Can you accept your wife's Ex-bf as frz?

[zhivago]

Originally Posted by whitegals

I have no problems with having her ex bf as a fren. In fact, I can let him watch me screw his ex-gf if he likes...

Similarly, I also have no problems if my gf wants to give me a BJ in front of my ex gf...

bro,
no offence there. but wat wud u do if he wanna join u to fuck his ex-gf or make it 3-some? will u agree to it?

[Deadmaninc]

this is one reason why so many singaporean gals prefer caucasian men... coz singaporean guys have NO CONFIDENCE with themselves at all.

It's EX so why u bother about that? GROW UP guys... If u cannot accept that your gf has a past, then I think you better not have one.

[Landlord]

I don't think it is a problem. Personally I am on very good terms with most of my ex-gfs as all my relationships ends on a good note. My wife knows most of them as they do come to my house quite often for parties and dinners. And at my age, most of them are now married, some with kids. I know their spouse quite well too and they all know I was once their wife's ex. One of them once jokingingly said I should start a party with the theme 'party of my exs'. Initially one or two of them were a little bit uncomfortable, but after a while, they realize that we are just good friends.
I think the issue is how much self confidence the husbands or my wife have. If there is no grounds for any hanky panky, why worry. It's just friendship. Be sure of yourself.

On a separate note, we also have to be automatic. Don't do stupid things that might arouse suspicions from either party and never never talk about the past or the what-ifs.

My 2 cents worth......

[dirtymonk82]

i dont think i will be that gracious to be frens with my wife ex lover...mentally will go haywire

[whitegals]

Originally Posted by zhivago

bro,
no offence there. but wat wud u do if he wanna join u to fuck his ex-gf or make it 3-some? will u agree to it?

None taken bro,

It is strictly see no touch. If he's damn horny, I may supply him with a durian to peet his own kar chng.

[evo065]

Of course i can accept that person as a friend. Why wouldn't i?

The only reason you wouldnt is:
- You are insecure in your relationship; or
- You feel inferior to him in bed, looks or whatever

None of this 'imagining how they did it' nonsense.

Because if you have a huge level of self-confidence then it wouldn't matter what he did or throws and you.

You're in a realtionship now so don't let the past ruin your present and future.

Originally Posted by XX26

Why do you want to shake hand with someone who once fuck your gf/ wife?

Ofcourse I don't want. But if she insist that they are just frz? To me, I'm not able to accept. Imagine, a man who ever bonk your car is sitting inside your car or having dinner with you on the same table. I cannot handle it.
So to find out from the bros here whether am I too selfish.

Originally Posted by AlexWee

My humble advice is never associate with you gf's ex or your wife's ex cos you'll be hurt very badly. I agree with bros that you'll be tortured for the rest of u life cos you'll imagine everytime you make love to your gf or wife, your mind will run wild that her ex is screwing her.You'll feel very very bad and u will suffer endless agony.U can't get out of this mental torture.U can't tell her how u feel for this will definitely break your relationship or marriage.

Worse still if u r married with kids, u cannot escape.U will suffer and suffer forever - the image of your wife's ex screwing her will drive you to the madhouse. And to revenge this, u will go around screwing other women to justify your torture.This will go on and on. Very bad and sometimes very tragic ending.

Similarly for your gf or wife, if she knows that u r screwing around and that u have screwed other women whom she is acquainted, also the same. Your sex life will be a nightmare! She'll behave like a wooden block when u r making love to her.

So it's better not to be too acquainted with your gf's or wife's ex. Not healthy for both of you. It's better not to know or pretend not to know. If u really want to have a good relationship and a good marriage,better don't dig the past for the past will always hurt both of u and will destroy the marriage or your relationship with your gf.

Nobody will accept the fact that his wife or gf was screwed by others before no matter how chivalous and gallant, and vice versa. This is human nature.

So my humble advice: don't marry a girl whom you know have been screwed by your friend before or someone you know. It's going to be very painful. You will never be able to accept it no matter how much u love her.It'll haunt you and you'll regret forever.This is a fact.

Thanks for raising a very important point in human relationship. Take care Bros...

Thx bro. She's assuring me that they are just frz. No more those feelings. But I had just told her how I feel and I CANNOT avoid the feeling that they ever screwed her if I meet them or even hear their name(before me, she got more than 1 bf mah).
I want her to 1 knife 2 pcs with them. For my sake ofcourse.

[visaplatinum]

Hi Bro AcerPac,

As what bro evo065 has mentioned, it does depend on the strength of our relationship and whether we have inferior complexity.

As for me, I may not be able to handle the jealousy that may arise, so, the answer will be a "no" for me .... just my 2 cents worth.

Cheers!

[Chinki]

All I can say to this (in respect to all who have posted here) is that it all depends on the individual (that being said) As a fairly extremely open-minded individual myself (and given the certain degrees of acceptance I'm willing to handle and believe me, I have) 2 words...HELL NO! (of course based upon myself)...Why? Simple...unless your significant other is but an 'object' to you (even you are into the swinging lifestyle), there are certain lines not to be crossed...Prove? TRY IT! Peace Out! (sorry for being crude but it's MY truth)

Originally Posted by visaplatinum

Hi Bro AcerPac,

As what bro evo065 has mentioned, it does depend on the strength of our relationship and whether we have inferior complexity.

As for me, I may not be able to handle the jealousy that may arise, so, the answer will be a "no" for me .... just my 2 cents worth.

Cheers!

Yah.. It's a NO NO for me too. Just couldn't help it. Just seems like this kind of thing, cannot be trained.
Really driving me mad when I imagine the scene that he's screwing my gal.
I believe I got no confidence in myself. Sigh....

Thanks all bros for exchanging ideas here. But not sure why after a few postings, my points became -7. Kekeke Well yesterday still -1. Hell care. Just wanna share around with tots and views.

Peace to every bros amd sis here.

[wilby222]

So far i think for me is a no (EER My current GF's). But lucky my wife was a virgin so i don't have this problem. Cheers

[yanki1]

Originally Posted by Acerpac

Yah.. It's a NO NO for me too. Just couldn't help it. Just seems like this kind of thing, cannot be trained.
Really driving me mad when I imagine the scene that he's screwing my gal.
I believe I got no confidence in myself. Sigh....

hmm not say no confidence la. i believe many guys including myself are like that.

[blackeagle10]

Yes, can accept but what is the point?? Most of us are double income earners and struggling everyday to bring home the bacon.

Even if you are very senior in an organisation and there is a vacancy, would you introduced your ex-gal/bF to work in there without arousing the suspicion of yr spouse. Would you recommend an ex even if he/she is the most qualified person??

When you are already married, you would like a social life that is not restrictive and supportive of your life's goals. ie you pick yr friends very carefully and I don't see how an ex can be of much help here as you cannot go all out to help them and neither can they without arousing problems with current spouse.

All those comments about being friendly with ex are either people who are not married or are naive about responsiblities within a marriage/relationship.