Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[haha_123]

Bro JaViEr84, many brothers already tell u to dump her immediately. I already told you chang tong bu ru duan tong! This kind of girl is just not worth it.

U treat her nice, but she treat u like a piece of s**t!! She asked u to buy a Sony Vaio lap-top this time. Next time what?! A Sony 42" TV so that she can show off to all her friends?!!

If she truly love you, she will know how hard it is for us guys to make a living in Singapore. She should not be so demanding of you. As a man, you must learn to na de qi, fang de xia(know when to let go).

Come on!! You need to drop this girl immediately!! Dust your-self off and move on to the next target.

[Spud_Boy]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

well... it might be a thin line between Love and Lust

Love & Lust look & feel the same when we are in the heat of action.. it's only after the dust settles can we differeniate..

[JaViEr84]

Anyway last night i followed her after her work till she finish buying stuffs with her room mate back to their house to cook... when she is at this supermarket the SS market .. i tried calling her while hide at a corner she just have this disgust face when she see my no. and end my call .. at her kitchen i saw she and her room mates preparing things to an toi like so happy , it then i realized i am the only one who is upset and fan bu xia ... dunno why out of a sudden my inner self call out to me "why u so stupid suffer like this when she dun even bother bout u ..even think u are a selfish and crazy man even threatened to call police after all u have done for her.." suddenly i like wake up from my dream.. i immediately snap out rush back to my own office re - organize my stuffs i miss out this 1 month + , make appointments and stuffs i miss doing due to spending too much time on her..

Now i feel like i am back to my old self , the carefree man i used to be..

I think i do need to learn this pull and push method more , any idea who can teach me hahaha... thanks bro hurricane ..

bro haha or all bros here , do you all think i should still look for a viet gal for my next one or just changed to local delights as my brother said to me : "its time to eat local dish , foreign dish is not easy to deal "

[jackbl]

U are old enough to make your own decision. If this question u still dun know how to answer, then u better be alone and single

Originally Posted by JaViEr84

bro haha or all bros here , do you all think i should still look for a viet gal for my next one or just changed to local delights as my brother said to me : "its time to eat local dish , foreign dish is not easy to deal "

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by JaViEr84

I think i do need to learn this pull and push method more , any idea who can teach me hahaha... thanks bro hurricane ..

I'm curious, how old r u?

[serioussillyguy]

Originally Posted by JaViEr84

hi to all bros here.. some bros may know mi thru another thread "tieng viet" cos i posted my hear affair thru there wrongly.. http://sbf.directory/adult-d...-club-199.html

i just wish to speak out in the correct area..

I had manage to coaxed her back last last fri when we meet to talk again as i saw her face want me to coax her back but want to have a step to step down.. so i try to coax and succeeed ... then on last wed she say want to go on a trip ask to find a plce to go on thurs i say go batXX intially she agreed(say she nvr see me for a few day want to make up to me by going vacation spent time with me ) but after listening to her friend she tell me she want to go GXnXiXG and KXLxC from thurs to sun.. which left me a day to search out book everything.. lucky golden mile there still got space but quite ex so use visa(the only shop that can use) .. cos i left $350 of budget also need to prepare to spend there..

i briefed her on all the details of our trip with intention to let her at least roughly know ow we get there all these( i think its basic respect to let her know the itinerary) but after our GXnXiXG trip(we din manage to go KXLxC cos she got recall by her company so lan lan no choice had to forfeit he KXLxC trip book bus go back on sat) the same whole thing of break up continue say i counted a lot of things i mention thee trip cost to her for what .. she is not supposed to know how much i spent say i am selfish to count everything i do.. say she love me and did her best for me which i dun really feel it .. the ratio is like i try to satisfy her 15 times she only did hers for 1-2 time this ratio...up till now i am heart grey and cold i think i had try my best.. but nothing seems to work... i decide not to sms her again from today..after she rejected to see me when i rush to her house there when she initiated the breakup on msn at last night 10pm.. initially i say i wait for her outside her door to talk things out rather on msn but she refused even threatened to call police .. in the end i message her say i wait for her at the park.. till midnight still nvr come down.. lucky i have a brother who jiang yi qi company me there if not i sure dunno wat to do.. as some bros say ppreviously she is playing some game with me as she know my weakness for heer.. i just casually told her the cost like inform her details of trip like that but she take it i counting with her.. so no choice since she tink i am like that i also cant say much (i even let her keep the RM 600+ i changed under her care.)

we only steady each other a month + and i am really feeling more unhappy n stress than happy times.. which i think its very unhealthy and she do not want to talk out our difference face to face... like discussion she just keep it which i had told her during the 1st breakup that couples do need to talk out discuss unhappy things and move on from there not keep it and let it explode..she even brought up on the trip morning itself before we go at night to take bus say she want a vaio lappy which i say i will buy when my bonus come in dec.. yesterday during our message at night she say she only testing me with the lappy issue i cant do it for her and say i cant do what she likes , thus i cant do any other thing for her.. she already know i am not a rich family person when we start out together so i do not really know wat she mean i cant do what she like..

My bro just told me to give up on this gal not worth my effort and time cos i cant see a future with her cos she is a wp employee and the company may not extend her contract in sg after next yr april..and she treats me like that say i selfish crazy .. he ask mi not to soft heart even if she change nature and initiate patch back.. which i really scared she do that cos my heart will surely melt one..but i am also scared if i get back with her she will repeat this whole cycle and my heart willl once again be hurt even more again..


Right now i had 2 failed relationships with 2 Vietnamese gals both not wls as mentioned ... now i really got no confidence mayb even scared to know viet gals anymore.. its like once beaten twice shy.. this 2nd relationship though its short in 1 and a half months but its very very painful than the prev 3 yr relationship i had with my 1st one..Now i just feel like this .. Single although lonely at least its not painfull..

bro, u mentioned nothing much abt 3yrs relationship with 1st except a very painful one..2nd relation,suggest u dun waste your time on her, go for new target.

local - known to be demanding, expecting a lot from bf and husband,becos sinagporeans mostly educated n financially indepedant,so if u want a submissive wife, not so rational to go after them..but of cos still have gd ones around, depends yr luck.(FT ah neh n local man both in IT industry, local gals will like FT ah neh more, now is the 'fashion')

foreigner-talk abt viet gals here since we r in viet thread,well known submissive n will make a gd housewife...also notorious known to have hidden bf in their hometown thru they marry here or in love here...also depends yr luck la.But want to have foreigner partner, u must always financial ready for it.

Seemed that u r into viet gals since your 1st 2nd also viet. i suggest u now totally cut off contact with the 2nd, Tonite prepare some cash go to geylang or joo chiat, pickup a viet WL u like, go thru the real life experience to experience their character n knowing their thinking better, after few mths or years, u will be more ready to handle a viet gf in future. Or alternative, go to matchmaking agency to get yourself a viet wife now.

[JaViEr84]

My "bro" say i have vietnam fetish... I am also not sure why... i had met many gals from malaysia to indonesia ... none of them is able to make me heart beat till i met my 2nd one the 1st time...( dunno if got poison or curse haha joking).. we hit off very fast after a week and since she say there are alot of guys wanting to go out with her i think mai tu liao since we everyday during that week got meet for dinner/lunch and go out whole day on her off days.. jio her to b my gf after a week. i know its fast ... but i just think my chemistry for viet gals seems to b more easy to cha chu huo hua than other gals so far. the rest is like not my cai like that.. Actually deep in my heart i still want to know viet gals.. but i leave it to fate already.. if fate is there for us to meet then we shall see how ba.. anyway since i know her thru online dating website i decided not to go to the website to know anymore...(its like i force the fate like that by being active online)) I think its time to open up my social circle through externally not internally but i do not know where to know more vietnamese gals (not wls in jc or gl) hahaha... anyone got any idea? cos i think its not fair for me to judge the whole lot of viet gals where i only know 2 only..

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by JaViEr84

My "bro" say i have vietnam fetish... I am also not sure why... i had met many gals from malaysia to indonesia ... none of them is able to make me heart beat till i met my 2nd one the 1st time...( dunno if got poison or curse haha joking).. we hit off very fast after a week and since she say there are alot of guys wanting to go out with her i think mai tu liao since we everyday during that week got meet for dinner/lunch and go out whole day on her off days.. jio her to b my gf after a week. i know its fast ... but i just think my chemistry for viet gals seems to b more easy to cha chu huo hua than other gals so far. the rest is like not my cai like that.. Actually deep in my heart i still want to know viet gals.. but i leave it to fate already.. if fate is there for us to meet then we shall see how ba.. anyway since i know her thru online dating website i decided not to go to the website to know anymore...(its like i force the fate like that by being active online)) I think its time to open up my social circle through externally not internally but i do not know where to know more vietnamese gals (not wls in jc or gl) hahaha... anyone got any idea? cos i think its not fair for me to judge the whole lot of viet gals where i only know 2 only..

It is ok to learn and all these are lessons which are valuable in life...I think the best way to find Vn wife is to go to Vn...of course you need to invest time and money...no such thing as go there once you can find a good gal...otherwise you can try to find here those working in local Vn restaurants or thru fren recommendation...

BTW, bro Namelo ask how old are you...if not convenient to post then PM me...there are ways to handle Vn gal and 1st lesson is trust only 30 to 50% of what she said first time...you need to verify all the stories in order to trust her...I am sure you dun know how to do that...play along with her but never be too soft to reject her requests if beyond your ability...can always advise you if you have any unsure scenarios if you want to pm me...

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by serioussillyguy

Tonite prepare some cash go to geylang or joo chiat, pickup a viet WL u like, go thru the real life experience to experience their character n knowing their thinking better, after few mths or years, u will be more ready to handle a viet gf in future.

bro, this is a bad idea

[leecs]

I would like to ask what does this mean. Thanks

notarized, photocopy of your visa registered at the city policy headquarters in Vietnam (exit/entry control office);

[maxrex]

I have a few questions to ask on behalf of my Vietnamese friend who has a Singaporean husband. Currently, she is holding Singapore identity card which states that she is holding multiple entry visa and it needs to be renewed every 6 months. They registered their marriage in Vietnam and not in Singapore. She wants to apply for Singapore PR. About her background, she had her Taiwanese husband before and divorced him and then married her current Singapore husband. Moreover, she is not WL at all and is not holding any job in Singapore at the moment. She has 2 Vietnamese children with her Singapore husband. Will she have good chance of obtaining Singapore PR?

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by maxrex

I have a few questions to ask on behalf of my Vietnamese friend who has a Singaporean husband. Currently, she is holding Singapore identity card which states that she is holding multiple entry visa and it needs to be renewed every 6 months. They registered their marriage in Vietnam and not in Singapore. She wants to apply for Singapore PR. About her background, she had her Taiwanese husband before and divorced him and then married her current Singapore husband. Moreover, she is not WL at all and is not holding any job in Singapore at the moment. She has 2 Vietnamese children with her Singapore husband. Will she have good chance of obtaining Singapore PR?

Is it a typo error...how can she hold Singapore NRIC??

Yes, there is a good chance she will be granted Singapore PR if her husband earns enough and pays alot of CPF monthly...but she has to meet all the ICA terms and conditions for PR application...

[maxrex]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Is it a typo error...how can she hold Singapore NRIC??

Yes, there is a good chance she will be granted Singapore PR if her husband earns enough and pays alot of CPF monthly...but she has to meet all the ICA terms and conditions for PR application...

This is not typo error. She showed me her Singapore identity card in front of me personally and 'multiple entry visa' words are written on the back of Singapore identity card. Surprising eh?

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by maxrex

This is not typo error. She showed me her Singapore identity card in front of me personally and 'multiple entry visa' words are written on the back of Singapore identity card. Surprising eh?

This is interesting. Never hear or see before. S'porean with multiple entry visa? S'porean wants to apply PR in SG?

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by maxrex

This is not typo error. She showed me her Singapore identity card in front of me personally and 'multiple entry visa' words are written on the back of Singapore identity card. Surprising eh?

what is the meaning of Singapore identity card? Pink?? Blue???