Married but has a new girlfriend

[WastingTimeHere]

Hi,

I’m married without kids for close to 3years
Due to work I travel quite abit

I kinda know this new girl
Which connected on almost all level compared to my wife
But having said it’s someone new, the feeling is fresh etc etc

I made the worst mistake by lying to the new girl that I’m not married
And I think she invested feeling into this relationship too

I think I like the new girl too, but it’s too early to tell.

Right now I don’t know what should I do...
I’m planning to keep the new girl and my wife in the dark about each other.

Or is there a better way to handle this situation

*this new girl is 2years younger than my wife ( not sure if this is relevant )

[WastingTimeHere]

On a side note

This girl is not as crazy as my wife, and I really feel like being with her instead of my wife

[Vivienne]

Enjoy while it last loh... eventually either side will find out that you lied/cheat.
So many permutations how things will turn out, but only married for 3 years and you already got tempted, perhaps LTC dun suit you ;)

[domainame]

bro you are not in 7 year itch yet

How long you have been dating with your wife

[ahboyb0y]

You just only want the fresh feeling. After you and the new girl long already you will feel bored and want to find a new one for fresh feeling. Now is to think properly first. You will need to go through divorce lawyer and WC too.

[WastingTimeHere]

I dated many other girls before during marriage

Most didn’t develop feelings, only this one did
And my friends see it as I’m that kind who can let go very easily

[danilov]

Hi,

I’m married without kids for close to 3years
Due to work I travel quite abit

)

We are always addicted to fresh feeling. But what you say is true, there's a difference in that among the lots of girls you meet, there's the few (not just one) that stands out in your mind. One is your wife, then another is this new gf.

It's probably because you spend a lot of time traveling and lonely, a lot of free, unsupervised time on your hands, that lead to this. Suggest you get a job that lets you spend more time at home with your wife and r/s will strengthen naturally.

[enzyme]

One of the thing is, once the thought of leaving the wife comes to mind. Then it will be stuck there. Maybe not this time but if another girl comes along and sticky enough to push you through.

You might just do it.

Hence I agree with the bro above on the part about strengthening the relationship if you today decide to hang on.

Then remember why you decided so.

Trust yourself on your decision.

好看的皮囊千遍一律，美丽的灵魂独一无二。

[WastingTimeHere]

Thanks!

Right now my mind is pretty blank on how to handle the situation

One friend advice is...

When you meet someone new, even you feel that the pussy hole is made to suit your kkj
But after the honeymoon period, the new girl might turn out to be crazy

[Capricorn69]

If you have feeling for her, just go for it :)

[fallen11]

Hi,

I’m married without kids for close to 3years
Due to work I travel quite abit

I kinda know this new girl
Which connected on almost all level compared to my wife
But having said it’s someone new, the feeling is fresh etc etc

I made the worst mistake by lying to the new girl that I’m not married
And I think she invested feeling into this relationship too

I think I like the new girl too, but it’s too early to tell.

Right now I don’t know what should I do...
I’m planning to keep the new girl and my wife in the dark about each other.

Or is there a better way to handle this situation

*this new girl is 2years younger than my wife ( not sure if this is relevant )

fuck her yet? If not, fuck her first then say. Sample the goods well before u buy it.
Just enjoy it while it lasts. Could be different after she know u're married and kept her in the dark all along.
Well most wives are always crazy. Thats why many bros choose to stay unmarried.:D

[ibanezjem555]

Crazy women can take scissors and snip snip...

[HelplessGal]

Hi,

I’m married without kids for close to 3years
Due to work I travel quite abit

I kinda know this new girl
Which connected on almost all level compared to my wife
But having said it’s someone new, the feeling is fresh etc etc

I made the worst mistake by lying to the new girl that I’m not married
And I think she invested feeling into this relationship too

I think I like the new girl too, but it’s too early to tell.

Right now I don’t know what should I do...
I’m planning to keep the new girl and my wife in the dark about each other.

Or is there a better way to handle this situation

*this new girl is 2years younger than my wife ( not sure if this is relevant )

TS, you have to be really honest with this new gal about your martial status as honesty is the best policy to avoid disasters caused by your dishonesty on martial status. Otherwise unforeseen drama will happen to both of you. Learn from this guy’s costly mistake: https://stomp.straitstimes.com/singapore-seen/woman-slashed-married-ex-lover-with-penknife-after-he-refused-to-go-on-china-work

[siambibi]

One leg two boat always end up you got soaked.
Best both keep in the dark and enjoy having sex with both of them. :)

[JohnHanz16]

if you are serious about new girl and want long term, better tell her you're married and see how she reacts. that will help you answer the qns. but if you only here for a good time, then best keep both at dark and say bye eventually to one or the other.

worst case scenario is both of them find out you cheating and then it's bye bye to both. better make a choice while you still can bro,before the choice is made for you

[fallen11]

Had a male colleague, he had an office fling despite him being married with a baby boy.
1 day, his office fling want to be serious with their relationship (she knew he's a married man before they even started). Guy promised her he'll divorce his wife, which i think he doesnt intend to do so probably because of the kid.
But somehow the wife found out, so she filed for divorce and child custody.
Faced with divorce, losing custody of his son & his fling leaving him, he cannot take it. Went into severe depression and didnt seek any help.
1 day met up with his fling, she gave him a final choice. Leave the wife or she leaves. He couldnt make any choice. She left him on the spot.
He immediately hanged himself.......

Married can play around. But when the time for reckoning comes, be ready to accept losses and move on. Cant keep up to the game please dont play.

[danilov]

If he likes the office fling enough to start a fling and the fling still wants him while the wife wants to divorce him, I thought the choice is obvious??

Anyway, not making a choice (leave both) is also another choice!

[fallen11]

If he likes the office fling enough to start a fling and the fling still wants him while the wife wants to divorce him, I thought the choice is obvious??

Anyway, not making a choice (leave both) is also another choice!

So people play around doesnt mean they want to leave the spouse.
I think for that guy's case, he doesnt want to part with the son.

[Xgenre]

Many girls are worried about their diminishing youth. As girls tend to marry older guys, their pool of available men shrinks over time. If you are really care for her, don't sacrifice her chances of finding Mr Right.

Even if you decide to be responsible and admit you are a married man, having lied to her, she will worry if you will lie to her again. She may also worry about you having flings outside even if you choose to divorce and marry her. I think the innate insecurities a lady may have should not be underestimated.

You are a player. She is not.

[WastingTimeHere]

Many girls are worried about their diminishing youth. As girls tend to marry older guys, their pool of available men shrinks over time. If you are really care for her, don't sacrifice her chances of finding Mr Right.

Even if you decide to be responsible and admit you are a married man, having lied to her, she will worry if you will lie to her again. She may also worry about you having flings outside even if you choose to divorce and marry her. I think the innate insecurities a lady may have should not be underestimated.

You are a player. She is not.

Yup
That’s what I’m worried about too

This new relationship is being built on lies
Even if I somehow divorce my wife

A possible argument in the future will definitely revolve around this

[MoJoe313]

TS,
Marriage contract leh. You think bgr ah? So easy to separate? Dream on. You are just hurting yourself and the new girl. Bec there is no ending btw you two.

Even if there is. You marry new girl. Another comes along. Then what. I guarantee you will say no. 3 is absolutely different; she is really the One. Wanna bet?

[chaoslord]

My recommendation is to cut your ties with this new girl.

Even if you are upfront with her now about your marriage, the trust between you and her would already be frayed. Women forgive but never forget. We play around to reduce stress, not add to it.

[ilpink]

actually its funny because why would you marry your wife if you didn't go through the same phase as your "new gf" now.

Human like new things, younger woman, new car, branded stuff, we will never get enough of new and mentally stimulating goods out there.

You might even find yourself in the same situation after 3 years with this new woman.

Why not just screw her as much as you want and dump her, I think you will find yourself happier with your wife if you choose to invest the same amount of time and effort on her.

[sane]

It will be better to tell her the truth then see whether she want to continue this affair with you.

There’s this guy who told me this
“Don’t play with relationship” and he turn crazy, things get ugly.

Friends have been telling me that because I have been giving him false hope.

He chased me out of his car and start to hurl angry texts to me.

[AUDIFANSG]

Lol care to explain why ur wife is 'crazy'?

[James95koh]

Sound exciting. If you like thrilling, you can continue

[dp939]

My recommendation is to cut your ties with this new girl.

Even if you are upfront with her now about your marriage, the trust between you and her would already be frayed. Women forgive but never forget. We play around to reduce stress, not add to it.


"We play around to reduce stress, not add to it." Thumbs up

[c0cktailov3r]

On a side note

This girl is not as crazy as my wife, and I really feel like being with her instead of my wife

Actually u are the crazy one to even think this and say this about your wife. U chose to marry her and now u call her "crazy"?? Men just totally forget about the marriage vows once their little brains(and manhood) take over.

Your new rs is built on lies, what makes you think it can last?

The best bet is to cut ties with the new girl before your wife finds out. And just pray and make sure your wife never ever finds out about this episode.

[Triplexxx222]

New one always more exciting than old one

[centvin]

I married my wife after 3 mths without going thru the "dating" phase. It was more like lust and I was 23. Shes a ft, decent n committed, but I find it hard to connect as our values r so much different.

[kurtis]

you married your ons?


hehe

I married my wife after 3 mths without going thru the "dating" phase. It was more like lust and I was 23. Shes a ft, decent n committed, but I find it hard to connect as our values r so much different.

[WastingTimeHere]

The girlfriend found out about my wife

And gave me time to come out with a solution
I think she wants me to divorce my wife.... ��

[expatamerican]

The girlfriend found out about my wife

And gave me time to come out with a solution
I think she wants me to divorce my wife.... ��

So here is when you find out if your girlfriend is the right one to choose or not. How did she react? Did she understand you? Or did she just judge you? How she is reacting now will tell you everything you need to know about if she is worth leaving your marriage for. If she ever threatens you by saying she will tell your wife etc then under no circumstances leave your wife for her. If she is super understanding and caring and loving under stress, then that is the partner you want.

[navras]

Bro, you have to be very sure sure about it.
The process is very time consuming and costly.
Unless the wifey agreed to a token sum of $1 and nothing else from the matrimonial assets.With no further harassment from the wife’s families, etc, etc
Only consolation is no child if not the fight for the child’s custody will be very ugly.

[jordanlee888]

If I am your wife, I will give you rabak. At least take 50% of your assets and monthly allowance depend on your income

[c0cktailov3r]

The girlfriend found out about my wife

And gave me time to come out with a solution
I think she wants me to divorce my wife.... ��

What is your preferred solution?

[cuscorex92]

wana point out somtin to TS too.she's waiting for a solution from ya. u choose the 3rd party,she is thou,but its due to your lie...do u tink u can live wif her aft? once bitten twice shy,its a betrayal once. she wil b on a 'look out' for ya movement constantly, she wudnt wana b in your ex-wife's shoes "N" yrs later.

[fallen11]

If I am your wife, I will give you rabak. At least take 50% of your assets and monthly allowance depend on your income

Believe me
50% of assets is not rabak at all.
Most divorces the wife asks for 70% at least, if the wife is not the offending party.

[WastingTimeHere]

Now shit really hit the fan
My gf, She’s pregnant

Both my wife and gf is Vietnamese if any of these matter

[sane]

The people here have already been telling you not to play with fire since day 1


Now shit really hit the fan
My gf, She’s pregnant

Both my wife and gf is Vietnamese if any of these matter

[maxsee]

Now shit really hit the fan
My gf, She’s pregnant

Both my wife and gf is Vietnamese if any of these matter

You ever heard before wise men say "Stupidity has no cure"....u r the perfect example :D

[cuscorex92]

no point reprimanding over spilled milk. often,当局者,迷.
TS wil need to make a statement, seriously, need to weigh the situation.

gf is pushing TS into a corner to make a choice, doubt she wil be compromising.she's aware u hv a family, see if she's willing to negotiate for a win-win.

[fallen11]

Now shit really hit the fan
My gf, She’s pregnant

Both my wife and gf is Vietnamese if any of these matter

why didnt u wear condom?
u not scared gf have disease even if u do want an illegitimate baby?

[MoJoe313]

For all you know, TS is a bored 14 y.o kid getting cheap thrills telling stories. Never believe everything on the internet. If you do, I have a bridge to heaven to sell you

[Capricorn69]

Now shit really hit the fan
My gf, She’s pregnant

Both my wife and gf is Vietnamese if any of these matter

bro you are damn good. Shoot once and make her pregnant :)

[Xia406]

Now shit really hit the fan
My gf, She’s pregnant

Both my wife and gf is Vietnamese if any of these matter

I honestly think you are an idiot.

You do not even know what you want in your life and your marriage, and now you have created an innocent life.

Idiocracy has no limits.

Be a responsible man and do the right thing.

[Davidsonsex]

Play is play. The child is innocent. Alamak

[178noobnoob]

I used to have a fling on my previous job. She knew i’m married.
We hang out without my wife knowing. We see each other almost everyday, go work together, go home together, eat together. When she’s on holiday, i will video call her whenever i can. She’s a PRC and her parents thought that i’m her first bf.
Really cherish whenever i can. But good things dont last when we knew we cant be together forever. Seeing each other everyday is also hurting. Decided to leave the company and spend more time with my family.
But till now, i still miss her.
Dont have the courage to drop her a text.
😭

[enzyme]

She’s a PRC and her parents thought that i’m her first bf.

Really cherish whenever i can. But good things dont last when we knew we cant be together forever. Seeing each other everyday is also hurting.

But till now, i still miss her.

Dont have the courage to drop her a text.
😭

Bro I truly feel your statements above.

Same here same here.

[178noobnoob]

Bro I truly feel your statements above.

Same here same here.

Guess quite afew bro here all same same. :(

[Quanjinjin]

I had a friend same like this. One sg one China. Sg is the first wife. China one no status. He visit the China one twice a year. Surprisingly the China one did not find a new husband (from what I know). This relationship already lasted 15+years

[maleescort7]

A very simple answer:
If you think this new girl is the girl of your heart, tell her you are a married dick but i developed the true feelings towards you (and you are more than my wife for me) and see what she responds. She will either kick your greedy ass or continue to ride on your dick. If she is crazy enough to decide to be a part of your life, file a divorce for your wife and then marry this new girl.:):):):):)
I dont think you should hide it from your wife as well as this new girl if you really has a feeling for this girl. In this way, you infact hurt and cheat both the girls. Your wife dont deserve an asshole if her husband has more feelings for a fresh pussy. Perhaps she will find a gentleman who has a true feelings for her rather than spending a life with a crazy man.

[VDKR]

I have a friend like this and he always share with me. He's married but no kid cos the wife don't want to have kids yet.

He travels to VN frequently for work and he got to know some girls there. He uses a spare android phone to keep their wechat contacts and the wechat app itself has a security pin to launch.

He tells me stuff like

"Met this girl at a bar and to my surprise, she is the bar owner, very chio, we clicked, I bought a few drinks then exchange contact. Next day I went to find her again and brought her back to hotel later in the night. Fucked her 3 times until no more power. She wanted to fuck without protection but I said no cos don't want to accidentally have a baby. "

There are other stories which are similar where his staff will bring him go karaoke and then up same thing. He actually had a few girlfriends and he suspected his wife knew but didn't say anything. His brother-in-law had an affair with a PRC and the wife was pregnant at the time.

My friend's wife said to her brother "If want to play, don't play in the open and get caught". Until now my friend still play with his VN GFs, dating and fucking them but becomes a good husband when he reach home bringing her on dates and buying gifts.

I asked him, what changed? He told me he managed to set aside his feelings for the VN GFs when he is back in Singapore and concentrate on his wife. Because the feelings will be good and high for a while and they will go away eventually.

[Capricorn69]

[QUOTE]
My friend's wife said to her brother "If want to play, don't play in the open and get caught". Until now my friend still play with his VN GFs, dating and fucking them but becomes a good husband when he reach home bringing her on dates and buying gifts.
[QUOTE]

Well done. That' s how it should be :)

[Pinkielady]

I had a friend same like this. One sg one China. Sg is the first wife. China one no status. He visit the China one twice a year. Surprisingly the China one did not find a new husband (from what I know). This relationship already lasted 15+years

Visit the China one twice a year !!!???
Do you really think that she do not need a dick to do spring cleaning for her water hole which might get itchy during the 180 days when your friend is not around...!!!????

Last time when I chiong Batam, those Batam kept women of Singapore's man, (their man will visit them on every Friday evening).
These kept ladies, they also Bei Tahan the itchy of their water holes..... every Wednesday ladies night at disco, they will sure flocked to disco to find some Sin Expats who sit inside the Disco waiting to Fish.

Well, I was among those Sin Expats sitting inside the Disco doing Fishing every Wednesday night.... back at those old days.... :p:p:p:D:D

[bignehneh]

Visit the China one twice a year !!!???
Do you really think that she do not need a dick to do spring cleaning for her water hole which might get itchy during the 180 days when your friend is not around...!!!????

Last time when I chiong Batam, those Batam kept women of Singapore's man, (their man will visit them on every Friday evening).
These kept ladies, they also Bei Tahan the itchy of their water holes..... every Wednesday ladies night at disco, they will sure flocked to disco to find some Sin Expats who sit inside the Disco waiting to Fish.

Well, I was among those Sin Expats sitting inside the Disco doing Fishing every Wednesday night.... back at those old days.... :p:p:p:D:D

The women chio or not? I think depending on the type of women. Some hungry for sex, needs to be fucked Everyday

[happykrabi]

Hi,

I’m married without kids for close to 3years
Due to work I travel quite abit

I kinda know this new girl
Which connected on almost all level compared to my wife
But having said it’s someone new, the feeling is fresh etc etc

I made the worst mistake by lying to the new girl that I’m not married
And I think she invested feeling into this relationship too

I think I like the new girl too, but it’s too early to tell.

Right now I don’t know what should I do...
I’m planning to keep the new girl and my wife in the dark about each other.

Or is there a better way to handle this situation

*this new girl is 2years younger than my wife ( not sure if this is relevant )

you should confess to your new girl so you could twist the relationship into a no strings attached 1. :D:D:D

[Johnsonviona]

I think you should let go both and start afresh. You are not suited for long term relationship. Pay the damages and work harder in the future.