Wife don't like sex

[84gunner]

too bad u guys are in SG, and married SG women.

If u married regional women, their culture is, sex to husband is their wifely duty. Maybe sometimes they really not feeling well, or really tired, then let them rest / have their way lah. Or, go find FL / WL, not really big problem either.

But in SG, esp SG women study too much, knows too much about the Law, and no shame of taking legal actions on their husbands on their marital woes / disputes. SG women are too spoilt and selfish, they dowan / not willing to please their men, they also dun allow their men to eat, simply want their men to starve and they don't care, don't give a damn.

For regional women, u can even ask their Mums, is that how they teach their daughters? That will really bring shame and disgrace to the woman and her mum!

[ahbunana]

pcc infront of ur wife
she sure bei tahan and rape u want!

[Pilot Preceda]

Originally Posted by 84gunner

too bad u guys are in SG, and married SG women.

If u married regional women, their culture is, sex to husband is their wifely duty. Maybe sometimes they really not feeling well, or really tired, then let them rest / have their way lah. Or, go find FL / WL, not really big problem either.

But in SG, esp SG women study too much, knows too much about the Law, and no shame of taking legal actions on their husbands on their marital woes / disputes. SG women are too spoilt and selfish, they dowan / not willing to please their men, they also dun allow their men to eat, simply want their men to starve and they don't care, don't give a damn.

For regional women, u can even ask their Mums, is that how they teach their daughters? That will really bring shame and disgrace to the woman and her mum!

Very agree with this...!!!

[poorman4sex]

Originally Posted by 84gunner

too bad u guys are in SG, and married SG women.

Not true... my wife is Malaysian also no like sex..
That happens after the second kid.

Dun say she eat outside
Dun say no test before marriage
Because the above accusations are not true.

I had a FB with 2 kids also... fuck like rabbits...
so different women different story

[cwkfxjp]

A friend of mine now divorce his wife. She did not agree to sex for 5 years, refused counselling. Idiot woman who are too highly educated and selfish.

My wife similar problem. So I suggested counselling. Avoid. Until I told her, YOU HAVE TO READY FOR FAMILY BREAKUP.

She went reluctantly. Alas, the counsellor is a load of bullshit. My advice is DO NOT GO FOR THE FAMILY CENTRES. THEY ARE INEXPERIENCED AND GIVE U 1 session 4-5 weeks only. Hopeless. The one at Hong Lim Complex are more experienced, they even train counsellors.

After this, i told my wife... you ready for me to find outside fun? She shocked and eyes lit up... Now no more decline... but still far from enjoying...

As for my friend, he found a girlfriend who had voracious appetite for ML...
And care for her even when he is sick. Get ready to commit his life with her. Coincidentally, this girl is NOT Singaporean.

Originally Posted by Tripster

TS, this situation if allowed t carry on will result in a separation. Marriage is abt love and companionship. A loveless marriage never lasts. I do hear of marriages with little or no sex except for the time of procreation.

But when there is lovelessness, it usually ends with a separation. If sexless, I think it is also loveless. The result is quite clear. If the issue is not sorted out, prepare for the inevitable.

Suggest counselling or a therapist.

peace

[VanGogh]

Originally Posted by 84gunner

SG women are too spoilt and selfish, they dowan / not willing to please their men, they also dun allow their men to eat, simply want their men to starve and they don't care, don't give a damn.

This is the sentence that is so true Bro Gunner, most SG women are all too selfish, they'll just starve their men....

Bros who have a wife that enjoy sex, you are the lucky ones

[Ah Goo]

Originally Posted by blk437

I am having the same problem as TS. I had not have any physical contact and sex with my wife for 1 year and 3 months. I have been D.I.Y all the way till now and do not have the courage to eat out.

I have quarrel with my wife many times regarding this issue and everytime she kept silent. I never suspect she is eating duck meat or anything because she is always busy with 2 kids and work.

And also sharing this problem with bros here doesn't mean i need extra justification to eat out. I am sure there are more couples experiencing sexless marriage with some unknown reason.

Those with the same problem or had experienced on this issue can share with us your valuable opinions?

Finally a brother understood me.

If want to eat out, can eat out even in a good marriage.
Some girls just don't think that sex is necessary.

[EyeLevel]

TS n other bros,

Let's not start bashing our local SG women. Not all of them are like that.
IMHO, this phenomenon of woman refusing intimacy is worldwide... Or more specifically happening to women from well develop n educated countries.

It really boils down to the priorities in life and how each person deals with it.
Eg,
1) lady is married for 4 years. Intimacy was great. But suddenly she's not
Not intimate anymore n not interested in having kids. Reason? She started comparin herself with her peers n thinks they are all more successful than her.
She wants to have a successful Career too.
Anyway, she went as far as lost feeling for hubby n estranged.
Priority shifted from family to career.

2) lady has a good job. Good pay. Hubby mentions want to start a family.
She quits her job. Gets pregnant and stay home to focus on the household.
Her priority has alway been family.

So I guess let's stay on track about how to get our wives to like sex and how to deal with continual refusal then to start bashing the lady-folks.
No disrespect to bros views or trying to pick a fight.
Just tryin to steer the focus back to topic.

My 2cts
Cheers!

[lee2001sg]

Originally Posted by ah rat

It true when women reach the age of thirty,they indeed horny.
TS, how old his yours wife

True? My wife going downhills since 30s, now going 40s still no better.

[Garland]

Local highly educated wife more clever than us.

[chriz44]

No offense to anyone but i'm glad i'm not alone with this problem.

A sexless marriage. Its been abt 6mths already & i often DIY then 1 day i asked myself WTF is happening....this is not the way i want to live my life so if my wife doesnt care then i find my own way...

I started FL recently. Its not the best solution but each person has to find his own way to deal with his situation.

I have talked to my wife abt this twice before but no lasting solution. Somethings in life are just the way it is... Learn to face it, manage it & find the best possible solution. There's no right or wrong here...so i stopped feeling guilty abt FL.

[NRider]

If your house do not "cook" for you = then "eat out" but dun da pao.
IF YOU already "eaten out" and your house has cooked for you = just eat a little bit, you dun loose anything but gain something !!

My 2 cents Bros

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by Ah Goo

I never suspected that. I don't think cos most of her time, she's at home.

I am tempted to ask. How sure are you? People change and it can be difficult to find out.

My kakia is a good loving hubby. Makes 5 figure a month and pays for everything in th house. For 10 yrs of marriage, never bonked wife more than 10 times. Both sleep separate rooms now.

Its really frustrating as my pal would put it. This also means prob time for heart to heart talk too. If really cant work out, divorce has to be an option too. Good luck man

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by tanhockgin

I cant talk to my wife cos we are at very different wavelength. I stay w her becos of kids. Sigh!

Marriage sounds scary siah... O_O

Though i nt married, i can feel for you married folks. Life is harsh. Buay song still must soldier on and bring the dough to feed the family. You folks earn my respect and admiration!

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Marriage sounds scary siah... O_O

Though i nt married, i can feel for you married folks. Life is harsh. Buay song still must soldier on and bring the dough to feed the family. You folks earn my respect and admiration!

Yah..it is scary bro...but dun be too frightened...many of us din know tis when we first entered into it...but tis a fact of marriage life for most bros here...so if u wanna enter it, do so wif a lot of caution and wif both eyes & ears wide opened...know yr gal very well first before u marry her, tat is your only assurance of a happy, lasting marriage..esp tat she likes to hav SEX a lot, tat she has HSD & tat she really loves u.. cos SEX is very important to keep the marriage alive throughout the years for we guys especially...

Originally Posted by 84gunner

too bad u guys are in SG, and married SG women.

If u married regional women, their culture is, sex to husband is their wifely duty. Maybe sometimes they really not feeling well, or really tired, then let them rest / have their way lah. Or, go find FL / WL, not really big problem either.

But in SG, esp SG women study too much, knows too much about the Law, and no shame of taking legal actions on their husbands on their marital woes / disputes. SG women are too spoilt and selfish, they dowan / not willing to please their men, they also dun allow their men to eat, simply want their men to starve and they don't care, don't give a damn.

Tink tis is the situation in most bros marriages ...tis sad but tis happening..those bros who hav a harmonious marriage are really very lucky...happy for them..

Originally Posted by EyeLevel

TS n other bros,

Let's not start bashing our local SG women. Not all of them are like that.
IMHO, this phenomenon of woman refusing intimacy is worldwide... Or more specifically happening to women from well develop n educated countries.

Cheers!

Tink wat bro 84 gunner actually meant is tat in MOST CASES, SG gals are like wat he described...but as in anything else, there is no 100% thingy..there wil always be a fish out of water...a GEM in the whole wide ocean...a nice gal in a small little corner somewhere..but really tis is not easy to find here...sigh ...u wil hav to do a real search for 1 or 2...