[Advice Needed] Girlfriend

[unicel74]

Hi Bro,

Honestly, maybe there's a change in the relationship...as you grow up your views, needs and wants changes as times grow.
Maybe you didnt give her the "Security" feeling....after sex what you do jux dose off? or you hug her and share your tots and feelings with her another type of intimatcy...

The worst scenario is she may be seeing someone or she doesnt want to continue the relationship.

or she may feel insecure as she may feel that you only care about having sex with her only course or a healthy r/s doesnt just work on sex alone. Is the sharing of all things honest and transparent...

You may ask urself does both of you share your deepest secret or tots of feelings?
both of you able to share/ communicate your sexual desire? Is all about communication and the feeling of secure of ladies... Guys normally are the physical pple. Girls need more than sex is all about the mind, the body and brain...

jux my 2 cents worth...No offence

[maxman]

Many girls and young women, often including those in early 20s but sometimes older, tend to hold an innocent/pure/chaste perception of love that is sex-less,like that of the fairy tales of childhood. (Think Snow White, Cinderella, etc.) They want to be romanced and feel treasured as special. Keep in mind, women are more emotionally orientated but men are more physically orientated. What excites us sexually is quite different but sometimes it can be similar (such as lust).

Scientists have found that feelings of love are induced by chemicals released by our brains. In other words, love can be scientifically explained. It's not some strange unknown phenomena. Of course there will be people who disagree to this. These lovey feeling chemicals produced by the brain tend to subside and stop around 12-24 months, and it also tends to coincide with loss/lack of lovey dovey feelings which can lead to break-up.

Females will gradually feel less in love, and when they do, they may question themselves why love has gone, or if they still love you. Quite surely when they don't feel love anymore, or feel it has gone, they lose interest in sex and may stop it. Keep in mind, women generally and naturally link love and sex, or in other words, if they feel loved, they want/give sex. Males tend to operate the opposite way, that is, have sex and then feel love (again the chemicals released by the brain).

She may not know why the lovey dovey feeling has subsided, but love really comes and goes with many young women.

[maxman]

Originally Posted by freezetheDB

most women need to be pampered. Sex is natural and ought to be natural and instinctive and women dislike it when everything you have done for them has to lead to sex. It is an anti-sex factor for them.

They prefer romantic dates, and if it leads to sex, it will be a passionate one.

My OC dont like to give blowjobs if I ask for it. When the chemistry is right, she auto goes down on me (usually to my surprise), and I can CIM if I want and she will swallow it all up (just so it doesnt get messy). But if I CIM I have to work harder to get the 2nd round coming in order to return the favour.

My advice is just relax abit and work on the relationship and if nothing improves maybe its time to move on as she might have another guy, or if she has become a hardcore xtian (which u should avoid marrying if u r not one too)

I agree with your opinion and observations (with your wife). When women are in love with a man, she willingly pleasures him sexually. Men who have been in such loving relationships would have observed this with their women too, and chances are, these men enjoy better, naughtier, dirtier, messier, sex, if you know what I mean.

If you don't, just read the thread "Fucking in the public area" and you will understand.

[Snah]

Sounds like u jus wan her for sex. That's prob why she behaved this way. U shd give her Space. Or she could have found a better tool than you. At this pt decide which is impt to you- love or sex.

[n30n]

She just wants to know you know when to hold your reins back. Maybe you have been too touchy feely at the wrong time, and it puts her off.

So now you need to put yourself in control. PCC if you need. Don't let your other head take priority of her emotional needs. Fulfill her needs, and you'll have yours met.

[Papadude]

TS, is she your first GF?
At 21, your girl still quiet young leh...
Don't ruin her life please.....

You sound like you also very immature leh....

[Krazzie]

Originally Posted by binggabanga

Hi everyone here,

I know this maybe the wrong place to post this question, but i really need everyone's advice or comments.

I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for more than 2 years, and sometimes we do have sex occasionally. But she doesn't seem to like it as much as i do. Well, yes i do have a very high sex drive but she doesn't. We've talked about this many a times but apparently its bringing us nowhere.

Recently, she told me that she don't wish for me to talk cheekily, or anything about sex. Nor does she want to have sex anymore. She just tells me she wants a pure, clean, innocent relationship, where its just about love.

I love her, a lot. And I don't want to leave her. I know that both of us love each other so much and never wanted to break off.

I don't want to find any other girl to satisfy my needs because i love my girlfriend too much and i don't wish to do anything to hurt our relationship. But i really have no idea how i can ask my girlfriend about sex.

We're both 21, and i really need sincere advice from people here.

I appreciate it alot. Thank you

Seriously... no sex? Somemore you claim you are someone with HIGH sex drive, are you sure you can take it? You are already considering breaking up with her over this (that's the whole point of this thread right?), give you another year of NO SEX. Can you take it?

If you are not able to make the ultimate sacrifice.... no sex for the rest of your life. You know what to do.

[deludedgal]

Originally Posted by maxman

Males tend to operate the opposite way, that is, have sex and then feel love (again the chemicals released by the brain).

Really? is this true? can guys reply

[darkmatter]

to improve u need to lead in yr rs
its liked flying a kite,knowing when to pull and when to release
always be in control and not too nice to them
ur jus too young to knw it all
have a few more rs den u will be able to master the advice from all the brothers here

[chucky69]

Do not make the mistake of having a FB and keeping her as a girlfriend.

U r young.. go out there and bonk your life away. forget getting serious. At 21 she is not going to be with you forever. U r just too young to be in love and want sex at the same time.
She has a different agenda at this stage of her life.

[maxman]

Originally Posted by deludedgal

Really? is this true? can guys reply

It is sometimes true/valid although some men may want to fall in love first before having sex. Otherwise, this is why some men fall in love with the sex they buy (prostitutes). Keep in mind that these are women they chose in secret and not to told/shown to parents and friends.

Every so often we see a man here writing about his lovey feelings for a prostitute he regularly patronizes. He typically wants to remove (rescue) her from the sex trade, take her home and even marry her.

Science explains that after orgasm, our brains release feel-good lovey-dovey chemicals. Coupled with a intimate sex act that has the GFE (girlfriend experience) that some prostitutes skillfully or cunningly use on the man to provide as excellent customer service, he could be a sure-kill prey between her legs after some time.

[Smextisfaction]

Sex is such an important thing in a relationship. It says so much about the physical and emotional status of each of you actually. Don't make feel like her thinking of sex is just to fulfil your sexual desires only. It has to be both sides on an agreeable note to enjoy if. If she really insists on not having sex and be in a so call 'clean' relationship, then maybe she either already lost the intimacy of being sexually involved with you or when you are so hard on wanting sex right away from her, it can also be a turn off for her.

Just be your authentic self, let her feel the love from you and maybe it might help to work things out. Don't try to make it feel like you're going nuts from not having sex with her. Throughout this process, maybe you can find out the 'real' answer why she would treat you this way.

If she avoid intimacy etc,
Scenario: maybe she has feelings for another guy and feel the guilt of having sex with you further more. Maybe she might be stressed in some aspects of life with irks her when you demand for sex?

You may be best off cutting her loose. Tell her you love her and want her to have what is best for her but that you can't have a relationship this way. Ask her to take some time to think about it and that you will be doing some thinking too. Then get out with your buddies and try to have some fun or at least to keep busy. Once she no longer feels committed to you and knows you aren't there to do her homework, she may realize that she does want you still in her life. That's all about you can do.

Side-note, Release yourself and don't feel stressful! We got lots of good recommendations from our SBY bros here to help you release some stress!

Cheers!

[Pokka]

Frankly, sex is not something you need for a life partner. Maybe at 20s, but as you get older, you find that companionship and care is what matters most. You want someone who will go through thick and thin, up and down, rich and poor with you. Someone who will support you through life, emotionally, physically, and maybe financially when times are really bad. Such companionship and care cannot be bought with money, but sex can.

If she can't cook, eat out. You can pay the chef to cook for you, but you can't pay the chef to understand you inside out.

Not saying that sex is not important, but it is not something that you should factor in when choosing a life partner. if have, good. If dun, also like that. Intimacy is key, not sex.

[unsung80]

U got yourself a holy gf, congrats. Better stop reading stories from bros here. Probably ur current gf can't fulfill anythig. All the best for your r/s.

[jintakken]

Originally Posted by maxman

It is sometimes true/valid although some men may want to fall in love first before having sex. Otherwise, this is why some men fall in love with the sex they buy (prostitutes). Keep in mind that these are women they chose in secret and not to told/shown to parents and friends.

Every so often we see a man here writing about his lovey feelings for a prostitute he regularly patronizes. He typically wants to remove (rescue) her from the sex trade, take her home and even marry her.

Science explains that after orgasm, our brains release feel-good lovey-dovey chemicals. Coupled with a intimate sex act that has the GFE (girlfriend experience) that some prostitutes skillfully or cunningly use on the man to provide as excellent customer service, he could be a sure-kill prey between her legs after some time.

Well said.