Problems approaching someone new

[ESebastian]

All the best!!

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by greathunter

Hey bros and sis, i kind of need some help here. I know i recently been posting like light hearted threads but this time its sometime that makes me down.
Its been awhile since i broke off with my girlfriend, and now i'm in NS, im horny as hell, so fucked quite a few FLs. I thought i was horny but come to think of it, i'm actually kinda lonely..

Its hard for me now to talk to girls now let alone try to find another girlfriend. Whats shitty about this is that i recently saw this sweet and demure girl at the shopping mall recently, and she attracted me, ALOT. Its been awhile since someone made me feel that way (and im attracted to her not because of sex!!! Important!!).

As i was saying that i find it hard to approach girls now, i hope any bros or sis out there could help me with this. Should i go start to talk to her? Cause everytime i wanted to go into the shop and talk to her, my body just pass by the shop w/o going in. Maybe i'm not confident and the feeling just sucked

Hope you guys can help me.

PS: Felt nice to finally say it out as i couldnt tell my friends as they all expect me to be cheerful and happy kind of person, but actually im kinda emo nemo now

Brother, you need to get back to reality. All the KTV and FL focus you made in the past blunted your personal and social development to the point you never developed social skills to woo women. Wooing a FL is different from wooing a sexy NUS graduate with a white collar job. It's not too late but you must make the decision now to change you life around and re-enter normal SG society.

[lurker30]

Being confident and funny is the most important factors in attracting all sorts of women

Just image if u are a woman, will u want to go out a guy is shy, scared and most importantly a boring guy who talks nothing interesting but himself.

[greathunter]

aww dam guys, kinda failed.. i was asking her question about the items there, she didnt know about it and i was approached by some other guy.. gosh how that for shitty luck :x

[hickeybites]

Originally Posted by greathunter

aww dam guys, kinda failed.. i was asking her question about the items there, she didnt know about it and i was approached by some other guy.. gosh how that for shitty luck :x

was reading this thread with interest and rooting for u... it got my romantic bone tingling. are u going to try again? it's not like u got rejected... just mismatch of product knowledge
all the best & hope u have better luck next time chatting up with her!

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by Linnie

Wish you all the best

Must smile and be thick skin.. haha

ya must smile but make sure dont smile like a TIKO PEH!

[hugs]

TS,

were u interested in the product? no right? so if she doesnt know the answer to ur question, tell her its ok n ask something else till she realised it is HER u r inerested in n NOT the product.

good luck

[greathunter]

Ahh man dam... I thnk I might try again?? But should I ask her for another product again??

[Linnie]

Just one 2 cents worth advice..

At the same time u r aiming at this girl, aim others also. If u limit urself to one option only, you will feel lots of pressure.
Dun think of her as "the one", "the princess" or "the goddess".
Instead, treat this girl like one of your many side dishes.

I have seen cases from people around me. When girls are being treated too nice like a princess, shit happens:
1) Girl calls you "brother" as a form of rejection
2) Girl keeps you as a spare tyre to listen to her only when she is sad
3) Girl cheats coz she thinks boyfriend/husband too boring and expectable. (Two of my friends managed to f other people's gf and wife coz of this)

[hickeybites]

all this mention of "product" is getting me curious... just what products store is it that TS has been visiting?

TS: you're young so try to have fun & less stress on yourself while at it. take it from a lao-chio, such encounters/experiences may become fond memories!
i agree with hugs... product-inquiries should act as conversation-starter. she should get the hint if u slowly turn focus more on her
relax, be confident & sincere. Good luck!!!

Originally Posted by ESebastian

For me in the past, I will go up and say "chio bu, mai tiao le, gimme your num-ber leh." but don't go this way please, thinking back its quite uncouth.

this really made me smile big-time & i tripped down memory lane for a while... had similar encounter - yah it was a bit alarming but damn direct & cute as well

[greathunter]

Originally Posted by hickeybites

all this mention of "product" is getting me curious... just what products store is it that TS has been visiting?

TS: you're young so try to have fun & less stress on yourself while at it. take it from a lao-chio, such encounters/experiences may become fond memories!
i agree with hugs... product-inquiries should act as conversation-starter. she should get the hint if u slowly turn focus more on her
relax, be confident & sincere. Good luck!!!



this really made me smile big-time & i tripped down memory lane for a while... had similar encounter - yah it was a bit alarming but damn direct & cute as well

Hey bro its somewhere around JP. I wont go further so as not to complicate things if you know what i mean, and yea thanks Hickeybite, for giving me another awesome advice =] =]

[greathunter]

Originally Posted by Linnie

Just one 2 cents worth advice..

At the same time u r aiming at this girl, aim others also. If u limit urself to one option only, you will feel lots of pressure.
Dun think of her as "the one", "the princess" or "the goddess".
Instead, treat this girl like one of your many side dishes.

I have seen cases from people around me. When girls are being treated too nice like a princess, shit happens:
1) Girl calls you "brother" as a form of rejection
2) Girl keeps you as a spare tyre to listen to her only when she is sad
3) Girl cheats coz she thinks boyfriend/husband too boring and expectable. (Two of my friends managed to f other people's gf and wife coz of this)

Yea bro linnie, agree with you. I probably put too much pressure on myself and also thinking of her as the one. Really lessen the load on my chest there bro. Cheers =]