Let's discuss this....sex partially related.

[Rof|maoxz]

Godd afternoon brudders.... After reading a local news on a local singaporean man "being played out" by his PRC wife. I feel aghasted & appalled for him. Although his story may not be 100% true, I'm still standing from his point of view. Sometimes such sorrowful stories surfaced up after it has happened. Is there really no tale signs that it will happen? :confused:

Lastly, just to ask bros here.... "Men fall in love easily, but are unfaithful. When women love their men,they dedicate wholeheartedly. But they become hard-hearted when betrayed"

Do you support the above saying? Please give your views.... Tks~


Rof| :)

[yanki1]

hmmm quite true:p

[aikoN79]

It's these kind of women who run away after getting PR or refuse to give sex, unfaithful, refuse to do household, il treat mother-in-law that give those PRCs a bad name.

Even when the hubby wan sex she demand him to write on a piece of paper and pass it under the door !!! If she agree, she will jus shout from inside the room "Wan sex ? ok lor" if not she will open the door, go to the kitchen and burn the paper ~!!!!

And then cannot divorce these kind of wife cos need to pay maintainece..... Guys are always at the losing end when it comes to divorce. Damm those women rights group.

[solidwoody]

This is my 2 cents of my pt of view. Firstly I believe part of the fault must lie with the guy. Who would in their right mind would offer their own sister for marriage to him just after a few days especially when he has nothing to offer this china gal. He cannot be so naive as to believe that such things do happen. He must have heard abt other china women who have caused havoc with their so call marriage. He must have been thinking with his dick obviously.
After all the rules imposed upon he can still take it lying down? Which one among you in their right mind would?There must be another side to the story.
I think he might have promised the gal so many things before marriage and when after marriage when he cannot deliver things start to unravel for him.

[Rof|maoxz]

I think as a whole, we, men can't give up (放不下) or treasure their love relationship when threatened or unrecoverable state. You can notice in those "Ask Aunt Agony" thread, male just wanna retain the stained relationship no matter how the ger's refusal, knowing that this is only a temporarily measure....

[Rof|maoxz]

This is my 2 cents of my pt of view. Firstly I believe part of the fault must lie with the guy. Who would in their right mind would offer their own sister for marriage to him just after a few days especially when he has nothing to offer this china gal. He cannot be so naive as to believe that such things do happen. He must have heard abt other china women who have caused havoc with their so call marriage. He must have been thinking with his dick obviously.

After all the rules imposed upon he can still take it lying down? Which one among you in their right mind would?There must be another side to the story. I think he might have promised the gal so many things before marriage and when after marriage when he cannot deliver things start to unravel for him.

solidwoody, Tks~ for da input. As you noticed, the story of the STD part does have it's grey area. I think this story is a love-and-hate incident. The guy obviously do not want to give up, despite his parent's violent objection that his wife has secretly sterilized years ago.

[t0kc0k]

Boro Rof|maoxz
Side track a bit...do u have any updates on +++-kong.com or not?

[Rof|maoxz]

Bro Rof|maoxz
Side track a bit...do u have any updates on kong.com or not?

Still gg strong. Under intensive conditioning. :)

[t0kc0k]

Brudder
dunno but I cannot log in to +++-kong.com...any ideas? :rolleyes:

[xen0n]

Well, only one side of the story is revealed, so I can't really comment on it. But I believe its a one-off case. For men around his age, I don't think it would be that easy to look for real love or companionship. The only asset he would have is his money, and to realists, an attractive attribute.

Both genders would suffer one way or another. In this scenario, the woman chose to gave him the hard way out by walking out of him. But who knows if he had been battering his wife? This is just my assumption, and it might not be true. At least she didn't take all her money and ran away. So there's a rainbow at the end of the tunnel. :cool:

[olympique]

Yes, i kinda agree with you. When my ex-gf was with me, she was 100% devoted to me.
Alas, afte 3 years together, i fell in love with another gal and for a couple of months, was 2-timing her.
One fine day, she found out as she read my sms from her. That's it. Of course we broke up after I confessed and after that we cant even talk as I had wanted to continue being friends with her.
Didnt really regret breaking up with her as I love my current gal very much....

[Rof|maoxz]

Well, only one side of the story is revealed, so I can't really comment on it. But I believe its a one-off case. For men around his age, I don't think it would be that easy to look for real love or companionship. The only asset he would have is his money, and to realists, an attractive attribute.

Both genders would suffer one way or another. In this scenario, the woman chose to gave him the hard way out by walking out of him. But who knows if he had been battering his wife? This is just my assumption, and it might not be true. At least she didn't take all her money and ran away. So there's a rainbow at the end of the tunnel. :cool:

Let's say the man's story is a fact, we also can't do anything. Reason being that he is a forgiving man, one time after another, till he contracted STD and the wife MIA for quite sometime. This really leave a big question mark of the wife's side. So does she really infected with STD? That's why she choose not to have sex as regular as the husband wants? Or she has already achieved what she has wanted.... Singapore PR. This is worse than those undertable marriage with the foreigners women whereby the "fake husband" still get a handsome reward after the PR application has finalised. :cool:

[xen0n]

Let's say the man's story is a fact, we also can't do anything. Reason being that he is a forgiving man, one time after another, till he contracted STD and the wife MIA for quite sometime. This really leave a big question mark of the wife's side. So does she really infected with STD? That's why she choose not to have sex as regular as the husband wants? Or she has already achieved what she has wanted.... Singapore PR. This is worse than those undertable marriage with the foreigners women whereby the "fake husband" still get a handsome reward after the PR application has finalised. :cool:

Its possible that the wife cheated on the chap and even to the extent of infecting him with STD. If that is true, then the marriage was bogus from the onstart as the objective was just to obtain PR. But frankly speaking, its kind of difficult to have sex with somebody u don't like, unless we are talking about commercial sex. It just mounts on the bad reputation PRC wives have.

[aikoN79]

. It just mounts on the bad reputation PRC wives have.

I am going to get myself a Vietnam wifey :D

[Rof|maoxz]

Its possible that the wife cheated on the chap and even to the extent of infecting him with STD. If that is true, then the marriage was bogus from the onstart as the objective was just to obtain PR. But frankly speaking, its kind of difficult to have sex with somebody u don't like, unless we are talking about commercial sex. It just mounts on the bad reputation PRC wives have.

Maybe the man just want to get married for the sake of marriage. And he wanted to have sex just to upload his position of "husband status". :rolleyes:

I am going to get myself a Vietnam wifey

Unless you stop gg BS? The chinese magnet is just too stong. :D

[aikoN79]

Unless you stop gg BS? The chinese magnet is just too stong. :D

Wah ~~ me so famous ah ? Anyway stopped going liao mah... Na Na no more there le ~ :o

[Rof|maoxz]

Wah ~~ me so famous ah ? Anyway stopped going liao mah... Na Na no more there le ~ :o

There's no much such NaNa's around. One gone, another take over. She's just another meat. :)

[jng1103]

The first thought that came to my mind was, "why did he put himself into this situation (to marry a china woman)?". That was the same question when I was interviewed by a TV crew on the subject, "what would u do if u were retrenched and NOT giving adequate time of notice?". My answer was the same.

We always point fingers at others for any unexpected windfalls without take a deep look at ourselves. In this case, it may be fate (oh really?). If we allow our fate to control our destination (in this case, marrying a china woman), he shouldnt be crying out loud now. it's his fate, if he chooses to believe it.

Well, doesnt he know that china women have bad names when it comes to marrying a local man? (disclaimer: no offense intended, purely personal comment). That's the risk he took and he has to face the consequences. However, I dont think the china woman was sincere to marry him. Why? I think (personally hor...) all she wanted is the PR status. Btw, has she gotten the PR status yet?

my 69cents :D
jimbo

[Sorin^^]

Sometimes got true love sometimes got fake ones. I believe in true love. But there are also ppl who would do anything to get a citizenship. Once they achieve their aims, they would fark care liao.

But then, i believe tis is jus the ugly side we have seen. Good side hmmm

I oso wana go for vietnamese wife for companionship.:D Vietnamese are polite n well-mannered so far i heard.

[aikoN79]

I oso wana go for vietnamese wife for companionship.:D Vietnamese are polite n well-mannered so far i heard.

Yeah bro, they are fillial too. Confirm your parents will be in good hand. And they are not greedy at all.

All u need is 10k and the agent will bring u go door to door to search for someone u like... plus another few k for wedding dinner.... seems like a good deal. I have totally given up on local gals ~~ and PRC (except Na Na `` heehee) :D

[whitegals]

Hi brudders,

As I'm not in SG I have no idea what case you guys are discussing about. But seems like a local guy marrying a PRC gal who has refused to fulfil her duties as his wife after getting her PR status.

I'm not about to point fingers as to whose fault it is, but somehow alot of these problems seem to arise when either party lets himself/herself into it. For a some of the guys back home that I have contact with, I feel that they seem to get married due to 'saving-face'. They've come of a certain age and everyone around them seems to be getting hitched, they're not and people are whispering if they're gay/unwanted/not good looking/no money etc.

Personally, I feel that marriage is an instituition that should be reserved for 2 people who are in love with each other. Note, in love with each other, not one person loves the other... I have seen my fair share of marriages that have been rushed into because of either party putting the pressure on in one way or another. One common method is one party will have something to gain from getting into this marriage.

Anyway, I'll probably keep going, but what I'm trying to say is that, if you're going into a contract with someone, you want to be 100% sure of the other person. Of course you can't predict what's going to happen in the future but if both of you are in love, then you'll be willing to work things out and not turn tail and chabut... :D

[Rof|maoxz]

Yeah bro, they are fillial too. Confirm your parents will be in good hand. And they are not greedy at all.

All u need is 10k and the agent will bring u go door to door to search for someone u like... plus another few k for wedding dinner.... seems like a good deal. I have totally given up on local gals ~~ and PRC (except Na Na `` heehee) :D

If you are equipped with abundance of patience & good temper, by all means go ahead. I hate those men who keep asking his agent whether his prospective wife is a virgin, can cook or not, must take good care of old parents and at the same time must have a nice and round bottom. I may be generalising, but this is my POV and it's bloody true because I follow my friend there to pick a wife. :mad:

Not say you can't find these qualities in vietnam lah, but you can't be so choosy mah. Must also see what qualities the guy has, although the ger's side is always a obliging party.

[ricardo]

guys, everything also got good got bad one ... one of my tenant is a viet girl very pretty and grad from NUS but she create so many trouble with the other tenant that they all wanted to move out ... i almost end up losing money until i chase her out. but my other viet tenant (a student) perfect.

[aikoN79]

I hate those men who keep asking his agent whether his prospective wife is a virgin, can cook or not, must take good care of old parents and at the same time must have a nice and round bottom.

???? :confused:
1) I dun mind if my wife is not a virgin !!! Wat's past is past and now so rare to find virgin anyway. And since i not virgin, cant expect my wife to be one too.

2) At least need to cook a bit. Cos since young i have never tasted home-cooked food. (Me everyday eat outside de) Too much to ask meh ???

3) take care of parents is also a must for me. Cos i am the onli child staying with my mother !! If she dunno how to take care of her then how ???

4) When did i ever say i wan a nice and round bottom ???

[peter101]

lol ya anyway my friend's uncle also got himself a viet gal cost $12k including wedding. almost a yr liao things still good. anyway back to topic, well just say that the prc is a fuking bitch should catch her and do gang bang . haha. :D

[ultra88man]

I am going to get myself a Vietnam wifey :D

hi bro,

No matter where the "wife" is from .. I think to substain the relationship, there must be "love".

I think many "old" men in Sin were too wishful thinking that their "wives" who are 15-30 yrs old younger them them would "trully" love them just because they can provide for them and are able to get PR. Many a time what they provide were very simple, too simple after their "wives" really see Sin after staying here for a few years. Many men also think that these "wives" were their sex machines, want sex to satisfy themselves only without paying attention to their women's needs.

I am currently not in Singapore and did not read the whole story in the papers, but I have a feeling, from many past cases, is this about another middle-age man with a young wife ?

I have many friends who have PRC wives living happily, because they "know" them and have love for each other. They go thru normal courtship and stuffs like any couples, not a middle-age man and a young PRC/Vietnam gal.

Just my 1.5 cents worth ...

[aikoN79]

I think many "old" men in Sin were too wishful thinking that their "wives" who are 15-30 yrs old younger them them would "trully" love them

, not a middle-age man and a young PRC/Vietnam gal.

.......... me not middle-age man ........
so sad .....
.......... sigh....
already very sad when young kids asking for directions call me "uncle" instead of kor kor ..... + online ppl bring one level up call me middle age man cos i wanna get a vietnam wifey.... sigh.. :D

[Rof|maoxz]

If you are equipped with abundance of patience & good temper, by all means go ahead. I hate those men who keep asking his agent whether his prospective wife is a virgin, can cook or not, must take good care of old parents and at the same time must have a nice and round bottom. I may be generalising, but this is my POV and it's bloody true because I follow my friend there to pick a wife.

Not say you can't find these qualities in vietnam lah, but you can't be so choosy mah. Must also see what qualities the guy has, although the ger's side is always a obliging party.


???? :confused:
1) I dun mind if my wife is not a virgin !!! Wat's past is past and now so rare to find virgin anyway. And since i not virgin, cant expect my wife to be one too.

2) At least need to cook a bit. Cos since young i have never tasted home-cooked food. (Me everyday eat outside de) Too much to ask meh ???

3) take care of parents is also a must for me. Cos i am the onli child staying with my mother !! If she dunno how to take care of her then how ???

4) When did i ever say i wan a nice and round bottom ???

Young man, how I know your preference on your future wife, until you laid out your 4 points. I'm saying this is from my POV and all these criteria are set by my friend. When in my reply did I mention you? :confused:

[Rof|maoxz]

I am currently not in Singapore and did not read the whole story in the papers, but I have a feeling, from many past cases, is this about another middle-age man with a young wife ?

Just my 1.5 cents worth ...

Nope. Both of them are in thier 40s. :)

[no_faith]

Lastly, just to ask bros here.... "Men fall in love easily, but are unfaithful. When women love their men,they dedicate wholeheartedly. But they become hard-hearted when betrayed"

Do you support the above saying? Please give your views.... Tks~
imho, not true. it can be vice versa.