Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by A1406
Well said Bro. Yes that why I still in the marriage LL for my son. But I had told her before that then she say ok but still NATO from her. Aiya if can I will not turn to this forum for SOS😭
Ya, it's all for the kids sometimes. Sigh. Start with the nights out drinking and karaoke bah. No penetration. Make sure she is aware, and that's the result of her choice. Then roll with it bah.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by MoJoe313
Every man says that. That he cares for his family. When I last saw my father in his coffin, he was into his 3rd wife. Needless to say, I suffered the brunts of his lust. Amongst my friends, 50% are either not married or divorced. In my office, all are divorced. I look into the eyes of their young kids. It is not a pretty sight. It all starts with a little fling, a little side romance ....at your point in life. Then the discoveries, the fights, the golf clubs swinging (not at the golf ball). I am motivated to tell my kids a different story.
Wisdom, if so easy, is not wisdom. If so why do so many bros fall.
For me, after solving the "tired" part, I talked plainly to her. I told her men are built differently. We are built to need sex else mankind would have ended long ago. Why so? Ask the creator, not me. It is something she will not feel. Women are built differently - to require love and the warmth of a family. Something we men can do without if needed. If my needs are not satisfied, I have no choice but to eat out, and I don't want that. There has to be a compromise of sorts. Meeting each other halfway. Not just her satisfying her needs only - of a beautiful family her version. She accepted it. Over time.
Some times it takes a little push. I'd sing chinese songs while bathing. She'd think I went karaoke with women. Every women operates with jealousy if you know them enough. Use it to your advantage. And yes, you gotta be a little thick skin. It's just the way things are. Its a pride swallowing process. For your kid.
Call me heartless bastard but I do not think that one should start to live sub-par lifestyle simply because you have a kid. You make all the sacrifices while you are still (relatively) young and if things still continue to go bad....you might end up having to divorce when you grow old where there is almost no f**king chance of finding marital happiness ever again (generalization, but you get the hint). How many friends or family members are like that? To me, too many to count. Get stuck in a loveless marriage simply because of kid/kids, sleeping on the same bed with a stranger.
To the TS, we all live only once, and why should you remain unhappy? The lack of sex in a marriage is a symptom and usually not the only cause for an unhappy marriage. Are you engaged psychological/emotional to your wife? Do both of you confide in each other anything and everything?
Women withhold sex for various reasons whether it is physically or emotionally. With her ability to get pregnant naturally (and the fact that she got impregnated by you, i hope) means that to some degree she is not physically incapable of having sex which does mean that there is higher chance she is emotionally/mentally unable/unwilling to have sex with you.
Either talk to your wife and attempt to find out the reason or accept this fact. Is your life, how you want to live it is truly up to you.
Just in case you are wondering, I been through it all and I am glad I took the path that I am on with little regrets.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by A1406
It alway one way from me buying gift for her and she dun seem to appreciate. Ah she not willing to share her daily life as sometime I asked her but she just dun bother. Hmmm she hiding something��
You are right that marriage is not all about sex but human beings have needs also. Keep on DIY also not a solution. Eat out will solve the problem as I dun need to approach her then will not get into an ugly situation with her. Outside you get more sex position that u want even she gave in at times when she need she will reject most or 90% of the position just to get it done and over asap.
Imo,if sex is the most impt to men, then money is the equivalent to women.I've seen way more women fall in love with money than in sex/etc, esp when you're living in a first class country like sg.I agree with Mojoe though, sometimes men need to wayang abit, in front of other people must act very sey, but in front/alone with wife must act abit thick-skinned,i agree pride gets in the way sometimes though.Maybe can try act drunk/come home late just to see how she react.
And we all know most sg women are rather cui/spoilt when it comes to sex life,they just don't seems to gum well with sg guys, that's why u can see so many sg men and women buey gum one another.But on a good note, but at least they don't plot so much like those ah tiong bu/vietbu etc.
Ts, try to weigh out the pros and cons, think of ur kids as u're supposed to be their role model, and if u got caught, shit happens.
Lastly, don't expect too much, as the sayings go, the higher the expectations, the larger the disappointment, and of cus if u expect to get sex everytime u asked, u're bound to get disappointed, and can lead to very bad side effects.
In reaction to the poster above me(sleepygordon), Ever if i'm considered young here, i've seen way too many of my friends cheated, and it's not gonna be a good sight if sometimes you're close to them, and you actually know their wife.Imagine everytime u see them together, leave it to ur imagination lol.
You know sometimes i always think that they're just patiently waiting for you to make a mistake,to see if you really love them or just simply to find an excuse to screw u over, don't ever let have that chance over you.Afterall, love is a game - sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
so what path did you take, bro?
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Originally Posted by sleepygordon
Call me heartless bastard but I do not think that one should start to live sub-par lifestyle simply because you have a kid. You make all the sacrifices while you are still (relatively) young and if things still continue to go bad....you might end up having to divorce when you grow old where there is almost no f**king chance of finding marital happiness ever again (generalization, but you get the hint). How many friends or family members are like that? To me, too many to count. Get stuck in a loveless marriage simply because of kid/kids, sleeping on the same bed with a stranger.
To the TS, we all live only once, and why should you remain unhappy? The lack of sex in a marriage is a symptom and usually not the only cause for an unhappy marriage. Are you engaged psychological/emotional to your wife? Do both of you confide in each other anything and everything?
Women withhold sex for various reasons whether it is physically or emotionally. With her ability to get pregnant naturally (and the fact that she got impregnated by you, i hope) means that to some degree she is not physically incapable of having sex which does mean that there is higher chance she is emotionally/mentally unable/unwilling to have sex with you.
Either talk to your wife and attempt to find out the reason or accept this fact. Is your life, how you want to live it is truly up to you.
Just in case you are wondering, I been through it all and I am glad I took the path that I am on with little regrets.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by Johnbass
Tiagong follow my footsteps can improve one's sexlife in marriage...
Dumb dog it is not u follow ts' footsteps : your wife stopped giving u sex since last year. U want to ask TS go desker road to look for sex?are u out of your mind! ?
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by iCunt69
Dumb dog it is not u follow ts' footsteps : your wife stopped giving u sex since last year. U want to ask TS go desker road to look for sex?are u out of your mind! ?
XDD, u go get married 1st then come and talk ok?
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Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by jazp
so what path did you take, bro?
A divorce that took 4 years, going through affidavits of dripping venom, having your personal documents exhibited in court, legal fees of over 50k, downgrade from condo to HDB and I don't see my kid much.
Would I do the above if I am given a choice again? In a single heartbeat and with much pleasure.
Would you trade (almost) anything for freedom and happiness?
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by sleepygordon
A divorce that took 4 years, going through affidavits of dripping venom, having your personal documents exhibited in court, legal fees of over 50k, downgrade from condo to HDB and I don't see my kid much.
Would I do the above if I am given a choice again? In a single heartbeat and with much pleasure.
Would you trade (almost) anything for freedom and happiness?
I left home during one fight. Stayed at a hotel for a period. It was lonely and empty.
What would you trade to hug your son every night before he sleeps? Freedom and happiness.
It's not that bad lah. After lan lan in your 30s (and some sex), your testosterones wanes in your 40s. Once a week is sufficient. The wine glass is more appealing. She becomes your friend and confidante again. But you need that "some sex" going. So work on it.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by Killala
Imo,if sex is the most impt to men, then money is the equivalent to women.I've seen way more women fall in love with money than in sex/etc, esp when you're living in a first class country like sg.I agree with Mojoe though, sometimes men need to wayang abit, in front of other people must act very sey, but in front/alone with wife must act abit thick-skinned,i agree pride gets in the way sometimes though.Maybe can try act drunk/come home late just to see how she react.
And we all know most sg women are rather cui/spoilt when it comes to sex life,they just don't seems to gum well with sg guys, that's why u can see so many sg men and women buey gum one another.But on a good note, but at least they don't plot so much like those ah tiong bu/vietbu etc.
Ts, try to weigh out the pros and cons, think of ur kids as u're supposed to be their role model, and if u got caught, shit happens.
Lastly, don't expect too much, as the sayings go, the higher the expectations, the larger the disappointment, and of cus if u expect to get sex everytime u asked, u're bound to get disappointed, and can lead to very bad side effects.
In reaction to the poster above me(sleepygordon), Ever if i'm considered young here, i've seen way too many of my friends cheated, and it's not gonna be a good sight if sometimes you're close to them, and you actually know their wife.Imagine everytime u see them together, leave it to ur imagination lol.
You know sometimes i always think that they're just patiently waiting for you to make a mistake,to see if you really love them or just simply to find an excuse to screw u over, don't ever let have that chance over you.Afterall, love is a game - sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.
Yes I agree if u have tons of $ you can direct what you need even your own wife.
This is a very practical world. No such things as husband and wife when it come to $.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by Killala
Imo,if sex is the most impt to men, then money is the equivalent to women.I've seen way more women fall in love with money than in sex/etc, esp when you're living in a first class country like sg.I agree with Mojoe though, sometimes men need to wayang abit, in front of other people must act very sey, but in front/alone with wife must act abit thick-skinned,i agree pride gets in the way sometimes though.Maybe can try act drunk/come home late just to see how she react.
And we all know most sg women are rather cui/spoilt when it comes to sex life,they just don't seems to gum well with sg guys, that's why u can see so many sg men and women buey gum one another.But on a good note, but at least they don't plot so much like those ah tiong bu/vietbu etc.
Ts, try to weigh out the pros and cons, think of ur kids as u're supposed to be their role model, and if u got caught, shit happens.
Lastly, don't expect too much, as the sayings go, the higher the expectations, the larger the disappointment, and of cus if u expect to get sex everytime u asked, u're bound to get disappointed, and can lead to very bad side effects.
In reaction to the poster above me(sleepygordon), Ever if i'm considered young here, i've seen way too many of my friends cheated, and it's not gonna be a good sight if sometimes you're close to them, and you actually know their wife.Imagine everytime u see them together, leave it to ur imagination lol.
You know sometimes i always think that they're just patiently waiting for you to make a mistake,to see if you really love them or just simply to find an excuse to screw u over, don't ever let have that chance over you.Afterall, love is a game - sometimes you win, sometimes you lose.
That why I rather find my happiness (sex) outside and return back home not to ask for it from my wife. Think this way life for the whole family will be happier. She happy and I happy also.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
A wife would normally give sex if she is emotionally connected to her hubby. Otherwise, it's difficult. The hubby gotto play his part in making that emotional attachment. Yeah, easier said than done cos most women have moods n you can never please them. Esp after kids. But if you think you still love your wife, then keep trying. Until one day you cannot tahan, then do what's necc. Life is short, must live happy.
Re: What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?
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Originally Posted by A1406
That why I rather find my happiness (sex) outside and return back home not to ask for it from my wife. Think this way life for the whole family will be happier. She happy and I happy also.
Hm with regards to ur previous, I assumed ur wife is not satisfied with ur family finanicial status, maybe that's the source of ur problem.Rmb u must communicate with her, show that u care.
or u could rely on stimulus,like alcohol,trust me, it is a powerful weapon if u can ever get her drunk
alternatively, start a new hobby to past ur time, keeps ur mind from wandering off.
cheating should be the last of the last resort.I don't blame u if u wish to see sex as a transaction,pretty sure there're alot of men out there having the same problem as you.
16-05-2015, 09:05 PM
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