Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[justawife]

Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar

Don't really need to make him cum with a blow job. Just be willing to spend some time to give him a nice blowjob. If his smell or taste bothers you, than look into his hygiene and diet (with him).

Learn how to give a good BJ and HJ... just Google. Lots of articles out there written by both men and women. HJ is not as straight forward as women think... if done wrongly, can be painful.

Don't ever let him know you fantasise about someone else... it's quite devastating.

Spice up your sex life by getting some books about sex. The nice ones by sexologists. You can Google or go Amazon.com to find them, then try to get them in the bigger outlets of local bookshops. Else import.

Lots of women's websites that talk about sex and keeping it fun in the bedroom too. Again, Google.

Thanks for your advice... so it is impt to really brush up on skills in bed. BTW hor really so devastating meh men also fantasize mah haha ok ok will definately try not to call the wrong name while having an orgasm LOL

[gocoffeebean]

I'm only married for 3 yrs ... Already long long time no get it liao.. Nearly 2 yrs...
My buddy only 2 yrs... Even worse.... Only first 4mths get it...

So how?

[stone08]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

mg.. loves the sharing of experiences here.. keep them cumming.. made me wet too.. kekeke

What the...did u reply to the wrong thread?

[stone08]

Originally Posted by tamtam

Quite true actually, in the past, my wife used to make it like a reward system for helping her do house choirs.

At first it was lovey dovey, dear help me mop floor, clean windows and wash cloths, and i give you a good one tonight, so lan lan do it...

Then slowly it turns out to be....dear if you didn't do this and that, NO SEX !

So now i finally got lots of SEX, but not with her, hehe.......She ends up with all the house choirs to herself !

Marriage should never be used this way..it's like barter trade ....WTF

[stone08]

Sg life too hectic lah. Make all the wifeys so tired, where got mood for sex. Some even say just open leg and lie down also "jiao suan" when the hubby is doing all the work....lol

[SparkleDoll]

This must be the saddest thread in sbf. At least it let's us know we are not alone in this situation.

Sex life with my husband has not improve at all. We did it one more time since that quickie in Jan. Oh well. I can truly say I have given up. Feels guilty yet also feels like the weigh of a heavy stone had been lifted. Although I promised commitment & loyalty to him, I really can't life out my life as a nun or widow. I'm still in my 20s. So I have come to terms that I might have to look outside of the marriage for satisfaction in this area. Hopefully keep it from my husband.

Next week I am meeting a fren for drinks. We have known each other for yrs and he's always had the hots for me. Guilty yet excited all the same. I can't care less abt things with my husband anymore. I don't foresee him wanting to have sex with my in the next few yrs anyway. He say he's stress from his biz & when things r better he might relax enough to be intimate with me again. Being the workaholic he is, that probably will only be when he company get listed or smthg. Don't see that happen in the next few yrs. So I'm just gonna fuck it. If he just neglect me then I gez he can't blame me lah.

Hope we all finds the happiness we seek in life.

[5ag1_Boar]

LOL, SparkleDoll... you just about to get bombarded by tonnes of PMs. :-)

[gocoffeebean]

I think a lot of us ... Thought we can do without sex.
But that is a lie... Eventually our body automatic tell us what to do.
Last time I don't bio so much gals, only the really pretty one.
Nowadays practically any gals wearing skirt who comes into my radius of 50 meters ... Kana bio by me. N they all looks pretty anyhow

[asdfghjkl]

wow.. more sharing by bros and siss.. sg is just one stress place to live!

[n30n]

Originally Posted by justawife

Thanks for your advice... so it is impt to really brush up on skills in bed. BTW hor really so devastating meh men also fantasize mah haha ok ok will definately try not to call the wrong name while having an orgasm LOL

Oh, some time back i saw an article about a local sexologist. She start up a company teach guy and girl about pleasure skill.
I think it's something along the line, but i forgot the details.
She's considered as some entrepreneur who set up this "education" company.

Yes, don't tell them you fantasize other men. Their ego very big, yet very brittle. Once broken very hard to mend, same as our trust for them.

When this kinda issue crop up, don't pretend it never happens, and find your way around it. Need to discuss with him and work things out. Like take initiative to make him appear more hot to you. E.g. buy him new undies, perfume and stuff.

The more you push problems under the rug, when the rug give way, hell will break loose.

[n30n]

Originally Posted by justawife

Well, I dont have much experience with men... but since when men come clean with their wives wan ... think they only HTH talk with their friends or worst, their mistresses...

Can talk to them one.
You need to be tactical so they can reveal all their secrets.

Rule of thumb, respect their private space.
When you confront them, make sure they have all the time in the world to reveal to you. Don't rush them. Don't corner them. Let them have some space to back down.
If they want to cool down or run, can.
Let them run, but tell them after running for a few days, meet at a certain deadline and talk about it. Give them time to prepare mentally.

If they tell you the worst of the worst issues, don't scream at him immediately.
Thank him for telling you and not hiding.
Listen finish everything. Sayang him first, then ask him to sayang you till you calm down. Then both talk about it.

Slowly cultivate the habit of feeling safe with each other.
If not very hard to communicate difficult issues.

[5ag1_Boar]

n30n, Good stuff. Your bf is a lucky man... I hope he realises that.

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by n30n

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E.g. buy him new undies, perfume and stuff.

...

I don't know about other guys, but I'm fussy about my undies... need to be comfortable, fitting etc. When my ex bought me undies, she bought the wrong size... and it shows she does even know my waist size... quiet disappointing.

Make sure you get him the right ones, or at least choose with him. Don't surprise him.

[tamtam]

Originally Posted by n30n

Can talk to them one.
You need to be tactical so they can reveal all their secrets.

Rule of thumb, respect their private space.
When you confront them, make sure they have all the time in the world to reveal to you. Don't rush them. Don't corner them. Let them have some space to back down.
If they want to cool down or run, can.
Let them run, but tell them after running for a few days, meet at a certain deadline and talk about it. Give them time to prepare mentally.

If they tell you the worst of the worst issues, don't scream at him immediately.
Thank him for telling you and not hiding.
Listen finish everything. Sayang him first, then ask him to sayang you till you calm down. Then both talk about it.

Slowly cultivate the habit of feeling safe with each other.
If not very hard to communicate difficult issues.

Sorry i m not against you directly...

Don't do these, never confess you past mistakes or adventures with your wives, its their trick, listen to you nicely at first then comes the Tsunami !!!

Can die, cannot confess ! You will be a dead meat after that...immediately.
I personally gone thru these, NEVER NEVER EVER DO THESE. You will have alot to regret after telling her everything.

[tamtam]

Originally Posted by SparkleDoll

This must be the saddest thread in sbf. At least it let's us know we are not alone in this situation.

Sex life with my husband has not improve at all. We did it one more time since that quickie in Jan. Oh well. I can truly say I have given up. Feels guilty yet also feels like the weigh of a heavy stone had been lifted. Although I promised commitment & loyalty to him, I really can't life out my life as a nun or widow. I'm still in my 20s. So I have come to terms that I might have to look outside of the marriage for satisfaction in this area. Hopefully keep it from my husband.

Next week I am meeting a fren for drinks. We have known each other for yrs and he's always had the hots for me. Guilty yet excited all the same. I can't care less abt things with my husband anymore. I don't foresee him wanting to have sex with my in the next few yrs anyway. He say he's stress from his biz & when things r better he might relax enough to be intimate with me again. Being the workaholic he is, that probably will only be when he company get listed or smthg. Don't see that happen in the next few yrs. So I'm just gonna fuck it. If he just neglect me then I gez he can't blame me lah.

Hope we all finds the happiness we seek in life.

Wow, where to find a lady like you, all guys here had so much trouble bedding their wives, and you actually got a hubby that didn't bothers you !OMG.

How about swapping, he can have my wife, and they both can go on sexless till what ever they want, we both bonk each others' brains out.