View Full Version : Is Nightspots like Pubs/KTV/Discos The Right Place To Look For Love
Fire Fighter
22-01-2007, 10:56 PM
I had seen and noticed that many friends and bros tends to look for love at these places. Sometimes they fall for those working as coyetes, waitress, GROs, singers, etc in these kind of joints. Aren't these joints the wrong place to look for love and GF?
Whenever they see their "GF" talking or entertaining other patrons, they feel uneasy/jealous/ignored. In this case, wouldn't we be better to find someone who works a normal job instead of in entertainment line with just late working hours.
Are we expecting too much from them when it is their job to entertain other patrons? Can we be more understanding to them and they be more sensitive to our feelings?
Are we really that lonely/desperate to look for potentials GF/Wife in these kind of joints or it is just plain fate and perhaps destiny that you meet someone you really like in these joints.
Your positive or negative views are much appreciated.
curiosityz
23-01-2007, 12:22 AM
this is a very good question raised up by bro here. i have seem friends in such instances... i am excited to see the opinions and views from bros here...
Generally, Guys who look for love in NiteSpots are for love making. Gals frequent in nite spots happen to be easier or, we should call it more willing?
Guys who find gals in nitespots should set their expectation correctly, if he really happen to FALL for one, he should have already know what to expect, afterall, he too, find his gal using same channel....
There is no right place nor wrong place to lok for gal or girlfriend, as long as u know what you are looking for. :D
newbadass
23-01-2007, 11:10 AM
If you look for love and romance repeatedly, chances are eventually, be it three months or three years, you will find it. No one is totally CMI. Everyone has at least one other person out there who is capable of falling in love with them.
It doesn't really matter where you look for it, as long as you're simply actively looking. Could be the library, the cinema, the church...
However, most fail to realise that if you go to a KTV to look for love, subconsciously you're specifically telling yourself you want a KTV girl as a partner. Likewise when you look for it in a church, very likely your ideal partner is a typical christian girl.
It's when people set these conditions for themselves, that they get into trouble. Be flexible, be open!
Fire Fighter
23-01-2007, 12:18 PM
I guess is that these are the place we frequent so the chances of meeting someone we really like is quite high especially these places have a lot of chio bus.
A friend of mine met his future wife in a disco. They are married now with 2 kids
Fire Fighter
23-01-2007, 12:21 PM
However, most fail to realise that if you go to a KTV to look for love, subconsciously you're specifically telling yourself you want a KTV girl as a partner.
I don't agreed, it is because if you talk to a KTV gal, the chances of her talking back to you is high as she is there to entertain you and make you feel special in order to earn more tips from you. Most confused this as the gal might have a liking for you and that's when the trouble starts.
Onyx2Rock
23-01-2007, 12:50 PM
Mai Xiao La BROTHER... They WORK there.... to entertain you..... mainly..
If u feel u got chemistry with them, tat 50% of the BGR... Then u have to be very sure they GOT CHEMISTRY with you to form the complete ball game la...
From my experiences, the gals will fake the chemistry effect juz to entertain me and do what they get for lor...
Therefore, my take is NO and it is juz a place of pay funs...
PS: i used to have a relationship with a ex KTV / HC gal.
Rof|maoxz
23-01-2007, 12:53 PM
I don't agreed, it is because if you talk to a KTV gal, the chances of her talking back to you is high as she is there to entertain you and make you feel special in order to earn more tips from you. Most confused this as the gal might have a liking for you and that's when the trouble starts.
Exactly!!!
This type of topic hor, newbadass sure the first of the few who replies. :D
newbadass
23-01-2007, 02:24 PM
I don't agreed, it is because if you talk to a KTV gal, the chances of her talking back to you is high as she is there to entertain you and make you feel special in order to earn more tips from you. Most confused this as the gal might have a liking for you and that's when the trouble starts.
You miss my point lah...
The case you pointed out is accidental - guy go there for fun but end up falling in love.
I'm talking about going to a place purposely to look for future wife.
On the other hand, you also have a good point. Maybe some guys purposely look for wife there because they think KTV girls easier to sian. :D
newbadass
23-01-2007, 02:26 PM
Exactly!!!
This type of topic hor, newbadass sure the first of the few who replies. :D
Then what you want me to do... hang around waiting for foreign marriage Visa enquiries to reply to? Or hang about in KTV thread so that I can tell everyone about my FOCs? :D
Rof|maoxz
23-01-2007, 02:34 PM
Then what you want me to do... hang around waiting for foreign marriage Visa enquiries to reply to? Or hang about in KTV thread so that I can tell everyone about my FOCs?
No leh, I waiting for those have FOCs ones, got repay later or not mah. :D
Fire Fighter
23-01-2007, 02:53 PM
I'm talking about going to a place purposely to look for future wife.
Bro, I did not go there to purposely look for a GF. I happened to go there on the invitation of a friend and got to know her. After getting to know her, she has been ALWAYS ON MY MIND. I been thinking of her almost everyday. :o
newbadass
23-01-2007, 03:09 PM
Bro, I did not go there to purposely look for a GF. I happened to go there on the invitation of a friend and got to know her. After getting to know her, she has been ALWAYS ON MY MIND. I been thinking of her almost everyday.
Don't worry, you're normal.
All those years back when I first started, the very first girl I had was wild and horny, C-cup, slightly mature face. I had wet dreams of her for a few nights, but never called her number. Maybe even back then, I was a cynic :)
A month and countless hours of playing with other girls in different KTVs later, I'd forgotten all about her. The solution to your problem is - chiong until your cock goes on strike :D
Fire Fighter
23-01-2007, 03:12 PM
Don't worry, you're normal.
Normal? I had been away for 2 weeks in LOS and was with other gals but she is still constantly on my mind. Is that still normal? :confused:
CoolBlack
23-01-2007, 05:40 PM
Just to share my views, it's not the place but it's where fate brings you to.
I have friends who are happily married to gals they meet at night spots and even a KTV gal.....after many years they have kids and are still happy.
Why night spots? well, that is where people go to to mingle and get to know new friends....not too easy to approach strangers in supermarkets or shopping centres...right?
With the kind of working hours and the limited places to make new friends in Singapore, it is not too easy to find a mate.
This is why match making agencies and organizations like SDU, etc. comes in to help us to get hitch.
MSN, chatrooms, internet as a whole is now a whole new world to get to know people, but of course there are risks involved.
To me, life is fated.......so just live everyday the best we can and see what happens.
My 2 cents worth. Cheers!
If you mean the girls that you meet at discos who are there like you to club, then it is not the wrong place to meet your other half.
If you mean girls that work as hostesses in KTV, Pubs, Dancers etc....
I can only say one thing to those who seek love from them. YOU ARE A FUCKING IDIOT. Why? Because the reason why they are earning money to be there is to draw in men, to make every man from boy to uncle feel like he is a sweet talker and that he can pick up any girl he wants and he is a stud.
Hence these girls are also no 1 is manupilating a guy. So everytime a guy here comes up and say he fell in love with this or that. It is true love, it is different, she dont sleep around like others etc etc etc... I would say only one thing WAKE UP YOUR FUCKING IDEA.
Cheri_Popper
23-01-2007, 06:28 PM
If you want to "enjoy" the relationship, you have to "accept" her jobscope. That is that she has to "entertain" other patrons there. If she spend some of her time with you, you should be glad and do not expect too much. Cos when there is "expectation", there bound to be "disappointment".
Cheri_Popper
23-01-2007, 06:33 PM
I would say only one thing WAKE UP YOUR FUCKING IDEA.
Bro, don't be so harsh. There are also success stories but the failure rate is high. There are even success stories of former WL/FL marrying locals. So it is not that far fetched to think that there might be a succeeful ending to his story.
Everyone wants to think that their "gal" is special and not like the rest.
dirtymonk82
23-01-2007, 07:12 PM
I personally feel that there is no right or wrong place to find love. The gal who you knew in a library could turn out to a slut while the gal whom you knew working in nightspots could be a decent gal whom is trying her best mean to bring some bread home.
Remembering this, there are always 2 sides to every story.
Nucleus2006
23-01-2007, 07:27 PM
There are even success stories of former WL/FL marrying locals. So it is not that far fetched to think that there might be a succeeful ending to his story.
Everyone wants to think that their "gal" is special and not like the rest.I agree with you bro. Mr.romance is a very good example. He should come out and share his sucess story. :)
newbadass
23-01-2007, 07:39 PM
Everyone wants to think that their "gal" is special and not like the rest.
Actually, everyone wants to feel that they themselves are special and not like the rest, not the girl. However, they don't realise that the "special" here is the same meaning as the Down's Syndrome that kind of special :D
newbadass
23-01-2007, 07:50 PM
I personally feel that there is no right or wrong place to find love. The gal who you knew in a library could turn out to a slut while the gal whom you knew working in nightspots could be a decent gal whom is trying her best mean to bring some bread home.
Mmmm... library slut... I have fantasies about that... :p
broatsamforum
23-01-2007, 08:48 PM
Short term YES!, Long term ones... TAN GU GU!!:D
Cheri_Popper
23-01-2007, 09:42 PM
they don't realise that the "special" here is the same meaning as the Down's Syndrome that kind of special
Not everyone wants to admit that he has that type of "special"! ;)
It is not impossible for it to success, but it is just hard to achieve thats all. :D
Deztruct
23-01-2007, 09:47 PM
If you mean the girls that you meet at discos who are there like you to club, then it is not the wrong place to meet your other half.
If you mean girls that work as hostesses in KTV, Pubs, Dancers etc....
I can only say one thing to those who seek love from them. YOU ARE A FUCKING IDIOT. Why? Because the reason why they are earning money to be there is to draw in men, to make every man from boy to uncle feel like he is a sweet talker and that he can pick up any girl he wants and he is a stud.
Hence these girls are also no 1 is manupilating a guy. So everytime a guy here comes up and say he fell in love with this or that. It is true love, it is different, she dont sleep around like others etc etc etc... I would say only one thing WAKE UP YOUR FUCKING IDEA.
agree with u..the gers are there to make u feel gd..i not sayin all are money grabbers but somehow i still cynical at findin gf at such place
WAKE UP YOUR FUCKING IDEA.
tschk ... tschk ... aiyo, so politically correct.
Is Nightspots like Pubs/KTV/Discos The Right Place To Look For Love
Of course!!!! Duh ... We love all the cute hostesses/bargirls ...
:D
Th4r
Cheri_Popper
24-01-2007, 01:14 AM
Of course!!!! Duh ... We love all the cute hostesses/bargirls ...
:D
Th4r
And I like the girl on your Avatar....so Na Ruk! :D
jintulan
24-01-2007, 09:24 AM
... WAKE UP YOUR FUCKING IDEA.this may be the best piece of advice here I think, but the problem is; some of us have a hard time waking up after too much FUCKING ;)
babycheong
24-01-2007, 10:18 AM
Normal? I had been away for 2 weeks in LOS and was with other gals but she is still constantly on my mind. Is that still normal? :confused:
Yes, normal.....cos she successfully stike the soft spot of urs.
dont play to look for love if you are looking for a decent kind. Those are places for flings.
Fire Fighter
24-01-2007, 05:56 PM
If it happens it will just happened. I didn't go there looking for it but in the end I....haizzz:(
And I like the girl on your Avatar....so Na Ruk!
Hey, off topic ... what does "Na Ruk" mean?
... learning thai ...
Th4r
whitegals
25-01-2007, 03:30 AM
I dunno about love, but if i go to such places, I normally go looking for casual sex.
A lot of the gals that I know also have this same view as me, they're also there to have a good time, get laid and not have to worry about commitment headaches.
Cheri_Popper
25-01-2007, 01:03 PM
Hey, off topic ... what does "Na Ruk" mean?
... learning thai ...
Th4r
I thought you are the Thai expert? I am just a newbie in Thai.....I might have spelt it wrong but it means "CUTE". :p
Bro, don't be so harsh. There are also success stories but the failure rate is high. There are even success stories of former WL/FL marrying locals. So it is not that far fetched to think that there might be a succeeful ending to his story.
Everyone wants to think that their "gal" is special and not like the rest.
Not harsh, just brutally honest. Put it this way, the thing about us men is when our small head thinks, everything also can forget.
Seen so many cases of men falling head over heels for vietnamese/chinese/thai/other nationality hostess, bar waitress, whatever. Always same story, always same reasoning "she is special" end of the day also same ending. Kanna play like carrot. So I rather be honest and warn them now than to fuck them later to wake them up.
I thought you are the Thai expert? I am just a newbie in Thai.....I might have spelt it wrong but it means "CUTE"...
Me Thai expert? Hah? Had a thai gf before but after, I realized I'm actually more clueless about Thai girls than SG girls. (Which sort of turns me on, kek kek)
Me love Thai girls, but don't think I know enough to be an expert. Was actually thinking of cheonging with some of you fellow compatriots. :p
Th4r
.... So I rather be honest and warn them now than to fuck them later to wake them up .....
Truth is ... warning them now, or trying to wake them later ... will usually not work on those guys that'll fall into the traps in the first place.
Buay Gan Buay Tua Han
:o
Th4r
Cheri_Popper
26-01-2007, 01:28 AM
Me love Thai girls, but don't think I know enough to be an expert. Was actually thinking of cheonging with some of you fellow compatriots.
I also RUK Thai gals as they are more gentle and kind than most other races. They are really one of a kind people if you know what I mean. ;)
It is not e-z to sian a Thai gal, it takes alot of time and patience. You must also have total trust and confidence in them. They can also be an insensitive lot. ;)
Cheri_Popper
26-01-2007, 01:30 AM
Truth is ... warning them now, or trying to wake them later ... will usually not work on those guys that'll fall into the traps in the first place.
Buay Gan Buay Tua Han
Th4r
If you tell a kid not to eat chilli padi as it is hot but out of curiousity, the kid will eat it and learns the lesson.
If they don't, how will they learn the phrase "Once Bitten Twice Shy" :rolleyes:
But some people still try after numerous bites. :D
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