Getting tired of your GF/Wife/Sex Partner

[dirtymonk82]

How long did it take you to get tired of your other half, and make you switch your attention to other girls?

Will you guys just hope that your other half will say the 'Lets break up' word during a fight just so that you don't have to be the one saying it out and hurt the gal.

[jimmyccc]

How long did it take you to get tired of your other half, and make you switch your attention to other girls?

Will you guys just hope that your other half will say the 'Lets break up' word during a fight just so that you don't have to be the one saying it out and hurt the gal.

if it's ur sex partner... just look for new one...
if it's ur gf... just bear with it and find something new and interesting for the both of u... to reignite the flame...
if it's ur wife... u think easy meh "Lets break up"... have to pay one leh...

[nuclearkid]

Hi bro,

This is quite a multi-factorial question and I think relationship fatigue does fluctuate. My ex can irritate the hell out of me by being terribly insecure and sticky but melt my heart the next moment she does something sweet. But I do think that constant exposure to the same problem, for instance insecurity, can wear the other party out really quickly and cause some permanent scars. Without going into details, I do think that it really varies based on the dominant situation factors. Attention on other girls? Haha...always there and most of the time, regardless of the state of relationship. I mean, which guy doesn't look at girls and indulge the mind from time to time?

I am curious: Why did you ask? Hope you are not facing relationship problems.

And yes, I do hope that the girl pulls the plug and I have been on the ‘losing end’ on several occasions by agreeing to the request. It’s an easy way out, isn’t it, thinking that it’s the girl that wants out and hence, you shouldn’t feel too guilty. Sounds terribly familiar! Is it a common practice out there? :)

[beck7777]

Hi bro,

This is quite a multi-factorial question and I think relationship fatigue does fluctuate. My ex can irritate the hell out of me by being terribly insecure and sticky but melt my heart the next moment she does something sweet. But I do think that constant exposure to the same problem, for instance insecurity, can wear the other party out really quickly and cause some permanent scars. Without going into details, I do think that it really varies based on the dominant situation factors. Attention on other girls? Haha...always there and most of the time, regardless of the state of relationship. I mean, which guy doesn't look at girls and indulge the mind from time to time?

I am curious: Why did you ask? Hope you are not facing relationship problems.

And yes, I do hope that the girl pulls the plug and I have been on the ‘losing end’ on several occasions by agreeing to the request. It’s an easy way out, isn’t it, thinking that it’s the girl that wants out and hence, you shouldn’t feel too guilty. Sounds terribly familiar! Is it a common practice out there? :)

i get wot u trying to say bro but somehow the thread starter only meant in term of sex.. else he mention sex partner for wot... :D

and seriously speaking, so far only 1 of my ex can make me feel good all the way when i terms of sex while for others, i guess the most is just 3-4mths i start to feel bored which i tink is no good at all... imagine 1 of them becum my wife, cant stand it if sex life sucks....

just my 2 cents... cheers!

[blackeagle10]

Well it depends, some HB are tired of their wives after many years of nagging but some are pissed off with their wives after the first few months of marriage. So never know people have different agenda for geting married , some more noble and some downright sinister by asking wife to be FL and earn $$.

Different folks , different s+++es....

[vertikal]

How long did it take you to get tired of your other half, and make you switch your attention to other girls?

Will you guys just hope that your other half will say the 'Lets break up' word during a fight just so that you don't have to be the one saying it out and hurt the gal.


bro, they alwiz say u only learn how to treasure something after u have lose it.. why is it that you are tired of your other half? is it becuz of sex? communication breakdown ? or is she not attractive enough for you? I was in the same situation as you before.. and i had the same thinking as you.. wanting her to say the 'let's break up' word.. in the end, it was me who said it.. and till now.. i still miss her alot and i really regret doing it.. There's somethin i wanna ask you.. Do you love her? If yes, i really hope you can find fresh ideas or new things to do together with her.. But if you really wan a break up, please dont regret it next time..

[urvan77]

i myself had a sex partner for 4 years plus and i get to know her from a local chatline.1st 2 years very shiok fucking her cos she is a minah :) but on the plump side and as times goes by its like kind of bored already.that is y now hardly gt msg her unless cannot tahan anymore then go for her.

[Ah Seng]

I should said sex buddy cannot compare to GF/Wife lah.....sex buddies are someone whom u enjoy and loved each other sexually without commitments de.....
As 4 GF/Wife that's someone u loved sincerely with emotional attach de....whereby u cried,laughed 2gether.....I think something like that ba???

Correct me if I'm wrong all the brudders here....:)

[gonggong18]

Hi bro,

This is .. multi-factorial question ....ex can irritate the hell out of me ... but melt my heart .. ..... problems.

And yes, I do hope that the girl pulls the plug .......common practice out there? :)
I can understand the threadstarter's question and nuclearkid comment..had been in this state..

[Ah Seng]

hm......i think sex partner is different from wife/GF lor.....

Sex partner are one that enjoyed the sexual experiences and fantasies with u without attachments and commitments but a little feelings lah....

Wife/GF are one that u loved each other emotionally and physically.....with full on commitments towards each other lor.....

Do u agreed brudders out there? Correct me if i'm wrong:D

[dirtymonk82]

Maybe it is really the guilt factor that came into the picture when we guys do not want to be the one whom initate the breakup.

Be it sex partner or wife or girlfriend, will you all ever feel tired bonking the same gal for a long period of time?

[Ah Seng]

I agreed that sometimes it's a bit bored getting bonk the same person but.....if 2 person really loved each other then should say.......eh.........look 4 ways to ignite the flame between the 2...... see as u know to get someone that u truly loved and vice versa is damn a difficult thingy to find these days in our ever modernised society ah.....:cool:

[nuclearkid]

see as u know to get someone that u truly loved and vice versa is damn a difficult thingy to find these days in our ever modernised society ah.....:cool:

Hi bro,

Your concept is a little too abstract for me to understand. Care to elaborate more on the difficulty of find a true love in a modernised society? Its always good to see from different angles and this case, I never thought about it from your perspective.

Thanks and regards!

[Ah Seng]

Explain abt my opinion????well...dunno how to..... ;)

[dirtymonk82]

as u know to get someone that u truly loved and vice versa is damn a difficult thingy to find these days in our ever modernised society ah.....:cool:

Has to agree that is it really hard to find true love in this society. How do we really define true love in this society when so many external factor like money come into the play.

One may think that this is their true love during the dating period but when they look back after a breakup, every good point of their other half will turn into a bad points.

[Ah Seng]

Bro Dirty Monk,at least u can agreed with me..... how to explain these kinda thingy right??? U understand mean u understand rite??? Simple as that....:D

[nuclearkid]

I believe everyone's definitions of true love is different. Some are more forgiving and accepting of the flaws of others while the rest can be cynically critical. Some love in simple and humble ways while others practise conditional love.

Modernised society or not, I do not believe that the basic tenets of love have evolved or changed over time. It has been said many times that 'love is patient and love is kind' and this presciption is timeless. While many people would easily subscribe to the fact that love is made more complicated by the modern society (I believe to outsource the failure and blame out of oneself), how many would look at themselves and ask if they have been magnanimous in their love for others? Saying that, it takes two to make a marriage successful and it just requires one party to be complacent to make things difficult. I opine that money is just as excuse. There are people living on a salary of under $1500 a month. While this lifestyle may not exactly be opulent, its sufficient to get by.

[Gimmesex]

Hmmm, i tell u lor. Whether u get tired or not is not the main issue, men are animals lah. When we see new prey , we will go after, when we see a new phone in the market, we lust after it, we see new gals, we do the same thing...its in us.So...its not a question of when, but a question of whether we can curb the feeling..if we can't then it could just be the next day after u marry her, if u can, it would be when u die and when u are finally tired of her holding on to your hand even when she doesnt want to let go...