Need bro's advise down here.

[RoDeFunkyz]

There was this girl whom i met 2 years ago. I wanted to date her back then. But something stopped me & we lost contacts after that.

2 Years later. She contacted me again on behalf of their company to engage our company which my company appointed me as a PM to work with her. From then on, we kind of talk to one another very frequently on personal stuff rather than work.

Yesterday we had lunch together. I believe she knows or suspected that i am trying to woo/date her. She told me she was married but now a single women since 2 years ago with a daughter that is 2 years old now. Then she mentioned she didn't have the courage to start a new relationship due to bad experience and 2 years of being single seems a bit too soon to start one. In my mind i was like wow! I'm so glad i didn't dated her 2 years ago otherwise i confirm no chance.

I begin to express my feelings for her. After hearing that, she didn't turn me away or did anything to pervent me from dating her. I told her that looks like fate gotten us together. 2 years ago i wanted to date her but i didn't and 2 years later i begin to date u and this time you're single. Today, we're still going out together. I told her i won't mind her about having a daughter as i love her & i told her one of these days, bring her daughter out so 3 of us can bring her out together.

I then told her that on Feb 14, i would like to date her out. She said normally that day she try not to go out as it signify something but she said she won't answer no to me now as still got few weeks more to go before she will know whether she want to go or not as she is a very busy women (oh yea she works Mon To Fri everyday until 1 - 2 am just to avoid relationship)

I asked her before, will i have the honor to utilize her free times e.g: ask her out,etc whenever she is free. She said sure if she has any. Whenever i asked her out she didn't rejected me.

Right now i am thinking base on the above, can i conclude she has some feelings for me but yet to have courage to take a step forward to start a new relationship due to her daughter?

We're meeting today at Mount faber for dinner. Normally ppl know only couples will go to that places for dinner rather than friends.

[yankim3]

divorce and having a daugther is not a sin. if u love her, and dun mind her daugther. go for it. u can have your own children still. having failed in her first relation. she shd be more matured and knows how to give and take. i mean it shes a women that u are comfortable with, she cant be that bad right? she failed ones and long to be love again. go for it and love and be loved .:p

[curiosityz]

i think her past failed relationship has caused her to reacted this way... skeptical and thus, she's trying to avoiding your golden qns...

[Castrol]

2 Years later. She contacted me again on behalf of their company to engage our company which my company appointed me as a PM to work with her. From then on, we kind of talk to one another very frequently on personal stuff rather than work.

Whenever i asked her out she didn't rejected me.



well, base on the fact that she is always willing to go out with you, should be hosay liao. but you are also her vendor now, so maybe better to get the confirmed order or contract first.

btw what is "PM"? and are you married or single? :D

[RoDeFunkyz]

PM means project manager. The 2 companies had been working together for years. Contract or orders already confirmed.

Thus i am actually thinking whether does she has a feeling for me just that she is afraid to take a step forward to start a new relationship for fear her bad experience will come back again.

Would love to hear experienced bros advise here.



Thanks ya! :)

[sammyboyfor]

There was this girl whom i met 2 years ago. I wanted to date her back then. But something stopped me & we lost contacts after that.


Should be "Need bro's ADVICE....".

"Advise" is a verb.

[hoho99]

Well i think you should give her more time. Try to spend not only more time on her but more sensitive to her feelings as well. She does have to thinks about her daughter as well u know.

Years i made a mistake by going after a girl but mainly making more time to be together and not concentrating on her feelings. On the day she reject she mentions she has her duty as a elder sister to her 3 siblings then i realise what a fool i've been.

Enjoy the time you can have with her. Don't concentrate if she is offically your gf or not. You stand to gain when time goes by. Good luck:cool:

[surfer888]

We're meeting today at Mount faber for dinner. Normally ppl know only couples will go to that places for dinner rather than friends.

One word of advice. You may want to wash your didi clean before the date as You might just get some whoopie tonight in the outdoors after dinner!

... oh and bring tissue paper.

[canthaveenuf]

Bro,

Being a Program Manager, this one should be quite easy wat. By all accounts, it should be clear to you by now that this is a Low to Medium Risk project. Add a little bit more investment to mitigate the risks and the returns will be high. Add a couple more milestones along the way and track progress. It looks like this project is doing pretty fine.

Cheers

[Lubber]

Take things slowly, step by step. Don't rush it in or she may not like it. Start from zero and slowly work things out between you and her. Give each other time and think things over. In 2 years, things change alot. So does everyone. Take time to get to know her all over again. Don't give her the impression that you want to start a relationship with her with such a short period of time. In my opinion, treat her as a friend and see where this road will lead you. Good Luck!

[no_faith]

bro, let nature take its course will be d best way frm my personal view

[acer1714]

Bro,i will advice u to think carefully before go into this relationship cos i dun wish her to get hurt again.
If hav to ask urself,do ur parent mind u havin a divorcee with a child as wife?
And u hav to ask urself,can u take it when ppl talk behind ur back.
Lastly will u love her child and treat her as ur own??Actually still got many more....but all those problem will take place once married.....I can assure u all these problem wil surface as time go by....Cos I Encounter it ONCE!!!:o

[nobodyid]

i have a encounter b4 too.. happen quite sometime ago.. i had a gf which is with a child.. was with her for few mths... but sh'e not a divorcee cos had not even married.. was play out by her ex bf.. as she actually woo me for years in my sec sch life.. so i tell myself why not give it a try to be with her since she grew much more pretty after giving birth.. the baby was onli 1year old.. n i can be the baby's dad.. but juz like wat the above bro said.. alot of thing wld happen.. so bro.. my advice is consider carefully first..

lastly didn't stay with her long cos she's still bitching around after we r together.. break my po li xin.. haiz..

[sammyboyfor]

Bro,i will advice u to think carefully before go into this relationship

Should be "Bro... I will ADVISE you to think carefully...."

"Advice" is a noun.

[b13n16]

hi bro

regardless how she reacts or what she thinks now ... if you love her you should just persevere ... fate is giving you a second chance .. divorcees are so common nowadays and stigma about this is gone .. but i would think the main route to her heart is your chemistry with her kid .. be sincere to both of them .. good luck

[Xgenre]

What's your objective in doing whatever you are doing? To woo her with marriage as the end objective? To get her as a fuck buddy without marriage in mind? To fulfil a 2 yr old wish to date her? What say you?

I think we can only offer advice when we have a better view of what you want to do with her? Don't be so narow minded can? A lot of people go Mount Faber for meals. I've gone with quite a few lady friends without sex or dates in mind. Just enjoy her company lar bro.

[RoDeFunkyz]

Hi bro thanks for the advises.

I'm not sure whether i can take it but i'm willing to give it a try since i love her and if things goes smoothly willing to marry her.

I told her before i'll love her daugher like i love her. I suggested one of these days bring her daugher out 3 of us will go out together. She said when the time is right she will do it.

Today i received a sms from her that she is going to start working at night. I told her i can't bear to let "my girl" to over work. Told her to rest more and she replied don't worry she can still take it.

Not sure if the above statement means anything or i am thinking a little too much.

[DavidCheng]

Hi bro thanks for the advises...


Wah lau, until now you still can't get your advises/advices right. Poor Boss. Think must start a site on "Lesson on Advice/Advise".

Maybe next time, when you are not sure, should write advice/advise...:)

[mysterious]

Should be "Need bro's ADVICE....".

"Advise" is a verb.


why don't you buy a banner in this site and advertise your message for everyone. Isn't that easier than being a language watchdog?

[Xgenre]

I told her before i'll love her daugher like i love her. I suggested one of these days bring her daugher out 3 of us will go out together. She said when the time is right she will do it.

Why dun you take it easy about meeting her daughter? Date the mother first and see if love can truly develop. I feel you are still at an exploratory stage with the mother.

It's difficult for the 3 yr old girl to see her mum with someone other than her father too. Imagine every relationship her mum gets into now, the little girl will have to get to know another potential 'stepfather'. Can be quite impactful on a 3 yr old kid, they probably grow up thinking divorce and dating many men is common.

How many relationships have u ever had? How come still sound so green?

[RoDeFunkyz]

I think i am a little aggressive liao. Gonna slow down abit...

Thats why but i understand where ya coming from :)

[owen1]

yes i agree...slow down, cos i learnt from my mistake..
sometimes even though u have a good chance, being too aggressive will ultimately drive a wedge and distance yourself between u and her.

Once she opens up a bit, i suggest a group dynamic interaction.
U know, invite the 2 of them to join you and your friends (preferbly married with family ones)...over a bbq or dinner or something. Show her the other side of you, one that is not so desperate of seeking her approval.
Also showing that since your friends are the stable sort, u are level-headed enough to make a wise decision.

[canthaveenuf]

Wah lau, until now you still can't get your advises/advices right. Poor Boss. Think must start a site on "Lesson on Advice/Advise".

Maybe next time, when you are not sure, should write advice/advise...:)

I think have seen boss correct this mistake somewhere also.

My England not so powderful hor, but got plural form of "advice" (noun) wan meh?

Cheers

[canthaveenuf]

Why dun you take it easy about meeting her daughter? Date the mother first and see if love can truly develop. I feel you are still at an exploratory stage with the mother.

It's difficult for the 3 yr old girl to see her mum with someone other than her father too. Imagine every relationship her mum gets into now, the little girl will have to get to know another potential 'stepfather'. Can be quite impactful on a 3 yr old kid, they probably grow up thinking divorce and dating many men is common.



Dun know if this is a good advice or not, but, maybe it may be good to "tackle" the issue via the 3 year old. U know, win over the little one first, the bigger one may be easier to deal with. But of course, there is always a BIG risk that the little one may not like you. So, look-look-see-see-feel-feel first hor.

Cheers

[sammyboyfor]

Hi bro thanks for the advises.



There is no such noun as "ADVISES". The correct term is "ADVICE".

[Elementary]

Boss,

I noticed that all year round, you have been giving advice that advise is not a noun. Looks like it is a never ending story for this common mistake. :D

[logonpal]

Hi

First of all, cool down. Put your emotion/feelings one side and ask, 'WHAT DO YOU WANT?'

I see you r rather serious, so I assume you want to marry her? Good.

If I were you, I would let her know my intention and see her reaction.

At the same time, pls go and understand more on what is like to marry a lady with a child. It is nothing wrong to marry such a woman with a daughter.

Rgs
Pal