Undergrad Investigator needed

[acidicavex]

Many said the same move on. Frankly you look at a missing.piece to complete your puzzle. Sometimes the saying goes it pay not knowing the truth. It can be a cruel, painful, might even scar u for your future r/s.
Good luck

[kendom7]

Originally Posted by acidicavex

Many said the same move on. Frankly you look at a missing.piece to complete your puzzle. Sometimes the saying goes it pay not knowing the truth. It can be a cruel, painful, might even scar u for your future r/s.
Good luck

To the Sis who started this tread, I just want to say I have also gone down this path or rather "dark alley" before, and I was too dying to find the reason/s behind why out of the blue to be dumped with no apparent logical reasons from the other party. I struggled for awhile, and finally decided to give up to know the truth after quite sometime, and do trust me once you let it go, better things will come your way.
People always says the truth hurts, but then sometimes it makes you even stronger. Take care coz there is more in life for you to go searching, and that is true Happiness.
Cheers.

[50shades]

Thanks for those who PM me & are in a position to render help because u work/study in the campus.
I've limited inbox so can kind bros offering advice just comment on my thread instead of PM? Thanks again!

No matter what happen I just hope you can let it down. Does it really matter if u find out he got another girl. In the first place he keep u underground n no1 knows abt u already show he is not serious about u. No point going to make itself feel so hurt now. I believe u can get a better guy that treasure u.
Hope u take care always n stay strong. I believe many will try to help u out over here[/quote]

[t123]

Been heartache for most r/s I am in. Know the answer is good at least can bring to closure. Hope u be strong, it took me recently after 2 years to recover after being a Robert.

[VaeVictus]

Maybe you unknowingly got into the "friendzone" since you've been readily been there for him.

[otamay]

Many reasons for the breakup, becoz there are no rules on how breakup should be done.

Maybe he has a new found love,
maybe you are no longer loving.
maybe you are not tender enough...and so on....the list goes...

So after finding out the truth can you withstand to get hurt again?
becoz the truth always hurt.

TS reconsider seriously your action and decide what in life you want.

[maxsee]

What's the point on finding out about what happens....Not long ago...i left my gf the same way...told her coz we got different life path...but at the back of her mind she keep thinking there is 3rd party involved....so she keep trying to dig out a girl that never exists...

End of the day...I don't understand, what's the point of finding out...there will never be any so call peace of mind...one must learn when to let go and move on with one's life.....

[Ryoshohei]

I think it's all about closure. While it makes perfect sense and it's true that what many of the people here is saying (especially about what's next after knowing), we must understand different people work differently. Perhaps for this lady, the only way she can ever be at peace with herself and move on is to know the whole story. Only by knowing and seeing evidence for herself, that yes, that guy is a jerk who now has another girl, can she let down the stone in her heart and move on.

What we can only advise or help is to share with you our experiences in going down similar paths. We cannot tell you how to walk because it is your life, and you alone can make decisions for youself. After knowing the story, it is good to find something useful like a hobby or sport to keep yourself pre-occupied. Bottomline is enrich yourself, enjoy yourself, and be happy knowing you now have more options to play with.

[50shades]

Thank you for all of your kind words and advice.
Sadly, we were never an item. If I were his gf and we broke up, I won't have much regrets b/cos at least we had been through things and I can relish on those fond memories.
Unfortunately, none of his friends/family knew about me. I met him online last year. We got feelings for each other instantly but shortly after, he dismissed it as just infatuation & want a clean break. So I compromised to be 'frens' instead. Later somehow, we became FBs but I still have feelings for him. Recently, he kept questioning me if we are truly FBs. Then just few days ago, he "break up" with me over sms, saying he's seeing some one else now. He stopped replying me. I've many Qns boggling my mind b/cos the last time we met, it went perfectly. No glitches. I just want to convince myself with a pic of them togt if "the someone else" really exists. I'm feeling very despondent that despite me always being there for him for so long, i never stand a chance to be his GF? Am i so undesirable?

[Turtle]

Originally Posted by 50shades

I'm feeling very despondent that despite me always being there for me for so long, i never stand a chance to date him? Am i so undesirable?

How old are you? 50shades remind me of a book about a man in his fifties... keke

[50shades]

Yes, 50 shades is indeed a book title
No, I'm not 50

Thanks for your PMs guys. Some express their willingness to help out 👍 but they aren't from the campus or right fac, I dunno how u can help.

Just like to clarify I'm not searching for a replacement FB, so don't write in with that intention. This is 100% voluntary. I don't have anything for u, except to be your friend who owes u a big favour.

[wally888]

Sorry to disappoint, not sure how many male undergrad surf SBF and also willingly expose themselves for some "voluntary work". My guess they can do voluntary work to gain ECA points rather than helping a forgone cause.

Suggest u give them some motivations, e.g. monetary or pay in kind, etc.

[helldarknessqaz]

Originally Posted by 50shades

Yes, 50 shades is indeed a book title
No, I'm not 50

Thanks for your PMs guys. Some express their willingness to help out 👍 but they aren't from the campus or right fac, I dunno how u can help.

Just like to clarify I'm not searching for a replacement FB, so don't write in with that intention. This is 100% voluntary. I don't have anything for u, except to be your friend who owes u a big favour.

It's midterm week now right?
You should be concentrating on your midterms.
Not sure if I can help but...
I am from comp eng.
But what's the point?
It's better to move on and concentrate on your mid term tests.

[50shades]

Thanks for ur concern but I'm not having any tests.
Isn't comp eng in computing? I think he's taking mech/indust eng but haven't chosen specialization yet?

Originally Posted by wally888

Sorry to disappoint, not sure how many male undergrad surf SBF and also willingly expose themselves for some "voluntary work". My guess they can do voluntary work to gain ECA points rather than helping a forgone cause.

I'm grateful for their help so it will be discreet.
It won't take much, just keeping their eyes peeled when in sch, & snap a photo if suspect is seen acting intimately with a girl.

For the record, it's CCA era now, no longer ECA.

[diputs1269]

How can a person just disappear like that, so irresponsible of him.
TS got the right to know the situation she is in.
Hope he can face the his action bravely.
Hope TS can be strong as life is full of challanges.