Wives and Lovers...Steps to Happiness or Unhappiness?

[colins]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

Okay then I am apologetic for intruding the thread this way. ;]
But by far, I have not still yet change my views...

Aiyo nobody wants to change your mind la, I just want to learn from you cos if you have a special formula and like now would share more about it, everyone can benefit mah. Else no difference from those 摆地摊 卖膏药 right?

Anyways apologies accepted. bye!

[newbadass]

Originally Posted by Panamera

`TRISH sholud be a dicky, I've been trying to draw her out, calling her a spinster and old maid but no response from her at all. Any female would jump and shout at me as it was an insulting and a degrading term. Only a guy would not react to it.

In addition, most female samsters here would not write long postings and certain words used by 'TRISH were men words than women. There are only a handful of female samsters here, so it is easy to profile.

Or maybe the poster finds your insults too silly to respond to, leh? If it's me, whether man or woman, I also couldn't be bothered what... what "spinster" what "old maid"... nabei, you still think this is the 80s?

Walao brudder... you don't know ah... some of the most long-winded posters on here are charbor OK...

[`TRISH]

Originally Posted by colins

Aiyo nobody wants to change your mind la, I just want to learn from you cos if you have a special formula and like now would share more about it, everyone can benefit mah. Else no difference from those 摆地摊 卖膏药 right?

Anyways apologies accepted. bye!

Not all of my relatives and friends have a loving marriage but there is some that do. The people that have, said that sex too often, often causes both parties to see flaws on each other and after sex they often find each other unattractive. Guys have a immediate effect, "turn over and sleep". I think thats call the sex hang over.

On my side, I agree on that too and I honestly find that cuddling with each other every night rather than sex makes our bonding more meaningful and builds our mutual trust, compassion and understanding much stronger.
And of course sex is a vital point in marriage but everything to the extreme is not good right? Plus there are other factors to consider.

But of course this doesnt works for everyone.
Just my thoughts...

After going through my posts, I take back the insults I gave.

[Panamera]

Originally Posted by newbadass

Or maybe the poster finds your insults too silly to respond to, leh? If it's me, whether man or woman, I also couldn't be bothered what... what "spinster" what "old maid"... nabei, you still think this is the 80s?

Walao brudder... you don't know ah... some of the most long-winded posters on here are charbor OK...

Yo Bro newbadass, I also think it's silly. hahaha ..pai-sei, pai-sei

[colins]

Originally Posted by newbadass

....
Walao brudder... you don't know ah... some of the most long-winded posters on here are charbor OK...

Yeah, i second this comment. Haha...a lot of them do explain their points in great details.

[Panamera]

Bro Colins, I think you got an admirateur! wahahahaha

[colins]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

Not all of my relatives and friends have a loving marriage but there is some that do. The people that have, said that sex too often, often causes both parties to see flaws on each other and after sex they often find each other unattractive. Guys have a immediate effect, "turn over and sleep". I think thats call the sex hang over.

On my side, I agree on that too and I honestly find that cuddling with each other every night rather than sex makes our bonding more meaningful and builds our mutual trust, compassion and understanding much stronger.
And of course sex is a vital point in marriage but everything to the extreme is not good right? Plus there are other factors to consider.

But of course this doesnt works for everyone.
Just my thoughts...

After going through my posts, I take back the insults I gave.

I'm quite sure the bros here can take what you termed as insults. There are worst. The point here is, the thinking between male and female are very different (like everyone dun know), so that logically separates our needs as well. We guys have physical needs, you have emotional needs, guy may never understand how cuddling builds trust, girls may never understand how sexual satisfactions (albeit till hangover) builds security and therefore gives us the psychological relief to fall asleep.

Believing that everything in a relationship should be mutual is fantasizing about If-I-like-something-you-will-sure-like-it-too kinda conclusion. Mundane life doesn't work in parallel with love life, you have ups and downs, you have uncontrollable sensitivity, you have preferences built from experience. Siamese twins also got quarrel, but they cannot part ways, thats all.

Before I go too far, my conclusion in relationships, is that there is no consultative relationship. Either you take control or you dun. Make yourself happy first before you can make others happy. Your partner, whether voluntarily or not, stays with the style of the prominent person. If you happy with him/her controlling, be ready for the fact that his/her personal preference may infringe yours (like extra-marital relationship) until you have to accept it or break it. If you can cause such effect on your partner, you control. If you suffer from such effect, accept being controlled. Both cases can make you happy unless you choose to escape, thinking that you are in control of the relationship when in actual fact you do not. Wanting it yet deluding yourself away from the reality that you dun have it. Escaping anything is the start of the end of a relationship. Controlling the other partner, is not. So in a very objective view, be happy but be happy seeing the truth as the person being controlled when you absolutely need him/her in your life.

[1302]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

After going through my posts, I take back the insults I gave.

Tok so muchie end up still LPPL gong solly.
Eh charbor next time think before you fuck,thats da cos of unwanted pregnancies.
Open mouf anyhow shoot
Lucky this cyberworld else i sure take my lanjiao make you chui tut lan i tell you!
But i tink Panamera already took that slot kekekeke

Panamera make sure this cheebye mouth bitch you CIM and she fucking swallow every drop hor.
Not enuff tell me & i ask all bros here to collect & give her spermy shower

[`TRISH]

Originally Posted by 1302

Tok so muchie end up still LPPL gong solly.
Eh charbor next time think before you fuck,thats da cos of unwanted pregnancies.
Open mouf anyhow shoot
Lucky this cyberworld else i sure take my lanjiao make you chui tut lan i tell you!
But i tink Panamera already took that slot kekekeke

Panamera make sure this cheebye mouth bitch you CIM and she fucking swallow every drop hor.
Not enuff tell me & i ask all bros here to collect & give her spermy shower

People like you is why I dont bother reply to some posts.
But exceptionally you, because you won in your motive to make me mad.
Before you worry about putting your so called dickhead into my mouth, you should worry about whether your so called penis would get bitten off or tugged off.

Back to the topic, yes be happy is all that counts! ;]

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

Back to the topic, yes be happy is all that counts! ;]

I'm in no position to comment on that fellas post but i can only say, like you've finally, and i hope, came to your senses of REALITY vs IDEAL

Being married wif 3 wives under 1 roof is no easy task.
Yes, works for me, they are all working for me now just for the record.
My 1st runs the family
My 2nd runs my business
My 3rd is my financial controller
So, they all contribute to the wealth and not, just spread their legs like most lovers or mistresses to earn their keep!
So in other words, I dun feed them, they actually feed me hahahaha
Note, they are also not your silent goody 2 shoes kinda gals u see wif their men, they all belong to the Alpha female group, and most men will salivate by just looking at them.
Some here have and I'm very sure they can vouch for that!

They all know my vices, yes, and i do not hesitate to tell them, let alone bring them occasionally to the KTVs i frequent to show them my NEW TOY!
Yes, many times, these TOYS freak in disbelief but people in my circle and nitescene all know about this, and it aint no secret.
If you have friends in the nitescene, go ask, you'll find out who i am real person easy.
Are they upset?
Of cos, but they come to terms wif it.....
Y u will surely be wondering?
An eagle needs to hunt.
Chain the eagle up, it'll loose its oomph and thus, u loose the core characteristic of that individual.

Do they feel threatened???? Actually, no. Not that they encourage it but they have come to terms and understand it.
Cos they know, these toys will be thrown away as fast as they came, and thus, is of no threat to the family.

Next, since they all work together, they go to work together, eat together, come home together, so should they have their vice, then who am i to say. If so, will i be upset??? Of cos, but who am I to challenge this should it actually happen one day? I am the least most qualified person in my house to challenge them on this. But hey, I trust them!

They all cross check each other, also a fail safe way for me without having to lift a finger.
Lastly, TRUST, the most important thing in any relationship, if there's no honesty and trust in a relationship, no matter how much u love someone, the insecurity will be like a cancer cell that will slowly but surely destroy the love of your life.

Remember, whatever choices we make in life, there's always 2 choices. Whichever one you take, will lead to a different ending. Being rigid is actually a matter of EGO......a smart n wise man will always have to maneuver according to the ever changing landscape and terrain to get his advantage to win any battle.
A rigid and stubborn general will always be beaten by his own reluctance to adjust to the needs as & when required as proven time & time again in history.

Life is like a chess game, play it well, all goes well.
Play it badly, everything will start to break apart no matter how to try to out flank your opponent.
That's why i say from the beginning, works for me!

[`TRISH]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

I'm in no position to comment on that fellas post but i can only say, like you've finally, and i hope, came to your senses of REALITY vs IDEAL

Being married wif 3 wives under 1 roof is no easy task.
Yes, works for me, they are all working for me now just for the record.
My 1st runs the family
My 2nd runs my business
My 3rd is my financial controller
So, they all contribute to the wealth and not, just spread their legs like most lovers or mistresses to earn their keep!
So in other words, I dun feed them, they actually feed me hahahaha
Note, they are also not your silent goody 2 shoes kinda gals u see wif their men, they all belong to the Alpha female group, and most men will salivate by just looking at them.
Some here have and I'm very sure they can vouch for that!

They all know my vices, yes, and i do not hesitate to tell them, let alone bring them occasionally to the KTVs i frequent to show them my NEW TOY!
Yes, many times, these TOYS freak in disbelief but people in my circle and nitescene all know about this, and it aint no secret.
If you have friends in the nitescene, go ask, you'll find out who i am real person easy.
Are they upset?
Of cos, but they come to terms wif it.....
Y u will surely be wondering?
An eagle needs to hunt.
Chain the eagle up, it'll loose its oomph and thus, u loose the core characteristic of that individual.

Do they feel threatened???? Actually, no. Not that they encourage it but they have come to terms and understand it.
Cos they know, these toys will be thrown away as fast as they came, and thus, is of no threat to the family.

Next, since they all work together, they go to work together, eat together, come home together, so should they have their vice, then who am i to say. If so, will i be upset??? Of cos, but who am I to challenge this should it actually happen one day? I am the least most qualified person in my house to challenge them on this. But hey, I trust them!

They all cross check each other, also a fail safe way for me without having to lift a finger.
Lastly, TRUST, the most important thing in any relationship, if there's no honesty and trust in a relationship, no matter how much u love someone, the insecurity will be like a cancer cell that will slowly but surely destroy the love of your life.

Remember, whatever choices we make in life, there's always 2 choices. Whichever one you take, will lead to a different ending. Being rigid is actually a matter of EGO......a smart n wise man will always have to maneuver according to the ever changing landscape and terrain to get his advantage to win any battle.
A rigid and stubborn general will always be beaten by his own reluctance to adjust to the needs as & when required as proven time & time again in history.

Life is like a chess game, play it well, all goes well.
Play it badly, everything will start to break apart no matter how to try to out flank your opponent.
That's why i say from the beginning, works for me!

Hold on a second, I think you have mistaken me, I still choose to have my stand because i personally have this boundary and if the partner decide to cross over, I would definately go without hesitation... haha! Stubborn or naive up to you to decide!
Your family is definately a lively one, I bet every guy thinks your damn lucky.
But honestly I think, given that kind of family the girls wouldnt be bored like the average homewife. zzz!
But I still choose to disapprove! But whatever right! =p

[mike1304k]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Life is like a chess game, play it well, all goes well.
Play it badly, everything will start to break apart no matter how to try to out flank your opponent.
That's why i say from the beginning, works for me!

How very very true.... Mark these words well everyone... I live by them too.. It helps a lot but sometimes does tend to be a bother.

[newbadass]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

People like you is why I dont bother reply to some posts.
But exceptionally you, because you won in your motive to make me mad.
Before you worry about putting your so called dickhead into my mouth, you should worry about whether your so called penis would get bitten off or tugged off.

Back to the topic, yes be happy is all that counts! ;]

This fella got no standard, what for bother with him?

Up to individual what he/she can or cannot tahan. Maybe going by quantity DYBJ is a very lucky guy... but give me the same thing, can I tahan? I doubt it, really. A really fortunate guy, to me, is someone who is given exactly what he can handle, no more no less. So if you can handle 3 women, well done! If not, don't try to be a hero and bite off more than you can chew...

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by `TRISH

Hold on a second, I think you have mistaken me, I still choose to have my stand because i personally have this boundary and if the partner decide to cross over, I would definately go without hesitation... haha! Stubborn or naive up to you to decide!
Your family is definately a lively one, I bet every guy thinks your damn lucky.
But honestly I think, given that kind of family the girls wouldnt be bored like the average homewife. zzz!
But I still choose to disapprove! But whatever right! =p

Exactly opposite of wat you look for.
Allow me to elaborate further cos from your post, I dare say you're not married wif children.
Got BF no count!
One day, when you THINK your ideal life is so lovely, when hubby goes work, come back hug hug kiss kiss watch TV, we'll see who gets tired 1st & needs to get their life back to speed.
It will be so monotonous and boring.....the seed that propels men to look for spice elsewhere.......
But hey, remember your last statement, i said works for me.
And trust me my dear, you r in no status or position to even tell me whether you approve or disapprove, cos i aint seeking any from you, especially someone who i dare say again is almost half my age but of cos, you can choose on your own believes.

But i dun blame you, i once tot like you too.
Married, 收山how nice....bwahahahaha but experience has proved me otherwise!

That's Y when my old man was alive, when we argue, he'll just say "STOP!"
No need to tok, one day u yourself will learn.....as usual, he's rite.

Dun be too trigger happy, cos most of the times, the only one that gets shot in the end, is the shooter

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by newbadass

So if you can handle 3 women, well done! If not, don't try to be a hero and bite off more than you can chew...

Actually, there's no discussion needed.
Your reply above is the root to all these debate.
But then again, the moral of this thread by TS is not about approve or disapprove.
It's whether it'll lead to happiness or unhappiness.
Think it's way off track liao.

TS, sorry, my bad, i went off track....