Letting go of my lover

[leakypipes]

A while ago, I started a thread meant to recap my sexventures since the Uni days. Why uni? because that was when I lost my vcard. I wrote it also because I had just started an affair with my neighbour.

That affair ended in a bad way for me. I lost almost everything as a result. Everything except her. She was good for me. But she was also bad for me.

The best thing she did for me was unintended. I think it was unintended because I cannot see how she could have planned to restore my lost sense of self confidence. I am average looking. Or below average now because of my weight gain over the last decade or so. My neck is barely visible.

And yet, despite my decrease in visual appeal, my confidence became sky high all because of the nympho next door. She was...encouraging. Taught me that it was the inside that mattered.

Funny side digression - I have been somewhat insecure about my dick size. FLs and KTV gals always say it's big and thick. but I don't believe. My ex-wife used to say it was shorter than average. I did believe.

But when she told me that I didn't have to worry about it, I accepted it. Strange. Power of words hor?

The time I spent with her was healing in many ways. She nurture my belief in myself during that period. Funny thing is, she was herself haunted. She don;t believe in herself. And she refuse any attempt by me to return the favour she did for me.

Ultimately, that was what did our relationship in. She was responsible for my marriage ending - not because she baotoh me - but because she was fucking me and I was fucking her. It was someone I thought was a friend who exposed us. Cibai fucker. Continue to suffer.

But although my marriage ended, my relationship with her continued. But her haunting was getting too serious. And I could not help her. She would not let me.

When we ended, I was not sure what I felt. I was relieved but I was also very very sad. I wish I could have done more for you. There were tears but we both smiled and agreed it was for the best. I didn't believe it. I doubt you did.

We're not even neighbours anymore. I don't know if our paths will cross again. I still treasure you, and I will continue to find ways to help you. Sometimes directly, sometimes indirectly. I know you will push me away. It's ok.

I know you will read this, even if you rarely post. I want you to know that I am very very grateful for what you did for me. I am more than the man I was when we met, and I will continue to grow for myself. I hope that you will find a brighter future too. Even if it means saying goodbye to this island you no longer see as home.

[Chua Soi Lek]

At least you have lotsa sex, that’s important !

[Regretfulman]

1. Dick size is objective, not subjective. Take a ruler, measure your cock, and google "average dick size for male".

2. Haunting in what sense? How did it contribute to the failure of the R/S?Perhaps a therapist could help her. At the end of the day, we are mere mortals. Thinking that we can always fix a person is delusional.

3. Very uncanny and poetic that you post this on V-day. Perhaps the melacholy and nostalgia is heightened on this date.

Sorry for your pain and suffering bro. I myself am also suffering, albeit in a different way. Hope you find peace within yourself and move on.

[Gingerbreadmy]

Appreciation of her means a lot. And you accepting it is what it is with divorse etc the darkness you could not be a hero of. Time heals.

A while ago, I started a thread meant to recap my sexventures since the Uni days. Why uni? because that was when I lost my vcard. I wrote it also because I had just started an affair with my neighbour.

That affair ended in a bad way for me. I lost almost everything as a result. Everything except her. She was good for me. But she was also bad for me.

The best thing she did for me was unintended. I think it was unintended because I cannot see how she could have planned to restore my lost sense of self confidence. I am average looking. Or below average now because of my weight gain over the last decade or so. My neck is barely visible.

And yet, despite my decrease in visual appeal, my confidence became sky high all because of the nympho next door. She was...encouraging. Taught me that it was the inside that mattered.

Funny side digression - I have been somewhat insecure about my dick size. FLs and KTV gals always say it's big and thick. but I don't believe. My ex-wife used to say it was shorter than average. I did believe.

But when she told me that I didn't have to worry about it, I accepted it. Strange. Power of words hor?

The time I spent with her was healing in many ways. She nurture my belief in myself during that period. Funny thing is, she was herself haunted. She don;t believe in herself. And she refuse any attempt by me to return the favour she did for me.

Ultimately, that was what did our relationship in. She was responsible for my marriage ending - not because she baotoh me - but because she was fucking me and I was fucking her. It was someone I thought was a friend who exposed us. Cibai fucker. Continue to suffer.

But although my marriage ended, my relationship with her continued. But her haunting was getting too serious. And I could not help her. She would not let me.

When we ended, I was not sure what I felt. I was relieved but I was also very very sad. I wish I could have done more for you. There were tears but we both smiled and agreed it was for the best. I didn't believe it. I doubt you did.

We're not even neighbours anymore. I don't know if our paths will cross again. I still treasure you, and I will continue to find ways to help you. Sometimes directly, sometimes indirectly. I know you will push me away. It's ok.

I know you will read this, even if you rarely post. I want you to know that I am very very grateful for what you did for me. I am more than the man I was when we met, and I will continue to grow for myself. I hope that you will find a brighter future too. Even if it means saying goodbye to this island you no longer see as home.

[leakypipes]

At least you have lotsa sex, that’s important !

can't deny that.

[leakypipes]

Appreciation of her means a lot. And you accepting it is what it is with divorse etc the darkness you could not be a hero of. Time heals.

thanks, bro. time will move. so we also must move.

[leakypipes]

1. Dick size is objective, not subjective. Take a ruler, measure your cock, and google "average dick size for male".

2. Haunting in what sense? How did it contribute to the failure of the R/S?Perhaps a therapist could help her. At the end of the day, we are mere mortals. Thinking that we can always fix a person is delusional.

3. Very uncanny and poetic that you post this on V-day. Perhaps the melacholy and nostalgia is heightened on this date.

Sorry for your pain and suffering bro. I myself am also suffering, albeit in a different way. Hope you find peace within yourself and move on.

yah lar it's true we all should know this about dick size but insecurities can come in all shapes and forms. i know better now.

we both had demons from the past. i have been able to find the light, and it's been good. but i worry for her - same time i accept my role is different now.

it's not really pain or suffering now. pain and hurt also part of life, like or don't like, it won't change anything.

[leakypipes]

I will not lie - my initial interest in her was purely sexual. she was not my first fb but i had stopped playing that game for awhile out of a sense of duty to my wife. and the kids. but the itch never goes away so that first meeting, it was not surprising that we ended up in bed.

but over time, with every small step, the feelings started to grow. and i fought hard to keep my rules in place. as big boss sam always say - whores are for fucking, not for loving. woman may hate me for this, but if i am not married to you or in a r/s with you - you are a whore to me, only for fucking and not loving.

maybe it was because of the long period without fb. maybe i m just asshole.

but because of her, i broke that rule of not having feelings involved in a fucking relationship.

even though what we had played a part in the breakdown on my marriage, i have no regret. even though we did not end up together, i still don regret.

i can still feel every touch when i think of her. your pimple scars. your soft lips, and your strangely inexperienced kissing. slim, lean and taut. it's a good thing i have outgrown my fascination with big boobs. i have some preferences in physical shape. she would say i have a type and she is not wrong. she was my type for sure.

she enjoyed finding someone who could match her sex drive. i always knew i had a bit of a higher drive. it's also why i became a chiongster.

the real surprise for both of us was a shared sense of adventure. there's a thread about fucking in the public area. when i was in NS, i tried that before. and anyone who has been in the ktv scene long enough must have fucked at least one ktv girl in a toilet, or the room itself. been there, done that. done that many times.

but it's funny - one-off public sex is fun, but when you have a regular partner who is down for some hanky panky in the unlikeliest of places - this takes it to a different level. i swear my erections were way harder than usual when we were fucking in the backseat as a car drove past that night. or when she was grabbing my dick in the carpark barely 10 metres from other people. i also got a thrill from fingering her even as her hotpants stayed on. my fingers may be fat but they are flexible.

so yeah, i love those adventures we had together. that will mark what we had as special always.

[glenn553]

I will not lie - my initial interest in her was purely sexual. she was not my first fb but i had stopped playing that game for awhile out of a sense of duty to my wife. and the kids. but the itch never goes away so that first meeting, it was not surprising that we ended up in bed.

but over time, with every small step, the feelings started to grow. and i fought hard to keep my rules in place. as big boss sam always say - whores are for fucking, not for loving. woman may hate me for this, but if i am not married to you or in a r/s with you - you are a whore to me, only for fucking and not loving.

maybe it was because of the long period without fb. maybe i m just asshole.

but because of her, i broke that rule of not having feelings involved in a fucking relationship.

even though what we had played a part in the breakdown on my marriage, i have no regret. even though we did not end up together, i still don regret.

i can still feel every touch when i think of her. your pimple scars. your soft lips, and your strangely inexperienced kissing. slim, lean and taut. it's a good thing i have outgrown my fascination with big boobs. i have some preferences in physical shape. she would say i have a type and she is not wrong. she was my type for sure.

she enjoyed finding someone who could match her sex drive. i always knew i had a bit of a higher drive. it's also why i became a chiongster.

the real surprise for both of us was a shared sense of adventure. there's a thread about fucking in the public area. when i was in NS, i tried that before. and anyone who has been in the ktv scene long enough must have fucked at least one ktv girl in a toilet, or the room itself. been there, done that. done that many times.

but it's funny - one-off public sex is fun, but when you have a regular partner who is down for some hanky panky in the unlikeliest of places - this takes it to a different level. i swear my erections were way harder than usual when we were fucking in the backseat as a car drove past that night. or when she was grabbing my dick in the carpark barely 10 metres from other people. i also got a thrill from fingering her even as her hotpants stayed on. my fingers may be fat but they are flexible.

so yeah, i love those adventures we had together. that will mark what we had as special always.

Fully understand bro, same thing happened to em

[jokespi]

I will not lie - my initial interest in her was purely sexual. she was not my first fb but i had stopped playing that game for awhile out of a sense of duty to my wife. and the kids. but the itch never goes away so that first meeting, it was not surprising that we ended up in bed.

but over time, with every small step, the feelings started to grow. and i fought hard to keep my rules in place. as big boss sam always say - whores are for fucking, not for loving. woman may hate me for this, but if i am not married to you or in a r/s with you - you are a whore to me, only for fucking and not loving.

maybe it was because of the long period without fb. maybe i m just asshole.

but because of her, i broke that rule of not having feelings involved in a fucking relationship.

even though what we had played a part in the breakdown on my marriage, i have no regret. even though we did not end up together, i still don regret.

i can still feel every touch when i think of her. your pimple scars. your soft lips, and your strangely inexperienced kissing. slim, lean and taut. it's a good thing i have outgrown my fascination with big boobs. i have some preferences in physical shape. she would say i have a type and she is not wrong. she was my type for sure.

she enjoyed finding someone who could match her sex drive. i always knew i had a bit of a higher drive. it's also why i became a chiongster.

the real surprise for both of us was a shared sense of adventure. there's a thread about fucking in the public area. when i was in NS, i tried that before. and anyone who has been in the ktv scene long enough must have fucked at least one ktv girl in a toilet, or the room itself. been there, done that. done that many times.

but it's funny - one-off public sex is fun, but when you have a regular partner who is down for some hanky panky in the unlikeliest of places - this takes it to a different level. i swear my erections were way harder than usual when we were fucking in the backseat as a car drove past that night. or when she was grabbing my dick in the carpark barely 10 metres from other people. i also got a thrill from fingering her even as her hotpants stayed on. my fingers may be fat but they are flexible.

so yeah, i love those adventures we had together. that will mark what we had as special always.

Good share bro..

[ilakir]

Fully understand bro, same thing happened to em Same....hmmm

[donut88]

We can't change our face, but we can change our body weight

If u know u r too fat, do something so that u get back self confidence and feel better. It's for health too.

Once u r in shape, no scare no gf, bro.


A while ago, I started a thread meant to recap my sexventures since the Uni days. Why uni? because that was when I lost my vcard. I wrote it also because I had just started an affair with my neighbour.

That affair ended in a bad way for me. I lost almost everything as a result. Everything except her. She was good for me. But she was also bad for me.

The best thing she did for me was unintended. I think it was unintended because I cannot see how she could have planned to restore my lost sense of self confidence. I am average looking. Or below average now because of my weight gain over the last decade or so. My neck is barely visible.

And yet, despite my decrease in visual appeal, my confidence became sky high all because of the nympho next door. She was...encouraging. Taught me that it was the inside that mattered.

Funny side digression - I have been somewhat insecure about my dick size. FLs and KTV gals always say it's big and thick. but I don't believe. My ex-wife used to say it was shorter than average. I did believe.

But when she told me that I didn't have to worry about it, I accepted it. Strange. Power of words hor?

The time I spent with her was healing in many ways. She nurture my belief in myself during that period. Funny thing is, she was herself haunted. She don;t believe in herself. And she refuse any attempt by me to return the favour she did for me.

Ultimately, that was what did our relationship in. She was responsible for my marriage ending - not because she baotoh me - but because she was fucking me and I was fucking her. It was someone I thought was a friend who exposed us. Cibai fucker. Continue to suffer.

But although my marriage ended, my relationship with her continued. But her haunting was getting too serious. And I could not help her. She would not let me.

When we ended, I was not sure what I felt. I was relieved but I was also very very sad. I wish I could have done more for you. There were tears but we both smiled and agreed it was for the best. I didn't believe it. I doubt you did.

We're not even neighbours anymore. I don't know if our paths will cross again. I still treasure you, and I will continue to find ways to help you. Sometimes directly, sometimes indirectly. I know you will push me away. It's ok.

I know you will read this, even if you rarely post. I want you to know that I am very very grateful for what you did for me. I am more than the man I was when we met, and I will continue to grow for myself. I hope that you will find a brighter future too. Even if it means saying goodbye to this island you no longer see as home.

[glenn553]

Same....hmmm

Good old Rik

[leakypipes]

We can't change our face, but we can change our body weight

If u know u r too fat, do something so that u get back self confidence and feel better. It's for health too.

Once u r in shape, no scare no gf, bro.

Thank you bro for your support... My self confidence is higher than ever... just that sometimes...I miss her, you know?

[Chua Soi Lek]

can't deny that.

You missed the sex or not ? 😂

[leakypipes]

You missed the sex or not ? 😂

Yes and no.

We had great sex while we were together. And we were both quite adventurous, as I mention. Fuck in shower, fuck in kitchen, fuck in car, fuck on sofa, balcony... all also do.

But while our relationship is over, it does not mean I stop having sex. And since being with her help me find a new kind of confidence, it not so hard to find opportunities for sex.

[Peacekeeping]

I will not lie - my initial interest in her was purely sexual. she was not my first fb but i had stopped playing that game for awhile out of a sense of duty to my wife. and the kids. but the itch never goes away so that first meeting, it was not surprising that we ended up in bed.

but over time, with every small step, the feelings started to grow. and i fought hard to keep my rules in place. as big boss sam always say - whores are for fucking, not for loving. woman may hate me for this, but if i am not married to you or in a r/s with you - you are a whore to me, only for fucking and not loving.

maybe it was because of the long period without fb. maybe i m just asshole.

but because of her, i broke that rule of not having feelings involved in a fucking relationship.

even though what we had played a part in the breakdown on my marriage, i have no regret. even though we did not end up together, i still don regret.

i can still feel every touch when i think of her. your pimple scars. your soft lips, and your strangely inexperienced kissing. slim, lean and taut. it's a good thing i have outgrown my fascination with big boobs. i have some preferences in physical shape. she would say i have a type and she is not wrong. she was my type for sure.

she enjoyed finding someone who could match her sex drive. i always knew i had a bit of a higher drive. it's also why i became a chiongster.

the real surprise for both of us was a shared sense of adventure. there's a thread about fucking in the public area. when i was in NS, i tried that before. and anyone who has been in the ktv scene long enough must have fucked at least one ktv girl in a toilet, or the room itself. been there, done that. done that many times.

but it's funny - one-off public sex is fun, but when you have a regular partner who is down for some hanky panky in the unlikeliest of places - this takes it to a different level. i swear my erections were way harder than usual when we were fucking in the backseat as a car drove past that night. or when she was grabbing my dick in the carpark barely 10 metres from other people. i also got a thrill from fingering her even as her hotpants stayed on. my fingers may be fat but they are flexible.

so yeah, i love those adventures we had together. that will mark what we had as special always.

You can fuck a whore and still treat her as a human being you know? Just start nice and end nice.

[Chua Soi Lek]

…. it not so hard to find opportunities for sex.

Awesome skills, bro 👍💪🏼

[otamay]

Awesome skills, bro 👍💪🏼

Agreed with you.

[Chua Soi Lek]

Agreed with you.

Great mind thinks alike, senior bro 😎😝😉😂

[leakypipes]

You can fuck a whore and still treat her as a human being you know? Just start nice and end nice.

yes, i do start nice, and end nice, assuming nothing go wrong during session la.

All I am saying is - it starts, and then it ends.

[damong777]

Each relationship is learning experience to grow for the next one.

Just do not repeat mistake though easier said than done.

Men value usually increase with age so when u can financially stable, do not worry about gals

[HiddenCapital]

Bro, I enjoyed your sharing. You sound like someone who is good with words.

However, I clicked on this thread initially is to see who you are passing your lover to. Apparently I'm wrong! Hahaha!

I don't have points to up you. Chiong safe!

[ChyeSim]

Agreed with you.

I would agree on this part too