marry an HC girl

Bro Holly,


Guess by now Bros Beng Hwee, Tanterry, Wah piang and others have advised you on the danger and stigma!!
as long as you have given all these advices a serious thought, I would wish you all the best too!!
Cos it is not too often we meet our love angels!!

one word of advice on my side is.....
if you are able to re-locate yourself by getting an overseas posting in the industry or arrange for a migration, it will be ideal!!
so both of you have a fresh start and she will not easily run into ex-clients of hers....

one suggestion is Australia or NZ.... cos Financial industry is fairly flexible right? to be able to afford a $20K monthly salary, am sure your skill-set is enough to bring you all over the world for other designations.

this is to prevent awkward situations in future....

cheers,

[taurus75]

hello to all brudders..and oso to the brudder here who started the thread (hope u r reading this)
i m in ur plight too.. wanted to register with a msia KTV girl but oso dunno how to go with it..i m not like u that can earn 20k per month in fact tats take me 1 year to earn 30k..with that u shld be no problem dealing with this problem..
i guess many brudders will swarm in and advice like why marry such a gal?? why this why that..??!!?? i can only say once one of u brudders have taste this once u will know..and understand. simply because these ladies are humans too.. they still or wanted so much to lead a normal life like all of us..
i know road for us or to any brudders here is not going to be easier.. but think there should be a way around somewhere..
i admire the brudder who accept a girl whose past is not that normal like those fortunate sg gals..kudos to u..
i too always face dilemmas and hardships having oso to face friends and relatives..their backslash..or watever..but i think it should work out fine someday..
fyi , i still haven go abt the procedures of applying for her to get register at ROM..as i dun knw how to go abt it..
till then we can only wait..
hope my post will tinkers some brudders here who had encountered or doing with this experience now..

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[notsonewbird]

can try MOM, ROM, SIR (now ICA)websites.
a LOT of info can be found.
can also email the officer. dunno how fast they reply thou...

http://app.ica.gov.sg/
http://app.rom.gov.sg/internet/index.asp
http://www.mom.gov.sg/MOM/CDA

[simimabochap]

Since U are still a foreigner having only a work permit here, go and register your marriage in your HOME country,unless you do not want your family to know!!.A point to note,does the girl knows that u are a high income earner cos she might have strike gold by milking a cashcow.
As u are in the financial sector, whats the risk u can take if the girl milks u dry and leaves u!! I read with interest your relationships with Stewardess,proving that u do not have any problems in finding girls.
What's the harm in maintaining this relationship longer to test her sincerity
and whats the hurry to get married ..cos once registered there's no truning back..ask Mr Ronald Trumph....
Have u given the thought that a HC girl can get about 10K a month,can u afford to give her this previlege to maintain her expenditure.
A LEOPARD NEVER CHANGES ITS SPOTS...
hope that helps u ease some concerns...........

Dear Bro, maybe lota pple out there will not understand ur situation here...
One piece of advise for u.... make sure at tis stage u r still able to think properly... u had to consider whether she is the 1 u wanna be with her forever.. Or had u give urself any chance to get to noe more gals out there???
Smtimes we do things by bypassing the thinking part Becoz some of u will say Luv is blind... Dun believe in tat.. Bro keep ur head cool...
If u still consider tat she is the 1 u wan then go ahead wif it...
I am sure all the Bro in here will giv u all the Blessing u need..
Anyway all the Best to U...
But make sure u urself get a PR first so tat she can be wif u over here..

[Tua Tao]

Originally Posted by SilkStalk.

Erm... that was just a personal experience that left me in a distraught... it's not up to me to make a bold statement that all HC girls are the same.... perhaps bro Holly's girl is different.... but I do concur to your observation that they will not leave their trade easily.... those who left are few and far in between.....

I remember one HC girl did advise me aptly "Girls, inclusive of myself, who chose this trade are no simpletons... it takes a lot of courage in the decision making process... if your girl can decide to go ahead and serve so many men per day, that goes to show what she's really like.... my friend, you are kind hearted and I do not want to see you ended up being hurt.... women like us are too smart for you and not worthy of your kindness and love...."

Despite her quoting herself and saying all these to me out of "friendship"'s sake, I was adament in my decision to carry on with my girl and the rest are history....... thinking back on what she said then.... it does really make sense.....

Not lamenting on my past bad experience, just hope that my story will serve as a guide for bro Holly and a few others who might be thinking of getting involved with WLs...

My one cent worth....



Peaceful at heart
S.Stalk

Dear Bro SilkStalk,
I guess both of us are on the same boat, being with a HC gal b4. Really really hurt when she dumps me even up to now. Though still got occasional gfs to hang around with but still cannot forget leh....Maybe we can form a new group called "Man who used to date a HC gal" and we can give advise....haha!

For Bro Holly,
PR status in Singapore is not difficult to get nowadays as compare to last time. Moreover, Singapore needs manpower due to the ageing population. Good luck to you and show to us ("man who used to date a HC gal") that there is real love is the HC industry.

Cheers!

[justme]

think twice and think thrice.

think through and all the best to you.


not easy to forget someone whom we love, even harder to let go at the very moment.

[taurus75]

so any brudders encountered any experiences or frens' experience in successfully like..e.g married a msia KTV gal, or HC PRC Babe???

it seems like its easier for Singaporean to marry PRC or Viet but not for our close neighbour like malaysia???

[MoonBlaze]

Originally Posted by Tua Tao

...Really really hurt when she dumps me even up to now. Though still got occasional gfs to hang around with but still cannot forget leh

Let it go.
Keep only the fond memories of the time you spent together.
In that way, you will live happier.

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Bringing her around town to see night-scene cos no-one bother to.
Bringing her to supermarket to get daily necesscities.
Bringing her to temple to pray.
Seeing the way she eats when we dine out.
Looking into each other eyes at times when we have nothing to say to each other.
She sharing with me photos of her family..

These are fond memories i choose to keep (though there are darker side of her life i choose not to remember her fo) rand i am a happier man after able to sort out a lot of self confusion and dilemna. I had choose to move on with life but with fond memories lock up in certain area of my heart.

Never dwell on why she left you, why things could not work out, sadness and anger(if any) will not make you a happier man.

Cheers!!!

[taurus75]

seems like brudders here did not experience stuff like these...
or find the topic way too boring liao..
are all brudders really numb in emotion..?!?

i understand the rules of these games..but what about real fact that some ppl here really tried it successfully and live happily ever after..