What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?

[AnusYee]

Originally Posted by Johnbass

XDD, u go get married 1st then come and talk ok?

XMM u go home learn how to suck egg first before calling people XDD .... fucking rude

[Pentamex]

Originally Posted by A1406

This is a very practical world. No such things as husband and wife when it come to $.

Thats really so sad

[Uncle2015]

Originally Posted by A1406

Yes I agree if u have tons of $ you can direct what you need even your own wife.
This is a very practical world. No such things as husband and wife when it come to $.

My friend, don't be too pessimistic. Wife or woman is sometime very right and logical. That's why the society is pushing for more female members in the board of listed companies.

Money alone can't let you push your way thru, else it would be like in China or some places, the children of the rich or powerful, abusing others, hit and run, raping around. When these princelings get caught or confronted by the crowd, they reply, "Do you know who is my father ?" Anyway, nowadays, the masses are no longer fearing these princelings, partly thanks to Internet.

Let's call it check and balance, your wife's view is equally caring weight. Just like you, she has a view and a say in house. This is the result of education, not so much of woman uprising.

If you need to feel upper hand in handling your wife, you need to "overpower" your wife, e.g. most of your decisions turned out to be as you earlier predicted and you told her about it beforehand, let her recognise or "pei fu" your judgement. This is one example. But be careful, this scenario doesn't apply, "You forecasted and told her that she won't use the baking machine that she bought and it turned out right."

But I do agree having more money can make things happen, but not coercing your wife kowtow to you bcos she is not a thing, she is a human. So, you try to play around the resources or "lubang" that are within your supreme command.

[dreamlover2010]

Originally Posted by A1406

Bro. My look is ok. I had spent a lot of time with my family. Ask her out alone normally she will not wNt as she prefer to be at home. To do all the little move that u mentioned I done before but she just think that I m siao cos we are married. Aiya funny woman lah. She dun like to be finger reason she say is dirt. WTF!!

Then you find other ways to shoot lah.

PCC on the bed next to her. And eat outside no choice.

But hor the danger is the Woman Charter because your wife is cold liao and won't hesitate to divorce if got evidence you screwing Mei Mei outside.

Very hard to handle. Cock is hard at home. Go outside having a hard time with Mei Mei but thinking hard about WC. Hard truth.

[Feronas]

10 yrs ago i was in same position as TS. In my case its a character issue - Wife prioritised many things before what i need. This included sex, respect for husband in public, give face to husbands parents (she gives none watsoever), time allowed for kid to spend with husbands family (pathetic). Patience ruled my life for the past 10 years - many open conversations, many attempts. What i have learnt is this. It is not her conscious mind that im having issue with. Everytime we agree that sex, respect, etc is an issue and she agrees to change, the next week when her mind is back to normal and less guarded on the issue, the issue repeats itself. It is thus the sub conscious mind that is the issue. Esp when she stress. Is her life dam stress? We live in condo, maid can help with kid, gt car, gt branded everthing. So what is she stress about? Ans - her priority is to be recognised. She wan to be someone in her career - fighting for her masters degree, trying to outshine others in workplace etc. It is on these things she places priority over me, and unfortunately, its naturally built in her. This is where i feel that for my case, my wife is nt playing her natal role as wife/ mother of the household. It gets worse when she subconciously eat into the natal role of the man. When i look at myself and ask if this should be my life for the next 40 yrs? I shudder - what is in stalled for the future? I dunno, but im dam clear, some things can work out, others cannot, like a fighting a woman's habits

[Feronas]

...habits esp the ones she repeat unintentionally, where after we talk through she will say dear "it was nt my intention to reject sex cus gt exam/shout at u in public cus i stress/etc". I spent 10 years trying to make it work. Its nt going anywhere. TS, sex is nt everything. Its usually alot of thing combine like in my case. I only share that in my case where if u discover that the shortcomings (serious ones that can rip couples apart) are basically happening because "she doesnt mean it" or intepreted bluntly "she dosent care (cus subconsciously its not her priority)", and it keeps repeating, and u cant see urself living like this for the next 30 yrs, its time for change - and change to one that at the very bare minimum, will prioritise her husband/family first

[hornyhubby]

Very rarely i get rejected. If ever i was rejected....usually that she is tired.

I say : Let me give u a message. Neck and shoulders....ask her to remove top if u can. If not....dont push it. After 15 mins....give her kisses on her bare shoulders and work towards the neck and ears with your kisses. After a relaxing massage, this will usually get her into the mood. This is on the assumption that she at least unbutton 2 or 3 of her pyjama top for the message. More difficult if she uses a round neçk T shirt. If she can be coaxed into being nude for the message....much much easier.

Praise her.....compliment her....thank her for her hard work.... If you have got gold nuggets in your mouth....then the only option is to pcc hahaha

[MoJoe313]

Originally Posted by A1406

Yes I agree if u have tons of $ you can direct what you need even your own wife.
This is a very practical world. No such things as husband and wife when it come to $.

I think we found the problem. Money. You may want to re-visit this TS. Having a your-money-is-your-money, my-money-is-my-money attitude builds a wall between spouses.

If I was your wife, I'd feel disconnected to you. Its like I am on my own financially, you are hiding something from me. Don't come to me for help on sex.

[MoJoe313]

Originally Posted by Feronas

10 yrs ago i was in same position as TS. In my case its a character issue - Wife prioritised many things before what i need. This included sex, respect for husband in public, give face to husbands parents (she gives none watsoever), time allowed for kid to spend with husbands family (pathetic). Patience ruled my life for the past 10 years - many open conversations, many attempts. What i have learnt is this. It is not her conscious mind that im having issue with. Everytime we agree that sex, respect, etc is an issue and she agrees to change, the next week when her mind is back to normal and less guarded on the issue, the issue repeats itself. It is thus the sub conscious mind that is the issue. Esp when she stress. Is her life dam stress? We live in condo, maid can help with kid, gt car, gt branded everthing. So what is she stress about? Ans - her priority is to be recognised. She wan to be someone in her career - fighting for her masters degree, trying to outshine others in workplace etc. It is on these things she places priority over me, and unfortunately, its naturally built in her. This is where i feel that for my case, my wife is nt playing her natal role as wife/ mother of the household. It gets worse when she subconciously eat into the natal role of the man. When i look at myself and ask if this should be my life for the next 40 yrs? I shudder - what is in stalled for the future? I dunno, but im dam clear, some things can work out, others cannot, like a fighting a woman's habits

I feel you bro. Seen some of these ambitious career types. Disgusting (sorry). All I can say is your have chosen poorly. You mentioned 10 years ago. How is it now?

[lightweaver]

This may help young couples but not couples who have been married with habits already set in.

Agree on a house rule eg 3 times a week min no qns asked. Of cos as a guy do ur part on the foreplay. Humans tend to follow reasonable rules and freq sex builds intimacy. For ladies the more u dun do it, the more u dun think about it. So the 3 times keeps it there.

Been together with wife for 17 years and 3 times ain't enough for her lol

[Johnbass]

Originally Posted by AnusYee

XMM u go home learn how to suck egg first before calling people XDD .... fucking rude

XDD, So many posts here, you choose to reply to mine.
Using new clone nick somemore... Fucking BOJI

[FunnyHippo]

Originally Posted by Johnbass

XDD, So many posts here, you choose to reply to mine.
Using new clone nick somemore... Fucking BOJI

JiBye...
U clone mai call people clone leh...

Tiagong now u like to pick a fight with XDD?
Later tio slap hor...

[Feronas]

Originally Posted by MoJoe313

I feel you bro. Seen some of these ambitious career types. Disgusting (sorry). All I can say is your have chosen poorly. You mentioned 10 years ago. How is it now?

Every word u said bro rings true. I have chosen poorly. Now, my heart as tempered by her over time is dead, and am searching for a soul mate. And I am determined as hell to not repeat this mistake.

[MoJoe313]

Originally Posted by Feronas

Every word u said bro rings true. I have chosen poorly. Now, my heart as tempered by her over time is dead, and am searching for a soul mate. And I am determined as hell to not repeat this mistake.

Bro, I hope you don't have kids. Sigh

[retsmas]

Originally Posted by MoJoe313

Bro, I hope you don't have kids. Sigh

I think the grown up kids will understand the need for divorce if the sex is not on the same page. Also, the kids would rather have happily seperated parents than to have unhappy parents living together. As bro had said,imagine to go u had just gone thro misery for 10 yrs... and 40 yrs await you