Feeling hopeless over physical appearance

[milfmilf]

if the girl expect you to be tall then she is shallow

tall or big size so what? make a better construction worker?

[milfmilf]

a friend got very difficult to control skin problem and he thinks he will never get a wife that can accept him ... sad lah

[StoolPigeon]

Thanks for all the advice and encouragement given

I am not sure if anyone can relate to this. But many times i wake up feeling energetic & good... until i look into the mirror and see my awfully thinning & receding hairline. And i look like a cancer patient with my thinning hair and pale complexion & scrawny physique, no matter how good i feel inside.

It's not so much about attracting gals for that matter. For a long time, I have always fought hard to keep those gloomy thoughts away. I tell myself, although I can’t do anything about my height, but I can still look good with some hard work! With my hair nicely styled up, put on a nice shirt and pair of good shoes – I still stand a fighting chance.

But it’s like even my last thread of mental support got taken away when my hairline starts to recede badly and a growing bald patch at the top of my head. Suddenly, all these got to me very badly … there are days where I just feel so depressed that I will take mc to stay at home, lose interest in things such as meeting up with friends like i used to.

[StoolPigeon]

Originally Posted by jnudes

Simply lead a happy single life and ignore what other people say. Of course I am not suggesting you to be single forever. For sure you can start and try dating again. I am sure there would be someone who can accept you of your current condition.

Thanks for the kind words bro. Truly appreciate all the advice given here.

I am not exactly worried about not being able to find a partner. It's just that i hate the way i look.

But who wouldn't, if they were in my shoes right?

[PPGirl]

Originally Posted by StoolPigeon

Thanks for the kind words bro. Truly appreciate all the advice given here.

I am not exactly worried about not being able to find a partner. It's just that i hate the way i look.

But who wouldn't, if they were in my shoes right?

Stop complaining. U are much more fortunate than pple who are diagnosed with cancer. They have to go through chemo.. see their hair dropped day by day even though they dun wish to. And undergoin alot of pain too.

For ur info, if u are stressed or worried too much, hair will dropped too.

I think 1 thing u lack is self confidence. Anyway u mentioned took mc to stay at hm, lost interest in things ..these are some symptoms of depression. But then since u join this forum, i think u are not that depressed at all LoLz. So after getting all the kind advices, what is ur next step?

Originally Posted by StoolPigeon

Please pardon me as i know this is not exactly a commercial sex related issue, but i really need a place where i can get some solid advices, and probably some bros here might have experienced some of the issues i faced.

All my life i have been battling with issues that is affecting my physical appearance badly. I am short (1.68m), have a very sensitive skin condition which gives me bad rashes, awful physical built (my head is big, body is small) and now to make things painfully hard to accept, i have a badly receding hairline & basically going bald.

If not for all these physical defects, I am very certain I will be like most of my peers settled down with a wife and probably have a young child at my age now (30 this year). But instead, I’m draining up both financially and emotionally having to deal with these physical issues one after another – coming to terms with being short and dealing with my skin condition. After spending a lot of money on treatment (consulting skin specialist, laser treatment) and effort for close to 2 years, my skin condition is now finally under control. And just when i thought i could finally accept myself and move on with life, my hair loss deteriorate very badly in the recent one year and now i have an awfully receded hairline (and some balding on the top).

And the emotional cost to my life is immeasurable too – my relative asked my mom if I was a homosexual because of “the way I looked and I cannot seemed to find a gf for quite long”. At work, some of my colleagues passed pretty nasty comments like it’s obvious I find it a challenge to date gals cos I am not tall and now going bald.

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

Actually if it is really ezcema skin rashes, there is no cure. It usually inflicts the sufferer during his late teens to late 20s and just stays dormant for a number of years by the time one reaches around 30 but the severe skin rashes will come back again when the person reaches his 40s. Becos this problem is inherent in his genes And medication and medical treatment cannot make the ezcema skin rashes get cured permanently.

I have 1 relative he had bad rashes during his teens to around 28, then suddenly his skin rashes just disappear for many years. Then when he reached around 40, his ezcema skin rashes return to inflict his skin in even worse severity than during his 20plus-years-old time.

All the skin doctors also told him this condition got no permanent cure and can only maintain becos it will surely come back to inflict the person in his later years again becos this condition is in his genes.

This is not to scare you becos this is really true and it really happened to someone.

[greatdane88]

My advice is cut botak and train your body.

it is cool to many people out there and you will look clean.

Pm me if you ever need help in grooming yourself.

Not any expert but pretty sure i can do the task well enough.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by StoolPigeon

But it’s like even my last thread of mental support got taken away when my hairline starts to recede badly and a growing bald patch at the top of my head.

http://www.hairtransplantnetwork.com/

[fictionman]

If 1.68 is consider short in ur eyes, then im a hobbit at 1.67...

Bro...Keep ur chin up...

[malou]

1.68 short.. u know average sg guy height is 1.706m, according to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_height

You are average height..

[arsenal_84]

I also have receding hair line...at the age of 30, I'm single too.
At a mere 1.7, I'm also no taller.
So at some point if my hairline get serious, i will consider 2 by 1 or even botok.
Quite like the 2 by 1 square top since my ndu days lol especially in hot weather like this.
I ever heard the phrase "bald is beautiful" from clubsnap forum, though i can't really understand it at the moment, i believed someday i will.
Stay positive and the good vibes will shine from within yourself.

[pleasurehobby]

Originally Posted by StoolPigeon

Thanks for all the advice and encouragement given

I am not sure if anyone can relate to this. But many times i wake up feeling energetic & good... until i look into the mirror and see my awfully thinning & receding hairline. And i look like a cancer patient with my thinning hair and pale complexion & scrawny physique, no matter how good i feel inside.

It's not so much about attracting gals for that matter. For a long time, I have always fought hard to keep those gloomy thoughts away. I tell myself, although I can’t do anything about my height, but I can still look good with some hard work! With my hair nicely styled up, put on a nice shirt and pair of good shoes – I still stand a fighting chance.

But it’s like even my last thread of mental support got taken away when my hairline starts to recede badly and a growing bald patch at the top of my head. Suddenly, all these got to me very badly … there are days where I just feel so depressed that I will take mc to stay at home, lose interest in things such as meeting up with friends like i used to.

it is easy to say, but the truth still stands.
Only when a person can truely appreciate and accepts himself, then can he enjoy life moving forward.
Instead of think and glooming about what you have lost, focus on what you have.
A working body, 4 limbs, sustainable income, food to eat everyday.
We are more fotunate than we think we are.
Ask yourself this question, if today an unfortunate accident happens (touch wood), and god only allow you one thing, between losing hair, or losing an arm or a leg, which one would you lose?

[demonhunter]

I have seen Chio bu with fucking short , fat n ugly man .

The answer ? MONEY !

Fann Wong used to have a fat boyfriend , he is quite a loaded guy .

Sometimes its more on confidence , off course being clean cut is essential .

Having the bod and looks does have an advantage though .But nothing beats cash rich !

[hunter2005]

bro TS, to let u know.. i know this gal, whom is my wife's friend.. she is pretty, slim, outgoing, n energetic and also come from a wealth family.. a NUS graduate.. nice right.. solid gal right... we use to have gathering during festive season... one of the guy friend whom is shorter than her by a head, by the way this gal shld b ard 167+-, hair problem like u.. seriously getting bold... age 20++ but u ask someone tat dont know him sure say 30++, o level education, taking home 2k+, from poor family staying in a v old 3 rooms flat... but but.... he is those v sunny guy, helpful.. u got a problem... he will help u in what everway he can... end of the day... both stay together n have 2 children... n the gal move to stay with him in hdb from a private landed property... moral of the story... if any so call friends or gal teasing ur look or mking u feel damm inferior.. they r not worth to b mention by u... shut them off kick them out of ur life...

167m is not short seriously... regarding ur hair problem... if i was u.. i go get it cut till botak.. skin head.. cool..

body feature can go exercise... whether it turn out solid or not is one thing, but trust me, regular exercise will definately make u more self confident....

just b positive / happy.. a positive singal will attract positive ppl.

as for got partner / gf / wife.. this one individual.. u can ask around alot of our married bro will rather not tie the knot if they can start all over again.. haha..

[MissyMystery]

Hi TS,
If a person judge you by looks without knowing you, then just forget about it.
Personally, i feel inner beauty take precedence over physical appearance.
I only make friends to people who are genuine by nature, not because they are cute, handsome. Mostly guys who are handsome tend to think highly of themselves, and they are not as caring and helpful to ladies. As you know, females are emotional beings. Hence, if you feel you are lacking in appearance, you could work hard on being more thoughtful, gentleman, helpful to others in your everyday life (as it's more impt how you carry yourself), or just concentrate on your career.
I'm sure you have other ways to impress girls other than looks. (E.g. Sense of humour, being sophisticated) be positive, cheerful. Don't frown, you never know who is falling in love with your smile

Lastly, Ladies appreciate guys who know how to treat them well. good luck!