Flings outside will improve your sex life at home ??

[Horsepower]

I have some kakis who cheong KTV, HC, FL and GL, giving reasons that having flings outside will improve their sex life at home.

They told me that they are very stressed at work, and when they reached home, they are more stressful (especially those have wives that are home-makers) because gotta help area cleaning, looking after kids.... and at the end of the day, they lost interest and mood to have sex with their wives.

Cheonging outside will help them "re-discover" their ability to treasure their wives and improve their sex life with their spouse.

I would like to open this thread for fellow samsters to air your views and share their experiences. I will share mine along the way.

[benghwee]

Obviously these are just excuses to explore the scene outside.
What if those people' s wife also stress?
They also follow the same way?

:-)

[kaizer]

crap lah.. nowadays everi1 use stress as excuses.. machiam their family wont stress like dat, wife stay at home look after kids, do house chores, not stress arh? haha.. its juz an excuse to tao jia (steal eat) la..

[OceanEleven]

When one wanna do something, there are thousand and one reasons to do so. When one dont wanna do something, there are thousand and one reasons not to do so as well.

[diesel]

华人有句成语：自食其果，因果循环。到外边“偷吃”只是接口罢了，若你的老婆同样在你背后胡搞的话，那你可 不要怨天哦！

[camoman]

Then if wife also give the same excuse for having flings how?

[CyberRod]

Actually, I agree to the opening subject title... Flings outside so sometimes mend some voids in the marriage.

Cut the long story short, what men what when they get home is a loving, sweet welcoming feeling but unfortunately, what most men received is nagging and granting from their wives...

Lets compare wives & flings:

Flings offers the feeling of being loved or wooing a girl all over again. The excitement of 'will I win her heart' or 'how do I get to bonk her' excites men. When you are with a fling, no worries of nagging, grumbling & complains to hear. Just sit back and relax the moment.

Wives at home are more of a 'here are things to note' kinda environment which may spoils any horny men when they get home... Perhaps some bros here may agree even when they are bonking their wives, they still complain to their husbands on why are the bills higher this month, the kids are not doing well in school, mother-in-law is ill, etc, etc...

Thus, what men are looking for in flings are just the loving feeling minus the naggy part of things. Therefore, flings fill the void of that missing feeling in a marrige. Last but not least, one must know the rules of the fling game...

[CyberRod]

Originally Posted by camoman

Then if wife also give the same excuse for having flings how?

That's a good one & I saw that coming...

Remember SAF rule no. 7...? Doing anything but don't get caught....

I know many many women out there are screwing behind their hubby's back for the same reason (as I've written earlier)... Fulfilling the void in their marriage...

[Bomb]

Excuses or not..............

1. Make sure bills r paid
2. Children r bought up,not juz $$$,love n education.
3. Be responsible,dun bring things back n harm family.
4. Cannot beat up spouse for watever reasons
5. Dun involve the kids for ur own actions

Juz some points to keep, regardless wife or husband flings....

Btw,that void in marriage can be slove,unless its short-gun marriage,must be some reasons then get married last time.
Feeling,love lost, knn, +++ it over with wife,husband,consult marriage consulllers.

Dont Crap that wife nags over kids/housework or husband nags over stress in work.
Y wife nags?
Cos family impt to her,she wanna take care or u want a wife who juz dress up let u fuck then dont look after house? If u want can look after house plus gd sexlife, can +++ things can n maybe help out a bit on the houseworks,My lao eh at home n me also do washing at times n cook gd food,Mens r better cooks,believe or not?
Y Husband complains stress?
Cos need to work n take care family or u women out there wants a loafer with no stress? I believe if u look after the household well,while maintaining urself , gd enough. Let the men relax a while after work, got things to say,+++ in amical tone,dont nag, n guys can help by dun giving a farkup face once wife starts +++ing.

Untimaly,
Flings r hard to avoid...
I know ppl who dont n ppl who does regardless of how theirs spouse are.
So if wanna fling, dun give so many excuse(as in,its all others fault i have to fling),wanna fling its all ur own wishes.
I admits i like to enjoy with diff women cos its enjoyable to me ma.

More n more problem kids in this society thesedays, Y?
Think over own actions.

Wat u do today will results in an outcome.

Simple equation.

Past ---------------------- Present -------------------------Future
Wat u done in the past brought abt the state u r in now.
N if watever u r doing now is same as the past, be prepared to see tat the future is same as present.
But if u taken a step back n see,Knn the present state im in, i deard seeing it as the future,then starts thinking wat u WILL DO,DO IT.dont think,plan n dont do like NATO.

Simple example, i start swearing from young n became a habbit,thus till now still swearing.If i dont mind being a swearer,gd carry on,future looks the same.
But if i want a cleaner image,then i stop swearing now day by day...

[GarlicBread]

Originally Posted by CyberRod

Remember SAF rule no. 7...? Doing anything but don't get caught....

fully agreed on tis

[camoman]

Originally Posted by Bomb

Excuses or not..............

1. Make sure bills r paid
2. Children r bought up,not juz $$$,love n education.
3. Be responsible,dun bring things back n harm family.
4. Cannot beat up spouse for watever reasons
5. Dun involve the kids for ur own actions

I grew up in a really unhappy family since young. My parents break every single one of the above rules.

[Bomb]

Originally Posted by camoman

I grew up in a really unhappy family since young. My parents break every single one of the above rules.

Haiz, thats y so many problem kids ma, hope ppl who read my post realise early

[tionggoklan]

hahahaha, this talk bring back my memory when i was still a kid, got this TV series called 家在大巴窑。Inside the show, there was a song sung by the kid, it goes sumthing like this:

赌博真可怕，
破坏我的家，
爸爸去赌博，
妈妈离开他。

So for our current context，it should be sumthing like this:

召妓真可怕，
破坏我的家，
爸爸得爱滋，（choi！）
妈妈离开他？

Originally Posted by Bomb

Haiz, thats y so many problem kids ma, hope ppl who read my post realise early

[asdfghjkl]

i suppose thats a bad excuse..

Originally Posted by Horsepower

Cheonging outside will help them "re-discover" their ability to treasure their wives and improve their sex life with their spouse.

I would like to open this thread for fellow samsters to air your views and share their experiences. I will share mine along the way.

Personally I do not believe that I will fling to improve my sex life at home. We fling because we want variety. Everyday eat rice also sian. Once in awhile eat some chinese/malay/western food not bad.

I do agree that when we are stressed at work and more stressed at home with wife nagging, bound to lose interest in sex with wife.

So what do we do? Find new sex partners.

Commercial sex, yes. Easy to deal with. Just pay and have sex.

ONS. More diffcult but it is challenge. ONS usually gives a different feeling that paid sex.
But need time and also some luck hook one. Becareful, ONS sometimes may cause problems within the family.

above is My 2 cents worth.