Where and how did you meet your mate?

[temperance]

Was just wondering where did you guys meet your darlings, how did you meet them and how did you court them?

Will serve as a very good reference for S.A.D.s like me. :D

S = Single
A = Available
D = Desperate

[sean69]

at least for me and most of the pple around me.. we meet our spouse at school..

i also have got friends who joined SDU activites and met their wives there.. no stigma there as they recognise the fact that they can't really meet girls in their working time ... joining the SDU activities gives them a chance to meet girls and frankly, they (including the girls) all know the main objective is to settle down so i guess the courtship started with the end objective of marriage ... no ambiguity there..

or you can take some language class.. there are bound to have some ladies there and you can always take the opportunity to revise lesson or join them for projects, a quick meal to discuss schoolwork or practise the language etc etc etc..

good luck!!!!

[surfer888]

or you can take some language class.. there are bound to have some ladies there and you can always take the opportunity to revise lesson or join them for projects, a quick meal to discuss schoolwork or practise the language etc etc etc..

Hmmm... go to language school. Can also learn to be a cunning linguist. :D

[sean69]

Can also learn to be a cunning linguist. :D

hmmm.. i call it "speaking in tongue" ... :D .. shit.. i think i jus offended the christian community.... wait a min.. there shouldn't be any christian here rite?? ha ha ha ..

[Derelict]

This is a very nice topic to talk about.

I met mine 7 years ago in the land of the rising sun (Japan). I was there on a student exchange thingy. I did something bad when I was there. I owned up to the deed and returned with my sweetheart to sg. It was hard at 1st but time is a damn good healer for us. My parents played a great part too. We made a point to learn each others strength and weaknesses. In turn, I can safely say we are a contented couple since.

[triple h]

my spouse, i found at ridley's ( remember that plc at ANA hotel ).
13 yrs together n counting...
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[Know_yr_role]

met my current gf from an IRC internet chatroom...yes sounds like those ONS type but no...we chat for almost 1 yr before we switch to msn and finally met each other.....we are in our 3rd yr of r/s and growing stronger......


and who says internet can only touch and go?? i feel otherwise..... :D :D

[vesfreq]

i also have got friends who joined SDU activites and met their wives there.. no stigma there as they recognise the fact that they can't really meet girls in their working time ... joining the SDU activities gives them a chance to meet girls and frankly, they (including the girls) all know the main objective is to settle down so i guess the courtship started with the end objective of marriage ... no ambiguity there..


SDU can be full of crap.... especially some of the matchmaking agencies. They are like just out to make money. I got matched to a lady older than me. Wtf, when I contacted her, she said I was very young. :mad: Then it came to me that the matchmaking group age group was quite wide. Most ladies were older than guys, afaik.

Initially, when I went, I thought quite a number of the gals .... like a bit old. Backgrounds were so diverse too.

Went for their activities twice and its like really waste money. The first one was my fault... never take initiative to keep in touch. The 2nd one was lagi best, keep in touch and the girl (or rather auntie) didn't sound very keen to develop anything.

It works for some people. For me, I think its Tian Yi. Every gal I know... sure no good outcome. I spend money to know each one of them better, but in the end there is no guarantee. Branded cafes and offering to pay for everything. But, wtf.... this world doesn't reward chivalry and generosity. The unthinking generous are the real fools.... But, if not fools, there wouldn't be free lunches. sigh.....

Behind each pursuit is this haunting reminder... "no guarantee". Its just as bad as buying 4D. You can pump whatever savings you have and get.... nothing.

To quote this friend, "Nothing is certain in this world, except death and taxes."

I'm sure all guys can be as caring once they find the right person. Reality is, who is the right person. How many of us can tahan bumming into the wrong one so often and almost everyday? The continuity of SBF shows just how weak that link is ... between Singapore guys and gals.

If I had not spent money at SDU and those stupid unworkable dates, I can go on a tour to China for one month. Some say that bo pian, the money must spend. If not for carrot heads like me, SDU and their agencies all close shop liao.

Fact that SDU is still alive and kicking .... and not closed down by zheng hu proves that it doesn't work. People who started it is still bearing that silly fool's hope. The existence of a social imbalance necessarily means the survival of certain peoples... what an irony.

[vesfreq]

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[blackslayer]

met my current gf from an IRC internet chatroom...yes sounds like those ONS type but no...we chat for almost 1 yr before we switch to msn and finally met each other.....we are in our 3rd yr of r/s and growing stronger......


and who says internet can only touch and go?? i feel otherwise.....

I know my current gf from IRc too..:D i am in my 2nd year of r.s HEHE:D

[curiosityz]

irc is can but not easy from me and my friends experience...

[jinrenhe]

It works for some people. For me, I think its Tian Yi. Every gal I know... sure no good outcome. I spend money to know each one of them better, but in the end there is no guarantee. Branded cafes and offering to pay for everything. But, wtf.... this world doesn't reward chivalry and generosity. The unthinking generous are the real fools.... But, if not fools, there wouldn't be free lunches. sigh.....



bro ur msg makes me think twice of going to SDU...

my plan initially is to try as hard as i can through the "natural way" first... means through school, at work or clubbin etc. Then if few more yrs still really no luck & i wan to settle down, then last resort is SDU & matchmaking agencies...


bro, ur words remind me of a good fren... he always willing to spend money in getting to know the gal better (with no ulterior motives), rely a nice guy who bring his date to restaurant & cafe, not hawker centre, so that she can dine in comfort... But gals tend to take these nice guys for granted, i guess? :confused:

Nowadays when i know a gal, i jus no longer have the zeal to do so much for her.. not because i can't bear to part with my money, but probably cos i've been disappointed one time too many...

sometimes i wonder how many wrong turns can a person endure... each time after a setback, i will hide myself for awhile before picking myself up ..... only to meet with another disappointment... actually i dun care abt the wasted money or time, but it's difficult to keep my fighting spirit when the outcome is always so discouraging...

[Tsingtao]

my spouse, i found at ridley's ( remember that plc at ANA hotel ).
13 yrs together n counting...
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Ridleys I know I know!!!Damn happening on Tueday Ladies night right?? ( Tues or Thurs?? Cant remember damn long time ago..) The spiral stairways to the door...kekeke...Hiaz...those were the days lah!!! :o

[spidey69]

bro ur msg makes me think twice of going to SDU...


sometimes i wonder how many wrong turns can a person endure... each time after a setback, i will hide myself for awhile before picking myself up ..... only to meet with another disappointment... actually i dun care abt the wasted money or time, but it's difficult to keep my fighting spirit when the outcome is always so discouraging...


Bro,

dun be dishearten.. i too ended a 10-year relationship some 5 years ago and felt exactly what u said.. then out of the blue, i found someone last year..

remember as in soccer : good teams fight to win, GReat team keep fighting when the chips r down.. Come on bro..

;)

[skyline07]

my spouse, i found at ridley's ( remember that plc at ANA hotel ).
13 yrs together n counting...
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

OMG ! Ridleys, those were the time... Wow... Memories.

[_AXL_]

This is a very nice topic to talk about.

I met mine 7 years ago in the land of the rising sun (Japan). I was there on a student exchange thingy. I did something bad when I was there. I owned up to the deed and returned with my sweetheart to sg. It was hard at 1st but time is a damn good healer for us. My parents played a great part too. We made a point to learn each others strength and weaknesses. In turn, I can safely say we are a contented couple since.

the love of my life was a hostel mate in uni. didnt know of her existence until i saw my classmate (same hostel) talking to her at hard rock (in the 90s lah, was damn hip last time). realised she was just staying next door to her. it was 3 months later when i realised she just broke up and right away, made my move. got her in 6 days but lasted only 3 years.

got to know my most recent ex in a ktv. she was a well-known can-see-cannot-touch girl there. found out she just broke off, went after her and got her within a week. she stopped work the day she agreed to be my gf. treated her really well but then, still ran off with a married man.

as u can see, bro derelict, i really feel and know that i deserve better! i dont need a beautiful girl (not ugly can already) but someone who has good character and is true to me. if i can find that person, i will quit cheonging and visiting fls, man!!! so, yr wife got jap friends to intro or not???:D :D

[slyer]

bro jinheren dun be disheartened.. i understand how u feel... its like u wan to spend money to woo his girl yet scare another failure.. therefore gt this phobia n unable to part with money to woo the girl... personally i feel that we shd nt treat a girl so good cos she may take us guys for granted.... we shd treat the girl good only when she shows hints that she like us .... anyway look forward to our next meeting session :)

[sean69]

SDU can be full of crap.... especially some of the matchmaking agencies. They are like just out to make money. I got matched to a lady older than me..

just to clarify, i'm not endorsing SDU.. jus that my 2 frens who join managed to find their spouse there... what I'm suggesting is that you should join activities that gives you the opportunity to meet girls.. be it SDU/language class/yoga/wine-appreciation/etc etc... i have even got friends (or fiends) who join church to prey (not pray).. *shake head* ...

anyway, from the activities you can observed how the character of the girl.. only problem i see is that if you wait too long to slowly observe, someone else make the first move.. if you move too fast, she might not be the one and you will be cursing and swearing on the money spent...

well.. i guess there is no two way about it.. if need to spend/waste money, just take it as a lesson learnt lor...

[Derelict]

Hello brother AXL. I was thinking how to help you after reading your post. Infact, I feel a lil lost for words when I read some of the others as well. Than I thot, about myself and the people that I go out with (just friends) when I did my weekly activities with or without my lass.

I dont want to be like a busybody and tell people what to do but I think what I am going to post might somehow give you all ideas on the possibilities.

Here goes.

Have any of you guys heard of clubs? No not the night club kind but the day activity kind like Mountain Bikers clubs, Outdoor tracking, Jogging or even god fearing (church activities like trinity.net; not asking you to be pious but a place to have good clean fun) kind. So what have the above have to do with any of the issue you're facing?

Well, it gives one an evenue from coming out of your broodings. Its keeps your head healthy and most importantly you are mingling with others like the fairer sex.

Let me eleborate on my earlier paragraph. Ask yourself what you like (other than chasing paid skirts lah. Lol) if you like biking than mountain biking might be your cup of tea. If its jogging or tracking than maybe join the weekly Hash Harriers (HHH) or better yet the Harriets (girls lead the pack and those chics are one cheeky bunch). Some are free activities while others dont cost more than $10 per hit. If you like to meet up with good good clean clean talkative girls than church activities are plenty. There are wondrous variety of activities to choose from. Just ask or doo a google and there will surely be a list of anything you there surely be a club or society for it. The keyword here is activities. It means to socialise interactively. So whats in it for you. If the health part or the activity part is not enough than let me give you a few points to look out for.

1) Since those are activities. It means you guys are a team in there. Like a team they (the fairer sex) have to talk and interact with you.

2) learn to be comfortable talking to them. Go there and learn what they like, their wants and most importantly their dreams. Frankly most sg guys I know cant speak with a coherent sentence when they chat with girls. Speak a sentence than all of a sudden burst out laughing like just crack one witty joke (lame). For some the only time they are balls enough to talk is when they have wing man or men by their side. If only they knew going in a pack is scary for any on lookers let alone a single girl. Stop being a frigid!

3) Practice your skills of communication. One can only learn from practicing. Learn to be charming and charismatic. Learn how to listen. Learn how to ask questions that means something.

4) Learn what you want. There are so many characteristic to a being. Some say there are seven major kinds but who cares really. So long as you know what you want. So speak and socialize. You will surely learn to know the kind you like. Chatty, witty, caring... thus learn.

5) Learn about yourself. What better way to know about yourself by asking them? Question like, how do you find me. Seriously. Goes a long way. Look in the eye and you get the big picture. Thus improving you and increasing your market price.

There are many more good points. I just listed the ones the one I think are important. At the end of the day, its all benefits. You increase your circle of friends and also learn a thing or two about the fairer sex. Its better than day dreaming or mopping in the house thinking about the past.

Infact, those relationship above if any is way better than any that you find at the night spots. Sure you might gunner a bonk or two from those spots but dont expect a lasting and meaningful relationship from it (my summary comes from what I have read in this forums and elsewhere at lease).

Remember the above ideas are like investments. It takes time. Dont cut any of your other activities lah. Just take this new activities in your strides and see where it leads you. It is just another evenue to meet the right one. I think in the end you might see the above makes alot more sense than placing your bet on nightspots.

I do hope what I wrote help a lil. Its just my two cents worth. Again not here to tell anyone what to do. Just think it as another solution that might be worth checking out.

[_AXL_]

Have any of you guys heard of clubs? No not the night club kind but the day activity kind like Mountain Bikers clubs, Outdoor tracking, Jogging or even god fearing (church activities like trinity.net; not asking you to be pious but a place to have good clean fun) kind. So what have the above have to do with any of the issue you're facing?

Well, it gives one an evenue from coming out of your broodings. Its keeps your head healthy and most importantly you are mingling with others like the fairer sex.

err, bro, mountain biking... ok, on lah!!! but must get ambulance on standby!!!:eek: the god fearing kind a bit difficult bcos i fear i may have a simultaneous combustion episode if i go too near their place of worship.

and errr... bro, i've got no problems talking to ladies. picking them up is another matter due to some anatomy problem.

cant u just get to the point of introducing me to some of yr wifey's jap friends. i promise i will behave if they do so as well.:D i would even start JLPT4 lessons lor! can feel my sincerity or not? nah, just ignore me, just feeling cheeky. cheers.

[sean69]

hmmm.. i call it "speaking in tongue" ... :D .. shit.. i think i jus offended the christian community.... wait a min.. there shouldn't be any christian here rite?? ha ha ha ..

hmm.. got zapped for being crude for my "speaking in tongue" comments.. i'm sorry if i offended pple's sensitivity but seriously, this is a adult sex forum... if the zapper cannot that this kind of joke... geezzzzzz.. i can only say ...er... shit ... i can't think of anything to say.. ha ha ha...

anyway.. thanks bro surfer888 for upping me... guess we have the same kind of crude humor.. ha ha ha..

[stysg]

my spouse, i found at ridley's ( remember that plc at ANA hotel ).
13 yrs together n counting...
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Hey... same here. :D

But mine was from 8 years ago (1999).... Too bad the place is gone liao. One less memory to revisit.

[horsepunter]

You can know gal anywhere.
I knew so many ..in the library..on the street ..in the shopping mall...bookshop etc. Just approach them and try to strike a conversation. Be sincere and behave like a gentleman. I have successful and high strike rate when I am in the 20's. No need to go SDU. I ever go shopping in OG and saw a DBS teller ( she is in DBS uniform ). I just approached her and talk to her..exchange number and sian her. I knew her on sat and sunday nite I am at her place. She stayed with her grandmother at those old redhill rented flat. That night her grandmother went over to her uncle place and she was alone. I suggest going to her place and end up bonking her. Slept until next morning and said bye bye. She is average looking but have 36C cup tit. Nice figure too...not those fat kind.

I even know gal when I dialed the wrong number. I just carry on the conversation and in the end, another successful case. Is really up to how u project yourself and most important your skin must be super thick.

Of cos I have been rejected before cos some gal are more careful..especially u are a stranger to them. But just be thick skin and try harder. You can know many gals in no time.

During my time, there is no IRC or internet. I have to go out to hunt for my target. I am lucky...during my younger time, I have really good tao hua yuan.

Even now, I am already 40 plus, still can attract lady. One aunty selling wan tan mee near my house always smile at me when I ordered food from her.

She is not pretty but body is solid...mature kind which I like. She only served the food and there is one uncle that cooked the mee. I need to find out more first...maybe that uncle her husband..I kena chopped into pieces if I go screw her wife.

My company got many PRC mei mei which show interest in me too. But I just ignore them cos is my rice bowl..no point fool around at the work place..

There is one particular PRC mei mei that always tried to make eye contact with me. The first question she asked me is am I married.

Maybe she is desperately looking for a singapore man to settle down here.

I just talk to her like a casual friend cum colleague..can tell that she is interested in me cos when I talked to her, she will flushed and look tense. She is in her early 20..I can be her dad.....haha.

So confidence and ur personal grooming play a part.

There is plenty of target out there. If only I am still single.....

Just share some of my past and present encounters. Too many liao..some I cant rem also.

[Derelict]

cant u just get to the point of introducing me to some of yr wifey's jap friends. i promise i will behave if they do so as well.:D i would even start JLPT4 lessons lor! can feel my sincerity or not? nah, just ignore me, just feeling cheeky. cheers.

Lol. 1st we have to know each other 1st lah. Sekali get shock to see AXL is a 14 year old boy full of hormones.

On a serious note. I dont do the intro bit which means I dont pass info to another for such reasons as well. But I can invite anyone interested to par take activities or event for meetup. The rest is up to u. Once I get to know you 1st that is in real life.

<3 :)

[_AXL_]

Lol. 1st we have to know each other 1st lah. Sekali get shock to see AXL is a 14 year old boy full of hormones.

ya, i wish!!! u would see an AXL who looks like a 41 year old, thinks he is still 21, behaves like he's 16 with the brain of a 12 year old.:D

On a serious note. I dont do the intro bit which means I dont pass info to another for such reasons as well. But I can invite anyone interested to par take activities or event for meetup. The rest is up to u. Once I get to know you 1st that is in real life.

i only do meet ups over drinks. cos if u r one boring dude, i still can have the option to drink myself to oblivion! if got girls sitting on our laps, even better. but judging from yr posts, let's not talk about ladies on our laps but r u even allowed to drink? :rolleyes: ok, serious note. activities ok, but nothing seriously strenous and nothing religious. my mouth gets me into more trouble than u can imagine. it has a life of its own when topics revolve around religion.

ok ok , 1 step at a time. meet up first. have arranged with some bros to probably meet up next week. would be good for u to come along. might put me in a better light in the company of those monsters!!! hahaha... enjoy the rest of the day. got to go for a lunch meeting and after that, the highlight of the day, sermons by bossy before she declares the holy bonus payout. cheers, out.

[surfer888]

cant u just get to the point of introducing me to some of yr wifey's jap friends. i promise i will behave if they do so as well.:D i would even start JLPT4 lessons lor! can feel my sincerity or not? nah, just ignore me, just feeling cheeky. cheers.

I'm not a bigot but my past experience with my ex-gf who is Japanese combined with three more of my friend's experiences who have dated Japanese before have almost put me off them permanently. I don't want to stereotype nationalities here but what we have experienced was pretty similar.

All 4 of us had Japanese gfs at separate times. They were not acquainted yet had strikingly similar behaviours. The most common trait being wanting for attention. I'm not talking about alot of attention but ALOT of attention. My gf gets upset when we don't speak to each other for more than 12 hours. She wants to live the fairy tale that you only read in Mills & Boons and has high expectations for our relationship to head that way as well. She is extremely dedicated to the relationship which is supposed to be a plus point but I find that suffocating. Then again, it could be just me.

Again, I want to stress that I have nothing against the country and her people. Just that my bad experience has almost put me off for good. I say almost for a reason... who knows... there may be a Yua Aida lookalike who is low maintenance somewhere out there.:D

[_AXL_]

hmm.. got zapped for being crude for my "speaking in tongue" comments.. i'm sorry if i offended pple's sensitivity but seriously, this is a adult sex forum... if the zapper cannot that this kind of joke... geezzzzzz.. i can only say ...er... shit ... i can't think of anything to say.. ha ha ha...

anyway.. thanks bro surfer888 for upping me... guess we have the same kind of crude humor.. ha ha ha..

yikes, think i also made some religious references as well, even more than u!!!:eek:

bros out there, dont zap me and dont up my points too. love to maintain it at 111. i promise, no more religious references anymore, in this thread.:D

[_AXL_]

I'm not a bigot but my past experience with my ex-gf who is Japanese combined with three more of my friend's experiences who have dated Japanese before have almost put me off them permanently. I don't want to stereotype nationalities here but what we have experienced was pretty similar.

All 4 of us had Japanese gfs at separate times. They were not acquainted yet had strikingly similar behaviours. The most common trait being wanting for attention. I'm not talking about alot of attention but ALOT of attention. My gf gets upset when we don't speak to each other for more than 12 hours. She wants to live the fairy tale that you only read in Mills & Boons and has high expectations for our relationship to head that way as well. She is extremely dedicated to the relationship which is supposed to be a plus point but I find that suffocating. Then again, it could be just me.

Again, I want to stress that I have nothing against the country and her people. Just that my bad experience has almost put me off for good. I say almost for a reason... who knows... there may be a Yua Aida lookalike who is low maintenance somewhere out there.

thanks for sharing yr experience, bro surfer888. i thought jap girls r nice and dandy, not much maintenance needed lor. that's what they portray what! not asking for yua aida lah!!! too much for me to handle. later i would end up being the one who is needy!:D

just someone with a nice character with a matured mindset, looks presentable, true to me and no offence to japs, 1 more requirement:- no thunder thighs. majority of the ladies i saw in +++yo and osaka really have humungous thighs, i mean at least bigger than mine. come to think of it, quite difficult for me to find someone like that as well. would be wondering why they dont have bf in the first place...hmmm...

but bro, this is the 1st time i've heard that they r needy. a few friends of mine have jap wives/gfs and they have nothing but praises for them. sekali, u r one of my friends.:eek: jokes aside, this is really something new.

[surfer888]

Is really up to how u project yourself and most important your skin must be super thick.

Fully agree. It's almost like a gamble. If you don't buy 4D, how to strike?


There is plenty of target out there. If only I am still single.....

Sama sama. It's a buffet out there and we chose to eat only one dish which at that point of time seemed to be the best. No choice now but to keep eating the same thing. Once in a while, if luck permits, can have a quick side dish on the sly.

[Castrol]

cant u just get to the point of introducing me to some of yr wifey's jap friends.


On a serious note. I dont do the intro bit which means I dont pass info to another for such reasons as well. But I can invite anyone interested to par take activities or event for meetup.

bro Derelict, dont forget me. i can sing some seiko matsuda's songs to them. :D

[surfer888]

thanks for sharing yr experience, bro surfer888. i thought jap girls r nice and dandy, not much maintenance needed lor. that's what they portray what! not asking for yua aida lah!!! too much for me to handle. later i would end up being the one who is needy!:D

but bro, this is the 1st time i've heard that they r needy. a few friends of mine have jap wives/gfs and they have nothing but praises for them. sekali, u r one of my friends.:eek: jokes aside, this is really something new.

The only thing she needed from me was my undivided attention which I could not give. I guess she didn't ask for more besides that. So, needy here could be subjective.

Nevertheless, no more Japanese for me until someone sets a trap too good to resist. My current on/off squeeze is Korean and demands much less attention. However, she's a long distance from Japanese TLC. I guess its more of what an individual is looking for. Some guys want the attention and can reciprocate... some like me just cannot and will suffocate.

just someone with a nice character with a matured mindset, looks presentable, true to me and no offence to japs, 1 more requirement:- no thunder thighs. majority of the ladies i saw in +++yo and osaka really have humungous thighs, i mean at least bigger than mine

I must be lucky here. Those that I knew were rather slim. I don't have any issues on their appearances. In fact, I love the physical part of my relationship. She was one of the best bed partners I've had.

[_AXL_]

I must be lucky here. Those that I knew were rather slim. I don't have any issues on their appearances. In fact, I love the physical part of my relationship. She was one of the best bed partners I've had.

see lah, now u've got me drooling. must ask the auntie to come in and mop my office floor! thanks for the valuable info. i m a bit apprehensive now cos i have to travel quite often. afraid that she might find attention somewhere else. dont think i can take another runner so soon.:D

[surfer888]

see lah, now u've got me drooling. must ask the auntie to come in and mop my office floor! thanks for the valuable info. i m a bit apprehensive now cos i have to travel quite often. afraid that she might find attention somewhere else. dont think i can take another runner so soon.:D

No worries there... from what I've experienced, they are pretty loyal. I travel frequently as well... just that I cannot afford the time to make 3 phone calls a days just for mushy love talk and say "daisuke" and "aishiteru" 10 times a day. Two years past the breakup, she's still calling and begging me to say those words occasionally. They find it difficult to let go... sometimes I wonder if my dick tastes of sashimi or what?:rolleyes:

[Derelict]

All 4 of us had Japanese gfs at separate times. They were not acquainted yet had strikingly similar behaviours. The most common trait being wanting for attention. I'm not talking about alot of attention but ALOT of attention. My gf gets upset when we don't speak to each other for more than 12 hours. She wants to live the fairy tale that you only read in Mills & Boons and has high expectations for our relationship to head that way as well. She is extremely dedicated to the relationship which is supposed to be a plus point but I find that suffocating. Then again, it could be just me.


I think thats a fair assessment of my steady when we 1st met and I guess I was pampered like a lil puppy at times. Yes, it needs some getting use to. :)

As I mentioned earlier. It was a trying period for me especially the 1st 2 years. Cant move much. Thereafter, I doubt I can settle for less now. I like the daily updates when I drive her home and continue while dining. I love the massages she gives while I while away reading in the late evenings at the same time she talk about anything that pops in her head to none in particular. I love it when she nudge me when I accidently look at leggy lass walking pass. I love it when she is so noisy giggling away whenst preparing food with my mom in the kitchen during the weekend. I love it when I see her in her semi-office cloth when she handwash my clothes each day with soap allover her hands and face even tho there is a bloody good washing machine downstairs. I love when she makes girly noises in support or condamnation to situations on the tele or DVD. I like it when she would rush upstairs to change her dress so as to color coordinate our attire when we go out. She hides the fact she polishes my shoes. Even tho we are well to do, she loves the simplest of gifts. She would tip every baskers when we are in Orchard or anywhere for that matter. She speaks with the maid or any kids like they are her best friends. Most importantly she trust me for who I am. I love it when she will throw her support in my way for whatever the situation is. I love it when she know I am stressed out at time and would just drop everything just to humour me. I love it when she do a sneak attack to convince me whats so nice about Japan at that particular date and time so we could make the trip. I love even tho it tears my heart when she would cry everytime she is talking to her mom on the phone. The list goes on but I am sure its getting to be a bore.

If you dont like any of the above than dont bother dating a japanese.

<3

[_AXL_]

I think thats a fair assessment of my steady when we 1st met and I guess I was pampered like a lil puppy at times. Yes, it needs some getting use to.

As I mentioned earlier. It was a trying period for me especially the 1st 2 years. Cant move much. Thereafter, I doubt I can settle for less now. I like the daily updates when I drive her home and continue while dining. I love the massages she gives while I while away reading in the late evenings at the same time she talk about anything that pops in her head to none in particular. I love it when she nudge me when I accidently look at leggy lass walking pass. I love it when she is so noisy giggling away whenst preparing food with my mom in the kitchen during the weekend. I love it when I see her in her semi-office cloth when she handwash my clothes each day with soap allover her hands and face even tho there is a bloody good washing machine downstairs. I love when she makes girly noises in support or condamnation to situations on the tele or DVD. I like it when she would rush upstairs to change her dress so as to color coordinate our attire when we go out. She hides the fact she polishes my shoes. Even tho we are well to do, she loves the simplest of gifts. She would tip every baskers when we are in Orchard or anywhere for that matter. She speaks with the maid or any kids like they are her best friends. Most importantly she trust me for who I am. I love it when she will throw her support in my way for whatever the situation is. I love it when she know I am stressed out at time and would just drop everything just to humour me. I love it when she do a sneak attack to convince me whats so nice about Japan at that particular date and time so we could make the trip. I love even tho it tears my heart when she would cry everytime she is talking to her mom on the phone. The list goes on but I am sure its getting to be a bore.

If you dont like any of the above than dont bother dating a japanese.

<3

ok, besides tipping the buskers at orchard road, i'll just have to bring a cane along everytime we go there. minute problem. bro, bro, bro, there is a drool flood in my office now. i think we need to bring forward our getting to know each other real well, really soon session. that's what i m looking for, i wont need to look at other girls and go to fls anymore. seems like u guys have it good. think must sign up for the JLPT courses asap liao.

whatever activities with such ladies around, count me in, bro derelict. church also cheong. if i die, then i will die trying! go down in a blaze of glory just for a shot at true love!!!:D

[DNNS]

OMG ! Ridleys, those were the time... Wow... Memories.

Ya ......... me too and those were the days :rolleyes:

[Derelict]

Haha. Lets see how 1st. No promises tho :)

[Mr.M]

1st GF
meet while leaving government dept going back to sch to study. She was taking over my job there. Bright gal but too stiff and conservative. 2 years r/s only petting no sex damn sianz.

2nd gf
knew her for more than 5 years finally got my hand on her. Turn out she's a horny gal but horrible mood swings! Broke up after a month. NO sex either but she strip naked and let me finger her. Her moan till this day is the best.

3rd gf.
knew her thru my cousin church fren. On the chubby side. 6 days is all i took to secure her and we petted heavily on new years eve at my place. 1 month later we had sex for the 1st time. She was the only gal i knew who could squirt when she cums...messy but its damn horny feeling to know she cum. Also very horny gal, nice big breasts, and if u doggie her she screams! haha!

4th gf
Also big boobs, former poly classmate, hook up after losing contact. D cup boobs. slightly chubby. horny likes to have sex outdoors. Didn;t take long to had sex with her and she likes to be in control. and a real teaser. But after a while felt she wasn't the one i wanted to marry. i posted her pics before but here's one to refresh ur memoery. She too this while trying on bras to show me since i can't go in.
http://i141.photobucket.com/albums/r53/takumi_san/ex03.jpg

5th and final one!
This current one is a gem, and finally the one i wanna settle down with. Don't wanna say too much but is adventurous in bed and willing to try new things. And first time i didn;t ask for it she took my dick her mouth and swallowed my cum! Was shock that she said she like it and that she told me my cum is different from her ex's. It tasted nice...i guess its an aquired taste. Took this while in hotel celebrating an occasion.
http://i141.photobucket.com/albums/r53/takumi_san/IMG_2904.jpg

[surfer888]

I like the daily updates when I drive her home and continue while dining. I love the massages she gives while I while away reading in the late evenings at the same time she talk about anything that pops in her head to none in particular. I love it when she nudge me when I accidently look at leggy lass walking pass. I love it when she is so noisy giggling away whenst preparing food with my mom in the kitchen during the weekend. I love it when I see her in her semi-office cloth when she handwash my clothes each day with soap allover her hands and face even tho there is a bloody good washing machine downstairs. I love when she makes girly noises in support or condamnation to situations on the tele or DVD. I like it when she would rush upstairs to change her dress so as to color coordinate our attire when we go out. She hides the fact she polishes my shoes. Even tho we are well to do, she loves the simplest of gifts. She would tip every baskers when we are in Orchard or anywhere for that matter. She speaks with the maid or any kids like they are her best friends. Most importantly she trust me for who I am. I love it when she will throw her support in my way for whatever the situation is. I love it when she know I am stressed out at time and would just drop everything just to humour me. I love it when she do a sneak attack to convince me whats so nice about Japan at that particular date and time so we could make the trip. I love even tho it tears my heart when she would cry everytime she is talking to her mom on the phone. The list goes on but I am sure its getting to be a bore.

If you dont like any of the above than dont bother dating a japanese.

<3

WOW!!! How very true!!!! When I read your points, I was just wondering if they are made in factories with very good QC to ensure that all are similar after they leave the assembly line.

I can add on to the list: Opening drink cans and pouring drinks for you, laying the table nicely for you even at hawker centers, folding your clothes nicely after stripping you naked, etc. I won't go on as it is going off topic here.

I used to like all the above points until we went past 2 years into the relationship, I snapped and got irritated at almost every single one of those actions... therefore I think I can't date Japanese girls anymore.

[_AXL_]

sometimes I wonder if my dick tastes of sashimi or what?

bro, i really dont want to know how it feels to have wasabe on yr lil bro!!!:eek:

but got the message that they r generally faithful, unlike the AVs whereby they just get the delivery boys to bonk them while i m out at work... hahaha...

Opening drink cans and pouring drinks for you, laying the table nicely for you even at hawker centers, folding your clothes nicely after stripping you naked, etc. I won't go on as it is going off topic here.

i know this post is not addressed to me but i have to say that such things dont happen with girls of any other nationalities, not that i have tried with many though. granted, pouring drinks for each other seems to be in their culture. they like to i pour for u and u pour for me and get all our hands entangled together. but laying the table really makes it all worth it. lastly, bro surfer888, u never told yr gf that when stripping naked, clothes would look best when strewn all over the bedroom floor!!! haha... but u guys really have it good, man.

Haha. Lets see how 1st. No promises tho

and bro derelict, pls lah, dont see how first already. i m not getting any younger, u know? i promise u that i would be well-behaved (always am) and definitely wont embarrass u at all. n i m a very caring person and loving bf/husband, contrary to popular belief. if i m not, u can have my permission to take my head, wrap it in maki and feed the fishes. sorry sorry, sales talk creeping into my words again...:p

[Derelict]

surfer888: I didnt know they are generally like that. From your post I guess they are than. On the whole we are happy and in love. Sounds mushy I know, but to each his own. So long as I am happy. Korean lass are pretty caring too from what I gethered. Congrats mate. I hope you have found your better half.

_AXL_: Dont pressure-lah. Lol. All in good time. I am a sucker in believing destinies. If something needs happening than it will happen. In chinese "Yuan Fen" is foreordain. So let it happen naturally-lah. :) We can look forward to Triple H's MBBS (looking forward to good clean fun only). Hope the timing is spot on for me, since work can be a bitch.

[_AXL_]

_AXL_: Dont pressure-lah. Lol. All in good time. I am a sucker in believing destinies. If something needs happening than it will happen. In chinese "Yuan Fen" is foreordain. So let it happen naturally-lah. We can look forward to Triple H's MBBS (looking forward to good clean fun only). Hope the timing is spot on for me, since work can be a bitch.

hahaha... no pressure, dont get stressed out, alright? just a bit of banter with a learned bro who can also identify blake's works. no rush actually, that is if u eventually want to help me. would appreciate a bit of time to take a breather and mourn my previous relationship.:D

u actually think the MBBS is good clean fun??? if u see me, it wont be... :rolleyes:

ps. i believe in making things happen rather than to leave it to destiny or heaven's will...

[Derelict]

ps. i believe in making things happen rather than to leave it to destiny or heaven's will...

Okay, I think we are treading on the philosophical ground. Not good. Lets talk about that and argue our logic in another thread or we might bring this on off topic. Lol.

[surfer888]

u never told yr gf that when stripping naked, clothes would look best when strewn all over the bedroom floor!!!

She even has my socks folded!!!:eek:

[surfer888]

surfer888: I didnt know they are generally like that. From your post I guess they are than. On the whole we are happy and in love. Sounds mushy I know, but to each his own. So long as I am happy. Korean lass are pretty caring too from what I gethered. Congrats mate. I hope you have found your better half.

I'm married now to a Singaporean. The Korean lass, the love of my life, is still in my life but unfortunately we are not married to each other.

[Derelict]

I'm married now to a Singaporean. The Korean lass, the love of my life, is still in my life but unfortunately we are not married to each other.

Err thats kinda dangerous. But I am sure you know and aware of what you're doing. Somehow you have just define love can cut both ways. Lasting bliss my friend.

[_AXL_]

She even has my socks folded!!!

u r making me turn green lah!!!

I'm married now to a Singaporean. The Korean lass, the love of my life, is still in my life but unfortunately we are not married to each other.

oooh... abang abang, u doing the mind f**k on me liao lor!!! no mood to work already. better camp outside LV taka and wait for jap tourists to sian liao!!!:cool:

i still wished u good luck in finding love this morning. think would be damn siong for u if more love comes yr way hor...:rolleyes: lucky man...

[surfer888]

Err thats kinda dangerous. But I am sure you know and aware of what you're doing. Somehow you have just define love can cut both ways. Lasting bliss my friend.

That's why I was in the threads:

- The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?
- Does the so call " true love " still exist???
- Tips & Tricks to get away from Wife/GF

[surfer888]

uoooh... abang abang, u doing the mind f**k on me liao lor!!! no mood to work already. better camp outside LV taka and wait for jap tourists to sian liao!!!:cool:

Yup... you'll never know where you find true love. I found my Korean love on a tour in neither of our countries.

i still wished u good luck in finding love this morning. think would be damn siong for u if more love comes yr way hor...:rolleyes: lucky man...

No more love left in me to share... running on empty already. The Lustmeter, however, is still fine and there is more than enough capacity leftover to satiate.

[yinyang]

Hmmm.. chanced on this interesting thread, whilst juggling work stuff before magic hour for TGIF. Admit I was 1st hesitant, excuse my thinking this was a mushy thread..

Mine's a loooong while ago, nothing sensational or worthwhile compared with posts here. Must add you guys all very eloquent in expressing your experiences -past, present and what ifs..:p

[Derelict]

Must add you guys all very eloquent in expressing your experiences -past, present and what ifs..:p

I bid thee welcome.

Please dont feel like that mate. We are here to share and try to experience other people thots even tho one might not be good in expressive writing. I mean seriously. We are not looking for thesis mind you. :)

Take for example:

I am married hor. I married long long oleady. She good looking one last time but now okay only but no complain okay. My mother saying good to lay babies because her hip very good one. So I marry lah. But before married I try to takle her left right. Wah so susah man, until I camp near her office liaw. I buy flowers lah. I buy gifts lah until she notice me in my benzy lor. Than sekali got baby sia. I so young but eng eng force to married lah. I no complain since I gentlemen. She like making babies because she like to stay home and dont like work. I can understand one because I good husband ma. Since I work okay so okay lor. Let her stay home lah. Yeah I very happy now. So thats my story. Please up me if like story. Thank you hor.

Is good enough in our book. Because in that context we can see he loves his wife. I hope you can understand what I am refering. If not please take it as light reading and my humble apology.

surfer888 Touche mate. Lol

[yinyang]

...Is good enough in our book. Because in that context we can see he loves his wife. I hope you can understand what I am refering. If not please take it as light reading and my humble apology..
Yo, not lost on me either. Sharing or communicating does not live on waxing lyrical alone:D
...my Korean love on a tour.. running on empty already. The Lustmeter, however, is still fine and there is more than enough capacity leftover to satiate.
Can't say much on your giving up on kimchi, and settling on our orchid. Times, we are a victim of circumstance. For some, it's shotgun. But a good take on your power lustmeter:p

[surfer888]

Can't say much on your giving up on kimchi, and settling on our orchid. Times, we are a victim of circumstance. For some, it's shotgun. But a good take on your power lustmeter:p

Yup... victim of circumstance, though not of the misfiring kind. What tickles the tastebuds may not be so kind to the stomach. Although the high beta-carotene content in kimchi counteracts free-radicals and reduces cancer risks, the risks of gastric-related cancers increase 50%. Orchids, however, are a relatively safe bet... nothing exciting, nothing extreme... just costs a bit more maintenance. Careful though, the 'orchid charter' penalizes those who give up 'horticulture' a lifetime maintenance fee.

Not given up on kimchi but only having it on the sides now.

[Derelict]

Yo, not lost on me either. Sharing or communicating does not live on waxing lyrical alone:D


If you know how to use idioms. than I think i kenna soboh by you. Lol

<3

[poorman4sex]

wrong post

[Derelict]

Careful though, the 'orchid charter' penalizes those who give up 'horticulture' a lifetime maintenance fee.

You have at lease a kid I take it. I must have missed it. Pardon if I erred.

[GhostRay]

That's why I was in the threads:

- The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?
- Does the so call " true love " still exist???
- Tips & Tricks to get away from Wife/GFHahahahahaha.... sorry but i keep laughing at this post. Hahahahahahaahaha..... Just cannot help it. :D

[yinyang]

...'orchid charter' penalizes those who give up 'horticulture' a lifetime maintenance fee. Not given up on kimchi but only having it on the sides now.
Arh, couched in plant and pickled lingo... I have even half jested that we guys need MEN's charter liao... pesticides included:p

[jng1103]

I met my CO at "Single Desperate Ugly" few yrs ago, and that was the best thing happened to me. Guess I was the lucky lad... :)

jimbo

[Know_yr_role]

I know my current gf from IRc too..:D i am in my 2nd year of r.s HEHE:D


well...magic does happens sometimes in the most odd places where u least expected it

[_AXL_]

Yo, not lost on me either. Sharing or communicating does not live on waxing lyrical alone

bro, do tell do tell. otherwise, post pic also can. haha...

Yup... victim of circumstance, though not of the misfiring kind.

shotgun, handgun, machine gun. so long can still fire...

What tickles the tastebuds may not be so kind to the stomach. Although the high beta-carotene content in kimchi counteracts free-radicals and reduces cancer risks, the risks of gastric-related cancers increase 50%.

now i m confused. came into contact with a busty kimchi during happy hour session just now. very optimistic initial contact established. 2nd contact arranged for high tea session this coming sunday. but m i going to get cancer from continuous exposure to kimchi???:confused:

Orchids, however, are a relatively safe bet... nothing exciting, nothing extreme... just costs a bit more maintenance. Careful though, the 'orchid charter' penalizes those who give up 'horticulture' a lifetime maintenance fee.

haha, good horticultural analogy...:D cheers to all, enjoy yr weekend.

[_AXL_]

sorry, wrong post.

[SiberianTiger]

2 bro derelict & surfer888 u guys r very humour-infinity...

:D reading through this post sure tickle my funny bone...

but bro derelict, Jippun gers do not share the same upbringing as yr wife nowadays....i know cos i got 2 jippun nieces:(

[surfer888]

You have at lease a kid I take it. I must have missed it. Pardon if I erred.

Yes. Junior is the glue that keeps things sticky and conjoined. Not necessarily beautiful but together nonetheless.

[surfer888]

Hahahahahaha.... sorry but i keep laughing at this post. Hahahahahahaahaha..... Just cannot help it. :D

Yeah... it was tongue in cheek. Glad someone got it.

[surfer888]

Arh, couched in plant and pickled lingo... I have even half jested that we guys need MEN's charter liao... pesticides included:p

Come to think of it, the orchid charter is more of a Venus FLY trap.

[surfer888]

now i m confused. came into contact with a busty kimchi during happy hour session just now. very optimistic initial contact established. 2nd contact arranged for high tea session this coming sunday. but m i going to get cancer from continuous exposure to kimchi???:confused:


Heart cancer. Anyway, take the good with bad. Without either there would be no comparisons.

Haeng un! Anyong kaseyo!

[_AXL_]

Heart cancer. Anyway, take the good with bad. Without either there would be no comparisons.

Haeng un! Anyong kaseyo!

heart cancer???!!!:eek: damn, i have never liked korean food. if this gets any more serious, i might have to pick up the korean language. but agree with u, the good comes with the bad...:D

[Derelict]

heart cancer???!!!:eek: damn, i have never liked korean food.

A garlic a day,
keeps the heart decease at bay.

[Derelict]

Yes. Junior is the glue that keeps things sticky and conjoined. Not necessarily beautiful but together nonetheless.

Anyways the deduction of the shotgun bit got me curious. The tone of it all made the the child bit very choicy especially with the 'maintenance'. All in all you're a good bloke. Glad to know you mate. You're a good dad. There is no doubt about it.

<3

[_AXL_]

A garlic a day,
keeps the heart decease at bay.

dont like garlic, onions can or not?:D

[surfer888]

heart cancer???!!!:eek: damn, i have never liked korean food. if this gets any more serious, i might have to pick up the korean language. but agree with u, the good comes with the bad...:D

Aiyah... meant for it to mean Heartbreak lah.

The only bad that comes out from my relationship with my Korean gf is heartbreak.

[_AXL_]

Aiyah... meant for it to mean Heartbreak lah.

The only bad that comes out from my relationship with my Korean gf is heartbreak.

aiyo, thought really can get heart attack. talk to u, really heart attack. just kidding...:D

ps. sorry, didnt see yr post in newbie section due to oversight.:p saw and replied liao...

[surfer888]

aiyo, thought really can get heart attack. talk to u, really heart attack. just kidding...:D

ps. sorry, didnt see yr post in newbie section due to oversight.:p saw and replied liao...

Had to clear the doubts lah... otherwise will turn into a discussion on garlic, onions, anti-oxidants, flavornoids, free radicals......

[lawless21]

through irc. my bro, a good 9 years younger than me, was in nz, and we could only comms thru internet.

in his channel, was this girl, i got to know. friends for about a year, and after she broke up with her ex, we got together 2 mths later.

this comin june will be our 3 year anniv. and in jul, will be our wedding.

and yes, she's in my bro's age group. 10 years younger than me. but we got along fine, tho once in a while, we squabble over differences. she's forced to grow up, and i'm forced to stay youthful.

and yeah, i'm also a sucker for destiny/fate etc, like what one bro here said. if it doesn't come, you just can't force it to happen. if it does, you can't siam at all.