Matters of the Heart..

[jimokt]

Well,

Today's a little down and in for a little story telling. If you are the impatient type, probably you should jump to the next thread. If you think i am a newbie, go ahead and think.

This forum, Matters of the Heart, well its meant i guess for bros to talk about matters of the heart. But how many of us are truthful? Alot of us in life wants to find a good friend, a good listener to talk to.. yet hoping he/she will keep it a secret.. but normally it won't happen.. Human love to spread words around and you can't stop them.. So sometimes the trust and friendship is broken..

I read alot of bro's thread and i wants to share with bros out there that had yet to happened to them would never happen to them.. and that is...

3years ago, i was a happy man. Have a house/car/wife/kid... Addict to gambling leads me to be moody and down everyday thinking how to clear debts and stuff. Credit cards advaced and loans till almost 100k. Debts are everywhere. Friends have debts to you and just tell you 'bro, this mth bo bian. Help me tong k?' What can u do? Nothing right.. Just suck it up and being scolded by your creditors..

Didn't want my wife to worry as she was preg back then..so kept it from her everything.. (Biggest Mistake).. well debts chalked up (who to blame? I'm the one keep betting and gambling..) started to get emotional and drinks.. when drinks are in, sex kicks in.. Started to chiong Ktvs, pick up bars and stuff.. well got involved in a vietnam gal. Well for a first timer to chiong, everything is great. The gal is sexy (dancer), can do great BBBJ, sex is great.. adventurous.. (xiao chong nao.. forgetting all these are her jobs..) and she says I love u.. well i do believe coz i hide fom her i had a wife.. but paper can't cover fire.. so she found out, tried to kill herself.. managed to stop and she went back vietnam. So i went on.. get involved in a philippines gal.

Philippines gal.. of course good.. language is not a problem.. viet gal communication pro.. well my pinay is really chio. Can sastify all fantasy.. 69, vibrator, everything.. took pills even so that sex can be bare.. (well all these while my wife still with me..) And things got ecpensive of course.. when her social pass is up, went back and every month ask for money.. i am already in so much debt yet try every month do some money to send over.. child was born and alot of money issues.. got stressed again so chiong even more.. went to dong men in lavender.. china gals

Simple intro.. china gal 20yo.. got hook on me even sex want without cd say if have child have child la.. i dun even care if u are married.. well, at that time this gal i fooling ard only so didn;t fuck her. But makes me wary of china gals..

*Big blow* Then came one day.. last year.. wife found out abt the pinay. Plus all the debts i had.. there's no turning back.. Last week just got the final confirmation letter of my divorce.. Look at it, think back.. sold the house, lost my wife and kid.. missing my boy since Jan. (I really really missed him so much guys.. even now tears rolling but who to blamed?) Every week i do missed him so much.. i am useless but who to blamed? Myself.

Bros out there.. Dun get involved in working gals if you already have a family. Just pay, f, and forget. You dunno who is real to you.. i know some gals who can go all out to cheat your money.. Just pay, have fun, fool around and forget abt it..

Chi, He, Piao, Du.. Never get involved in Du. If you are in it already, turn back and stop. Its never easy but u have to stop.

Chi- how much can u eat? Everyday eat good food also won't makes u poor
He- how much can u drink? Everyday drink u also cannot take it
Piao- How much can u f? Everyday F u also sian and gets tired
Du- How much can u gamble? There's No Limit. Bookies keep encouraging u to go deeper thats why..

All these i said are truth that happens on me.. Life is dramatic.. i am still clearing my debts. I counted at least 5 more years. Hope i can pressed on..

[RealEstateGuy]

Brother, I feel sympathy for you and your downward spiral to less than zero for lack of a better way to characterize your situation. I can say you need to reflect a bit which you have, take responsibility that you placed yourself in your situation, which you have. Recognize your weaknesses and lack of willpower, which you have done or are doing. The road to recovery may be long but please be strong and march forward brother. If there is something we can do to support your recovery let us now. My advice is to never go to KTVs, Orchard, etc. again. Try to reconcile with your wife and rebuild your family.

[goodpartner]

Chi, He, Piao, Du.. Never get involved in Du.

Bro, this is perhaps the most important lesson above all. That's the trigger into your life events that follows, thanks for sharing with the rest.

$100K+ is not too big an amount to clear IF you can stop the gambling habit. Take a few years maybe, but if creditors willing to take small installments, it can be done.

But for Piao, I would say this new "habit" is hard to die. Take away the "h" you still have "abit", remove "a" you still have "bit" and even if you stop having the "b", you still have "it"!!! That's why I'm still here all these years :P

Work on this Piao issue while managing the Du concurrently, and perhaps you may still can win your wife's heart back some day. Divorce is only on paper, you are but the father of the child forever. Once you can redeem yourself from BOTH of these sin, then you can enjoy eating and drinking

BTW, you're an OKT? (from your nick)

[ekemono]

Hi TS,

I dun know what you meant by final confirmation letter of divorce, but if its the decree nisi, then no choice. However, if you are still in the process of divorce then the first most important thing is to make up with your family.

The impact of divorce is tremedous on the children.
I have first hand experience with my son from previous marriage. The child are highly prompt to keep to himself, neglect study and sometimes even commit petty crime. All these cos they do not have a complete family.

IMHO, your debt is nowhere compare to losing your own family.

If its bank loan, then you can lay all your cards on the table and negiotiate a re-payment plan with them. They really dun want to sue you unless you wont even coorporate.

Also, do you believe in religion?
If you feel tired and lost now, you should visit your religion.

[Shocking_vibes]

Wah feel sorry for TS.

For me well......


I dunno why i develop a bit of feelings for this thai gal. Long time never had it. Want to visit LOS again soon.

Let me stay ON with her 2 times and like her already.

[jimokt]

Thanks for reading.. this thread is to let bros not to fall into gambling habits really.. Piao is still alright but NSA. Dun fall for a working gal or you will suffer..

As for other bros concern, the divorce is finalise so there's no turning back. I can just move on.. Once in a while also like to f a gal have some fun like everyone in this forum does.. cheers

[Boliaoz]

Originally Posted by jimokt

Thanks for reading.. this thread is to let bros not to fall into gambling habits really.. Piao is still alright but NSA. Dun fall for a working gal or you will suffer..

As for other bros concern, the divorce is finalise so there's no turning back. I can just move on.. Once in a while also like to f a gal have some fun like everyone in this forum does.. cheers

Cheers for TS for his story ! When I am down, I can remind myself that there are people who are worse off than me.

[Benrwss1980]

Bro, I'm experiencing the same situation like u. My case is even worse than u, I used to treasure my wife, kids n family alot n I do not drink, gamble nor fool ard but who knows that one day I found out that my wife cheated me behind my back n subsequently lead to divorce. All of us knows that if a family will to break apart ultimately it is going to be the kids who suffer which no parents in this world will have the heart to see their own kids suffer. But do trust me, life still carry on, just concentrate on other things like ur career n things will definitely turn out to be better... Thanks

[middleday]

it good for us to read your experience, and education for us too

[PuTonRen]

Dear Bro jimokt,

I feel sad and sympathize you on your situation. Gambling is The Evil of all Evils, followed by Drugs...... I have suffered from this evil, and fortunately, with the support of friends, I managed to clear myself out of it.

Please follow a religion, if you do not have one yet. People in the churches, temples, mosques, etc... are kind people who will lend you their ears, and offer advice. Do truely repent on what you have done, and speak to your wife, with the sincere intention to patch up. The kids should not suffer from the breaking-off of their parents. They are innocent. If you truely love your son as stated in your opening post, I am sure you would make the effort of getting rid of the gambling habit and the desire to go FLs for short-term and false love, if your son is of paramount importance to you.

Cheer up! In few years time, once you have cleared yourself out of the bad habits, you would be alright.

My 2 cent worth.

[Strawberry]

Bro TS

I do understand how you feel now, pick up yourself and start all over again. Be sure not to gamble because whatever you have may be gone in seconds. Be a responsible husband, father and man. Win back your family by your action, show to them you have change.

[groo]

Originally Posted by jimokt

...Hope i can pressed on..

You dun hope...you just press on... you only hope that you and your family and son can get back together again!
This then, is your drug - a very potent one too! Cheers!

[jimokt]

Thanks all bros for the wonderful advices.. dun worry i will pressed on.. Still drinking, still bonk around once in a while to release but to be back with wife and kid.. its not possible anymore.. thanks for reading bros

[groo]

Originally Posted by jimokt

Thanks all bros for the wonderful advices.. dun worry i will pressed on.. Still drinking, still bonk around once in a while to release but to be back with wife and kid.. its not possible anymore.. thanks for reading bros

You never know... Cheers!

[kwaychup]

since you can't reclaim back what you have lost,
it's time to pick up the pieces and start on a new chapter of your life.
live your life without regrets and never repeat the same mistakes again