Office Problem...

[Lsy84]

Dear bros, hope you guys can really help me out in this situation...

I just started work in this really huge MNC. Everything is good in this company from pay, welfare and even the girls there are good! Got to know this girl lets call her E... At first, the only time I get to chat with her was about work stuff sometimes her PC got problem she will call me. (Oops forget to let you all know I am working as an IT Assistant.) From there, I decided to befriend her, cos after chatting with her on msn feel that she and I could click.

Initially this started out as a crush, then after that, I feel that I am attracted to her, from my msn conversations with her, I found out that she has 2 kids and is going through a divorce, and I have been playing the role of a supporter, and friend to her. Sometimes she will call me to join her for lunch with her kakis, and I have already gone on a breakfast date with her one-on-one already and I really beginning to feel damn attracted to her. The thing is when I paid for her breakfast, she insisted that she pay me back her share, then I told her that the breakfast was meant to be my treat to her, then she told me other time can treat her back.

Then when I tried to ask her when is she free for dinner with me, she say she quite busy with work and she need to settle her stuff...and usually we will sms each other, sometimes she will sms me out of the blue, sometimes i will also sms her...but now maybe could be due to her tight schedule, her sms to me seem to be lesser...wad shld I do now?

[LHK758]

welcome to the MILF club.....:D:D

do wat you always do day to day loh... find change to get her out and onz her loh....

:D:D

[Niceman]

wad shld I do now?

Go up to her and tell her u really like her, ask for a formal date. Dont keep guessing. If she on, good luck. If not, move on. Direct and honesty play a major part in life.

Cheers

[risingeast]

Maybe becoz she going through a divorce now, she think it is too early to go with another man, even though she may like you a lot. But, don't care lar, just follow your heart. If you like her, and she like you, just go for it.

[Bangster]

Since you are the IT guy, you should fix up a hidden webcam with mini lighting effects under her desk and tell all the bros here the link to the site to watch the live feed.

If she wears thongs or G-strings, I'd say go after her.

If she wears ah-mah lai-kors, then forget it. Dismantle the webcam immediately after everyone leaves that day.

[Criminalz]

man..i have seen this before and just a word of advice.

if you looking for a good time, looks like that chance has come and left.

now, think carefully. are you really to be an instant father, even when you guys are dating. sure its fun the first couple of times, but....you get the point.

think well and think twice.

[compaq69]

Bro, if u treasure ur job, then forget the whole thing. furthermore u r new to the company, initial image is very important in corporate ladder climbing.

[myst]

i always wonder... why when a girl is down, there are plenty of male supporters. but when it comes to a guy who is down, no girl leh?

oh just to add, i agree to bros compaq69 and criminalz. never eat and shit in the same place lah... times are bad, better keep your job steady. Moreover if anything happens in the relationship, it'll become very awkward for the both of you. If things turn out really bad, one of you may have to leave the company.

Concordantly, are you able to handle a woman with baggage in tow? As in becoming an "instant father" as bro criminalz put it? Apropos to this remark, we always look at the end point. If you do not even see this, then there is no point in initiating this relationship at all.

I feel the risk is too much to take at your end. Might not be worth it.

[Legendzgmf]

And one very impt point to take note... If you ever make up your mind and say "Yes" i want to start a relationship with this lady:

Be sure to find out what exactly happened between she and her ex-husband and analyze the situation as a third party, because if the problem lies in her, then you must be sure that you are able to accept her flaws, if not the outcome of your relationship will be the same. And many problems will arise thru out the relationship.

[DL2UHI]

man..i have seen this before and just a word of advice.

if you looking for a good time, looks like that chance has come and left.

now, think carefully. are you really to be an instant father, even when you guys are dating. sure its fun the first couple of times, but....you get the point.

think well and think twice.

Bro, agreed, looks like u might be headed for turburlent water if u step in too deep. Dont misinterpret, she may just need a listening ear during this tough period(a divorce will take up to 3 years to formalise), unless u r ready to throw all in ie no matter what u are ready for it. Assume u r single(if not really step out). Scenario 1: u step in...happily evr after, Scenario 2:.....2 broken hearts... yours and hers, Scenario 3: if are married ... 3 broken hearts (regardless of ending) . Bro.. consider deep deep. But have personally seen scene 1 b4. If u r going in , go in with ur eyes open(while u can still be the director and can control the ending).
Cheerio !!!

[physician]

Erm....its better to sort out things clearly before moving on

Should have a casual chat with her and see how is her feel towards you. For what you know, she may just treat you like a "platonic" friend who can share with.

And for you, you have to think seriously what you want out for this whole "relationship". Is this just a infatuation which you lose the steam after a while or life time commitment i.e with 2 kids?

You know the answer yourself isn't?

[sg_boytoy]

...and usually we will sms each other, sometimes she will sms me out of the blue, sometimes i will also sms her...but now maybe could be due to her tight schedule, her sms to me seem to be lesser...wad shld I do now?

I think you should pay her phone bill, maybe she's trying to control the number of text messages she's sending ;)

[Lsy84]

Thanks to all bros here for all your valuable advices so far...Initially, I thought of testing the water first, which I did lah...now my attitude is take things one step at a time lor...When the ball is thrown to me, I make sure I throw back to her...