Gers Are Still Gers

Originally Posted by jng1103

Hmm... I do not understand why it's so difficult to understand that in fact many foreigners come to SG to earn strong SGD and enjoy the both world (in another words, their home country has lower income as per capita). OK, let's not get carried away from the focus point here, it's all about SG gers, as the thread started. It aint monetary gain for this debate and OK, SG gers are all great. Happy ending?

jimbo

This thread is all about (slamming) SG gers is it? So sorry then. I thought it's a thread for guys to rant about gers in general.

Ok you guys carry on.

[asdfghjkl]

yes.. please keep to singaporean women only so i can direct my female friends here..

[Kyser Soze]

If given a choice, 2 girls readily available:
1) a normal Singaporean girl working as an executive (monthly income $3k)
2) a good looking PRC girl working as an factory operator (monthly income $1.1k)

Which would you choose to be your girlfriend? Assuming that their other qualities (i.e. character, moral values) are on par. This is a situation a friend of mine is facing right now.

[siamcutey]

Originally Posted by Kyser Soze

If given a choice, 2 girls readily available:
1) a normal Singaporean girl working as an executive (monthly income $3k)
2) a good looking PRC girl working as an factory operator (monthly income $1.1k)

Which would you choose to be your girlfriend? Assuming that their other qualities (i.e. character, moral values) are on par. This is a situation a friend of mine is facing right now

I would choose the girl working as an executive to be my wife and the factory operator to be mistress.

Like dat can or not.

Y?

Good looking PRC will not stay good looking forever. But a normal girl with a good paying job can ease off quite a few financial burdens if got house, car. Also no need to give wife so much money for housekeeping because she is working.

Then ur own pay, can use to "finance" mistress. Eat finish, wipe mouth. Don't like then change taste.

If be with PRC, sooner later, have to feed her more because financially she is not very well.

This is the most realistic situation we faced.

SC

[masterview]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

I would choose the girl working as an executive to be my wife and the factory operator to be mistress.

Like dat can or not.

Y?

Good looking PRC will not stay good looking forever. But a normal girl with a good paying job can ease off quite a few financial burdens if got house, car. Also no need to give wife so much money for housekeeping because she is working.

Then ur own pay, can use to "finance" mistress. Eat finish, wipe mouth. Don't like then change taste.

If be with PRC, sooner later, have to feed her more because financially she is not very well.

This is the most realistic situation we faced.

SC

wah lao ... i agree to that... if any thing bad happen to me and the sg gal i still have the mistress..

[jng1103]

Originally Posted by Kyser Soze

If given a choice, 2 girls readily available:
1) a normal Singaporean girl working as an executive (monthly income $3k)
2) a good looking PRC girl working as an factory operator (monthly income $1.1k)

Which would you choose to be your girlfriend? Assuming that their other qualities (i.e. character, moral values) are on par. This is a situation a friend of mine is facing right now.

We got to weigh what's the best for us, in another words, what's our strength and gains for the decision we made.

If you have strong earning power, I do not see any problem marrying the PRC factory worker with $1.1K. This amount is insignificant if u hv good income, so u can carry on her load for a decent life in SG. However, if U are not able to fully support the lifestyle she wanted, plenty of 'wolves' out there eagerly waiting to take over ur place.

The main problem here is the "Intelligent Level" (no offence to anyone here) coz if u r a good earner at executive level, I suppose ur IQ/EQFQ are higher than her and that may cause conflicts from the communication gaps.

If U r a decent earner like most working adults, I suppose choosing the SG executive lady making more senses from the financial terms as well as communication level. I suppose she will bear 50% of all the expenses and carry on the same goals as u in the future.

Here is a simple illustration: A 42" plasma costs $5000 and if u cant afford $5000, u better find someone to share the 50% of the cost. Otherwise, U and ur partner will never get the plasma.

Think with your brain, NOT your heart. Love means NOTHING is a couple struggle financially.

jimbo

[Kyser Soze]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

I would choose the girl working as an executive to be my wife and the factory operator to be mistress.

Like dat can or not.

Hehe...I like that. That's what I told my friend exactly.

Originally Posted by jng1103

The main problem here is the "Intelligent Level" (no offence to anyone here) coz if u r a good earner at executive level, I suppose ur IQ/EQFQ are higher than her and that may cause conflicts from the communication gaps.

If U r a decent earner like most working adults, I suppose choosing the SG executive lady making more senses from the financial terms as well as communication level. I suppose she will bear 50% of all the expenses and carry on the same goals as u in the future.

My friend worked as an engineer. That's how he met this PRC girl at work. I have told him unless he wants a short term fling or relationship, the PRC girl is not for him. No offence to the PRC girl. But her intellect level and earning power is not there. After all, he's earning $3k per month, not $8k or $10k. The financial burden will be felt for sure. On top of that, the PRC girl is not here to stay. After her 2 year-contract ends, her contract is subjected to renewal, which can be a yes or no situation.

In terms of compatibility, the SG girl will definitely be a better choice.

[asdfghjkl]

work as executive can earn S$3k ah?! doing clerical job so good??

[Kyser Soze]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

work as executive can earn S$3k ah?! doing clerical job so good??

Not clerical job lah. She has several accounts, meaning customer base. Her job is to liaise with the clients of the specs on the product to be made, and make sure the production people adhere to it. Some engineering and marketing involved. That's why she command a decent pay.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

一哭，二闹， 三上钓 is wrong.
一哭，二闹， 三上吊 then is correct.


亿万年 is wrong
一万年 then is correct

U say its highly noticeable in sg girls thats because you mix around with sg girls. If you mix around with thai girls also more or less same. Just that your thai not good enough, thats why thai girls want to request anything, you also don't understand what they say. That's why you don't notice it.

SC

thanks for the spell check... well, as i said its highly noticeable, but doesnt denote/represent the entire populace of sg gals. i believe there'd be black sheeps amongst the flock (regardless of nationality/origins), sad to say in sg's context there's becoming more n more.

and in any given case, not that our sg guys r incompetent, but often the problem lies in the gals having expectations beyond reason/reality. and in those cases in particular, they can jolly well hang themselves high up there to dry, and i'm sure not many would be even keen so much as to bat an eyelid.

[suteerak1099]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

...... Most men that feedback here are mostly MCPs. Why? Because we have jobs, careers earning money and its instilled in our heads to work for our families. Most would of course if financially capable would not want wife to go out and work and want a gentle submissive wife at home. If today we become women, with our capabilities still unchanged will we want to be a gentle submissive wife or go out and see the world and carve out a career?

SC

you're not wrong in saying so, and i agree that there'd be some amongst us who bear the sentiments as you've illustrated. however, the irony sets in when IF, given the scenario of a role reversal.

i.e.: on account that the wife does better than the hubbby, and he chooses to sacrifice his career to be the homemaking husband. not many women out there would be too concerned about financing the hubby with allowances. simply bcos most career ladies tend to think along the lines of; "what's mine is mine, and what's your's is also mine"

they'd probably go on to justify citing reasons such as;
1. i need to portion my nett earnings for shopping
2. i need to portion my nett earnings for hairstyling
3. i need to portion my nett earnings for manicure/pedicure
4. i need to portion my nett earnings for cosmetics
5. i need to portion my nett earnings for fine dining (hawkers ruin my make-up)
6. i need to portion my nett earnings for entertainment
7. i need to portion my nett earnings for more shoes
8. i need to portion my nett earnings for spa
9. i need to portion my nett earnings for cab incase i cant drive in my heels
....etc.

she'd probably claim that there's nothing much to spend for the homemaking husband. yet to my understanding, most homemaking wives do have pre-requisites when being the stay home spouse.

i guess we call that... double standards.

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by Kyser Soze

If given a choice, 2 girls readily available:
1) a normal Singaporean girl working as an executive (monthly income $3k)
2) a good looking PRC girl working as an factory operator (monthly income $1.1k)

Which would you choose to be your girlfriend? Assuming that their other qualities (i.e. character, moral values) are on par. This is a situation a friend of mine is facing right now.

I guess this leads us to the question "Who can you live with and who you cannot live without."

[JWNY]

Picked this up from the ThailandQA forums as thought it was rather cute...

JWNY

Original Post - wahfreak

Personally I didn't go "looking" for a Thai wife either. I met her at a Thai resturaunt that my friends and I went to every Friday night. She had a very bright personality that seemed very genuine. After thinking about it for a long time I finally asked her on a date and the rest was history. Actually, it may have been different had I known all the challanges up front. But in the end it all worked well and I am very happy today.

We would chit chat as she was waiting on our table. I would do my best not to let her know I was asking questions that informed me of her status. Questions like "any plans for the week end"? She would say things like "no just work and go shopping". She never mentioned a boyfriend. Then a friend of mine actually asked her directly when I wasn't there and told me she was single.

One afternoon, I think it was our 3rd or 4th date. Our status as boyfriend/girlfriend wasn't defined yet. Our signals got crossed and I went to pick her up at her apartment while she was waiting for me at the resturaunt. I was mad at her for not being there, she was mad at me for not being there.

When I finally picked her up at the resturaunt, I told her how sorry I was for being late and for the mis-communication. She still acted mad. I asked her "are you still mad at me"?? She said "that depends". I said "depends on what"? She said "are you my boyfriend". In an instant I knew it was a defining monent. I really couldn't say "no" because I really liked her, so right away I blurted "yes". Then in her angry Thai voice she said "then I still mad at you". I knew she was the one!!

[Kyser Soze]

Originally Posted by JWNY

I told her how sorry I was for being late and for the mis-communication. She still acted mad. I asked her "are you still mad at me"?? She said "that depends". I said "depends on what"? She said "are you my boyfriend". In an instant I knew it was a defining monent. I really couldn't say "no" because I really liked her, so right away I blurted "yes". Then in her angry Thai voice she said "then I still mad at you". I knew she was the one!!

Yes, it's quite a good one. Maybe this is an ideal scenerio of true love. Reminds me of the puppy love we have while in school. We may never chance this again.

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by JWNY

Picked this up from the ThailandQA forums as thought it was rather cute...

JWNY

There is no barrier in cross races, country, religion, for I believe it is afterall a matter between two person, no one would really set out looking for a particular kind of partner but when we see the right one there will be no turning back then.