Price to pay for helping Matters of the Heart

[HairyBottom]

Originally Posted by DTCEPL

Another version for your consideration:

A clear mind is a HORNY mind

A mess-up mind is a KC-ed mind

The above applicable in SBF context lah

Hiaz....life is always filled with uncertainty, how nice if we can always see whats ahead and plan or be ready for it.

thats a good one! short but clear to the point illustration.

maybe can also say a clear mind is like a window, images come and go and a mess-up mind is like a camera where pictures come but just wont go.

i would say it's still best to follow the triple F rule - Find Fark Forget.

[colins]

Originally Posted by HairyBottom

i would say it's still best to follow the triple F rule - Find Fark Forget.

I've heard some bros who say that they feel the sense of emptiness after they finish a session. In them, the triple F rule dun apply anymore. In fact, bros who prefer certain type of girls, whether its looks or figure, are looking for more than just the 3Fs.

[HairyBottom]

Originally Posted by colins

I've heard some bros who say that they feel the sense of emptiness after they finish a session. In them, the triple F rule dun apply anymore. In fact, bros who prefer certain type of girls, whether its looks or figure, are looking for more than just the 3Fs.

these will fall under the category of companionship liao.

quoting a paragraph in mandarin i saw on the net, which i feel it very much describe the needs of companionship in man.

通常情况下，老婆是倾诉者，而红颜知己则是聆听者。她也许是温柔的可人儿，也可能像豪爽的哥们儿，在她面前 男人可以是倦鸟是浪子，可以疲惫、孤独、无助、逃避、怠惰，而她是能接纳你的黑夜，给你安静，做你恢复能量 的空间。
如果说老婆是太阳，情人是月亮，那么红颜知己则是星星。太阳月亮有疲倦的时候，星星却没有，它闪闪烁烁若即 若离，甘于寂寞却又灿烂而长久。

[HairyBottom]

This paragraph is good, pretty much explains the KC factor.

情人比老婆好是有原因的，审美疲劳和爱情疲劳使男人感觉情人比老婆好。一般情人都是年轻漂亮的，即便是年龄 相仿的也是比较会安抚伺候自己的女人。有时候情人不仅是性的关系，也真有感情的原因。没有感情在一起的情人 ，那就是一种交易的存在。钱买性，买心理的一种知足感和快感。

　　男人天生就花心，对异性有着强烈的占有欲望。男人天生就是要征服女人的，当然不是靠暴力，而已引诱和收 买。
　　
男人对自己整日朝夕相伴的老婆时间长了有一种麻木，没有新鲜的感觉，爱情疲劳，审美疲劳，有时候不仅是审美 疲劳，还感觉老婆恶心，总是婆婆妈妈的，整日里啰嗦起来没完没了。再热情的爱情也有降温的时候，在激荡的情 感也有平静的时候。那些所谓的事业成功的成功人士们，外面一帮和苍蝇一样的小女人等着不劳而获呢。有的小女 人专门找大男人，一是认为大男人成熟，一是好勾引，一是钱厚有积累。小女人总是可人的，给人一种怜惜的神态 ，实际骨子里是吃定你的。想做别人情人的女人，目的不外乎是真爱或崇拜或有目的。真爱的少。

情人之所以吸引男人，有自己的一套女人方法。对他的理解和对她妻子的宽容都让男人有一种错觉，那就是此女比 较大气，有宽宏和善良的心。实际上，任何一个女人在真爱面前都容不下另外一个女人的存在。情人的所谓的宽容 实际就是一种策略，一种攻略，甚至是谋略。在这背后隐藏着伤感的心。

　　情人不总见面，也不是整日在一起过日子，所以情人一切的优点都展示出来，缺点都带回家，都在背后。老婆 不一样白天晚上都在一起生活，很多的隐私几乎就是对丈夫公开的，包括身体的每个细微的地方，丈夫都知道，都 是看够的。

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by colins

I've heard some bros who say that they feel the sense of emptiness after they finish a session. In them, the triple F rule dun apply anymore. In fact, bros who prefer certain type of girls, whether its looks or figure, are looking for more than just the 3Fs.

yea, agreed. Initially, when l step into commerical sex, the main purpose is to have fun, enjoy myself, satisfy my lust. l went all over to find nice good places with good services to cheong. l guess this is the intention of most bros when they just step into the commerical sex world rite?

but dont know why, as time passes, l find that l am not jus looking for jus a fark, l tink l harbour something more than this. l will tend to rtf and just look for the same gal if we can click and have the chemistry.

For me, my mindset had been changed to, l just like to find a gal that l can click, and can have those kind of chemistry with. It is no longer the kind of fark and go. Anyway after the gal which l am fond of, left. My cheonging habit totally died down.

[longwinter]

Anyway guys, pardon me for the above naive and childish feelings l display.

[jojogigi]

Originally Posted by longwinter

Anyway guys, pardon me for the above naive and childish feelings l display.

dude.. its not naive. i'm also one. and infact alot of us chiongsters are like this. They want the gfe feeling. something we had lost long long time ago and we use money to buy it.

[longwinter]

Originally Posted by jojogigi

dude.. its not naive. i'm also one. and infact alot of us chiongsters are like this. They want the gfe feeling. something we had lost long long time ago and we use money to buy it.

haha, thanks for the console, bro. Even though, l do noe that the gfe and happiness is just short term, but sumhow in the heart, l still yearn for it. Maybe like wanting to have a short sweet memory to fill my heart and memory bah.

l think in every guy, there will always be gals they are fond of and can click well, and they will just wanted to do those sweet nice things for her without any obligations. Cos when u see her happy, u also will feel happy and good as well. opps, tink l getting out of pt at here liaos.

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by HairyBottom

This paragraph is good, pretty much explains the KC factor.

情人比老婆好是有原因的，审美疲劳和爱情疲劳使男人感觉情人比老婆好。一般情人都是年轻漂亮的，即便是年龄 相仿的也是比较会安抚伺候自己的女人。有时候情人不仅是性的关系，也真有感情的原因。没有感情在一起的情人 ，那就是一种交易的存在。钱买性，买心理的一种知足感和快感。

　　男人天生就花心，对异性有着强烈的占有欲望。男人天生就是要征服女人的，当然不是靠暴力，而已引诱和收 买。
　　
男人对自己整日朝夕相伴的老婆时间长了有一种麻木，没有新鲜的感觉，爱情疲劳，审美疲劳，有时候不仅是审美 疲劳，还感觉老婆恶心，总是婆婆妈妈的，整日里啰嗦起来没完没了。再热情的爱情也有降温的时候，在激荡的情 感也有平静的时候。那些所谓的事业成功的成功人士们，外面一帮和苍蝇一样的小女人等着不劳而获呢。有的小女 人专门找大男人，一是认为大男人成熟，一是好勾引，一是钱厚有积累。小女人总是可人的，给人一种怜惜的神态 ，实际骨子里是吃定你的。想做别人情人的女人，目的不外乎是真爱或崇拜或有目的。真爱的少。

情人之所以吸引男人，有自己的一套女人方法。对他的理解和对她妻子的宽容都让男人有一种错觉，那就是此女比 较大气，有宽宏和善良的心。实际上，任何一个女人在真爱面前都容不下另外一个女人的存在。情人的所谓的宽容 实际就是一种策略，一种攻略，甚至是谋略。在这背后隐藏着伤感的心。

　　情人不总见面，也不是整日在一起过日子，所以情人一切的优点都展示出来，缺点都带回家，都在背后。老婆 不一样白天晚上都在一起生活，很多的隐私几乎就是对丈夫公开的，包括身体的每个细微的地方，丈夫都知道，都 是看够的。

Good read

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by colins

I've heard some bros who say that they feel the sense of emptiness after they finish a session. In them, the triple F rule dun apply anymore. In fact, bros who prefer certain type of girls, whether its looks or figure, are looking for more than just the 3Fs.

I'm guilty but I'm sure many others are as well.

I tried calling a few up chicks but cancelled the appts after a while & even just sat & chit chat with one but still paid her. I'm beginning to wonder if I need sex anymore

The worst would be when u mix feelings into a commercial fuck. Either party gets involved & it hurts real bad. Percentage of a successful relationship in paid sex is very thin. I would do the 3xF & not get serious but when u're not serious, it gets dry & empty. If u get serious, u start to wonder if she's true.... aiya damn messy better don't go there.

[jojogigi]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

If u get serious, u start to wonder if she's true.... aiya damn messy better don't go there.

hahaha this is so spot on.. you start to get suspicious... jealous... standard sop leh. hahahaha because when you start to feel and treat her like gf instead of a WL. I also got kenna this... learnt it as a lesson and now dun really treat seriously cos its never really serious unless its serious. Anyway i basically just play on with the gf/bf game but not to get involved seriously in the process. (it like playing russian roulette. one day might just get shot) Lets say a little process to fill my void momentarily. But definitely not for the long run.

Imagine 2 yrs ago i book a Lor 8 WL for 2 hrs to go eat and never fuck!!??? pple think im crazy. Lucky still got investments returns. Sometimes fuck for free. still a friend though. that time still young bird. learn to fly but end up falling down the nest.

[HairyBottom]

Originally Posted by porscheclub

I tried calling a few up chicks but cancelled the appts after a while & even just sat & chit chat with one but still paid her. I'm beginning to wonder if I need sex anymore

not surprising. life here is fast paced and all abt wrk and $. communication getting harder and harder. not only small head needs release big head also needs release stress sometimes.

[jojogigi]

Originally Posted by longwinter

l think in every guy, there will always be gals they are fond of and can click well, and they will just wanted to do those sweet nice things for her without any obligations. Cos when u see her happy, u also will feel happy and good as well.

actually this part of you. which you just said. Is very dangerous. Cause if you really meet a WL who is out for your money. thats it. Cos if she can act and fit in that category.... jialat liao.

although i have girls that im fond of and click well. I've learnt not to do any sweet things to her unless they really deserves it. (i did so many sweet things for sg girls in past..and its really fucking sweet one no joke) end up. also useless. sometimes girls are just sluts. they like to be abused... they like to feel a challenge. bad boys.
They like you they like you. Its not what you do. If its what you do. then they like what you do. not you.
anyway finding love in these type of circles is like running a track. going in circles and circles. Either we finish the race or we give up halfway.
lose one girl. find another one. lose again find another one again. neverending story.
我们不够她们狠。

[HairyBottom]

Originally Posted by jojogigi

although i have girls that im fond of and click well. I've learnt not to do any sweet things to her unless they really deserves it. (i did so many sweet things for sg girls in past..and its really fucking sweet one no joke) end up. also useless. sometimes girls are just sluts. they like to be abused... they like to feel a challenge. bad boys.
They like you they like you. Its not what you do. If its what you do. then they like what you do. not you.

think it depends...dont 4get sg girls generally have high expectations of guys...short of anything sweet to her the girl will run away even if she likes u initially cos they will compare u with their other friends bfs. seen too many such cases liao....

[jojogigi]

Originally Posted by HairyBottom

think it depends...dont 4get sg girls generally have high expectations of guys...short of anything sweet to her the girl will run away even if she likes u initially cos they will compare u with their other friends bfs. seen too many such cases liao....

maybe different cases ah. when i don't give a fuck. than they are more loving. when i give a damn.. they don't give a fuck. sigh. Its understandable why so many sg guys are turning to prc MMs. im one of them. LOL and sigh.
Sg guys are sick of complication. make it simple. use money and buy. sad but a fact.