shy about intimacy

[graceshinee]

Hello=)

Anyone can share advice regarding shyness towards intimacy?
I came from a gal sch, so had a bf only in university.
My bf and i and i been together for close to 9 months.
Recently, my bf have the intention to to make out with me. But he notice me is very shy and uncomfortable with it=(
I am actually a extrovert by nature, takes part in alot activites ranging from school:nus cheerleading, to outside school:spca volunterering.
But i do not understand why i become very shy and awkward when comes to intimacy with my loved ones.
I am really afraid this would affect our relationship together.
I appreciate if anyone can advise,
Thanks=)

[the_e_ones]

Sis graceshinee, take one step at a time... be comfortable, feel it and enjoy it.

I'm sure you will be asking for more intimacy in no time...

P.S. we only live once...:cool:

[almera]

Hello=)

Anyone can share advice regarding shyness towards intimacy?
I came from a gal sch, so had a bf only in university.
My bf and i and i been together for close to 9 months.
Recently, my bf have the intention to to make out with me. But he notice me is very shy and uncomfortable with it=(
I am actually a extrovert by nature, takes part in alot activites ranging from school:nus cheerleading, to outside school:spca volunterering.
But i do not understand why i become very shy and awkward when comes to intimacy with my loved ones.
I am really afraid this would affect our relationship together.
I appreciate if anyone can advise,
Thanks=)

If you are ready to make out with him, probably arrange for a good dinner, have a little alcoholic drinks to ease the feeling, look for a clean/ private place (your room/ his room) .. switch off the light or with dim light ..

[WVranger]

Hello=)

Anyone can share advice regarding shyness towards intimacy?
I came from a gal sch, so had a bf only in university.
My bf and i and i been together for close to 9 months.
Recently, my bf have the intention to to make out with me. But he notice me is very shy and uncomfortable with it=(
I am actually a extrovert by nature, takes part in alot activites ranging from school:nus cheerleading, to outside school:spca volunterering.
But i do not understand why i become very shy and awkward when comes to intimacy with my loved ones.
I am really afraid this would affect our relationship together.
I appreciate if anyone can advise,
Thanks=)

Watch more love show, especially those R rated ones, you will slowly act what you watched. Most of all you got to be relax, tensed up will create phobia towards intimacy.

Ps. Not asking you to watch SM movie and act like it, you will RUN!!!

[velenma]

Start with proper state of mind

Think of intimacy as an act of love, not lust

Tell urself this is the beginning of a wonderful relationship between both of u

Relax, take a deep breath

Think about things that u will do together

Set some milestones

Kissing
Deep french kiss
Petting
Heavy petting
Semi naked
Naked
Massage
Erotic massage
Oral sex
Non penetrative orgasm
Semi penetration
Full penetration

From the 12 milestones above, u may want to try one per month, but as things pick up, the progress would be exponential

Ur bf has to be like a sushi chef, and not a butcher

To be continued

[FltPartner]

There is a first for everything

[conquer]

Think about making more population for our beloved Singapore.

Spread your legs and Majulah Singapura! :cool:

[Blackenrose]

Hello=)

Anyone can share advice regarding shyness towards intimacy?
I came from a gal sch, so had a bf only in university.
My bf and i and i been together for close to 9 months.
Recently, my bf have the intention to to make out with me. But he notice me is very shy and uncomfortable with it=(
I am actually a extrovert by nature, takes part in alot activites ranging from school:nus cheerleading, to outside school:spca volunterering.
But i do not understand why i become very shy and awkward when comes to intimacy with my loved ones.
I am really afraid this would affect our relationship together.
I appreciate if anyone can advise,
Thanks=)

Hi sister,
yes.. I think it will affect your relationship if u continue to be shy.. So..take the first step, give it a go. U will love it.

[bloggert]

It is normal to be shy about intimacy and you have nothing to be apologetic about. Intimacy is about allowing someone into an area of your life that is very private and precious. Naturally, you would not just be shy, but cautious about who you let into your secret garden.

Some reasons why a person might feel "shy" or uncertain could be:-

1. You're not totally sure about that person - you may like him but you may not trust him enough yet to let him into your secret garden.

2. You are worried that he may not like your garden after you let him in. This has to do with your self-esteem. It could be that you're not confident of yourself, or you're not sure how to handle the situation and things might get awkward and you end up embarrassing yourself. Do you trust him to accept you unconditionally?

3. Girls have more to lose than guys when it comes to intimacy. Naturally girls are more cautious about it than guys. The guy should know how to win your trust.

4. It is easier for guys to treat sex as sex, and far more difficult for girls to just enjoy sexual intimacy without considering wider concerns - such as the future of the relationship, romance, potential risks, etc.

All that is to say that there is nothing wrong with being shy, especially if it is your first time and you're inexperienced. As others have suggested - take it at a pace that you are comfortable with and don't be pressured into anything that you might later regret. Give when you are comfortable and ready to give. You're probably still young and if the guy is so eager for intimacy that he would leave you on that account, frankly, he's not worth it.

Aside from that, you should also educate yourself - learn up about your own body and sexuality. Read about the experiences of others. Contrary to what was suggested - porn is rather unlike reality so take all that with a pinch of salt. You might even want to talk to your bf about this. That has the added value of understanding how he sees it all.

[FunnyPartner]

true... where's FirstPartner? :D

Who is that? :D

[FunnyPartner]

ohhh... could be the FicticiousPartner :D

Thanks for the info :D

[archer69]

sis I can help you, pm you.

[FltPartner]

Who is that? :D

Who are you? Don't funny funny ah.

[conquer]

sis I can help you, pm you.

I was expecting someone to say this... Good luck, my friend. :cool:

[FltPartner]

I was expecting someone to say this... Good luck, my friend. :cool:

Did u pm her yet ?

[graceshinee]

It is normal to be shy about intimacy and you have nothing to be apologetic about. Intimacy is about allowing someone into an area of your life that is very private and precious. Naturally, you would not just be shy, but cautious about who you let into your secret garden.

Some reasons why a person might feel "shy" or uncertain could be:-

1. You're not totally sure about that person - you may like him but you may not trust him enough yet to let him into your secret garden.

2. You are worried that he may not like your garden after you let him in. This has to do with your self-esteem. It could be that you're not confident of yourself, or you're not sure how to handle the situation and things might get awkward and you end up embarrassing yourself. Do you trust him to accept you unconditionally?

3. Girls have more to lose than guys when it comes to intimacy. Naturally girls are more cautious about it than guys. The guy should know how to win your trust.

4. It is easier for guys to treat sex as sex, and far more difficult for girls to just enjoy sexual intimacy without considering wider concerns - such as the future of the relationship, romance, potential risks, etc.

All that is to say that there is nothing wrong with being shy, especially if it is your first time and you're inexperienced. As others have suggested - take it at a pace that you are comfortable with and don't be pressured into anything that you might later regret. Give when you are comfortable and ready to give. You're probably still young and if the guy is so eager for intimacy that he would leave you on that account, frankly, he's not worth it.

Aside from that, you should also educate yourself - learn up about your own body and sexuality. Read about the experiences of others. Contrary to what was suggested - porn is rather unlike reality so take all that with a pinch of salt. You might even want to talk to your bf about this. That has the added value of understanding how he sees it all.

Ok thank you for your reply=)
Will work on what you have shared:D

[PrinceCharles]

I was expecting someone to say this... Good luck, my friend. :cool:

same here as well ;)

[conquer]

Did u pm her yet ?

No. TS is the one should PM me. I charge, my friend. :p

same here as well ;)

This shows that we have a caring society. Many bros are ready to give a helping hand... a helping dick, I mean. :D

[porscheclub]

Miss. Always remember to practise SAFE SEX even with your boyfriends not just for disease but most importantly pregnancy.

Once you're pregnant, your life changes for worse when you're both not ready. Some get destroyed by it. So, wear that condom & pop those pills!

Now, back to popping your cherry. Watching softporn together helps a lot & girls need to be put into the mood so don't be surprised that your BF needs to start working on it days in advance, making you feel loved and like a princess ;)

Stay away from those raunchy Cat3 hardcore porn stuffs, you'll only want those later.

[limii62]

Sis graceshinee

Your virgin is most precious. Don't lose it

[dimplesboy]

Hello=)

Anyone can share advice regarding shyness towards intimacy?
I came from a gal sch, so had a bf only in university.
My bf and i and i been together for close to 9 months.
Recently, my bf have the intention to to make out with me. But he notice me is very shy and uncomfortable with it=(
I am actually a extrovert by nature, takes part in alot activites ranging from school:nus cheerleading, to outside school:spca volunterering.
But i do not understand why i become very shy and awkward when comes to intimacy with my loved ones.
I am really afraid this would affect our relationship together.
I appreciate if anyone can advise,
Thanks=)


First time is always awkward. Nobody is born so "open" towards making out. Everything begins with the first step. Sis you need to make that first step out. Once you make that first step, things will be easy. :)

[ddog]

Ddog just like to add:
1. Go with the flow when ready
2. Be reminded partner of condom

[acidicavex]

Want to get rid of shyness....

U can

1) everyday stand naked infront of mirror look up down side tell yourself u look fantastic.
2) while at no.1 take more selfie.
3) need to boost that confident post on sbf photo session of coz cut the head off.... and let the tiko bros n uncles here sing praise of u.
4) do more petting...
5) if u worried have a drink or 2 get alittle tipsy.. but make sure u are with the right person.
6) let go and go wild after no.5

SHould more points but mentally kana block.

Last point whatever it is safe sex...

[graceshinee]

Want to get rid of shyness....

U can

1) everyday stand naked infront of mirror look up down side tell yourself u look fantastic.
2) while at no.1 take more selfie.
3) need to boost that confident post on sbf photo session of coz cut the head off.... and let the tiko bros n uncles here sing praise of u.
4) do more petting...
5) if u worried have a drink or 2 get alittle tipsy.. but make sure u are with the right person.
6) let go and go wild after no.5

SHould more points but mentally kana block.

Last point whatever it is safe sex...

Oh okies=)
I take note of these points

[graceshinee]

Miss. Always remember to practise SAFE SEX even with your boyfriends not just for disease but most importantly pregnancy.

Once you're pregnant, your life changes for worse when you're both not ready. Some get destroyed by it. So, wear that condom & pop those pills!

Now, back to popping your cherry. Watching softporn together helps a lot & girls need to be put into the mood so don't be surprised that your BF needs to start working on it days in advance, making you feel loved and like a princess ;)

Stay away from those raunchy Cat3 hardcore porn stuffs, you'll only want those later.

Ok. Do you need i shld intro him to read all these , so he know what to do?

[wondergal]

Some of us are not naturally open or adventurous towards being naked and having sex, and feel shy about it. I feel that asking a shy woman to watch soft porn or hard porn is not the surest way to get her excited because she can still be repulsed by it. Porn is the men's way.

I suggest that first you try exploring your own body, touching yourself, and even touching down there to discover how you like to be touched, so that later you can tell him how or what to do. Then consider asking the man to try clothed massage if you are shy about being naked too soon, then later on another day, ask him to do a nude massage where you are nude. I know it can get women in the mood because it is similar to foreplay, or could actually be foreplay. Be prepared with condoms in case the massage gets you excited enough to proceed with sex.

[naan1974]

Why must you let him touch you?
What if you dirty you and dump you?
What if you gets you pregnant and dump you?
What if he loses respect for you ?

[alwaysalone]

Ok. Do you need i shld intro him to read all these , so he know what to do?

All guys watched porn. There is no need to intro to him.

If he says he never watched porn before, he is lying.

[graceshinee]

Some of us are not naturally open or adventurous towards being naked and having sex, and feel shy about it. I feel that asking a shy woman to watch soft porn or hard porn is not the surest way to get her excited because she can still be repulsed by it. Porn is the men's way.

I suggest that first you try exploring your own body, touching yourself, and even touching down there to discover how you like to be touched, so that later you can tell him how or what to do. Then consider asking the man to try clothed massage if you are shy about being naked too soon, then later on another day, ask him to do a nude massage where you are nude. I know it can get women in the mood because it is similar to foreplay, or could actually be foreplay. Be prepared with condoms in case the massage gets you excited enough to proceed with sex.

Oh touch myself means? To masterbate? Sorry! I nt very sure what you trying to mean!

[LJH]

so there is the 1% here.. still a virgin at this age.. *thumbs up*

[Queserasera]

When the mood is there... It will all be natural

[wondergal]

Oh touch myself means? To masterbate? Sorry! I nt very sure what you trying to mean!

Yes, that is what I read. Unlike men, there are many areas all over women's bodies which can cause arousal when touched in a way that we like, but we have to discover it for ourselves how we would like to be touched. When we know, we can tell the man how to do it.