Married but in love with colleague

[Taisho75]

I kinda agree with what most ppl says here. You can ask for all the advice you want, ppl can give u advise, but u still need to do the final decicion yourself.

Ask yourself what you want, is it worth it? Make a decision that you wont regret later in life. You can't blame anyone except yourself if anything goes differently.

[porscheclub]

TS, I was in your situation few times over and now settled with 4 kids & going for a 5th. It has been messy so don't do it.

I know exactly how you feel with that new found love, one of my ex was 14yrs junior. How's the sex with T so far? We'll talk about her later.

Your kid problem. Is the issue with your wife or you? I know a very good IVF professor from UK who's working in our area that I can recommend so PM me if you wish. My friend who was childless for 10yrs just had their first baby girl after seeing this doc but I cannot guarantee you magic as this is a blessing other than science.

One more victim in your scenario is Miss T's fiance. I don't know about others but never mess with another man's love especially when you know it. This will cause your downfall, reputation & worst, fatal. We don't touch another man's woman. I suggest that you stop this relationship right now before your cover is blown. I'm sure you know how to settle her so admit your fault, file guilty and STOP all communications with this girl. Let her go.

We're human; always looking for love with that fluffy butterfly feeling that is so romantic and sweet but remember to face the consequences.

One more issue which some guys experienced. Your new found love can become sticky and spiral into an ultimate nightmare. Oh yes she knows you're married but a women's love will develop into jealousy and one day she'll confront your wife. How can you deal with that?

FYI, I was hospitalised in a fight with my ex then she went mad & tried to jump from the condo!!

If what you're looking for is cheers for this illicit affair then have a nice screw but pay back will be bitter. If you feel she IS the ONE then divorce your wife now and marry Ms T but let me assure you that if you don't manage your relationship then even marrying Miss Universe will turn sour & you're back at staring your secretary. Good luck.

[korean]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

TS, I was in your situation few times over and now settled with 4 kids & going for a 5th. It has been messy so don't do it.

I know exactly how you feel with that new found love, one of my ex was 14yrs junior. How's the sex with T so far? We'll talk about her later.

Your kid problem. Is the issue with your wife or you? I know a very good IVF professor from UK who's working in our area that I can recommend so PM me if you wish. My friend who was childless for 10yrs just had their first baby girl after seeing this doc but I cannot guarantee you magic as this is a blessing other than science.

One more victim in your scenario is Miss T's fiance. I don't know about others but never mess with another man's love especially when you know it. This will cause your downfall, reputation & worst, fatal. We don't touch another man's woman. I suggest that you stop this relationship right now before your cover is blown. I'm sure you know how to settle her so admit your fault, file guilty and STOP all communications with this girl. Let her go.

We're human; always looking for love with that fluffy butterfly feeling that is so romantic and sweet but remember to face the consequences.

One more issue which some guys experienced. Your new found love can become sticky and spiral into an ultimate nightmare. Oh yes she knows you're married but a women's love will develop into jealousy and one day she'll confront your wife. How can you deal with that?

FYI, I was hospitalised in a fight with my ex then she went mad & tried to jump from the condo!!

If what you're looking for is cheers for this illicit affair then have a nice screw but pay back will be bitter. If you feel she IS the ONE then divorce your wife now and marry Ms T but let me assure you that if you don't manage your relationship then even marrying Miss Universe will turn sour & you're back at staring your secretary. Good luck.

Bro,
5th kids and how many mother all together lol

[a2014]

TS, how you get married in the first case, just to get a passport to have SEX ? Looks like you are in a illusion state, if you meet one, work with it for a while and get head over heel with it.

So what happen if you divorce you current wife and marry her, then you meet another one and she said she love you so what are you going to do. Repeat the history ?

No kids is not an excuse, what did you promise when you first sign on the dotted line at ROM ? At that time because of the license to SEX you say "I DO" so later you find something else you say "I UNDO" so how ?

If you don't love that woman at home, then why marry her. If this new woman love you knowing you are married what makes you think that she will not approach another one in future.

It takes two hands to clap, you must have show some advance otherwise she may not have reciprocated except you did not elaborate over here.

Take care bro and act wisely.

[Superfluid]

Pardon me for joining the fray, but i have my piece of advice for you too.

My brother was in a similar situation as you. He fell in love with someone younger than him by 7 years despite being married to his wife for 7 years.

The girl, however, was not someone who dresses up or looks more attractive. My sis in law can win her in looks or figure, but the problem is that her attitude changed slightly after marriage. Afterall, my SIL is a malaysian and she is far from home. Feeling constantly pressured to have children and yet nothing she done is working, her attitude towards life seems nonchalant.

The girl, which i met personally to persuade her to leave my bro, is a really sweet filipina girl. A nurse I think. They met on social networking apps and normal photography outings turned into an affair as that pinay is really adorable and friendly. Somehow, i can understand why my brother can't leave that charismatic and natural lady

How i managed to get the girl to leave my bro is another story. But in the end, i told my bro that this girl cannot be trusted since my bro was the one that sent me to test her. I'm divorced by the way. In the end, what I want to say is this: I think my bro chose the right path because there are so many factors to consider. If he never loved my SIL, why did he marry her?

People change over time, i think bro Uncle and bro a2014 is right. TS is in an illusion state. The part of finding someone that appreciates you after such a long time of silence and blandness in love life certainly makes you want to commit to a new relationship because you are enticed to this new deal.

To add on, sex and chemistry was great, right? But TS, have you ever thought that you learned all these through experience and it was just the reluctance to practice this gained experience it on your wife that may have somewhat caused the decline in your love life?

I speak through hardship, TS. I divorced but in the end, i never get the other girl. It's too much baggage and emotional turmoil you will have to put the other woman through. Your parents and family will never really like that girl. How are you going to explain to your friends. Yeah, it's not their business, but are you going to live a hermit life?

Secondly, the stigma that follows her whenever people ask you about your ex wife.Have you thought of that? Then what will people address her?

Lastly, the turmoil of divorce and how it affects your life... lucky you have no kids but you are not young anymore. I see my friends having kids and and I really adore children. With all the financial burden on my hand and a stress constantly incoming from the legal matters, kids are the last thing in my mind.

Think about it, TS. I know when you look at the girl, you can't see anything else but her, but you have to close your eyes and think of your future too, not the imaginary future of waking up and seeing her beside you only

[Uncle2015]

Unfortunately, TS hasn't checked in SBF since 1st June. But I supposed the advice we give here are equally good for others who might be in the similar situation.

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by Uncle2015

Unfortunately, TS hasn't checked in SBF since 1st June. But I supposed the advice we give here are equally good for others who might be in the similar situation.

His question was a no brainer. His wife faithfully chooses to get pregnant for him. Loves him. Yet he contemplates another woman?

[deludedgal]

Obviously just infatuation? Something fresh something new.. when u fuck her over and over again.. same feeling back to no passion. In this case i worry how many times u need to divorce and get married again. Infatuation wont last.

[xands2001]

Dear all bros and sis for ur valuable insights, advise and experiences. My life with T is still causing emotional stress. My wife is pregnant. My brain says stop, let her resign. My hearts say no, let her stay. T is also experiencing a difficult time now especially when we see each other on a daily basis due to work. She wans to stop when she learned tat my wife is pregnant bt she cant let go yet. My wife and i were almost divorced bt T says i should not esp when she is preg. My wife still doesnt know abt T as they knew each other and she wans to avoid confrontation at all costs. Bt as with any decisions made, it has to be tat i stay with my wife. Right.?

[lustysinner]

Originally Posted by xands2001

Dear all bros and sis for ur valuable insights, advise and experiences. My life with T is still causing emotional stress. My wife is pregnant. My brain says stop, let her resign. My hearts say no, let her stay. T is also experiencing a difficult time now especially when we see each other on a daily basis due to work. She wans to stop when she learned tat my wife is pregnant bt she cant let go yet. My wife and i were almost divorced bt T says i should not esp when she is preg. My wife still doesnt know abt T as they knew each other and she wans to avoid confrontation at all costs. Bt as with any decisions made, it has to be tat i stay with my wife. Right.?

Of course lah , u bloody idiot! Wife already pregnant leh. Must behave like a man and be responsible!

Don't behave like a Chao Ang Mo, we are Asians leh, not like them suka suka marry suka suka divorce.

Just go have a few more tryst with T , remember in your heart and break up.

Very simple only. No need keep on whining and asking.

[korean]

What will u do if T pregnant?

[hugs]

TS,

(#1)A real girl in love with you would be selfish and jealous. She is too nice. My wife and i were almost divorced bt T says i should not esp when she is preg. Are you going to say that she is a really nice girl?

(#2)In that case, why this?-->She wants to stop when she learned tat my wife is pregnant bt she cant let go yet. Are you going to say she is in love with you so she cant let you go? Then go back to my first point.

(#3)She is a cunning girl. My wife still doesnt know abt T as they knew each other and she wans to avoid confrontation at all costs.Would you fuck you friend's wife when they are planning to have kids and still be respected by other men?

Originally Posted by xands2001

Dear all bros and sis for ur valuable insights, advise and experiences. My life with T is still causing emotional stress. My wife is pregnant. My brain says stop, let her resign. My hearts say no, let her stay. T is also experiencing a difficult time now especially when we see each other on a daily basis due to work. She wans to stop when she learned tat my wife is pregnant bt she cant let go yet. My wife and i were almost divorced bt T says i should not esp when she is preg. My wife still doesnt know abt T as they knew each other and she wans to avoid confrontation at all costs. Bt as with any decisions made, it has to be tat i stay with my wife. Right.?

[jameschong1]

all u losers complaining machiam big time lovers.
the real question is : u got $$$ onot to support 2 wives?
if not shut the fuck up!

[Uncle2015]

Originally Posted by hugs

Would you fuck you friend's wife when they are planning to have kids and still be respected by other men?

Sis Hugs really pissed off.

[Uncle2015]

Originally Posted by korean

What will u do if T pregnant?

Bro Korean, TS is already facing so much difficulty, adding your this question, is as good as sentencing him to death. Lol