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3someking
09-10-2018, 07:20 PM
I told her I wanted to break up with her.

She make a police report stating that she did abortion of our baby. And she said she wants me to be responsible for it. She threaten me that if I dont marry her, she will take civil actions against me. She told me she can pass the police report to the lawyer. I am afraid the lawyer will send letter to my house.

What should I do now? :confused:

cleyeo
09-10-2018, 08:35 PM
you didnt rape her, did you ?.
she cant do anything on you !! she was not underage when both of you were making the baby. She was not threaten.
the one who did the abortion was her not you.

fallen11
09-10-2018, 09:03 PM
hahahahhahahahahhaa
u underaged ah?
or the girl underaged? :D

3someking
09-10-2018, 09:17 PM
hahahahhahahahahhaa
u underaged ah?
or the girl underaged? :D

no leh. we both in 30s.

3someking
09-10-2018, 09:18 PM
you didnt rape her, did you ?.
she cant do anything on you !! she was not underage when both of you were making the baby. She was not threaten.
the one who did the abortion was her not you.

no lah not rape. we both in 30s

sexcision
09-10-2018, 09:38 PM
I told her I wanted to break up with her.

She make a police report stating that she did abortion of our baby. And she said she wants me to be responsible for it. She threaten me that if I dont marry her, she will take civil actions against me. She told me she can pass the police report to the lawyer. I am afraid the lawyer will send letter to my house.

What should I do now? :confused:

The police gonna charge u with murder? Or the lawyer gonna send letter to ask for maintenance fee? Hahaha can’t believe someone in 30s asking these questions.

3someking
09-10-2018, 09:47 PM
The police gonna charge u with murder? Or the lawyer gonna send letter to ask for maintenance fee? Hahaha can’t believe someone in 30s asking these questions.

can explain what are some of the civil actions the lawyer can take against me?

I Love Boobs
09-10-2018, 10:29 PM
This is a MeToo era where they can charge you with marital rape even.
All the girl has to do is cry rape....
Even if you're innocent, extricating yourself will be a time-consuming process....
Plus it'll drain you emotionally....
Paid sex is honestly cheaper, more fun and less stressful

youmee
09-10-2018, 10:41 PM
There is no case against you. The police report is just a informal "for record purpose" report. Cause there is no criminal content in it.

As for civil suit, I greatly doubt she can take any action. Although we have women charter, that is for married women. This is just a BGR problem. And I think you make a good move to breakup.

Cause obviously, you have a crack gf to begin with. How to be husband and wife with a person that has something wrong up the brain?

fieryguy80
09-10-2018, 11:40 PM
Haven't married already threaten you.

After married, I think you can the only way for you to save yourself is to end your life. :(
In Singapore, WC sided with women most of the time even if the woman does wrong in the 1st place.

Woman are supposed to make his man's little bro hard, not his man's life...

Pusspuss
10-10-2018, 02:25 AM
Thats y pay for fuck is the best, no drama.
Lucky she aborted the baby, if she keep the baby u be upped for paying maintenance.

3someking
10-10-2018, 05:25 AM
There is no case against you. The police report is just a informal "for record purpose" report. Cause there is no criminal content in it.

As for civil suit, I greatly doubt she can take any action. Although we have women charter, that is for married women. This is just a BGR problem. And I think you make a good move to breakup.

Cause obviously, you have a crack gf to begin with. How to be husband and wife with a person that has something wrong up the brain?

I cant stand her attitude also. everytime when quarrel she threatened to kill me. she mentioned in whatsapp snd also use voice recorder send me.

JacqueMerlin
10-10-2018, 07:31 AM
I cant stand her attitude also. everytime when quarrel she threatened to kill me. she mentioned in whatsapp snd also use voice recorder send me.

Stay away from Her. Don't marry her.

youmee
10-10-2018, 07:50 AM
I cant stand her attitude also. everytime when quarrel she threatened to kill me. she mentioned in whatsapp snd also use voice recorder send me.

Then you have evidence she has committed Criminal Intimidation towards you which is a criminal offence. Keep all this recording. It will come in handy in the future.

Big Sexy
10-10-2018, 07:51 AM
She is a interesting character.. keep those whatapp message and voice recording.. it will be useful against her.



I cant stand her attitude also. everytime when quarrel she threatened to kill me. she mentioned in whatsapp snd also use voice recorder send me.

sammyboyfor
10-10-2018, 07:59 AM
She is a interesting character.. keep those whatapp message and voice recording.. it will be useful against her.

It would also be useful in this forum. :)

Big Sexy
10-10-2018, 08:10 AM
i get what u mean.. but i am afraid it wont be the case most of the time here cos we dont know who is who in the forum plus you dont even log IP addresses..

for those who know each other.. it is usually just empty threats or they are just as guilty ...:D

It would also be useful in this forum. :)

sammyboyfor
10-10-2018, 08:35 AM
i get what u mean.. but i am afraid it wont be the case most of the time here cos we dont know who is who in the forum plus you dont even log IP addresses..

for those who know each other.. it is usually just empty threats or they are just as guilty ...:D

No IDs need be disclosed.

Big Sexy
10-10-2018, 09:06 AM
ok sam...you are probably right :p


No IDs need be disclosed.

Triple70
10-10-2018, 09:10 AM
Hmm ... gf (ex) was not brought up in SG?

Cld be a case of breach of verbal contract but the burden of proof is extremely high.

3someking
10-10-2018, 11:02 AM
Then you have evidence she has committed Criminal Intimidation towards you which is a criminal offence. Keep all this recording. It will come in handy in the future.

yes bro i have already save all those videos.

3someking
10-10-2018, 11:10 AM
Hmm ... gf (ex) was not brought up in SG?

Cld be a case of breach of verbal contract but the burden of proof is extremely high.

huh? there is no contract signed whatsoever. no legal bindings or what

Triple70
10-10-2018, 11:55 AM
huh? there is no contract signed whatsoever. no legal bindings or what

Got several high profile cases recently.
Verbal agreement, FOLLOWED by actions by both parties that is consistent with the existence of such an agreement, constitutes a legally binding contract.
That’s a lot of evidence required.

sol88
10-10-2018, 01:50 PM
likely no legal case. but main problem could be the possible future harassment to you, your career, or even your family if she meltdown. That is the sticky part.

3someking
10-10-2018, 02:54 PM
likely no legal case. but main problem could be the possible future harassment to you, your career, or even your family if she meltdown. That is the sticky part.

if she keep harrassing me, I can make police report rite.

sol88
10-10-2018, 03:31 PM
if she keep harrassing me, I can make police report rite.
ya, but that means going all out..perhaps not cutting off straight away, calm her down, "buy time", drag, etc can be an option if she's abit emotional aggressive at e moment. got such experience before, I let the feelings of her to me sort of fade away, die a natural death.

Big Sexy
10-10-2018, 03:58 PM
why is there likely no case when we actually know very little about the whole thing?

imagine this...
How do u feel if your sister get dump after someone rape/pregnant her and forced her to go thru abortion ?

and you should always remember this 2 things with dealing with woman in SG.

1. Woman Charter (https://sammyboyforum.com/showthread.php?t=239909) - Woman dont even need to spin SOB stories.. they have this very powerful weapon on their side.

2. "xxxx" judge have soft spot for the female in such cases.


likely no legal case. but main problem could be the possible future harassment to you, your career, or even your family if she meltdown. That is the sticky part.

chaoslord
10-10-2018, 05:02 PM
Marry her and Women’s Charter comes into play. You would be truly screwed if you go through on that action.

Dump her. Plain and simple. Threats and harressment is not a basis of friendship much less marriage.

YELLOW
10-10-2018, 05:26 PM
get a protection order ....


I cant stand her attitude also. everytime when quarrel she threatened to kill me. she mentioned in whatsapp snd also use voice recorder send me.

fallen11
10-10-2018, 07:42 PM
Last time my fren ONS a girl then block her calls.
2 weeks after ONS the girl go up his house on a sunday afternoon, his whole family at home. Girl tell my fren dad he made her preggy (she was not preggy, just she like my fren a lot) want him to marry her.
The dad laugh it off say :"if like that my son need to marry u he dont know how many wives now!"
Then she dulan and left, sms my fren say wanna report police that he raped her.
Lucky my fren kept all the sms, screenshot and reply back say :"u think police will believe who when i show them this sms?"
she diam diam disappear forever after that.

My fren dad..... give my fren the thumbs up and told him "well done, son!":D

otamay
10-10-2018, 11:20 PM
if she keep harrassing me, I can make police report rite.

You can apply for a personal protection order to keep her at length.

otamay
10-10-2018, 11:22 PM
huh? there is no contract signed whatsoever. no legal bindings or what

Not all contracts must be signed.

Verbally still can be considered contractual legal binding.

Xia406
10-10-2018, 11:54 PM
I told her I wanted to break up with her.

She make a police report stating that she did abortion of our baby. And she said she wants me to be responsible for it. She threaten me that if I dont marry her, she will take civil actions against me. She told me she can pass the police report to the lawyer. I am afraid the lawyer will send letter to my house.

What should I do now? :confused:

There must be something wrong that u did. U better confess 2 us!!

youmee
12-10-2018, 06:40 PM
Last time my fren ONS a girl then block her calls.
2 weeks after ONS the girl go up his house on a sunday afternoon, his whole family at home. Girl tell my fren dad he made her preggy (she was not preggy, just she like my fren a lot) want him to marry her.
The dad laugh it off say :"if like that my son need to marry u he dont know how many wives now!"
Then she dulan and left, sms my fren say wanna report police that he raped her.
Lucky my fren kept all the sms, screenshot and reply back say :"u think police will believe who when i show them this sms?"
she diam diam disappear forever after that.

My fren dad..... give my fren the thumbs up and told him "well done, son!":D

As the saying goes, "有其父必有其子“:cool:

peanodood1337
17-10-2018, 06:31 PM
if she keep harrassing me, I can make police report rite.

You may find this link helpful:

https://singaporelegaladvice.com/law-articles/protection-from-harassment-applying-for-a-protection-order/

Good luck.

3someking
21-10-2018, 01:44 PM
She has been very nice to me asking if want to go back to previous time and have good times together. I said I am not intrested since she has been threatening me.

Upon hearing, she gets pissed off and told me she really want to take civil action against me.

Triple70
21-10-2018, 07:04 PM
Civil action or marriage ( see below). Which is worse?

https://singaporelegaladvice.com/law-articles/what-are-the-rights-of-a-singaporean-woman-under-the-womens-charter/

larue
21-10-2018, 08:39 PM
She has been very nice to me asking if want to go back to previous time and have good times together. I said I am not intrested since she has been threatening me.

Upon hearing, she gets pissed off and told me she really want to take civil action against me.

Ask her why she's taking so long.

ironman73
18-12-2018, 04:46 PM
I cant stand her attitude also. everytime when quarrel she threatened to kill me. she mentioned in whatsapp snd also use voice recorder send me.

Bro, pls leave her as fast as possible. Might be tough during this process...it will be easier once she find another victim..:eek:

ziwan
19-12-2018, 01:40 AM
if she keep harrassing me, I can make police report rite.

Bro can share her contact with me. I looking for wife, maybe she compatible with me, then will not harass u again.

CheongingEdge
24-12-2018, 08:17 AM
I was in a slightly similar situation recently, been with this girl for a couple of years, but realised she’s a nutcase and wanted out. The whole story is very Long so will not write it here, but it basically comes down to a few things:

1. She threatens to call the police on me (I’m lazy to find out what she wants to sue me for) and I challenged her to do that. Both of us are consenting adults, I didn’t force her to do anything and I’m ready to challenge it.

2. She threatens to come to my house or office to make a fuss, I told her please do so, then I can proceed with my own police report about harassment. If she really make a fuss esp in office I will be damn malu and maybe even given warning. But I have been doing my job well all these years and if the boss wants to fire me for a nutcase lady then maybe it’s a signal for me that this job is not worth me giving so much of my time and effort for too.

3. She threatens bodily harm which I ignore. Was contemplating making a police report for record purpose but in the end didn’t do it.

In the end she did nothing but just bombard me with messages but now turn around to act pitiful and ask for money (knn when we are together I pay for everything then her savings gao gao) so I just ignore her all the way. Till today I see no lawyer’s letter, police report or she showing up to make a fuss.

I think TS just need to be clear about what you are scared of. Issit cos you are married and scared it’s exposed? Or you really rape her? If you scared of every little thing that’s actually meaningless then it’s easy for her to manipulate and threaten you. For my case it is clear, she can make me embarrassed, maybe cost me my job, but that’s no way she can control me with threats. I can be embarrassed and jobless and maybe it last a couple of months/years but if I stick with her or start allowing myself to be threatened I’m fucked for life. So the choice is obvious. But if TS really rape her then you are on your own. I’m a fucking Lao tiko and no saint, but when it comes to rape then I Don’t agree with it at all.

So TS if you want advice, find someone u trust and confess what you did and see if that person has any advice for you.

3someking
25-12-2018, 12:31 PM
I was in a slightly similar situation recently, been with this girl for a couple of years, but realised she’s a nutcase and wanted out. The whole story is very Long so will not write it here, but it basically comes down to a few things:

1. She threatens to call the police on me (I’m lazy to find out what she wants to sue me for) and I challenged her to do that. Both of us are consenting adults, I didn’t force her to do anything and I’m ready to challenge it.

2. She threatens to come to my house or office to make a fuss, I told her please do so, then I can proceed with my own police report about harassment. If she really make a fuss esp in office I will be damn malu and maybe even given warning. But I have been doing my job well all these years and if the boss wants to fire me for a nutcase lady then maybe it’s a signal for me that this job is not worth me giving so much of my time and effort for too.

3. She threatens bodily harm which I ignore. Was contemplating making a police report for record purpose but in the end didn’t do it.

In the end she did nothing but just bombard me with messages but now turn around to act pitiful and ask for money (knn when we are together I pay for everything then her savings gao gao) so I just ignore her all the way. Till today I see no lawyer’s letter, police report or she showing up to make a fuss.

I think TS just need to be clear about what you are scared of. Issit cos you are married and scared it’s exposed? Or you really rape her? If you scared of every little thing that’s actually meaningless then it’s easy for her to manipulate and threaten you. For my case it is clear, she can make me embarrassed, maybe cost me my job, but that’s no way she can control me with threats. I can be embarrassed and jobless and maybe it last a couple of months/years but if I stick with her or start allowing myself to be threatened I’m fucked for life. So the choice is obvious. But if TS really rape her then you are on your own. I’m a fucking Lao tiko and no saint, but when it comes to rape then I Don’t agree with it at all.

So TS if you want advice, find someone u trust and confess what you did and see if that person has any advice for you.

No. I did not rape her. and I am single and she is separated from her hubby for 4 years. I tink the reason why she is angry is becoz she has invested a lot in me. Every date we went out she used her own money.

CheongingEdge
29-12-2018, 10:17 AM
No. I did not rape her. and I am single and she is separated from her hubby for 4 years. I tink the reason why she is angry is becoz she has invested a lot in me. Every date we went out she used her own money.

Essentially if that’s all she did then nothing to worry about unless you took money from her that’s contentious (gift vs loan). But the general thing is I realised a lot of people don’t really understand the law and our rights well so tend to be intimidated more easily. It’s hard, but my 2 cents is you need to be firm against it. If it’s a loan then you gotto repay it but other than that it’s nonsense.

Think carefully before marrying especially such ladies and don’t give in to her threats. Haven’t married threaten you with lawsuit liao. When married and WC on her side then it’s really gg.

HonkyTonkyMan
03-01-2019, 03:34 PM
if she keep harrassing me, I can make police report rite.

your ex gal friend sounds like that Glenn Close character from Fatal Attraction..:eek:

Timothygor
01-02-2019, 10:23 AM
Dont forget civil servants had a pay revised in the middle of tis year Plus they have performance bonus, now another growth bonus. They are getting paid more than me

maleescort7
04-02-2019, 11:47 AM
I told her I wanted to break up with her.

She make a police report stating that she did abortion of our baby. And she said she wants me to be responsible for it. She threaten me that if I dont marry her, she will take civil actions against me. She told me she can pass the police report to the lawyer. I am afraid the lawyer will send letter to my house.

What should I do now? :confused:

I dont know much about this country laws but i have summarised what i can conclude from this situation:
1. If she did abortion, first question that police will ask "it was legal abortion or illegal". If it was legal, it is already recorded and it was happened due to mutual consent. So, there is no law that can give you punishment for something that happened due to mutual agreement. If it was illegal, then she will be charged as criminal. There is no such evidence that she can prove that you forced her to go for abortion. There is no video or audio evidence and she will be responsible for this killing. Even if she has evidence, still she is equally responsible for this killing and she will get the equal punishment. So, she will never mention this abortion in her legal statement. If she wanna write, her lawyer will warn her that she will get the equal punishment. So, exclude this option number one from your fear list. Id she already wrote this in a police report, she is already in hot waters. You can simply say how can i force her to do something if she is not willing.
2. You are afraid that your parents will know that you were fucking a girl all the time. I am sure they already know all this. So, take it easy and simply tell them "i was serious but that bitch does not deserve me, she put a false blame on me because she is looser."
3. There is no civil action in this situation. No one will quarantine you, dont worry.
4. You need to relax your mid. The best way is "find some other bitch and start fucking her till you forget your ex, and then search for someone new".

singleman
17-03-2019, 12:23 PM
just my thought. I maybe wrong...

this girl already something not "right" liao in the mind. people already dun like her but want to force people to like her. this kind of marriage is going to make both of them suffer in future. Marriage is supposed to be a happy case but end up need take civil action and report police. unless TS in the first place do something not right to her and she want some kind of revenge.

casinos
19-03-2019, 10:37 PM
emotional blackmail is causing you unnecessary anxiety. you should have abandoned ship after she made a police report on you. so far sg doesn't have any civil suit filed for not marrying someone.

sexresearcher
21-03-2019, 01:24 PM
Walk away. Walk far far away from crazy bitches. I used to date one myself and 1 year of craziness from her is enough. She is tall (1.72m), slim and pretty but is seriously depressed at times.

Whatever fuck it is, she has no case if it's not criminal.

Just stay away and don't ever ROM with her.....

StaminaIsKey
25-03-2019, 08:35 PM
Bro save all the videos, voice messages and messages that she threatened to kill you etc...
Make a police report and file it to court there after to apply for PPO.
IF she comes near you and make trouble, call 999 she straightaway send go police station. Simple as that :D

As long as you got PPO ah, it's the same as SG's WC. She come near you, disiao you or no disiao you call 999 she kena already. Straight arrested to police station.

Antorak
03-04-2019, 10:06 AM
Dude, this kind of shit don't ask for help on the forum. Time to seek lawyer advice already. If not you do something stupid who you gonna turn to sia?