't really know whether it is a fake or real orgasm.. Some of my girl friends themselves don't even know what an orgasm feels like.. Anyway, orgasm or not, don't think too much, just enjoy the moment..just let him know you want him more and more, he will keep pumping:p
I am sure u will find the way and have the "strup strup" feeling soon.. Hehehe good luck

Will i crush his ego if i tell him i've never come with him before? :/

[prettymannequin]

But have you had an orgasm playing with yourself? Or is it just that when you're with him, you can't achieve it?

[acidicavex]

Will i crush his ego if i tell him i've never come with him before? :/

Never know but it best that he never know what he dont know might not hurt.

[lostlilvirg]

Speaking as a guy, I'd rather my partner told me so I know how to improve myself.

But the way you let him know must be gentle so you won't hurt his ego. Need to make it so you don't sound like you're criticizing him, or he'll just shut down and likely will result in argument.

Perhaps share with him how you like to be pleasured. I'm not sure about other bros, but i feel that giving my partner pleasure would give me pleasure as well, so i'd like to know instead of you faking it.

Probably not a great idea to let him know you've been faking though. Pretend like those were real, and then say the last few times haven't done it for you. I'm not saying don't reveal it, but you'd know your bf better than anybody, so you'd have to walk a fine line there.

Just my 2 cents' worth

[royaling]

But have you had an orgasm playing with yourself? Or is it just that when you're with him, you can't achieve it?

Hi, i can come playing with myself, just that with him it seems impossible :(

[lostlilvirg]

Well, I'm glad that you're functioning normally :p

but you'd probably have to give him gentle hints on what to do that you like, maybe he's stopping an action too early? Need more foreplay? I know that a lot of us guys get a tad impatient to get down and dirty asap...leaving girls high and dry

[royaling]

Speaking as a guy, I'd rather my partner told me so I know how to improve myself.

But the way you let him know must be gentle so you won't hurt his ego. Need to make it so you don't sound like you're criticizing him, or he'll just shut down and likely will result in argument.

Perhaps share with him how you like to be pleasured. I'm not sure about other bros, but i feel that giving my partner pleasure would give me pleasure as well, so i'd like to know instead of you faking it.

Probably not a great idea to let him know you've been faking though. Pretend like those were real, and then say the last few times haven't done it for you. I'm not saying don't reveal it, but you'd know your bf better than anybody, so you'd have to walk a fine line there.

Just my 2 cents' worth

Hi thanks for the advice! especially the one that you said to tell him about the last few times that i couldn't come instead of telling him all this while i've faking it.. Really like that advice thanks

[royaling]

Well, I'm glad that you're functioning normally :p

but you'd probably have to give him gentle hints on what to do that you like, maybe he's stopping an action too early? Need more foreplay? I know that a lot of us guys get a tad impatient to get down and dirty asap...leaving girls high and dry

Haha yea he's abit rush... I usually take very long time in foreplay for him but he seems to never return as much as i do :(

[lostlilvirg]

No worries, royaling. One of guys' most common issue is ego, so I really hope you won't end up having a fight with the bf.

Going with praise and encouragement works a lot better than "You should do this this that that", for example, can use "I love it when you do abc, could you do it longer?"

Good luck! And "cum again" soon :p

[royaling]

No worries, royaling. One of guys' most common issue is ego, so I really hope you won't end up having a fight with the bf.

Going with praise and encouragement works a lot better than "You should do this this that that", for example, can use "I love it when you do abc, could you do it longer?"

Good luck! And "cum again" soon :p

Haha thanks again for the advice, i guess i'm just bad at words or usually doesn't talk when we're having at it.. I'll try it the next time! :p

[lipe]

Sis, women fake it to boost their partner's ego, out of insecurity and to just get the darn experience over with.


Four main factors that influenced women to fake orgasms. Here they are ranked in order of prevalence:

1. Altruistic deceit — faking orgasm out of concern for a partner’s feelings

2. Fear and Insecurity — faking orgasm to avoid negative emotions associated with the sexual experience

3. Elevated Arousal — a woman’s attempt to increase her own arousal through faking orgasm

4. Sexual Adjournment — faking orgasm to end sex

[lipe]

Sis, are you looking for this?

Haha a lighter moment before going to bed.

http://cos.h-cdn.co/cm/14/27/320x211/53a05881e5465_-_giphy.gif

[exge]

TS my gf also has a similar problem she only can cum in 1 position. maybe you just haven't found yours yet? If you like rubbing your clit can try cowgirl, at least thats how she cums.

But even if she cannot, she will tell me lol so we both know each other's style very well. still, no session ends without her cumming, so sometimes just end up rubbing her clit till she cums.

good luck :p

[halcyon77]

hi sis,

speaking from experience, I think communication is the key.
my gf and me love to share what excites and stimulates us and this, in turn, makes us both super horny and adventurous to try different positions, use different techniques and fuck in different locations.
anyway, as long as you both feel good when you fuck, then the orgasm shldnt be the be all and end all, shld it?
it's not exactly a competition that you both must come during fucking right?
just enjoy the session and each others' fluids and let nature take its own course.
don't put pressure on your bf to make you come but like what the bros say, encourage and maybe talk dirty to turn him on.
hope this helps!

[DemonicSS]

Hi TS,

You may want to try using a toy. It should somewhat reduce your time needed to stimulate yourself. Perhaps guide him to use it on you Use non invasive ones like a bullet.

Good luck

[Nikkikoh]

As a girl...
Toys help and really can help spice up the sex life.
But first ask him if its okay first....
Some guys don't like it as it will hurt there ego.:D

[Blackenrose]

Will i crush his ego if i tell him i've never come with him before? :/

Yah, actually most guys are quite concern whether they can make you have the big O. So I suggest just keep it to yourself first.. Try out more positions with him.. You might find some "acrobatic" styles would bring out the big O in you. Just remember to make him feel you want him, I think that is important to keep up the drive..
Oh 1 more thing, dress up, relax, feel sexy, it will really ease the path for you to get to your big O as well..

[DemonicSS]

As a girl...
Toys help and really can help spice up the sex life.
But first ask him if its okay first....
Some guys don't like it as it will hurt there ego.:D

I will be delighted to know that toys get my partner off. nothing beats what will actually help you. But personally, if a guy's ego is really that small, I would really ask you to ditch him, too emo for anyone's benefit.

[fictionman]

For me, i always started off kissing then slowly move down to her breast...fondle it gently & kiss gently her nipple...Once her nipple is steam, i go down to her pussy...Lick it gently at first...Then attack her clit...My gf always will say "yes dear...tts the spot" while grabing my head...Then insert my finger into her love hole...Licking & finger fuck at the same time..I knw she likes it very much...

Usually i will lick her ard 5 to 7mins...Always make sure she cums...She always will push me away once she cums coz too sensitive aldy...Tts my cue to fuck her wz my cock...Think she only cums when i lick her

My point is unless i can fuck like a porn star non-stop thrusting, my tongue will always be mightier then my cock...Diff ppl got diff way of cummin...Try to guide him how u wat him to lick u or which position u like to be fuck

We all have our flaws

[unsung80]

As a girl...
Toys help and really can help spice up the sex life.
But first ask him if its okay first....
Some guys don't like it as it will hurt there ego.:D

Toy is a good idea if sis TS is keen to explore deeper, is a good way to elevate your pleasure senses. You can chat with your bf about it to test his reaction.

[mcyeoh]

he cant satisfy u... i can... seriously... :D
he might know that he cant satisfy u during sex... he should hv at least made up for it by making u climax in other ways...
i can show u how... :D

only a fucked up new generation singaporean guy will think this way...ARE NEW GENERATION SINGAPOREAN GUYS THAT WEAK, TINY, SICK, INSECURE AND NOT TO MENTION PUNY NOWADAYS..NO WONDER THE WHOLE MALE SPECIES SS LAUGHING AT YOUR RACE..HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

[risingeast]

I think for the next round, try not to fake an orgasm, and after that, tell your bf that he need to put more effort in the foreplay and more imaginative ways in the love making. Probably end up you getting your orgasm, and he getting more from the prolonged love making. I always will work to get my partner to orgasm, and when she does, I feel very good.

[naan1974]

I think for the next round, try not to fake an orgasm, and after that, tell your bf that he need to put more effort in the foreplay and more imaginative ways in the love making. Probably end up you getting your orgasm, and he getting more from the prolonged love making. I always will work to get my partner to orgasm, and when she does, I feel very good.

wow. I can imagine after her BF shoot and "arggggg"
she turn around and say "bey song leh"

[Falicia]

fake orgasm is a no no