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Originally Posted by siamcutey
Unless there is intention of settling down with her, I don't see the need to go to the girl's hometown.
...If you don't know how to speak their language, how to communicate with them. When you know their language, u can communicate more with them, hold deeper conversations, get to know them even more. But 1 thing is even if you know how to speak their language, sometimes you still don't quite understand them. Nevertheless, its still better than not knowing thai in the 1st place.
...Why they "TUA" you is because you are not that important to them.SC
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visiting the home aint all that bad, to catch up w her for old times or current time sake. meet the parents etc. if the folks can deal w it that the daughter is in this line, dun think it should come as a surprise if the "tirak" comes visit (i could be wrong though). if the relationship is for real.. then there's really nothing wrong w that.
the "tua" issue, actually.. any normal person will tulan also. it feels worse only cos being stood up on a date. cancelling of booking.. well.. i wouldnt say who's more important cos at the end of the day...yusof ishaak is wat everyone needs.
scenario1: she uses the situation to spike the tirak (so he'd perhaps vye for her luv n affection - be it pouring out gifts n $ etc)
scenario2: it could be that the tirak is confirm gonna RTF even if kena tua. so she just wanna satisfy the new customer to make him RTF.. perhaps even start calling him "tirak" (in hope that she wont have to face too many strangers in the near future)
scenario3: worse come to worse, lose the old "robert" n gain a new "robert".
*i can imagine myself capable of more unscrupulous techniques if i were in their shoes
anyway, i reckon the face factor is important too. in doing so, can fight her way up to be labelled as "angpai" of the house. dun have to sit in the tank n wait for bangla...bt just gotta wait for her chain of "tiraks" come pamper n shower her w TLC...rather than having to work for it. also, might gain certain benefits from OKT, ie: extra day off-due to too many customers in a day-also creates a demand from the customers cos 1 less WL, gotta settle for the other WLs in the house.
so far, i've never interrogated her on her recent behaviour towards me, cos she told me since day 1.. she's in this line n has mom n siblings to support. if i'm willing, have to wait for her to ORD...well, its only an issue of time n perseverence. as of now, both me n my gal r anxiously counting down to her ORD...
watever goes on in the WLs minds is beyond our comprehension. the fact that they're in this line, its just a warzone in the tank, even though they sit tightly together n smiling to welcome walk-in customers. no choice but to be magnanimous...when issues arise. jai yen jai yen
