16 years old and pregnant

[LentorGarden]

You are a guy, go and talk to your father and discuss about it. Your father will be more willing and acceptive to listening because like you, he is a male too and probably has been there and done that before so he will understand you better. Once he understands the problem already, it would be best that your father talks to your girlfriend's parents and not you because they will be very protective over their daughter. Adults talk would be best and the problem might be resolved sooner rather than later. First of all, go and buy the kit to test. Once it shows positive then you approach your father. If it shows negative then you are one lucky kid and you better learn from your mistake and bonk your gf with condoms the next time.

I thought after the AWARE saga, sex education in schools have been stepped up? They should be encouraging these secondary school kids to wear condoms during sexual intercourse and not asking them to steer clear of sexual intercourse. And for your info TS, I'm very much against the idea of abortion or some would call it murder.

[RamBro]

TS, as a naughty samster and as a parent i can understand both sides. Personally, I would hope that my kids would come and talk to me abt it if they got someone pregnant. The longer you lie/hide the truth the harder it gets.

Anyway, first things first - you and your gf gotta confirm whether she is preggy first. You might be all stirred up over nothing. If she is already 16 get her to go to Guardian or Watsons and buy a test kit - even if she is not 16, they aren't going to ask for her ID or anything. Dun worry about it - sure she will feel a bit embarrassed, but lots of young girls buy them for this very same reason.

[brooster]

Should be able to go for abortion without informing the parents. Unless theres complications during the abortion.

[liberatte]

Little bro... you've got BALLS to screw and get a girl preggie...
Time for you to embrace them and go see your parents. being a parent, they
will understand your situation and probably go see the girl's parents.

Either you get married young or they will secretly do the abortion. Btw... please keep the kid. If you're not able to take care of it, send to homes.

[Pong Pong]

On the reality side,I would suggest an abortion...
Think about it,can you afford to raise the kid???
What can u give the baby or even your future wife???
Are you ready for marriage???

If you are unable to provide for the baby...giving birth would just mean bringing the baby to the world to suffered only...

Scientifcally,they only have life at the 5 months stage.

But you still have to get your parents involve as your gf is still under 18.
You got no other choices...unless u do it overseas which equals to higher cost...

My advise is get your parents involved and seek their advise.

[andyyy]

1. not so sure telling parents might be good idea depending if the daughter's parents might make police report on underage sex against the boy. Do take note.

2. if really have money problem, some may go Johor for the op, with anonymity. Don't ask me how.

At the end of the day, we all have to be responsible of our action and be aware of the law, especially in Singapore.

Edit: On second thought, I think no one should not be giving any advice not knowing both of you personally, so its dangerous listening to strangers' advice. Just make sure you can solve the problem instead letting it getting bigger.

You know when i reflect back life, human usually make small mistake that lead to bigger one, and bigger and bigger until there is no point of return. I hope you know where you want to go in your life to make any decision. With BOTH sides parents support and your commitments, I still believe you can still raise the child.

Keep us posted on your outcome boy.

[huat_ah_888]

Go get a test kit, if your gf is pregnant, do inform your parents, DO NOT do anything else. If she is not pregnant, wear protection next time if both of you want to do it.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Like wat the bros said do the following:

1) Get the pregnancy test kit from Guardian Pharmacy to see if confirmed or not
2) Somehow, I feel though coming from someone who's very against abortion, it would seem the only rite thing to do...you 2 are just KIDS and is not matured or mentally or financially stable enuff to start a family....end you only fuck the babies life..TOTALLY INNOCENT!!!
3) For the parents part, this one can consider, but i understand your predicament.....maybe you might wanna cross border and do this abortion
4) MOST IMPORTANT!!!! Do not wait, the longer you drag, the larger the fetus will grow and may complicate more things......

Last, please do a prayer for the unborn both you & your woman just prior to the abortion......cos there'll be karma for the both of you!

[compfreaker]

Originally Posted by andyyy

1. not so sure telling parents might be good idea depending if the daughter's parents might make police report on underage sex against the boy. Do take note.

2. if really have money problem, some may go Johor for the op, with anonymity. Don't ask me how.

At the end of the day, we all have to be responsible of our action and be aware of the law, especially in Singapore.

make a police report ? lolz. she's 16 and he's still 15. more like the other way around.

you cant run lah bro. you still have to face it and tell your parents.

"Counseling and the Law
In Singapore counseling is mandatory for Singapore citizens with 2 or less children and with some for of secondary education. Single women also have to be counseled. Women 16 years and below of age need to be counseled at the Institute of Health. Work permit holders, employment pass holders and long term social visit pass holders do not need counseling. Women with 3 or more children do not need counseling."

TERMINATION OF PREGNANCY (ABORTION) FEES
MEDISAVE ALLOWED
4 TO 8 WEEKS PREGNANCY
S$ 400 to S$ 650
S$ 650
9 TO 12 WEEKS PREGNANCY
UP TO S$1,000
$ 650
13 WEEKS TO 16 WEEKS PREGNANCY
UP TO S$2,000
$ 750
17 WEEKS TO 24 WEEKS PREGNANCY
S$2,000 onwards
$ 750

- The above do not include charges for ultrasound scan, consultation fee and medicines.

dont ask me where i got the info. i wont tell you and lastly, tell your parents.

[Kinga]

Just go check whether shes pregnant first. JUST go BUY a kit to test NOW.

[DFAC]

bro, there's a clinic in yishun but i don really know the address. they do if foe 300 bucks and they don get the parents or whatsoever involved.. but you have to be a bit careful cause your girlfriend is underage. I don't now how the clinic works for underage. Please check throughly on the internet or something before you go through wit the process. Cheers!

[sammyboy.sexy]

Originally Posted by brooster

Should be able to go for abortion without informing the parents. Unless theres complications during the abortion.

Bro pls note the girl is under 18 (around 16 only) there is no way any legal doctor would not inform the parents and go ahead with the abortion unless he is a underground doctor (i doubt there is any in singapore )

Advise for TS go buy test kit from guardian confirm the pregnancy first if really strike FIRST PRIZE then go tell both sides parents i dun think this is a problem you two youngster can handle and if it's a false alarm then learn from the lesson do not engage sex when you're both TOO YOUNG if really have too get a CAP (be safe not sorry).

look on the bright side at the age of 17 (first child) by the time your kid is 18 you're both around 32 only (still very young) btw if you really love her be a man and face it speak to her abt the abortion (it's not a good thing) getting married young it's not a bad thing too just have to work harder for the future and i believe your parents would surely give you a hand in rasing the child so dun worry too much

(If there is a problem, Work on it dun sit on it)

[Megatronzombie]

Also something to know about abortion, if done incorrectly could damage the girl's below permanently for life. Bro Ts not to scare you but do you know how they do abortion? They stick instrument into your gf via her vagina, crush the baby's skull, crush the baby's body parts and then suck them out via a pump. The remains can be seen clearly once out of course you can choose not to see it. The pump and instruments in your gf's womb might damage her if not done correctly. In your case since she is below legal age, she will need to go to a illegal doc in JB or something if you dont want your parents to know and those docs are not experienced and most likely will do a lousy job and high chance of damaging your gf. Think about that, young man.

Next, post-abortion, your gf will be very weak and need sustenance not simply something you do on a monday afternoon after which can go f**k again, she will need food to bring her back to health if not she will forever be weak and post danger for her next pregnancy (if she got through the operation without damaging her womb otherwise can kiss pregnancy goodbye forever).

Lastly, there is the emotional trauma. If you dont do it right, high chance after abortion you guys can kiss your relationship goodbye as she will experience emotional trauma for losing her child unless she damn wild child and heck care type (in which case i would advice you to run for it ;p). she will cry without reason and she will be angry with you without reason. Can you stand that and not say "I give up, you are confusing my young mind and i have better gals to f**k anyway"?

Of course i am painting a bleak picture here coz young people like you never think of consequences go bonk here and there, mai tiu liao... the world is becoming a more chaotic place, grow up la you next generation sigh...

Seriously consider the hea vy consequences first. Dont think scared about parents and all and dont tell them. They know best (unless you tell me your parents are ex-convicts or drug addict then yes dun tell them) as seniors.

I wonder, if you love her so much, why didnt you take precautions in the first place??

[Draculax]

TS, I'm sure after looking at so many replies about telling your parents you must be thinking 'easier said then done' but really if you really made the girl pregnant please talk to your parents about it cause believe me at 16 years old you aren't really in the best position to make such decisions.

However as a man, I believe if you are daring enough to have unprotected sex with your girl, please save her embarrassment and walk into any pharmacy and buy a test kit for her, don't need to really choose cause all about the same one those ~$20 will do. If you want to save some embarrassment for yourself and willing to pay premium price +/-$5 can go to 7-11/Cheers to get them as they are lesser people in there usually.

If confirmed she is pregnant, my advice is you talk to your parents or else some senior and see what can be done about it. I wish you all the best and please try to take protective measures next time, buying a pack of condom is defiantly less embarrass then buying a pregnancy test kit.

Good luck to you two.

[Saereht]

your situation are similar to mine, but thing was both me and my wife was above 21 already.

anyway, going for abortion under 18 or 21, you still have to seek for adult permission. Cause the contract before going in the operation room will require both your wife and another party to sign should under 18 or 21.

contract not signed, no abortion. simple as that.

anyway talk to you parent, be like me, keep the child.

Dont worry cause you will find ways to raise the kid up.