Have you ever regretted?

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by funlovingboy

To be frank, till now, I still do not know when I can forget her and stop pinning for her. It was a lost hope. Maybe she is better off without me. Maybe I should keep trying to forget her. Maybe, just maybe......

Why try to forget her?????

My 1st ex-wife whom I've broken up with more than 17 years ago, is still fondly in my memory. Do I still love her til today? You bet!

But life goes on.... bro, life goes on.

Cheers
Tee Vee

[Mightaswell]

Originally Posted by imaginative

Sigh.. I think i am rather envious of Bro MightAsWell.

Yes, I am looking forward to a good many years of cheonging with a clear conscience, but only because it's a Hobson's choice. Given a choice however, I think I will still take my "family" life, with wife and kids. Since that's not to be, WL's and FL's will have to do

One added advantage is that I can now afford a lot more without having to upkeep a family

[funlovingboy]

[QUOTE=bernie]
here cums the problem which i ned bros 2 help:

i duno whether i still love her anot now. but i would b waken by nitemares of she having a new bf or gettin married. n i will b damn bad mood n gloomy. dis had been hapening 4 the past yrs since i broke off wif her. n deep inside my heart i noe dat if dat was true, i wont b able 2 take it.[QUOTE=bernie]

bro,

i strongly suggest that you give this a very careful thought. from what you revealed, it seems rather clear to me that you still love her a lot. perhaps your love for her has never vanished. it has been hidden at a corner of your heart, waiting for the appropriate moment to surface. the only fear is that it will surface only too late.

you got to make up your mind soon. the worst thing to happen is the time when you call her, asking for a reconciliation, only to find out that she is attached.

i had gone through this path of agony and have been constantly tormented by it. from this relationship, i have learnt a hell lot. indeed, i have become a better boyfriend and to be honest, my current girlfriend is the only one whom i have done so much for. i have finally learnt something which men tend to neglect. i have learnt to cherish and treasure.

[funlovingboy]

Originally Posted by ProblemPrincess

this is life..... things got to move on......
i understand your pain, but what to do?
she had moved on in her life, so can you.
see open bro.

thanks bro. indeed, i should move on. no point hampering after such a thought anymore. thank you for your advice.

[funlovingboy]

Originally Posted by Mightaswell

To bro funlovingboy, don't look back - look to the future. Broken hearts are part of the trials and tribulations of life. There is a reason for everything that happens in our lives - call it fate or destiny - but, from an older man (i.e. me), don't regret the things that you do, right or wrong. The only regret would be when you are too old, to say, "IF ONLY...."

bro,

i fully agree with you. i do not wish to have any regrets when i have aged. it was fate that brought us together and it was also fate that we parted. thank you for your advice

[funlovingboy]

Originally Posted by imaginative

"Life can only be understood backwards; But it must be lived forwards."

"Yesterday is gone and there's nothing you can do about it".

- quoted from some motivational cards

wow bro, some nice quotes you have here. indeed inspiring and i shall remember them. thank you

[funlovingboy]

Originally Posted by Soul_Reaper

Maybe fate meant this episode as a learning lesson for u so that u may treat your next GF better

bro,

i have really learnt a lot and well, this current relationship is the first time when i have actually treated a girl just the way they should be treated. thank you for your advice

[funlovingboy]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Why try to forget her?????

My 1st ex-wife whom I've broken up with more than 17 years ago, is still fondly in my memory. Do I still love her til today? You bet!

But life goes on.... bro, life goes on.

bro,

you are right. instead of harbouring any thoughts of a reconciliation, it will be better to have her in my memory. one of the best thing that had ever happened to me was to know her and to love her.

[funlovingboy]

Originally Posted by Reaper

Till this very day...I still love my very first GF....y??? bcoz its my first..... keep the good memories....throw away the bad...sometimes it good to remeber the past..because it reminds us of where we come from and who we are today.....

but never let it control your life......life goes on whether u want it to or not..so might as well carry on living your life and njoy wat lies ahead of you.. take it as a learning experience so that you would commit the same mistake again.....

CHEERS

bro,

for a long while, i was trying to grab a hold of my life. what you advise are right. i should carry on with my life and enjoy whatever that come my way. life is too short for any regrets. thank you for your advice

[Mightaswell]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Why try to forget her?????

My 1st ex-wife whom I've broken up with more than 17 years ago, is still fondly in my memory. Do I still love her til today? You bet!

But life goes on.... bro, life goes on.

Cheers
Tee Vee

Now that we seem to have resolved the issue for bro funlovingboy, how about the rest of us? Bro Thaivisitor, great that you still think fondly of your ex after all these years. But who split with who? If she was the one that left, did you not initially feel bitter etc? In my case, it is the feeling of betrayal and especially the breakup of the family with the kids being the innocent victims - all because my other half wants "something different". And boy, is she going to get something different - paying all the bills for a start kekeke

[milffella]

Originally Posted by funlovingboy

As I continued to venture down the road of life, inside my heart, I had quietly hoped that I had never made that call. To be frank, till now, I still do not know when I can forget her and stop pinning for her. It was a lost hope. Maybe she is better off without me. Maybe I should keep trying to forget her. Maybe, just maybe......

never fear bro, if u really like her keep her , there are too many women around..

so many women.....so little time...

[sundial]

For me I didn't realise how much I love my wife until i was jobless for almost 1 yr. She was there for me all the time, nvr pressure me nor looked down on me.

Before that I though i didnt love her as much, as i married her for the sake of been convience as our r/ship was over 8 yrs and breaking out was hard.

[funlovingboy]

Originally Posted by sundial

For me I didn't realise how much I love my wife until i was jobless for almost 1 yr. She was there for me all the time, nvr pressure me nor looked down on me.

Before that I though i didnt love her as much, as i married her for the sake of been convience as our r/ship was over 8 yrs and breaking out was hard.

things we have usually taken for granted are normally the best things that have happened in our lives. fun, eg sex, are what we men constantly seek for in the prime of our lives. but it is love, esp from our wives, that will acompany us for the rest of our lives, be it for good times or bad times. bro, i must say that you will surely the envy of all men.

[oakleyeug]

I seriously regretted my choice also, I thought of penning it down here but did not have the courage. Alot of things happened to me and I think I find myself super stupid, at times I wanted to shout out loud and make myself feel more comfortable.

She was a gal that I really love and will remember her for life, I got to know her during the NS days. If memory does not fail me it is during 1999 we got togather , I still remember during that times I was slim and happen to be hanging around with lots of ladies. I know her through phone and during that time she and her mate is interested in me, I choose her because she has gal next door look.

Things went well for the first year, we did not quarrel and she was very supportive towards my NS duties (1 week at least 5 Ambulance Duty stand by for air force). I always make time for her, life was good and happy. 1 day I realized god is playing a trick on me, he send in another lady to test me. I fell for it like a sucker, I broke off with her on the 1 year beach mark.

Then again god heard my plead after I fell out with the gal he send, she returned to me. I was happy and till 1 day I was temped, this gal happens to be a ex classmate of mine. I broke off again and this time it is very serious till it affects both of us emotionaly, I was again duped by this gal by the thousands and ended up losing my job.

I tried all but in vain, I missed her and told myself off for the stupid mistake. During that time I slim down by 10kg living on coffee and cigs, life was hard as I lost my job and everything turned against me.

Then 1 day I managed to come to China with a oppurnity, I managed a good job now and have got myself a gf. I admit she does not really understand me to the extend my ex did but I really appreciate a lot of actions she done for me.

I don know how much it will take for a guy to learn his lesson, but I learned mine through the hard way. Guys be responsible and don think you will not regret cause you never know.

Hope I am not too harsh, good luck to all in relationship.

Oak

[Clonie]

learnt mine the hard way too..if i get another chance with my ex which i'm hoping for, i'll never let her down again..sigh..y must we only treasure someone after we lose them..