痛了。。。自然就会放手～

Medusa · #1 06-04-2010, 12:07 PM

一个苦者找到一个和尚倾诉他的心事。
他说：“我放不下一些事，放不下一些人。”
和尚说：“没有什么东西是放不下的。”
他说：“这些事和人我就偏偏放不下。”
和尚让他拿着一个茶杯，然后就往里面倒热水，一直倒到水溢出来。
苦者被烫到马上松开了手。
和尚说：“这个世界上没有什么事是放不下的，痛了，你自然就会放下。”

你可能觉得难过
因为无论你对他怎么好他都不领情
他不是看不到
他只是装作看不到
或者他根本不想看到
你觉得自己很喜欢他
甚至觉得再没有一个人可以像你那么喜欢他
你用尽全力对他好
把他看的比自己还重要
有什么事情第一个就想到他

联系不到他的时候你担心他担心的快疯了
然而你有没有想过
这并不在你的责任范围
而且很有可能他是在躲着你
他受不了你对他那么好
不要一直发短信给他
不要一直找他
你也许只是想找他说说话
你觉得那很正常不算苛求
但是也许他并不这么想

记住你的想法不代表他的想法
你是真的不求回报的在喜欢他吗
你扪心自问一下
你确定不用他回报什么吗
那为什么你会难过
若是真的一无所求
你又怎么会觉得难过呢
所以别觉得你那么爱他是伟大的
也许她根本不在乎你怎么为他付出
有时候你给他的爱或许是种负担

这种负担只会让他更加想远离你
因为他不想亏欠你
别事事为他担心为他张罗
你觉得他没有你不行
你觉得别人做不到你那么完善
但是你要清楚
你不是他要的那个人
你做的再完善也敌不过人家不做
自然会有人为他担心为他着急
不用你来费心

那个位置本来就不是你的
你何必硬要挤上去呢
也许曾经你们是相爱过的
但是请记住那是曾经
过去的就是过去了
如果大家真的适合在一起
那么当初就不会分开
无论是谁提的分手都一样
这段感情曾经就是存在破裂点的
不管是谁错结果都是一个你们分开了

分开以后
如果一方试图想挽回而另一方没有同意的话
那么这段感情就是过去了
他是理智的因为他已经明白了两个人不适合
而你还一遍一遍的告诉自己
你们当初如何如何相爱
不可能那么容易就分手的
这样只会让你更加难以放弃
却不会让对方再次回头选择你
除非大家都有意要和好

否则你一个巴掌是不可能拍响的
所以尽早打消这个念头吧
至于他是不是有意我想你自己心里比谁都明白
不要觉得自己有多可怜或者把自己弄的很可怜
这样做一点意思也没有
他不会因为你可怜而喜欢你
你说道理你都懂只是你做不好
不是你做不好是你不想做
你不是怕忘记他你是怕他忘了你吧
别说什么他离不开你的

其实分明就是你离不开他
他若是离不开你
他就不会不要你
整天死死巴着人家不放的人是你
不懂事的人是你
难道你没看出来吗
喜欢他不是你的错
想关心他不是你的错
控制不住自己不是你的错
但是那是你的方式

傻孩子．
忘了吧．所有你留恋的．你回忆的．你拥有过的．
那些．都已是记忆．
缺失并不可怕．
可怕的．是无法面对．

傻孩子．
勇敢看着镜子中的自己吧．
这个悲伤软弱满面憔悴的自己．
这也是你．成长中的你．
这个你．正在逐渐死去．
新的你．即将重生．
找寻你的路．你的未来．
你知道的．所有的浩劫．都是成长的祭奠．
做最好的自己．即使．一个人．

傻孩子．
你无法轻易忘记放弃．是因为你付出过．
付出了．她就会像柱子一样扎根在心．
不要刻意去逃避．刻意忘记．那只会让你更痛苦．
绕开这个柱子．寻找未来的幸福生活吧．
那里．有你的理想．

傻孩子．
开始新的习惯吧．
习惯．早上不再有人工闹铃．
习惯．每天一个人生活．
习惯．一个人过生日．一个人行走．
你逃不掉．逃不掉的．
那么．就勇敢面对．现实．
现实是．她已离开．一切．画上了句点．

傻孩子．
好．好．尽情发泄吧．
剥开自己的心．用文字．用声音．用所有能发泄的方式．
泄完了．就要振作．
看吧．你失去的．其实微不足道．
还有那么多人关心着你．以不同的方式．
所以．你并不孤独．
正是这样的失去．让你看清现在所拥有的幸福．

傻孩子．
别哭．别再哭．
不值得．真的．不值得了．
把过去尘封吧．别委屈．别不甘心．别不接受．
开始新的旅程吧．去遇见新的风景．新的际遇．
做你该做的事吧．有很多事．等待着你完成呢．

傻孩子．
所有的人都对你有信心．
所以．你也要充满信心．
你是坚强的．积极的．乐观的．洒脱的．
以前是．以后也会是．
总有一天．那个活力无穷傻气无尽的女金刚会复活．

傻孩子．
生活褪去了曾有的颜色．暂时宁静．
别沉沦在这片宁静里．那会毁掉你．
你要明白．虽然残忍．但这个决定．足够正确．
现在的生活．不是你想要的．
为了你的理想．你必须学会适时放弃．
给对方最好的关怀．就是．变的更好．更强大．更幸福．

现在我对你很好、很好、很好,
你不需要、你无所谓、你不在乎，你不珍惜。。。。
当某天，你被伤害，想起我。
那时的我再也做不到像现在这样一如既往、不顾一切的

对你好了。。。
因为那时的我，已经将你放低。。。。
原来，放低一个人，最后是被对方逼出来的。。。。
其实这个世界，真的没有非要谁不可，
走自己的路，别回头

horny03 · #2 06-04-2010, 12:53 PM

Thanks for posting this . It has enlighten me .

Spud_Boy · #3 06-04-2010, 01:16 PM

every word touches the heart..

upped u, bro..

Medusa · #4 06-04-2010, 02:12 PM

hey i'm back hahaha.....i've tried my very best to translate the whole thing into english...so please pardon me if it sounds funny to you hahahaha....

specially to those who dont read chinese =D

一个苦者找到一个和尚倾诉他的心事。
a dejected man found a monk and confide to him
他说：“我放不下一些事，放不下一些人。”
he says: "i cant let go some things, cant let go some ppl"
和尚说：“没有什么东西是放不下的。”
the monk reply : "there is nothing that couldnt be let go."
他说：“这些事和人我就偏偏放不下。”
he says: "but i just couldnt let go of this matter and people."
和尚让他拿着一个茶杯，然后就往里面倒热水，一直倒到水溢出来。
the monk then let him hold onto a teacup, then he start pouring hot water till the

water start to overflow.
苦者被烫到马上松开了手。
dejected man was scalded and immediately let go of his hand
和尚说：“这个世界上没有什么事是放不下的，痛了，你自然就会放下。”
the monk says: "there is nothing in this world that couldnt be let go, once you feel the pain, you will put down naturally."

你可能觉得难过
you may feel sad
因为无论你对他怎么好他都不领情
because no matter how good you are to him/her, he/she just dont appreciate it
他不是看不到
its not that she/he's unable to see
他只是装作看不到
she/he's just pretending not to see
或者他根本不想看到
or maybe she/he just choose not to see
你觉得自己很喜欢他
you find that you really love him/her
甚至觉得再没有一个人可以像你那么喜欢他
you even feel there's nobody in this world who will love him/her as much as you do
你用尽全力对他好
you gave him/her all your best
把他看的比自己还重要
treat him/her as the most important person in your life
有什么事情第一个就想到他
he/she will be the first you'd think of no matter what happen

联系不到他的时候你担心他担心的快疯了
you'll just go crazy when you couldnt contact him/her
然而你有没有想过
but have it ever cross your mind
这并不在你的责任范围
this is not within your responsibility
而且很有可能他是在躲着你
it could be that he/she is avoiding you
他受不了你对他那么好
he/she just couldnt accept how good you are to him/her
不要一直发短信给他
dont keep sending her/him sms
不要一直找他
dont keep looking for him/her
你也许只是想找他说说话
maybe you just wanna find him/her for a chat
你觉得那很正常不算苛求
you find that reasonable
但是也许他并不这么想
but, maybe...thats not what he/she think

记住你的想法不代表他的想法
always remember what you are thinking doesnt mean he/she think this way too
你是真的不求回报的在喜欢他吗
are you very sure you love him/her wholeheartedly without asking for any returns
你扪心自问一下
look into your heart and ask yourself
你确定不用他回报什么吗
are you sure you dont need any return from him/her
那为什么你会难过
then why are you sad
若是真的一无所求
if its true you dont need returns
你又怎么会觉得难过呢
why will you feel sad
所以别觉得你那么爱他是伟大的
so dont feel that the way you love him/her is great
也许她根本不在乎你怎么为他付出
perhaps he/she dont even care how much you have invested
有时候你给他的爱或许是种负担
sometimes your love towards him/her could just be a burden

这种负担只会让他更加想远离你
this kinda burden will only make him/her wanting to distance from you
因为他不想亏欠你
because he/she just dont wanna owe you anything
别事事为他担心为他张罗
dont worried or get anxious with anything that concerns him/her
你觉得他没有你不行
you feel that he/she cant live without you
你觉得别人做不到你那么完善
you even feel there's nobody in this world who could replace you
但是你要清楚
but please be clear
你不是他要的那个人
you are not the person he/she wants
你做的再完善也敌不过人家不做
no matter how perfectly you have done for him, its never comparable to others who didnt do it at all
自然会有人为他担心为他着急
there will be people who will get worried and anxious for him/her
不用你来费心
you really dont have to worry

那个位置本来就不是你的
this position wasnt yours in the first place
你何必硬要挤上去呢
why would you wanna squeeze yourself into it
也许曾经你们是相爱过的
maybe you and him/her were once deeply in love
但是请记住那是曾经
but please remember that was "once"
过去的就是过去了
whatever that pass have pass
如果大家真的适合在一起
if both of you are really meant to be
那么当初就不会分开
you wouldnt have broke up
无论是谁提的分手都一样
it doesnt matter who initiate the breakup
这段感情曾经就是存在破裂点的
this relationship is already based on a broken point
不管是谁错结果都是一个你们分开了
so no matter who's in the wrong...the ending will still be the same

分开以后
after break off
如果一方试图想挽回而另一方没有同意的话
if only one party wanna mend back while the other have no intention at all
那么这段感情就是过去了
this shows that the relationship is over
他是理智的因为他已经明白了两个人不适合
he/she is just sensible enough to know that both of you are not compatible
而你还一遍一遍的告诉自己
but you just keep repeating to yourself
你们当初如何如何相爱
how loving you and him/her used to be
不可能那么容易就分手的
not possible to just break it off like that
这样只会让你更加难以放弃
by doing this you will only end up letting go harder
却不会让对方再次回头选择你
but will never let him/her turn back and choose you again
除非大家都有意要和好
unless both parties are willing to mend this relationship again

否则你一个巴掌是不可能拍响的
a single palm will never be able to create sound
所以尽早打消这个念头吧
so please drop the idea
至于他是不是有意我想你自己心里比谁都明白
whether he/she still have the intention to mend back anything, i'm sure you already

have the answer
不要觉得自己有多可怜或者把自己弄的很可怜
dont feel that you are pathetic or attempt to be pathetic
这样做一点意思也没有
by doing this is meaningless
他不会因为你可怜而喜欢你
he/she wont love you because you are pathetic
你说道理你都懂只是你做不好
whatever he/she says, you understand but just couldnt get it right
不是你做不好是你不想做
its not that you couldnt get it right, you just dont want to
你不是怕忘记他你是怕他忘了你吧
its not that you are worried you'll forget him/her but rather you are just worried he/she'll forget you
别说什么他离不开你的
dont ever have the thought that he/she cant live without you

其实分明就是你离不开他
its just so obvious that you are the one who cant live without him/her
他若是离不开你
if he/she is the one who cant live without you
他就不会不要你
then he/she wont end this relationship
整天死死巴着人家不放的人是你
you are the one who keep holding on and sticking around
不懂事的人是你
the one who is not understanding enough is you
难道你没看出来吗
didnt you realise
喜欢他不是你的错
loving him/her is not your fault
想关心他不是你的错
caring for him/her is not your fault
控制不住自己不是你的错
couldnt control yourself is not your fault
但是那是你的方式
that is just your way of doing things

傻孩子．
silly boy/girl
忘了吧．所有你留恋的．你回忆的．你拥有过的．
forget about it, everything which you couldnt let go, your memories, and also
whatever you have had before
那些．都已是记忆．
that, are all your remembrance
缺失并不可怕．
its not scary to be lack of anything
可怕的．是无法面对．
the scariest is when you couldnt get yourself to face all these

傻孩子．
silly boy/girl
勇敢看着镜子中的自己吧．
be brave and look at yourself in the mirror
这个悲伤软弱满面憔悴的自己．
the sorrow, haggard and weak self
这也是你．成长中的你．
this is you, a part of growing up self
这个你．正在逐渐死去．
this part of you is dying off gradually
新的你．即将重生．
a new you is reborning soon
找寻你的路．你的未来．
find the road which you are taking, your future
你知道的．所有的浩劫．都是成长的祭奠．
you fully understand all obstacles are the necessity of growing up
做最好的自己．即使．一个人．
be the best, even if it means, alone

傻孩子．
silly boy/girl
你无法轻易忘记放弃．是因为你付出过．
you just couldnt let go easily was because you have truly give all your feeling
付出了．她就会像柱子一样扎根在心．
once given, he/she will be deeply imprint and remain steadfast in your heart
不要刻意去逃避．刻意忘记．那只会让你更痛苦．
dont avoid it purposely, dont forget it purposely, you will only end up more hurt
绕开这个柱子．寻找未来的幸福生活吧．
bypass this hurdle, and seek for your future happiness and life
那里．有你的理想．
you will have your dreams there

Medusa · #5 06-04-2010, 02:13 PM

傻孩子．
silly boy/girl
开始新的习惯吧．
begin your new life
习惯．早上不再有人工闹铃．
get use to life without a human clock
习惯．每天一个人生活．
get use to life living alone
习惯．一个人过生日．一个人行走．
get use to celebrate your birthday alone, get use to walk alone
你逃不掉．逃不掉的．
whatever you cant escape, you cant escape
那么．就勇敢面对．现实．
face the truth bravely
现实是．她已离开．一切．画上了句点．
the truth is, he/she have left, a fullstop is written

傻孩子．
silly boy/girl
好．好．尽情发泄吧．
vent out all your frustration
剥开自己的心．用文字．用声音．用所有能发泄的方式．
open your heart, using words, using voice, using all kinds of method that you can vent your frustration
泄完了．就要振作．
once you've done it...its time to cheer up
看吧．你失去的．其实微不足道．
look at it, what you have lost is actually insignificant
还有那么多人关心着你．以不同的方式．
there are still lots of care and concern from people around you, different forms of showing
所以．你并不孤独．
so, you are not alone
正是这样的失去．让你看清现在所拥有的幸福．
its because of this loss that you are able to see once again the happiness you are having

傻孩子．
silly boy/girl
别哭．别再哭．
dont cry, stop crying
不值得．真的．不值得了．
its not worth it, serious, not worth it
把过去尘封吧．别委屈．别不甘心．别不接受．
seal up your past, dont feel wronged, dont be angry, dont feel unaccepted
开始新的旅程吧．去遇见新的风景．新的际遇．
begin your new journey, go meet up new aquintance, look at new scenery
做你该做的事吧．有很多事．等待着你完成呢．
do whatever you need to do, there are alot of things waiting for you to complete

傻孩子．
silly boy/girl
所有的人都对你有信心．
everybody are confident in you
所以．你也要充满信心．
so you must be filled with confidence too
你是坚强的．积极的．乐观的．洒脱的．
you must be braved, positive, optimistic, free and easy
以前是．以后也会是．
you use to be in the past, you have to be in the future too
总有一天．那个活力无穷傻气无尽的女金刚会复活．
there will be a day, when the active, happy, carefree and innocent little you be revive

傻孩子．
silly boy/girl
生活褪去了曾有的颜色．暂时宁静．
life's fading off the colours it once had, tranquil prevail
别沉沦在这片宁静里．那会毁掉你．
dont bury yourself into this piece of quietness, that will only ruin you
你要明白．虽然残忍．但这个决定．足够正确．
you have to understand, although its cruel, but this decision, its the accurate way
现在的生活．不是你想要的．
the current life you are having, its not what you wanted
为了你的理想．你必须学会适时放弃．
because of your dreams and goals, you have to learn to let go
给对方最好的关怀．就是．变的更好．更强大．更幸福．
The best present to the other person is to live better,stronger and happier

现在我对你很好、很好、很好,
now i'm very very very good to you
你不需要、你无所谓、你不在乎，你不珍惜。。。。
you dont need it, dont bother about it, dont care about it, dont treasure about it
当某天，你被伤害，想起我。
but if one day, you are being hurt and you think of me
那时的我再也做不到像现在这样一如既往、不顾一切的对你好了。。。
i'm afraid i wont be able to give you the attention i use to give you...

因为那时的我，已经将你放低。。。。
because the old me...have let you go finally
原来，放低一个人，最后是被对方逼出来的。。。。
i finally understand, letting go is being force by the other party
其实这个世界，真的没有非要谁不可，
actually in this world, there's no definate of wanting who and who
走自己的路，别回头
walk your own path, and dont look back

Medusa · #6 06-04-2010, 02:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spud_Boy

every word touches the heart..

upped u, bro..

thks bro...by the way i'm sis

see see only · #7 06-04-2010, 02:30 PM

Hey thks sis,

I just copy and paste into my computer

If I broke up with anyone I will read it again and again

But .................. i think it is really easy say then done

Nevertheless really it is really useful

Spud_Boy · #8 06-04-2010, 05:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Medusa

thks bro...by the way i'm sis

ops.. sorry sis..

anyway, just to add.. 皮肉之痛，不如心之痛..

haha76 · #9 07-04-2010, 12:32 AM

finally, we are apart...

Fun Guy · #10 07-04-2010, 02:52 AM

Dear sis very meaningful I must say.

hermitcr@b · #11 07-04-2010, 04:01 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Medusa

你不是他要的那个人
你做的再完善也敌不过人家不做

this is so damn true..haizzzz

Medusa · #12 07-04-2010, 01:14 PM

yes...i find this article very meaningful...understanding love =)

hope all bros and sis...perhaps this article is a good way to guide you should something goes wrong in your relationship

thanks peeps for the points given too =)