Advise for a 4th Party Listener

[Ah Keong]

Hi all Bros,

I would like to seek all samster bros/siss for your view on the following:

1. Do you help your best friend lie to his CO so that he can be with his mistress/a new found love?

Well, recently I'm caught in this situation whereby my best friend falls in love with another gal that they even went for a trip together, while telling his CO is a biz trip (not exactly wrong, just that he missed out the gal is coming along).

Worst of all, I'm also his CO best friend. As a good friend, I do not want their marriage to failed and have the best interest for both of them; but I know I can't dictate their life. But as times goes by, sometimes I wonder is it better for both of them to separate?

Recently, that's a discussion with him on how confidence is he in telling me all theses. He knows I wouldn't do anything to jeopardise his relationship with his CO, but he also expect me to lie/cover for him; which I am not comfortable at all since his CO is also my best friend.

So if any bros/siss have anything for me, please do advise on how I should handle it.

[klzombie]

I think the definition of best friend covers both male and female friends and if they're both your best friends, it is in your interest not only to stop helping your male best friend in covering his lies but to urge him to stop, think and consider his position and his next course of action; i.e. whether to stop his secret relationship or talk to his CO.

To continue to indulge your male best friend will only bring ruin to both the male and female (remember alimony damages and wealth splitting etc on divorce :D ). For the female, the continuation of a marriage gone wrong will only waste her time and youth when she finally find out her husband's infidelity. And its always better to come out from the horse's mouth then someone else...

So, thats my 5 cents worth.

The alternative comical reply would be: Since you male best friend is indulging in secret liaison, you can seduce your female best friend and have your very own secret liaison. So when the secret all get out, you four can have an orgy! What else to spice up your life if not some sex among best friends! :D hehehe... no offence, just joking!!

[Cheri_Popper]

1. Do you help your best friend lie to his CO so that he can be with his mistress/a new found love?


You helping him to lie to his CO is consider abetting him. It is also encouraging him.

You also risked losing the friendship of his CO since she is also considered your good friend when one day she finds out the truth.

The best is to tell him that you are unable to help and advise him accordingly.

[chickenzip]

since both are your good friends, it would be rather unfair to help one but not the other.

my suggestion is I would make clear to the husband that I am staying clear of his affair and will not offer any help to cover his lies, to be fair to the wife. meanwhile, I will try my best to advise him...

[rustydickie]

imho, i feel that it was not fair of your male best friend to be making use of you, knowing the kind of relationship you have with his CO. he is being selfish.

you should make it clear to him that you do not wish to jeopardise your friendship and that he should leave you out of his scheming ideas.

[Ah Keong]

Thks bros for your advises.



My make up poem

When one is blinded by new flame, old love quitely withered away.
When one longs for new sweet memories, one has forgotten his past sweet memories.
When one mind loses to the heart over his new love, he has betrayed that trust that was given to him.

SO...

When one cock itches, just pay, enjoy, and fuck off.

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Hope it doesn't offend any bros.

[Castrol]

Recently, that's a discussion with him on how confidence is he in telling me all theses. He knows I wouldn't do anything to jeopardise his relationship with his CO, but he also expect me to lie/cover for him; which I am not comfortable at all since his CO is also my best friend.
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whats special about your case is that you know the wife. but why his wife can be also your "best friend"?

anyway, always bear in mind it dont mean a shit to you whether they are still married or divorced. becos they got marital problems, husband and wife sleep beside each other, they solve it themselves. to put it crudely, whether they bbbj and make up, or lick pussy and quarrel, you wont get to enjoy it.

from experience, i told my friend this - you and your wife, dont fucking ever call me to ask where the other person has been or is now where or with who.

you see, this friend of mine grew up with me. we understand each other cos we are the same la. ktv, niteclub etc are all our hobbies. then he started to keep telling his wife he is always drinking with me, machium keep me company. and the wife began calling me whenever she's suspicious.

i acted the good buddy, tried to cover up everytime. then the worst fuck came, his wife called me on my hp one nite (i was sleeping) and shouted at me, "why you teach my husband all the bad things? you bring him go drinking and play women? if we divorce you happy is it?"

ccb. :D

[tryying]

Good ppl hard to become. "Hao Ren Nan Zhou"

Get out of this shit or u become bad guy, get a chance to bonk his wife. :D

[l3atu]

Since both are ur frens, I suggest you just keep quiet on this matter. Ther are no right or wrong if both are your very gd frens. When it comes to matter of the heart, its better to let the couple settle it between themselves.

[fausto]

kepp out of this.

or you will find yourself 2 best friends short.

[AD69]

You helping him to lie to his CO is consider abetting him. It is also encouraging him.

You also risked losing the friendship of his CO since she is also considered your good friend when one day she finds out the truth.
Agree with you on this statement.

He is helping his best frd in cheating his wife and he himself is cheating her too. If she finds out the truth one day, she will be very devastated.

[Ah Keong]

Many thks to the bros who gave me their precious thoughts.

I guess you guys are right; I just need to be more firm on myself and him.

As for the advising part, just like to update those bros that are concerned. He is now totally blind with his new found love; he already let his heart rule over his mind. Also me and him suspect his CO already suspecting something is fishy, only choose to keep quiet.

That's make me more pity the CO (pls bro, is out of pure pity and nv the thought of bonking her; not my type).

As for the discussion we have as mentioned earlier, he did mentioned that he will cover and lie for me if I'm in his shoe. As for this male best friend of mine; sitting down to think thru; I can't deny there's some sense of being make use of. For eg, when he wanted to meet this gal initially, he will always ask me along; saying got fun cannot leave xiong di behind; but then I already know my presence is just to lower the suspicion of others.

But I guess you guys are right; it does not benefit me in anyway and I shouldn't even be bother by it.

Sigh.....yi qi is worth that much; xiong di is for that much.

LOL.

And most important, life still carry on.....in sammyboy.

[plman2002]

IMHO, your friend is very selfish.
If he take pride in doing that, he should take responsibility in doing it too.
Why should he ask you to help?
I bet his CO knows yr wife/gf too. (correct me if I am wrong)
If, one day, this matter gets expose, I think you will be in trouble too.

At least a minimum of nagging from your wife/gf.

Helping friend is good, but must measure the weight of the matter.

Cheers,

[sevenhabits]

Once your friend's CO finds out about his secret, your friend will first think of you as the leak. Your friend's CO will fault you for not being her informant.

No win, lose lose situation.

Wear some ear plugs and blindfold your eyes.


Many thks to the bros who gave me their precious thoughts.

I guess you guys are right; I just need to be more firm on myself and him.

As for the advising part, just like to update those bros that are concerned. He is now totally blind with his new found love; he already let his heart rule over his mind. Also me and him suspect his CO already suspecting something is fishy, only choose to keep quiet.

That's make me more pity the CO (pls bro, is out of pure pity and nv the thought of bonking her; not my type).

As for the discussion we have as mentioned earlier, he did mentioned that he will cover and lie for me if I'm in his shoe. As for this male best friend of mine; sitting down to think thru; I can't deny there's some sense of being make use of. For eg, when he wanted to meet this gal initially, he will always ask me along; saying got fun cannot leave xiong di behind; but then I already know my presence is just to lower the suspicion of others.

But I guess you guys are right; it does not benefit me in anyway and I shouldn't even be bother by it.

Sigh.....yi qi is worth that much; xiong di is for that much.

LOL.

And most important, life still carry on.....in sammyboy.

[hornybastard]

Hi all Bros,

I would like to seek all samster bros/siss for your view on the following:

1. Do you help your best friend lie to his CO so that he can be with his mistress/a new found love?

Well, recently I'm caught in this situation whereby my best friend falls in love with another gal that they even went for a trip together, while telling his CO is a biz trip (not exactly wrong, just that he missed out the gal is coming along).

Worst of all, I'm also his CO best friend. As a good friend, I do not want their marriage to failed and have the best interest for both of them; but I know I can't dictate their life. But as times goes by, sometimes I wonder is it better for both of them to separate?

Recently, that's a discussion with him on how confidence is he in telling me all theses. He knows I wouldn't do anything to jeopardise his relationship with his CO, but he also expect me to lie/cover for him; which I am not comfortable at all since his CO is also my best friend.

So if any bros/siss have anything for me, please do advise on how I should handle it.


do not get involved...

[plman2002]

Can those bro who replied to threadstarter quoting his whole post, do not repeat same mistake again?

cheers,

[klzombie]

Actually if you really consider him your best friend, you should proactively tell him to stop what he is doing coz its going to hurt alot of parties not to mention his CO also your best friend.

The other thing is: Does he consider you as his best friend? He seem to be just using you in certain ways to benefit himself... I have some friends like that too you know, claiming you are his brother and so on and they always have excuses to what they were doing but if you think properlym they're just doing things for their own good and no one else. Think about it, bro.

[Ah Keong]

First, I would like to thanks all bros here for your concern and advise.


Actually if you really consider him your best friend, you should proactively tell him to stop what he is doing coz its going to hurt alot of parties not to mention his CO also your best friend.

Sigh...I have in a friend capacity advise, warn, scold, suan him in all manners. At first, he assures me is just an emotional affair and will not take any extra step and that he likes her, think about her, sms her, etc. And despite I warned him to take a control of himself, one day he finally cannot take it and express his likeness to the gal. In less than 1 month, the gal response back to his likeness with flirty words and sweet caring actions. That's one thing I have not added in earlier, this gal happen to be a mj kaki of CO (very TCS drama style hor). CO used to take good care of her too, like going out always jio her, etc; so I guess it expose her to my male best friend and then ri jiu sheng qing.

My biggest disappointment with my male best friend is despite how he say he can control the situation and promised me he will nv leave his wife; he finally started an affairs with the gal during his oversea trip.

Now I'm avoiding meeting his wife as I feel sorry for her. A stupid CO.

Sigh....

[cdr_bly]

Ouch. Caught between 2 best friends. End of the day ours is not to judge. Try not to get involved because end of the day chances are you will most likely be blamed by all parties.

As a friend you can only advice him not to mess up a nice marriage the rest is up to him.

[newbadass]

anyway, always bear in mind it dont mean a shit to you whether they are still married or divorced. becos they got marital problems, husband and wife sleep beside each other, they solve it themselves. to put it crudely, whether they bbbj and make up, or lick pussy and quarrel, you wont get to enjoy it.

Bro Castrol, I love your replies. You're a classic! :D