The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[WRX_STI]

Originally Posted by asport

Think about it- marriage does not really change anything except maybe give you more burdens if you want a divorce in the future.

In conclusion, I answer Yes to the thread title. You will never marry the one whom you love the most. Marriage is the greatest mistake a human can make.

Always easy to observe from the outside why many people get married. The reason is not always love. Sadly

[sane]

Originally Posted by heye

Totally agree ... i second u

Heye, I can't help to reply ur post. IMO the marriage is not doom for u n ur wife. IMO the marriage break down because of a lack of trust n communication.

U work hard, u dote on ur son n u lavish her with gifts but have u ever sit her down n work down ur finance with her, financial plan for the next 5 years?
Establish a goal with her n let her know that u want to achieve that n save xxx amount with her. Let her know the reality, be transparent n open. She might have misconcept of u having a huge savings.
We dun spend on lavish/branded gifts because he sit me down n read the bills to me one by one. We have goals to achieve n $ are locked up in investment, insurance policies etc. get her involved! In fact, I m greatly influenced by him on this.

If it allows, earn lesser but spend more time with ur family. Bring them out during weekend, get more involved with ur son. A Young kid needs a lot of nurture n attention n they learnt at a rapid speed. Educate him n let him learn as much as he can. U can earn all the money in the world but can u use it to buy back the lost time with your family? There's a balance to everything. U work so hard for the family but u lose ur dearest because of no time for them.

Her friends. Have u ever make n effort to know her friends n social life? It doesn't mean that going out with guy friends equals to extra martial affairs. I hv lotsa platonic guy friends too n my so have no issues with me going out with them. Sometimes he join me too. He never restrict my actitivities.

Have u ever join her? Without getting the facts right, u jump to conclusions n hit her, this will only strain the r/s.. U only make her turn to her friends even more.

She needs accompany, who can communicate n listen to her. Every woman needs someone to be there always, a man who can listen n dote on her. Be each other best friend, my so is like my teacher.. He will always sit me down to listen to me n explain things in detail, sometimes up to hours. Even if I m upset n refused to listen, he will explain till I understand n reach a mutual conclusion. Thrash things up n dun leave grudges overnight.

Unlike dating, marriage is not a bed of roses, dating, movies, sex.. There are in laws, housing issues, kids..

It's not only working hard like a mule one sided, leading a individual life n expecting the other half to know everything n meet ur expectation.

Dun be impulsive, give urself some time to cool down n really think about the issue. Both of u need to start with zero again..start with communication n ur anger management, no matter how angry, dun strike ur wife. Talk properly.

Marriage is about never giving up. Though there r obstacles ahead, as long as there's are still luv.its still worth a try.

[epicureanp]

I met the one I love most just before I got married 10 years ago...

She was married, we had a whirlwind affair that spanned through the my wedding. I had the best sex in my life, she blew me in my car and swallowed my cum while hurttling down the highway at 150. She's goreous, has great taste, she cooks, she FUCKS, and she gave good head. What more can a man ask for! I loved every moment when I was with her and never once regretted cheating.

10 years on, I am still married to the same wife, have 2 kids which I love dearly. But I never stop thinking of her. We still keep in touch.

She's now separated and going through divorce. She hesitated to tell me at first but she told me eventually coz she rather I not hear it from anyone else.

Sometimes, I find myself thinking that if I knew this day would come, I would have broken off my engagement and gladly waited 10 years. Talk and thoughts are easy, but when I think of my kids, I'm not sure if I want to trade them for the woman I love so much.

So yes... sadly for me... the one I married is not the one I loved most.

-J

[zunbo]

really sad to see many come here and share sob stories

[LovePotion]

Yeah hopefully all of us here can marry the girl of our dreams, and let not they be just vapid but willing to work hard at a marriage by understanding our sacrifices and life too.

[deludedgal]

what is love?

most of us can only identify lust and that phermone feelings

[DreamOfLust]

i too worried that if i marry in future, i might not be marrying the one i love the most... perhaps marrying because i need a companion and to start a family...


its really not as easy to find the missing piece in your puzzle...

[BuriramUnitedFC]

Originally Posted by deludedgal

what is love?

when i first saw this line could only think of this song

[zunbo]

Originally Posted by LovePotion

Yeah hopefully all of us here can marry the girl of our dreams, and let not they be just vapid but willing to work hard at a marriage by understanding our sacrifices and life too.

Many have advise TS to marry the one that loves him most instead of seeking the one he loves most

[khoon1]

Some of them can meet in life time and get marry .
Some marry without Love.
Some meet the person he love but never marry.
Some of them Never meet at all .

After all this round ,there is no Love at all ..

[pulchritudinous]

Originally Posted by winfieldgold

So the next question is..on the day that u die, u will speak the truth and so what will then be ur answer to this question?
Something for all us men to think abt...

i like to think yes but worry my nose will get too long........

[senja88]

I am new here and this is the first time I come across this thread. Whoever dug it out again, thanks. Marriage is a very important institution to me. I did not choose the one I loved the mostest but the one who can loved me with all my strengths and weaknesses.

I do spend a lot of efforts to keep the passion alive. Secret rendezvous, surprise gift and bring her out for some fine dining. I had an awakening in the early stage of our marriage when my wife told me that she would rather be my kept woman than wife. Those were the years I spent a lot of time maintaining my circle of DH and FB. She felt left out as i was out most of the evenings. I had a paradigm shift and treated her like my mistress, thereafter. gave her a bigger budget for her vanity activity and bought her a two door sedan. And of course the cannot do without branded bag . For this purpose we had bought a lot of those hotel stay packages that come with meals.

This is a serious question that all chiongsters should try to ponder to make sense of all these crazy eat out activities and family life. Above is my two cents worth and hope more bro can share.

[iPhone]

Originally Posted by senja88

Marriage is a very important institution to me. I did not choose the one I loved the mostest but the one who can loved me with all my strengths and weaknesses.

This is a serious question that all chiongsters should try to ponder to make sense of all these crazy eat out activities and family life. Above is my two cents worth and hope more bro can share.

can i ask if u are agreeable to eat outside if people are married or not? I think many ppl mix up the difference between love and lust

[senja88]

Originally Posted by iPhone

can i ask if u are agreeable to eat outside if people are married or not? I think many ppl mix up the difference between love and lust

why asked such rhetoric question, bro? ppl come here to tcss and share escapade.

anyway, for the record, i leave my miss love at home and bring mr lust with me when go chionging. to me that is clear enough.

[zunbo]

Haha. I hope the TS quesrtion itself was not rhetoric!