The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[astran]

Wah bros, excuse me for saying this, but entire thread is almost singularly unique. Like you'd hardly expect for a forum like this to have this kinda familiarly bittersweet thread.

Cheers guys, it's been a blast reading all the smut stories. Also thanks sammyboypersonthingy for having this forum

[astran]

Originally Posted by Nuts4you

Used to think i married the love of my life. Now after uncovering some lies, I regret marrying him.

No love, no feeling, no interest anymore.

wow Nutz4you, im so so sorry you're in that position. May you find the happiness you seek soon, ok! Jia you!

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by HeLovesMe

Before marriage, love is blind
After marriage, lies and ugly truths come out.

My goodness did you coin that

[178noobnoob]

Make the wrong move of getting married.
Before marriage, everything can be done. Help each other out with chores and etc.
After marriage, with kid.
All she did was to complain didnt take care of our kid (which i did take care), cook my my kid and leave everything for my mum to wash. Complain i help my mum instead of her. Say she not enough sleep, but middle of the niggt can keep scrolling phone.
Kept comparing our lifestyle with all the influencers and those rich family.
Join whatsapp/telegram chat to kpo about everything.
But when come to my family, no time, tired, we didnt care about her.

Before covid start, every week must go back to her house twice a week. All these no issue. But when we say go out eat dinner together, cannot. Cause got virus around. Not good for baby. 🤦‍♂️
Now with the covid, go out dapao for her, come back must bathe, change clothes and etc. But when she go out drop parcel or buy things, come back dont need to bathe or change clothes. Cause is only a short while.

Didnt know what have i gotten into.

But i’m thankful for this platform for me to vent and rant.

[Playplayonly]

Hi bros, reading thru this thread as a Single, i have my doubts on whether problematic marriage is one issue all guys will go through.

Numerous explanations went through my mind as i tried to find the most plausible one.

Rush. Could you bros' had rush your marriage? Dating for too short period? Failing to discover true personality and lifestyle of a person before marrying?

Lust. Too hot too pretty to resist? Love mostly comes from being able to go to bed with that woman? Failed to seriously review her compatibility with you in long run.

Decieved. During dating period, u two seem the most compatible couple on earth. She agreeing to everything you suggest, supporting every decision you make, defending every single mistake you had. BUT, after marriage, turns into a different lady? Dominant, unsupportive, fights every decision made in the house.


Each plausible reason above has it own large amount of victims, however, can man actually be smart enough to avoid these mistakes??

[cutecuteboy]

Reading this for the first time but wow... resonates so much with me. I feel you bro.

There’s much wisdom inside especially your last sentence.
Perhaps the current high number of divorces came from the fact many chose to marry someone who doesn’t love them at all.

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

I didn't marry the person I loved, I married the one I can live with

the one I loved, kept breaking my heart, cheating, lying, was selfish, self centred, but I felt the most for her, hurt the deepest for her, make me feel small, and that the whole relationship was about her and her needs.

so I chose the one that I could live with and have some peace in my life

life is not just about my feelings and what I want.

there are other obligations I need to focus on too. My parents, my career, my loved ones who love me

I love the one who didn't love me, but loved herself, so I married the one I could live with and still have my dignity and part of myself.

[shhhhh]

Originally Posted by 178noobnoob

Didnt know what have i gotten into.

But i’m thankful for this platform for me to vent and rant.

Wow that's a fair amount of abuse to take man, especially since your marriage is still young. Your wife sounds like she's not ready for marriage (as in she didn't seem to have given marriage/havingkids a serious thought of what the realities/responsibilities are).

[JWNY]

Marriage in pandemic is harder

[ALSS74]

Interesting words

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by ALSS74

Interesting words

Many a time...it's our 2nd or can even be our 3rd best ..thats why sometimes exs r spoken of n abt fondly

[Peacekeeping]

Many people marry out of convenience or desperation. We tend to lose our “innocence” when we come out to the society to work.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by 178noobnoob

Make the wrong move of getting married.
Before marriage, everything can be done. Help each other out with chores and etc.
After marriage, with kid.
All she did was to complain didnt take care of our kid (which i did take care), cook my my kid and leave everything for my mum to wash. Complain i help my mum instead of her. Say she not enough sleep, but middle of the niggt can keep scrolling phone.
Kept comparing our lifestyle with all the influencers and those rich family.
Join whatsapp/telegram chat to kpo about everything.
But when come to my family, no time, tired, we didnt care about her.

Before covid start, every week must go back to her house twice a week. All these no issue. But when we say go out eat dinner together, cannot. Cause got virus around. Not good for baby. 🤦‍♂️
Now with the covid, go out dapao for her, come back must bathe, change clothes and etc. But when she go out drop parcel or buy things, come back dont need to bathe or change clothes. Cause is only a short while.

Didnt know what have i gotten into.

But i’m thankful for this platform for me to vent and rant.

I think its quite standard now for alot of women

Singapore is women feminism country, women have alot of say. So men who have no spine, end up jellyfish.

[BushTracker]

Marriage, should be like a rental contract, to be reviewed once every X number of years.

[UncleHasBeen]

Marry the person u love and love the person u married.

[Peacekeeping]

Originally Posted by UncleHasBeen

Marry the person u love and love the person u married.

Agree. Don’t marry because you want to get a flat.