No sex after the birth of first kid

[ttmsbf]

My wife does not have the slightest bit of a sex drive ever since she gave birth to my first kid about 6 months ago.

Any bros is also facing similar problem? How do you overcome your sexual needs?

For me, I tried for full service massage. But the experience is not much different from finding FL.

[sammyboyfor]

That's really sad I suggest you get yourself a fuck buddy who is a suitable match! :p

[oxeso]

How do you overcome your sexual needs?

https://sbfsg.org/showthread.php?t=999148
https://sbfsg.org/showthread.php?t=998972

[sammyboyfor]

U see, after your wife gave birth, the veil was lifted from her eyes. She realized u are a butt ugly jackass with a toothpick LJ, and no sexual ability. That is why she will not fuck you. This is evidence by the fact that you will come to this forum of total strangers and complain that your wife will not fuck you, and you are so brain dead you don't what to do about it and have to ask total strangers for advise.

I suggest you give the bros here her contact info so we can take care of her. Some of us love lactating women

If you have nothing nice or helpful to say can't you just shut the fuck up. :o

Wives going off sex after the birth of a child has got absolutely nothing to do with a husband's looks or ability. It comes about because of hormonal changes that are part and parcel of motherhood.

I've had ongoing complaints about your loutish behavior and I've let things be because I'm committed to a hands off approach to content moderation.

However you seem to want to test the patience of a saint.


https://www.babycenter.com/baby/postpartum-health/is-it-normal-not-to-want-sex-after-having-a-baby_11804

Is it normal to have no interest in sex after having a baby?


Juli Fraga, Psy.D.
Medically reviewed by Juli Fraga, Psy.D., psychologist
Kelly Burch
Written by Kelly Burch | Mar 10, 2022
A woman standing alone in a dark room, holding her newborn in front of a mirror.
Photo credit: © DGLimages / iStock

Even though most healthcare providers will clear you to have sex again four to six weeks after giving birth, you might find that you have no interest in doing the deed, and that's normal. Many new moms have low sex drives after having a baby: Breastfeeding, physical recovery, and postpartum fatigue can all affect how you're feeling.

You're not alone if sex after baby is the last thing on your mind right now: One study found that women reported lower levels of sexual satisfaction for up to a year-and-a-half after giving birth. In the first six months postpartum, women were about twice as likely to report having sexual dysfunction than they were prior to giving birth. There’s not as much research on how having a baby affects a new mom's partner, but one small study found that both male and female partners were less interested in sex after their partner gave birth.

There a number of factors contributing to your low sex drive after baby:

You're exhausted. First, your sex drive has to compete with the overwhelming fatigue that often accompanies taking care of a newborn. New babies are demanding. They require around-the-clock attention and a great deal of physical contact, and this can be both physically and emotionally draining. When you finally have a moment to yourself, you may need a break from intense physical attachment, making sex low on your list of priorities.

Your hormones are in flux. Major hormonal shifts can make you feel off balance in the postpartum period. This is especially true if you’re breastfeeding. When you’re nursing, estrogen production decreases, which can lead to vaginal dryness. That can make you feel like you’re not physically ready for sex, although using lube can help ease any physical discomfort.

Physical setbacks. Your body is healing from labor and delivery, and that process might be slower if you had any perineal tearing or if you're recovering from a c-section. You may also worry that intercourse will be painful, and for many women, the first sexual encounters after childbirth can be uncomfortable. In addition, you’re probably getting to know your new postpartum body and you may not feel entirely at ease with it yet. These feelings can all have a dramatic impact on your body image and make you feel less desirable.

Emotional setbacks. Postpartum depression is a serious-but-treatable maternal mental health condition that affects 1 in 8 new moms. One symptom of PPD is a lack of interest in activities that usually interest you, which may include sex. Even if you’re not battling depression, the emotional toll of taking care of a baby can make it difficult to get in the mood. If you think you may be suffering from PPD, reach out to your provider so you can get help.

You're nervous about getting pregnant again. Evolution may help explain this. In nature, mother animals rarely mate when they're busy rearing their young. Their bodies just wouldn't be up to the additional burden of another pregnancy. The same may be true of women – in fact, experts recommend waiting at least 18 months before getting pregnant again. Talk to your provider about contraception, including birth control pills or an IUD. That can ease your fears and help you have sex without worrying about adding to your family.

[Hurricane88]

My wife does not have the slightest bit of a sex drive ever since she gave birth to my first kid about 6 months ago.

Any bros is also facing similar problem? How do you overcome your sexual needs?

For me, I tried for full service massage. But the experience is not much different from finding FL.

She could be suffering from this

"Birth trauma happens when we go through a frightening, stressful or distressing event which is related to giving birth. It can develop into postnatal post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), which is a type of anxiety disorder."

I suggest you give her sometime to overcome this or bring her to see a Psychiatrist...:)

[WhiteMilk]

You should consider DNA testing the kid she just gave birth to. Just sayin'

[Emmalingdream]

Give her some time! It's been 9-10 months and also with a newborn plus breast feeding and hormonal changes.. it is really true that the interest will decrease for a while.

some support and hugs will be great! Things will get better for sure

[blu3fin]

My wife does not have the slightest bit of a sex drive ever since she gave birth to my first kid about 6 months ago.

Any bros is also facing similar problem? How do you overcome your sexual needs?

For me, I tried for full service massage. But the experience is not much different from finding FL.

It's normal in the beginning.
Hormonal changes, physical recovery from surgery, simply being very stressed and tired, adjusting to new role as mother etc.
While men can turn to sex as a stress response, I think most women dont. They need calmness before sex.

Also take note if its vaginal birth, it could be traumatic injury to the pussy due to cutting, the recovery may not always be perfect.

Its tough lah... but I'd say take a step back let her find her feet again. Sex is probably the last thing she's thinking of now. Maybe another 6 months then have a gentle heart to heart talk.

[StealthBomber]

TS, is your wife working and has returned to work?

First time parents is a stressful period because everything is new and takes more effort. If mother is working and having to worry and take care of a 6-month old infant, it can be exhausting. Sex is the last thing on her mind. Especially if it might wake the sleeping infant haha. No chance to rest.

If you have a caregiver or someone in the family can help to take care of the little one for the weekend, bring the wife on a stay-cay, it may help. Don't be surprised she will just spend most of the time sleeping off the sleep-deprivation.

[sbwow]

You should consider DNA testing the kid she just gave birth to. Just sayin'

This is more worrisome than having no sex. HAHAHA.
Wouldn't want to waste your life savings just to rear other people's fucktards. HAHAHA.

[sammyboyfor]

You should consider DNA testing the kid she just gave birth to. Just sayin'

The first child is usually a product of the husband.

However when it comes to subsequent children testing would be a wise decision for everyone.

[Xgenre]

My wife does not have the slightest bit of a sex drive ever since she gave birth to my first kid about 6 months ago.

Any bros is also facing similar problem? How do you overcome your sexual needs.

She is no longer just your wife. She is also the mother of your only child. Just because she isn't having sex with you now doesn't mean she isn't playing an important role in your life. Sex is just a 5-30 minute aspect of your lives whereas raising the child is a 24/7 role.

Are you doing your part in taking care of the baby? My 50 plus year old colleague told me that a good husband is someone who always reassures his wife that she is doing well as a mother/wife/woman. Don't stop sweet talking her regardless of age. I hear already I was like :eek:. Wish someone told me this simple truth a long time back.

Try adding （有你在身边真好/ so lucky I have a smart wife) into your daily statements. Boost her self confidence/ego first. The other effective way is to praise her in front of her family and friends. Adding witnesses to the process of boosting her confidence. It works!

Otherwise if she feels she cannot cope with being a mother, there will not be a 2nd child. Without the desire to have a 2nd child, there is lesser desire for sex.

[Hurricane88]

Try adding （有你在身边真好/ so lucky I have a smart wife) into your daily statements. Boost her self confidence/ego first. The other effective way is to praise her in front of her family and friends. Adding witnesses to the process of boosting her confidence. It works!

Otherwise if she feels she cannot cope with being a mother, there will not be a 2nd child. Without the desire to have a 2nd child, there is lesser desire for sex.

Best if hubby can help to care for the baby...this will help here recover better knowing hubby can play big part in raising babies...:)

Example -

Help bathe baby
Feed baby at night last feed and morning first feed including changing nappies.
Put baby to sleep.

etc...if hubby dun help then maybe wife will felt very tired...:)

[Emmalingdream]

Suddenly a lot nice fathers here!!

but I must say. It's very true, if we feel that the father not helping or useless standing there.. will vomit blood

[rototime]

It actually normal. No all but most women will have posnatal and postpartum depression before and after child birth.. give her time, and in the meantime, treat her like how you will when you're dating, and she will get back on the track..

My situation is the other way round. my wife got super horny during pragnancy, and we got back in full swing after about 2 months after the first child birth.. second one she is not horny during, but still back in full swing after about the same time as the first.

[Xgenre]

Suddenly a lot nice fathers here!!

Actually seeing a purple head come out of the vagina is very traumatic for guys too. Not many countries will insist/strongly encourage men to go into the delivery room. Many men lost interest in their wives after that image.

How many guys here lost interest in having sex with the wife after seeing a baby come out of the vagina?

[InCorp]

There is a thread - married man come in.
Guys with your similar predicament share their experiences.
You can read it up.

[Rossyboi]

Actually seeing a purple head come out of the vagina is very traumatic for guys too. Not many countries will insist/strongly encourage men to go into the delivery room. Many men lost interest in their wives after that image.

How many guys here lost interest in having sex with the wife after seeing a baby come out of the vagina?

Delivery room, Twice. Very exciting to see em come out. Also saw doc stitch up down there. U should appreciate what your wife have to go thru.

Why will loose interest after seeing it? Not for me.

On the contrary, is wife start to loose interest in sex after 2nd kid. Haiz.

[ineedfriends]

She is no longer just your wife. She is also the mother of your only child. Just because she isn't having sex with you now doesn't mean she isn't playing an important role in your life. Sex is just a 5-30 minute aspect of your lives whereas raising the child is a 24/7 role.

Are you doing your part in taking care of the baby? My 50 plus year old colleague told me that a good husband is someone who always reassures his wife that she is doing well as a mother/wife/woman. Don't stop sweet talking her regardless of age. I hear already I was like :eek:. Wish someone told me this simple truth a long time back.

Try adding （有你在身边真好/ so lucky I have a smart wife) into your daily statements. Boost her self confidence/ego first. The other effective way is to praise her in front of her family and friends. Adding witnesses to the process of boosting her confidence. It works!

Otherwise if she feels she cannot cope with being a mother, there will not be a 2nd child. Without the desire to have a 2nd child, there is lesser desire for sex.

Thanks for the wise encouragement! i 100% agreed with you

[ineedfriends]

Delivery room, Twice. Very exciting to see em come out. Also saw doc stitch up down there. U should appreciate what your wife have to go thru.

Why will loose interest after seeing it? Not for me.

On the contrary, is wife start to loose interest in sex after 2nd kid. Haiz.

same here, have 3 kids now!

what do you do now?

[Rossyboi]

same here, have 3 kids now!

what do you do now?

lol I’m at a sad state of mongering the Dome…

Being a regular employee, can’t afford to bao anyone… lol

Just YOLO. Smoke, drink… not planing to live too long… just wanna see my kids well off on their own.

[ineedfriends]

lol I’m at a sad state of mongering the Dome…

Being a regular employee, can’t afford to bao anyone… lol

Just YOLO. Smoke, drink… not planing to live too long… just wanna see my kids well off on their own.

waaa dont so sad bro! why need to bao sia?

[StealthBomber]

Suddenly a lot nice fathers here!!

but I must say. It's very true, if we feel that the father not helping or useless standing there.. will vomit blood

Just because surfing this forum, does not mean is bad father, hahaha

Going for FL, WL is only to find an outlet for one thing. Other than that, can still fulfill the role of a good father. In fact, better than good, after the FL, WL helps you release that built-up stress or tension.

[Emmalingdream]

Just because surfing this forum, does not mean is bad father, hahaha

Going for FL, WL is only to find an outlet for one thing. Other than that, can still fulfill the role of a good father. In fact, better than good, after the FL, WL helps you release that built-up stress or tension.

hahaha no I don't mean bad father, but was saying the encouraging part of it! It's very nice to see the hub taking care of the wife after giving birth you see

[InCorp]

There is a thread - married man come in.
Guys with your similar predicament share their experiences.


Found it - https://sbf.net.nz/showthread.php?t=906178&highlight=married+men

I wonder if giving birth naturally has scared some women off sex.

[sbwow]

lol I’m at a sad state of mongering the Dome…

Being a regular employee, can’t afford to bao anyone… lol

Just YOLO. Smoke, drink… not planing to live too long… just wanna see my kids well off on their own.

Yes it is right for you to be sad.
The good thing about marriage is the sex.
That is why they sell you the sex, don't sell you the nag. HAHAHA.
With the high miss from Domes, you should be sadder. HAHAHA.

[nemoman]

My wife does not have the slightest bit of a sex drive ever since she gave birth to my first kid about 6 months ago.

Any bros is also facing similar problem? How do you overcome your sexual needs?

For me, I tried for full service massage. But the experience is not much different from finding FL.

With kids, you and your wife now have different things to care about, manage, look forward to and perhaps quarrel. Perhaps her sex drive might have fallen off the cliff as she might not want to relive the same pain of childbirth that results from intercourse. Maybe her tolerance for this is weaker while some other's tolerance is higher, but thats alright. She's not perfect, i'm sure you're not too. Neither am i.

In NS, there are guys who can roadmarch 72km and keep going with blood all over their feet, there are some who finish it with grit and great difficulty, and there are some who stop and half-faint on the road after 1 blister comes out. Everyone's tolerance is different.

Many ways to partly solve your problem, but if normal relationship still good and got kid, divorce is not an option. But this is life, its not perfect and we find small ways to keep going.

Unfortunately we've already closed our doors and intake for new bros to join our group these past few years, otherwise will invite you for some "unimaginable one in a lifetime experiences" to clear your head as our way of giving back to the male patriarchal society..

[Kalin89]

Watch porn videos together

[Xgenre]

In NS, there are guys who can roadmarch 72km and keep going with blood all over their feet, there are some who finish it with grit and great difficulty, and there are some who stop and half-faint on the road after 1 blister comes out. Everyone's tolerance is different.


72km road march can endure blister within blister but cannot endure nipple abrasion. :D must put nipple tape before walking. Wah you FHAG ah.. ?

[ttmsbf]

If you have nothing nice or helpful to say can't you just shut the fuck up. :o

Wives going off sex after the birth of a child has got absolutely nothing to do with a husband's looks or ability. It comes about because of hormonal changes that are part and parcel of motherhood...


Thanks for the encouragements!

I know that my wife lost her sex drive due to her nursing. Also, she might have encountered some trauma during child birth. She was in labour for over 16h and in the end, she still had to undergo emergency C section due to her cervix not dilating sufficiently.

Maybe all these might have fucked up her body.

[ttmsbf]

TS, is your wife working and has returned to work?


Yes. She has returned to work.

So our routine now is to wake up to feed and change our baby, send him to infant care while we work. When we bring him home, my wife will clean him up while I make dinner and do some other housework like to wash the dishes and the clothes while my wife rest/ pump milk.

I can tell that she is usually tired, especially after pumping her milk.

[ttmsbf]

Best if hubby can help to care for the baby...this will help here recover better knowing hubby can play big part in raising babies...:)

Example -

Help bathe baby
Feed baby at night last feed and morning first feed including changing nappies.
Put baby to sleep.

etc...if hubby dun help then maybe wife will felt very tired...:)

I do help with all these whenever I can. I even let my wife go out to run her errands during the weekends while I stay home to look after the baby.

[Hurricane88]

Yes. She has returned to work.

So our routine now is to wake up to feed and change our baby, send him to infant care while we work. When we bring him home, my wife will clean him up while I make dinner and do some other housework like to wash the dishes and the clothes while my wife rest/ pump milk.

I can tell that she is usually tired, especially after pumping her milk.

You can help her by suckling her nips becos surplus milk will also go to waste...she will get stilmulated when you suckle...hopefully helps to proceed...also you can discuss with her about your needs...:)

I do help with all these whenever I can. I even let my wife go out to run her errands during the weekends while I stay home to look after the baby.

Very good hbby...wife will take notice that hubby help with babies and will overcome her fear...you need to be slow and steady...:)

[ttmsbf]

You can help her by suckling her nips becos surplus milk will also go to waste...she will get stilmulated when you suckle...hopefully helps to proceed...also you can discuss with her about your needs...:)


She doesn't feel stimulated at the nipples and her breast anymore. She found it gross that I suck her nipples for her milk too. To her, the milk is only for my kid and my kid only.

Anyway, she only offers to jerk me off these days. Nothing more. Over these 6 (going to 7) months, we only tried doing it twice and I can tell that it hurts big time for her. From the second time onwards, she is totally disinterested in any form of intimacy anymore.

She is always dry below and nothing seems to stimulate her anymore.

[sbwow]

I do help with all these whenever I can. I even let my wife go out to run her errands during the weekends while I stay home to look after the baby.

She was out fucking other dudes while you stay home to babysit. HAHAHA.
Hence, No sex after the birth of first kid. HAHAHA.

[Senteurs]

Did the wife go through a confinement period after birth ?
The confinement period is a time for the wife to recover and recuperate from the whole ordeal, carrying a child within her for nine months to giving birth.
It can also help to rejuvenate the body.

I suppose even after 6 months somethings can still be done.
Maybe take a week or 2 off, R&R, some massage.

Just a suggestion.

[FollowUS]

Did the wife go through a confinement period after birth ?
The confinement period is a time for the wife to recover and recuperate from the whole ordeal, carrying a child within her for nine months to giving birth.
It can also help to rejuvenate the body.

I suppose even after 6 months somethings can still be done.
Maybe take a week or 2 off, R&R, some massage.

Just a suggestion.

Very good suggestion.

[Zalo]

Very interesting discussion.

[kryptoz]

help out with chores, spend more time with your kid and offload it from her.
if her supply is low, just go ahead with formula. basically reduce her stress.
when the kids are still young, their maternal instincts are just too high.
for most, the sex drive will drop. once the kids are older, more independent, shower your wife with attention, and she will start to be more horny again.
also, i realize the less you want to have sex with them, the more auto they are with coming to you for sex.

[PlaySoBig]

Did the wife go through a confinement period after birth ?
The confinement period is a time for the wife to recover and recuperate from the whole ordeal, carrying a child within her for nine months to giving birth.
It can also help to rejuvenate the body.

I suppose even after 6 months somethings can still be done.
Maybe take a week or 2 off, R&R, some massage.

Just a suggestion.

Very good point, support.

[ttmsbf]

help out with chores, spend more time with your kid and offload it from her.
if her supply is low, just go ahead with formula. basically reduce her stress.
when the kids are still young, their maternal instincts are just too high.
for most, the sex drive will drop. once the kids are older, more independent, shower your wife with attention, and she will start to be more horny again.
also, i realize the less you want to have sex with them, the more auto they are with coming to you for sex.

We primarily feed him formula, supplemented with breast milk.

I became the primary guy in doing housework, to cook and I also help to look after the baby whenever I can. But my wife is perpetually du lan whenever my kid cries (not that I'm not fed up either. Just that I tolerate with it).

So everything looks wrong to my wife and emotions take over whenever my kid is unhappy.

[ttmsbf]

Did the wife go through a confinement period after birth ?
The confinement period is a time for the wife to recover and recuperate from the whole ordeal, carrying a child within her for nine months to giving birth.
It can also help to rejuvenate the body.

I suppose even after 6 months somethings can still be done.
Maybe take a week or 2 off, R&R, some massage.

Just a suggestion.
The problem will be to figure out where to check my kid in and to make my wife agree to not see him for two weeks.

[Senteurs]

The problem will be to figure out where to check my kid in and to make my wife agree to not see him for two weeks.

For the R&R, you don't go on a trip. It is essentially Rest and Recuperation.
Can just be at home.
But you will need someone else to take care of the baby, while the mother rest, maybe have confinement nanny, in-laws to take care of the mother.

Key is to provide stress free environment for the wife to rest a bit.
Best is the wife do not work during that time.

I suggest you search online for more tips on post natal care.

[StealthBomber]

We primarily feed him formula, supplemented with breast milk.

I became the primary guy in doing housework, to cook and I also help to look after the baby whenever I can. But my wife is perpetually du lan whenever my kid cries (not that I'm not fed up either. Just that I tolerate with it).

So everything looks wrong to my wife and emotions take over whenever my kid is unhappy.

Local singapore woman generally have it very good here. Husband work a job and still help with some household duties. Best life for a woman in south east asia region.

In neighbouring vietnam, a lady I knows told me: if the husband got a job and contribute his salary to the household is already considered very good already. At a minimum, don't drink, don't beat the wife, good already :D Their standard very low.

[sbwow]

We primarily feed him formula, supplemented with breast milk.

I became the primary guy in doing housework, to cook and I also help to look after the baby whenever I can. But my wife is perpetually du lan whenever my kid cries (not that I'm not fed up either. Just that I tolerate with it).

So everything looks wrong to my wife and emotions take over whenever my kid is unhappy.

Your wife throws a bit of tantrum and you start to do all the work. HAHAHA.
Looks like someone is on the verge of an unhappy marriage. HAHAHA.
First, you complain about no sex.
Second, you complain about doing all the chores.
Third, you shall complain about getting cuckold. HAHAHA.

[aph22]

There are many factors as other bro’s have said. It’s quite common and the suggestions are all worthwhile. I found that just touching (simple hug, kiss on cheek in morning etc) is very reassuring to wives. Later on they like the human touch and my wife started to get the drive back just before her monthly cycle. She would sometimes back up into me while we’re sleeping or about to which would be her signal that she’s ready. Good luck !

[ttmsbf]

Your wife throws a bit of tantrum and you start to do all the work. HAHAHA.
Looks like someone is on the verge of an unhappy marriage. HAHAHA.
First, you complain about no sex.
Second, you complain about doing all the chores.
Third, you shall complain about getting cuckold. HAHAHA.

First, I'm not complaining that I'm doing all the housework. Noting that my wife is busy with the kid, the least I can do will be the housework.

Second, why mention someone getting cuckolded when there was no mention of the wife being close to other guys or any signs of derailment? You find joy in other's misery? You can sleep better when others are feeling down?

[ttmsbf]

There are many factors as other bro’s have said. It’s quite common and the suggestions are all worthwhile. I found that just touching (simple hug, kiss on cheek in morning etc) is very reassuring to wives. Later on they like the human touch and my wife started to get the drive back just before her monthly cycle. She would sometimes back up into me while we’re sleeping or about to which would be her signal that she’s ready. Good luck !

Great to see that there's suggestions of sorts from some of the Bros here.

I've been actively trying to compliment my wife and to initiate some hugs and kisses every now and then. I really hope that we can find back that feeling where we mutually enjoy such intimacy like how things were like before the birth of our kid.

[ttmsbf]

Local singapore woman generally have it very good here. Husband work a job and still help with some household duties. Best life for a woman in south east asia region.

In neighbouring vietnam, a lady I knows told me: if the husband got a job and contribute his salary to the household is already considered very good already. At a minimum, don't drink, don't beat the wife, good already :D Their standard very low.

Difference is that many Singaporean women are educated and have a career of their own. If the household doesn't employ a maid, both couples need to contribute towards home making.

While mine earns less than me, some earn more than their husband. And I believe things like income dictates who wears the pants in the relationship and has more say in it.

[kryptoz]

We primarily feed him formula, supplemented with breast milk.

I became the primary guy in doing housework, to cook and I also help to look after the baby whenever I can. But my wife is perpetually du lan whenever my kid cries (not that I'm not fed up either. Just that I tolerate with it).

So everything looks wrong to my wife and emotions take over whenever my kid is unhappy.

it will take a couple of years to get things back to pre-kids. keep helping out at home, look after the kid, bring the wife out for dates when you have help to look after the kid. try to keep her mind off the kid.
if you have a second child, it will get worse. when the kids gets more independent, when she will have more time to herself, that's when she transitions out of mum mode and back into woman mode. that's when her libido may come back.

[ttmsbf]

it will take a couple of years to get things back to pre-kids. keep helping out at home, look after the kid, bring the wife out for dates when you have help to look after the kid. try to keep her mind off the kid.
if you have a second child, it will get worse. when the kids gets more independent, when she will have more time to herself, that's when she transitions out of mum mode and back into woman mode. that's when her libido may come back.

You experienced all these personally before?

If so, do you remember how many years did it take for you to regain intimacy with your wife? How did you tahan over those years?

[pokey93]

First, I'm not complaining that I'm doing all the housework. Noting that my wife is busy with the kid, the least I can do will be the housework.

Second, why mention someone getting cuckolded when there was no mention of the wife being close to other guys or any signs of derailment? You find joy in other's misery? You can sleep better when others are feeling down?
His thinking must be sinkie pwn sinkie, can sleep well

[sbwow]

First, I'm not complaining that I'm doing all the housework. Noting that my wife is busy with the kid, the least I can do will be the housework.

Second, why mention someone getting cuckolded when there was no mention of the wife being close to other guys or any signs of derailment? You find joy in other's misery? You can sleep better when others are feeling down?

I was merely speaking the truth and you know it. HAHAHA.
She treats you nothing more than a slave. HAHAHA.
She doesn't care about you or your fucking feelings. HAHAHA.

[Xgenre]

I am always amazed about the number of Manginas in this forum. LOL. I think all u fuckers better cut of your lancheows and make cheebyes out the hole.

1) Understand the TS is asking about his wife sex drive. The TS is a fucking pwhipped mangina. This is not the forum to discuss women sexual health problems. Read the title. It's to discuss sex. Since it's his wife that has the sex problem, there is no place for it here in this forum.

Wow. Amazing thread. It even attracts the forum mad dog to make attention seeking comments. The best way to treat a mad dog is to laugh in its face and then ignore it. Woof woof :D

[kryptoz]

You experienced all these personally before?

If so, do you remember how many years did it take for you to regain intimacy with your wife? How did you tahan over those years?

we still have sex but less often. it's much better now. it took around 4 years before her sex drive improved slightly.
maybe because both of us exercise more, so we have more energy and she feels more confident about her body.

[WinterMelonTree]

i think this is the watershed where you need to see her with a clear distinction between mother of your children vs lover w/ sexual satisfaction.

the former is more important.

as to satisfying needs, there are no needs that cannot be satisfy with a couple of 20yo mouth wrapped around your dick.

just dont be addicted lol

[Pathypo]

To keep the passion growing you need to help your wife forget she is a mother first, if not all she can think of is baby and duties and work. help off load some of her pressure from her plate like taking over night babies duties, if can get parents or in-laws to help once in a while go on dates with your wife without the baby, re-kinder that loving passion. how you want to have sex when its the least important thing on her list as compare to our list where we need to cure our blue balls.

slowly but surely dont jump the gun, take it slow enjoy the foreplay, just kiss her know her erotic spot and get her motivated, you can alway stop at 2nd base if your wife not ready to jump back in on the game just tahan abit this is a long raod to re-kinder that sex drive.

[keano]

Take time.. As long as possible. It's for the long haul for your kids.

Don't keep pressing her else depression might set in..

Kids are just being kids.. So many stages.

Baby.. Infant... Toodler... Child, big kid.. In no time, your kiddo would be a child and u guys have free time.

Ask in law or ur parents to help at night then u guy can sneak out for a quick movie... Slowly, slowly build up the romantic rs again.. U cant blame her. She is the mother for your child. Rem that.

And don't eat out if u are guilty.. It would make u feel worse.

Take care and send our sammyboy bros greetings and welfare check on urself, wife and kiddo.

U need to take care of oneself too.

[itguy2008]

I went on Monk mode for 5 years with my ex-wife, after my first born.

[sbwow]

I went on Monk mode for 5 years with my ex-wife, after my first born.

I went on Monk mode till I hit 69. HAHAHA.

[Vortex]

For wives that declines sex with husband, I wonder if the lady secretly hopes that the husband would just take care of it outside and not let her find out.

[Az284]

For wives that declines sex with husband, I wonder if the lady secretly hopes that the husband would just take care of it outside and not let her find out.

Many ways to "take care of it" without going outside. Sex toys are one way - can be less intense on the wife.

[Vortex]

Many ways to "take care of it" without going outside. Sex toys are one way - can be less intense on the wife.

Ideally, yes.
Just like ideally, the wife would vocalise whatever issues she has and work together to solve it.

Ideally...

[itguy2008]

I went on Monk mode till I hit 69. HAHAHA.

Bro, now you make me puzzle which 69 are you referring to? Age or ....?

[ttmsbf]

Ideally, yes.
Just like ideally, the wife would vocalise whatever issues she has and work together to solve it.

Ideally...
When women says "it's ok"...

[Aristol]

When women says "it's ok"...

I remember reading and also experiencing when women says " its ok...."
That means it is most definitely not ok.
lols

[Piledriver]

For wives that declines sex with husband, I wonder if the lady secretly hopes that the husband would just take care of it outside and not let her find out.

In this case, there can only be 2 reasons.

1, the wife is secretly fucking some other guy outside

2, the hubby is a loser in bed.

[sbwow]

Bro, now you make me puzzle which 69 are you referring to? Age or ....?

I like to leave it to your imagination. HAHAHA.

[anikisan]

Maybe just give her a nice massage with soft lights and nice music. If she's in the mood...then good. Else, don't pressure her. Maybe just go those massage parlours to get it off for now

[itguy2008]

I like to leave it to your imagination. HAHAHA.

I will start to imagine then.

[hownow]

i'm married for like 15 years and had sex with wife less than 10 times. from about 5 or 6 years ago i started having affairs.

so far had affairs with 3 ladies.

shortest 3 months then 2 years then current one 2 months so far and counting.

2 of them are married.

Last 1 is clear we are for benefits and no strings attached. she has bf now so we stopped.

i prefer affairs cos the ladies are cleaner. develop feelings or not? depends on self ba. the 3 months one we both developed feelings and her husband found out so we ended. the other one, she's not my type so just in for the benefits.

wife seems to have complete trust. we don't check each others' phones... maybe she really think i can survive with self service, or she act blur pretend she don't see then is ok?

[fatuncle]

Bro, u've much better than me.
I'm married for almost 30years. The number of sex we had is less than 10 times. Out of the 10 times, twice is because we trying for kids.

We have separate sleeping together for more than 10yrs.

I am not yandao like u to have affairs.
Can only go for ML & FL.

Sian to the max. 8_(




i'm married for like 15 years and had sex with wife less than 10 times. from about 5 or 6 years ago i started having affairs.

so far had affairs with 3 ladies.

shortest 3 months then 2 years then current one 2 months so far and counting.

2 of them are married.

Last 1 is clear we are for benefits and no strings attached. she has bf now so we stopped.

i prefer affairs cos the ladies are cleaner. develop feelings or not? depends on self ba. the 3 months one we both developed feelings and her husband found out so we ended. the other one, she's not my type so just in for the benefits.

wife seems to have complete trust. we don't check each others' phones... maybe she really think i can survive with self service, or she act blur pretend she don't see then is ok?

[hownow]

Bro, I've much better than me.
I'm married for almost 30years. The number of sex we had is less than 10 times. Out of the 10 times, twice is because we trying for kids.

We have separate sleeping together for more than 10yrs.

I am not yandao like u to have affairs.
Can only go for ML & FL.

Sian to the max. 8_(

bro, i'm not yandao, just know how to melt ladies. ladies don't really go for looks when they are in their 30s and 40s. they go for feelings. make them feel loved and pampered. u don't need to be rich or handsome one. just make them feel they can just melt into your arms and it's the safest harbor in the world will do.

[fatuncle]

I am introvert. Hardly talk to ladies. 8(


bro, i'm not yandao, just know how to melt ladies. ladies don't really go for looks when they are in their 30s and 40s. they go for feelings. make them feel loved and pampered. u don't need to be rich or handsome one. just make them feel they can just melt into your arms and it's the safest harbor in the world will do.

[sbwow]

I cannot sleep so looking for anyone to chat on telegram now.

If you are keen, can send me an id of your telegram

I am introvert. Hardly talk to ladies. 8(

You can try talking to each other.
Go Fuck and Fuck and Fuck. HAHAHA.

[ttmsbf]

i'm married for like 15 years and had sex with wife less than 10 times. from about 5 or 6 years ago i started having affairs.

so far had affairs with 3 ladies.

shortest 3 months then 2 years then current one 2 months so far and counting.

2 of them are married.

Last 1 is clear we are for benefits and no strings attached. she has bf now so we stopped.

i prefer affairs cos the ladies are cleaner. develop feelings or not? depends on self ba. the 3 months one we both developed feelings and her husband found out so we ended. the other one, she's not my type so just in for the benefits.

wife seems to have complete trust. we don't check each others' phones... maybe she really think i can survive with self service, or she act blur pretend she don't see then is ok?
Wow

Your story seems like a sneak preview of how a marriage will be like over the years.

Honestly, ever since the birth of my child, I am feeling some distance between my wife and I.

I miss the feeling of intimacy (sexual and non-sexual). Lately, my wife is starting to get really cold and is starting to be rude towards me.

It really seems like our relationship is on a slippery slope to destruction if we go on the way we are.

[sbwow]

Wow

Your story seems like a sneak preview of how a marriage will be like over the years.

Honestly, ever since the birth of my child, I am feeling some distance between my wife and I.

I miss the feeling of intimacy (sexual and non-sexual). Lately, my wife is starting to get really cold and is starting to be rude towards me.

It really seems like our relationship is on a slippery slope to destruction if we go on the way we are.

See, I told you. HAHAHA.
You did so much for this family, but what did you get in return? HAHAHA.
A White Knight in armor will soon finger, dig and fuck her pussy for you. HAHAHA.

[ttmsbf]

See, I told you. HAHAHA.
You did so much for this family, but what did you get in return? HAHAHA.
A White Knight in armor will soon finger, dig and fuck her pussy for you. HAHAHA.
And I bet you can sleep very soundly like a baby if that happens?

[sbwow]

And I bet you can sleep very soundly like a baby if that happens?

Nah, you should keep a lookout for anyone wanting to fuck her Fat Ass. HAHAHA.

[phantomboyz]

i started eat out ever since my son born now going 11 years, number of sex within 10 fingers. She has been very cold though sometimes she prefer masturbate. I guess those toilet paper company bosses gained much profits thanks to my endless support. In between had tried raw with many FLs heng suey not getting any STD.

[hownow]

Wow

Your story seems like a sneak preview of how a marriage will be like over the years.

Honestly, ever since the birth of my child, I am feeling some distance between my wife and I.

I miss the feeling of intimacy (sexual and non-sexual). Lately, my wife is starting to get really cold and is starting to be rude towards me.

It really seems like our relationship is on a slippery slope to destruction if we go on the way we are.

it actually depends if u ok to let it continue to slide or u wanna take action to reverse... u may not have the sex, but see if u wanna hold on for your child.

some friends know about my affairs. some actually say they can understand my reasons for doing so. some encourage me to divorce, some ask me hold on for the sake of the kids.

[aph22]

Some women can be very harsh. But they don’t realise that as they become older they become less desirable. Whereas some men become more eligible!

[I Love Boobs]

Wow

Your story seems like a sneak preview of how a marriage will be like over the years.

Honestly, ever since the birth of my child, I am feeling some distance between my wife and I.

I miss the feeling of intimacy (sexual and non-sexual). Lately, my wife is starting to get really cold and is starting to be rude towards me.

It really seems like our relationship is on a slippery slope to destruction if we go on the way we are.

Once you get a sexy, slim, pretty 18 year old student naked in front of you, sucking you off and riding you in cowgirl RAW until you cream her…..
Then you will know the true meaning of life……

[sbwow]

My wife does not have the slightest bit of a sex drive ever since she gave birth to my first kid about 6 months ago.

Any bros is also facing similar problem? How do you overcome your sexual needs?

For me, I tried for full service massage. But the experience is not much different from finding FL.

U ask yourself first

1) Why u get married ? Marry to get divorce? If u cannot stick to a single person, y need to marry to 锁死自己？

Y u choose your spouse in the first place ?

2) Can you afford to lose your family?
Are you prepared to lose your kids ? Your home ?

3) U ever put in effort to strengthen your marriage?

4) You got self reflect in your own attitude?
If not , find 100 different person also end up the same.

I always find such type of person very selfish. They don’t really love anyone except for themselves. Want to play then shouldn’t get married in the first place.

Well written by Sane that I have to quote for TS. HAHAHA.
TS is indeed selfish, married already have kid but still want to fuck outside. HAHAHA.

[sbwow]

Depends on what you are looking for? I am quite clear from first message that I just wanna fuck. Those who are open usually then meet at hotel and depending on how much, then typical FL meetup and shoot. Typical price for SG sugar baby usually around SG FL price so expect 500 minimum to 1000+.

Quality varies but you may get lucky and hook some poly/uni xmm. Got to raw some uni/poly xmm from it but lately, everyone just wants platonic which means no sex. If I wanted to just talk, I pay for therapy liao.

If you have the money and want to hook just one, then shouuld be easier but many Singaporean girls are just there to leech money while doing the bare minimum so just be careful and be mindful of your own expectations.

Yeah, even the Singaporean wives are leeching and doing bare minimum. HAHAHA.

[sbwow]

HUG THREAD CLOSED.

Just discharged again from hospital yesterday, still not in good shape. Third stay this year but the most severe one. 6 bags of blood transfusion and one bag of platelets. And this time was sent by ambulance rather than go on my own as I cannot even stand up, let alone walk. Fainted twice at home.

Life might be ending sooner than I expected but that's life.

Hence I better close this thread for good, after six years plus of looking for someone to hug me.

当世界没有人愿意真心拥抱你时，记住，你还可以拥抱你自己。

JoannaJourney in SBF has come to an end.

下台一鞠躬，大家保重。 :-)

No one lives forever.
Yes, there is still time to cling on for that last few minutes of your life for quick Fucks. HAHAHA.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-gYJBsln-w&list=PLZoo95fN3FDxj0xrdOGkKDWSPw98yz-Kr&index=27&ab_channel=KrewellaMusicVEVO

[Noun]

it actually depends if u ok to let it continue to slide or u wanna take action to reverse... u may not have the sex, but see if u wanna hold on for your child.

some friends know about my affairs. some actually say they can understand my reasons for doing so. some encourage me to divorce, some ask me hold on for the sake of the kids.

Thanks for sharing.

[JurgenNKlopp]

Once you get a sexy, slim, pretty 18 year old student naked in front of you, sucking you off and riding you in cowgirl RAW until you cream her…..
Then you will know the true meaning of life……

I agree with you.

[Sarchi]

Once you get a sexy, slim, pretty 18 year old student naked in front of you, sucking you off and riding you in cowgirl RAW until you cream her…..
Then you will know the true meaning of life……

I dream of this bro :D

[ghostcow]

How bros? Is it still recommended to get married?

[timothya]

he wouldn't be here on this