Should I lose my virginity ?

[jackson59]

Originally Posted by Didactus

I’m 25 and a virgin. Never had a gf and all my girl friendships are platonic. I’m also not really the type to flirt much less look for girls just to fuck or have a ONS with. But I once thought to myself before, since I’m not getting laid anytime soon, why not wait for marriage ? Over the years, this expectation went down. If I had a gf who was open to it, I’d lose my virginity to her. It even went to if a girl is willing to have sex with me, I’d just do it. Until I thought, if I’m single with absolutely no love interests when I’m 25, I’ll just pay for it.

Usually this would be a no brainer, but then I keep thinking about how I first got a bj from a thai girl I booked when I was 19. The experience was great no doubt, but the depression and feeling of guilt that followed after was crippling. I spent the next hour just wandering around the area wondering “What am I doing with my life”. And I also spent the next week trying to spend as much time as possible with my family cos I felt so sinful and lost my innocence. Of course, everything went back to normal the next week and I was already looking for the next girl.

But I’m just afraid the post-sex depression would hit me 10x harder just because I lost my virginity by paying for it. And also sex still feels kinda sacred and taboo to me. I’m not the most religious guy but I grew up with my relatives on my father’s side who is very religious. I guess it’s still kinda stuck. And also, I’m a sentimental person. I’m not sure how I would feel about losing my virginity to someone I’m not emotionally connected to.

I still want to finally have sex. And I don’t see myself getting a gf or getting married anytime soon. And my 25th birthday is also coming up. I know I can’t get a definitive answer but I’d just like to know your thoughts or advice

Bro, all I can say is: sex is overrated.
After losing your virginity, you will still be as lost.
You are not looking for lust, you are looking for love.
And the best time to look for love is when you are not looking. Trust me, she'll come to you one day.

[ExBro]

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Bro... u are not what u seem, what’s the purpose here dude!?

[Didactus]

Originally Posted by ExBro

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Bro... u are not what u seem, what’s the purpose here dude!?

What do you mean bro ?

[flewscoot]

Originally Posted by ExBro

Bro, I’ve BAD news!

You are no longer a VIRGIN!



its called oral SEX.

And since u had sex... why the fuss about “losing” something u already LOST 6 yrs ago?

Dun over think and do whatever lifts your boat!

Life is too short to agonize over such a small thing. Unless it’s a micro p...., how many 25 yrs have u got man! At most 2-3 more only.

Eat, sleep (incl sex) and be Merry!

Got people always 25 leh, ask Alan Tam

[chirpydog]

Originally Posted by Didactus

I’m 25 and a virgin. Never had a gf and all my girl friendships are platonic. I’m also not really the type to flirt much less look for girls just to fuck or have a ONS with. But I once thought to myself before, since I’m not getting laid anytime soon, why not wait for marriage ? Over the years, this expectation went down. If I had a gf who was open to it, I’d lose my virginity to her. It even went to if a girl is willing to have sex with me, I’d just do it. Until I thought, if I’m single with absolutely no love interests when I’m 25, I’ll just pay for it.

Usually this would be a no brainer, but then I keep thinking about how I first got a bj from a thai girl I booked when I was 19. The experience was great no doubt, but the depression and feeling of guilt that followed after was crippling. I spent the next hour just wandering around the area wondering “What am I doing with my life”. And I also spent the next week trying to spend as much time as possible with my family cos I felt so sinful and lost my innocence. Of course, everything went back to normal the next week and I was already looking for the next girl.

But I’m just afraid the post-sex depression would hit me 10x harder just because I lost my virginity by paying for it. And also sex still feels kinda sacred and taboo to me. I’m not the most religious guy but I grew up with my relatives on my father’s side who is very religious. I guess it’s still kinda stuck. And also, I’m a sentimental person. I’m not sure how I would feel about losing my virginity to someone I’m not emotionally connected to.

I still want to finally have sex. And I don’t see myself getting a gf or getting married anytime soon. And my 25th birthday is also coming up. I know I can’t get a definitive answer but I’d just like to know your thoughts or advice

Keep your virginity. Practice on a Tenga and give your virgin wife a hell of a good time on the wedding night. Your marriage will last till your last breathe.

[ilovepantyhose]

go and watch the 40 year old virgin

why huan lo??

[denshachikan]

Buy some tenga and practice first, if not, very likely you will cum very soon after penetration, or even worse, lose your erection due to anxiety. Kiap your tenga between pillow and move your hips instead of doing the normal wanking by moving your hands.

If you want to add more realism, microwave your tenga for about 10 to 15 seconds. But make sure you dip your fingers in to test the temperature to avoid burning your cork.

[LQQKN4SUM]

Technically, you are considered adult. You are free to make own decision either way no matter what you choose, only you can determine your own guilt,pleasure, regret, anxiety level... I think you are "over-thinking" IMO...
You letting your family upbringing influence your thinking - be that good or bad, again only you can answer.
Sammster's here say... be a man, go for it, save it, go find love, etc. etc..

We all have made choices in life, some we regret, some we don't... up to individual to understand the impact...

Regardless of what you decide, if you go to P4P to "lose it" then let the provider know it's your "1st time" she hopefully will be flattered and try to make it special for you... that would save you the embarrassment of fumbling/bumbling with a GF, if you find one.

Alternatively, have you discussed with your platonic female friends ? Anyone of them take an interest ? You can make it like a science experiment - biology lesson, learning experience, whatever you want to call it.

As for how it will feel, depends on the size condom you use and the tightness of the pussy you push into..

Just don't try to bang like a porn star on your 1st go mate... me thinks, it won't last that long for you anyway, but that's just my guess...

Every guy remembers his 1st time just as every woman.. it's up to you to decide how you want to remember it and who you choose to do it with.

You can try to "sell" your virginity to highest bidder as well girls have been doing that for ages... 21st century now, got some cougar willing to pay I'm sure you never thought of that angle lah ?

Good luck and keep us posted on what happens...

[ExBro]

Originally Posted by Didactus

What do you mean bro ?

U have had multi Bbbjs and engaged several FLs, a few multi times and one who loves anal

Hard to believe you consider yourself “virgin”, or is it: “today still a virgin”?

[Didactus]

Originally Posted by ExBro

U have had multi Bbbjs and engaged several FLs, a few multi times and one who loves anal

Hard to believe you consider yourself “virgin”, or is it: “today still a virgin”?

Yeah another bro already pointed it out. I’m not technically a virgin. I must have a misconception about it all this time. Still it’s a big deal for me when I finally get to be in a pussy

[Gikko]

Originally Posted by Didactus

Yeah another bro already pointed it out. I’m not technically a virgin. I must have a misconception about it all this time. Still it’s a big deal for me when I finally get to be in a pussy

Just remember to put it in the right hole bro. Jajajaja

[LauJiao]

Originally Posted by Didactus

Yeah another bro already pointed it out. I’m not technically a virgin. I must have a misconception about it all this time. Still it’s a big deal for me when I finally get to be in a pussy

I lost mine pretty late too (with a fling), but as most bros said, its overrated. Well, there no harm (practice safe sex) trying it for the first time with a FL,and probably you can learn more about safety and hygiene too. I remember a ML lecturing me on some 'life lesson' during my first encounter

[Didactus]

Originally Posted by LauJiao

I lost mine pretty late too (with a fling), but as most bros said, its overrated. Well, there no harm (practice safe sex) trying it for the first time with a FL,and probably you can learn more about safety and hygiene too. I remember a ML lecturing me on some 'life lesson' during my first encounter

Thanks for sharing bro. Honestly think why I’m overthinking things is because I don’t talk to anyone about this side of my life. Like I originally said, I was raised in a “proper” environment. And the friends that I made are that way too. Not saying they are saints but they’re not the kind to drink, go clubbing and have sex. They’re not what our society label as “the wrong crowd”. So when I start chionging, it became my double life. Now, that I got to see the thoughts and opinions of people who have experience, I’m not so worked up and worried about this

[LauJiao]

Originally Posted by Didactus

Thanks for sharing bro. Honestly think why I’m overthinking things is because I don’t talk to anyone about this side of my life. Like I originally said, I was raised in a “proper” environment. And the friends that I made are that way too. Not saying they are saints but they’re not the kind to drink, go clubbing and have sex. They’re not what our society label as “the wrong crowd”. So when I start chionging, it became my double life. Now, that I got to see the thoughts and opinions of people who have experience, I’m not so worked up and worried about this

You are not alone . You will be surprised when you speak to colleague/friends to a deeper level, and you realized by large they do have some encounters, and usually they don't really judge you (true bros).

But then again, don't get overly hooked on it. I am now trying to curb my urge to visit a ML more regularly cause she gave me good GFE haha.

[larue]

Originally Posted by Didactus

Thanks for sharing bro. Honestly think why I’m overthinking things is because I don’t talk to anyone about this side of my life. Like I originally said, I was raised in a “proper” environment. And the friends that I made are that way too. Not saying they are saints but they’re not the kind to drink, go clubbing and have sex. They’re not what our society label as “the wrong crowd”. So when I start chionging, it became my double life. Now, that I got to see the thoughts and opinions of people who have experience, I’m not so worked up and worried about this

So you chiong with all these FLs and never put your cock in their pussy before?

“Proper” upbringing is overrated and a major cause of human unhappiness.